Carolina Spark Magazine Issue 6: Spring 2023

Fearless + Authentic

TO ALL WOMAN

LEADERS: GOOD MORNING GORGEOUS!

5 WAYS TO REFRESH YOUR LOOK FOR SPRING

HABITAT FOR HUMANITY EMPOWERS WOMEN TO BUILD THE FUTURE

PHOTO CREDITS: BROOKE PARKER PHOTOGRAPHY HAIR & MAKEUP: FAB FLAWLESS MAKEUP ARTISTRY VENUE: THE CREST CENTER & PAVILION

PHOTO CREDITS: BROOKE PARKER PHOTOGRAPHY HAIR & MAKEUP: FAB FLAWLESS MAKEUP ARTISTRY VENUE: THE CREST CENTER & PAVILION

Holly Ellege

Homestead Holly

mountaintopspirits@gmail.com

facebook.com/homesteaderholly

PHOTO CREDITS: BROOKE PARKER PHOTOGRAPHY HAIR & MAKEUP: FAB FLAWLESS MAKEUP ARTISTRY VENUE: THE CREST CENTER & PAVILION

Southern Cornbread Salad

SERVES: 10-12

4 cups fresh baked cornbread from the Ingles bakery dept.

1 pkg. Laura Lynn ranch dip mix

1½ cups sour cream

1½ cups mayonnaise

2 (15 oz.) cans pinto beans, drained and rinsed

2 large tomatoes, diced

½ red onion, diced

1 cup bell pepper, chopped

1 cup cheddar cheese, shredded

2 (15 oz.) canned corn, drained

2 (2.8 oz.) packages Laura Lynn real bacon pieces

1. In a small bowl, whisk together ranch dip mix, mayonnaise, and sour cream and set aside.

2. Crumble half of cornbread in the bottom of a trifle bowl.

3. Layer half of the following: pinto beans, chopped tomatoes, onions, bell pepper, half green onion, shredded cheese, bacon pieces, and corn.

4. Top with half of the dressing mix.

5. Repeat layers once more.

6. Garnish with any additional bacon, green onion, or cheese.

7. Cover and chill until ready to serve.

KELLI SMITH & ERIN BARNETT The Southern Table

LETTER FROM THE EDITOR

Throughout history, there have been many fearless women who have paved the way for future generations. They have taken risks and have led with strength and courage in the face of adversity. Because of their bravery, women today have been afforded opportunities that we otherwise wouldn’t have. So, did these women not have any fear at all? No. In fact, many of them did the very thing that scared them the most. The reality is that there will always be things to be scared of: rejection, failure, things going wrong, uncertainty, etc. Have you ever experienced any of these? I know I certainly have. But to be fearless is to do things despite the fears you have. Fearless women don’t let anything or anyone define their worth or stop them from going after what they want. They face their fears. They have integrity. They use their voice. They encourage other women. A coach once told me: “Do it afraid.” A fearless woman does what needs to be done even though she might be afraid. She doesn’t settle for less because she knows her worth. She speaks up. She does the right thing. She uplifts and encourages women around her. Fear is a powerful emotion. It can debilitate you. It can destroy your vision. It can push you backwards, but only if you let it. Being a fearless woman means allowing the fear to empower you to move forward instead of letting it hold you back. The women in these pages have done exactly that, and are continuing to do so in their lives. They didn’t let fear stop them from moving forward with new possibilities and new opportunities. They ignored the limiting beliefs they had, and they did it anyway. They overcame. They rebuilt. They pushed through. By doing so, they lead their lives authentically, and with purpose. I hope their stories inspire you to do the very same.

How have you been a fearless woman in your life? How has this caused you to live your life more authentically?

I’d love to hear from you.

Rosa Linda Fallon

rosa@crystalcmarketing.com

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS: Shelby Bramlett, Johanna Hagarty, Diane Luebbers, Andy Hale, Carla Beck, Lori Brown, Rebekah McCubbins, Holly Fisher, Beverly Jurenko, Joanie Wallace, Emily McCollin, Faith Doyle

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Crystal Pressley Publisher

Rosa Linda Fallon Managing

Madi Balman Art Director Meg Hale Brunton Assistant

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Businesses of the Quarter

Businesses of the Quarter

LA RUMBA RESTAURANT LATINO

La Rumba Restaurant Latino, located in the former Bonefish Grill in East Asheville, offers a variety of delicious, flavorful, homemade Latino food inspired by the rich culture and heritage of Mexico. Owned and operated by Reynaldo Macario and Luis Rodriguez, the name is inspired by Macario’s birthplace of VeraCruz, Mexico. In VeraCruz when there is a fiesta, they say, ‘Let’s go to la rumba.’ Reynaldo and Luis wanted their restaurant to reflect that same celebratory energy for their customers in Asheville. Lunch, brunch and dinner items are available to order all day long for dine-in or take-out. Get ready for La rumba!

Business hours are Monday through Saturday 10:00 AM – 9:00 PM and Sunday 10:00 AM – 8:00 PM. No reservations are needed.

La Rumba Restaurant Latino

105 River Hills Rd Suite C

Asheville, NC 28805

(828) 505-2128

Dunlap Construction: Serving North Carolina Since 1979

Based in Hendersonville, NC, Dunlap Construction is a full-service, licensed, bonded and insured general contracting firm specializing in renovations, new commercial construction, and remodels. As a family-run business, the Dunlap Construction team puts client satisfaction first above all else. They do this by cultivating strong relationships in their community and maintaining a reputation of quality workmanship that is unsurpassed in the industry.

Co-owner and Vice President, Jill Dunlap Wallen, is committed to carrying out the “Dunlap way,” which includes honesty, integrity, and compassion for others. The company implements their own personal morals and standards into each job, treating it as if it was their own. With an excellent, long-standing reputation and a team of experienced contractors, look no further than Dunlap Construction for all your construction needs.

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CONGRATS TO OUR MOTHER’S DAY GIVEAWAY WINNERS: KELLY FENDER, TONI ELLER, AND BRIDGETTE BLANKENSHIP

Fibromyalgia has been difficult to treat and even more difficult to understand UNTIL NOW! Dr. Kirgan provides patients with much-needed relief from Fibro symptoms!

If you're suffering from Fibromyalgia you understand this sentiment all too well. Local resident Chloe C. found herself at a turning point when she noticed her diagnosis had started to take a toll on her marriage.

"I was angry all the time because of all the things I couldn't do anymore because of my Fibromyalgia. That anger cycled through depression and affected everyone around me, my husband more than anyone. It made our lives miserable."

Fibromyalgia affects the entire body. To make things complicated, it affects everyone's body a little differently. To make things even more complicated, those effects can change on a daily basis. Sometimes you're plagued with widespread muscle pain and fatigue, and other days it's a headache and heightened sensitivity to touch.

"I could barely stand to have the lightweight of bedsheets touching me, much less a hug from my husband," explains Chloe.

This is what it's like to suffer from Fibromyalgia. Symptoms make everyday life incredibly difficult. Mundane, daily tasks are nearly impossible.

And too often, these symptoms are only made worse because practitioners find them difficult to understand and even more troublesome to treat. It's characterized by widespread pain in muscles and tissues rather than inflammation of the joints, muscles, and tissues.

Then your primary care doctors suggest dietary changes, pain liniments, and pharmaceuticals to the point where your life is no longer ruled by Fibromyalgia. It's now ruled by a difficult routine and pill regimen in order to avoid flare-ups.

Chloe put it this way: "My life was no longer my own."

Eventually, Chloe did her own research and discovered that acupuncture can improve the quality of life in Fibro patients. Determined to find the best in the business, she discovered South Slope Acupuncture & Wellness led by Dr. Autum Kirgan DACM, L.Ac.

Dr. Kirgan has been successfully treating difficult-to-manage, chronic pain cases for over a decade. She uses the time-tested science of acupuncture integrated with modern medical advancements in healing and recovery. Acupuncture is a form of Chinese

medicine that is commonly used to reduce various forms of pain. It works by reducing inflammation, stimulating the release of endorphins, and offers much-needed, effective symptom relief for Fibromyalgia.

"I feel like a new person. My husband comes with me to my appointments. He spends most of it thanking Dr. Kirgan for giving him back the woman he married. For the first time since we moved here, one of my neighbors told me I looked good! It's a miracle she treated my Fibro, I don't know how else to explain it."

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"I WAS TIRED OF LIVING WITH MY FIBROMYALGIA PAIN"

Appalachian Hat Co. Owner Amy Pate Finds Her Perfect Fit Through Custom Hat-Making

Originally from a small farm community in Southern New Jersey, Appalachian Hat Company owner and hatmaker Amy Pate was never given the choice of becoming a professional artist as a child. “No one ever said to me, ‘You can make a career of art,’ it was like saying you want to be a rockstar,” she explains.

Amy spent two years in nursing school, but left to move to Florida. While there, she took a job running a contractor’s office. Her grandfather had taught her basic carpentry. The contractor she worked for gave her the opportunity to design one of his model homes, and the response she received from her interior design work was overwhelming. So, she decided to go back to college and major in Interior Design. Amy also earned a second degree in Graphic Design, and then earned her contractor’s license.

She partnered with one of her contracting clients to open a furniture store where she imported unique pieces from all over the world. Through this business, she was able to travel to countries like Indonesia, Thailand and all across Europe. At the same time, she was also learning to make hats. “Throughout this varied career, I’ve always, for some bizarre reason, loved hats, and would, in my spare time, make hats,” she says.

When Amy first arrived in Black Mountain for a vacation from the hot Florida summer, she knew it was unlike any place she’d ever been. “When I came here, I knew I was home. I knew that I had to be here,” she says of the town. She bought her home in 2018 and then bought a business location on Cherry Street in 2019. Appalachian Hat Company was all set to open its doors when the COVID-19 pandemic hit. Amy and her partner Hance McCain who is also an artist, decided to reconvert it to an AirBnB, a decision which saved them financially. Amy continued to sell her hats on Etsy. Appalachian Hat Co. was first presented to the community at a tent show hosted by Oak & Grist. They sold $1,200 worth of hats at the event, making Amy think, “We need to open that gallery.”

After making some renovations to the shop, Amy and Hance finally opened their gallery. “The response since we opened in August has just been awesome! I got so many orders for customer hats, it almost puts me in tears thinking about it,” Amy says. She also makes jewelry, wall art, sculptures, and paintings in a wide range of mediums. All types of her work can be seen and purchased at the shop.

Primarily, Amy makes custom hats out of fur felt or wool felt. She fits the hat to the size of the customer’s head with a measuring ring called a conformateur. She decorates the hats with designs and adornments in a variety of styles and methods, from painting, to metal smithing, to pottery, to laser work. “Where I think I’m different from most hatmakers is I do everything that’s on my hats. I pride myself on that,” she explains.

In the future, Amy hopes to get the opportunity to teach art to children. In Florida, she helped a friend who ran a charity teaching art classes out of a repurposed bus to underprivileged and displaced youth. Throughout her life and career, Amy says she has done “very well,” but she has also been at “the very bottom.” During the real estate market crash, she lost her home in Florida, leaving her to have to sleep in her car for several weeks. “I’m a survivor and I believe you just keep on keeping on,” she says with conviction. “I’m a risktaker, which can be good and can be bad. I’m super happy that I have made it to this point and that I get to do what I love and share it with other people.”

To find out more about Appalachian Hat Company and to have your own custom hat designed, visit their website: www.appalachianhatco.com

ARTICLE + PHOTOS BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

5 Ways to Refresh Your Look for Spring

BY SHELBY BRAMLETT

Out with the old, and in with the new. Who doesn’t like to revamp their look for a new season, but perhaps you feel like you are stuck and not sure what to do? Coming out of winter, we often feel gloomy, depressed, and maybe you even packed on a few pounds. Do not fret, let us help you get a jumpstart!

1. Hair

What better way to get ready for spring than taking a look in the mirror? Our hair suffers quite a bit of damage in the wintertime. Being indoors over an extended amount of time can cause scalp build-up and damage due to the dryness associated with climate change. Now is the perfect time to snip those dead ends, use a clarifying shampoo, and a deep conditioning treatment. If you are really looking for a change, there has never been a more perfect time to switch up your hair color by adding in some warmth. Introducing some warm tones like highlights or balayage is a great way to make your skin glow and update your style without going for a complete color overhaul.

2. Skin

Clear away the dullness and bring back your glow!

Winter’s dry air and freezing temperatures can lead to dead excess skin, which in turn gives us a dull complexion. Now is the perfect time to encourage renewal and show off a brighter, fresher appearance. A change of season is a great time to treat yourself to a facial or deep cleansing. A hydrating facial can help rejuvenate and reboot your skin. If that is not in your budget, take a look at using a quality clarifying facial scrub enriched with minerals and amino acids. Also, it’s a good time to consider changing out your toner to help avoid clogged pores with the increase of sebum, sweat, and dirt from being outdoors. Find a toner that is for your skin type. If you have been using a heavy cream all winter, it may be time to swap out for a new formula. In spring and summer, a heavy moisturizer is not always necessary because of the increased humidity.

After all, you wouldn’t wear your heavy coat all summer, would you? Consider using a light moisturizer with hyaluronic acid. Serums and moisturizers with hyaluronic acid work for many different skin types. Hyaluronic acid attracts water and coats the skin, providing moisture without making it oily. Last but not least, do not forget to add sunscreen to your skincare regimen if you have not done so already.

3. Makeup

With each season, we see an influx of trends in makeup. Spring is the perfect opportunity to vamp up your beauty routine. With warmer temperatures, we tend to incorporate shades of pink and simple makeup looks to replicate dewy, glowing, hydrated skin. Trending this season are soft shimmers and neutral shades like beige, mocha, taupe, and gray. You may even be seeing eyeliner making its way back in hues like green, purple, blue, and burgundy. Following along with a simplified “less-ismore” face, brows are shifting away from the laminated soap brow look and being replaced by fluffy, more naturallooking brows. Clear gel is the perfect choice for keeping them in place. As far as your blush goes, do not be afraid to try some soft coral colors. Finish your look with a gorgeous statement by popping some color on your lips.

4. Wardrobe

No better time to update your wardrobe with some transitional pieces while bringing in new pops of color. With temperatures rising and days getting longer, here are a few ideas to help you. Bring out those floral dresses, and pair them with your favorite cardigans and sweaters. Look for lighter hues of color, and switch out your jeans. Pack away those dark jeans and swap them out for a light wash, white, or even cream-colored denim. White tones are a classic, and when they’re added with a punch of color, it is very complementary and clean-looking. This season, look out for beetroot purple, tangelo orange, peachy pink, empire yellow, classic green, blue perennial,

vanilla cream, gray lilac, cobalt blue, and macchiato, just to name a few. On the runway, we saw lots of sheer clothing, long skirts, detailed denim, and some awkward shoes. In the mainstream, there is a continuation from fall, clean-lined basics, with a '90s aesthetic mixed in. Tweed is making a comeback along with big pearls, ballet flats, and classic white slim sneakers.

5. Accessories

There is no better addition to updating your look than adding in some fun accessories! This spring, expect to see oversized bags in pops of color and textures including sequins, fringe, and tassels. Oversized jewelry is a must including chunky hoops, large bracelets, necklaces, and rings with silver tones and extreme color hues. Bucket hats are also making a comeback, along with widebrim hats. Don’t forget to update your sunglasses as well. Some big hits are retro-inspired glasses, mirrored aviators, and a cat eye for a more glam-style look.

Hopefully, these tips help you get a jumpstart on your new look for spring. Remember – everyone’s tastes and preferences are different. Find a look that reflects who you are as an individual, and don’t be afraid to go out there and show off your new style for spring.

The Spark Spotlight

SPARK SPOTLIGHT: TEACHER

Greenville County Schools Teacher Wendy Frans

What do you most enjoy about teaching?

I enjoy creating relationships with my students and their families. I love teaching siblings and getting to know my student’s personalities. I call them “my kids”. They become an extension of my family and I hold them to the same high expectations I would expect from my own children. So building relationships is what I value most about teaching.

What is your favorite subject to teach?

Wendy Frans teaches fifth grade at Brushy Creek Elementary School in Taylors, South Carolina. Last August, she was selected as the 2022/2023 Teacher of the Year for Greenville County. “I feel so honored and humbled,” says Wendy. Wendy graduated from Bob Jones University with a BS in Elementary Education, and went on to earn her Master’s Degree from Furman University. In her classroom, she often refers to her motto, “I RISE.” She rises to get herself going in the morning, to create engaging activities and lessons at school, to be the best educator and role model she can for her students, and to help them to become the people they were meant to be.

How long have you been a teacher?

Currently, this is my 21st year of teaching. All in Greenville County.

What caused you to want to become a teacher?

In high school, I went with a friend to her mom’s classroom. I continued to help in her classroom and around my senior year of high school my friend’s mom said, “You are a natural at teaching. Have you ever thought about being a teacher?” I went into college as a freshman not choosing Elementary Education, but the more I helped in schools the more I realized that being a teacher was my calling and my passion. So I changed majors and now here I am 21 years later still loving what I do every day.

Math and Social Studies. I love playing games in math and making it fun. Every year, kids tell me they “hate” math and that’s mostly because they just do worksheets and memorize information. I try to make math fun and engaging every day with games, partner stations, and hands-on lessons. Social Studies is also a favorite because I love teaching the subject through stories and novels. Using historical fiction and connecting it to real-life historical events not only helps learning become more “real” but it creates open conversations and class discussions.

What is most important to you as a teacher?

I teach my students that kindness and giving to others is important. Not only because it makes them feel good, but more importantly because they need to think of someone other than themselves. I strive to lead by example and talk to my students openly when they are struggling with something and that kindness is always something they can give even in the hard situations of life.

What is most rewarding about being a teacher?

Watching my students grow and mature throughout the year is rewarding. Building those relationships in which I get to know them as if they were my own. I love running into my former students in town and having them come up and say “hi.” I love when they tell me they loved 5th grade because I made it fun but also expected the best out of them. I love to hear from their parents about all their successes and to think I may have had a small part in that. I am so proud of them. I love to get emails from former students just to say hi or keep me informed about what’s going on in their life. A teacher should be a role model for students and that’s what I RISE to be.

When someone walks into your classroom, what do you want them to see?

The most common comment I get when someone comes to my classroom is that it feels so welcoming. I strive to make it feel like home with rugs, couches, pillows, and various lights. I work hard to create an environment in which all students feel safe to learn and can collaboratively work together. I want someone to see that I LOVE teaching. I want others to see students who genuinely care for each other and show respect for me and their peers. I want them to see that I see value in each student and I RISE to create the best learning experience I can for my students.

SPARK SPOTLIGHT: ARTIST

Cinematic Photographer Tia Corbin

Hailing from Sylva, North Carolina, 27-year-old Tia Corbin is an artistic, experimental, and inclusive photographer whose work draws from authentic feelings and real-life experiences. She received her Associate’s Degree in Advertising and Graphic Design from Southwestern Community College in 2018 and has been working as a photographer ever since. Tia describes herself as “a genuine person just creating what comes to mind during the random parts of the day.” She finds inspiration for her work from people and things she observes in everyday life. Just as much as she is a participant in her own work, she considers the models in her photo sessions to be creative participants, too. She describes her style as cinematic, evoking feelings of movement and fluidity, leading the viewer to ponder the story behind the image.

How did you become interested in photography?

When I was young, I really didn’t know what I wanted to do. My mom encouraged me to explore advertising and graphic design. In that program, I got to work in a dark room. I just fell in love with the concept of photography, and I started falling in love with taking photos, so I decided to pursue it. I started with landscapes and objects, like old antique doors – just anything I could find. Then my dad bought me my first camera when I was 21.

What is it about taking photos that interests you?

I’m just so passionate about my photos. In my creation, I feel very liberated and “me.” When I got into portraits, I was taking pictures of people who didn’t necessarily like the way they looked, so I would take pictures of them in certain lighting, and they would fall in love with how they looked. And that is something that I am really passionate about. They’re beautiful through my eyes and through my camera. We are our own worst critics of ourselves and our bodies. I want the models to feel comfortable because it’s their art as much as it is mine. I like to get to know someone before I take photos of them. Your natural movements are who you are.

“I TEACH MY STUDENTS THAT KINDNESS AND GIVING TO OTHERS IS IMPORTANT.”

MODEL: LIZ GEORGE (IG: @cur10us_ge0rgE)

MODEL: BRITTANY (IG: @little_elf_ears)

What is your favorite part about taking a photo of someone?

It’s the creativity behind the actual photo. When I see certain lights, like very cinematic, I create something similar in my head, but I don’t copy people. My art is my art. I create something in my head, and actually being able to execute that in one photo, that’s my favorite part.

What would you consider your photography style to be?

Film, cinematic. I’m obsessed with the film concept. I usually like to recreate film through digital photography. I think it has something to do with my love for the 70s, just the colors and how effortless it looks. I have a certain respect for film because it’s so difficult. To be a film photographer and actually be good at it, it’s a skill. Who or what is your biggest inspiration?

My dad is my biggest inspiration. He believed in me. He believed in my work, and he believed I could become a photographer. When he died, I found all of his polaroids from when he was younger, and it kind of lit a fire in me. And it’s like a part of my father still living. His creativity is running through my veins, so he lives on through my work. The name of my company, Jhawke Photography, is inspired by him. J is for “James.” “Hawke” is because my dad always thought his own father came back as a hawk because he would see hawks in strange places. After he passed, I started seeing them, too.

What is most important to you as a photographer?

I think it’s extremely important to build a safe space for the models that you work with, regardless of race, religion, identity, or sexual orientation. Just being there,

with open arms, for anyone who wants a portrait.

What do you think makes you different from other photographers?

My work is different from other photographers because of my range of creativity. I can work in many different environments and make a whole story behind one photo. I can use vibrant colors in a studio or use natural light to create feeling.

What are some of the challenges that you have faced in your work?

I think one of the biggest challenges I face is that I’m a perfectionist. I love being able to create and make my art come to life, but I can be quite hard on myself. I hold myself to such a high standard sometimes that it’s hard to achieve the goal. I also live in a very small town, so I have to travel to studios to be able to create certain lighting looks.

What are your goals for the future as a photographer?

Having my own studio, and being able to help people on a bigger scale. It would provide me with more exposure so I could take photos of more people. Some people I grew up with had autism. I also want to create a safe space for people on the spectrum who are artists because they’re looked at differently, especially in their work fields. I would like to help create a safe environment for them to be themselves. In five years, I want to be a fulltime photographer and be able to expand my creativity in different ways.

Instagram @jhawke_photography

To book, visit www.jhawkephoto.com

MODEL: ARAN (IG: @insert_cute_name_here)

MODEL: JESSE (IG: @jesse.nixx)

SPARK SPOTLIGHT: FIRST RESPONDER Selena Ruth Smith

Lieutenant Selena Ruth Smith, native of Mayesville, South Carolina is a leader in her community on fire safety education. She began her firefighting career as a volunteer and transitioned to becoming a career firefighter in 2006. Wherever fire safety education is needed, you can be sure to find Lieutenant Smith. “When residents think of safety, they often think of an intruder breaking into their home,” Lieutenant Smith says. “What they don’t realize is that fire is already in there with them.”

How long have you been in your position?

I started as a volunteer firefighter in 2006. I have been in my current position since 2016.

What initially caused you to become interested in pursuing a career in fire safety?

I had no clue I wanted to be a firefighter. I always wanted to be a missionary, but I didn’t know how I would do it. I applied for a missionary program through my church. I found out my mailed application was never received. During that time, two firefighter recruiters came to my church. I attended the firefighting class because I thought it would look good on my resume. Flash forward, I found out that the missionary program still had not received my application, even though I had received the ‘certified mail’ slip. I thought I had to leave my town to fulfill my dream, but here I am today!

What is important to you in your job?

Representation for females in my field. It sends the message that, if you want to do it, you can do it. Growing up, watching other women in the community, I wanted to be just like them. I want people to know they can be successful in whatever career they choose. As women, we don’t have to be boxed into certain careers just because we are female. We can be both strong and feminine.

What is your favorite thing about your job?

I actually love my job! I absolutely get excited when I come to work because I know that it’s not going to be the same every day. I get to educate people, and I get to be out in the community. At 4am, I’m at the gym. Then I go straight to work. Fire prevention information is important, so I find ways to make it fun. If you’re not having fun at your job, I don’t know what to tell you.

What is the most rewarding aspect of your job?

The most rewarding aspect is having the respect of my co-workers. They are an extended part of my family. I practically grew up in this department. Also, when I’m out and about and I see people and they come up to me and

they say, ‘you know, I got that smoke alarm,’ or when kids come up to me because they recognize me.

What do you want Spark readers to know about you?

I may come off as strong, independent, or intimidating, but I like to laugh and have fun! For example, after I got my Master’s degree, the next week, I went skydiving! When I came into this field at 32, my theory on life changed. I buy myself flowers every month. I don’t wait on anyone else to do it. I travel on my own. I have two quotes that people know me for: “I’m not conceited, I’m just confident.” If my head is up, that means we’re going to have a good day!

What do you recommend to other young women who would like to get into firefighting?

Do it! But discern first. First, you want to visit a fire department to see if that’s really what you want. It’s not just a job, it’s a lifestyle. You have to come to the fire department and experience the atmosphere. See if it meshes with your schedule because you’re going to be working shift work. You’re going to be at work a lot. It’s also a very public job. You’re in the spotlight a lot. When you put on the uniform and you wear the badge, it’s all about the presentation. It’s a great commitment. Ask yourself what your future holds. Discuss it with your partner and family. I tell people all the time: I would not be in this profession if I did not take that chance. Make sure it is something you have thought about. It’s a great, rewarding job.

PHOTO CREDIT: JENNIFER FINK, TIMELESS MEMORIES PHOTO

SPARK SPOTLIGHT: VETERAN Morgan McCadden

Originally from Roanoke, VA, Morgan McCadden’s journey in active duty service taught her a few things about discipline, leadership, and camaraderie. She served Active Duty in the Army for 8 years as a human resources specialist from 2006 to 2014. During her time in the Army, she participated in three combat tours to deployed areas, two in Afghanistan and one in Kuwait. Today, she resides in Asheville, NC and serves as a human resources director for a hospitality company. Morgan has a passion for helping those in need of new opportunities. She also serves as part of the women’s ministry at her church, encouraging and uplifting women through prayer and weekly devotionals.

What inspired you to enlist?

I became a mom at 16. I went to college for 2 years and decided I wasn’t disciplined enough to study without mom being over my shoulder. I didn’t get good grades. I got out and worked as a waitress. I wanted better for myself, so I thought ‘well, I’ll join the Army.’ I had a boyfriend at the time who joined the Marines. I decided the Army was the best fit for me.

How did you imagine military life before you joined?

I thought I was just going to be doing push-ups all the time and sleeping outside! That’s why I didn’t want to do it! I only went to these recruitment agencies because my boyfriend at the time needed the contacts. My recruiter painted a picture for me – of what Army life is really like. When you’re deployed, it takes on a little bit of a twist.

What was the most significant experience during your time in the Army?

I would say going out on convoys and knowing that some of my friends didn’t make it back alive. Being a leader, people look to you. I had to basically lead my fellow soldiers through the process of grieving and help them stay focused on the mission. I’m a survivor of military sexual trauma as well. Being sexually assaulted by someone who was supposed to be on your side was difficult.

What occupies your time nowadays?

I’m a grandmother. My daughter, my son, and working in ministry also occupy my time. Ministry is a big part of my life. I am a Minister in Training, I lead the prayer ministry and I lead the dance ministry at my church. I also write Tea with the Queen, a weekly devotional for the women at my church.

What are you passionate about?

I’m passionate about helping others and seeing the good in people. Part of my job as the Area Human Resources Director for Windsor Capital Group for the East Coast Division really fits my passion for people. I help give guidance and bring potential opportunities to people who are experiencing challenges. As the HR lady, you kind of turn into a psychologist, a mentor, and meeting peoples’ needs. Even the people I don’t hire, I ask how their day is going. Uplifting and encouraging others and being a support system to others who don’t have any support, that’s what I love. I’m also really passionate about everything Disney!

What is most rewarding about what you do now?

Being able to bring hope to people and giving them second chances. Sometimes, we don’t always get the best backgrounds. I always tell them it’s a “hand-up” instead of a “hand-out.”

What do you want women who are interested in enlisting to know?

You won’t be doing push-ups all the time. You don’t have to have a love of camping to join. Your mindset is everything. Lean on your battle buddies for support. Realize that the overall mission is bigger and better than those first nine weeks of basic training. You’ll form friendships that will carry you through a lifetime. I’m grateful for mine.

SPARK SPOTLIGHT: WRITER Khalisa Rae

Originally from the small town of Gary, Indiana, Khalisa is an award-winning poet, author, activist and culture journalist based in Durham, North Carolina. She is the co-founder of Poet.she (Greensboro), the Invisibility Project, and Athenian Press-QPOC writer’s collective, resource center, and bookstore in Wilmington, NC. Khalisa’s passion is in uplifting women and youth and championing for Black queer narratives.

How did you become interested in writing?

I’ve always been interested in the written word. My mom says I’ve been writing since I was 6 or 7 years old. I used to make up fictional, wild stories about girls like me. As a girl of color in a little town in Indiana, I wanted to see myself reflected. I would create stories about young girls going on adventures. I was always in love with performance and acting. I would make up stories or little movies, or little synopsis of novels. I always knew I wanted to tell stories in whatever genre or medium I chose.

What medium of writing do you enjoy the most?

I started telling fiction stories. As I got older, I fell in love with poetry. Poetry allows you to do things that are whimsical and fun. I am a trifecta – I am a journalist, a poet, and now, I’m writing novels. I think I am moving out of the realm of needing to write poetry all the time but I love studying it and listening to it.

Where do you find your inspiration as a writer? Right now, my inspiration comes from the world around me and what I feel like is lacking, what I want to personally see, and where I feel like the media is doing black women a disservice. I try to write in the gap of where I don’t see myself represented. My community inspires me. I am blessed to be a part of a beautiful writing and poetry community. Learning about peoples’ stories – challenges that they are overcoming, successes, victories, etc. This could be socialjustice related issues, or folks who are experiencing homelessness around me, which is a major problem in my city. Those stories deserve to get told. I am in a season where I am inspired to tell stories of black and brown and queer people who deserve to be seen.

What is the most rewarding part of what you do?

Being able to bring stories that are underrepresented to life and being able to create narratives that make me feel appreciated, valued and seen. On a personal level, one of the most rewarding things is that it is cathartic to be able to unload things. I think poetry affords you the opportunity to unpack a lot of “life things.” Also, when you’re writing books, you get to be in conversations with other people. It’s a cool “call and response” that happens.

What inspires creativity in your writing?

My peers inspire me to be more creative, and they push me beyond my comfort zone. Steel sharpens steel. Being around people who are very talented, having mentors who are famous authors, and being able to shoot for a goal in a non-competitive way. Healthy peer-to-peer inspiration. What also inspires me is having a husband who is a poet and artist. Also, being involved in such a large artistic community really inspires me to write more, to do better. Being part of writing groups really helps.

How did you know you wanted to become a writer?

There was a moment that happened in college. One of the reasons I left the college I was attending was because it was incredibly racist. I learned about the history of the race massacre that happened in Wilmington in 1898. Their bodies were thrown into the river. I left Wilmington because I sunk into a very deep depression while I was there. I think that everything happens for a reason. It was destiny that I was supposed to start my writing career in lieu of what happened. So, I transferred to North Carolina A&T University. I did a brief student exchange at UNCG where I was cast in many plays. There, I did a poem, and a professor who was the director of the department said, “I should be doing this for the rest of my life.” The day I graduated, I had a meeting with the other poets in my class, and we started one of Greensboro’s women’s poetry nonprofit called “Poet SHE Performing Arts.” 3 or 4 years in, we all split and decided to do our own independent writing careers. Then we lost our funding. We all decided to go forth on our own creative careers, and we’re all professional artists now.

What is the name of your new novel?

Unlearning Eden, a novel in verse. It’s funny because I said I was going to stop writing poetry, but this novel is comprised of lyric stories. My book is a story about a little girl named Gabby who grows up in a really conservative, black southern home, but she is queer and she is questioning things. She can’t tell anybody. She transfers schools and realizes education is not what she is passionate about. She’s passionate about visual arts. She meets a non-binary student who becomes her best friend. It’s about freedom, opening your eyes, and being free to be you and who you are.

What are your upcoming projects?

My husband and I are building the Triangle’s first AllBlack Southern Writers Conference. The inaugural year is this November. We are currently in the fundraising stage. The name of the project is Griot and Grey Owl. “Griot” is the traditional tribal name for a person who tells stories. “Grey Owl” is like a plant that is native to this area that is used for herbal tinctures. Another thing we learned is that it’s a bush that grows really wide, a sentiment which reflects our goals for this project.

To learn more about Khalisa Rae and her work, visit www.khalisarae.com

10 Home Staging Mistakes to Avoid

WRITTEN BY DIANE LUEBBERS

Are you thinking about putting your house on the market soon? If so, there are several things you’ll need to do to get your home “show” ready in order to get the best price for your home in this changing market. One of the most important items on your to-do list should be to stage your home. Having a well-staged home will appeal to a wide range of buyers by helping them to visualize themselves living there. Here are 10 common staging mistakes to avoid when getting your home ready for market.

1. Too much furniture.

Having too much furniture in your home can make your home seem cramped and smaller than it really is. Buyers may incorrectly assume they will not be able to fit their belongings into the space.

2. Not cleaning thoroughly.

Buyers will pick up on dirt and grime. If you don’t have time to do it yourself, consider hiring a professional cleaner to do a thorough deep clean of your home.

3. Too much stuff.

Curious buyers will open closets and drawers. The less stuff you have crammed into your linen closet or kitchen drawers for example, the more spacious your home will feel. Now is the time to purge and organize your home. Do you really want to move all that stuff anyway?

4. Too many knick-knacks and décor on display. Picture a luxury hotel room and strive to achieve a stylish but curated decor – pack all extraneous items away and either rent a storage unit or stack boxes neatly in your garage.

5. Dingy or tattered décor. Having dingy, faded, or tattered towels, drapes and throw pillows can make your home feel worn and tired. Replace

these items with new, inexpensive ones and think in terms of complementary colors that will bring new life to rooms in need of freshening.

6. Garish or bold paint colors.

Buyers may not have the time or the desire to repaint before moving in. If the paint colors are neutral, buyers can more easily picture their belongings in the space, alleviating the need to add one more task to what is oftentimes a stressful relocation process.

7. TMI.

Too much information – in other words, don’t leave too many personal photographs or specific items that are religious or potentially offensive. You don’t want buyers to feel like they are intruding into someone’s home or alienate them with something they may find off-putting.

8. Underestimating the importance of curb appeal.

Buyers often tell me they know within the first 5 minutes of a showing whether they are interested in a particular home. Sometimes they may not even want to get out of the car to go inside the home if the yard or front of the house is unkempt and unappealing. You’ll never get a second chance to make a first impression. Stand on the street in front of your home and look at your yard and the front of your home through buyers’ eyes. What needs cleaning? What needs grooming? Do you need to repaint shutters or house numbers to create a fresh, inviting look? Small updates go a long way to creating curb appeal that will entice buyers to fall in love with your home.

9. Neglecting minor repairs.

If a buyer sees things in your home that are broken or not working properly, they may start to question whether

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or not you have maintained your home adequately and wonder about things they can’t see at first glance. The more your home appears clean and well maintained, the more confident a buyer will be that they are making a sound financial decision to purchase your home.

10. Not taking professional photos. After all the efforts you’ve put in to clean and stage your home properly, you want to maximize your home’s exposure to the largest audience possible. Recent statistics show that 97% of home buyers find their home online. Professional photography can help you to put your best digital foot forward and attract more buyers with the goal of getting top dollar for your home.

If you would like to know more about how you can get the most money out of your home, contact me for a free consultation.

Diane Luebbers

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Landscaping on a Limited Budget

BY LORI BROWN

With winter yielding to spring, and daffodil and hyacinth bulbs peeking through the mulch, many of our thoughts have likely turned to warmer weather landscaping. Perhaps your ideal front yard design is one that mirrors the gardens of Versailles, while your backyard vision replicates the beauty of Butchart Gardens in Canada. But limited funds and time often make broadscale landscaping impossible. Plus, there is no need to replicate the flower gardens of famous palaces to transition your yard into a place of beauty and pleasure. In fact, there are many tasks that can be done, without breaking the budget, to spruce up the walking paths, expand color, and embed rooted plants that prevent erosion. Let’s consider a few tips to spruce up your yard quickly without feeling the pressure to assume another job.

Clean and Lean: More plants do not necessarily mean more beauty. You can tighten and brighten up a space that looks rough just by removing weeds or random plants and covering the ground with bags of mulch, including colored mulch in reds, browns, or black. This approach is particularly helpful for parts of the yard that do not get adequate sun or water to grow flowers or shrubs well. If you keep your weeds managed, then you only need to toss fresh mulch on the spot once or twice a year. If you decide you want a pop of color, then you can always go back to the space and plant some sort of easy groundcover that does not require much sun.

Rocks and Blocks: Instead of trying to tackle the entire yard at one time, consider working in small quadrants or circles. Choose a spot that desperately needs attention, clean out the weeds, add nutrients to your dirt, and choose landscaping pavers or rocks that can make a nice border for a small spot. Inside that space, plant a shrub and perennial bulbs that will return year after year. The shrub and bulbs will need limited care after both get rooted in the dirt. Do not forget to give your bulbs a strong covering of mulch to protect the bulbs in colder temperatures.

Pretty Potted Plants: If you have little interest in landscaping large plots of land, then keep it simple and make potted plants your best friend. First, visit your local thrift store or yard sales to find flower pots for cheap. Grab spray paint and transform the pots into whatever color you wish to see in your yard. Once they are fully dried, fill with potting soil and choose flowering annuals at your local home improvement store, or from your neighbor who is potentially dividing expanding plants. If your pot provides a bold pop of color, then keep your potted plant green (e.g., Hostas). You could also consider starting a small rose bush or azalea in your potted plant and once it grows to the point that it is almost too small for the pot, pull it out and plant it directly in your ground. It can then grow for years to come.

Big Borders: One of the hardest spaces to landscape is a deeply sloped section. In addition to being impossible to seed with grass and mow safely, the dirt in sloped sections can be hard and less plant friendly

(how many of us have fallen down a hill while trying to water or mulch something we planted on a slope?) If that is the situation you are in, then toss out the plants and start looking for rocks and stones. Do you have a friend who is grading property and might have extra rocks embedded in their dirt? Do you have a body of water on your property with river stones? Or, have you considered visiting a local stone vendor to select less expensive ones that can create a bit of personality as you place them along the sloping border? (Quick Tip: For ultimate safety and security of the embedded stone, talk to a landscaping or engineering friend beforehand to make sure your rocks are embedded in dirt deeply enough and/or are heavy enough to avoid washing away with the first heavy spring storm).

The most important thing to remember about landscaping is that “Rome was not built in a day.” Spring 2023 will mark 3 years since my family planted evergreen shrubs on a sloping section of the yard to establish ground cover. The Blue Junipers still remain small, but the space is very slowly adding personality and removing the appearance of bare ground. It takes plants time to establish and flourish well, so do not grow weary with projects. Tackle things a little at a time, save up through the fall and winter to pay for larger tasks that are outside of your skill set, and remember that one lovely rose bush or those carefully placed tulips can brighten up your yard in unexpected ways. With time and effort, you can make your yard pop and become a place of beauty!

Black Mountain:

The Best Little Beer Town

BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

As a little town at the base of a mountain range, Black Mountain can seem unassuming at first. When one spends a bit more time there, however, they discover it is a mecca of arts, culture, and independent businesses. With a walkable downtown area, vibrant local music, fantastic restaurants, and some of the best hiking in the county, it is quickly becoming a busy small town and a bustling tourist destination. In addition to its laid-back vibe and scenic views, Black Mountain also boasts over fifty independent places to get craft beer, earning it the nickname: “Best Little Beer Town.”

OUTDOOR ADVENTURES

Lake Tomahawk Park

Open from dawn to dusk, Lake Tomahawk Park is the ideal spot for picnicking, strolling, fishing, swimming, and gathering with friends. The 16.3-acre park has a playground, swimming pool, fishing pier, and tennis courts, as well as a walking trail just over half a mile that winds around the lake. The Park Rhythms Series serves up live music all summer long, and there are a variety of active aging programs hosted daily at The Lakeview Center.

The Seven Sisters

Visible from Lake Tomahawk, The Seven Sisters is a 3.5-mile mountain range peppered with some of the most popular hiking trails in the area. The West Ridge Trail spans from the second sister peak all the way to the summit of ‘their father,’ Graybeard Mountain. While chock full of panoramic views, the 9.5-mile hike across the peaks is considered strenuous and not recommended for inexperienced hikers.

FOOD & BEER

Foothills Grange

For over twenty years, Foothills Local Meats has been serving ‘honest meats’ to WNC. Last September, they opened The Grange, an eatery and bar with an expansive outdoor patio area. If you’ve grown bored with burgers, dogs, and fries, you must try them from Foothills. And finish it off with one of their classic slushies! Whether you’re coming in for a meal, or for your butcher shop staples, Foothills is sure to have everything you need.

Milton’s Cuisine & Cocktails

Among other things, the recently-renovated Monte Vista Hotel is home to Milton’s Cuisine & Cocktails, one of the best restaurants in the area for contemporary Southern comfort food and craft-made drinks. Milton’s farm-tofresh menu offers an array of regionally inspired dishes made from fresh local ingredients. Their entire menu is worth sampling, but you are truly missing out if you don’t try their fried chicken from Joyce Farms.

Dynamite Roasting Company

For some of the best locally roasted coffee in WNC, Dynamite Roasting Co. is not to be missed. Not only organic, but also fair-trade, Dynamite Coffee offers a variety of regular and seasonal coffee flavors, sure to wake you up with flavor. You’ll find it offered in multiple local restaurants, bars and markets, but you can also get it from the source at Dynamite’s full-service coffee bar, located on Highway 70.

Oak & Grist Distilling Company

Oak and Grist Distilling is one of the few locations in the entire Southeast where you can get scratch-made spirits that are brewed, distilled, fermented and aged all under one roof. This 100% grain-to-glass distillery is a must-visit for all connoisseurs of gin and whiskey. Their tasting room is a comfortable, casual place to sip, sample and savor their locally-made flavors.

Pisgah Brewing Company

One of the first breweries in the area, Pisgah Brewing Company specializes in craft brews made with all organic malts and grains. From the Pisgah Pale Ale, to the Valdez Nitro Stout, Pisgah’s awardwinning beers are some of the most sought after in WNC. Visit their open air outdoor bar during the summer and fall seasons to pair your ale with some terrific live music on the Pisgah Brewing Outdoor Stage.

Black Mountain Cider + Mead

From the conventional to the truly unique, Black Mountain Cider and Mead is the place to taste the best of local cider flavor. Made from local heirloom apples and honey, Black Mountain Ciderworks serves up a wide range of small-batch ciders and session meads. Black Mountain Cider’s taproom is the perfect location to wind down your evening with a refreshingly sweet or dry pint.

SHOPS & ARTS

Seven Sisters Gallery

For over 40 years, Seven Sisters Craft Gallery has graced Black Mountain’s Cherry Street, offering the best in fine American hand crafts. Entirely women-owned, Seven Sisters showcases the work of over 250 artists within their 3,000 sq. ft. store. Open 7 days a week, Seven Sisters offers a range of price points on quality creations with the goal of providing arts for all budgets.

Black Mountain Center for the Arts

Since 2000, the Black Mountain Center for the Arts has been showcasing a wide range of works from local and regional artists. From their historic building in the heart of downtown Black

Mountain, the center provides the people of the Swannanoa Valley with a location for artistic events, public gallery exhibits, and a multitude of art classes for all ages and talent levels.

Black Mountain is definitely the meeting place for small-town charm and big outdoor adventure. Though it may be small in size (with a population of 8,500), with all of the interesting elements that make it up, it is definitely a little town that rocks and much, much more.

For more information on Black Mountain, check out: www. exploreblackmountain.com or www.bestlittlebeertown.com

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For 125 years, the Asheville Area Chamber of Commerce has been committed to building a stronger community. Our initiatives and projects have stimulated economic development and supported the growth of thousands of local and regional businesses.

Today, we are the local champion for a balanced, thriving economy and connect businesses, large and small, to the resources they need to be successful.

We believe that together, we are more.

Discover all the ways the Asheville Chamber can grow your business and community.

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Celebrating The Year of the Trail in WNC

BY CARLA BECK

With an array of waterfalls, diverse hiking trails, and panoramic mountain views, Western North Carolina offers idyllic beauty for locals and visitors alike. In August of 2022, N.C. Legislature declared 2023 The Year of the Trail in celebration of the state’s vast Trailways and outdoor recreation industry. Whether you prefer strolling through wildflower-dotted meadows, horseback riding on a rugged mountainside, biking along a greenway, or paddling on a sunny lake, this is the year to purposefully get outside and breathe in the moments that add joy to life. Although WNC boasts abundant opportunities for outdoor adventure, here is a short list to get you started today.

SMALL-TOWN SPOTLIGHT

Located in the far western corner of North Carolina, Hayesville, N.C. in Clay County is the perfect place to celebrate The Year of the Trail. Spend the day exploring Fires Creek Recreation Area which offers year-round picnicking, fishing, and over 20 miles of backcountry trails for hikers as well as horseback riders. For a more accessible option, try Chatuge Dam Reservation Trail with its paved 1.5-mile path across Chatuge Dam. Relax lakeside, or kayak around the scenic shoreline. Return to Hayesville’s quaint town square which greets visitors with a reminder of days gone by as the Historic Clay County Courthouse, now serving as The Beal Event Center, stands at the heart of the square. Treat yourself at Tiger’s Store and Chinquapins Ice Cream & Soda Bar where you will discover a variety of custom-designed local souvenirs and delicious shakes at the 1940s soda fountain.

LOCAL FAVORITES

Protected by the Nantahala National Forest, Huckleberry Knob is an approximately 2-mile out-and-back trail leading to expansive 360-degree views. Locals appreciate this trail for its short distance off of the popular Cherohala Skyway National Scenic Byway, but there is a definite opportunity for solitude atop the picturesque

summit. Another local hotspot only 20 minutes from Huckleberry Knob is Joyce Kilmer Memorial Forest with a magnificent old-growth forest. Preserved in honor of Joyce Kilmer, author of the poem "Trees," the forest welcomes visitors with many varieties of tremendously tall trees. Enjoy a picnic lunch before setting out on foot to photograph the colorful wildflowers and giant hardwoods which maintain their beauty in all seasons.

WILDLIFE ADVENTURES

Cataloochee Valley, just over an hour’s drive from Asheville, N.C., is a hidden treasure for outdoor enthusiasts. Previously a close-knit community of around 1,200 people, the Valley transitioned to join the Great Smoky Mountains National Park. This area features a horse camp, hiking trails, and fishing, but it’s the late 19th-century structures and abundant wildlife that attract the most attention. The Valley remains locked in time with several homes, a barn, a school, and two churches. In addition to turkey and deer, the open fields provide refuge for a thriving elk herd which was reintroduced in 2001. For the best wildlife viewing adventure, plan for morning or evening tours. In nearby north Asheville, Beaver Lake Bird Sanctuary guides visitors along a disability-accessible boardwalk to view birds, butterflies, and dragonflies. Avid hiker Amanda Thompson shares that adding birdwatching to hiking has enriched her love of nature: “I found it really slowed down the speed I was hiking and has helped me to enjoy and appreciate nature more.” Thompson’s most practical advice is to purchase binoculars and download the Merlin Bird ID app. “You can download it for free and it has accelerated my interest in birding by helping me identify and learn about the birds I see or hear.”

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HUCKLEBERRY KNOB | PHOTO CREDIT: CARLA BECK

OFF THE BEATEN PATH

Rufus Morgan Falls, not far from the friendly mountain town of Franklin, N.C., offers remote beauty for anyone willing to complete the moderately-challenging 1-mile loop trek. The hike is family-friendly and dog-friendly and rewards adventurers with a refreshing 70 ft. cascade. After returning to the trailhead, travel an extra 30 minutes up the mountain to appreciate the Wayah Bald Tower. In contrast to the more rugged Rufus Morgan Falls trail, this trail is a .5-mile paved disability-accessible path leading to sweeping views of Georgia, Tennessee, and North and South Carolina. As a bonus, two long-distance trails, the Appalachian Trail and Bartram Trail cross paths with the tower. Although a 2016 wildfire burned the top of the tower, the historic stone foundation remained intact, and the top was rebuilt in 2018. Because of the panoramic views at the bald, both sunrises and sunsets are excellent year-round.

Famed poet Maya Angelou commented that “Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.” In the daily busyness that threatens to steal those moments, it is essential to carve out leisure time intentionally. Fortunately, Western North Carolina provides a plentiful natural playground to do just that. Whether you prefer walking, pedaling, paddling, or riding, there is a trail waiting for you to celebrate The Year of the Trail.

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To all Women Leaders: Good Morning Gorgeous!

BEVERLY JURENKO, INSIDE EDGE CONSULTING LLC, © 2023

I was listening to "Good Morning Gorgeous" by Mary K. Blige and thinking about all the women in leadership I know or know something about. I honor them for what they have achieved and for the people they’ve touched. There are some amazing examples, the “rock stars,” if you will, who shine like beacons with their ability to inspire, motivate, and direct us. And there are others who lead teams, small groups or communities by making a positive impact on our work and on the people around us. Just as there are many ways to define success, there are many ways we, as women, can lead.

While there are still more men in leadership roles, women as leaders can be multidimensional, agile, and very successful. Often, we outperform the men. Leadership assessment and development firm Zenger Folkman recently released findings that women are more effective in 84% of the competency areas they measure than their male peers. An analysis of over 60,000 leaders (men and women) published in the Harvard Business Review found that women perform better than men in a crisis. So, what exactly makes for good leadership, and why specifically do women make good leaders? Here are four qualities common in successful women leaders to cultivate: Engagement, Standards, Trust, Joy.

Engagement

Leading goes beyond what is being done to look at how things are done. Fostering a culture of inclusion, where everyone’s voice is heard and where people are seen for who they truly are, builds an environment of engagement. Leaders make better decisions when everyone explores pros, cons, and options. Listening to understand allows ideas to be explored and developed. Diverse teams that are fully engaged freely contribute ideas, recommendations, and concerns to innovate and problem solve. If you’ve ever had a manager who shows she values your ideas as well as your opinion, you know what I mean.

High Standards

It’s a fact that we all make mistakes from time to time, but the best leaders have high standards for themselves and for their team members. They also demonstrate initiative to solve problems and innovate. Women consistently score significantly higher than men on initiative, particularly during a crisis. There’s no substitute for reading the details, verifying your numbers, vetting partners, and completing every item on

a checklist. Pursuing innovation and addressing complex challenges goes beyond day-to-day competency to build authentic strategic advantage. When you allow yourself to do less than what you know is needed, you as the leader model that sloppiness is okay. Even worse is letting low quality work done by others slip through. Leaders owe it to their organization, their cause, and their own integrity to deliver direct feedback on work quality. This feedback is best delivered clearly and with compassion and respect.

Trust

To build trust you should be willing to make yourself vulnerable. Others will not feel comfortable asking questions or sharing their challenges if they think you are invincible. When you share vulnerabilities as a leader, your team feels safe. Good leaders also take the time to define and clarify tasks and responsibilities up front but then trust their employees to do their work. They focus

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not only on whether a project has been completed, but how team members feel about the work. Interestingly, of the 18 competencies rated by Zenger Folkman, “Developing Others” lands in the top five for women, and the bottom five for men.

Joy

There’s almost nothing more gorgeous than joy. If you’ve had a leader who is joyous, and if just thinking about it makes you smile, I’m smiling with you. Celebrating professional and personal milestones and successes reminds us that we are part of something bigger than ourselves. This does not mean we need to be happy all the time, gushing with compliments, or giving false praise – that can be confusing and disorienting. What generates a sense of wellbeing is sharing our experience of happiness when things are going well. Sharing joy, when merited, builds relationships, champions change, establishes connection, and inspires teams. These are all areas in which women leaders are highly rated.

When women lead, we are gorgeous. We must remind ourselves that we don’t have to be famous or have a C-suite title to be a leader. Logging 10,000 followers on TikTok isn’t a criterion either. If your vision and purpose instill passion in others that influences what they think and do, you are exercising leadership. So go look in the mirror, consider all the ways in which you demonstrate you are a leader, and say, “Good Morning Gorgeous!”

Beverly Jurenko Inside Edge Consulting LLC www.inside-edge-group.com

Tired of wasting money on marketing? Prioritize These 4 Tasks.

BY HOLLY FISHER

When it comes to marketing your business, you could go in a hundred different directions. Marketing is a big bucket that encompasses your website, social media, emails, advertising, speaking engagements and more. Where do you begin?

A lot of business owners waste so much money on marketing because they don’t know where to put their dollars. They get caught up in whatever’s shiny and new (looking at you, TikTok dances). There’s nothing wrong with trying new marketing tactics. But most business owners don’t have an unlimited marketing budget, so you need to prioritize the marketing tasks that give you the best return. You need marketing that works. Start with these four tasks. If you nail these, you’ll be light years ahead of your competitors.

1. Clarify your overall marketing message. You can spend thousands of dollars on digital advertising but if people don’t understand what you do and how you can solve their problem, it’s money wasted. Your potential customers and clients are bombarded with marketing messages. The only way you can stand out is by talking about their problem and how you solve it. Keep it clear. Keep it concise.

Don’t fall into the trap of trying to be cute and clever at the expense of clarity. Your potential customers want to know how you can help them. If you don’t address that clearly, they won’t stick around. The StoryBrand Marketing Framework is an excellent tool for helping you

clarify your message so customers listen and engage. It’s been used successfully by thousands of businesses. It will work for you too.

Pro tip: Read the book Building a StoryBrand by Donald Miller.

2. If your website isn’t generating leads, fire it! Your website should be your No. 1 salesperson. If your site isn’t bringing you sales or leads, it’s little more than a placeholder on the internet. Your website should speak to your customers’ problem, the solution you offer, and the success they will experience after working with you. The website should give potential customers and clients a clear path on how to do business with you. And it should have one, direct call to action so site visitors know exactly what you want them to do.

Many businesses fall into the trap of making their websites all about them. They lead with their company history, accomplishments and accolades. Be the guide, not the hero. Focus on how you solve your customer’s problem and guide them to a successful outcome. People care more about getting relief from a problem way more than when your business was founded.

Pro tip: Start by clarifying your message and then build your website.

3. Fill your email list with qualified leads and prospects. If you don’t have a lead generator on your website, you’re

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missing an opportunity to connect with people who are interested in your products or services. What’s a lead generator? Also called a lead magnet, it’s simply a freebie you offer in exchange for an email address. It might be a guide, checklist, worksheet, video series or even a free webinar or in-person event.

You simply want to give your potential customers something of value. In fact, this freebie should have such an engaging title, it’s irresistible. This is a fantastic way to collect an email address for someone who’s interested in your product or service but not quite ready to buy. Now, you have their contact information and can continue to nurture the relationship via email.

Pro tip: Start with a simple PDF. It’s not too difficult or expensive to create.

4. Build customer relationships via email. Are you emailing potential customers and clients on a regular basis? If not, you’re sitting on a goldmine! Too many businesses have hundreds – and sometimes even thousands – of emails for current and potential customers. Where are those emails? Languishing in an Excel spreadsheet somewhere.

You should send nurture emails to your list at least twice a month and weekly if you can. Don’t panic if that feels like too much! These emails should be short. They should

provide value. These emails will keep you top of mind and position you as an authority in your space. Email is still one of the most effective and budget-friendly marketing tactics. Statistics continue to point to the high ROI of email marketing, so make sure you have an email marketing strategy.

Pro tip: Refer back to the clear brand message you created from point No. 1 as you develop content for your emails. And there you have it: your marketing priorities for the coming months. Don’t get caught up in chasing every marketing idea until you’ve accomplished these four tasks. Once your message is clear, your website is attracting buyers, and you’re sending regular emails, then you can make a TikTok dance video.

Holly Fisher is the owner of Fisher Creative Marketing and a StoryBrand Certified Guide. She works with businesses to clarify their marketing message, create a website that attracts customers, and develop lead-generating content. Find her online at www.fisher-creative.com and @fishercreativemarketing on social media.

While model and beauty queen Arzell Roulette enjoys participating in pageants and fashion weeks, her beauty is far from her defining quality. “I don’t like people thinking of me as a ‘pageant girl,’” she explains. “I’m a queen.” Arzell loves working directly with people and making a difference in their lives. She is currently putting together a plan to use her notoriety as a pageant queen to inform the public on two issues that are very close to her heart: depression and suicide.

Arzell grew up in Columbus, Ohio among a large, religious family. “Growing up, I was always in church,” she recalls. Her mother is a pastor, and her brother became a deacon in the church. Arzell married her high school sweetheart when she was 21, and was divorced by the time she was 25. At 22, Arzell began working in a local nursing home, a job which she adored. “It was a lot of work, but I just loved it,” she says. “Getting to see their faces and to know that I made them happy, that is just very rewarding. It’s not for everybody, but it’s definitely for me.” She went on to work in hospital emergency rooms and even psych wards. She remembers on her first night working the front desk in the psych ward, she was attacked by a patient and sustained a concussion. “It was scary,” she says, adding that when she told her dad about the incident, he told her not to go back to work. Arzell did return and stayed with the job for three years.

In 2018, she decided to make a huge career change and pursue her dream of becoming a professional model, a move that was fraught with turmoil. “It was so hard for me because I was with an agency and they took all my money, and I thought, ‘Well, this isn’t cool,’” Arzell explains. “Then I ended up doing a fashion show, and I thought, ‘Well, this is cool. I need to do more of this!’”

During the four years she spent modeling, she had done gigs in Atlanta. She began networking and traveling there for shows to establish herself. She planned to move there in 2020, but then things took a turn for the worse. “I went through a dark storm. I was very discouraged,” she says of that period. “I was ready to go and then, someone stole all of my money out of my bank account. They left me $25 out of $2500, and I was like, ‘At least I can get gas.’”

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Queen Arzell Roulette –Motivated by the Struggle

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Then, her car was broken into. In 2019, she was sexually assaulted, leaving her traumatized and suffering from PTSD. She thought of reporting it to the police, but was afraid to take any action that would negatively affect her modeling career. “I was just starting to make a name for myself,” she says.

In 2020, Arzell found herself broke and homeless, living out of her car and couchsurfing at friends’ homes for around ten months. She started attending church again. She was also severely depressed and began having suicidal thoughts. Arzell says that the thought of taking her own life was what woke her up. “I thought, ‘I have to go, I have to get out of here,’” she recalls. “‘That’s the only way I’m going to survive.’” That February, when Arzell finally got her car back, she packed it and left Ohio for Atlanta.

Once in Atlanta, Arzell began taking steps to get her life back on track. She befriended the pastor at a church she started attending, who helped her find counseling. She also started working on reconnecting with her family. She had been harboring resentment toward them for not being there for her when she was homeless and depressed. “We’re all trying to get back together,” she says of the experience. She also got a life coach, and met her best friend and roommate, Dejuan.

She found that continuing her work as a model was helpful with her depression, but wanted to try something new. So, she tried pageantry.

Arzell’s first pageant was the 2021 Today’s International World (TIW) pageant in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina. “I remember being very, very scared,” she recalls, adding that the other contestants were so beautiful. “I came model-prepared; I didn’t come pageant-prepared. Now, I know those are two different things.” She loved the energy though, and made friends with many of the other contestants. Despite her inexperience, Arzell was given very high scores by the judges and even won Miss Congeniality.

In addition to Miss Congeniality, Arzell was made TIW’s Top Model for 2021, as well as their Brand Ambassador. While she is thrilled with both roles, Arzell says she can’t fight the desire to give pageantry another try. “I just want

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to see if I can bring that crown home,” she says. She is now working with a pageantry coach to learn more about what pageants entail. In 2023, Arzell will be competing to be the new Miss Ohio in the Mrs. Cosmos International Pageant, which she is already preparing for by focusing on working out, and trying to eat and sleep better.

Arzell is also hoping to use her platform to bring attention to mental illness, depression and suicide. “I see myself being an influencer; I want to talk, reach people, be the face of suicide awareness,”” she explains, adding that it really hit home for her when Former Miss USA Cheslie Kryst killed herself last year. “Mental illness is real, and you never know what a person is going through. I just want to reach out to people to let them know you don’t have to go through it alone.” Arzell also wants to travel to schools and hospitals to conduct seminars on depression and talk to young people about issues like bullying.

Arzell also continues to work in the assisted living field, which she finds incredibly fulfilling. “I’m excited to go to work,” she says. “It’s like a reward for me, taking care of people, making sure people are happy.” Arzell is also currently attending classes to get her phlebotomy license and has recently completed her (currently unnamed) autobiography, which she hopes will hit the shelves later this year. She also plans to release her first perfume, Pretty, sometime this year.

Arzell admits she still grapples with depression and is still learning to love herself. She feels, however, that she has been given a second chance and is finally walking in her purpose. “What motivates me is the struggle. I’ve been through a lot, and when I look back on it all, I’m unstoppable. God has gotten me through every situation. I refuse to be back in that dark space.”

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Adora Winquist Heals From the Scent to the Soul

BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

Modern alchemist, author, entrepreneur and visionary Adora Winquist has always felt a deep connection to the natural world. Growing up, she spent a lot of time in the Adirondacks and in her family’s garden. “I spent most of my childhood in the woods and in nature, and found it to be a tremendous place of solace,” she says. “It was my comfort zone, my happy place.”

Adora believes the experiences we have as children have a highly formative connection to the path we take to become who we are. Though she credits her upbringing to her love of all things nature, her family was fraught with dysfunction and intensity. At eighteen, she moved to California where she got a job in a metaphysical shop. There, Adora had an awakening experience when she worked with a local Shaman who taught her about honoring the earth and creating ceremonies to open to the mystical energies around us for healing.

Adora was quite sickly as a child. She came down with bronchitis nearly twice a year. She also battled anxiety and deep, abysmal depression. She was diagnosed with advanced stage Endometriosis, and it was recommended that she undergo a hysterectomy at age 21. She was put on a regiment of opioids, and after experiencing the downsides to the pain medication, she decided she had to find another way. After moving to Cape Cod, Adora started to learn about the healing effects of herbs like eucalyptus, thyme, and ginger, used in teas. “I thought, ‘Wow! There’s really something here,’” she recalls. Wanting to know more, she started studying the most potent forms of plant medicines: tinctures and essential oils.

Knowing energy work and essential oil creations were going to be her passion, Adora made an effort to learn more about her field by traveling to Egypt to study Mysticism, and to India to study the farming of some of the plants she was working with, such as jasmine and sandalwood.

She began her own healing practice and also started her own line of essential oils in 1998. This line, Opus Gaia (then Rhiamon Energy Essentials), was one of the first in the country to combine energy healing and aromatherapy on a national scale. Demand for her products, including her bestselling heavyenergy dissolving oil, was high since there were so few products like them on the market. She enrolled in the Barbara Brennan School of Healing where she spent four years studying the science of healing and methods to facilitate personal transformation. Around that time, her daughter Lily was born, only motivating Adora further to make her line of essential

oils successful. She recalls sitting on the floor of her apartment, mixing essential oils on a TV tray, while still seeing clients in the evening.

While pleased with her products’ success, Adora was pulled between work and family. She sought a balance between the two. During a period which she refers to as “hyper-growth,” Adora took on some help, including investors, partners, and a publicist, and moved her business, Adoratherapy, from New Jersey to Asheville, North Carolina. After many years of building the business from the ground up, she decided it was no longer her spiritual path, and stepped away from Adoratherapy in 2017 to pursue a new adventure.

In 2019, Adora created the Adora Winquist brand. She went on to start an organization for alternative medicine, holistic lifestyles, and conscious highvibrational living called The Soul Institute. Its mission is to “evolve consciousness through the frequency of love.” Through this platform, Adora is not only able to offer humanitarian outreach with her essential oils, transformational teachings and global retreats, but can also offer her platform to other visionaries and thought-leaders to share their knowledge.

Adora also co-authored a book, Detox Nourish Activate: Plant & Vibrational Medicine for Energy, Mood and Love, a guide to healing oneself at the DNA level. In 2021, she launched her line of nanoparticle essential oil blends, The Elixirs for Quantum Living. Recently, Adora also partnered with a career military veteran to start a nonprofit called Mil Spec Formulas, which brings aromatherapeutics to veterans. All profits from the sales will be reinvested towards programs to benefit veteran communities and their families.

Now the head of an essential oil empire, Adora takes pride in the quality of her products and programs and the positive impact they bring to so many people. Through the rest of her career and her own life, she intends to continue to inspire people to see the power within themselves. “Every single moment, every breath you take, every step you’ve taken has brought you perfectly here and now, even though the journey is entirely imperfect,” she says. “Everything you desire deep within your soul is possible.”

For more information on Adora Winquist and the Soul Institute, go to their website: www.thesoulinstitute.co

Women owned and operated, SkinOvation Advanced Aesthetics has been changing the face of medical aesthetics in Asheville for the past three years. They offer the most advanced products and customize their procedures to fit the individual needs and desired results of their clientele.

What sets SkinOvation apart from other medical spas? They focus on the overall health of their patients. “We focus on the person as a whole,” says Registered Nurse and Co-founder Tina Franklin. “Your overall health affects the quality of your skin. If you’re not internally well, you’re not going to get where you want to be.” Tina brings twenty-four years of expertise and experience as a registered nurse and medical practice owner to SkinOvation Advanced Aesthetics.

Dr. Wendi Harper-Lonabaugh has been a registered nurse for sixteen years. For the past eleven years she has practiced as a nurse practitioner in aesthetic medicine. She has been an injector trainer for physicians and nurses across the country. Tina and Wendi founded SkinOvation Advanced Aesthetics after years of working together in the aesthetic field. Prior to opening SkinOvation, they often found themselves wanting more time with their patients to get to the root of their problems. “I felt like we could make it a better experience for our patients,” Franklin says, adding that she has always been passionate about improving women’s self-esteem.

In 2020, the two opened their progressive, holistic medical spa in Arden, NC. As their clientele grew, SkinOvation quickly grew to a 3,500 sq. ft. multi-office layout with multiple estheticians, and nurse injectors. SkinOvation Advanced Aesthetics is located in Arden off of Long Shoals Rd at the Overlook at Lake Julian. From the comfort of their clean, upscale office, they offer injectable wrinkle reducers, dermal fillers, skin and laser treatments, bariatric services, threads, and wellness treatments. They also carry a variety of medical-grade skincare products, as well as their own line of prescription self-care products.

SkinOvation’s medical director Dr. John P. Cuellar III, MD, FACOG, is board certified in Obstetrics and Gynecology. His expertise has enabled SkinOvation to

offer treatments for bladder incontinence, hormone replacement therapy, and procedures to increase enjoyment of sexual intimacy. He offers women’s health services including a full spectrum of gynecological services. He is well versed in the bariatric and weight loss regimens that he provides at SkinOvation. SkinOvation is currently offering concierge health and wellness but will soon be taking all commercial insurance for these services.

The research that goes into each service provided at SkinOvation is nothing short of cutting-edge. In addition to being on the cusp of the latest techniques for enhancing one’s natural beauty, the staff at SkinOvation focuses on educating their clients on everything related to their products, procedures, and outcome expectations. They are even preparing to launch an automated patient education program. Dr. Harper-Lonabaugh explains that it was her goal with Franklin to build a welcoming, judgment-free business in which patients didn’t feel intimidated to voice their questions or concerns. In addition, she points out that being accurately informed is a key factor in giving informed consent. Dr. HarperLonabaugh speaks more about this in an upcoming publication of the Journal of Plastic and Aesthetic Nursing. This features her research which laid the groundwork for the patient education modules currently used at SkinOvation Advanced Aesthetics.

The SkinOvation staff strives to bring out the unique beauty in every person who comes through their door. Instead of simply offering beautifying and anti-aging services, SkinOvation works directly with their patients to create a comprehensive treatment plan for each patients’ personal goals and to improve the overall quality of their lives. “We want to form relationships with our patients,” Harper-Lonabaugh explains. “I want to give you the best treatment options for your aesthetic concerns, whatever they may be.”

To book your appointment, or receive a free consultation, text directly or call 828-551-2442, email info@skinovationnc.com, or schedule online on their website: www.skinovationnc.com

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brings out the unique beauty in every person who comes through their door.

Matcha Nude Owner Samm Coffin Tells the Naked Truth about Matcha

Having dealt with her share of health issues early on in life, Matcha Nude owner Samm Coffin has discovered her struggles have only made her more prepared to help others. Through the healing power of matcha, she has found she is able to help bring people to a level of wellness they otherwise may not have thought was possible for them. “I felt really empowered when I realized I could help people with these issues,” Samm says.

The oldest of six children, Samm and her family lived in Section 8 housing and were even homeless for a brief period. As an adolescent, Samm was constantly stressed, had digestive issues, anxiety, sleep struggles, and painful periods. Medical professionals dismissed her problems for years as being just part of womanhood. Finally, at eighteen, she was diagnosed with celiac disease and lyme disease.

As a student at the University of Massachusetts at Dartmouth, Samm began working at the local women’s center. While there, she became educated in health and childbirth. She went on to earn her Master’s degree from Minnesota State University at Mankato and later got a marketing job in Asheville, North Carolina. Samm thought she had broken the cycle of poverty in her family, since the job came with a 401K and a higher salary than she had ever had. The job soon proved to be highly stressful with a negative work environment, only further contributing to her sickness.

At 31, Samm was diagnosed with Endometriosis and Polycystic Ovary Syndrome. After researching her diseases, Samm discovered many women with her same conditions were being given very few treatment options. “I realized more and more that I wasn’t the only one getting diagnosed, but getting no solutions,” she says. Samm attributes many of the health issues women her age seem prone to today to a lack of work/life balance, and the fact that doctors prescribe estrogen-based birth control as a solution for many symptoms related to female reproduction. She argues our bodies are naturally good at healing, especially if you start making small sustainable changes.

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Realizing this for herself, Samm started working to remove plastic from her life, began filtering her water, and eating organic whenever possible. She also decided to only do soul-driven work from then on. She left her chaotic job and got her health coach certification. Along with her coaching, she did marketing for a yoga studio and for a few other organizations. Around the same time, she started drinking a superfood version of green tea called matcha.

Samm refers to matcha as “green tea grown with intention.” Because one consumes the entire plant, it has ten times the nutritional value of regular green tea. It also has ten times more antioxidants than blueberries, just 23 milligrams of caffeine, and an amino acid called L-theanine. Samm prefers the boost she gets from L-theanine because it helps your body focus and relax instead of experiencing a jittery buzz and energy crash.

Finding delicious and affordable matcha hard to come by, Samm accepted when a friend in Canada offered to sell her her matcha business. The business was called Matcha Nude. After taking over the business in December 2021, Samm found her own source for organic, ethicallysourced, non-GMO, vegan, premium grade matcha out of Kagoshima, Japan. Because the matcha is grown next to an active volcano, it is some of the cleanest matcha one can find. Samm opened Matcha Nude in February 2022.

Matcha Nude products are available online, in coffee shops and markets in WNC, and at select locations across the country. Customers can also find recipes on the website.

Samm takes pride in the fact that all of Matcha Nude’s products are affordable and sustainable. She is always experimenting with new recipes, like her Matcha Zinger and Rose Matcha Latte. They even offer matcha facial masks and body scrubs. “We’re always adding more fun, beautiful things. Matcha can meet you wherever you’re at,” Samm says with enthusiasm. She also likes making matcha more accessible.

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Currently, Samm is Matcha Nude’s only full-time employee. She hopes to hire more staff sometime in the future. Right now, she is prioritizing growing sustainably, creating a positive work environment, and staying true to her roots. The community of female entrepreneurs in the area have been invaluable to Samm starting her business. “I believe I got here because of other women in the state that have supported me,” she says. “It was really easy for me to follow the lead of these other incredibly fierce women.”

Samm’s favorite part of her job is the conversations she gets to have with people in the community. She has seen firsthand the benefits of matcha, serving customers with everything from acid reflux to ADD. “I do want Matcha Nude to reach the masses,” she says. “I want to send the message that we deserve to thrive in our bodies, and not just survive.”

To learn more about Matcha Nude visit their website: www.matchanude.com

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According to Jordan, most businesses are created by visionaries and ‘idea people’. Those people, however, do not often know a great deal about things like design, strategy, marketing, copywriting and tech stuff. That’s where Easy Scaling comes in. They put together a comprehensive plan for what the business needs to progress, focusing on generating more money and making more of an impact in less time. To do this, Easy Scaling has put together a team of experts in their individual fields to work to bring each aspect of the business up to the level at which it needs to be. “Everyone is going to have to outsource things,” Jordan says of business roles. “No one can do everything. It’s not possible.”

Within days of having the idea for Easy Scaling, Jordan already had two clients. By July, she had obtained her LLC and EIN and decided to invest heavily in developing a Facebook ads strategy and funnel. Two weeks later, she found out she was pregnant with her second child. Knowing that she wanted to take a maternity leave, and would have two small children at home, she started planning ahead. “It means that you have to build your business in a very different way than you’d planned,” Jordan says of the situation.

After a month, she had put together a team of about twelve contractors, which as things continued to escalate, was bumped up to a team of twenty. “I’m deep in [my clients’] businesses on the strategy side,” Jordan explains, adding that the rest of her time is working on Easy Scaling – the visibility of the company, networking, interacting with clients, and coordinating the team. Jordan is also host of her own Easy Scaling podcast, where she has conversations with other business women on ways to improve different aspects of their businesses. She is currently working on several podcast mini-series, including one on juggling mom life and business life. Jordan says that it is simultaneously fun and stressful,

being at the helm of a thriving business. While Jordan admits that her goals for her company’s future are lofty, she says that they feel very attainable at the company’s current pace and hopes to, one day, make Easy Scaling a household name in the online space. She finds that a key factor in this is having a very loyal and committed team, as well as the support of her family and her coach. “It is a constant practice,” she says. “You have to have support. It’s constant breakdowns and breakthroughs. It doesn’t get easier. The stakes get higher and higher, the more successful you are.”

Jordan also encourages all her clients to have a clear understanding of their own business goals, as well as a pre-established set of SOP’s (Standard Operating Procedures) for the people they work with. She also advises other entrepreneurs to champion versatility, since so much in the business world is constantly shifting. “There can be a lot of pressure for everything to be perfect,” Jordan says, adding that this notion is just not realistic. “Always be ready to pivot and change.”

At 32, Jordan is already an expert on all things involving operations and scaling in the business world. While Jordan says that it is always the goal to make a business self-sustaining, she is not-in-the-slightest looking forward to retirement. “Entrepreneurship is an interesting gig. There’s a lot of risk involved; there’s a lot of leaps of faith, but I very much enjoy it,” she says. “There’s something different in really enjoying what you do that makes it feel easy.”

To learn more about Easy Scaling, visit their website: www.easyscaling.com

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Marthaler Jewelers

WRITTEN BY ROSA LINDA FALLON

Tonya Marthaler, co-owner of Marthaler Jewelers, says she never imagined herself working in the jewelry industry. Tonya has a background in nursing while her husband, Andy, has been a jeweler since he was sixteen years old. Now, as owners of one of the most well-known jewelry stores in Asheville, Tonya says she couldn’t imagine doing anything else.

Since 2010, Marthaler Jewelers has been creating precious memories and commemorating the occasions that truly matter for their customers. Tonya remembers how it all began. When Andy was working at a jewelry store in the mall, he made a connection with a frequent customer who appreciated Andy’s integrity and honesty.

One day, the customer invited Andy and Tonya out to dinner to talk about how he might be able to help them open their own jewelry store. “I went into it originally thinking it was a waste of time,” Tonya says of the experience. “Very rarely do you hear of things like this.” Tonya and Andy realized their friend was serious about helping them. In 2010, Marthaler Jewelers opened a small 1,000 sq. ft. store in Biltmore Park. Tonya says “it’s been gang-busters ever since.” The business grew so fast, Tonya quit her nursing job to help with the business full-time.

Since then, Tonya has grown to appreciate and even love everything that goes into making memorable jewelry. “My passion is creating something beautiful where, if even for a moment, people can enter into a space or have an experience looking at something beautiful that takes their minds off of everyday things that can be draining,” she says.

Tonya describes jewelry as something that stands the test of time, as it allows people to be a part of something,

even if they weren’t there when it happened. “It’s one of the rare things in the world that we still hand down. If it’s well cared-for, it stands the test of time.”

This year, the Marthalers are excited to expand their business with the opening of a new location on Hendersonville Road in Fletcher, North Carolina. They are proud to continue to offer their customers custom-design services on a much larger scale. The Marthalers are also pleased that their son Matthew (who is also an attorney) has decided to join them full-time this year.

Even as they expand, the Marthalers want to continue to develop a business where their customers feel like and are treated like family. Tonya and Andy stay humble, grateful and grounded. They stick to the foundations of their business: honesty, faith, a strong work ethic, and family.

Tonya says the business wouldn’t be possible if it weren’t for the whole family pitching in. “We just couldn’t do any of this without our family. Even though they thought we were a little crazy for doing it, they have been with us every step of the way,” she says.

As the company approaches thirteen years in business, the Marthalers are “so thankful for the opportunity to pay it forward.” The couple donates and supports initiatives to better the lives of residents of the Rosebud Reservation in South Dakota.

Every day, Tonya does her best to balance being a business-owner, wife, mother and dog mom. It isn’t all “dancing through daisies,” as she says. Some days are harder than others. In the midst of it all, she holds steadfast to her faith, and she makes sure to “stop and see the world around her,” even if it’s just for five minutes.

As a customer of Marthaler Jewelers, Tonya promises you can expect nothing less than an extraordinary experience. To learn more about Marthaler Jewelers, visit www.marthalerjewelers.com

Mellie Mac’s: New Location, Same Unique Vibe

ARTICLE + PHOTOS BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

Across the railroad tracks, on the corner of Black Mountain Avenue and Terry Estate Drive is the new home of the whimsical Mellie Mac’s Garden Shack. Mellie’s is a well-known local spot to find a brand new shrub or flower to spruce up your yard, or even enjoy a glass of wine with a friend amongst the flowers. The recent move from its previous location on West State Street offers Owner and Proprietor Mellie Macsherry plenty of sunlight for her 20,000 plants and more room for her patrons to socialize.

Mellie, a native of Murfreesboro, Tennessee, discovered her love for nature while in boarding school on top of a mountain in Sewanee. She found Western North Carolina in 1999 after thru-hiking the Appalachian Trail. She settled in Wolf Laurel and began working at the ski resort and doing landscaping work on the golf course. Mellie had so many customers request she landscape their homes that she started her own landscaping business.

In 2006, Mellie moved to Black Mountain after getting a job as the grounds department manager for Ridgecrest Conference Center. She became acquainted with Mary Mason who owned Mason’s Lawn and Garden at the time. Mary had been trying to sell the business to Mellie for years and finally threatened to close it down if she didn’t buy it. With a new baby on the way, it was a big decision for Mellie. “Even though I had a brand new baby (my fourth child), I bought the business because I really wanted it,” she says.

Mellie took over the business in 2011 and turned it into what is known today as Mellie Mac’s Garden Shack. Over the years, Mellie Mac’s has become a well-known spot for locals to shop for the latest additions to their gardens. Reminiscing on her journey thus far, Mellie is awestruck at how far she’s come. “I don’t know how I did it,” she remarks, looking back. “I know that I had a lot of great help because we transformed it.” Mellie says she had a lot of help from her mother, not only with the business and her kids, but also with inspiration, since she had grown up watching her mom own and operate her own interior

decorating and wallpaper business. Even though she had help, the business struggled financially in the beginning. Some of Mellie’s regular customers suggested she add a wine bar to help drive traffic. In 2015, Mellie did just that and added a wine bar known as unWINE’d at Mellie Mac’s. It turned into a hit amongst locals and tourists. Soon Mellie Mac’s became the location for drum circles, book clubs, weddings, birthday parties and celebrations of life. The business was doing so well in fact that they bought a second location in 2019. The week before the foundation was to be poured for the new location, the COVID-19 pandemic shut down the country. The shutdown was particularly hard on Mellie Mac’s since plant nurseries were not deemed an “essential business” at first.

So, Mellie decided to switch gears. Instead of starting a second location, she left the first property behind and moved her business to [the new space] in downtown Black Mountain. “It is manifesting into a cool spot,” Mellie says of her eclectic shop. For her, it’s the plants she loves. “The plants are the fundamental reason for what I do.” Mellie believes the plant business is particularly important not only to the exponentially growing town of Black Mountain, but also to the post-pandemic world where growing your own food and having more garden than yard have become priorities.

In the future, Mellie hopes to shift her focus toward educating the public about plants (particularly native plants) and how to grow them. “My main goal is to help people learn about nature and pollinators, and how important WNC is to the rest of the country,” she explains. “Helping the little people – the insects and the pollinators – the things that not a whole lot of people think about that we need for survival as a human race, and spreading that word, it’s very, very important.”

Through it all, Mellie has never lost her love of nature, or her connection to WNC. She also prioritizes partnering with as many other local businesses as possible. “I’m a

big-time ‘positive-proximity’ person,” she explains. “Working together as a community is a big part of what keeps me going.” Through her work with plants, Mellie hopes to not only beautify the world around her, but to improve it for every person, animal and insect.

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Gardening Tip:

Be patient! WNC people plant too early. If you are a person that just has to plant early, plant perennials, not annuals. If you do, you have to take care of your plants prior to all those late Spring freezes by watering them well the day the freeze is expected, covering them with a tarp or sheet overnight, and using stakes

Asheville’s Whisk Owner Meg Schearer Whips up Joy in her Kitchen… Even at 3am

ARTICLE + PHOTOS BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

As a child, Whisk owner Meg Schearer was sure she would grow up to become a veterinarian, teacher, or do something in theatre. Instead, she found herself thrown into the world of baking. “I really didn’t get the baking bug until I got a job at a bakery in town where I learned my passion was for baking,” she explains, “and I happened to be just a little bit good at it.”

After working as a front of house manager at the bakery for a while, Meg was trained in the kitchen and worked what she refers to as “the dreaded muffin shift.” It was called that because the employees’ shifts began at 4am so they could prep the dough. Shortly after Meg started, the bakery’s dessert chef put in her notice two weeks before the beginning of wedding season. Though she didn’t feel qualified for the role yet, Meg accepted the position.

Meg remained head dessert chef for over six years. The bakery got busier, and went from making six or seven wedding cakes every few months, to making around a hundred quarterly. Then, she was unexpectedly laid off. “Without that gentle nudge out the window, I would not have climbed the building,” she explains.

In February 2016, Meg struck out on her own and started her own bakery, Whisk. She rented out the kitchens of local restaurants that were closed in the afternoons to do her baking. She went on to rent Westville Pub’s kitchen while they were closed for renovations. She started making the bread and desserts for the pub while also baking and decorating for her customers, but eventually realized she needed more space. “The third time someone elbowed a wedding cake in the walk-in, I said, ‘Okay, we

need to figure something out,’” she says, laughing. In 2019, Meg opened Whisk in its current location on Smokey Park Highway in Asheville, North Carolina. She was pleased to find that her customers were willing to follow her wherever she moved. The location is the only drive thru bakery in Candler, which her customers seem to love. The space is small, but accommodates Meg and her father adequately. “Dad and I have a really good thing going on here. He’s my right-hand man.” They start work together in the wee hours of the morning, and operate the window from 7am to 1pm.

Undeniably, Whisk’s best seller is their cinnamon rolls. They are Meg’s own recipe, which include her secret ingredient: a lot of butter. The rolls are as big as your face, and Whisk sometimes sells eighty in a day. “They are what put us on the map,” she acknowledges. “People come from all over Western North Carolina to get them.”

One of the things Meg loves most about her job is getting the opportunity to use her artistic abilities to decorate birthday cakes. She hand-draws all the designs on her cakes, starting by outlining the image with toothpicks. Crafting something for a celebration makes her feel a particular sense of accomplishment.

Though she loves her cakes, Meg’s favorite thing to bake is bread. “Bread is so much more nourishing and more versatile. Bread is very elemental,” she says. Meg says she feels a strange connection to all the bakers of different cultures across the world, who are all waking up early in the morning, and going through the same motions and movements to prepare their bread. To her, that’s worth getting up for.

Meg has put her all into her business – it is her life. “Anybody who owns a business of any kind needs to know that you’re going to be living it. It’s your life, and if you don’t think that’s what it is, then maybe you should not do it,” she warns young entrepreneurs. She also encourages taking business classes and being willing to accept help. “I’m definitely proof that hard work pays off. Anything that’s good is worth working this hard for.”

Despite her love of her work, Meg is making it a goal to make herself more of a priority in her life and take more time off in 2023. “My work has to come first. It is such an incredible priority that it makes me miss out on a lot of

MEG’S EASY SUGAR COOKIES

Ingredients:

¾ stick of Butter

2 oz. Cream Cheese

1 Egg

1 tsp. Vanilla

2 tsp. Milk

¼ cup Vegetable Oil

1 ¼ cup Sugar

2 ½ cup all purpose Flour

1 tsp. Baking powder

½ tsp. Baking soda

½ tsp. Salt

Instructions:

Melt butter and pour over cream cheese in a mixing bowl while still hot. Add other ingredients and mix well. Add tablespoon size balls onto greased cookie sheet and flatten (optional: roll cookie balls in sugar before putting onto sheet). Bake at 350 degrees for 12 minutes, rotating halfway through. For added flavor, add lemon zest, or dried strawberries to the batter before baking.

things,” she explains. Meg says she hasn’t taken a vacation in years, misses out on gatherings with friends, and hasn’t seen a Widespread Panic (of whom she is a huge fan) show in forever.

Meg recommends new bakers take notes on everything they are learning. She remarks that having your math and measurements written down is a great way to prevent early-morning baking mistakes. She also encourages taking photos of everything you make.

While she has been a professional baker for many years now, Meg enjoys her job and couldn’t see herself doing anything else. “I have genuine joy for what I do, still, after this long. I’m still so very proud of it even after all this time,” she says of her baking. “Getting up at 3 in the morning, you gotta have some joy.”

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Simply Steak Salad Recipe

Simple Steak Salad is cherry tomatoes, green lettuce, sliced medium-rare steak, and your favorite dressing! This delicious steak salad is the perfect summer dinner idea for every steak lover! If you love a good new york strip steak, or skirt steak over a giant hearty salad, this recipe is for you!

You’ll love this salad because it’s so simple. Just a few ingredients and a perfectly grilled steak are all you’ll need! This is a great recipe to entertain friends and neighbors without heating up your house.

Salad Ingredients:

4 cups of Crunch Lettuce

1 cup Cherry Tomatoes

1 cup Sliced Cucumbers

½ cup Crumbled Goat Cheese

½ cup French Fried Onions

8 ounces Grilled Steak, sliced

Instructions

Homemade Balsamic Dressing:

2 tbsp Balsamic Vinegar

1 TBS Dijon Mustard

1 tbsp Honey

¼ tsp Kosher Salt

¼ tsp Black Pepper

2 tbsp finely diced Shallot

2/3 cup Olive Oil

Start by making the dressing for your salad. In a jar with a tight-fitting lid, add all the ingredients and shake until emulsified. Store in the fridge or on the counter for up to 2 weeks. Lay your green crunchy lettuce down on a giant platter. Top with your tomatoes, cucumbers, and steak. Sprinkle the goat cheese and crispy onions on top. Drizzle the homemade balsamic dressing over the top and serve!

Simple Steak Salad

First, let’s gather the ingredients needed. We’ll start with the salad ingredients. They might not be the star of the recipe, but they’re the supporting cast of characters that need to shine individually and collectively!

I used crunchy greens from Gotham Greens. Fresh romaine lettuce would work well, as would cold iceberg lettuce. You could also use a bed of baby spinach or mixed greens — whatever you love most, use that! On this salad, you’ll find juicy tomatoes and sliced cucumbers. Keeping it super simple! Any fresh vegetables that you love on a fresh salad, add them! Sliced carrots, red onion, shallots, bell peppers, creamy avocado, and sweet corn, you choose. Creamy goat cheese is on top of this steak and crunchy french-fried onions.

Toppings for Your Salad

Every good salad has toppings, and maybe a lot of them. That might be why I love ordering salads so much from a restaurant! Keeping with the simple theme, I chose goat cheese and crispy french fried onions to top this salad with.

Here are some cheeses you could top your salad with:

Blue Cheese – Take the iconic tangy blue cheese from your favorite steak restaurant and add it on top of your salad. All your favorite flavors in one bite!

Feta Cheese – You can’t go wrong with this tangy option! Queso Fresco – If you want to take your salad in a Steak Fajita Salad direction, sprinkle this salty cheese over top! Don’t forget the lime juice to bring it all together.

You’ll need something crunchy so whether you choose croutons, sunflower seeds, or crispy fried onions your salad will hit on all the savory flavor notes you love most!

Assembling this Entrée Salad

On a giant platter lay out your bed of greens. Add the fresh veggies all around the salad greens. Slice your favorite cut of steak and place it on top of your salad. Top the dinner salad with goat cheese and crispy onions. Drizzle the homemade balsamic vinaigrette on top!

What Dressing Pairs Well with Steak Salad?

To keep it simple, I chose a homemade dressing. A blue cheese dressing would be nice or an herb dressing that is packed with flavor! To make the Homemade Balsamic Vinaigrette you’ll shake up balsamic vinegar, dijon mustard, shallots, honey, and olive oil for an easy balsamic vinaigrette.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is a good steak for salad?

Top Sirloin is the most cost-effective and leanest. However, whatever cut of beef you prefer, use that on your salad!

Should steak on a salad be hot or cold?

This is up to you! I prefer warm, thin slices. But, if you’re using leftover steak it can definitely be cold.

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Adding Some Variety to Your Wine Nights this Spring

BY ANDY HALE, CSW

Many people only drink one wine. I’m always shocked when someone only buys their one trusty brand of wine. Don’t get me wrong, I have my favorite wines I like to get again and again, but getting the same one every time seems like having the same bologna sandwich for lunch every day. Even if you LOVE bologna sandwiches, doesn’t eating the same thing get boring after a while? There is such an amazing world of wine for us to try. There are around two thousand individual varietals of wine grapes growing in Italy alone! It seems such a shame to drink nothing but Pinot Grigio every day, especially when there are so many fun alternatives.

Now I’m not going to push you out of your comfort zone entirely. I’m just going to give you a little nudge by suggesting some alternatives to some of the wines that you might be getting a little tired of.

Sauvignon Blanc

If the citrusy flavors of Sauvignon Blanc are your jam, then you are in luck! There are lots of fun varietals that will still scratch that itch, but might give you a little more variety.

Dry Riesling is a great place to start! Riesling is naturally very tart and citrusy, but instead of the grapefruit and grassy flavors of Sauvignon Blanc, Riesling shows more orange blossom and lime, with a little slate and a flavor that reminds me of smelling a beach ball. I know, that sounds weird, but see if you don’t smell it the next time you pop open a bottle of Riesling.

Gruner Veltliner is another great option. This favorite of Sommeliers is the national grape of Austria, and in addition to being crisp and tart, it has a slightly richer texture than Sauvignon Blanc, and shows flavors of lemon, white pepper and maybe even a hint of arugula. Despite its name, it is as dry as the Austrian sense of humor.

This one is going to be a little harder to track down, but if you can find any of the whites from Savoie you will be very happy! Savoie is in Eastern France, up in the Alps near the Swiss border. It is crisp, dry and tastes as clean as melted snow. Apparently, Savoie wines are best enjoyed in a French ski chalet with some fondue, but I think they work well as a Sauvignon Blanc alternative as well.

Pinot Noir

Ever since Paul Giamatti introduced us to the wonders of Pinot Noir in the movie Sideways, Americans have been in love with its light body, silky texture and flavors of raspberry, fig and that slight smoky, truffle flavor. But all

that demand for this finicky grape has caused its price to increase and its quality to decline. Fortunately, there are other grapes that can fit the bill.

Pinot Noir comes from the Burgundy region of France. Fortunately for us there is another red grape from Burgundy, the grape of Beaujolais: Gamay. This misunderstood grape is a slight bit lighter than its more famous cousin, and leans a bit more fruit-forward. Gamay tastes like tart cherry juice and happiness, and absolutely nothing like the watery, bubble-gum tasting Nouveau you sometimes get at Thanksgiving.

Zweigelt is another distant relative to Pinot Noir, hailing from Austria. This juicy varietal makes light bodied reds with tangy cranberry flavors and loads of black pepper. Some of my favorite examples of Zweigelt come in Liter bottles, which is great if you are splitting it with someone.

Here is another difficult mission for you: see if you can track down a pure Cinsault. You’ve probably had a bit of Cinsault before. It’s a permitted blending grape in the Rhone Valley and it’s a favorite in France for making light bodied dry roses. Only recently has it been allowed to stand on its own. This grape is like a Mediterranean cousin to Pinot Noir – more fruit forward and a teensy bit more full-bodied, with flavors of pomegranate and red cherry. My favorites come from the South of France, but there are some excellent examples from South Africa as well.

Cabernet Sauvignon

For those of you who crave the inky-black color and heavy, chewy weight of Cabernet Sauvignon, nothing will ever be able to take this noble grape’s spot. But as its popularity has grown, so has its price. Fortunately, there are some other options to try.

Merlot has been a bad word with wine snobs ever since Sideways, but what happens when a grape’s popularity goes down? It gets cheaper and better made. Merlot is the half-sister to Cabernet, and they are very similar in flavor. Merlot is a bit softer and more approachable than the astringent and stoic Cabernet, but they both have similar tasting notes: black cherry, plum, chocolate and spice. Try the Merlots from Washington State. They are super dark and peppery and really drink like less tannic Cabs.

Malbec is still a very price-worthy alternative to Cabernet Sauvignon, although not quite as heavy and structured. While Malbecs are certainly not as affordable as they used to be, you can still get a good bottle for under $20,

a difficult thing to do when you are shopping in the Cabernet Sauvignon aisle.

My favorite alternative to Cabernet is from the old world. The wines from Ribera del Duero are dark, tannic and powerful, with a little more elegance than Cabernet’s unrelenting fruit. These wines are grown at high altitudes in Western Spain, and are made from Tempranillo, sometimes with Cabernet and Merlot added. They are much heavier than the Tempranillos you might have had from Rioja, and I think they are an excellent alternative to Cabernet.

Don’t let your wine nights get repetitive and stale. Add some variety and you might find a new favorite and even save some money!

Andy Hale is a Certified Specialist of Wine and was a professional Sommelier in Charleston until he moved to Asheville. He is now the Wine Buyer and Education Director at Metro Wines.

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You know what kids think is cool? MONEY. Well, not money per se, but they really like to get new stuff, and they like what money can do for them. But how do you take this complex topic and make it make sense in kids’ minds to help them develop a healthy relationship with money? This is so important to do because it sets a foundation for how they will view money for the rest of their lives. Here are four ideas to try to help ensure that children have a good head start when it comes to finances.

Share Your Money Successes and Failures.

Talking about success is easy, but there are valuable lessons to be found in failure. For example, you can talk to your kids about a time when you made a bad money decision, or when you made an impulse buy using your credit card and how you then had to scramble to pay it down later. Admission of mistakes can create an opportunity for you to figure out the solution as a team. This can help the kids start thinking of ways to be strategic when they face a money challenge (or any other challenge) later in life. It also shows kids that it’s okay to make a mistake. This will allow them to feel more comfortable coming to talk to you about their own mistakes. It is also a great time to remind them that mistakes are how we learn.

Include Your Kids in Monthly Family Financial Activities and Decisions.

This can be as simple as making a meal plan and budget for the weekly grocery run as a family. The kids can help in the store to try and stay within the budget. This is great for younger kids. Slightly older kids, like tweens and teens, can get involved when you pay the family’s bills. Seeing the budgeted and unbudgeted expenses will give them a realistic idea of what they will have to deal with in real life. This can help them understand that money is a limited resource, and ideally they will be less likely to take it for granted. It can also help them think through the unexpected expenses that are part of life.

Show your kids how much you save for retirement, and encourage them to save for retirement as soon as they

How to Talk to Kids About Money

By Faith Doyle, MBA, CFP® Financial Advisor, Raymond James Financial Services Webb Investment Services

start working and are able. Help them to understand that saving for retirement is like paying bills for your future self. If you aren’t saving for retirement, talk to your children about what bills you can reduce as a family to allow you to save for retirement.

Ask and Listen, But Be Careful Not to Preach. Make It Fun!

You don’t need to spend hours talking to your kids about money. You don’t even have to do all the talking. In fact, conversations about finances will go better if you can get the kids’ opinions on what you should do. Maybe they’ll give you a great idea or a different perspective on solving a problem. Think about topics to discuss with your kids at the dinner table: budgeting, savings, goals, retirement, unexpected expenses, emergency funds, etc. Play board games like Monopoly and Life that involve money decisions, and let the kids make their own choices. Allowing them to make their own decisions gives them confidence and allows them to learn important lessons in a safe environment.

Consider How You Give Them an Allowance (What is it Tied To?).

One thing a friend taught me is to think about how you incentivize your kids with their allowance. Most of us received an allowance as kids, and many of us pay our kids allowances that are often tied to chores. The kids do their chores and earn money. But what if you told them that as an adult you don’t get paid to clean your house, do your own laundry, or wash your dishes? As members of the household, they need to help with chores.

We do get paid to do tasks outside of our homes. If we work hard and get good grades and a good degree, we may have the potential to make more money. So why not tie academic pursuits and exercise to allowance? I’ve used this strategy with my kids, and it has worked like a charm. I pay my kids to read books every day, to exercise, and to make good grades. My daughter is a bookworm who is several grade levels ahead in reading, all because I incentivized her to focus on her studies. Good grades lead

to better opportunities at better schools and potentially higher paying jobs. And health is wealth, so taking good care of your body can save you money in the long run.

When it comes to talking to your kids about money, the biggest thing is just getting started. Money is something we all deal with, so why not take the stress out of it? The earlier you start, the less stressful it can be for the kids, and they will have a deeper respect for money and how to use it wisely.

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The Duchenne Journey: How One Asheville Mom Navigates Having a Child with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy

WRITTEN BY ROSA LINDA FALLON

Jessica Campbell’s son, Javon, was four years old when she started to notice something was not quite right about him. While attending one of Javon’s soccer games, she noticed he had unusually large calf muscles in comparison to the other children his age, and he was barely able to keep up with the rest of the team. “I asked the doctor about it,” Jessica says. “But they dismissed it, saying he was just a late bloomer.” Everything else Javon did was on schedule as far as milestones were concerned. He started kindergarten like any other normal child. And while no one ever said anything to her, Jessica couldn’t help but observe he was still just as slow, physically. During the summer between Javon’s first and second grade school years, the family traveled up to Indiana for a family member’s funeral. “My cousin said, ‘Wow, he’s slow.’,” Jessica remembers. Finally, she and her partner began to conduct their own research on Google. They came across the Gowers’ Sign, a maneuver where a child assumes the hands-and-knees position and then climbs to a standing position by ‘walking’ his hands progressively up his legs and thighs, something they had observed Javon doing consistently. Jessica wrote a letter to the pediatrician voicing her concerns, and they scheduled a blood test. The results came back showing a trigger for Duchenne muscular dystrophy. The doctor referred them to Duke Medical Center, where doctors confirmed Javon’s diagnosis.

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“I remember my stomach dropping. Anticipatory grief kicks in right away,” Jessica says, recalling how she felt when they received his diagnosis. “Anger. I think I was angry for a good two years. Processing all of that, asking, ‘Why wasn’t he diagnosed earlier?’ Then part of me was like ‘Well, we could’ve pushed harder,’ but we were just listening to what the doctor said.” It is not uncommon for many patients to go undiagnosed due to the lack of awareness and education surrounding muscular dystrophy.

Duchenne muscular dystrophy (DMD) is a genetic disorder that causes progressive muscle degeneration and weakness due to the alterations of a protein called dystrophin, which helps keep muscles intact. DMD symptom onset occurs in early childhood, typically between ages 2 and 3. The disease mainly affects boys, and in rare cases, it can also affect girls. DMD was first described by French neurologist Guillaume Benjamin Amand Duchenne in the 1860s. However, little was known about the cause of muscular dystrophy until the 1980s. The disease is linked to the X chromosome and is typically passed on by the mother. In Javon’s case, however, his diagnosis was a result of a spontaneous mutation.

At the time Javon was diagnosed, life expectancy was between 16 and 20 years. Thanks to cardiac and respiratory care advances in healthcare, individuals with DMD are living longer. Many young men with DMD now attend college, hold carriers, get married, and have children.

While medical advances have helped to improve quality of life for those with DMD, overall awareness and advice on how to navigate the disease is not readily available. After Javon’s diagnosis, there was no follow-up from a social worker, and no information was provided on how to navigate next steps. “Nobody told us anything after that,” Jessica says. “We didn’t know where to go.” She eventually began to do more research on her own, this time, to find support. She discovered there is an entire community of people across the country who have also been affected by DMD. “There are programs and other nonprofits that are out there that can help lead the way and carve the path for you,” she says. “I now have this amazing group of Duchenne moms that I lean into.” Jessica is now an ambassador for the Jett Foundation, a nonprofit organization that empowers people and families who are impacted by DMD through programming and educational opportunities. She is also involved with the nonprofit Parent Project Muscular Dystrophy that fights to end Duchenne by raising awareness, providing resources, and accelerating research.

As for Javon’s medical care, the family travels to Nationwide Children’s Hospital once a year to see Dr. Flanigan and his team, who specialize in neuromuscular disorders. Javon is also participating in a clinical trial for which the family travels from Asheville to Atlanta every two months. Most

times, they make a mini vacation out of each trip – going out to eat together and watching movies in the hotel room.

Javon fully lost his ability to walk between ages 10 and 11, but overall, he lives a normal, happy life like any other child. “He’s good,” Jessica says of her son. “He’s verbal. He loves to play games; he loves all things Marvel.” While Jessica admits she and everyone in the Duchenne community surely want a cure, her priority is to help Javon live his best life. “Our focus is on quality of life, and that’s not just for Javon, that’s for all of us within our family,” she shares. “I think this journey has allowed me to say that confidently.” Jessica homeschools Javon and her second child, Janessa. “It just fits in with our overall schedule,” she explains of homeschooling, adding that Javon has six medical appointments next month. With a strong support system behind them and much to look forward to, Jessica is optimistic about Javon’s future, and she doesn’t take anything for granted. “You appreciate things, and you truly don’t sweat the small things.”

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In Remembrance of Tribal Elder Virgie Enyart

WRITTEN BY JOANIE WALLACE

If you were to ask me to tell you about my Grandma Virgie Enyart, I would have to ask you how much time you have. When my mother decided to attempt the impossible task of attending college with three small children, the youngest of whom was barely one year old, I had the good fortune of being able to spend a great deal of my early childhood with my Grandma and Grandpa Enyart. We had a blast. The favorite day of the month for Grandma Enyart and I was the day the Social Security check for my Grandpa came in the mail. We would go to town. Literally. We would go and do our shopping, getting only the necessities we needed. There was no extra money for treats, though being with them was a treat in itself. My grandparents were poor people, they didn’t even have an indoor bathroom until I was in grade school. I often tell people that you haven’t really lived until you have traversed a cow pasture in the middle of the night to get to a dark outhouse. Our family didn’t need a TV reality show like Survivor. We lived that. Though money was tight, there was a lot of love. Each holiday our family would get together – all my aunts, uncles, cousins, and Grandma would cook up a storm. Oh my, how that woman could cook. Everything tasted like she had some secret ingredient or technique no one could quite duplicate. What I would give for just a bite of her salmon patties or her fried chicken with that creamy delicious gravy. What I would give to just be able to sit at her table again. Just one more time.

We may not have had a lot of money, but we didn’t realize it. We knew we were blessed with things that money can’t

buy. At Christmas all the grandkids would line up and Grandpa would hand out our gift of $2.00 each. He took great pride in being able to give something to each of his grandchildren. The running joke was that you knew you were old enough to be considered a grown-up when you could no longer stand in line for your $2.00.

Grandma was a simple woman. She was fiercely proud of her family and her Eastern Shawnee heritage. She passed that on to all of us. She taught us to be respectful of others, yet not to hesitate to speak our minds about things we believed in. She showed us that honesty, hard work and integrity were traits that would greatly benefit us in life. She led by example. She had no patience for troublemakers or those who could not be trusted. They say dogs and children have a sixth sense about people. Add Virgie Crain Enyart to that list.

I am extremely proud to be a member of the family she created, nurtured, and raised. I flew in from out of state for her funeral service, and the church where the service was held graciously made lunch for our family. I was completely overwhelmed when I walked into the room and saw my aunts and uncles seated at tables with their children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren, because I realized that without this wonderful woman none of us would be here. I knew her spirit was there, and was overwhelmed also. And I knew that she was proud of her accomplishments, our accomplishments. She was a woman of limited means who gave more than any amount of money could buy – her love. The world is a better place because of her.

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Woman-Founded Nonprofit Highlight: Arms Around ASD Founder Michele Louzon Wraps Her Arms Around More Space

ARTICLE + PHOTOS BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

Executive Director Michele Louzon founded the nonprofit Arms Around ASD for the purpose of providing care, support, and services to autistic people, their families and caregivers, and the professionals who work with them.

Originally from Chicago, Illinois, Michele attended college for journalism at University of Illinois and worked as a stringer for a neighborhood paper in Chicago. She eventually went back to school and got her master’s degree in Counseling. She got a job as a counselor at a women’s health clinic in Atlanta, Georgia, a role that she says became more focused on community outreach, which she enjoyed. “It meant trying to keep women educated about STI and pregnancy prevention and out of the clinic except for well-woman care,” she explains.

Twenty-one years ago, Michele’s husband was transferred to Asheville, North Carolina for work. Michele loved Asheville and got a job teaching sex education in local schools through the Health Adventure.

Michele says she had always had friends who were (or who had children who were) neurodivergent. She had begun to consider how important a sexuality program would be for neurodivergent people. From there, she began to put together a curriculum of services, including pet therapy, for people with autism and those closest to them. After a two-year planning process and securing their 501c3 status, Paws on ASD was started in January 2015 out of Michele’s basement.

Michele says that she mistakenly had assumed that most of her clientele would be kids. “Like so many people, I didn’t make the connection that autism does not go away and children become adults,” she explains.

“The people who really need services are adolescents and adults.” Michele says neurodivergent people can be in high school until they are twenty-two years old, but that services drop off during middle school. She explains that these individuals have very limited access to services after that point. Michele also has many clients who are recently-diagnosed adults.

As they continued adding more services and focusing less on pet therapy, Paws on ASD evolved into Arms Around ASD and secured a location on Charlotte Street in Asheville. During the COVID-19 pandemic, their services went virtual. When it came time to go back to seeing clients in person, it became apparent that the Charlotte Street location was no longer ideal.

Arms Around ASD’s board president at the time suggested to Michele that they check out a location in the Asheville Mall. “I was super hesitant,” Michele admits. “But everybody was so nice. The mall has bent over backwards to have us here. Being in the mall gives us all kinds of new and different opportunities.” The new space was also about three times larger than the former location.

They signed the lease on the Asheville Mall space in December 2020 and moved in February 2021. The space, however, required intense renovations to fulfill all of Arms Around ASD’s needs. Michele worked with an architectural firm to create the perfect space. “We did all the painting, finishing, and so, so much cleaning,” she says. “People volunteered their time; they really stepped up.”

Michele was also thrilled to see Arms Around ASD’s mailing list double within their first year of being in the new space. “We have walk-ins five times a day!” she exclaims, stating that foot traffic has been fantastic for

“Arms Around ASD now offers over forty services, including: meditation and mindfulness, acupuncture, belly dancing, yoga, art classes, chiropractic care, gardening, dental screenings, massage therapy, reiki, zumba, supportive counseling and psychotherapy.”

their top-of-mind recognition, as well as for convenience. “Public transportation is huge. All buses come to the mall. It’s much more accessible than Charlotte Street.” Michele says that many of her clients were taking two buses, and riding for two hours just to get to their old location.

Now comfortably positioned in their space near the food court, Arms Around ASD provides a wide range of daily activities, services, and even hosts a variety of events. It also has offices and professional spaces in which their volunteers and service providers can do their work and meet with clients. “Our focus is really different from most organizations,” Michele describes, explaining that they focus on self-care, improving cognitive processes, and developing executive functioning skills. “No one is born with executive functioning, but it’s harder to develop if you’re neurodivergent,” she explains.

Arms Around ASD now offers over forty services, including: meditation and mindfulness, acupuncture, belly dancing, yoga, art classes, chiropractic care, gardening, dental screenings, massage therapy, reiki, zumba, and supportive counseling and psychotherapy. The new location also gives them the opportunity to operate a small retail space. The store includes the arts and crafts of the autism community (of which the artists receive 75% of the sale), as well as ‘curated thrift items’.

Now, with over 1,300 clients and 75 volunteers, Michele wears many hats at Arms Around ASD. “To say that I do everything would not be an understatement, but I have a lot of help,” she acknowledges. “There is no way to get an organization like this off the ground without tons of people coming through and helping. It takes everybody coming together to make the vision happen.” Michele says that, on a daily basis, she can be found doing everything from running the front desk and seeing supportive counseling clients, to working on the website and social media, to doing the laundry and putting out merchandise. She receives no salary for her work at Arms Around ASD.

As Arms Around ASD continues to grow, Michele hopes to continue to expand the organization’s services. She is currently working on a physical and mental health program called ‘Be Your Best Self’ that incorporates all of their services and allows clients to utilize them for points to earn incentives. She hopes to receive a grant for the program in the coming months. “Our biggest issue, like so many nonprofits, is finding money for the day-to-day,” she says, adding that most grant money is only applicable to specific programs, and not for the basics that are required to run an organization.

Despite the funding challenges, Michele says she loves the organization she has created. “Our community is comprised of some of the most interesting and wonderful people you can imagine,” she says, smiling. “I’m so happy to be here.”

For more information on Arms Around ASD, visit their website: www.armsaroundasd.org. To make a donation, go to: www.armsaroundasd.org/donate/

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Hola Carolina Founder Adriana Chavela Celebrates the Latinx Community

In 2013, Adriana Chavela, a single mom with two kids, had just recently lost her job with a Spanish publication out of Charlotte, NC. Adriana had a hard time finding another job and faced uncertainty about the future. “I think sometimes, we need to touch the bottom and realize other [options], and that was my moment.”

Adriana then had a dream. In her dream, she recalls looking over a magazine in her hands with an overwhelming feeling of pride, and then handing a copy to her grandmother. She awoke from the dream with a bright, new vision. “I said, ‘We need to have a couple of newspapers here for the Spanish-speaking community.’ Usually the newspapers here say no good, positive things about the Latinx community, and I dreamed that this magazine will lift up our community with stories that are inspiring.” The next day, Adriana put together a media kit and started knocking on peoples’ doors. “I think my enthusiasm is what sold the magazine,” she says.

In September of 2013, Adriana launched Hola Carolina Magazine, a Spanish-language lifestyle magazine designed to add tangibility to the faces and narratives of Latinx people. The magazine’s goal is to give a critical voice to, and celebrate the diversity of, the Latinx community and engage readers. Beginning as a bi-monthly magazine, the first issue was published in October 2013. “On a daily basis, we try to put together stories that uplift the community,” Adriana says of the publication. “The Latinx community brings hard work, and there are so many good things that we do. It is a community that is still living in the shadows.”

Hola Carolina shares who Latin people are and connects the Latinx community with local resources and events. This evolved into celebrating Latin culture through festivals. Currently, Hola Carolina produces four local festivals: Hola Asheville (June 10th), Fiesta Hendersonville (October 1st), International Childrens’ Day (April 30th), and Dia de los Muertos (October 31st). These events are free to the public and open to anyone who wants to participate.

Hola Carolina received its 501c3 nonprofit status in October of 2017. Since then, it has created and sponsored countless programs to serve community needs and create resources and solutions for cultural challenges.

One of the key goals of Hola Carolina is to reinforce the artistic identity of the Latinx people. In fact, the

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organization briefly changed its name to Hola Community Arts. At the end of 2019, the board voted to change the name back since the arts were only one of the many aspects of Hola Carolina’s work. Hola Carolina continues to host free bilingual art classes and events at the Hola Cultural Center that showcase the community’s talent and culture.

Hola Carolina is even an EMMY winner! Adriana had been documenting the community work of the organization since she started the magazine. She produced a three minute PSA video, submitted it to the National Academy of Television Arts and Science, and won a 2018 EMMY award in the Community/Public Service category. “It’s very beautiful,” Adriana says of the piece.

Adriana says of building Hola Carolina: “It has been a beautiful roller coaster! This dream happened and it pretty much changed my life.” She continues, “It is very important for us to build bridges between cultures and embrace the diversity of our community. It is extremely important for us to make sure that the community comes out of the shadows.”

For more information on Hola Carolina, visit their website: www.holacarolina.org

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Habitat for Humanity’s Women Build Empowers Women to Build the Future

BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

In 1994, Habitat for Humanity International created a program called Women Build with the goal of recruiting, educating and nurturing women to build – and advocate for – simple, decent, and affordable housing in their communities. For this program, women do all the volunteer work, all the building, and raise all the funding for the houses they build.

While Asheville Area Habitat for Humanity’s Development Officer Zoe Trout has a variety of duties in her role, Women Build is among her favorite projects. Since construction is often a male-dominated field, Zoe says she enjoys that Women Build gives women the opportunity to not only contribute to their community, but also to learn new skills they might otherwise have been intimidated by previously. “It’s hands down our most popular project because it speaks to so many people,” she states. “The whole purpose of Women Build is empowering women, encouraging them to build houses, and enabling them to impact the lives of their children.”

Though built with a budget in mind, all Habitat homes are constructed with the utmost standards of quality, including new materials and green products. “They’re beautiful homes. There’s a lot of pride we take in our homes. They are really well-made,” Zoe says. While they sometimes build a single house in a pre-existing

neighborhood, she finds that building an entire development of Habitat homes often works even better. “It is a lot more efficient to build a whole neighborhood, and we find it’s better for our homeowners because they all go through their classes together, they know each other, and then, they move into a neighborhood and have that community already built in.”

As part of her job, Zoe visits the job site a couple of times a month to provide support to volunteers, donors, and the homeowners. “Nothing compares to seeing a family move into their new home. It gets me everytime. Every single time I see them get that key and walk through their front door, I just cry,” she admits. Zoe also makes it a point to clarify that the homeowner buys the house they build and pays an affordable mortgage, stating that it’s not a hand out, but more like a hand up. They contribute 200 hours of “sweat equity” into the building of their home and take homebuyer education courses.

Among the Women Build core volunteers, there is an elite group of women known as the WomBats (Women Build Advocacy Team). This dynamo team of 12-15 ladies have been helping Women Build to be successful for years by fundraising, promoting, and recruiting volunteers. They also host a free fundraiser every summer complete with live music called Rock the House. The first one was held in

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2017 and it was such a success, they opted to make it an annual event.

One WomBAT, Peggy Crowe, has been volunteering with Asheville Area Habitat for Humanity for a decade. “We create awareness and raise funds to go toward our Women Build house every year,” she says of the WomBATs, adding that being a Habitat volunteer is,“like being forever in the glow of new love.” Peggy remembers a particularly moving experience on a site in which one volunteer admitted she was terrified of heights as well as construction. During her day working on the house, she conquered both fears, leaving the volunteer to wonder what else she was truly capable of.

Peggy feels that women don’t often have something tangible to show for their efforts in their everyday lives. “No matter what they worked on that day it will always be an essential, visible gift to a family that now has a home that had only existed in their dreams,” Peggy says of the work the volunteers do on a Habitat house. She adds that it is a great way for local women to meet and connect. “Women have a unique synchronicity and instinctively collaborate to help each other where needed. They might not have known each other in the morning, but by the end of the day, they leave as new friends who have bonded over this shared experience.”

Asheville Area Habitat recently completed their 18th Women Build house in Buncombe County, with the 19th one scheduled to be finished in June. Zoe points out that they always need volunteers, since volunteer labor is a key factor in Habitat for Humanity’s model to keep the cost of the house down. “Our construction supervisors are experts at leading volunteers of all ages, stages and skill levels. We have a job for everybody. If you can hold a paint brush, you can volunteer,” she explains, adding that anyone over the age of 16 can sign up. “I think the most satisfying part of my job is that I get to connect people in our community to our organization that is doing meaningful work.”

For more information on Asheville Area Habitat for Humanity, or to volunteer today, visit their website: www.ashevillehabitat.org

Carolina Spark Magazine is proud to partner with Asheville Area Habitat’s Women Build program by donating a portion of its advertising sales for this issue to their cause.

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3 Wellness Neurohacks for Women to Manage Stress

WRITTEN BY JOHANNA HAGARTY

Have you ever walked into a grocery store to grab a few things and confidently sauntered past the shopping carts because you know you’ll stick to your small, carefully curated list? Yet, like clockwork, as you start to shop, you remember the guest bathroom is out of toilet paper, or the bird feeder is running low. Before you know it, your hands are full, and there are still things you need! Now imagine those items aren’t groceries but life stressors.

As women, we have been conditioned to believe that we have a greater capacity to manage stress or multi-task, which may feel true when we are managing normal life stressors like finances, children, relationships, work, or house responsibilities. Yet, major stressors that require additional capacity and support are inevitable. Meaning, at some point, regardless of your amazing capacity to hold it all, you may find you need additional support to manage your stressors.

If life’s stressors are piling up, then making sure you have the right support, or what some people call neurohacks, becomes vital to maintaining wellness.

A neurohack can be used to treat psychological disorders and stress as well as improve overall human performance. These tools span many disciplines but focus on any technology or activities that affect the brain, nervous system, or body in a way that affects cognitive capacity or psyche. Neurohack tools have been used throughout time to manage many life stressors that women experience, including things like postpartum, anxiety, self-worth, depression, grief/loss, and more.

Below are a few neurohack tools that you may have tried, or been curious to try, and maybe even one you hadn’t thought of. The point of neurohacking is to be curious about potential tools that may work best for your body chemistry, preferences, or current situations and to not compare your experience to others. What tools work best for your body may not be the same for someone else.

Mindfulness / Meditation

The idea of mindfulness and meditation has been a human practice for over 3,500 years, and for good reason. The more science can study and measure its impacts, the more it confirms the empirical evidence of why these practices have continued since 1500 BCE. Yet, depending on the day (like the one when your child needed you 6 times throughout the night) your capacity can feel more

difficult to come by. After all, when the world is throwing so much at you, and telling you as a woman that you should be able to handle it, how can you possibly clear your mind enough to be mindful? Andy Puddicombe, a Buddhist monk and best selling author and co-founder of Headspace meditation app, breaks down his mindfulness explanation using the sky and clouds. He explains that the point of mindfulness is not about clearing the sky of all clouds forever, but it is to allow clouds of all different sizes, shapes, and density to move across the sky in their own organic way and time while you observe as a bystander, instead of an active participant.

Another simple tip to getting started with mindfulness or any new neurohack tool is by habit stacking, which is leveraging an existing habit to build a new one. You could add a simple 30 second - 2 minute mindfulness practice before or after a habit you do each day to help ingrain the habit quicker. So the next time you’re in that 5-minute show you give yourself before the world wakes up, do a few intentional breaths, say a few positive affirmations, or get mindful about the thought clouds rolling by.

Learning

Surprisingly (or not so surprisingly) educating your brain with something new is a highly effective neurohack. It can help disrupt the current neural pathways we’ve created by challenging our thoughts and behaviors with new information. Knowing what you’re interested in and your specific learning styles are really important here. Knowing if you prefer videos, audio, or a hands-on learning approach can help you stay motivated through all the chapters in that business book you picked up, or that 30-day challenge to better nutrition that has daily videos and exercises for you.

Medical

It’s also important to note there are many amazing and helpful medical neurohacks that exist and help women at all stages of their life manage their wellness. This can range from medication, to herbal supplements, to therapy, of which there are hundreds of styles and millions of practitioners ready to help.

Most importantly, wellness is a life-long journey that requires an open mind and willingness to be honest with yourself about where you are, and what specific tools may help for the unique situation you find yourself in. No matter what you are facing, there is always a way to expand your capacity if you find yourself overwhelmed. Finding the right neurohack tool is like that feeling you get when you empty the groceries from your overstuffed arms into the shopping cart you went back for because you realize you need a bigger tool for the job at hand! Relieving.

Micro -Makeovers: 5 Small Ways to Make Over Your Life in a Shifting Economy

Have you seen the price of eggs lately? As our economy changes, every aspect of our lives is getting more expensive, and the burden of finding ways to cut costs often falls on women. But economic instability doesn’t mean you have to give up life’s little joys. You can still find small ways to “make over” your life in 2023 while pinching pennies. From your beauty routine to your home decor, here are a few tips to help you live your best life in this shifting economy.

Beauty

Want to make changes to your beauty routine without breaking the bank? Start by looking at the foundation of your routine. Are you setting yourself up for an affordable routine? For instance, some haircuts require more daily styling products or frequent visits to the salon. Instead of asking your hairstylist for a high-maintenance cut like the wolf cut or curtain bangs, ask for a simpler cut.

If you want to upgrade your makeup game, watch a tutorial for a new makeup trend and replicate it using your existing products. Don’t be afraid to color outside the lines–many makeup products can be applied beyond their intended use. For instance, try using your blush as a contour product for a softer contour. When buying new products, purchase one at a time and learn how to use it before making another purchase.

Wardrobe

Fashion trends change over time, and, naturally, you may want to update your wardrobe to match the latest trends. If the economy has you tightening your budget, consider how you can make small changes to your current wardrobe rather than replacing all of your clothes.

Like your beauty routine, a “micro-makeover” for your wardrobe starts at the foundation. Focus on your basics. Do you have neutral pieces like solid-colored tops and pants? Try moving these to a separate section of your closet so you can easily find them. When you know your basics, you can make small purchases of trendy accessories to keep your wardrobe fresh.

Home

Want to apply the “micro-makeover” concept to your home? You can make small changes to your home decor to refresh your aesthetic without breaking the bank.

Before you make any purchases, start with a deep clean. Get all the clutter out of the way; dust; rearrange your furniture so each room feels “new.” This will give you a fresh perspective as you consider further changes.

Once you’ve cleaned and reorganized, decide on a few small, inexpensive changes. Change your throw pillow covers. Buy a new set of kitchen towels. Find vintage trinkets at your local thrift store.

Still want to make a major change? Pick just one. Then you can focus on finding ways to cut costs on that specific project. If you want to repaint, choose from your home improvement store’s discounted paints. Want to re-tile your backsplash? Look for a deal. Start at your local thrift store–they often have buckets of paint, lumber, and other home renovation supplies available at low prices. Otherwise, try to connect with a locally owned and operated business that may be able to help you find budget-friendly options.

Lifestyle

If your 2023 resolutions list included “learn a new hobby,” you may feel like you have to give that up. After all, if your budget is tight, how can you justify investing in a new hobby?

While you may need to adjust your expectations, you do not need to abandon hobbies altogether. In fact, a hobby can be a fantastic alternative to going out every weekend. The important thing is to choose the right hobby.

Before you decide to invest, do your research. Find out how people are engaging in the hobby in their everyday lives. Learn about the necessary “setup” costs of the

hobby and the ways that you can keep it affordable as you get started. Try to choose an inexpensive hobby that can be learned through free tutorials.

If your heart is set on a more expensive hobby, join a few online communities of fellow hobbyists. For advice about cost-cutting, check Reddit. To find pre-owned resources, join a Facebook group specific to the hobby. Most hobby communities are full of people who are passionate about what they do and excited to help others get started.

Wellness

Wellness doesn’t have to be expensive. You can learn no-cost wellness practices online through blogs, video tutorials, and social media. Find a beginner’s yoga class on Youtube, or learn meal prep hacks on TikTok. There are plenty of wellness practices that you can start without any prior knowledge. Take a walk; start journaling; drink more water. You can make over your wellness in small ways without spending money.

The Bottom Line

A shifting economy can cause fear and anxiety, but you don’t have to stop living your life. Even as you re-work your budget, you can find ways to implement “micromakeovers” to improve your life. If you remember anything, remember this: focus on your foundation, start with the basics, and keep it simple.

Jump Little Children Says Farewell to their Fans with ‘Foundering’

BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

The first time I saw Jump Little Children (JLC) perform I was 15 years old. My mom dropped my best friend Alison and I off at Ziggy’s in Winston-Salem, and agreed to pick us up at midnight. We were enamored by the band’s mix of soulful ballads and sexy grooves, incorporating everything from the cello to the pennywhistle, and even the accordion. From then on, we caught every performance JLC did in town. In college, I traveled all over with friends, roommates, and slightly-jealous boyfriends to see their shows. My wedding dance was to the JLC song, “The Way They Dance.” I even got to jump up and down to JLC’s “Dancing Virginia,” while pregnant, with my mom shouting, “Stop! The baby will fall out!”

In anticipation of JLC’s Farewell tour, it occurred to me what a big part of my life this band has been, and how much their music and shows have meant to me. Now I had the opportunity to ask what it all meant to them. I sat down with Jay Clifford, Ward Williams, and Jonathan Gray at the Grey Eagle just hours before their final Asheville show.

The band formed in the early 90s at the North Carolina School of the Arts (now the University of North Carolina School of the Arts) in Winston-Salem. Ward Williams was studying cello, Jay Clifford studied classic guitar, Matt Bivins studied oboe and clarinet, and Evan Bivins was studying visual arts. After graduating, they moved as a group to Ireland, then Boston, before settling in Charleston, doing renovation work for Matt and Evan’s father. They would work stripping the paint off old church pews during the day, and busk on Market Street in the evenings. The band got a few regular gigs, and also met bass player Jonathan Gray, who joined up.

JLC started getting radio play when DJs and program directors, like Dave Rossi, took a liking to their music.

Rossi invited them to come in and record live for 96 WAVE in Charleston. He loved their song, "Quiet," and began playing it in regular rotation. Almost instantaneously, JLC started selling out The Music Farm. The same thing happened when Georgia radio DJ Chris Williams started playing their song, "Easter Parade," on the college station, The Bulldog. The band got a following in Georgia and sold out their Athens shows. “It took certain unique personalities to latch on to us because we weren’t doing music for the larger audience,” explains Jay. “I think because of that, it’s garnered a healthy relationship with a very distinct, rich community of interesting people who’ve become fans and friends. We have the best audience there is in this business.”

JLC started touring the Southeast with bands like Seven Mary Three, Rusted Root and Edwin McCain. On the road, they formed lasting relationships with many of the fans they met after shows. “We have a personal history, which I think is really unique,” Jonathan says of JLC’s connection to their audience. In 1998, JLC put out their first record, Magazine. They had released The Licorice Tea Demos in 1995, but according to Jay, that doesn’t quite count as an official album because they were still very green and knew little about recording. JLC went on to release Vertigo in 2001, Between the Dim & the Dark in 2004, Sparrow in 2018, and Foundering in 2022.

During the planning stages of Foundering, Matt and Evan decided that they would not be returning to record the album, or do the tour. They had started their own web-design business, Bivins Brothers Creative, and wanted to focus on that. Ward recalls how strange it was to record without the Bivins, but felt the music was strong and knew the album would be great. “At first I was trepidatious,” Ward admits, but says the weirdness was overpowered by the fun of playing music with Jay and Jonathan again. “It’s sad and weird and different, but it’s good in its own right. It’s a really great way to say goodbye.”

The loss of the Bivinses did, however, create the opportunity for some new voices on the album, including female vocalists. Christina Cone adds her vocals to "Dear Son," Ruby Amanfu sings on the song "Cities of Gold," and the band’s longtime friend Cary Ann Hearst from Shovels & Rope, sings on the track, "Young Again." “We have some new experiences and new sounds,” Jay says, of Foundering “Having female vocals in the band is something I’ve always wanted.”

In the future, the band members hope to continue touring with other musical groups. Jonathan toured recently with Amanda Shires, but also works in Asheville with youth outdoor education programs Muddy Sneakers and the

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Green River Preserve Summer Camp. Ward is currently teaching music and freelancing in Ohio, but also played cello and guitar for the Broadway musical, Waitress.

Jay will continue his writing, either for a solo album, for his other band Rosebud, or co-writing with other musicians. “My favorite thing in the world is writing a song,” Jay says. While he enjoys pleasing the masses with his music, Jay says the deep, individual level on which JLC fans relate to his songs means the world to him. Those songs have been part of the band’s lives for 30 years, and they agree that playing them for the last time on the tour has been very emotional.

My feeling that JLC wrote the soundtrack to my life is shared by many of their fans, which one would think would lessen the experience. Instead, as I stand among other grown-up fans (now with a few more gray hairs and some with kids in tow) who all feel the same mix of nostalgia, excitement, and sadness as we wait to be entertained by JLC one last time, it somehow feels even more special.

You can find JLC and support them on Patreon where they will continue to post new, creative content: www.patreon.com/jumplittlechildren

Different Strokes Frontwoman Stephanie Hickling Beckman Changes the Face of Local Theatre

BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

Managing Director of Different Strokes Performing Arts Collaborative Stephanie Hickling Beckman spent years in the Asheville theatre community, avoiding ruffling feathers. When she decided to start her own theatre company, she knew her natural tendency toward reservedness was no longer an option. “When you become a mom, you’re put in a position where you have to speak up for your kid,” explains Stephanie. “Now, I feel that way about Different Strokes.”

Stephanie was born in Atlanta, Georgia, but her passion for theatre didn’t reveal itself until her family moved to Kansas City. “We generally don’t get introduced to theatre as children,” she says of people of color. “Theatre was a luxury item then, and it wasn’t a part of our culture.” At 14, Stephanie saw her first play: Timbuktu! starring Eartha Kitt. She credits that show with the beginning of her love of theatre.

Stephanie joined the drama department, but found that she got very few roles she auditioned for at her 1% black high school. “I think that’s what created the longing,” she says of performing onstage. She opted to embrace the technical side of theatre and worked as stage manager and assistant director for the school’s shows.

Stephanie was accepted to the University of Kansas, but a diagnosis of lupus prevented her from going. Instead, she moved to Georgia after her father was transferred there for work. Once she had her lupus under control, she opted to go to Georgia State University where she pursued a degree in Accounting and Business Management, but never graduated.

In 1992, Stephanie got a job with Cigna Healthcare in the mail room. She stayed with the company for 15 years and was promoted to Department Manager, but had no time

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for theatre. After seeing what a positive gay community and thriving theatre scene Asheville, North Carolina had to offer, she decided to move there and got a job with an insurance company. Then, she suffered a stroke at 38. On her way to the hospital, she recited her monologue lines from a show she was in called The Vagina Monologues to remain calm, which prevented the stroke from damaging her brain. “Theatre saved my life,” she says.

In Asheville, Stephanie could devote more time to theatre, but found that she was continually being turned away at auditions because they had no parts for a black female. Stephanie took roles in shows like The Children’s Hour and Sunshine Boys, but it wasn’t until she was cast as the French princess in Montford Park Players’ production of Love’s Labour’s Lost that she felt she had arrived, because it wasn’t just a part for a person of color. One day, she was crying to her mother about the trials of being a black actor. Her mom replied, “Baby, you don’t get to keep complaining if you’re not going to do anything about it.”

In 2010, Stephanie started Different Strokes, a theatre company prioritizing diversity on the page and on the stage. “If I had arrived, then I needed to pave the way for other actors of color to have the same opportunities,” she says, explaining that the majority of roles were written

with white actors in mind (because people see themselves in what they write), but that they do not have to be cast that way. Different Strokes inserted diversity into those plays by changing up the gender or race of the characters. They also produced plays dealing with sexual identity, gender roles and race relations.

Now, in its 13th season, Different Strokes is setting the bar for meaningful, thought-provoking local theatre. In 2019, they were selected to be the company of residency for The Diana Wortham Theater. While she was past getting race-related role offers, Stephanie admits she still gets calls asking for recommendations of other black actors. “You can’t just call actors of color when you have parts for actors of color, you have to make sure that those same audition calls go out to everybody,” she explains. “I say, ‘Don’t you know any black actors? I suggest you make those relationships then.’”

In 2021, Stephanie partnered with the American Myth Center to create a national nonprofit called A Different Myth to help writers of color create and produce their works. This April, Different Strokes will be hosting the 369 Monologue and Short Play Festival, which will feature many of those artists’ works. Different Strokes has also been doing performances of select shows for middle schoolers to help educate them about black history.

Stephanie also does a great deal of community work and serves on the board for local organizations, including the WNC chapter of the ACLU, and the Asheville Area Arts Council. “It feels overwhelming because there’s just one of me. I have to build more,” she says, adding that she would love to see Asheville become renowned for its diversity, so that she can focus all her energy into directing. “I’ve been paving a way for other people for over a decade. At some point, it’s gotta be me, feeding my dreams.”

To learn more about Different Strokes Performing Arts Collective, visit their website: www.differentstrokespac.org

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Ingles Event Manager Ruby Downes Turns Being a People-Person into a Career

BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

Born in Ashtabula, Ohio, Ingles Event Manager Ruby Downes always hoped that one day she would get to plan events. As a kid, she dreamed of becoming a wedding planner. After having children, she was an avid ‘band mom’ and ‘football mom,’ always volunteering at her kids’ events.

Shortly after giving birth to her third child, Ruby went in for a medical examination and was mistakenly presented with mammogram results for another woman. At only 37, Ruby had never had a mammogram. To clear up matters, she got her own mammogram done, and her results came back, showing Stage 4 breast cancer. “It just turned into a whirlwind after that,” Ruby recalls, referring to the series of biopsies and ultrasounds that followed. After a definitive diagnosis, she underwent radiation, followed by chemotherapy, followed by more radiation.

December 2013 marked Ruby’s final cancer treatment. Today she is – gratefully – cancer-free. During the final stages of her treatment, her former husband took a job for the radio station Kiss Country, and the family moved to Asheville, North Carolina. There, Ruby got a job as a checkout clerk at her local Ingles Market. “I’m a people person,” she explains, sharing how much she enjoyed talking with customers as she rang them up. “I liked that job because I got to interact with people.” She was eventually moved to the produce section, which she did not take to as easily. “It was too cold. I froze,” she says. In 2019, Ruby got a job as a mail carrier for the post office. The job seemed like a good fit until she was involved in a bad car accident in her delivery vehicle.

While still on leave due to the injuries she suffered in the wreck, she assisted her ex-husband who was trying to get a new career started as a photographer. He had landed a food photo shoot for Ingles, and Ruby (on crutches) joined him to help. Ingles Director of Advertising, Melissa Leavell, was overseeing the shoot and took an instant

liking to Ruby. She offered her a job on the spot as an assistant to their event coordinator. Two years after she started, the lead event coordinator announced he was leaving his position. So, Ruby was promoted to his role. “My stomach hit the floor,” she says, recalling her sudden professional success.

Ruby found that she thrived in her new role. “I can honestly say that I love going to work; I enjoy my job,” she says. “I just love what I do and I think if you love what you do, it doesn’t feel like work.” She says one of the best aspects of her job is her work family, particularly the ladies on the advertising team: Melissa Leavell, Julie Gibson and Jenny Smith.

Ruby says Ingles Markets has been incredibly understanding about her keeping her children as her top priority. “They understand that I’m a mom and they understand that my kids come first,” she says of the management at Ingles. “That is really nice. That makes it easy on moms.” She also says that she wouldn’t have made it this far without the help of her parents.

As Event Coordinator, Ruby’s job ranges from working exciting events to more tedious tasks like invoicing. She is responsible for coordinating with all event contributors, as well as printing companies that create flyers, banners, signs, etc. She gets to hire talent for events and work directly with partners and sponsors to make sure the events go off without a hitch. She also ensures that there are always fun activities for kids at her events, like cornhole, hula hoops, and bouncy houses. “I bring the party,” Ruby explains, with the help of the Ingles I Team.

While often enjoyable, Ruby admits that her job takes a lot of hard work and organization. “Making sure you have everything in line can be tricky. The job is quite fun, but you’ve got to do the hard stuff before you can do the fun stuff,” she explains of coordinating the events. She describes how one person missing a step can throw off the entire process, either by not communicating, not listening, missing an email,

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or just not doing their job. To prevent these missteps from happening, Ruby always prioritizes being authentically honest in everything she does. “I believe in honesty being the best policy, but sprinkled in a kind of delivery.”

Ingles Markets coordinates events for everything from SoCon and the Cherry Blossom Festival, to the St. Patty’s Day Parade in Georgia. They also do events to support local charities like the Ingles Magical Toy Drive, Eblen Charities Tools for Schools, and the Manna Food Bank Giving Tree. They sponsor concerts at local colleges and sports events like soccer and Family Fun Day at the Asheville Tourists’ stadium.

“I really like where I’m at,” says Ruby of her professional life. She shares that one day, she would like to move up, yet she would never want to do a job where she didn’t work directly with people. “I still want to be able to be with the public and in the community. I just don’t want to be locked up in an office; I want to be out and about.”

Ever a people-person, Ruby feels so blessed to have had the love and support of her work family as well as her actual family to help her through life’s ups and downs. All she has been through has given her a kind of fearlessness and strength in the knowledge of what she can withstand. “I’m a mother of three who beat stage four breast cancer and lived to tell the tale,” she exclaims. “I’m just happy to be alive, to be honest. I’m happy that God gave me another chance to take a crack at it. I’m happy; I’m living the dream!”

On-Air Personality Ariel Rymer Rocks the Air Waves

BY MEG HALE BRUNTON

For the past six years, we have woken up with the delightfully energetic voice of Ariel Rymer, co-host of Josh and Ariel in the Morning on Star 104.3. For her, lending her voice to our day is a lifelong dream come true. “I have a fierce commitment to staying true to myself,” Ariel explains. “When I pick up the mic, I strive to inspire others to embrace their individuality, to be fearlessly unique, and to pursue their authentic self.”

A Brevard native, Ariel was always very artistic and theatrical. “I’ve always wanted to be an entertainer in some way shape or form,” she confesses. When she was 8, she began working as an extra on locallyfilmed movies and commercials, like the 2001 teen comedy Happy Campers. “It was a really cool experience. From there, I guess I got bit by the bug.” Ariel attended Western Carolina University, where

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she intended to major in Theatre, until a friend invited her to join him on his show on the campus radio station, 90.5. She grew up listening to the radio and really enjoyed getting to be on the other end of the microphone. After that, she was offered her own show on the campus radio in the afternoons, followed by a morning show, Ariel and Ben in the Morning. After that experience, she decided to double major in Theatre and Communication, with a concentration in Broadcasting.

At 21, Ariel went into the iHeartMedia radio station in Asheville to apply for an internship with Star 104.3’s morning show, Josh and Sue in the Morning. Sue Myers was uncharacteristically late that day, and Josh Michael told Ariel to get in the seat and get ready to go live. So, she started the show with Josh and was relieved to discover they had an instant on-air chemistry. Ariel got the internship and was “Intern Ariel” on the show for the summer. “After that, I only wanted to do radio,” she says.

Once she graduated from college, Ariel was disappointed to find there were very few jobs available in broadcast in the area. She decided to take a hiatus from radio and worked as a restaurant server, followed by a AAA Carolinas Insurance agent. She spent two years selling insurance and was quite successful in the role. When she got a call from Josh, saying that Sue was leaving the show and asking if she’d like to audition, she jumped at the opportunity.

In May 2016, Ariel became Assistant Programming Director and co-host of the morning show. “Josh and I are a great match chemistry-wise,” she says. “He and I just kind of feed off each other.” She goes on to say that she and Josh have a lot in common. Both WNC natives and WCU graduates, they even discovered that they both had a grandparent that worked for NASA at The Kennedy Space Center. She adds that the show’s excellent ratings speak for themselves.

Ariel’s favorite part of her job is getting to do community and charity events and meeting local people. “What keeps me going is I get to meet listeners who say I’ve changed their life in some way, and I just remember being them. So, that means a lot,” she says. “We’re meant to just make people’s lives a little bit better, inform them, and entertain them.”

She also loves the freedom she has on the show to take on any topic that sparks her interest. Part of her role on the show is getting to report on the Hollywood gossip, which she loves. She also likes the challenge of getting to write, voice and produce commercials for her advertisers. “Every day you have to think of a new way to spin an ad for a client.”

She adds, however, that it is a 24/7 job. “If there’s a news story that breaks, we share it. If something goes wrong with the station, we have to crack open our laptops and fix it,” she explains. While the show is on from 5-10am, Ariel says she doesn’t have any trouble keeping early hours, but does rely heavily on coffee. She also acknowledges that her job includes lots of blending between her personal and professional life. “Radio life and living everyday life become intertwined. We have to bring our real life onto the radio and vice versa. It doesn’t interfere with my life; it is my life.”

While Ariel admits she is intrigued at what other opportunities are out there for her, she has no immediate plans to leave WNC. “I still have a little bit more work to do in Asheville,” she says. She continues to audition for local films though. She will also be appearing as an extra in the Hallmark Channel holiday movie, A Biltmore Christmas, which was recently filmed at The Biltmore Estate.

Though she clearly has no problem hanging with the boys, Ariel admits that she’s a “girl’s girl.” “I support women in every aspect,” she pledges. “I believe in building each woman up as much as possible. I believe in empowerment and in uplifting each other. I try to bring that to my show every morning.”

To learn more about Josh and Ariel in the Morning, visit their website: www.star1043.iheart.com/featured/josh-and-ariel-in-the-morning/

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Holly Ellege Fulfills Her Dream of Being a Homesteader

WRITTEN BY ROSA LINDA FALLON | PHOTO CREDIT: BROOKE PARKER PHOTOGRAPHY

While other young girls may have dreamed of growing up to become a doctor or a ballerina, a young Holly Ellege had another dream in mind. Originally from Jacksonville, Florida, Holly dreamt of one day owning her own farm. Growing up surrounded by alligators and citrus trees, she didn’t know much about a farmer’s way of life. “I knew nothing about farming, but it has always been my dream to own my own homestead,” she says. Holly spent her free time with her dad hunting and fishing on the St. Johns River. They’d watch late-night cowboy and Indian-themed films together, which initially sparked her interest in having her own homestead. “I always said, ‘when I grow up that’s really what I want to do. I want to have a farm in the Carolinas and hunt and fish.’” However, as Holly grew older, her dreams became overshadowed by a different lifestyle. “Of course, [that’s not the way] everyone else thinks you should live your life. So, I didn’t.” Instead, Holly got married, worked as a professional model, and lived a life of luxury, surrounded by country clubs, yachts and mansions. “I did everything else that was different from my dreams.”

After sadly getting a divorce years later, Holly began to rediscover herself. “Your whole identity when you’ve been married most of your life is that you’re your husband’s wife, or your son’s mother,” she explains. “You are kind of changed from who you are.” Many of her friends and family tried to encourage her to go back to school for psychology or a related field. She says, “I talked to a lot of people – they thought if you just garden or cook or clean, then you’re at the bottom of the food chain. I was told that I needed to go back to school for psychology instead – that I needed a title.” Holly considered their advice, but felt that that path wasn’t for her. Instead, she reconnected with her long-lost dream of becoming a homesteader.

Already in her late 40s, she realized she had nothing to lose. “I was in my late 40s, and I was afraid that if I didn’t do it now, that I would never be able to do it.” After looking for a couple of years, she found a log cabin for sale in the Hot Springs, NC area and bought it completely

sight-unseen. “I didn’t even know where it was! It was a big adventure!” After making the move, Holly slowly began building her farm. She started with chickens, which then led to bees, which then led to learning how to create her own medicine, etc. She met a local farmer down the road named Williams James (a.k.a. “Porky” James) who taught her how to hunt. He also helped her get connected with other locals who had other valuable skills she needed to learn. As Holly describes it, one thing led to another. “I just kept seeking people out,” she says. “One thing led to another.”

Now, she has a full-fledged farm with a vegetable garden, orchards, multiple nut trees, and several animals. Each year, Holly has tried to learn something new to add to her farm. “There is always something to learn,” she says.

As a homesteader, Holly also makes all the family’s medicine. When seeking tutelage to learn this skill, she wanted to learn more about moonshine in order to make certain tinctures and medicines. That was when she met Blake, who is now her husband. The couple recently got married in July 2022. Together, they also own Mountain Top Spirits, an independent distillery distribution company. Blake is also a traveling musician. Holly says they work to find time to balance the upkeep of the homestead and Blake’s busy life on the road. Most weekends, Blake is out performing at gigs while Holly stays home and runs the homestead. “It’s been a little crazy. It’s been an adventure!”

Looking back on her journey, Holly says she doesn’t regret leaving Florida to pursue her lifelong dream of becoming a homesteader. She knows she made the right decision. Now, she is living authentically by doing what she loves. “I’m doing what I love and really living my best life, so I don’t regret it.” Although she admits there is always something new to learn, and sometimes, she doesn’t even know if she is doing things right. But she doesn’t let fear of failure stop her. In fact, shortly before moving to North Carolina, she drove to a tattoo parlor and had the phrase ‘No Fear’ tattooed on her foot as a reminder to stay fearless and keep moving forward. “Every day I’m

going to move forward without fear. I’m going to remember not to be scared,” she declares.

Every day, Holly does just that. And she always wakes up with a grateful heart. “There is nothing I could want more of or that I wish was different. Everything has been a blessing.”

You can keep up with Holly and her homesteading adventures on Facebook: www.facebook.com/homesteaderholly

Realtor and Mom Desirae McGee: “I’m Not Afraid to Be Persistent”

BY ROSA LINDA FALLON

Asheville Realtor and mom Desirae McGee is not afraid to be persistent through difficult times. With everything life has thrown at her, one might be hard-pressed to find someone as resilient and fearless as her. “I’m not afraid to ask questions; I’m not afraid to be persistent,” she says. Born in Brooklyn, New York, Desirae grew up in Tampa, Florida. Growing up, she wanted to become a teacher. Desirae eventually decided the education scene wasn’t for her but she never lost her passion for helping people. Little did she know, her passion for people would one day propel her into a career in real estate.

In 2006, Desirae and her husband moved to Charlotte, North Carolina. Desirae had always dreamed of one day moving to the mountains. “Looking at the beach versus looking at the mountains, there was always no comparison,” she says. One day, they happened to drive through Hendersonville, and they absolutely fell in love with the area. The following year, the couple relocated to the nearby town of Fletcher. They’ve been there ever since. “We love Hendersonville. There is so much beauty here,” Desirae says. While she admits she may not be much of a hiker, she finds the mountains to be “peaceful and beautiful.” Now, she also enjoys helping her

clients make Western North Carolina their home, too. One might say Desirae’s journey into real estate was a natural transition. Desirae recalls, years ago, when she and her husband were shopping for their first home in Florida, she loved going to look at homes with their realtor. “He was so patient – I asked him all the questions,” she says, laughing. One day, while waiting in his office, Desirae was sitting in the lobby area when a woman walked in and struck up a conversation with her. “I told her my opinion on different areas of Tampa, and she said, ‘Oh wow, you’re such a fabulous realtor!’” Desirae remembers. “I said, ‘Oh, no, no, I’m not a realtor!’ So that kind of sparked my interest.” Fast forward to 2017, after several years of being a stay-at-home mom, Desirae told her husband that she wanted to go to real estate school. The following year, she signed on with Dixon Pacifica Real Estate (now Engel & Völkers Asheville), and hasn’t looked back since.

Desirae describes what she loves most about her job: the people she works with and the relationships she builds. She says the profession of real estate is more “relational.” “It sounds so cliche, but you’re not just helping someone find a house – you’re building a

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relationship with that person,” she says. “As realtors and advisors, we get a lot of bad press and a lot of bad reputations. I told a client of mine recently that just because we’ve exited the closing doors, doesn’t mean I’m exiting a relationship with you,” she says, adding that she enjoys building a strong connection with each person she helps. “I need it for myself, as much as to help others!”

Desirae says she also enjoys how every day is different. “I love how it’s never the same, even when the situations are similar.” While it may not always be the same, Desirae has discovered a common theme in her work: helping veterans. “Like 95% of my clients are veterans right now. Veterans have always been a passion of mine because both my dad and grandad were disabled veterans,” she explains. Desirae actively volunteers for Veteran X, a veteran’s mental health group facilitated through the Asheville VA Medical Center. “I have met so many amazing people in that group,” she says. “It’s a way I give back. They are so close to my heart. I love them.”

While she might appear to have it all together, her journey has been frought with with hills and valleys. But that has never deterred her from pressing on through the challenges. In 2014, Desirae and her husband were victims of a credit scam. As a result, they were not able to purchase a house or a car for years. In order to get around, they leased cars from the airport. Some months, they paid more to lease a car than they paid for rent. Desirae describes how she didn’t stop persisting – writing letters, making phone calls, and collecting over 800 pages of thorough documentation to prove their innocence. It took Desirae four years of persistent, non-stop effort, and finally in 2018, their credit was restored.

After years of hard work, in August 2021, she and her husband finally purchased their dream home in Hendersonville. Sadly, that following February, their home burned down — a devastating experience for the whole family. It was a tremendous loss, both emotionally and financially. “There were days where I was just miserable, I was sad. It really sucked, and financially, it was a huge blow,” Desirae explains. Despite the tremendous loss, she says the experience completely shifted her perspective to one of gratitude. “I am so thankful that my husband and I weren’t in that house, that my babies weren’t in that house,” she says. The family now affectionately calls their late house “The Ruins.”

The fire has also taught her to educate her clients more thoroughly about their insurance coverage. “I thought I was covered, but I wasn’t covered enough,” she reveals. She says that now she is able to relate to her clients more and educate them in a way that she never would’ve been able to if the fire hadn’t happened. “I lived it; I can use myself as a real example of it,” she describes. Desirae’s

clients have been appreciative of her proactive approach, and many of them now have the coverage they need in the event of a serious fire.

Desirae says that she also learned “persistence and perseverance in a totally different way.” She is now able to model these two characteristics to her three daughters more effectively. “Times can be tough, but we can, too,” she insists. “I want to show my girls that they can go and create something.” With her authentic approach to life, Desirae “cares big, loves big, and works hard for the betterment of others.” She says that if she were to write a book, the main conclusion in the summary of the book would say: ‘Yes, we encountered hard times. But that didn’t break me. It just shaped me.’

Desirae McGee Engel & Völkers Asheville desirae.mcgee@evrealestate.com (828)-435-3057

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Colleen Daly: Helping Women Take Hold of their Power Through Self-Defense

BY EMILY MCCOLLIN

“You always say you would just run away if you get in danger, but how many women can outrun the average man? And are you practicing?”

Six women take turns pummeling pads then breaking into a run at Coach Colleen Daly’s command early on a Saturday morning. They are part of an intense two-day women's self-defense workshop coached by Colleen to augment their daily lessons. Colleen Daly created this space to bring her passion for teaching women to defend themselves from aggression. However, her passion goes beyond the physical defense — Colleen is coaching women to feel the confidence that comes with being able to defend themselves in any uncomfortable situation.

Colleen’s career in helping women started in her work with marketing for a nonprofit in DC that supports survivors of sexual violence. As a lifelong fitness fanatic facing a lifestyle that comes with a nonprofit paycheck, she found a YMCA that offered group fitness. She tried heavy bag kickboxing for the first time and fell in love. She started attending classes once or twice daily with the kickboxing coach, Chris Torres. Coach Torres suggested she try mixed martial arts (MMA) starting with self defense and invited her to the local MMA gym he owns. Colleen was hooked from the start.

She found the sense of internal power she felt in kickboxing at the YMCA amplified in the art and technique of MMA. When she noticed another woman training for a competitive fight, her own competitive nature kicked in. Colleen made a deal with Coach Torres to take every class he offered, about 3-4 classes daily, for one year to train to fight. She launched herself full force into learning everything she could, attending every class possible. Then she and Torres decided to take it to another level. Colleen got certified as a lower-level self defense instructor.

The self-defense certification changed the game for her. She discovered a dynamic alignment between her passion for fitness and for supporting women who have experienced sexual aggression. She found a way to teach women to take and hold literal and figurative space in difficult situations. In her women’s self-defense classes, Colleen also began to create a culture for women to learn the art of MMA who might not be comfortable in traditional classes with male contact. Her goal was to embrace a sense of training as a community, rather than something “other” or just a “women’s class.”

In addition to the daily women’s self-defense classes, Colleen and Chris launched Guerrera Self Defense, an intense two-day self-defense workshop that encompasses everything from basic self defense to practicing saying “no.” The name Guerrera is the feminine form in Spanish of a warrior, and the program’s logo is the female bonobo monkey found in the Democratic Republic of the Congo. This unusual species of apes known for powerful males and weaker females (they don’t even have canine teeth!) is matriarchal. The females instinctively band together in times of trouble and defend themselves against much more powerful danger — an inspiring image for a women’s program that embraces the power of community defense.

Colleen believes there are very few women who have not experienced some unwanted sexual aggression or interaction. “I want to teach women to take space in the world and be confident in it.” She continues that she wants students to hear and understand that what happened to them isn’t their fault, and that self-defense isn’t a moral imperative. She wants her students to have the tools should they want to use them. She approaches training with her students with these same realistic expectations of possible unwanted interactions rather than a “fear-mongering” motivation. However, Colleen feels that no one understands the fear of violence against women like women.

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When Colleen moved to Asheville, she was excited to expand Guerrera Self Defense. Initially, the doors were closed. The first gym she approached turned her down “because women are flaky.” She started taking classes herself at American Top Team (ATT), giving the owners and other coaches a chance to know and trust her as an athlete. Eventually, they decided to give it a shot, not only giving Coach Daly the opportunity to teach the women’s daily self-defense class she loves but asking her to coach other classes to round out the ATT roster, such as striking fundamentals for mixed gender adults and Rock Steady boxing for adults suffering from Parkinson's disease. Colleen shares, “seeing a woman at the front of the room gives a sense of relatability for other women. If she can do it, so can I.” This concept has certainly proven true as the female membership at the gym continues to grow steadily, many of the women starting with self-defense classes, then moving on to the mixed gender classes as their confidence grows.

At least 1,000 women have come through the Guerrera program, now offered at Coach Torres’ gym in DC and American Top Team in Asheville. Colleen says, “At the end of the day, I want each of my students to know they are worth fighting for,” a motto well worth considering for us all.

For more information on the Guerrera program visit their website: https://guerrera.fit/

A-B Tech Launches Brewmex Program in Collaboration with Connect@ Corp.

WRITTEN BY ROSA LINDA FALLON

In collaboration with Connect@ Corporation, the Asheville-Buncombe Technical Community College’s Craft Beverage Institute of the Southeast is launching a new exchange program for brewing and distilling industry professionals. The study-abroad program, known as Brewmex, is an opportunity to join a cohort of local industry leaders and peers to discover areas for growth and potential business opportunities on an international level. Participants will learn about the general process of mezcal production via a hands-on approach, including the harvesting and cutting of the agave plant, the distillation and fermentation processes, cask maturation, and bottling in Guanajuato, Mexico. They will be eating, drinking, and experiencing the history of mezcal and other related beverage distilling all while experiencing the culture, history and heritage of the country.

“As students are trying to diversify what they’re learning, the best thing to do is to go learn it,” says A-B Tech’s Director of the Craft Beverage Institute and Chair of Brewing, Distillation and Fermentation, Jeff Irvin. “It’s a fun opportunity potentially for both students there and students who come through our program, or for anyone who wants to know about what’s

happening in that region of the world.”

Lorena Patterson, founder and CEO of Connect@ Corp., says the Bremex program is comprehensive and offers an invaluable experience. “It’s a very comprehensive program that you can take with you anywhere,” Patterson says. “You get a lot out of it – connections, business, history. You’re eating and drinking history while learning.” Connect@ Corporation specializes in helping organizations and businesses develop a better understanding of Mexican culture to improve strategies to serve and engage the Latin American population. While anyone who is interested is welcome to participate, Patterson says Brewmex would be a great fit for those who are already working in the industry or who are considering pursuing a career in brewing or distillery. “The perfect student would be industry leaders, owners of a distillery or a brewery, or a student who went through the Craft Institute, or anybody who is thinking about going into the industry,” Patterson explains.

“Application for theoretical knowledge is the hallmark for a student’s future success,” says Irvin. “Learning from the growers, processors, distillers and blenders will be a once-in-alifetime opportunity to apply what they have already absorbed.”

Included in the program are education and training modules; an orientation meeting; airfare and in-country transportation; meals and lodging; travel insurance; mezcal farms and vineyard tours; beverage sampling and testing; administrative fees; and a SpanishEnglish interpreter (as needed). After finishing the program, cohorts will receive a certificate of completion and a credential to add to their resume.

“This is a great opportunity for anyone who wants to learn about what mezcal is, or anyone who is interested in importing mezcal or tequila, or who wants to expand their business,” Patterson says of the program.

Dates for the program are May 22nd – May 28th.

The deadline to apply is April 21, 2023. To apply, visit the following link: https://forms.gle/KJ3oQv874RsvdqB98

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