Carolina Spark Magazine Issue 8

GRIEVING YOUR PET:

LOVE, LOSS AND HEALING

BARBERING BIKER CHRIS KEEBLE CYCLES ACROSS THE US

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JeanAnn Taylor

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JOHN GIFALDI Personal Chef

Ribollita Soup

SERVES: 6

1-2 tbsp. olive oil

2 garlic cloves, grated

1 medium onion, diced

3 celery ribs, diced

2 carrots, peeled and diced

1 bunch fresh spinach

1 bay leaf

1 14 oz. can cannellini or white beans, drained and rinsed

1 32 oz. box chicken broth

1 loaf of day-old Italian bread

1 inch parmesan cheese rind

1/2 cup tomato sauce, salt, pepper, garlic powder, and red pepper flakes, to taste

1. Heat olive oil in a stock pot set to medium heat. Sauté onions, celery, and carrots until soft. Add in the tomato sauce, chicken broth, bay leaf, Parmesan rind, and beans.

2. Bring to a boil then reduce to a simmer and cook until the veggies are tender. Add the spinach and stir until wilted. Add the bread and cook until the soup is very thick. The soup should be so thick that a spoon stands up in the middle.

3. Serve with a drizzle of olive oil and sprinkle of parmesan cheese.

MEET THE RITA LEE & ASSOCIATES REALTY TEAM

ASIA BANKS

A native of Asheville, NC, Realtor Asia Banks is driven by her love for the city she grew up in and a desire to make a difference. Asia’s grandmother owned a soul-food bar and grill on Eagle Street, which was once an historically thriving African-American business hub in downtown Asheville. The city’s acquisition of the bar left a lasting impression on her. Asia recognized the importance of knowledge and rights surrounding property ownership, inspiring her to enter real estate. She is now a broker with Rita Lee and Associates Realty Group. Asia appreciates the opportunity to make new connections with people during the buying and selling process. In her spare time, Asia enjoys quality time with her siblings, attends concerts, and explores different restaurants.

Chanisse DaNeisha

Chanisse DaNeisha, a 29-year-old broker from Asheville, NC, discovered her passion for real estate after a job loss. She worked as an assistant at Rita Lee and Associates Realty before earning her real estate license and transitioning into real estate brokerage. A “people person,” Chanisse DaNeisha thrives on learning and networking with a diverse range of clients. She appreciates that real estate affords her the opportunity to always learn something new. Chanisse DaNeisha enjoys spending time with her daughter, Unique Harmony, and her family. In her spare time, she is most likely to be found eating, dancing, taking photos/videos of her surroundings, and enjoying the present moment.

DAMAIN POOLE

Damain Poole is a 36-year-old real estate broker from Asheville, NC. After his grandmother left him and his family with a life estate, Damain wanted to increase his knowledge of how to handle such matters. He obtained his real estate license and joined Rita Lee & Associates Realty Group. Inspired by other successful real estate professionals, Damain is excited to have the opportunity to help

others achieve success through real estate. He is a devoted father to his son (11) and his daughter (5). Damain is also the Vice President of United Community Development, a nonprofit organization dedicated to improving the quality of life for the under-served communities of Asheville, NC. In his spare time, he enjoys spending time with his family. He can most likely be found playing Chinese Chess when he’s not working.

JAMEKA JOHNSON

Realtor Jameka Johnson is originally from Mississippi but calls New Orleans her home. With a background in higher education and healthcare administration, Jameka brings her passion for helping people to her career at Rita Lee and Associates Realty Group. Jameka also offers tax preparation to her clients, and she plans on taking her talent further by becoming a Certified Public Accountant specializing in real estate tax advice. She is passionate about helping others learn how to utilize resources available to them to carve a path to homeownership. In her spare time, Jameka loves reading, cooking, and listening to music. She can most likely be found doing something spontaneous to uplift those around her.

TAMIEKA MOORE

Realtor Tamieka Moore is an Asheville, NC native, wife, and mom of four boys. During COVID, she decided that she wanted to pursue an entrepreneurial pathway. She earned her real estate license and joined Rita Lee and Associates Realty. Tamieka values the growth opportunities that the real estate industry offers, both personally and professionally. When she is not helping her clients achieve their real estate goals, she is spending time with her family. With a background as a healthcare professional, she has deep compassion for giving back to the community she came from. In her spare time, she takes pleasure in the company of her loved ones and partaking in enjoyable activities with them.

PHOTO: BROOKE PARKER PHOTOGRAPHY VENUE TIMBERHALL EVENTS

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LETTER FROM THE EDITOR

In over three years of interviewing amazing women for Carolina Spark Magazine, it occurs to me how many of them have had one quality in common. So many of these women who seem positively pre-destined for their current role, did not start out on that professional track. Very often women will find success on one career path, then pivot to something that better suits them, or that meets the needs of their personal life. I used to find it amusing when I interviewed a woman who got her degree in marine biology, then went on to become an accomplished mechanical engineer. Now I realize it’s not amusing… it’s womanhood.

The dual nature of being a woman in the modern world obliges us to hone skills in a multitude of directions, and utilize a lot of varied weapons in our arsenal. Whatever the situation calls for, a woman must be able to answer. But perhaps no role asks more of a woman than that of motherhood. As mothers, we are asked to be stronger, more resourceful, and more giving of ourselves than we knew we could be. While motherhood is incredibly fulfilling, the odd and tragic thing about it is that it can make women forget that their talents extend in other directions too. As moms, we become so used to creatively coming up with things we can do for other people, we forget the amazing things we can do for ourselves as individuals.

When the opportunity came my way to edit this edition of Carolina Spark Magazine, I was concerned that (as a mother of two small children) I might have lost the muscle-memory required to accomplish the necessary tasks to put out a beautiful and informative magazine. As I’ve worked on it these past months, I have found that I can still flex those muscles. In case I was wondering, I can still shine. And I thank you all for reminding me of that. Women have it in them to handle whatever must be done. We are professionals, problem-solvers, breadwinners, multitaskers, confidants, and comforters. Women are miracle workers. With this edition of Carolina Spark, as we celebrate the changing of the seasons, we also celebrate you in all your resilience and versatility.

Meg Hale Brunton

Meg@CrystalCMarketing.com

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS:

Desirae McGee, Lori Brown, Andy Hale, Diane Luebbers, Beverly Jurenko, Ashley Elizabeth, Laura Webb, Brandi Laughter, Jennifer LeBlanc, Chelsea Boes, Kristy Whilden, Neicee Jordan, Heather Pfeffer, Tara Coppedge, L.K. Sullivan, Kristin D'Agostino

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EDITION 8 | FALL 2023

Crystal Pressley Publisher

Rebekah McCubbins Co-Editor

Madi Balman Art Director

Meg Hale Brunton Editor

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JeanAnn Taylor Kate Shirah - Ingles Markets

Lynn Cook - HomeTrust Bank

Wilkie - Safelight

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"I GOT MY GROOVE BACK"

Asheville resident Michelle had been experiencing the roller coaster of the side effects of menopause." One minute I am anxious and the next I'm settling into depression. Same with the hot flashes! The sleep disturbance is really getting to me. I was told I would 'just have to live with it or go on HRT' which I wasn't quite ready for".

Menopause is a natural biological process that marks the end of the reproductive years. It typically occurs between the ages of 45 and 55 but can occur earlier or later. Michelle was exhausted from not sleeping due to night sweats and feeling defeated from losing her drive. "Am I just supposed to live with this? I feel like my world is falling apart!"

If you are struggling with Menopausal Symptoms, you're not sleeping at night because you're burning up from the inside out, you have difficulty focusing, and you're experiencing brain fog, unwarranted anxiety, and loss of drive. You're irritated with dryness, and even your ears are itchy. Your doctor told you you may have to 'just live with the changes', and you're taking medications like SSRIs that aren't working or have terrible side effects.

Our providers have been helping the Asheville community using cutting-edge and innovative integrative medicine for over ten years. Specializing in reproductive health they consistently generate unparalleled results. What was once a missing link in healthcare is now easily accessible to the residents of Asheville.

Michelle recently noticed she was gaining weight around her belly, even though she eats healthy and tries to stay active. "This not-sleeping business is really putting a dent in my energy levels. It is becoming a struggle to exercise and ride my bike." Most people describe it as if someone punched a hole in their gas tank and turned their world upside down.

Menopause is MUCH MORE than night sweats and hot flashes. It is a highly individual experience.

"I started getting treatments and my hot flashes decreased immediately, not to mention I started sleeping better!"

Our experienced providers at South Slope Acupuncture & Wellness are using the timetested science of Acupuncture and technology originally developed by NASA, as well as traditional Chinese Medicine, that assists in regulating the body and its hormones.

If you've missed too many activities with loved ones due to exhaustion, or you're burning up and not getting any sleep, it is time to call Dr. Kirgan and her staff at South Slope Acupuncture & Wellness.

Embrace change with comfort and confidence. Manage menopause your way.

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"I started feeling like my body was no longer my own."

As the temperatures drop and winter sets in, our skin often cries out in need. Asking us to adapt our skincare routine to safeguard and protect our skin against harsh conditions. Winter weather can be very unforgiving, the low humidity and cold winds often leave our skin dry, flaky, and sensitive. To ensure your skin stays healthy and radiant, we, as industry experts and founders of NAKED body essentials, share these important tips to enhance your skincare routine during the winter months.

Our mission is simple, to naturally repair and protect your skin’s moisture barrier while maintaining and locking in our skin’s naturally occurring moisture. Your skin’s moisture barrier is made up of fatty acids and cholesterol and can be quickly repaired with some good old-fashioned daily habits. Let’s build back that moisture barrier and get the hydrated, healthy glow you deserve.

Healthy, hydrated skin is just a few steps away. Let’s look at a quick overview before looking into more detail.

• Get at least 8 hours of sleep

• Drink plenty of water

• Switch to an all-natural gentle face and body cleanser

• Limit showers to 10 minutes or less, and use lukewarm water

• Use a healthy natural moisture barrier with grass-fed tallow or shea butter

• Protect your skin from the sun by using a gentle SPF

Let’s start by hydrating our skin from the inside out…

Catch up on Beauty Rest: Your sleeping hours are when your skin repairs itself and replenishes moisture. In a recent study, people who routinely got 8 to 9 hours of high-quality sleep had 30 percent greater moisture barrier recovery in 72 hours, compared to people who only got 6 to 7 hours of sleep. Aim to get at least 8 to 9 hours of sleep to encourage the skin’s healing process.

WINTER SKINCARE

BY JENNIFER LEBLANC AND KATELYN ZAVAL

Many people also find a better quality of sleep when taking a magnesium-based sleep supplement. (Our go to magnesium based supplement is 'Sweet DREAMS' by NAKED body essentials.)

Also consider swapping out your cotton pillowcases for a less absorbent, more gentle fabric that won't rob your skin of moisture as you sleep. We recommend silk, bamboo, or satin over cotton or cotton blends.

Prioritize Hydration: When it comes to repairing your moisture barrier, a lot of people focus solely on products but what you put into your body is just as important as what you put on your body. So, if you want to repair and replenish your skin's hydration, give your body what it needs to stay hydrated. Try to drink plenty of water. Your skin is made up of 30 percent water and focusing on staying hydrated will help your skin look beautiful and radiant.

Now let's talk about external hydration…

Shop for Success: It’s time to stock up on skincare products with the ingredients that are going to replenish your skin’s moisture. Investing in a rich and nourishing moisturizer is paramount in shielding your skin from winter moisture loss. Look for moisturizers, balms, and creams that are all-natural and rich in lipids and fatty acids, and have added benefits of complexion-boosting vitamins and antioxidants. These key ingredients help to deeply nourish your skin, enhancing its health and radiance. (We recommend 'Restore and RENEW' by NAKED body essentials.) For optimal results, apply your moisturizer immediately after cleansing to form a protective barrier, sealing in moisture and preventing moisture loss. Don't forget to extend this moisturizing regimen to your body, paying special attention to areas prone to dryness, such as elbows, knees, feet, and hands.

Embrace Gentle Cleansing: It’s important to wash your face every day — but if you’re using the wrong cleanser, it could be stripping the skin of its protective oils and doing more harm to your moisture barrier than good. To protect your skin's natural oils during winter, we recommend opting for an all-natural oil-based cleanser (Our pick is OSEA Ocean Cleanser) and a moisture-rich moisturizer that is tailored to your skin condition. This skincare combination will cleanse gently and nurture while protecting the lipid barrier that protects your skin. (We recommend finding the right Handcrafted Tallow for your skin at loveNAKEDskin.com.) In Addition, looking in your pantry could also help! Coconut oil and olive oil are both found to be moisturizing powerhouses. Avoid gels or foams, antibacterial cleansers, exfoliating washes, and fragranced products.

Wash Away the Day: Limit long baths. Instead opt for showers of 10 minutes or less, using lukewarm water. Hot water may rob the skin of moisturizing oils, especially if the water is scorching hot. The same goes for washing your face nightly, cool to lukewarm water is best.

Breathe in Better Air: It’s a great practice to begin using a humidifier in your home to counteract the dryness indoors. Using a humidifier adds much-needed moisture

to the air, thus preventing excessive drying of the skin.

Sun Protection: It can be easy to skimp on sunscreen, particularly if the sun isn’t shining, but SPF, of at least SPF 30, should be part of your daily skincare routine. (Our favorite is CRUNCHI Sunlight Facial Sunblock.) In addition to protecting your skin from sun damage, sunscreen also helps prevent stress on your skin’s moisture barrier.

There’s no overnight fix for healthier, more hydrated skin. You may see temporary relief with common cosmetic creams and serums, but the product may replace your moisture barrier instead of healing it. This won’t do your skin’s natural barrier any favors. That’s why we recommend a more natural approach. By prioritizing hydration, using gentle cleansers, embracing moisturizers, protecting against the sun, exfoliating mindfully, and nurturing your skin from within. This will help you maintain a healthy and radiant complexion throughout even the harshest winter conditions.

Jennifer LeBlanc and Katelyn Zaval are founders and Co-Owners of NAKED body essentials. You can visit them online at their website: www.lovenakedskin.com

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Building the Back-to-Work Wardrobe

BY CHELSEA BOES

I’ve worked from home with babies for seven years. My uniform? A black H&M spandex tank top I bought twelve years ago during journalism school, some eyeliner for Zoom calls, and oatmeal-crusted sweatpants. These clothes never seem to die all the way. In the words of Miracle Max, they’re just mostly dead.

But this fall I put both my kids on the bus and went back into the office full-time. The time has come, my friends. The time for new clothes.

Buying new clothes as a mom is hard. Because it has been so long. You need everything. You’re still wearing that inexplicably comfy nursing bra even though your littlest kid can already ride a bike. And then there’s the guilt because clothes cost money. Because they’re just for you. You’ve spent years giving up your sleep, time, and attention and now dropping money just for you feels like learning to walk again. But you want to walk. You want jeans that fit, hair that thickens, lip liner that looks good on your face, clothes that appear more expensive and last for more years.

So you begin.

Makeup. I google ‘how to buy makeup for grownups.’ Then I go to the mall to find an expert. The lady doing my makeup has long gray and white hair, blue eyes, and flawless makeup. She obviously knows things I do not. I’m always mystified by people like her. I so covet beauty knowledge that I once bought a 1995 cosmetology book at the thrift store. Last year when I had the stomach bug and couldn’t rise from the couch, I devoured Bobbi Brown’s Masterclass on makeup application. Gorgeous Mall Lady matches my skin with Lancôme foundation. I admit I do not know how to pronounce this word. She chooses a good blush and red lipstick. I learn to gel my eyebrows. I hand over the cash.

Underneath. It’s hard, but you must throw away your nursing bra. Order something new online so you don’t have to go into a fitting and get poked

and prodded. Enough of that has already happened to you during motherhood. I got mine from Underoutfit. So far in my experience, the hype is justified. I picked the color called ‘sand’ so I could wear white shirts again... to the office only. Then strip them off as soon as I walk in the door and preserve their life. Which leads us to...

Tops. They say you should get lots of white and black basic tees and camis for layering, and this seems wise to me. I also read that these basics don’t have to cost a billion dollars. Because even in an office where you aren’t perpetually cooking spaghetti you will probably eventually destroy them when coffee dribbles down your chin. Also needed: a great graphic tee, a blazer, an oversized button-down, a chunky cardigan.

Bottoms. Ah, here’s the rub. I’m 5’1, and almost all the universe’s pants billow well beyond my toes. So: Know thyself. Short like me? Find thyself a good black skirt. And don’t forget a pair of cozy black joggers you can dress up with heels. I got mine from Quince and they’re so comfy I want to cry when I take them off. In black joggers I can conduct walking meetings, which means I get closer to those coveted 10,000 steps a day.

Hair. My second baby took my hair. Not all of it, thankfully, but enough that my scalp started looking too

bare for comfort. Magic solution: Batiste brunette dry shampoo. In this matter, Walmart and Amazon are your friends. Spray it on your locks after you roll out of bed, bulk to root, and sigh with relief. Also open the window, because the first ingredient in that bad boy is butane Shoes. After I sprained my ankle in college, my family doctor cautioned me that “high heels were invented to destroy the legs of women” and told me to deposit my multicolored assortment into his dumpster. I didn’t, of course. But for my own safety I did stop wearing heels when I started hauling car seats. Now I’m easing back in with a heeled boot with plenty of ankle support.

Shopping takes time. And also, obviously, money. Still on my ‘to find when I can afford it’ list: leather jacket, white sneakers, cap-toe heels, striped shirt, floral skirt, tall boots, classic loafers, statement belt, long beige coat, leather tote.

I roll my eyes at all the things I want. I’m no millionaire, after all. But I’m giving myself floating permission, after years of stringent economy, to more regularly invest in quality things I like. Meanwhile, the Ingles cashier makes small talk: “Are you just coming home from work?”

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The Spark Spotlight

HIGHLIGHTING BRILLIANT WOMEN IN THEIR COMMUNITIES

SPARK SPOTLIGHT Artist Nadine Charlsen

Nadine Charlsen is an urban landscape watercolor artist and instructor based in Asheville, North Carolina. Charlsen's background as a theatrical lighting designer in New York City for 31 years has allowed her to incorporate her knowledge of light, shadow, scale, colors and textures to culminate an artistic drama. Her work is inspired by architecture, cityscapes and serene countryside settings captured through the lens of her camera. She has a working studio in NorthLight Studios in the River Arts District in Asheville, NC. She is also represented by 3402 Art Gallery in Baltimore, Maryland. Charlsen was recently included in the top ten percent of world watercolor artist's in Concours mondial de l’aquarelle – Le Catalogue.

Nadine is a signature member of The American Watercolor Society, a member of the Salmagundi Club, National Association of Women Artists, Coast Guard Artists and American Society of Railroad Artists. “My art evokes an emotion that helps you take the journey with me into that world,” says Nadine. “My studio is the everchanging world around me.” Currently, Nadine’s exhibit ‘Trains and Trade that Made America,’ featuring 22 of her paintings, is on display in the Cloud Room at the Wedge Brewery in Asheville through mid-December.

1. How did you become interested in art?

I have been an artist all my life. I spent 40+ years as a theatrical set, lighting designer and scenic artist as well as a full time university professor. My mother was an oil painter and teacher, my father was an industrial arts teacher. I grew up with a hammer in one hand and a paintbrush in the other. In 2006 I began to transition out of the theatrical areas and concentrate on painting. I never missed a brushstroke. My watercolors are large, moody, gritty architectural landscapes and trains, planes and boats.

2. What is your favorite part or the work you do?

Breaking every rule I was taught while learning watercolor. I love creating bold atmospheric watercolors with a story.

3. Who or what is your biggest inspiration?

Watercolor artist Paul Ching-Bor was my teacher at the Art Student League in New York City for eight years. He changed my style and consequently my life direction.

I learned from him and the other masters in his class every Sunday. Antonio Masi, president of the American Watercolor Society also was/is a big influence. He and I painted next to each other in Paul's class for several years. They are good friends and mentors now.

4. What is most important to you in your art?

I love to paint from photographs where I have been. I have done three bicycle trips in Europe and lived in New York City for 31 years. I have so many memories to share with collectors and tourists. I love when people come in and want to talk about how my art reminds them of places they have been. My paintings tell their stories too.

5. What do you think makes you different from other artists?

I paint so many subjects in watercolor that most artists don't attempt. I also present my finished paintings without glass. I helped develop a method of mounting the paper on a wood panel and then waxing with an archival art wax. They are sealed. You can see the paintings. I

also paint dark, saturated very large paintings on a paper I can beat up, wash off and blend colors.

6. What are some challenges you have faced in your work? Convincing expert artists that they are really watercolor! The bigger challenge is only having 24 hours in a day to create, work and think. Another challenge is the unevenness of the art market. Good months and bad sales months. Keeping up with the business side of advertising, social media and filing all my paintings.

7. What are your goals for the future as an artist?

Hire a reliable fun assistant so I can paint more. Have my work known around the world. Keep painting. Sell my work to those who want to travel to places known or unknown to them.

Nadine’s work can be viewed online:

www.nadinepaints.com

www.facebook.com/nadine.charlsen

www.instagram.com/nadinepaints

SPARK SPOTLIGHT First Responder Lynn Aly

Forensic Technician Lynn Aly was born in California, but grew up here in Asheville. She started with the Asheville Police Department when she was 21 years old. She has spent more than half her life in that department serving her community!

Lynn started in the Medical Laboratory Technology field, and did a clinical rotation at Mission Hospital before switching gears and taking law enforcement classes. She got her Bachelor's Degree in Criminal Justice from Western Carolina University in 2008 before there was the more focused Forensics curriculum that is offered now.

Her dad was in the military and was a police officer for many years, so Lynn always had that influence in her life. Her husband is a detective with the Henderson County Sheriff's Office and they have been together for almost fifteen years and raised three kids. They volunteer with Sheepdog Impact Assistance, a nonprofit that provides services benefitting the overall well-being of the nation's veterans and first responders. A long-time animal lover and advocate, Lynn has fostered for numerous animal rescues since 2006, and has three dogs and two cats that are spoiled relentlessly. When she’s not at work, Lynn loves to go camping!

1. How long have you been in your position?

I started at Asheville PD in 1996 as a dispatcher while I was finishing college. I have been in my current role (Forensic Technician) for a total of almost 14 years.

2. What initially caused you to become interested in pursuing a career in law enforcement?

I initially was interested in Medical Laboratory work and went to school for that, but found a forty-hour week of sitting in a lab to not be exactly what I wanted. My dad was in law enforcement for many years and while I was deciding my path, I took a couple of law enforcement classes and found I really enjoyed them, so I continued on! My original intention was to become a police officer, but I soon developed an interest in Forensic Science and decided to take that path.

3. What is important to you in your job?

My position works in conjunction with the detectives in the Criminal Investigations Division to investigate crimes. Being able to find resolution for victims and their families, and holding those accountable for crimes they commit are our primary goals. It is important that I do everything I can do to effectively document and collect evidence to assist in these investigations.

4. What is your favorite thing about your job?

No day is ever the same. No week is ever the same. We do work in the field, we also do lab processing and administrative duties. We have the chance to work individually but also as a team. The variety the job offers keeps things interesting. There are still days I see things I've never seen before and that keeps it exciting.

5. What is the most rewarding aspect of your job?

Watching all the work that is being put into a case or cases resulting in offenders being held accountable for their actions. We sometimes work

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extremely long shifts, odd hours, challenging weather conditions, etc and all the work poured into a case is worth it when a victim and/or their families get justice. I also love seeing new people coming into the field, excited and eager to learn, and helping to train them.

6. What do you want Spark readers to know about you?

I got into this field for reasons very close to my heart. It is a demanding field, working odd, sometimes long hours, holidays, weekends, nights, on-call rotations, and being away from family and friends more than I'd like sometimes. I've seen things most people will never be exposed to. It can be physically, emotionally and mentally exhausting and challenging. But if I could go back in time, I would choose this path again, because I am proud of the work I and my coworkers do, and the people that we help. and I am proud of our department.

7. What do you recommend to other young women who would like to get into law enforcement?

Law enforcement has historically been a male-dominated field, but I am so happy to see that there are more and more women getting into various roles now. Educate yourself, but also learn to exercise common sense and humility. Be strong and learn to protect yourself, but also be willing to ask for help when you need it and not feel weak if you do. Take care of yourself first and foremost so you can effectively help others.

Teacher Renee Atkinson

Renee’ Atkinson is the 2024 SC Teacher of the Year and the 2023 Horry County Schools Teacher of the Year. This is her 22nd year serving the SC Public School System with 17 years of service in Horry County. “I'm still overwhelmed,” Renee says of being selected as teacher of the year. “I never expected an honor or accolade of this magnitude in my career. I am humbled to represent a group of over 50,000 people who have made serving the children of South Carolina a life commitment. There is honestly no greater privilege.”

In 2002, she received a Bachelor’s Degree from Clemson University in History with a minor in English and her teaching certification in Secondary English. In 2004, she received a Master’s in Education from Francis Marion University in Secondary English. In 2009, she received National Board Certification in English Language Arts/Adolescence and Young Adulthood. In 2013, she received her Education Specialist Degree in Curriculum and Instruction from Liberty University. Atkinson is endorsed to teach AP Literature and Composition, AP Language and Composition, and IB English A: Literature. In addition, she has served as a reader and examiner for both College Board and the IB.

1. How long have you been a teacher?

I am beginning my 24th year in education. I taught two years at Pee Dee Academy before transitioning to the SC Public School system in 2004. I have also been an adjunct professor and have taught dual-enrollment classes during my career.

2. What caused you to want to become a teacher?

I often joke that I did not want to be a teacher, but I really did not think I wanted to be a teacher when I went to college. My Teacher Cadet supervisor, Mrs. Mandy Jordan (who was also my 5th grade teacher), encouraged me to consider teaching as a profession after my Teacher Cadet experience my senior year of high school, but at the time, I was interested in Physical Therapy or Athletic Training. I changed my major a few times while I was at Clemson University, but I never felt like I was in the right place until I put my focus on education as a career. I helped with Vacation Bible School while I was in high school and college; I taught swimming lessons. I was always at my best when I was helping others. When I started my internship experience at Pendleton High School, I knew the classroom was where I was meant to be.

3. What do you most enjoy about teaching?

Building relationships with my students (and their families), teaching my students to believe in themselves, and helping my students find their passion is what I most enjoy about teaching.

4. What is your favorite subject to teach?

I love teaching English and getting students to find joy in reading, and I enjoy teaching them the historical context of the literature we read.

5. What is most important to you as a teacher?

I am excited about what I do, and I want my students to be excited about coming into my classroom every day. I try to greet each student by name and with a smile as they enter my room each day, even when I might not be feeling my best. That simple act always has the power to make my day brighter. And even though my job is demanding, I love what I do, and I want my students to know that I love what I do. Most importantly, I want every child who walks into my classroom to know they are seen, they are valued, they are loved, and they have an adult in their lives who will never give up on them.

6. What is most rewarding about being a teacher?

The most rewarding thing as a teacher is seeing a child achieve more than they thought was possible, whether that's passing a test, getting into the college of their dreams, earning an award or a scholarship, or getting their dream job. As a teacher, we see our students' potential, but sometimes the realization of that potential takes longer for our students to see. So, whether that

spark happens this year, or 15 years from now, teachers are always excited to see their students' accomplishments.

7. When someone walks into your classroom, what do you want them to see?

When visitors walk into my classroom, I want them to see students who feel safe, comfortable, and joyful in an engaging learning environment and a teacher who is giving her best to ensure they reach their goals.

SPARK SPOTLIGHT Writer Ashley Warlick

Ashley Warlick is the author of four novels, most recently The Arrangement, based on the life of legendary food writer MFK Fisher. She teaches in the MFA program at Queens University, and she’s the buyer for M Judson Booksellers in Greenville, South Carolina. The recipient of The Houghton Mifflin Literary Fellowship and a grant from the NEA, she was inducted into the South Carolina Academy of Authors in 2022.

1. How did you become interested in writing?

I came to writing as a reader, which I think is true for most of us. As a kid, my mom used to say I read so fast I didn't even crack the spine of what I was reading. And I read everything— things I was old enough to understand, and things I probably wasn't. I am fascinated by how you can go anywhere, be anything in books. How could you not want to learn how to do that for yourself?

2. What style of writing do you most enjoy?

I am a really omnivorous reader, and enjoy a good crime series as much as the latest, edgiest

literary novel or collection of poetry. I'm curious about everything.

3. Where do you find your inspiration as a writer? Inspiration is not a word I use much. I'm driven to write books. I see or hear people say things, and I can see how it would play out on the page, so I want to write it. I want to shape it, and tell it. That feels more earthbound than inspired. I get inspired to be a better person by a whole stack of things, but writing works more like attraction.

4. What is the most rewarding part of being a writer?

Ha. The only rewarding part is being done.

5. What is most important to you in your writing? I'm always trying to teach myself how to do something I'm not immediately good at. For example, right now, I'm working on a thriller, in spite of the fact that the mechanics of plot generally terrify me. My natural strengths are in the language department—rhythm and image and tone.

6. What are you currently working on? The aforementioned thriller. I work every day, 45 minutes a day. I started this in the spring, as I've struggled to find creative balance with my day job at M. Judson Booksellers. I love my job, and I love the problems I get to tackle every day, and I love talking to people about books. But in terms of writing, appointments help. Whatever you're working on lives in your brain even when you're not actively thinking about it. A little bit of progress adds up to a month of good work.

Teen Charly Davis

Eighteen-year-old Asheville resident Charly Davis was diagnosed with brain cancer when she was just fifteen. Her first brain tumor was discovered after an ophthalmologist found an uncommon amount of fluid behind Charly’s optic nerve during a routine eye exam, and recommended she get an MRI. Since then, Charly has had two more medulloblastomas that have started her down a difficult path and changed her life. How does a teenager cope with so many challenges so early in life? Charly knits hats for other kids who are suffering from cancer, and she relies a lot on her dark sense of humor.

Prior to her diagnosis, Charly was a pretty typical kid. She spent eleven years training in multiple forms of dancing, including tap, jazz and ballet. Her favorite subject in school was science, particularly the hands-on forms of science where she got to make things explode. Just after her fifteenth birthday, Charly started experiencing some weird symptoms. She lost weight, started losing her balance, got awful headaches, and had blurry and double vision. She also started having extremely loud belches, which she referred to as ‘trucker burps.’

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An MRI revealed a tumor on Charly’s cerebellum, blocking fluid pools to her brain. On October 2, 2020, she had her first surgery at Duke Medical Center to remove the tumor. Charly says that her surgeon had to be painstakingly careful in the tumor’s removal because some of it was laying on her spinal cord, which could have rendered her blind, paralyzed, or even dead if it was cut. The tumor was tested and found to be cancerous. So, Charly and her family spent the next six weeks at a hospital in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania where she received full cranial and spinal radiation. Because of her young age, Charly received proton radiation (rather than photon radiation) because it creates less scatter and less cell loss.

After completing the radiation and chemotherapy treatments, Charly’s energy was still incredibly low. It was discovered that the treatments had caused Charly to develop an autoimmune disorder called Hashimoto’s Disease in which her thyroid gland works much slower than it should. Dealing with the disorder and the cancer, Charly says she sometimes finds it difficult to be selfsufficient. “It’s a lot harder to pick stuff up and carry stuff around,” Charly says. “It was upsetting because I’m the type of person that no one is allowed to do stuff for me.” Charly says she had to adjust, but worked hard to build herself back up over time. To speed up her thyroid, she will be on medication for the rest of her life.

On May 16, 2021, Charly was diagnosed with her second tumor. This one was two millimeters thick and located on the right front ventricle of her brain. Because removing it surgically would be too intrusive, her doctors opted to treat it with targeted photon radiation. “I had just started growing hair back and that got rid of it,” Charly says of the treatment. “I thought, ‘That’s it, I’m done, I’m shaving my head.’”

Charly’s third tumor was discovered on November 21, 2022. This one was seven millimeters and, unlike the others, grew on the outside of her brain next to an artery. It was removed surgically, but again, her surgeon had to be very precise since Charly could bleed to death if the artery was cut. After that, Charly’s diagnosis was deemed ‘recurrent,’ and she was put on a regular dose of an oral chemotherapy pill to prevent, or at least slow, the cancer re-growth. “They’ve never seen it happen before with this type of tumor,” Charly says of her diagnosis. Though Charly says she has worked with a great team of doctors, no one can tell her why she developed this unique type of cancer. “I’m kind of like the science project.”

In 2022, Charly went back to school to complete the

requirements to graduate with her class. She had always kept up with her school work, despite her treatments. “School work was one of the ways that helped me not be stressed, that made me not think, ‘I have cancer,’” she says. Last August, after graduating from TC Roberson High School, Charly started as a college Freshman at UNC-Greensboro. “I was actually more prepared for college than anyone I went to school with. I knew what I wanted to do.” Charly plans to go into social work, and specialize in pediatric oncology. She looked into colleges with good social work programs, and narrowed her search to only include schools that were close to hospitals. UNCG is just an hour away from Duke Hospital.

So far, Charly says that college is going really well for her, but that on bad days she experiences survivor’s guilt, thinking of others (particularly young people) with cancer who didn’t get the care that she did. “In my case, it’s the question of ‘Why did I live? Why am I here?’ It’s a lot to get out of your head.” Charly says, recalling that with her first tumor, she did laundry to keep her mind off of it. Then, she got into making rubber band bracelets. After a family friend gave her a knitting loom for Christmas, Charly began knitting hats to donate to cancer centers for the kids with cancer. “I make sure people who don’t have hair have a nice hat to wear,” she says. Since January, Charly has made over 300 hats, and even created her own Instagram account for them with the hashtag #NoColdHeadLeftBehind.

Charly has also found her dark sense of humor to be a means of relieving some of her tension, joking that she only has a quarter of a brain. She has also named her tumors: B.O.B (Blob of Brain), Marvin (after a character in The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy), and Indie (Indiana Jones). “If you sit and joke, and make fun of it, it helps a lot,” Charly says of cancer. “If you have it and you’re with someone who’s OK to joke about it, dark humor is just about the best way to deal with stress.”

As a pediatric oncology-focused social worker, Charly will use her experiences to help other kids with cancer find some normalcy in their lives by working to improve their emotional well-being. “It’s because of all the people I’ve met and because I want to give back in a way, and help kids that are going through what I am,” Charly says of her decision to go into social work. She hopes that, through her work, she can help children (as well as their parents) understand what they are going through and adopt a positive outlook. “Don’t focus on [cancer]; focus on the next thing. Focus on tomorrow.”

Veteran Dr. Ja’net Bishop-Nesbit

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Dr. Ja’net Bishop-Nesbit, Ed. D., CPEC is a veteran, author, speaker, Education Consultant, and Self-Care Coach. She enlisted in 1982, and received her officer commission in 1985. Today she helps veterans and women of all walks of life “make the rest of their life, the best of their life” using the 8 Dimensions of Wellness as a framework.

1. What inspired you to enlist?

What inspired me to join the military began as competition with my brother, who had already joined the military. But ultimately it was to build my leadership skills and lay a strong foundation for my employability after college.

2. How did you imagine military life before you joined?

Before I joined, I imagined military life to be an opportunity to travel, an opportunity to have mentors in my leadership development, and an opportunity to build my mental and physical resilience. And in fact, when I completed basic training, I felt like there wasn’t anything I could not achieve once I returned back to civilian life, because of the mental and physical resilience that I developed. Through participating in different trainings and becoming familiar with different weaponry, it was just a really empowering experience as to preparation, fulfilling an assigned mission, and evolving in my own personal and professional growth.

3. What was the most significant experience you had during your time in the military?

I would say that my significant experiences while in the military were both personal and professional. I actually met my late husband–we were married 28 years and have two wonderful sons who are now also veterans–but we met as I was about to go on a plane to Fort Jackson, South Carolina. We were both about to participate in basic training in Fort Jackson. Professionally, I think a pivotal point would be the trainings that built my mental and physical resilience, in addition to my leadership development. During [my] time in the military, I have served in the Army

Reserves as a finance officer, and then as a public affairs officer in the National Guard. The other professional aspect of my experience that I think was pivotal was my active duty time during Operation Desert Storm. Overall, even though I spent a total of 18 years combined Guard, Reserve, and active duty, the experience in the military really laid a strong foundation for a lot of my professional successes in life. I appreciate having had those experiences, as they developed my servant leadership.

4. What occupies your time nowadays?

When I became suddenly widowed in 2016, I was experienced as a former school counselor and principal. As an Education Consultant, Self-Care Coach, speaker, and author, I conduct professional development and coaching opportunities for those in leadership and education, so that they can build their resilience through the research-based 8 Dimensions of Wellness. My military experience jumpstarted training folks to be all that they can be. I’ve served on the Service to the Armed Forces with the American Red Cross here in Charleston, SC. The experience enabled me to do workshops [on] resiliency training for veterans in the local area. That has been very rewarding! In addition, I’ve facilitated empowerment seminars, masterclasses, and coaching for women entrepreneurs, caregivers, women in leadership positions, and most recently, professional development for educators in the area of teacher well-being through Boots to Breakthrough LLC, which I launched in 2018.

5. What is most rewarding about what you do now?

My family, foremost. When I reflect on my life, I’ve always been a Type-A person, driven, and thrived off of ‘burning the candle on both ends’. But when my late husband passed away, I realized that sometimes we get so ‘busy being busy’ that we lose sight of being fully present in the moment, and appreciating the life that we’re building. We must take into account that this life is no dress rehearsal. We need to live our lives in a fulfilling way. So what I love most about what I do now is that I introduce to people the 8 Dimensions of Wellness. As you are building your career, as you are developing relationships, remember to build yourself as well. It’s not enough to go through life working to live, but it’s so important that we learn to live well. This is the premise for what I inspire women to do–as a veteran, as a mom of sons, as a new grandmother, as a newly-remarried

woman in mid-life, but most of all as a woman who has a very strong spiritual foundation in realizing that it’s never too late to create a better version of yourself.

6. What do you recommend to women who are interested in enlisting in military service?

I recommend that they research the various military branches as thoroughly as possible and see what resonates with them. There are many high-achieving women who are in the enlisted ranks and officer ranks. Both of those experiences empowered me in my military, school, and community leadership moving my life forward. I would encourage them to find mentors to help them navigate various stages of career development. Whatever specialty they choose, be able to pinpoint–whether that’s through a recruiter or another service member–how that can be transferable in terms of their civilian skills. Choose a specialty (or a branch) that can be in alignment with their civilian goals, and have mentors who are part of their personal and professional community of support.

You can follow Dr. Ja’net on Facebook and LinkedIn at @drjanetbishop, and on Instagram at @boots2breakthrough. You can learn more about her coaching and speaking services, as well as purchase her books at bootstobreakthrough.com.

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Stress Less : Embracing the Holiday Season with Joy

WRITTEN BY LORI BROWN

Does the thought of hanging the garland, prepping a large turkey, and creating dining table centerpieces in November and December send you running for cover? If so, then we need to do something about that. The holidays are without doubt a busy season; a season in which there is a significant push to see people, entertain, purchase gifts, decorate the house, and engage in special memory-making adventures with the family. But if your “to do” list gives you immediate heart palpitations and leaves you dreading the season of cheer, then perhaps you are doing too much.

Holidays are meant to be a time of gratitude, thankfulness, love, and peace, but an exhausted body and weary mind will rapidly dissolve peace and take the joy out of your jingle bells! To avoid this outcome and find a way to gain rest and greater peace in the holidays this year, let’s consider advice from Peter Reisner, M.D., a Family Medicine physician who published a thoughtful blog for the Mayo Clinic Health Services entitled “9 Tips to Fend Off Holiday Stress.”

At the core of Dr. Reisner’s advice to decrease holiday-related stress is the concept of balanced, realistic actions. In addition to planning ahead, saying “no” to some requests, and taking dedicated time to rest and unwind, Reisner advises that we should share what we are feeling. The first holiday after a major loss of a loved one, or a holiday filled with too many events and parties can leave us feeling all out of sorts. So, why not let those around us know that we need to protect our hearts and heads by stepping back and letting others know when it is emotionally tough to engage?

Along those same lines is Reisner’s recommendation to avoid perfectionism. Enjoying the holidays does not mean that your home needs to look like an HGTV spotlight mansion, or that you must attend every event offered in your town. Similarly, it does not mean that you are committed to every party offered by your friends or family members. We can remove much stress when we accept that celebrating looks different for every person, and whereas a friend might feel a need to engage socially on a nightly basis, you may be more of an introvert who chooses one major event per week or per month. And that’s ok.

We add more stress to our busy lives when we adopt the notion that we must do everything, and be everything to everybody. It is perfectly acceptable to recognize that being still and spending time alone reflecting on the reason for the season, or expressing gratitude for the gift of loved ones, friends, employment, or food on the table, is a form of celebrating and honoring the season. Similarly, the holidays are a time of great religious significance for many, so making church or synagogue attendance a priority can help foster greater peace and less panic. Sometimes we need peace more than we need parties.

Perhaps the greatest tip for reducing stress and increasing joy this holiday season is to “ W.A.L.K.” While exercise is a great stress reliever recommended by doctors and psychologists alike, consider adopting the W.A.L.K. acronym to remind you that it is ok to find balance in chaotic times. When the blood pressure rises and the joy diminishes, remember to: “Wait And Live in Kindness.” Wait before saying “yes” to everything. Live in kindness to yourself and others by refusing to pursue perfectionism and/or to expect that in others. Friends, family, and strangers on the bus or plane may feel in crisis despite large smiles on their face, so take the time to realize that your intense stress and chaos may cause them even greater trauma if you react too quickly or harshly. Everybody needs a little extra dose of grace and kindness during the holidays, so let it flow from your place of peace. Take care of yourself, friends, so that you walk through this holiday season with your head held high and your heart filled with joy.

Pretty In Pink Foundation Connects Breast Cancer Patients with Care

BY TARA COPPEDGE, PRETTY IN PINK FOUNDATION DIRECTOR OF MARKETING AND COMMUNICATIONS

Receiving a breast cancer diagnosis is earth shattering. But can you imagine getting this devastating news and then realizing your insurance won’t cover the expensive treatments? For some women, the financial stress is so overwhelming, they choose not to follow through with their treatment plan.

That’s where Pretty In Pink Foundation comes in. Their mission is to provide uninsured and under-insured breast cancer patients in North Carolina with financial assistance for quality, life-saving medical treatment. They provide grants to qualifying breast cancer patients (called Champions) to help with surgeries, chemotherapy administration, radiation therapy, insurance copays, deductibles, and premiums, as well as COBRA.

“Our goal is to remove the financial barrier to care so these patients can receive treatment and beat this horrible disease,” says Becky Horn, executive director of Pretty In Pink. “We also try to alleviate any stress and pay the medical providers directly so our Champions can focus on taking care of themselves.”

The small nonprofit organization served their first Champion in 2006. It’s a vision brought to life by Dr. Lisa Tolnitch, a retired breast cancer surgeon.

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She saw the need firsthand when some of her patients would not follow through with their treatment plans. “When I dug deeper, I realized these patients would be making impossible choices—like whether to pay for groceries or their chemotherapy,” says Tolnitch “No one should ever have to make that choice. I knew I had to do something to help these vulnerable patients.”

Nearly twenty years later, Pretty In Pink Foundation has helped thousands of Champions across North Carolina— serving 98 of our 100 counties. In 2022, Pretty In Pink served 408 Champions- 270 uninsured and under-insured breast cancer patients received funds to pay for surgery, chemotherapy administration, and radiation treatment. Nearly 140 more breast cancer patients were served through their Beyond the Ribbon program.

But those numbers are skyrocketing. So far this year, Pretty In Pink has been receiving nearly double the amount of applications every month. “We’ve been able to serve every qualified applicant who has come to us for help,” says Tolnitch. “That’s our goal and our small staff of five is working tirelessly to make sure that doesn’t change. But we’re looking to the community for help.”

funding and relies on grants, their signature fundraising events, and support from the community to fulfill their mission. You can support Pretty In Pink Foundation in various ways. Donate, volunteer, fundraise or attend one of their signature events. The 7th annual Pink Pumps & Bow Ties Gala is October 21st at Prestonwood Country Club in Cary. Guests will enjoy cocktails, an elegant dinner, entertainment, a live auction, and a Champagne Diamond Giveaway! It’s a fabulous event that draws more than 200 people. The 3rd annual Triple Crown Casino Night is April 19th 2024 at Legacy Stables in WinstonSalem. The fun and unique event includes casino gaming, auction items, and a fabulous dinner.

“These events are both amazing and really engage the guests with our mission,” says Horn. “We try to hit home that their donations are truly life-saving. As researchers are looking for a cure, there are women and men across the state who are battling this disease right now—who need our help. Because no matter your financial situation, everyone deserves the same chance to beat this disease.”

If you’d like more information, or to donate, go to www.prettyinpinkfoundation.org or email Becky Horn at bhorn@prettyinpinkfoundation.org.

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“We Can Do Hard Things” - My Journey Through Cancer

WRITTEN BY BRANDI LAUGHTER

Hi my name is Brandi Laughter and I was diagnosed two years ago with breast cancer. That statement is still hard to say out loud. Two years ago I was getting ready to turn forty years old. So what do you do when you turn forty? Schedule that mammogram! A local nonprofit organization called Nothing Pink was having a mammogram event. I was a busy Mom to three active boys, a wife to a hard-working husband, and a preschool teacher to some pretty awesome four and five-year-olds. We were also deep into the pandemic, but thankfully I took the time to get that scan.

The report showed that additional imaging was needed. Several scans and biopsies later, I was told I had invasive lobular carcinoma. My particular type was ER/ PR + and HER2 -. That is when the spiral of appointments started happening. I quickly became a patient on the oncology side of the hospital at forty years old. After consulting with an oncologist surgeon, we decided that a bilateral mastectomy was in my best interest. That is when grief set in. I was going to have body parts removed from my body that I didn't want to have removed, but knew I had to.

I had the surgery. When pathology came back we found out I had atypical cells in the left breast as well as three lymph nodes that had cancer in them. That bumped me into the chemotherapy and radiation side of things. Here came the grief again. I lost my hair, went into menopause, and had to learn how to say ‘yes’ to people helping. I also had to take a year off of work because those little preschoolers didn't need to witness what these treatments do to someone's body. My husband took a different job that enabled him to be home more. My boys learned how to help more around

the house. Just like that, life became really different. There were days that it was hard to function but we realized quickly, "We can do hard things." That statement has rung true and given us hope many times. After several surgeries, treatments, countless scans, and a daily hormone blocker that I will be taking for several years, I am happy to say at this time that I look to be cancer free.

My journey has lit a spark in me of how important it is for others to hear my story. I am grateful to share it with you. There is alot behind that pink ribbon. There are stories that are all different, yet the same. There are surgeries people didn't want, body changes you didn't ask for, and strength that you didn't know you had. So when you celebrate this month known as Pinktober, remember your ‘Why.’ Let someone's story be the reason you take action. Be a doer for someone going through it. Be a doer by getting your scan on a regular basis. Be a doer by being proactive if something doesn't feel right. Be a doer by asking questions to understand. Be a doer by donating towards a local nonprofit that gives right back into your community.

I thank God everyday that I am still here to enjoy watching my boys play ball. So many aren't given that privilege. Not a day goes by that I don't think about where we came from and what we lived through. It didn't happen to us, but for us. So much good has come in these last two years. I have learned to embrace my scars and body changes. I am here and thankful to be able to share my story with you.

Brandi Laughter is Care and Support Facilitator for Nothing Pink.org. For more information on Nothing Pink, visit their website: www.NothingPink.org

Healing Through Storytelling: My Hearing Loss Journey

BY KRISTY WHILDEN

Hearing Impaired... As a hearing person do you see an issue with this phrase? I do. Impaired=Broken... Broken=Needs To Be Fixed... What do you do when something is broken and you cannot fix it? You throw it in the trash. If I can teach you one thing from this article today, please do not use this phrase. Myself and my community are not broken or trash. I used to think I was. I owned a music school for ten years. Five of my students had just won the right to play piano at the great Carnegie Hall in New York City. I was on top of the world! Or so I thought. My children started complaining that I had the music up too loud in the car and the TV volume was giving them headaches. So I went to see the doctor.

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I’m sorry Miss Whilden, you have progressive sensorineural hearing loss and will be deaf by the time you are forty.”

Excuse me, what? I couldn’t possibly be going deaf. Music was my life and part of my identity. I ended up spiraling into a massive depression and landed myself and my three children in a shelter. I was now at the bottom of the world. Useless, worthless and inept. As my world became more quiet I turned to the one silent activity I knew I loved, reading and writing. With the encouragement of my daughter Hailey I picked myself back up and fought back. I needed to be better for my children and for myself. I decided to see what deaf life was all about and embrace the change. I went back to school and obtained a degree in Deaf Studies and American Sign Language. With the help of the most incredible Deaf teachers I was catapulted into the Deaf World and man, it’s a beautiful place. Just from learning ASL and about Deaf culture my heart and mind exploded with curiosity and inspiration. My teacher allowed my daughter to learn right alongside of me even though she was only thirteen. Such a gift. But then I graduated and I looked at her thinking, what now? Every year for my daughter’s birthday she and I would go to Broadway to see a show. I was watching the interpreter in the corner, on the ground, with no light. I looked at the man sitting next to me watching the show and I was getting increasingly frustrated because he paid the exact amount of money that I did and his eyes are on the stage getting to enjoy the costumes, lighting, emotions, dances, and natural interactions. I’m staring at a woman in a black dress. Access? Maybe. Equality? Absolutely not. The interpreter should have been standing on that stage. I learned in my research that many people in the hearing community think having an interpreter on the stage is

distracting. At that moment I finally understood what the word "privilege" meant. Hailey had a fantastic idea of how to make a change, and we ran with it.

My business teacher once told me to create something I would want. I envisioned this theater where when you opened the door it was equal access to the d/Deaf and hearing communities. There were interpreters at the ticket booth, concession stand, and as ushers. All eyes were on the stage because every single actor signed while voicing and if there was a d/Deaf or Hard of Hearing (HOH) actor who did not feel comfortable voicing for themselves then a hearing voice actor would be provided. Why can’t theatre be accessible for all? I am proud to say that I am the founder and CEO of Hands Up Silent Theatre Non-Profit. At Hands Up we encourage the d/ Deaf to learn more about the performing arts and encourage the hearing to learn ASL and interact with d/Deaf peers. Our vision is to create performances for the d/Deaf and hearing to enjoy as one! Through this process I wrote a book called Dear Younger Self: From Shelter To CEO and I’m proud to say that I am now a #1 International Best Selling Author. I’m currently studying for my Masters in Fine Arts in Writing with a mission to create novels with d/Deaf/HOH characters in every genre. I’m writing a thriller that will be out in late 2024.

I have decided to no longer be afraid to be me. If that’s one thing the Deaf community has taught me, it is to not allow the stigma of hearing loss define me. One incredible friend in particular helped me to feel comfortable with my hearing loss was NASCAR hopeful and creator of the unDEAFeated brand Keenan Tully, who is from the United Kingdom but currently resides in North Carolina. When I asked him about racing in a hearing world, to explain his brand, and what it means to him he stated as follows…

“When I first started racing I realized how much of a release it was for me and how I could be equal to everyone else, look the same as everyone else, and it became such a big escape for me.

The stigma surrounding hearing loss is just a myth, it's not real, it's just in your head, and is only there from misleading media and general public perception of hearing loss which is wrong! And that so many are achieving great things with a hearing loss like us, so why should you let it stop you from achieving great things too? It's just a part of who you are. You should embrace it, and love everything about yourself.

I built unDEAFeated because I wanted to show kids and teenagers who feel like hearing is a barrier in their life and stopping them from chasing their dreams that actually it can be used to drive you forward. Just like me and many many other people, you can still achieve your dreams even with a hearing loss. I motivate and inspire kids and teenagers to chase their dreams just like I am, through sharing my story and the story of others, like yours, through my podcast and social media posts, and at events to show kids and teenagers that anything is possible with a hearing loss. It's a brand that shows that hearing loss can be a positive in your life, it doesn't have to be a negative. UnDEAFeated literally means to not let your hearing loss DEAFeat you.”

And he’s right. It’s become part of my identity. I am Kristy Whilden, #1 International Bestselling Author, Founder and CEO, ASL Historian, late deafened adult moderate to severe. I communicate with ASL and spoken English and I’m proud to wear my pink and purple hearing aids even at the age of 42! Connect with us on socials to see how you can become a supporter of our companies and more importantly to learn more about the d/Deaf and HOH community.

Buncombe Partnership for Children Helps Local Families Find the Early Education Program that Fits Them

BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

Finding the preschool that’s right for your child can seem impossible. Finding the government assistance that your child needs to get into that school can feel even more unachievable. Thankfully, there are initiatives like Buncombe Pre-K that give you the tools to start your child’s education on the right foot, and agencies like Buncombe Partnership for Children (BPFC) to help you take advantage of those initiatives.

BPFC is a non-profit organization, founded in 1993 with the goal of improving the quality of early childhood education in the area and assisting families in accessing educational opportunities. Part of the North Carolina Smart Start network, BPFC operates a website through which families with kids (ages 0-5) can access information about preschools, pre-Kindergarten programs, after school care, play and learn groups, parenting classes, and support programs like NC Head Start. On the site, families can also access the Buncombe Pre-K application portal.

Launched in February 2022, the Buncombe Pre-K portal was designed with the goal of helping families navigate the confusing federal and state pre-k programs, and get help in figuring out if they are eligible. One of the many selling points of the portal is that it comes with its own full-time, preschool Outreach and Enrollment Coordinator, Cindy Knox. “We really wanted to create a system that was eliminating barriers for families,” says Cindy. She goes on to say that it really comes in handy in her line of work that she is bilingual. “Being able to have somebody who speaks the language and is able to help them with documents, that has been such a great help for a lot of families. Really, just making it easy and accessible to most families is a huge plus for us.”

Families can also directly upload documents and request application assistance through the portal. By grouping all the resources and applications in one location, BPFC hopes it is easier to direct families to where they need to be. “I review every single application that comes through and make sure that they are selecting a program that is going to have their needs met,” Cindy explains of her role, adding that she is happy to personally assist customers with any issues they have with the site. “Previously, families had to go to the different offices to do applications for the different programs. Now with this role and this portal, it condenses it to one application, one person to talk to, and clear answers to what documents you need.”

While placement and eligibility are not officially determined through the site, it does give families all the information to determine what to request to accommodate their individual needs, and allows access to all the necessary forms. To connect the child with the program, the portal application process takes into account any emotional or mental needs of the child, as well as proximity to the family’s home or work, whether or not the parent needs transportation for the child or extendedhour care, what support options the family is eligible for, and the parent’s top three favorites schools.

A preschool teacher for eleven years (six as an Early Head Start teacher), Cindy knows the difference that early education can make in a child’s life. “I think it’s been super beneficial being in the classroom, then starting in this role,” she says of her current position. “I feel that it’s so important for kids to get that care experience in a childcare/classroom setting because before they go to Kindergarten, they’re able to build a routine, make

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connections with other adults outside their home, and have that experience with other children their age.”

BPFC Pre-K Expansion Director Deanna LaMotte says one of the big challenges their organization faces on a daily basis is helping people with limited resources figure out what programs best serve their child’s needs, what support options they are eligible for, and how to apply for those. “What is frustrating about publicly-funded programs like Head Start and NC-Pre K is that they are asking the most vulnerable families in our community to do three times as much to get their children into these programs,” she explains. “We just really wanted our community to have a little more support for those families, to help them persevere when it feels really hard.”

Deanna cites that 90% of human brain development happens within the first 2,000 days of life (between birth and kindergarten), and that children who have access to high quality early education are more likely to graduate high school, go to college, and earn a higher income than those who don’t. “All those things go back to early childhood,” Deanna explains, who’s Master’s degree is in public health. “The more we can set up those children in the first five years, the more we can support them and give them what they need to be full, curious, healthy humans, the less we will have to do for the next eighty

Noted Asheville Chef Ashley Capps Draws on Foundation and Community from A-B Tech as She

Juggles Culinary Venture and Motherhood

BY KRISTIN D’AGOSTINO

On a recent September morning at a cozy market nestled in the River Arts district, chef Ashley Capps gives her baby girl a bottle while her husband chef Travis Shultz brews a fresh pot of coffee. The front door is open to let in the fall sunshine, and soon the first customer slips in for a cuppa joe and some morning chatter. Wylie, Ashley’s nine-month-old, who has sweet blue eyes and cheeks like apple muffins, is soon crawling around as Mama prepares for a photo shoot with the reporter.

It’s been one year since Newstock Pantry, an upscale market located in the River Arts district opened its doors, and the small business has quickly become a beloved hub of the surrounding arts community. Offering everything

years of their life. And that is public health.”

Deanna also points out that preschool catches learning disabilities and developmental delays so they can be addressed prior to starting elementary school. “A lot of parents think Kindergarten readiness is basic academic stuff,” she says, stating that teachers know how to teach numbers and letters, but don’t have the resources or training to teach a child how to regulate their emotions. “Those are the things that a pre-K class really helps children with.” Deanna says that, in Pre-K programs, children are able to learn those social-emotional skills in a play-based format.

In the end, Deanna advises parents to keep trying to find placement with an early education program. “Yes, searching for childcare and preschool can be frustrating and is more time-consuming than any parent of a fouryear-old should have,” she acknowledges. “It is a huge benefit for families and children.” She and Cindy hope that their work with BPFC and Buncombe Pre-K makes that path to early education a little easier for all children in their community.

To learn more about Buncombe Partnership for Children, or to learn about early educational opportunities for your child, visit their website: www.buncombepfc.org

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from scratch-made pantry staples like salad dressing and Worcestershire sauce, to fresh and frozen entrees like eggplant parmesan and sausage-stuffed peppers, Newstock has worked its way into the hearts and kitchens of Asheville foodies who appreciate their mix of house-made and local farm-made goods.

A customer surveying the pristine shelves stocked with locally sourced tomato sauce and pickles and the smiling woman with apron tied around her waist, baby on her hip, may get the feeling like they’re in a Lifetime movie. But Ashley openly shares a different story. The 39-year-old, who graduated A-B Tech’s Baking and Pastry program in 2004, admits that juggling first-time motherhood with starting a first-time business has come with an unexpected challenge. “I haven’t slept for six months,” she says, explaining that these days Wylie rarely lets Mom and Dad sleep a full night. “I thought that being a mom would be easy because I had worked as a line cook and was a good multitasker. Then I had a baby. And now I want to high five every single mom.”

In 2019, Ashley and Travis launched Newstock as a highquality dinner delivery experience.” The couple rented a commercial kitchen where they prepared fifty meals a week and delivered them within the local community. At that time Ashley was eight months pregnant. She smiles when she recalls what it was like to move around the kitchen with her burgeoning belly. “Being pregnant was hard for me,” she says. “I was used to being quick in the kitchen; I like to move. I worked up till a week before I had [the baby] because we needed the money.”

In 2022 the couple launched their brick-and-mortar space. Ashley, who was nominated in 2019 for a James Beard award for her pastry-making, says that she had ideas about what the shop would look like based on what she’d learned in a professional culinary program. These ideas included a gleaming space, a buttoned-up chef in a white jacket and pristine equipment. When Wylie was born, her world changed overnight. “I thought to myself I will never have a Pack ‘n Play in this place; I won’t breastfeed. In my mind a baby doesn’t belong in the workplace,” she says, adding. “But that didn’t last.” With only one employee at Newstock to run the frontof-house, Ashley and Travis do all the cooking and meal deliveries themselves. They choose not to bring Wylie to daycare as they’re focused on remaining debt-free and living within their budget. This translates to a homier environment- that includes a Pack ‘n Play tucked behind the counter- and a baby who sometimes requires breastfeeding while Ashley is ringing in a customer.

Ashley has learned to embrace this new reality. Newstock, she says, has often been compared to a European market where Mom, Dad and children live

their lives amidst the day-to-day business. And the artists in the River Arts district seem to come just as much to see her fledgling family as they do to buy food. “They ask to hold [Wylie], talk to her and play with her while I’m finishing a task,” Ashley says. “I didn’t realize how helpful this would be even for a few minutes. She’s a very happy kid and seems to enjoy the social environment.”

Hearing what Ashley is up to these days, it’s clear the pretty North Carolina native has regained her prenatal speed in and out of the kitchen. With more than twenty years of experience working as a pastry chef in North Carolina and New York, including Buxton Hall BBQ, Ashley is mostly focused on cooking savory food alongside her husband.

When asked why she’s chosen to step back from full-time baking, Ashley says it meant a lot to be able to cook with her partner. “Travis is a cook, and we wanted a business we could share,” she says. “We wanted to offer laborintensive pantry staples that are building blocks of a restaurant so people could have that at home.”

Along with cooking, running a business and being a mom, Ashley will soon add teaching to the mix. Having taught at A-B Tech for several years in the pastry department, she’s now launching a new series of classes at Newstock on Sunday afternoons that include a pie-baking class and one on croissants and layered pastries. She hopes to also offer classes taught by other local chefs and farmers in the community.

While she’s picked up much of her culinary experience on the job, Ashley credits A-B Tech’s pastry program for giving her a much-needed foundation that she draws upon still. “[It gave me] the confidence to try new things,” she says. “I think fondly of the instructors I learned from and worked with because it became a model for the crews I like to work with.”

The community focus that lies at the core of A-B Tech’s classrooms, Ashley notes, is the same one she strives for in her business, in the locally sourced products she sells and the food and atmosphere she has created. True, she does not have the pristine business once imagined, but Ashley is content to have joy and challenge, family and business woven together like crust atop an apple pie.“I still make time to go into the kitchen and put on an apron,” she says. “It’s my happy place. [And] We made it a year. With a newborn. And we are still smiling and love what we do…”

Newstock Pantry is located at 191 Lyman St. Studio 115 in the River Arts District or online at newstockpantry.com. To find more about classes, visit new-stock.square.site. Learn about A-B Tech’s culinary programs at abtech.edu/culinary.

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Elevate Your Holiday Decor with Expert Decorating Tips

BY L.K. SULLIVAN, FOUNDER OF ID.OLOGY INTERIORS & DESIGN AND ATELIER MAISON & CO. IN THE ASHEVILLE DESIGN DISTRICT

The holiday season is a time for joy, celebration, and the creation of cherished memories with loved ones. One of the most exciting aspects of this season is decorating your home to create a warm and festive atmosphere. This year, take your holiday decor to the next level by partnering with ID.ology Interiors and Design or exploring the exquisite holiday decor offerings of Atelier Maison & Co, located in the Asheville Design District just outside of Historic Biltmore Village. Plus, we'll share expert decorating tips to help you create a holiday wonderland of your own.

When it comes to holiday decor, ID.ology brings the same passion and expertise to the table. They understand that the holidays are a time for creating lasting memories, and their team is dedicated to helping you transform your home into a festive wonderland that captures the spirit of the season. Here are some expert decorating tips from ID.ology to get you started:

1. Set a Theme: Start your holiday decorating by choosing a theme that reflects your personal style. Whether it's traditional, rustic, contemporary, or whimsical, having a theme in mind will guide your decor choices and create a cohesive look throughout your home. Some trends in holiday décor are felt and velvet ornaments and garlands, deeper brighter colors, a “woodland garden” theme with mushroom décor, paper and vintage revival style ornaments, or a muted natural rustic aesthetic.

2. Layer Your Decor: Don't be afraid to layer your holiday decor. Start with a solid base, such as a lush, full tree or a festive wreath, and then add layers of ornaments, garlands, and other accessories to create depth and visual interest. Layer different sizes, complimenting colors and textures.

3. Mix and Match Textures and Finishes: Incorporate a variety of textures into your holiday decor. Consider using plush velvet stockings, glittering glass ornaments, rustic wooden accents, and soft faux fur throws to add dimension and warmth to your space.

4. Focal Point: Make a statement with a grand, professionally designed wreath from Atelier Maison & Co. Hang it on your front door to welcome guests with style or use it as a focal point above your

fireplace to create a stunning holiday centerpiece. Also, trending is curating a hand gathered tree topper using varying greenery picks, which is like a sort of a floral spray or bouquet.

5. Mix Old and New: Blend traditional holiday decor with unique pieces, for example, pair classic ornaments with their handcrafted, artisanal options to create a visually intriguing tree that tells a story.

6. Create Cozy Nooks: Use luxurious textiles and tabletop accessories to create cozy nooks throughout your home. Drape a plush throw over your favorite reading chair, and add a holiday themed lumbar pillow. Set a beautiful holiday-themed table for intimate family gatherings.

7. Lighting Matters: Don't underestimate the power of lighting in creating a festive atmosphere. Use string lights, candles, and decorative lamps strategically to add warmth and ambiance to your space. Flameless candles are a great way to provide a warm ambiance.

8. Personal Touches: Incorporate personal touches into your decor, such as family heirlooms or DIY ornaments crafted by loved ones. These items not only add sentimental value but also make your decor uniquely yours.

9. Balance is Key: Maintain a balance between holiday decor and your existing interior design. Your holiday decorations should enhance your home's aesthetics, not overpower them. Consider temporarily removing some everyday decor items to make room for holiday pieces.

Nestled in the heart of Asheville's thriving design scene, Atelier Maison & Co is a hidden gem that offers an array of high-end home furnishings and decor. Located in the Asheville Design District this boutique store specializes in curating exquisite pieces that elevate the aesthetics of any space, making it the perfect destination for those seeking unique and elegant holiday decorations. Atelier boasts a holiday decor collection that is nothing short of enchanting. Their selection includes a wide range of items, from exquisite ornaments and wreaths to stunning tabletop accessories and festive textiles. What sets Atelier Maison & Co apart is their commitment to high style, quality, and craftsmanship, ensuring that each piece not

only looks beautiful but also stands the test of time.

Once you've selected your holiday decor pieces from Atelier Maison & Co, or through having the designers curate the pieces for you, the design team excels in seamlessly integrating decor elements into your existing home design, ensuring a cohesive and visually stunning result. Here are some additional decorating tips from ID.ology for a flawless holiday decor transformation:

This holiday season, elevate your home decor to new heights with the expertise of ID.ology Interiors and Design, the exquisite holiday offerings of Atelier Maison & Co, and expert decorating tips to guide you along the way. Located in the Asheville Design District just outside of Historic Biltmore Village, these two exceptional establishments are your ticket to creating a holiday wonderland that will be the envy of all who enter.

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4 Reasons Why Fall is a Great Time to Sell your Home

BY DIANE LUEBBERS

It is a common misconception among people selling their home that fall is not a good time to list their home. Those people are what I like to call wrong. Fall can be the best time to sell your home for several reasons.

Reason #1 Less competition

With fewer homes on the market than during the spring and summer months, your listing is more likely to stand out to potential buyers. If sellers who want to list this year hold off until spring, their properties, combined with the rest of the spring/summer inventory, could decrease the competition for a specific home. Do you really want to compete with all those other sellers in spring? Maybe not.

Reason #2 More serious buyers/fatigued buyers

People who are looking to buy a home in the fall or winter months are usually more serious and better qualified. With the holidays looming, there is often a sense of urgency to get into a home and get settled as soon as possible. In addition, other buyers that have been looking for months and have missed out on a bidding war or two may have refined and honed what is essential in their choice of a home.

Reason #3 Faster closing

Since there are typically fewer real estate sales in the fall, the service providers who are needed to close the transaction may be more available. Home inspectors, mortgage brokers, appraisers, surveyors, and attorneys may have more appointments available leading to a quicker and smoother transaction, meaning less stress for everyone involved.

Reason #4 Possible Tax Benefits

Some costs linked to the sale of your home can be included in the cost basis of your home. Increasing your adjusted cost basis can decrease the capital gain associated with the home sale.

There are other great reasons to sell your home in the fall, one of which is the natural beauty of the fall season itself, drawing many out-of-town buyers to the area, with mild, crisp temperatures and brilliant fall colors providing a perfect time to showcase the beauty of your property and get your home sold for a great price.

One last thing to think about: If you need to sell before you buy, selling your home in the fall means you will be ready in the spring to beat the rush of spring buyers. Selling in the fall means you will be among the first to find that perfect new nest come springtime, avoiding costly bidding wars. After all, the early bird gets the worm, right?

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Tips for Cheerful Holiday Trips

BY HEATHER PFEFFER, MARKETING & PR COORDINATOR AT ASHEVILLE REGIONAL AIRPORT

The holidays are a time of joy and celebration and, for many, a time of travel. Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years are among the busiest times of the year for air travel. However, this doesn’t mean that traveling during the holidays needs to be stressful or chaotic. With some thought and planning, traveling during the holiday season can be merry and bright.

Don’t Delay

It is always important to arrive at the airport two hours before your flight’s boarding time, but it is especially important during the holidays. Boarding for domestic flights generally begins 30-50 minutes before the scheduled departure time, depending on the size of the aircraft, and the gates usually close 10-15 minutes (sometimes longer) before the flight is due to take off. It can be easy to underestimate the amount of time needed to navigate the airport from pulling in the entrance to sitting down on the plane. You need to allow yourself plenty of time to find parking, check in, go through security, and find your gate. If you don’t give yourself extra time for unexpected delays, you may find yourself watching your plane take off without you. The good news is that by arriving early you eliminate stress and allow yourself time to enjoy all of the amenities your airport has to offer. For example, Asheville Regional Airport offers plenty of opportunities for tasty food and drinks past the TSA checkpoint as well as a selection of local products that make great souvenirs and gifts!

Know the Flow

When it comes to holiday travel not all days are the same. Instead of being one solid wall of heavy traffic over the course of a holiday weekend, the traffic actually ebbs and flows. Each year the Federal Aviation Administration (FAA) releases their air travel forecast for holidays. For Thanksgiving last year, the busiest days to travel were the Tuesday and Wednesday before, while travel on Thanksgiving itself was lighter. The same occurs in December, with the 22nd and 23rd being the heavy days and December 24th and 25th being lighter travel days.

If you want to avoid the crowds, consider flying on the holiday itself.

Pack Smart

Packing for a trip can be difficult and on top of that you have to remember the various rules for packing for air travel. Fortunately, there are plenty of resources out there to help you make your list and check it twice when it comes to packing. The FAA’s and TSA’s websites offer valuable tools to make preparing for your trip a piece of (fruit)cake.

Most travelers are aware of the TSA’s 3-1-1 liquids policy. This policy requires that any liquids in a carry-on bag be 3.4 ounces (100 ml) or smaller sized containers that fit in one quart-sized resealable bag. All other liquids must be packed in a checked bag. However, it’s a festive season and when you buy a beautiful sparkling snow globe, the liquids policy isn’t the first thing the balls of wintery wonder bring to mind. In order to avoid a snag at the TSA checkpoint, make sure to pack snow globes and any other large liquids in a checked bag.

Another holiday packing conundrum is wrapping paper. While it may be tempting to wrap your presents before your trip, if an item needs additional screening it may need to be unwrapped. To save yourself time and effort, pack your presents and some wrapping paper and wrap them at your destination. Just make sure to pack the scissors in your checked bag.

And speaking of presents, electronics are great gifts to give during the holidays. But they also contain lithium batteries which can be hazardous on aircraft. Devices like smartphones, tablets, cameras, laptops, and electronic cigarettes or vaping devices can contain lithium, or lithium ion batteries. Airlines have guidelines for devices containing lithium and lithium ion batteries including quantity and size limits and requirements for packing, such as allowing them in a carry-on bag only. Be sure to check your airline’s guidelines if you will be traveling with electronics.

Be Weather Aware

Winter, and even late Fall, can be an unpredictable time when it comes to the weather. While having a white and snowy holiday sounds lovely, it can cause a headache for travelers. Not only do you need to be aware of the weather in your area, but in your destinations as well, especially if you are traveling to a snow-prone area. To get the most up-to-date information about delays and cancellations, download your airline’s app and have a plan in place in case of inclement weather.

Knowledge is Power

It is important to keep up-to-date with what it is happening at the airports you will be flying through. Airport websites have a lot of great information about parking, amenities, and important updates about things like road closures and construction. They also usually have terminal maps so that you can familiarize yourself with the layout. In the Asheville Regional Airport’s case, websites are an important tool to communicate with passengers during a major construction project. AVL Forward (flyavl.com/AVL_forward) provides construction updates, news, and sneak previews of the exciting new terminal. Airports do their best to relay important

messages to passengers via social media and websites, so it is important to check these channels before, and during, travel.

Holidays are an amazing time to take a break and gather with the ones you love, all while enjoying good food and gifts. Many people have to travel, sometimes a large distance, to make this dream a reality. But while holiday travel may seem hectic and daunting, it doesn’t have to be. With some careful planning you can be a savvy holiday traveler. The most important thing while traveling during the holidays is to not stress, enjoy the ride, and spread holiday cheer to your fellow passengers and all the airport and airline staff who work hard to get everyone where you need to go. You may not have a sleigh and magic reindeer, but airports make it possible you fly and create holiday magic year after year.

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Barbering Biker

Chris Keeble Cycles Across the United States

BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

At 64 years old, longtime motorcyclist Chris Keeble has taken three months to scratch a major item off of her bucket list: she is biking across the major motorbike riding locations of the United States on her motorcycle, Calamity Jane. After spending the past thirty years cruising around her home country of Australia handing out haircuts to the locals, she’s brought Jane to share with the Home of the Brave. “I think I have more American followers on my social media than I do Australians,” she says, adding that her tricked-out motorcycle never fails to draw a crowd. “It’s been a showstopper everywhere we’ve gone.”

Chris started riding on the back of her ex-husband’s Harley Davidson, but soon grew tired of the role of passenger. After the couple separated, she got her own Harley. Though she loved the bike, she didn’t care for the connotation that seemed to come with owning a Harley-Davidson. She found that people who saw her on it would make remarks about her being a ‘bad-girl,’ or in the midst of a midlife crisis. So, she traded the Harley for Calamity Jane. Jane is a vintage Indian V-Twin cruiser motorbike that Chris has decorated with a one-of-a-kind steampunk, Western, Mad Max-style flair. “It’s a big bike for me to jump around on, but I manage,” Chris admits of the 420-kilo bike. “The bike I have now is my forever bike.”

Chris and Jane traveled all over Australia, having adventures, and meeting some amazing people along the way. One day, a friend of Chris’s who worked in an aged care facility in Sydney called her up, knowing that she had a background in hairstyling, and asked her to come do some styling work with their residents. “I hadn’t picked up the tools in thirty years,” Chris confesses of hairstyling. She found that it all came right back to her though. “I still had the skills. I thought, ‘How do I join up the skills that I have with my love of adventure?’” Thus, the Barbering Biker was born.

Chris would travel from village to village, offering haircuts and other treatments to people in need. For this, she worked with communities to select a person who is in need of a makeover, then sets up in a local pub, and does the styling followed by a big reveal. “It brings the community together and we all have a real good time,” Chris says. “If I can’t do a good deed with a makeover, I just ride my bike because she’s such a joy-giver.”

Having covered most of the Australian territory, Chris began planning a trip to ride the great bike routes of the United States. In Australia there is a Long Service Leave policy, under which a person is entitled to nine weeks of paid leave from their job, after working with a company for at least ten years. Having been with a marketing and brand management firm for the past ten years, Chris has been mentally mapping out this trip since she started work. “I think if you dream about something for long enough it comes true,” she says.

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During her trip, Chris will ride over 15,000 miles, crossing the country twice and dipping into Canada as well. She is grateful that, during her planning process, she connected with her now-partner Damian who opted to join her on the trip. “It’s been great having him come along, and sharing all the special moments,” Chris says of the trip, adding that she sometimes refers to Damian as ‘MacGyver’ because he can fix anything. She adds that his forethought regarding mechanical and weather challenges has been invaluable, since her biggest concern with the trip was sharing a bathroom.

Since Australia is a long way from most other countries, Chris says that most Aussies aren’t intimidated by long vacations. “Australians are traditionally big travelers. We usually don’t think anything of sitting on a plane 24 hours,” she says. As much as she loves a good adventure, Chris does admit that she has missed her grandchildren terribly on this trip. “This is by far the biggest trip I’ve taken.”

Chris shares that she and Damian have ridden through some stunningly-beautiful scenic areas while they’ve been in the U.S., including Beartooth Pass in Montana, Bighorn National Park in Wyoming, Deadwood in South Dakota, and the Tail of the Dragon in North Carolina. “The signature rides haven’t disappointed,” Chris says. “Your

national parks have had some amazing roads that have been fantastic to drive.” Chris says they still have a lot of miles to cover before their trip ends on September 25th, including Las Vegas, Sedona, and Big Sur.

Besides scenic wonders, Chris has gotten to experience several of one of her favorite American contributions to the world: the American hamburger. “I’ve had the best hamburgers, but I think I’ve had enough of them,” she admits. Chris adds that Damian is from Melbourne, which is known for its coffee, and has enjoyed tasting the American coffees… well, some of them.

More than anything, Chris and Damian have been blown away by the caring and generous nature that they have been shown by Americans during their trip, particularly by the supportive community of bikers. “We’ve not had one negative or bad experience,” she says, adding that they’ve also been lucky enough to dodge most of the bad weather on their trip. This September, Chris and Damian will be returning to Australia with memories of happy interactions and breathtaking views to hold onto forever. “It’s a once in a lifetime thing.”

To learn more about Chris Keeble, or to see more photos from her adventures, visit her website: www.barberingbiker.com

A3unica's3 Journey to Entrepreneurship

BY REBEKAH MCCUBBINS

Like many new entrepreneurs, Aunica Tomlinson launched a business during the COVID-19 pandemic. But Aunica’s story is a little different; she was only eleven years old when she started her business.

Aunica’s first-grade teacher, Sheena Greiner, suggested that her parents enroll her in Camp Girl Boss–a nine-week virtual camp aimed at teaching young women how to start their own businesses. Aunica attended that summer as a graduation gift from her parents. During the camp, she came up with her own business idea: whoopie pies.

If you’ve never had a whoopie pie, you’re missing out. It’s a sandwich cookie made with soft, cake-like cookies. Traditional whoopie pies use chocolate cookies and marshmallow filling, but home-bakers get creative, often using buttercream filling and imaginative flavor combinations.

No one really knows who created the first whoopie pies. Aunica explains that the widespread belief is that whoopie pies were invented by Amish wives as a way to use up excess cake batter. The whoopie pie originated in the northeastern United States, although there is still debate over the exact state. Aunica’s birth state, Maine, certainly isn’t giving up the title easily– the whoopie pie is their state treat. The Maine Whoopie Pie Festival is the biggest event held in Piscataquis County each year, drawing massive crowds.

Like many Maine children, Aunica grew up attending the Maine Whoopie Pie Festival and learned to bake the treats at a young age. Her first childhood memories are of baking with her mother. So when prompted to create a business, she was drawn to the idea of expanding on her love of baking. She called her business A Piece of Maine.

Through the camp’s guidance, Aunica took her business from idea to reality. With the help of her parents, she successfully gained the certifications and licenses needed to become a home kitchen-based business. She began the trial-and-error process of recipe testing, taking guidance from cookbooks and family recipes and tweaking her own recipe until she had the perfect formula.

Aunica takes her flavors seriously. She offers a selection of year-round flavors that her customers love: classic, peanut butter, cookies and cream, and thin mint. But as her business has grown, she continues to experiment with seasonal flavors, including red velvet, lemon, zucchini lemon, pumpkin chocolate chip, banana, peppermint, gingerbread lemon, and highly-requested mocha.

In 2020, A Piece of Maine attended its first vendor event at the Mills River Farmers Market, where Aunica made fifty dollars and sold most of her stock. Since then, Aunica has tripled her stock at markets and now sells out in the first three hours. Aunica continues to attend at least one or two markets each month. She doesn’t want her customers to have a long wait. “They can’t handle that,” she explains. She’s active at the Mills River Farmers Market and the Hendersonville Farmers Market during the spring and summer and participates in seasonal events in the off-season.

So how does a young entrepreneur like Aunica balance school and business? Aunica’s school and extracurricular activities remain a priority. She still participates in sports, Girl Scouts, and other extracurriculars. To maintain balance, Aunica doesn’t attend markets every week.

She starts baking a week ahead, making a few batches of cookies each afternoon and freezing them. “That’s one of the benefits of whoopie pies,” she says. “They freeze well.”

Aunica’s not doing it alone. A Piece of Maine is a family affair. Her parents helped her get licensed. Her aunt Theresa Mosher with Mosher Multimedia helped Aunica with branding and marketing. Even her younger brother Clark takes part as Aunica’s whoopie pie tastetester. The Mills River Farm Market’s young entrepreneurs program gave her access to a free vendor spot, mentorship from established business owners, and free promotion. Teacher Sheena Greiner has always been a source of support and encouragement.

Aunica plans to expand A Piece of Maine and hopes to one day open a shop on Hendersonville’s Main Street. The business doesn’t currently have a website, but that is by design. “If I did, then everyone, I think, would be ordering all the time, and I don’t really have all the time in the world for that,” Aunica explains.

Today, Aunica’s business is thriving. Her success has made her passionate about seeing other young entrepreneurs succeed. She takes time to support other young people at the markets and is always excited to give advice. “Try to find something that they like to do,” she advises young entrepreneurs. “Just always have fun.”

You can follow A Piece of Maine on Facebook to keep up with upcoming markets. Inquiries and custom orders can be directed to apieceofmaine2020@gmail.com.

Purpose in My Pain

WRITTEN BY NEICEE JORDAN

The moment you feel that all you have been through and all that you have endured- that was meant to destroy you mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. What will come to pass? Is it easier said than done? Absolutely! It takes hard work. It takes endurance. It takes faith. It takes the ability to love yourself, and it also takes forgiveness- forgiving those who have harmed you. That forgiveness is for you, to help you move forward to become a better you. This is what I had to realize in order for me to be happy with myself, and to be better for my family and those I love. My pain was their pain and it was not fair to them. I had been molested, physically abused, I attempted suicide multiple times, and so much more. This was from being silent and harboring my feelings. Then one day, a light bulb clicked.

In 2014, I realized after thirty-three years that it was time to make a change- a change that could only make me a better person, a better mother, wife, grandmother and friend.

I left my hometown of Lorain in Northeastern Ohio, transitioning to Greensboro, North Carolina. This was the best move I could ever make. This is when the things in my life begin to change tremendously.

In 2017, I wrote my first book called Behind Closed Doors It is a story of how I overcame my adversity and lived to tell my story. I went on to create the Behind Closed Doors Journal. When I created the journal, I did it with all men and women in mind, and all who have been in damaging and hurtful situations- situations that have been hard to verbally discuss. This journal is not an ordinary journal. This has helped so many people that didn’t have a voice and wanted a change in their life.

As women, we often hold back our feelings and tears. We think that we have to remain strong and not express how we feel because women do not want to be judged. We do not want to seem weak and defeated, but we all have a breaking point. Who do we trust to tell how we feel? My journal is filled with affirmations, scriptures, and questions for you to answer, and a promissory note for you. The promissory note will allow you to make a promise to yourself to be open and vulnerable with someone you trust whole-heartedly.

You are allowing yourself thirty-one opportunities to write down and share your feelings. Once you have put everything on paper, there is a string on the promissory note to add the person’s name that you want to address the journal to. Allow them to read it alone. This will allow you time to mentally prepare yourself for a conversation with this person. This is a gateway to your healing process. Communication is key. You will then retrieve your journal and move forward in seeking help if you so choose.

Following that journal, I created a children’s book called Behind Closed Doors: The Good Touch and The Bad Touch. Our children are targets for predators. This could mean teachers, family members, friends, pastors, coaches, etc. What better way to teach them to be open with those they trust? They will learn how to differentiate between the way a good and bad touch should feel. I wrote this book with my grandchildren in mind and other helpless children, who are being violated and parents who do not know how to explain it to their children. It’s an easy

read with pictures that coincide with the words ‘moving forward.’

In February 2023, I began acting and embarking on new endeavors with Delinda Kay productions. I landed a role in a movie called, “Sheltered”. I’m currently preparing for my second movie called, “Forever Loved”. You can find my credit on IMDb. I wanted to take all of the negative energy and turn it into a positive. Without letting go and ‘letting God,’ I would not be able to be who he has created me to be. God created women to be his strongest soldiers and we are. Sometimes it takes coming out of a situation with a deep gash, or even minor scrapes and bruises, to realize that no matter how many times you knock us down we will get back up. We will come back even stronger and better than ever. We are resilient, we are strong, we are confident, we are brave, and we are intelligent. What we cannot be any more is without

out to do. Be your biggest supporter and number-one fan, because no one will cheer for you harder than you will. I believe in you. Remember, there is a purpose in your pain, but it is up to you to find out what the purpose is. As long as you have breath in your body and you are reading this article, you still have time. You are beautiful and you are

To learn more about Neicee Jordan, email her at iamneiceej@gmail.com

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Navigating the Future: Why Women Need to Prioritize Estate Planning

BY LAURA WEBB, FOUNDER AND PRESIDENT OF WEBB INVESTMENT SERVICES, INC.

I am in the business everyday of helping women plan for their future, but lately I have been spending time focusing on my own. A few things have shifted in my life. My mother passed away a year ago and I had spent much of my time focusing on her needs and her finances. I helped her get all of her assets and documents in order making the settling of her estate relatively easy, but I realized it had been over 7 years since I updated my own.

Seven years may not seem like a long time but think what might have happened in your own life. Children could have been born or left the nest, parents could have passed away, marriages could have begun or ended. The possibilities are endless. All those life events could impact your wishes if you were permanently disabled or left this earth, creating very good reasons to need an updated will and key estate documents. Even more important could be the position you leave your loved ones in if you have no estate documents.

Before we turn our attention to the necessary legal documents, let’s focus on the consequences if you die without a will. The legal term is dying “intestate” and the distribution of your assets and property is determined by the laws of the state you live in. Dying intestate can lead to outcomes you would never intend including letting the court decide who would be the legal guardian of your minor children.

What are some of the key considerations we, as women, should keep in mind when thinking

about what estate documents are needed to accurately reflect our intentions.

Asset Distribution – Determine how you want your assets to be distributed after your passing. Consider not only financial assets but also real estate, personal belongings, and any other possessions of value.

Beneficiary Designations – Choose carefully the beneficiaries who will receive your assets. This includes named beneficiaries of your annuities, IRA’s, retirement plan assets as well as any life insurance. You can consider family members, friends or charitable organizations. Ensure the documents include their full names and relevant details to avoid confusion and ambiguity. You should check your beneficiary

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designations periodically. As life changes, your choices might change also. I once had a client who had been divorced for several years and when we reviewed her beneficiaries, she was horrified that her ex-husband was still the beneficiary of a $1 million life insurance policy. She changed that immediately.

Guardianship of Minor Children – Any parent with minor children should give serious thought to who the guardian(s) of their loved ones should be. Choose someone you trust, who shares your values and who is willing AND capable of fulfilling the role. Discuss it with them.

Executor Selection- The executor of your estate is the person who is responsible for carrying out the instructions in your will, managing your estate and handling any legal and financial matters. Select someone you trust who is agreeable and capable of fulfilling these duties. It is also a good idea to name an alternative executor in case the primary choice is unable or unwilling to serve.

Power of Attorney – This is a legal document that grants someone the authority to act on your behalf under certain circumstances. There are three types or Powers of Attorney: General, Limited or Specific and Durable Power. Each designates the powers you are giving to your agent which is frequently known as the Attorney in Fact. This document was very helpful when my mother was not able to take care of her own affairs.

Healthcare and End-of-Life Decisions – While your will addresses asset distribution, it is equally important to consider healthcare and end-of-life decisions. It is wise to create an advance healthcare directive or living will that outlines your wishes, such as the medical treatment you may or may not want, including issues of life support and potential organ donation.

Digital and Online Presence - Realize the importance of managing your digital assets or online presence if we are incapacitated or pass away. It is smart to specify your wishes regarding the management or deletion of these assets in your will. A document listing your usernames, passwords, and instructions for accessing and managing your digital presence may also be useful. It is easy to procrastinate. Most of us don’t think anything will happen. Depending on your age, the probability of becoming disabled or incapacitated for some time is statistically higher. A healthcare power of attorney or one of the other Powers of Attorney could be necessary to help take care of you and your family. Regardless of your age or gender, having the basic estate documents are a MUST but there are a few

unique concerns women should keep in mind. Women live longer which can have a significant impact on your financial lives. Living longer frequently requires more assets or other income streams in addition to social security. Women have typically earned less than their male peers, might have taken time out of their work life to care for others, which in turn could mean lower benefits from Social Security and less assets accumulated in retirement plans. It is essential for women to take an active role in managing their assets and finances. This includes understanding and documenting financial information such as bank accounts, investments, real estate, and insurance policies. Being informed and involved can make decisions about your estate plan, appropriate beneficiaries, power of attorney designations, and how your assets are distributed easier.

No one enjoys contemplating or discussing death or disability. Estate planning can potentially be complex and individualized. That is why it is recommended to consult with a qualified estate attorney or advisor who can guide you through the process, help you understand the specific laws and regulations in your state and tailor an estate plan that supports your unique needs and goals.

Articulating your wishes, developing a plan, creating the proper tools so your wishes are implemented and then communicating those wishes to your loved ones can make those difficult events less painful for those you leave behind.

Laura Webb is the founder and president of Webb Investment Services, Inc., based in Asheville, NC. She is a CFP® professional and the creator of the Her Two Cents podcasts, which focuses on helping women normalize the conversation around money. Her team focuses its efforts on helping women secure their financial futures. For the rest of the story, please visit the Webb Investment Services, Inc. website or email her at laura.webb@raymondjames.com.

Webb Investment Services, Inc is not a registered broker/ dealer and is independent of Raymond James Financial Services, Inc. Securities offered through Raymond James Financial Services, Inc. member FINRA/SIPC. Investment Advisory Services offered through Raymond James Financial Services Advisors, Inc., 82 Patton Ave, Suite 610, Asheville, NC 28801. 828-252-5132.

Any opinions are those of Laura Webb and not necessarily those of Raymond James.

Far Flung Farm Owner Kelly Lovejoy Blooms Where She is Planted

BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

When Far Flung Farm owner Kelly Lovejoy envisioned having a farm as a child, thoughts of a farmhouse surrounded by cows, pigs, and horses is what came to mind. She never considered gardening and even thought of it as “a waste of time.”

While her husband was in the military, the family had been stationed overseas for many years. When they returned to the US, they settled in Columbia, SC. At a farewell party thrown by some of the other officers’ wives, Kelly was given a plaque that said, ‘Bloom Where You Are Planted,’ a recurring sentiment shared among military families that struck a chord in her. “I thought, ‘If I’m staying here, I’d better do that,’” she recalls thinking, even though she wasn’t quite sure what that looked like yet.

In Kelly’s many years as a military wife and mother, she pursued other interests that had nothing to do with farming or gardening. She worked as a dog groomer and a dog show judge. Kelly also homeschooled her sons and ran a conference for homeschoolers. Though she embraced her many talents, something about her experience in her small garden called to her.

Kelly says she learned about gardening primarily through trial and error. “I was a horrible gardener,” Kelly says. “I killed more plants than I grew.” Having always wanted to live in the mountains, the couple relocated to Canton, NC. Kelly found the region's soil to be rich and nourishing, so she began farming flowers. She then enrolled in a course through NC State University’s Extension Master Gardener Program, which advanced her skills immeasurably.

In 2018, the Lovejoys officially opened Far Flung Farm out of their home on ten acres. They began selling seasonal herbs, floral arrangements, and farm-fresh eggs. To this day, the entire farm is run by Kelly and her husband, who also has a full-time job. She says they were overjoyed to find a location for the farm with relatively flat land. “I wanted to start this in my 40s,” she says, of planning the farm. “Now in my 60s, I’m too old for that. I can’t be one of those young, energetic farmers.”

While the farm has a roadside stand where people can select the fresh produce and leave their payment in a cash

box, Kelly knew she needed to bring her products directly to consumers. Kelly joined the Smathers Farmers & Public Market, a market that operated out of the former location of Smathers Supermarket on 118 Main Street in downtown Canton. The market is changing its name to Mill Town Market this season, becoming a 501-3c. It will move to Sorrels Park and will be open May 27th through October 28th every Thursday evening from 4:00 PM to 7:00 PM.

Kelly professes to enjoy the versatility that running a farm obliges her to possess. “This is a seasonal, cyclical business,” she explains. In January, she begins setting up her planting room and buying seeds. Planting in the greenhouse starts in February/March, with more planting (and maintaining) happening throughout the summer. Kelly says in WNC there is always potential for a late frost, so you have to be careful not to plant too early.

Besides growing and selling, Far Flung Farm is also beginning to make money for its stunning location with its gorgeous mountain views and babbling creek. So far, the farm has been host to a few dog events and two lowkey weddings.

They have also begun offering farm stays at Far Flung Farm through hipcamp.com. Through this, guests can pitch their tent or set up their camper on the premises and enjoy the serene setting, gorgeous views and amenities, such as fire pits and picnic tables. Kelly says the farm was a big hit with hip campers during the COVID-19 pandemic and is always popular for leafpeepers during fall.

Though she started her farm a bit later in life than she’d hoped to, Far Flung Farm is a dream come true for Kelly. She encourages budding gardeners to stay encouraged. “You’re gonna kill stuff,” she warns, “that’s just the way it is.” Kelly never lost hope on her own green thumb, and now, as the owner and manager of her own farm, she has certainly bloomed where she was planted.

For more information on Far Flung Farm, visit their website: www.farflungfarm.com

Ginger Cason Creates a New ‘Yum!’ in her Career

BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

Owner and operator of Flour Power Cooking Studios in Fort Mill, South Carolina, Ginger Cason always loved to cook, but spent the first twenty years of her professional career as a geriatric physical therapist. “I did this whole thing, stepping out on faith,” she says of her career shift. “In the beginning the decision was more about Flour Power, but became more about taking a risk, and trusting myself.”

Ginger grew up in Whiteville, North Carolina. With a family made up of farmers, gardeners, and butchers, she always put a great deal of importance on the food she ate. “I always knew where my food came from,” she explains. “I realized as I got older that a lot of people did not all grow up that way — growing their own food.”

When her grandfather suffered a stroke in his 80s, Ginger was able to see the help his physical therapist provided to him. This inspired her to go into the physical therapy field and earn her degree from East Carolina University. Since she loved children, Ginger considered going into pediatric physical therapy, and got a job working at the Shriners Hospital for Children. “I found it was more than I could handle emotionally,” she recalls. “I’ve always loved working with kids, but realized early on that healthcare with kids was not my calling.” So, she went into geriatric therapy instead where she remained for two decades. After throwing a birthday party for her oldest daughter at a Flour Power Cooking Studio in Quail Corners, Ginger saw the delight the kids at the party took in cooking their own food. Feeling burned out in the healthcare industry, she could not help but feel a strong desire to generate that passion for cooking in kids. In October 2016, Ginger took over the Quail Corners location from the previous owner. While she had done some teaching at the hospital, Ginger felt a bit of trepidation about leading the cooking classes. “Even though I love to cook, you don’t know that you can teach other people,” she explains. “It took a bit of confidence-building on my part.” Ginger enjoyed running the business and loved the location where they remained for six years. Unfortunately, the building’s landlord did not renew their lease after that. So, they moved the studio to Fort Mill and reopened on June 20, 2022.

Flour Power Cooking Studios began as a kids’ cooking studio, but broadened over time to offer cooking classes of all kinds to all ages. They currently have over 200 recipes to choose from, and 40 themes for the type of cooking class a group can schedule. They host birthday parties, team-building parties, after school/homeschool programs, and competitions based on television cooking programs like Iron Chef, Cupcake Wars, Nailed It!, and Chopped Challenge. “I work with everybody to customize based on the things that they tell me they’re interested in,” Ginger explains. She says that her groups most often make a lot of pizza, pasta and Hibachi dishes, but that her favorite dish to make is the lava cake.

Ginger adds that the cooking classes are for ages 2 ½ and up. “A lot of people don’t give kids enough credit for what they can do,” she says, attributing a lot of that to parents’ fearing that the child will make a mess. Ginger says that messes are okay at her studio since so much of their program is based on discovery. It is her goal to make her studio a fun and comfortable environment (rather than a culinary school) where her students can learn skills that they can reproduce at home. “It really is about the process, not the outcome.”

Ginger loves seeing the kids get excited about preparing a new recipe, or trying something that they don’t usually like very much. “The best part of the day is talking through the recipes with the kids,” she says. “I always tell them to taste it with the thought of how they would change it. You get some really good ideas from kids when you think that way.” Ginger reminds the kids that taste buds change over time, and always makes it a point to impart the rule on her students that, ‘You don’t Yuck someone else’s Yum.’

Currently, Ginger is the studio’s only full-time employee. She teaches the classes, creates some of the lesson plans, purchases the supplies, handles the programming and marketing, and does all the cleaning and dishwashing. “When you are a small business owner and a mother, there is not much free time,” she explains. “So, you just have to organize and maximize the things that have to be accomplished the best you can.” In the future, Ginger hopes to create more partnerships and bring more inspiration to her community through Flour Power. Furthermore, she aspires to bring more programs to her studio to educate kids on the connection between eating quality foods and one’s overall health, as well as the relationship between food and exercise.

While Ginger says she is pleased that Flour Power has expanded to offer more adult classes, she appreciates that she will always get to develop relationships with kids and pass on to them her love of food and fellowship around food. “The focus will never deviate from kids, but we’re adding other things,” she explains. “Flour Power, at this point, is more of a lifestyle movement. I like to think of my own studio as a community. Food is my love language.”

Flour Power Cooking Studios in Fort Mill offers classes throughout the week for all ages and all levels of cooking experience. They also offer a summer camp from June through August, as well as a Flour emPower Leadership Development program for teens.

For more information on the studio, or to schedule your class today, visit their website: www.flourpowerstudios.com/fortmill/aboutus

Dee Dee Perkins: The Woman Behind Brevard's Authentic Soda Fountain Experience

BY REBEKAH MCCUBBINS

In 1994, Dee Dee Perkins was looking for a career change. She was working in an ad agency in another town, and the job didn’t fit her priorities. “I really wanted to be a part of my local community, and our children were small, and I didn’t want to be an hour away from where they were,” she shares. So she created Rocky’s Grill & Soda Shop and personally ran the shop, along with her family, until closing it in August of 2023.

Rocky’s was never just a business. From the very beginning, Dee Dee Perkins wanted her authentic 1940s-style soda shop to be a place that brought the community together.

“There were 14 empty storefronts in downtown Brevard when we opened up our shop,” she recalls. “There was a small group of local businesses, in a very concerted effort, [that] wanted to see our downtown revitalized. And I wanted to be a part of that revitalization.”

Dee Dee’s love for her community was the catalyst for Rocky’s. It was a rebirth of the longstanding Varner’s. Varner’s began as a traditional drugstore in 1941. Like many small-town drugstores at the time, it boasted a soda fountain. Through the years, Varner’s was sold several times, operating as a pharmacy and lunch counter. But no matter how the shop changed, the soda fountain persisted.

So when Dee Dee wanted to open a business in downtown Brevard, she jumped at the chance to continue the shop’s history. “We first created a gift shop on one side of the

building, and then took over the space of the lunch counter several months later,” Dee Dee explains, “and renovated, keeping all the original fixtures and elements that were really important to its history in play.”

The building wasn’t the only aspect of Rocky’s that remained true to its roots. “We created our own homemade recipes, but our menu was still authentic to what you would expect to find at a drugstore lunch counter and soda fountain,” Dee Dee says. “And the soda fountain was just as important as the restaurant side of things. We made milkshakes the old-fashioned way, in the silver cup. When you received your milkshake, you got [it] in one of those wonderful, heavy milkshake glasses with the silver cup [of the] leftover milkshake beside it.”

The goal at Rocky’s was to ensure that each guest got the full, authentic soda fountain experience. But that didn’t mean that Dee Dee wasn’t innovating. “We were creative with our ice cream sundaes,” she shares. Her ‘Outrageous Sundaes’ were always a hit, each inspired by and named after a local attraction or regional reference. Customers could enjoy the ‘Devil’s Courthouse Sundae’ before heading out to hike the nearby mountain. Or they could order a ‘White Squirrel Sundae’ and eat it while looking for one of the locally famous critters. Whichever sundae they chose, Rocky’s clientele was sure to get an experience authentic to Brevard and its community.

And Dee Dee’s commitment to her community shone through in every aspect of the business. She sourced

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supplies from other local businesses whenever possible, and speaks of those connections with pride. “We loved the collaboration with our neighbors wherever we could find it,” she explains. “Wherever we could locally source products, we chose to do that.”

“[There is] a wonderful local mom-and-pop bakery that’s right next door that has European bread, and we served our sandwiches on their homemade bread every day,” says Dee Dee. That bread was just one of many small businesses partnering with Rocky’s. They also used local coffees and honeys in their restaurant, and still feature local businesses in their gift shop.

With all of the love that Dee Dee and her family poured into Rocky’s, it’s hard to imagine the shop closing its doors. But as Dee Dee explains “[there are] only so many hours in a day.” And running a restaurant isn’t easy. “A restaurant requires full, hands-on responsibility. And I’ve found that I’m in the restaurant 95% of the time, and I’m working in my business every day, versus working on my business,” she says. She decided it was time to step away from the constant hands-on aspects of operation to focus on other things, like her local outfitters store, D.D. Bullwinkel’s. “As much as I love this original place and love Rocky’s Grill & Soda Fountain, it was time to make a decision on where I needed to place my priorities.”

When asked what she’ll miss most about Rocky’s, there was no question. “Our customers who have become our friends,” she says without hesitation. “The hospitality industry is what I love, and it filled my cup every day. I love the connection to the people who live in Brevard. I love the connection to those people who are coming to Brevard for a visit and falling in love with Brevard for the first time. And I also love all the kids in town, [who] love Rocky’s the most.”

Asked what she wouldn’t miss about Rocky’s, Dee Dee laughed and said that, like many businesses, she struggled to find staff over the past few years. “Finding employees has always been a challenge,” she says. “But since the pandemic, living in a small town with not a lot of places for people to live, [there is] a shortfall on the labor market.” The “daily challenge” of staffing a restaurant is one stressor she’s happy to leave behind.

Although Rocky’s is closed, Dee Dee continues to be an active member of her community. She still oversees her other businesses, D.D. Bullwinkel’s Outdoors and MooseTracks Footwear. Outside of work, she plans to enjoy Brevard’s great outdoors. “I love to travel, and love hiking and mountain biking, and painting,” she says. And as always, Dee Dee will continue to support a thriving Brevard.

For 125 years, the Asheville Area Chamber of Commerce has been committed to building a stronger community. Our initiatives and projects have stimulated economic development and supported the growth of thousands of local and regional businesses.

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We believe that together, we are more. Discover all the ways the Asheville Chamber can grow your business and community.

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Abuela's Little Kitchen

BY DESIRAE MCGEE, DAREWOOD REALTY

Abuela's Little Kitchen is a delightful eatery that serves up yummy breakfast and lunch options. Abuela's Little Kitchen opened their doors in 2020. They moved from the original location to their larger, current location on Long Shoals Road in Arden in January 2023.

The moment you arrive at Abuela's Little Kitchen, you'll be greeted by friendly staff who are passionate about sharing their love for food and ensuring every customer leaves with a satisfied smile.

Abuela's Little Kitchen has gained a well-deserved reputation for their delicious breakfast options. The star of the menu for me is undoubtedly their omelettes. The ingredients are always fresh, and the attention to detail in every dish is evident, promising a delightful start to your day.

No breakfast is complete without a steaming hot cup of coffee, and Abuela's Little Kitchen takes this concept to heart by sourcing their coffee directly from Mexico. Sip on a cup of their imported coffee- a rich and aromatic experience that elevates your dining experience to new heights. Whether you prefer it black, with milk, or sweetened, their coffee will awaken your senses and leave you feeling energized.

The staff truly embodies the spirit of hospitality, treating each customer like an honored guest. Whether you're a regular or a first-time visitor, you'll be received with warmth and genuine interest.

Abuela's Little Kitchen is a shining example of where culinary tastes mingle, featuring Mexican and American breakfasts and lunches. From their mouthwatering omelettes that tantalize the taste buds to the rich, Mexican coffee that warms the soul, every aspect of the dining experience is carefully crafted with love and attention to detail. So, if you're seeking a breakfast or lunch spot that offers not only exceptional food but also a warm and inviting atmosphere, look no further than Abuela's Little Kitchen. Prepare to be delighted, nourished, and embraced as part of the family.

Abuela's Little Kitchen is located at 8 Long Shoals Rd in Arden, NC. They're open daily from 7AM-3PM.

www.abuelaslittlekitchen.com

Wine for the Holidays

BY ANDY HALE, CSW

An important part of each holiday gathering (or maybe the most important part, depending on who has been invited) is the wine you will be serving. Here are my suggestions for the right bottle of wine to spice up a meal, invigorate a party, and ensure your holiday celebrations are a hit.

Thanksgiving

There isn’t a meal that I get asked what to serve with more than Thanksgiving, it is basically the Super Bowl of food and wine pairing. This is also a situation where there are many right answers. Red? White? Bubbly? Yes!

For the white, I like a richer one with good acidity. Try a French White Burgundy here. They can certainly get expensive, and they are worth it, but you should be able to find one for around $20, or so. Try Vérizet from the little village of Viré-Clessé- bright, green apple flavor with a touch of chalky minerality, running about $20.

For the red, look for a wine that is light bodied with crisp, vibrant acidity. Pinot Noir and Gamay from Beaujolais are perfect, but if you want something a little different, try a red from the tiny region of Jura, east of the Burgundy region. This is a region that doesn’t really export their wine and mostly makes whites. Their hard-to-find reds tend to be delicate, lighter than a Pinot Noir with flavors of cranberry, raspberry and a mushroomy, earthy finish that almost reminds me of wet soil. Seek out the Domaine Rolet red blend around $30.

The Holidays

For your holiday gathering, you’ll likely want a red and a white. I’d suggest a spicy white and a robust red wine that is easy to drink.

For the white, I’d suggest a richer, rounder, spicy wine. Something that reminds you of apple cider. Go for a white from the Rhone Valley. I’d suggest the Dentelle Blanc from Domaine Rouge Bleu, a blend of 13 different grapes! Think apple and dried wildflowers with a hint of beeswax. It’s a great little Biodynamic wine for around $15.

For the red, go for lots of fruit and spice and less tannin. This is a great time for a classic California red blend, or a French Côtes du Rhône. I’d suggest the J. Dusi ‘Model M’ red blend. It is equal parts Cabernet Sauvignon, Syrah, Petit Sirah, and Zinfandel from the famous Dusi vineyard in Paso Robles, California. It is rich and full bodied, but soft and spicy- perfect for serving with full flavored meals or just sipping by the fire. It is also a stunning deal at $15!

For those winter nights, consider having some Port on hand as well. This dessert wine is perfect for an after dinner drink with family, or while wrapping presents. It also boasts an impressive 20% alcohol which will warm you up on those cold nights. I’d go for Quinta Noval’s 2014 Late Bottled Vintage. It’s around $30, but worth it!

New Year’s Eve

Obviously, New Year’s Eve is synonymous with sparkling wine, but there are more options than just Champagne to choose from.

Prosecco is from the Veneto in Italy, and is light, refreshing, fruity and often slightly sweet. You should be able to find a good quality Prosecco for under $20. My favorite is the Biodynamic, tiny production, Alla Costiera (around $20).

For a classy alternative to Prosecco, try Franciacorta. They are rare, and even many wine experts don’t know about them. Franciacorta comes from Lombardy in Northern Italy, and is made in a very similar fashion to true Champagne. They usually have a little more fruit than true Champagne though, as it’s warmer in Lombardy than Champagne. The yeasty, nutty flavors will add a very nice complexity that Prosecco can’t touch. They usually run in the $40-$60 range though. If you can find it, try Barone Pizzini’s Animante (around $40).

Cava is Spain’s answer to Champagne. It is made out of their own native varietals, but uses the painstaking Champagne Method to carbonate their wines. They are also aged on the Lees, the spent yeast that collects in the bottle, which gives them a creamy, nutty flavor. These are

Pumpkin Fondue

An American Cuisine, Oven-Baked Main

Dish Sure to Wow your Guests

Recipe Creator: Ruth Reichl

Prep Time: 15 minutes | Cook Time: 1.5 hours Total Time: 46 minutes

Ingredients

• 4–6 pound pumpkin with the top removed, and the seeds & fibers removed.

• 12–14” inch baguette, sliced into 1/4” slices and toasted slightly

• 2 cups gruyere cheese, shredded (Also feel free to use any other Alpine cheese)

• 3 eggs

• 8 ounces half and half (or cream!)

• 1 1/2 teaspoon salt

• 1 teaspoon pepper

• 1/4 teaspoon freshly grated nutmeg

typically inexpensive and very good quality. My favorite is Juve Y Camps Cava which should be under $20. Finally, Champagne is synonymous with celebration for a reason. The cool climate of the Champagne region prevents the grapes from over-ripening, giving the finished wine a crisp, tart flavor, and the limestone rich soil contributes the famous minerality. It’s this very special climate that gives true Champagne its power and elegance. But that elegance and power comes with a price, Champagne is not cheap. They start in the $40’s and go all the way up. For a good Champagne at a good price, try Andre Clouet Silver (around $50).

Andy Hale is a Certified Specialist of Wine and was a professional Sommelier in Charleston until he moved to Asheville. He is now the Education Director at Metro Wines.

Instructions

1. Preheat oven to 350˚

2. Cut the top off the pumpkin, and scoop out seeds & fibers, making a nice bowl for the cheese & bread. Reserve the top for baking.

3. Place pumpkin in a rimmed baking dish (I used a 9×13 pan, on top of a half sheet pan)

4. Layer bread and cheese three layers inside the pumpkin, ending with cheese

5. In a spouted bowl, mix eggs, half & half, salt, pepper, and nutmeg until combined.

6. Slowly pour the egg and cream mixture over the bread & cheese, inside the pumpkin. If it looks like it’s going to overflow, just give it a few seconds to soak in….

7. Bake for 1.5 hours at 350˚ with the top on the pumpkin (or until it’s completely melted inside and the pumpkin is wilting).

8. Remove the top of the pumpkin, and place back in the oven, and broil the top until golden brown.

Serve by scooping everything out (including the pumpkin, yum!) and devour together with good friends, great wine, and lots of laughter!

Alright — now, go pick a pumpkin, fill it with cheese, and get ready for your {fall} life to be complete!

Pumpkin Fondue Recipe

BY ASHLEY ELIZABETH, CREATOR OF SWEETPEA LIFESTYLE

Pumpkin Fondue is a decadently rich layered side dish recipe filled with nutty Gruyere cheese and toasted baguette slices. Pumpkin Fondue—the unctuous yet velvety side dish you didn’t know you needed in your life. When the weather turns cool and the mountains start revealing their majestic color it’s time to ring the bell for Pumpkin Fondue.

This is quite the decadent dish, so prepare yourself. Take the Lactaid pills, wear the stretchy pants, put your hair up. You’re going to never want to bring your face out of this pumpkin! Autumn means the orange hue of pumpkin spice and everything nice. But, for me, the bell rings Autumn when you stuff a pumpkin full of bread and cheese and pour the glass of wine that pairs perfectly. I almost renamed this recipe ‘Pumpkin Gratin’ because it’s not a fondue in the traditional sense… You take layers of toasted bread and cheese and pour cream and eggs overtop… Then bake the whole thing for TWO HOURS, and scoop it out onto a plate. I ate mine with a spoon…. and it was everything I had hoped for and more.

How to Make Pumpkin Fondue

Like our friend Linus, once the intoxicating aroma of the first great Pumpkin Fondue glides through the air, friends start calling. “Hey, Ashley! Are you making Pumpkin Fondue soon?” People invite themselves over when they know it’s happening, or when they think it’s happening. This is one of the most impressive things you can make for the people you love. A beautiful pumpkin glistens with the cheesy glow of Gruyere cheese. I mean, how often

do you pull a whole pumpkin out of the oven, that is bubbling with cheese, bread, and cream.

What kind of pumpkin should I use?

I’ve used everything from Sugar Pie to French (that’s the one pictured!), to the white Cinderella pumpkins. You definitely want to choose an edible one, with a sweet and creamy texture.

How to serve it

You’ll preferably have a host of people gathered near you for this theatrical show.

Serve with a light everyday salad and a {few} bottles of wine. Now, you’ll take a serving spoon and scoop out the pumpkin with the bread and cheese. The subtle pumpkin flavor balances the robust woody flavors of the cheese. I serve inside of deep bowls, with spoons for all.

It’s a cheese soup and a gratin and a fondue and a full meal all in one. And, for the outstanding wow factor it’s incredibly simple to make. Which is exactly what you want when entertaining your dear ones in Autumn. And, the absolute best part of all this?! You can prepare the pumpkin 2 hours in advance of baking. This means you can layer this pumpkin together during your lunch break from Zoom meetings, and keep it in the fridge until you bake it for an hour and a half.

Let’s all give an incredibly big thank you to Ruth Reichl, the creator of the recipe. Without you, Autumn would be a little less magical…

PHOTO CREDIT: RACHAEL MCINTOSH PHOTOGRAPHY

Grieving Your Pet: Love, Loss, and Healing

BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

LOVE:

Blizzard was Crystal Pressley’s first real family pet. He was a white boxer that they adopted from a boxer rescue out of Fletcher, North Carolina. From the moment they brought him home, he quickly earned his place in the hearts of Crystal, her husband and her sons. “All the boys grew up with him,” Crystal explains, adding that Blizzard always slept in bed with her son Devon.

Shortly before he turned fifteen, Blizzard’s eating behavior started changing. He began drinking excessive amounts of water, and rarely ate his dinner without vomiting. He also started showing signs of stiffness when he walked. Crystal and her husband noticed that something wasn’t right with him, but things quickly got worse. One evening in March, Blizzard began limping, went out into the yard and collapsed in the grass. Crystal and her family quickly loaded him into their truck and got him to the vet. After being turned away from their regular vet because they didn’t have an appointment, the family took Blizzard to Veterinary Emergency Group (VEG) on Hendersonville Road in Asheville.

The team at VEG got them in immediately and began doing tests on Blizzard. At first they couldn’t find anything wrong with him, but after an ultrasound, the staff was able to see a cancerous growth on his spleen. The doctor discussed treatment options with Crystal and her family, but said that it would only delay the inevitable. The doctor recommended euthanization, since the risk of the spleen rupturing was likely and would be very painful for Blizzard.

The family was taken to a private room with their beloved boxer. When they were ready, the doctor came in and put Blizzard peacefully to sleep, surrounded by everyone he loved. While Crystal recalls that moment as being incredibly hard on herself and her family, she knew it was the right thing to do. “I feel like they tell you when they are ready,” Crystal says.

LOSS:

Dr. Katie Havill is Medical Director at Veterinary Emergency Group (VEG) in Asheville. As an emergency vet, she explains that the staff at VEG sees a wide range of animal injury emergencies due to a myriad of causes from car accidents, to gunshots, and even bear attacks. “We want to make sure we’re doing everything for that patient,” Katie says of veterinarians. “Unfortunately, sometimes that is saying, ‘Your pet is not gonna make it.’ I’m looking out and doing what’s best for the pet.”

Unfortunately, Katie says that they deal with euthanasia often at VEG, more than in general practice. She says that, even though the medical team often feels the same emotions surrounding the death of a pet, it is important for them to show confidence in the medical decisions first and foremost. “It’s hard to put on that face, but we have to still show that confidence,” she explains. “Overall, it’s compassion that we show to the customer and the pet.”

When the decision has been made to put an animal down, the staff at VEG sends the owners and pet to a private room away from the main treatment floor. Sometimes, the vet technicians give the animal a sedative, in case he/she is tense. They make sure the pet and owners are comfortable, set them up a place to sit with their pet on a blanket on the floor, and even sometimes bring them snacks and pet treats. The owners are permitted to stay for hours if necessary, saying goodbye to their pet. When they are ready, the vet talks through the euthanizing process with them.

The animal is given an injection of Propofol to make them go to sleep. Then, the vet administers a chemical that painlessly stops the animal’s heart. Katie says that the process is very peaceful and takes about 30-60 seconds. After confirming that the heartbeat has ceased, the vets give the owners time and space to grieve. They ring a doorbell in the room when they are ready.

VEG partners with a pet crematorium called Agape Pet Services to offer respectful cremation services to their customers. Through Agape, the owners can receive their pet’s ashes in a box or urn. Or the ashes can even be made into a jewelry piece. If the owner does not wish to keep the ashes, Agape has them scattered across a farm in Georgia. If the owner prefers to bury their pet at home, VEG provides them with a biodegradable bag, or cardboard casket.

“We always want to make sure that it goes smoothly for the pet, but also the owner,” Katie says, adding that the staff at VEG always signs a sympathy card for the family of the euthanized pet. “A lot of these owners- I feel like they have the biggest impact on me, telling me stories about the pet. I love to write a little note in the card. We just want to make sure they understand that not only have we made an impact on them, but they have made an impact on us.”

Learn more about VEG on their website: veterinaryemergencygroup.com/locations/asheville-nc

HEALING:

Psychologist and Grief Counselor Samantha Ruth says that, in her experience, grieving the loss of a loved one is in no way diminished by that loved one being an animal. “Whether somebody has a terminal illness and someone is preparing for that loss, or whether it’s completely unexpected, pain is pain,” she explains. “How people cope with it is an entirely individual journey.”

Samantha finds that one of the most difficult aspects of grieving is the judgment that one receives from others who criticize them for not grieving in the ‘correct’ manner. She advises her clients who have suffered loss to grieve in their own way, to do what they need, and to surround themselves with people they feel safe with. She goes on to say that there is no timeline for healing, but that avoiding one’s feelings just makes them more painful to deal with later.

Judgment from others during the grieving process is especially present when grieving the loss of a pet, Samantha finds. She says that, while grief is not discussed and allowed as openly as it should be, the attitude that ‘it’s just a dog,’ makes pet grief particularly problematic. “It shouldn’t be that way; I want it to be treated the same,” Samantha says of pet grief. She adds that people who try to minimize, or mock that grief have never experienced it and don’t understand. “A pet’s love is completely unconditional. They are always there. They don’t talk back. They are just loyal and forever by your side.”

Less than three years ago, Samantha founded Griefhab, which is essentially rehab for grief and includes an online support community for people who are suffering from loss. After losing her husband suddenly almost six years ago, Samantha felt the need to find a community of people who truly understood what she was going through and knew how difficult it was for people to find that in their communities (particularly during Covid). “Grief is just not discussed,” she says in today’s society. “If we were taught things correctly, the world would understand that we’re allowed to take as much time as we need to. That’s how you get through it, even though it makes people uncomfortable.” Three months ago, seeing that there was likely even more need for the same kind of group for people experiencing the loss of a pet, Samantha started Griefhab: For Pets.

“Mental illness, and grief are perceived as negative things, and I want people to reframe that and see them as strengths and superpowers,” Samantha says, adding that any loss, including death, divorce, loss of a job, or even moving, can bring trauma with it. She says that such traumatic events teach us coping skills, and make us more compassionate towards others. “What other people see as negatives, I see as major positives.” Her book, Redefining Ruthless, set to come out next year, deals heavily on those lessons. Samantha also hosts her own podcast on “making noise and breaking stigmas.”

After losing Blizzard, the Pressleys took steps to ensure that he was never out of their hearts, or far from their minds. They had their favorite photograph of him blown up on a large canvas and hung over the fireplace in their living room. They keep his ashes in a box on their mantle, along with a paw print plaque and condolence card from VEG. Crystal says that seeing the tribute on their wall reminds the family of all the happy memories they had with Blizzard. “That helps, seeing that all the time. We gave him a good life. He couldn’t have been any happier,” she says. Crystal continues that she has found that grief is grief, whether you are grieving a person, or an animal that you loved. She says she never realized that until she had a pet she connected with and loved so completely. “They’re always there, no matter what, good or bad. And they show so much love. Until you have that in your life, you don’t know.”

If you are experiencing loss and want to connect with others who are grieving, you can join Griefhab online at: samantharuth.com/griefhab

What is your dog really thinking? Q&A with Dog Trainer Heather Polechio

BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

Certified dog trainer and behavioral counselor Heather Polechio, owner of Mindful Mutz, has always had a fascination with animals — dogs in particular. She worked in the animal rescue field, in veterinary offices and shelters, throughout her young adult life and discovered that her ability to understand the behavior of dogs she was working with could help save their lives. “I realized that what I could offer those dogs was to be their voice and help put a language to some of the issues that would sometimes land dogs in the rescue,” Heather recalls. In 2009, she graduated with Honors from the San Francisco Academy of Dog Training and went on to receive her national certification as a trainer from the Certified Council for Professional Dog Trainers. Recently, Heather has also become a licensed educator in dog behavior for an organization called Family Paws Parent Education.

How did you become a dog trainer?

When I decided that I wanted to do this for a living, I really took it seriously and wanted to do it the right way. I remember researching several different schools and programs. I’m so grateful that I landed on the program that I did, since it is a very solid evidence-based, best practice, program that was founded in science, ethology and learning theory principles.

What is your process like for working with a new client?

I try to keep things pretty simple and pressure-free. When people reach out to me, I always like to have the opportunity to connect with them for a few minutes just to get a sense of what they’re looking for help with, and I’ll give them some feedback on what I think we might be looking at and what the work can look like. Sometimes people are just looking for a one-time visit with me. Other clients might want more support, that I’ll see for several weeks or a few months, at a pace that feels comfortable for success with the dog. I try to be mindful and flexible about meeting that person where they’re at. I really try to work with people in terms of the logistics that’s gonna help them.

What techniques have helped you most in working with animals?

I encourage clients to do a lot of reinforcing the absence of the problem behavior. I’m also a huge fan of the learnto-earn approach, where I’ll have the client think of all

the different resources that the dog might be interested in throughout the day (attention, playtime, food), and ask the dog to work with them to earn access to those resources. Your dog is constantly learning throughout the day. The little nuanced moments and those exchanges that you have, that’s where we can really start to build better behavior.

What challenges do people come to you for help with most often?

Leash reactivity, or barrier frustration. One of the more common goals that people come to me with is they want to take their dog to the brewery. For some dogs, it’s too much for them. I tell people, “It’s okay for you dog to say, ‘No, thank you.’” We need to listen because a lot of aggressive, or reactive behavior displays are rooted in underlying anxiety.

Do you have any basic tips for making your dog more cooperative?

I tell my clients that we are a team and the dog is part of the team. Part of that teamwork is being able to be respectful, having good communication and awareness. You have to understand the dog’s motivation and what’s triggering that behavior. When we’re working on changing our dog’s behavior, we’ve got to set the dog up so that they’re not able to rehearse or practice the problematic behavior if possible. Practice makes perfect, for better or worse. With our dogs, if we practice some before they are triggered and emotional, they might be more able to access it.

Do you sometimes feel that you can understand dogs better than humans?

I really adore dogs, and understanding dogs. I also really like people. I’m a people person/dog person. You have got to like people to do this, at least the way I do it. I’m working with the client to be a sort of translator of what is happening with the dog and why. Then, I’m trying to coach them on how they might be able to interact and behave so that they can help that dog. You really have to have good communication with the person to have a positive impact and outcome for the dog. Dogs are complex social animals, but so are we.

What do you wish every new pet owner knew/understood about dogs?

I wish that we, as a society, would get better at

recognizing what our dogs are attempting to communicate. I always say, “If the dog is whispering, don’t make him yell.” In a nutshell, I wish that people would feel more confident and empowered to be their dog’s advocate and their dog’s voice when they are in public. It’s actually very helpful for a dog that’s feeling stressed or uncomfortable to know that their person is gonna hold space for them because that means that maybe that dog doesn’t have to become reactive.

What qualities should people look for in searching for a dog trainer that works well with them and their pet?

I always advise people to think about what their goals might be and make sure that the professional that they’re reaching out to is comfortable and qualified for that specific issue. Does the person that they are reaching out to have credentials and are they qualified? Are they practicing humane, force-free techniques? Is this a professional that can work in conjunction with other qualified professionals if they need a second opinion? I would stay away from any trainer that claims that they have a guarantee that they can ‘fix your dog.’ Anyone that does this for a living, that’s qualified, knows it’s not always that simple. Above all, working with a Dog Trainer or Behavior professional should feel comfortable and enjoyable for both the human and the dog! It can truly be an incredible and life-changing experience, encouraging a stronger and healthier relationship with our beloved canine companions, which is what this work is all about!

For more information on Heather Polechio, or to contact her directly, go to her website: www.mindfulmutz.com

Priscilla Golas Finds Balance as Her Husband’s Caregiver

BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

Retired owner of her own insurance company, Priscilla Golas has been caring for her husband Bob for the past few years and around the clock for the past year. Originally from Marion, North Carolina, Priscilla met Bob in November of 2010. She was a widow and mother of two, Bob was a 20-year plus army veteran who had received many medals, including a Purple Heart and Bronze Star. After his retirement from the Army, he had another career as a VP in Software sales. They had a longdistance relationship for three years and were married in 2013. Priscilla moved with her new husband to his home in Virginia.

In 2012, Bob was diagnosed with a condition called normal pressure hydrocephalus, a disease in which fluid

develops in the brain and causes balance issues, among other things. He was still able to take care of business and the disease didn’t slow him down much, but the couple knew time was limited. “We just enjoyed each other’s company and did the things we wanted to do,” she shares. “We traveled a little and had a good, active life.”

In 2020, Bob started having difficulty going up the stairs to their bedroom. The couple took this as a sign that it was time to move South to be closer to Priscilla’s family. They settled in Easley, South Carolina in June of 2020. The balance issues worsened and Bob’s doctor advised him to start walking with a cane. The cane progressed to a walker, the walker to a wheelchair, and by 2023 Bob could no longer stand on his own and was bedridden.

“Bob is a very proud man. When he started becoming debilitated, it was very hard on him,” Priscilla says of her husband. Bob’s disability level from the Army was 40% when he met his wife. Over the years, it grew to 60%, then 80%, and he is now considered 100% disabled. Priscilla explains that this level of disability has made them eligible for a phenomenal level of support from the Veterans Administration.

“The resources are incredible. I could not have done everything I’ve done for Bob without that help.” Priscilla says of the assistance they have received from the VA. “I think sometimes people don’t realize there are a lot of resources out there, and places are underutilized because people just don’t know what to do or where to go. You just need to be bold and seek out the help that you need.” Through the VA, Bob has a complete home healthcare team, including a doctor, nurse, physician’s assistant, social worker and other support personnel. Each member of the team visits Bob and Priscilla at their house, and all supplies and medications are shipped directly to their home.

Priscilla explains that her relationship with her husband has had to evolve somewhat, as he has become more debilitated. “I’m very independent; he’s very independent. We haven’t had to ask for help much. We just adjusted over time,” she says. Priscilla adds that she had to learn to use a Hoyer Lift to lift her husband out of bed, but that he is not crazy about it because it hurts his back. “He loves to laugh and joke and if he gets grumpy, I have to remind him that I am not his grunt,” she says, adding that Bob was a Lieutenant Colonel. She goes on to say that Bob’s mind is still sharp, even though his short term memory isn’t. The two continue to enjoy long conversations, watch Jeopardy, and play rummy.

Because sitting up is so painful for Bob, he is on very strong pain medication which Priscilla says slows him down and makes him sleep a lot. Still, she says that he is a constant flirt, complimenting her and giving her the periodic pop on the tush. “He’s really cute. We still kiss, and hug, and snuggle,” she says of their relationship. “I hop up into the hospital bed and we watch old movies together.”

Priscilla also maintains time for herself. She gets up around 4:30 each morning and reads, does her devotional, and sometimes watches old television show reruns. Then, Bob is awake around 7am. She brings him his breakfast and has coffee with him while he eats. They have an aid, supplied by the VA, that comes in for a few hours in the morning to help out so that Priscilla can run errands and take care of personal appointments.

Priscilla admits that what she and Bob have been through in the past few years has been hard on them both. She says they have been able to get through it with love and support from family and friends, and their deep abiding faith. “Life happens and you accept it, or you don’t. We accepted it, and with our faith, we are able to go from day to day,” she explains. “That’s the only way I think anyone can stay sane and grounded in a situation that you didn’t expect to find yourself in.”

In loving memory of Bob:

Sadly, after this interview was given, Bob passed away on September 4, 2023. “Death, too, is a part of the caregiver’s role and the final act of caring for your loved one,” Priscilla explains, adding that Bob will be dearly missed. “He was my hero.”

The Women of Eckerd Connects Caring for Children, Helping Families Across WNC

BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

Founded in 1975, the goal of Caring for Children (CFC) has always been to help families in Western North Carolina. The program, part of Eckerd Connects, provides assistance to families that are experiencing crises, helps find temporary homes for children in the foster care system, and trains people who want to become foster parents for these children.

Prior to working in the field, Executive Director Amy Hobson says that when she thought about ‘foster care,’ she would visualize scenes from 1980s television sitcoms. “I had this preconceived notion of what fostering looked like and that is not the reality at all,” she explains, adding this inaccurate idea prevents many people from thinking they can become foster parents.

While Amy loves her job, she acknowledges it can be demanding. “My cell phone has not been off since I started in 2009,” she says. “We support families with children in WNC that are struggling, in a proactive, supportive manner. [CFC] is a living example of what I always wanted to be part of. I wake up every morning, excited about what I do.” Amy corresponds with everyone from families in crisis, to potential donors, to fosters and potential fosters. Amy feels very fortunate to get to work with children and families, and also to work with amazing women like Licensing and Recruitment Specialist Maddie Brown and Licensing and Family Foster Care Supervisor Hannah Moore.

Hannah and Maddie have both been with the company for over ten years. One of their main focuses at CFC is training. Together, they teach two foster parenting courses: Model Approach to Partnerships in Partnering Series (MAPPS), and Trauma Informed Partnering for Safety & Permanence (TIPS). The courses try hard to balance safety training with fun activities, and also create a scenario in which prospective foster parents can connect with each other. The courses, along with the accompanying book series, Deciding Together, give the potential foster parent a little insight into what to expect from taking in a foster child.

During CFC’s in-depth interview process with their foster families, Hannah explains people are encouraged to open up about their ‘parenting experience.’ She goes on to say that a ‘perfect life’ is not a requirement for a foster parent, and that having experienced past familial challenges can often make a person more emotionally-capable to meet a child where they are.

“I think it’s the willingness to learn, to be flexible,” Hannah says

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of what makes a successful foster parent. “To see a child for who they are and not their trauma, and to help them take their childhood back because it may have been taken from them.”

There are several ways to help CFC support the families under their care, besides becoming a full-time foster parent. Other options are mentoring, babysitting, or respite (short-term) fostering. “There are so many ways for individuals to get involved, to open their hearts,” Amy explains, adding that county and private foster care groups are always in need of more foster parents. She hopes to break down some of the barriers and help people understand that they actually can help these vulnerable children.

Since CFC is a private agency, they get to work hand-inhand with the Department of Social Services (DSS), but do not have all of the same restrictions. For instance, DSS can only license family foster homes, whereas private agencies can also work with therapeutic homes, specialized care facilities, and Medicaid facilities. “We’re able to provide care and support for our foster families at the same level we do for our kids. It’s a mutual selection process,” says Maddie, adding that it takes a lot of passion to be a foster parent, along with a desire to make a difference.

Besides connecting foster parents and kids, CFC provides programs to assist families that are in the midst of a crisis, such as domestic violence, homelessness, poverty, lack of childcare, or a negative DSS report. “We’re just trying to have an agency that is welcoming to everyone in all walks of life that can be impactful for children,” says Hannah. “Our first priority is supporting our families. If our families don’t feel supported, their children can’t exist in a safe and secure home.”

Amy, Hannah and Maddie agree that the work they do would be impossible were they not such a tight-knit group. Amy says that difficult days are, unfortunately, an occupational hazard in their industry, and that they are lucky to have each other to lean on. “I’m always reminded of the courage and commitment these families and children display in trying to increase protective factors for their families,” Amy says. “Making sure everyone has a voice, that everyone is seen and appreciated – that, for me, is really the driving force.”

For more information on Caring for Children and Eckerd Connects, visit their website: www.Eckerd.org/familychildren-services/foster-and-adoption

To learn how you can help a foster child, email them directly at: fostercare@caring4children.org

SC Women In Leadership Is Balancing the Scales in South Carolina’s Public Offices

BY REBEKAH MCCUBBINS

SC Women in Leadership is making waves in elections across the state of South Carolina, and they have a message for you: no matter who you are, you can lead.

SC Women in Leadership (SC WIL) began operating in 2018 with the initial financial support of 100 founders–women and men of all backgrounds–committed to gender parity in the state’s elected offices. Sara Ballard, COO of SC WIL, shared that a mere 14.7% of elected offices in South Carolina are held by women. “And we’re 51% of the population in the state. So we certainly need to make progress there,” she explains. Sara joined as a founding member of the organization in hopes of balancing the scales.

SC Women in Leadership isn’t solely focused on major statewide offices. Their goals center around the idea of creating a “pipeline” of women, beginning with hyperlocal offices. “We want to support women for town

council, for city council, for school boards,” says Sara “All of those local offices make an enormous impact on our state as well as giving women that experience serving.”

The organization is committed to equity across party lines and demographics. “We are a multi-partisan organization supporting any and all women who are interested in running for elected office or seeking public appointed board and commission positions across the state,” Sara shares. “Whether you're a CEO or whether you're a stayat-home mom, you have something to contribute.”

Their goal for the upcoming year, which they call ‘More in 2024,’ is to “triple the number of women who are running for elected office and seeking a public appointed board.” According to Sara, “that equates to more than 800 additional women in the pipeline.”

To help women get started, SC WIL offers proprietary

research to find “the most winnable seats.” Sara says this ensures that “if they are going to run, they can make good use of their time and resources with seats that are approachable, that are winnable in this and the next election.” The organization offers multiple training sessions each month focused on these ‘opportunity seats,’ to help women “get a high-level overview of what the historical election data means” and create “a campaign strategy with support of the other training and resources that SC WIL offers.”

And that’s not the only training opportunity that SC Women in Leadership offers. They offer a variety of opportunities to learn, from in-person conferences to virtual ‘office hours’ highlighting specific topics. Office hours trainings are “deep dives into mostly campaign topics, but also some appointed office topics.” Each topic is offered on a recurring basis throughout the year, so you don’t have to worry about missing an opportunity. “The idea of office hours is that there are multiple cycles during the year where we offer the same sessions that we would in a day-long conference format,” explains Sara.

But even a one-hour scheduled training can be inaccessible for some women, and SC WIL is committed to finding ways to break down those barriers. The timing of their organization’s founding has, in some ways, contributed to their success in creating accessible training options. “It was a really interesting time when we first got up and operating,” Ballard shared. “We just got on our feet and then COVID hit.” While still in its infancy, SC WIL had to make major changes to its strategies. “So we have been learning what the new world is like, and figuring out how to accomplish our mission of increasing the number of women in elected and appointed office across South Carolina.”

As the world went virtual, SC WIL saw new opportunities to train women to run for office. “One of the needs

that we saw in the feedback from our participants was that there was a place for an online self-paced training resource,” Sara explains. “You may need to do it while you're waiting in the car line, or you may need to do it after your kids go to bed at night, or once you get off work in the afternoon, or Saturday morning. But on your timeline, you can dig into campaign topics like developing your campaign message, finance, compliance, navigating the media, and more.”

But Sara says that with all of the training that they offer, the first hurdle is helping women understand that they are qualified. “Women think that they have to check every single box on the job description in order to be qualified. And the things that women are doing in their jobs and their households qualify them for office,” she says. And the qualities of an elected official aren’t limited to career experience. SC WIL believes that women’s unique perspectives are important as well. “Wherever they come from, whatever their experience and background, we need those perspectives in public office. We need to hear those voices.”

For women who want to get involved, Sara says, “We want women to run and apply for appointed boards and commissions.” But that’s not the only way to be a part of their mission. If you don’t want to run for office yourself, or aren’t ready yet, you can encourage others to run. “We hope that women will look around in their communities and find the women that they think are good leaders, or women that are already leading [who] maybe wouldn’t qualify themselves as leaders, and ask them to run.”

To get started on your journey to leadership in SC or refer a woman in your community, visit scwomenlead.net/ more-in-2024. You can follow SC Women in Leadership on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, Twitter, and YouTube at @scwomenlead to stay in the loop about the work they are doing in communities across South Carolina.

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Beauty, Power, and Utopias in Gerwig's "Barbie"

BY BEVERLY JURENKO, INSIDE EDGE CONSULTING LLC

Even if you missed seeing ‘Barbie’ in theaters last summer, you surely heard about it. Director Greta Gerwig has achieved superstar status at the box office, with over $1.34 billion in tickets sold worldwide . “A dazzling achievement,” according to RogerEbert.com. “Fiercely funny,” declared Entertainment. Not everyone loved it, however. Some took offense in how the Kens were portrayed, but getting us to see how men experience the world so differently from women was the point. In ‘Barbie,’ Gerwig cleverly reminds us that the patriarchy is alive and well, as she flips the script on gender power dynamics, deploying the best communication tool ever: humor.

And we flocked to see it. Even those who were not Barbie fans accompanied those who were. We wanted to see what the hype was about. Some laughed, some cried, many did both. We laughed with the men when they saw themselves in the silliness at the Mojo Dojo Casa House. We cried when Barbie at a bus stop saw an older woman for the very first time and touchingly said, “You’re beautiful,” and she responded, “I know it.” This tender scene reminds us we’ve all been socialized to see older women as anything BUT beautiful. When will we be willing to discard such artificial filters! I hope I’ll be brave enough, in less than a few years, to go with fairy hair and adult gray pigtails, secure in my appearance regardless of how wrinkly I look.

Aging aside, I’d like to spend a minute considering the empowerment culture of pinkness and joy in the film’s Barbieland. There are fourteen separate variations of Barbie, presenting an array of beauty, intelligence, and achievement. President Barbie (Issa Rae) is just as gorgeous as Doctor Barbie (Hari Nef) and Physicist Barbie (Emma Mackey), each confident of her own value and worth. None of them, including Stereotypical Barbie (Margot Robbie), competes on looks or seeks superior status. We see no separation, as we usually do in feature films, of looks and smarts among the female characters. We lean forward in our seats, encouraged by the idea that it’s finally true (at least in Barbieland) that women can in fact succeed based on their skills and achievements regardless of their appearance! Even better, the Barbies

celebrate their sisters’ abilities and talents without resentment or jealousy. Seeing success in another version of Barbie generates feelings of pride and happiness among all the Barbies. In Barbieland, women lift each other up. In real life as well, when we support one another, we can do great things.

Does Barbieland exist in real life? Aspirationally, yes, and it is called ‘Cohousing.’ Distinct from co-living, where you might see the same people nearly every day whether you want to or not, cohousing allows for greater privacy, with optional group events and meals. Are they utopias? Not sure. There’s one in the UK founded in 2016 called New Ground, a community for 26 women aged 50+. Each member has her own living space, and men are invited to visit, but they can’t live there. The group fosters independence, care, and cooperation. In the US, this concept is catching on, particularly with our aging population. We may see more and more pocket neighborhoods and ‘she sheds’ over time as more of us seek community and independence simultaneously. Moreover, cohousing isn’t just for women. According to cohousing.org, groups have formed centered on a variety of life stages, values, and priorities, and there are currently more than twenty in the Carolinas. However, I do wonder how inclusion is managed and how decisions are made. I also worry about social dynamics and who might be left out.

Which brings me to Weird Barbie. Initially an outcast, whispered about and a bit scary, Weird Barbie (Kate McKinnon) embodies a near mythical status as both the town fool, performing her perpetual splits, and the high priestess of knowledge and wisdom. She’s the doll that was played with “a bit too hard,” shameless about her imperfections. She doesn’t appear to suffer over her lack of social status because she knows she has special abilities. She can heal, mentor, and think strategically. She literally saves the day by coming up with the plan to de-brainwash the Barbies. And then, after all that, she’s accepted as one of the gang. We can’t help but notice that even in Barbieland, the epitome of inclusion among females, there’s still a pecking order in which the one who is different is feared and avoided. Only after the other Barbies are forced to know her personally is she accepted into the group. Maybe in real life we could skip the ostracizing part, and go right to the acceptance part, so that we can be stronger together from the get-go.

One of the messages from Barbie that I loved best involved Barbie and Ken together reaching a mutual understanding at the end of the film. They came to see

that equitable sharing of power and resources, rather than single-group domination, is better for everyone over the long run. Imbalances of power bring consequences, eventually. We could use more of this in the real world because we do have imbalances. Even when women earn about the same as our husbands, we do more housework, spend more time on child and elderly care, and spend fewer hours on leisure and hobbies than they. We have gained some ground at work and in leadership, we still have far to go. Our society would benefit from discarding our habit of favoring men over women as the ones who should be in power. Women have far too much to offer to default to secondary roles. Everything about us, everything we can create, and all we have to contribute should be way more important than just the way we look.

References:

https://www2.deloitte.com/us/en/pages/center-for-board-effectiveness/ articles/missing-pieces-report-board-diversity.html

https://www.zippia.com/senior-manager-jobs/demographics/ https://newgroundcohousing.uk/

https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2023/04/13/in-a-growing-shareof-u-s-marriages-husbands-and-wives-earn-about-the-same/

Mountain Mural Tours Tells the History of Asheville through Local Art

BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

Krista Stearns created Mountain Mural Tours as a means of sharing the singular and artistic nature of Asheville, North Carolina with tourists, as well as its residents. “I wanted to create a tourism experience that I felt was healthy for our town, that celebrated what the locals contributed to our town and made it really beautiful,” she says.

Krista moved to Asheville in 1996, long before it became a tourist destination. In 2001, she opened West End Bakery in West Asheville. “We got to be part of that West Asheville Renaissance, which was a super exciting time,” Krista explains, adding that young people began moving to that side of town in the late 1990’s because homes there were more affordable than in other parts of Asheville. “We got to help start the community there. It was just so fun to make it a neighborhood where people knew each other.”

After fifteen years running the bakery, Krista admits she was worn out by the food service industry and ready to move on. She became a business coach with Mountain BizWorks, which she found really gratifying, but still felt the pull to find her next business venture. “I’m really an entrepreneur in my soul,” she says. “Once you work for yourself, it’s difficult to work for other people.”

In 2017, Krista moved with her husband and their two small children to South America for eight months, thinking it was the ideal method of expanding their kids’ minds and simultaneously bonding the family. While in Colombia, the family took a graffiti tour in Bogota which forever changed their lives. “The country has had a really hard time historically, and you see the art that comes out of that

suffering, and it’s just amazing. We were just blown away,” she explains. After returning to the United States, Krista recalls her oldest daughter asking why there wasn’t a tour like that in Asheville, with all the amazing murals in town.

In 2015, the City of Asheville began a taxpayer-funded anti-graffiti program called 1-2-3 Graffiti Free, which sought to remove the local graffiti by providing business owners with cleaning supplies to get rid of tags and illegal murals on their buildings. “The River Arts District really turned around street art in Asheville,” Krista explains, citing that the investors who bought the property on Foundy Street fought to make it ‘a designated street art gallery.’ “So all of a sudden, street art became an acceptable form of art. Then all these businesses started putting murals on their buildings.”

In late June 2022, Krista started Mountain Mural Tours, a business that takes people on walking or bus-tours to view and learn the history behind the wall art in Asheville. In preparation for her tours, Krista met and interviewed many of the local artists who created the murals, to discuss their artistic process. “I go out and meet as many artists as will talk to me to share the stories with me about their art, how they have learned to do art, and what motivated them to create the different pieces that they have created in Asheville,” she says.

Mountain Mural Tours has five different tour options (as well as private tours), including the Walking Foundy tour, the Street Art and Sips tour, and the Mountain Mural tour, which takes its guests around downtown Asheville and the River Arts District to see prime wall art, such as those in Chicken Alley and at Echo Mountain Studios. Krista says she loves telling her customers the history behind the murals in The Block in Triangle Park,

and those painted by members of 500 Native American nations for the Indigenous Walls Project. The 1.5-hour tours also take people to see ‘The Saints of Asheville’ mural on the Lexington Gateway Bridge, created through a collaboration of fifteen local artists. “I give people a real view of Asheville and how it has evolved throughout history,” she says.

Krista takes pride in the fact that Asheville residents love her tours, adding that she gives tours to as many locals as she does tourists and even offers a monthly local discount. “Street art celebrates community. A lot of the street artists incorporate history into their murals around town, they incorporate Asheville culture into their murals,” she explains. “It’s a statement about your community that really benefits you, because you learn to appreciate it and enjoy it.” Krista has also had very positive experiences working with tourists, and says that those experiences have helped her overcome her own prejudices about tourism in Asheville.

Though it’s hard work, Krista says she loves running Mountain Mural Tours. “I love that I’m sharing with people what makes Asheville so unique and what sets it apart from other towns. We are an art destination and I really like celebrating the artists that have made it that way,” she says. “What’s cool about covering the art in Asheville is it’s ever-changing. There’s new pieces going up all the time, and it’s kind of exciting that way. Asheville is an art town.”

For more information on Mountain Mural Tours, or to book your tour today, visit their website: www.mountainmuraltours.com

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HomeTrust Bank, Senior Vice President and Senior Commercial Relationship Manager Lynn Cook Turns Hard Work into Success

BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

Ask Lynn Cook and she’ll tell you she would have never seen herself in banking over twenty years ago. Little did she know that this would be the career she would know and love. “I’m a workhorse,” she says. “I went into the work world and just worked hard. I was very fortunate to cross paths with some really strong mentors; some men, some female. Those individuals made a profound difference in my life and helped me build a foundation that allowed me to grow. Now I’ve found a true place of belonging at HomeTrust where I love helping businesses and the community flourish.”

Lynn was raised in Greer, South Carolina. She landed a sales role working for a company in Greenville that had a minority share of clients in Asheville, North Carolina. She was tagged for the Asheville market, as it was underperforming and not as convenient logistically for most of the sales team. Eager to get to work, she gladly accepted the territory. In that role, one of her best referral sources were retail and commercial bankers that worked for community and regional-sized banks.

Through that partnership, she was introduced to a Market Leader at one of the Regional Banks, and an opportunity was available as a Commercial Loan Assistant. She was excited to take this new path and looked at it as an exciting opportunity to learn more about the banking and lending industry. She worked for two very wellrespected bankers in Western North Carolina and says their coaching and trust is what allowed her to take on

more work and responsibilities. “My goal was to think one step ahead of the lenders,” Lynn explains, adding that she worked one on one with their clients, acted as the gatekeeper for vetting requests, and learned to talk through deals and structures in that position. Within two years as a Commercial Banking Assistant, she was promoted to a Business Banker. As a Business Banker, Lynn was able to work with smaller companies and their owners, which grew into a role as a Commercial Banker, working with larger companies and their leadership teams. “There is so much respect to be had for business owners- the risk they take, the intense stresses they endure and the rewards they earn are what make these relationships so very meaningful,” says Lynn. Watching both of her parents, who were business owners, as she grew up, she truly understood the things that keep business owners up at night and the value of honesty and integrity.

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Lynn spent the first fifteen years of her career working with two banks that were ranked top ten in asset size in the nation at the time. Those banks provided opportunity, training and friendships that have far exceeded her time as an employee. However, it was time for change. In 2017, Lynn decided to entertain an opportunity to join HomeTrust Bank. This opportunity came from one of the very mentors that she worked with twenty years ago. She recalls being reluctant to make the jump. Timing was difficult, as her father had just been diagnosed with cancer and she wanted to be able to focus on him and her family. She recalls the current CEO telling her that family is first and that this will pass. “We’ll work with you through this time if this is where you want to be,” she remembers him telling her. That conversation, coupled with her dad’s encouragement to take the risk and run with this new adventure, helped Lynn move forward.

“HomeTrust, being a very well-respected bank in the Asheville market, seemed like a great way to take the things I had learned over the past fifteen years and sharpen them to being a better banker, as a whole,” Lynn explains. While well known in Asheville, the bank was rapidly growing into other markets and states. Though growth can mean growing pains, leadership shifts, credit philosophy changes and policy/procedure revisions,

she was quickly in the groove and learned to embrace the ‘think like an owner’ attitude of her new company. Through years of building her expertise, Lynn has been able to mix personal experiences and business experiences to be a better banker and friend. “I love where I am, I love what I do and I am home.”

In her role as SVP/Senior Relationship Manager, Lynn focuses on deepening her relationships with businesses in her community, assessing risks, and coming up with solutions to meet their needs. She prides herself on her high level of customer service. “You have to be available to solve problems; you have to listen and follow through with your commitments. There’s no exception,” Lynn says, adding that hard work, willingness to learn and the humbleness that comes through riding the waves through life is what attributes to her success. “I think you have arrived in life when you can laugh about the highs and the lows. We all have them.”

In her time away from work, Lynn enjoys spending time hiking, occasional golfing and anything with water (pools, beaches, lakes or puddles). She also loves spending time with friends and family: her husband Michael, her son Ross, her bonus daughter Riley, and her new granddaughter Sadie Claire.

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Ingles Chef Kate Shirah Makes Something Fresh

BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

Originally from Charlotte, North Carolina, Ingles Chefs Kitchen Manager Kate Shirah grew up loving to cook. She spent most of her childhood weekends with her grandparents, and her grandfather was a fantastic cook. “I enjoyed watching and helping him cook,” she recalls. “He loved to cook and he was so good at it. I definitely learned a lot from watching him in the kitchen. He was definitely my inspiration for falling in love with cooking.”

After spending thirteen years as a competitive dancer, Kate thought she would go on to teach dancing, or even open her own studio. She did teach a hip-hop class for two years, and worked as a full-time nanny for a while. Then, she got a job working in the corporate office of Salsarita’s Fresh Cantina. Kate worked her way up at Salsarita’s, becoming a traveling trainer for Salsarita’s employees, then a manager of one of their corporate stores, followed by a training manager.

At just 24 years old, Kate was given the opportunity to open a new Salsarita’s location in Asheville. She jumped at the chance, packed her bags and moved to Asheville. As it turned out, it was a lot harder to find and maintain employees in Asheville, which made Kate’s job really difficult. “Asheville is just way different from Charlotte,” she acknowledges. “It was tough for me because I had lived here for almost two years and didn’t know anybody, didn’t have days off.” She stayed with the business for nearly two years, then decided to move on and got a job as a front end manager at Sam’s Club.

One day, Kate met a restaurant owner who had a deli in Bryson City and was planning to open a second location in Asheville. He offered her the opportunity to return to the food industry and open the Asheville deli, but in the meantime, had her work at the Bryson City location. “It was fun; it was a great opportunity. Something new, something different,” she recalls. The opening process, however, took a lot longer than expected and Kate found herself constantly driving back and forth between Asheville and Bryson City. So, she accepted a job as sous chef at The Bier Garden in downtown Asheville. The kitchen manager over Kate at The Bier Garden left to take a position at Ingles Markets. When a position opened up at Ingles for a corporate chef, she contacted Kate and suggested she apply for the job.

Kate interviewed with the Vice President of Deli and

Bakery at Ingles, Cindy Mixon, who is now her lifelong friend. The two hit it off famously, and Kate got the job. In her role, she was a lead cook for Ingles’ catering and for the Warehouse. There, She also met her husband, who worked in the warehouse doing building maintenance. It wasn’t long before Kate had her first child, but scaled back to second shift while she was pregnant. After less than a year, she was promoted to the role of Manager.

In May 2023, she returned from her maternity leave with her second child. While it was hard to put her baby in daycare, Kate recalls it was nice to return to the job she loves. She goes on to say that having Cindy for a boss makes being a working mom immeasurably easier. “I adore my boss. I loved her immediately,” she says of Cindy. “She loves my girls. She calls them her grandchildren. It helps a lot that I have her support.” She adds that her husband is also a ‘super-dad,’ which makes things less complicated as well.

“I’m just staying busy, constantly cooking,” Kate says of her job. In her role, she feeds the employees in the warehouse everyday. She creates all the weekly menus, including the grab n go stations, rotating hot bar, sub bar, and pizza bar. Kate is also in charge of all the inventory, ordering, and restocking for the Cafeteria and multiple break rooms throughout the Warehouse. She also handles all the catering for Ingles’ that include sport events, weddings, corporate events, seasonal/holiday events, and school-sponsored events for local colleges, etc.

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The part of Kate’s job that she enjoys most is being challenged to be creative with the menu ideas she puts together. “I am a woman of affirmations, I want you to tell me that what I made you was delicious,” she explains. “I enjoy people asking my opinions on things. I love to sit down and make new menus and brainstorm new ideas. I like to cater to ya’ll- what you like best. Then, I’ll make something for you, based on what you like. Something new, something fresh.”

Even though she spends most of her day cooking, Kate doesn’t think it will ever get old for her. “I fell in love. it’s come natural to me. I thoroughly enjoy it,” she says of cooking, adding that her husband loves to cook too. “You’d think after cooking all day, I would not want to come home and cook, but I also enjoy spending that time in the kitchen with my family. Teaching my girls, my passion, I don’t think I’ll ever get sick of that.” Kate’s favorite thing to cook at home is chicken pot pie, which she says is the best you’ll ever taste. She makes it with a secret ingredient of curry… and that’s all she’ll tell you about her recipe.

Kate professes to be extremely content in her current role as Chefs Kitchen Manager. “This is my endgame. This is where I’ll stay. I’ve always enjoyed working for this company. It’s good to be somewhere that you wanna be,” she says, of Ingles. “I strive to be a better chef, a better boss, a better employee to my boss daily. There’s always room to grow and I’m definitely up for the ride. I’m willing to learn from others as much as I’m willing to teach. I’m still young, so I know there’s plenty more for me to learn and I’m willing to stay here to figure it out.”

Lauren Wilkie of Safelight Family Finds Her Passion Population

Safelight Inc. Executive Director Lauren Wilkie says, “I love being a licensed social worker, I get to do a little bit of everything!” Lauren is uniquely qualified with advanced social work licensure in advanced practice and clinical practice. She has been a key player working with nonprofits for 21 years, focused on directing and developing programs. She specializes in community and organizational change through program revitalization while maximizing potential.

Lauren is both a visionary and a practical optimist who has the tenacity for hard work and perseverance to get things done right. She has worked in various roles and settings, directing, and developing programs with different size nonprofit and government agencies. She has helped hundreds of staff and student interns join the field of social work through years. She spent eight teaching in the evenings also with the University of South Carolina College of Social Work and training students.

Lauren has received recognition by the University of South Carolina as a field instructor of the year, an inaugural top ten Capital Young Leaders, a Live United Award with United Way, and a Paul Harris Fellow Award from Rotary International. In 2020, she was recognized by the SC National Association of Social Workers as the social worker of the year.

Lauren has served as the Executive Director of Safelight in Hendersonville, NC since August 2021. Their mission of ‘Creating Hope, Healing Lives, Changing Community,’ has been serving Henderson County since 1984. Safelight is a non-profit organization offering comprehensive programming for survivors of interpersonal violence and abuse.

Lauren explains that Safelight provides a multifaceted approach to counteracting abuse and violence in the community. “We have transformed as an agency to create a continuum of programs and services taking someone from crisis to sustainability through case management, counseling, housing, and employment.”

In her second year, Lauren ensured the purchase and renovation of a new facility to house four of Safelight’s

six programs. In her three years, she has helped Safelight double and diversify their annual budget. Currently she is overseeing the renovation of their three-story facility for more efficient and effective programming. “I love doing a job where I get to be a part of empowering people and transforming lives. I get to help build programs and fill gaps for services with an incredible team who is helping heal our communities' most vulnerable.”

All Safelight’s services and programs are offered freeof-charge in a secure, safe environment conducive to recovery from abuse and trauma. “Our organization has evolved from a strictly crisis-driven agency to one that develops and delivers long-term safe services. Addressing community needs such as sustainable housing, financial health with onsite paid job training, accessible mental health and healthcare, and access to other community resources,” Lauren explains, adding that by removing barriers, Safelight’s services heal lives and create a safer, healthier community. “Through our continuum of programs, we help survivors begin the process of overcoming physical, emotional, and financial trauma. These include a 24/7 emergency shelter and hotline for survivors, counseling center with individual and support group services, an accredited child advocacy center performing child medical exams and forensic interviews, a family advocacy center offering legal, law enforcement and medical advocacy and support, community engagement including access to affordable housing and paid job training onsite, and outreach for prevention and education in our community.”

“Some only need us a few days to get to a safe family member or friend. Sometimes survivors need us with them for the long haul,” Lauren says, sharing a story of one woman Safelight helped. “For the past six years we have worked with a survivor escaping violence from her home country to get her green card. Then within months, she had her NC ID and now her degree from Blue Ridge Community College! Safelight serves survivors throughout their lives, whenever we are needed. We are embedded in this community providing safety.”

“I am thankful to work with such a dedicated and remarkable staff. I work with people who are here to empower survivors. The stories are often difficult to hear, and the journey can be long as we are helping someone transform their life,” Lauren acknowledges. “My team’s passion and those who built the foundation before us is why we continue changing lives in our community with safe, full-service programs.” With incredible support from board members, donors, volunteers, partners, and community leaders, Lauren takes pride in sharing that

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Safelight has helped over 45,000 survivors since 1984. “Staff, volunteers, clients, interns, and donors of Safelight should all be proud of what we have created. This includes programs such as the first Domestic Violence Intervention Program in NC (1986), financial support from NC marriage license filing fees to go to help survivors (1987), first resale store in western NC (1990), and the first nationally accredited child advocacy center in NC (1990).

Safelight also operates the largest survivor shelter in Western North Carolina with capacity for forty beds in thirteen family rooms. “What makes us exceptional is that we are one of only a few survivors serving community-based agencies in the world providing services for anyone (men, women, children, families) who have experienced any type of violence and abuse. In 2022, our new facility allowed for all six of our programs to be within walking distance of each other for safer, faster services for our survivors.”

“Together, we are breaking barriers!” Lauren emphasizes. “By partnering with us, you change lives. You help us build a safer community. Tell everyone you met about Safelight! This helps those who may need us to link to our services. Come volunteer, eat at our café, and shop at our resale store to support our mission. Come tour with me and see what we continue to build. I am immensely grateful to be a part of such an incredible community!”

For more information on Safelight, call their 24/7 hotline 828.693.3840 or visit their website www.safelightfamily.org

Books, Ballerinas, and Bravery: Author JeanAnn Taylor’s

Journey to Live Authentically

WRITTEN BY REBEKAH MCCUBBINS

As a little girl, JeanAnn Taylor always wanted to be a writer. Today, she has authored eight published children’s books, with a ninth publishing soon. But her journey hasn’t been easy.

JeanAnn’s childhood was marked by negative messages. “I was emotionally beat up and found it easier to be quiet than to face rejection,” she says. “I retreated because it was less painful to hide than to feel inadequate.” She was taught at a young age not to use her voice or express her true feelings. She latched onto these messages, as any young girl would. People thought she was shy, but she wasn’t; she was hesitant to use her voice and risk criticism. “I always thought there was something wrong with me, because that’s what I was taught.”

JeanAnn eventually left her hometown near the beaches of Florida and moved to the North Carolina mountains with her two young children. But those negative messages didn’t stop in adulthood. She found that although she had left physically, she had not escaped the emotional abuse. After raising her kids as a stay-at-home mom, JeanAnn began her career at the age of 40. “My kids were older and it was time for me to get out into the world myself,” she shares.

As she began searching for a job, JeanAnn was met with skepticism from a world that couldn’t see past her quiet demeanor and lack of professional experience. “I was quiet, and kind of small, and nobody really thought I could do anything because I never had,” JeanAnn explains.

Eventually, she found a job selling ads for a local publication. Despite having no sales experience, she excelled. “I had learned to fake courage even when I was terrified,” she recalls. “So when I made cold calls, I took a deep breath, got out of my car, pretended to be brave, and walked confidently into the business.”

Her ambition led to more opportunities and continued success–and she was soon asked to start a local ladies' magazine—Sophie. “It was really that little sales associate job in the publication industry that opened the door for me to become an author,” says JeanAnn. “Through that career path, I finally realized what I was capable of doing, who I really am, and that what I was taught as a child was wrong.”

As she progressed in her career, JeanAnn rediscovered her love of writing. Working with other writers, she found a community of women who empowered her to succeed. Through that process, JeanAnn turned to her childhood for inspiration. “I always knew I wanted to write a book about a dancer,” she recalls. “So that was my first book: The Little Girl Who Loves to Twirl.”

JeanAnn’s love of dance began when she was young, starting with ballet. “In my heart and soul, I’m a dancer,” she explains. As time went on, she explored ballroom, eventually becoming a competitive country dancer. JeanAnn says country dance is like ballroom in boots. “‘Country’ is a partner dance. We do waltz and cha-cha like ballroom dancers, but we also have two-step and triple two. The thing I most love about country is the twirling. Spinning is a key element of country dancing, and it feeds my soul. Of course, I also love wearing my bright pink, full circle, competition skirt!”

JeanAnn’s hobbies don’t stop at dance. In addition to writing and illustrating, JeanAnn expresses her creativity with needles and thread. Having hand-made over 100 quilts as well as most of her clothes, home decor, and fabric accessories, she spends a lot of time in her sewing room. She loves to crochet and has made afghans, sweaters, dolls, and animals. Her current artistic interest is drawing wildflowers on fabric for original embroidery work. “I thrive on being creative,” she admits.

JeanAnn’s artistic inclinations led her to pursue illustrating her own stories. “I could barely draw a stick figure when I decided to do my own illustrations, so learning to draw and paint has been a long journey,” she says. “Now, I’ve fallen in love with watercolors. They are the perfect medium for my books.”

When asked how she finds inspiration for her stories, JeanAnn shares that she draws from her own experiences. “As a dancer, I feel comfortable writing about dancers, and I think I relate to mermaids because I absolutely love to swim,” she says. “The fundamental point of my books is about accepting and loving yourself, which has been

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my struggle my whole life. Whether the story is about a dandelion, a dancer, or a mermaid, my books are about trusting your journey and being true to who you are.”

JeanAnn also finds inspiration in nature. She got the idea for her book, What Does The Moon See? when she was looking at the moon one night and wondered what it could see. So, she wrote a story from the moon’s perspective. Nature inspired her similarly with her book, The Legend of Miren. “I was struggling with how Miren, in The Legend of Miren, would finally find her way back to her true self,” she remembers of writing her book. “Then on a waterfall hike, I looked up at the waterfall and immediately knew the answer, so I went home and finished the story.”

As for the future, JeanAnn plans to continue sharing stories about authenticity and bravery. “I’m still working on being who I am, but writing has allowed me to express myself in ways that are both healing and creative,” she says.

You can reach out to JeanAnn Taylor to find her books in local shops, or find them through online retailers like Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Her next book, Be Brave, Alice!, will be available soon. To stay updated on her latest work, follow JeanAnn on Instagram at @twirlatale.

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