partner is talking to you, you spend the time planning your answer instead of hearing your partner’s heart. Once your partner has figured this out, they will withdraw from communicating with you, because they feel they cannot trust you to hear them. Intimacy grows in a medium of trust, where your partner is able to share their thoughts and feelings with you, without the danger of being ignored or having their feelings and ideas used as ammunition against them when there is a disagreement between you. Communication is all about hearing one another’s heart – make this your goal. ACCEPT YOUR PARTNER THE WAY THEY ARE . After all there must have been something that made you think that your partner was worth marrying at the time. In fact, just taking time to think about what attracted you to one another should help to rekindle the spark and the romance in your relationship. If your partner is not keen
to do this as part of your communication time, make the effort to write them a love letter (NOT an SMS) detailing the qualities that you found attractive and the things that you appreciate about them. Some people get married with the idea that they will change or reform their partner once they are married. This is really counter-productive and is definitely not an act of love. It is never a good idea to marry someone that you intend to change. It is really unnecessary for you to point out your partner’s faults and mistakes, they are usually more aware of them than you are. It is not your job to change anyone, nor is it possible for you to do this, only God is in the business of transforming people. AFFIRMATION IS VITAL. We live in a world where the focus is on the negative – just think about the news (if you watch/ read it)….how much good news do you hear? If there is any, it is usually something Jul/Aug 2015 Brides Essence Magazine
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