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31 bull’s eye
27 kid stuff
It’s time we venture out from our little Islands
This Naples teen is ranked one of the best archers in all of Florida
Parents find mentoring Littles benefits their own children
17 ask the expert
33 heading off lice
29 teens
Going back to school in a post-Parkland world
Back to school often means back to lice; here’s what you need to know.
Bonita Springs High students talk about being first
19 single parenting
36 school success 41 steminist movement Southwest Florida student creates workshops to boost STEM girls
Tips for avoiding poisonings common this time of year
49 travel
20 in the kitchen
Enjoy a weekender at the east coast’s Pelican Grand
Quick and healthy school-night dinners
On the cover Taylor Reis, 8, a student at the North Fort Myers Academy for the Arts, models on location at J. Collin English Elementary School, also in North Fort Myers.
44 safety corner
Balancing what it means to live in the moment and learn from the past
How to start the year off right
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a mother’s view
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23 dining out
How one mom makes every moment a teachable moment
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Back to school
Over the course of 11 new school year starts, some of the best advice I’ve received was from teachers. They knew which skills my kids would need. They knew ways to bridge the summer learning gap. They even knew when I was holding on a little too tightly and lingering a little too long on that very first day of kindergarten. Teachers are on the frontlines of education, and they see every day ways that parents can help their children have a successful school year. We asked teachers and other experts in the community for their best tips (starting on page 36) so that we can all get a smart start to the school year. Organization plays a big role in school success. Over the summer, my kids and I stumbled across something that’s helping us get organized — and have a little fun. It’s been around for a couple of years, but it’s new to us, so maybe it’s new to you, too: bullet journaling. It’s a simple way to turn any notebook into a planner. It can track as little or as much as you want (like school assignments). And it leaves lots of room for creativity. It’s so fun, we’re sharing some possible bullet journaling tools and extras to help you or your children start your own (page 13). For more ideas or to see how it’s done, search “bullet journaling” online or #bujo on Instagram. (Just don’t expect perfection; that was my mistake.) We’ll share some links on our Pinterest page, too (pinterest.com/swflparentchild). In this issue, you’ll find more back-to-school goodies — and some that are just plain fun. Explore and have a wonderful first day of school.
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Losing the village Do you feel your family is alone, on its own? Maybe there’s something you can do about it.
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here’s been a lot of talk in recent years about the lack of a “village” when it comes to raising children today. Many families no longer live close to grandparents and other extended relatives. There isn’t as much participation in the community organizations that used to provide additional support, like churches. And most of us don’t even know the names of our immediate neighbors, let alone the nice couple living down the street. We’ve also found that many of us don’t even have close-knit friend groups. Families have become much more transient in recent decades and multiple moves can make it hard to form longlasting relationships. Additionally, as our lives have become more and more child focused, our schedules fill up with dance lessons and soccer games, leaving little white space for our own social lives. So, even if we do have friends, we rarely get to see them.
Knowing these things, it’s not surprising that we feel like our little nuclear families are often islands unto themselves. But could it also be possible that we are contributing to our increasing isolation? On some level, as parents, it feels like we’re under attack today. Nothing we do is right and everyone has an opinion. So, we’ve hunkered down and built walls around ourselves, not wanting to let anybody in. The result has become this sort of Wild West of parenting where “You don’t tell me how to parent my kids, and I won’t tell you how to parent yours.” But just because we don’t all look the same or have the same parenting philosophies, it doesn’t mean that because we do things differently, one of us is wrong and one is right. It doesn’t mean that we can’t find some common ground or that we don’t have anything positive to offer one another. Unfortunately, somewhere along the line in the last generation or so, we let our collective worry about being judged by others somehow overtake our collective sense of community. We became afraid to offer help or advice when we saw a new mother strug-
gling, because we thought she’d only hear criticism. Even though when we were in her place, lonely, scared and exhausted, we would have welcomed any genuine care and concern. We started looking away rather than intervening when a child on the playground was acting out and their parent hadn’t seen, because we were certain the child’s parent would feel we crossed a line. Even though if it had been our child misbehaving, we absolutely would have appreciated someone alerting us to the fact our kid was being a jerk. We’ve learned to justify keeping our mouths closed when we’ve known one of our teen’s friends was drinking too much or taking drugs or doing things online that could be dangerous, because we felt it wasn’t our place to say anything. Even though we would want more than anything for someone to tell us if we were missing the signs that our child was in trouble. Yes, today’s families feel more and more like islands unto themselves, but part of that seems to be because we’ve gotten so afraid of building bridges. Maybe what we should really be afraid of is reaching the point when we forget how.
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It’s the dog days of August, so spoil your four-legged kid with these great finds.
Ergonomic play Who wants a plain old twig when you can sink your teeth into the flexible, springy Zwig. Made with Zogoflex, this fetching stick is bendy and squishy but durable for moderate and persistent chewers. It bounces erratically, too, keeping Fido interested. Dishwasher safe. Buoyant in water. $16.95 at westpaw.com.
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Super foods for a super pup
The PawPail — developed by Naples resident and father of two Michael J. Harakal — keeps all your pet’s waste supplies in one spot. There’s a bag dispenser, a carbon filter to control odors and a bin inside to collect all the stinky stuff until time for permanent disposal. $129.99 includes bags and filters at pawpail.com.
Your fur baby won’t even realize it’s good for them. Made with ingredients even a young child can pronounce, Dogs Love Kale treats were developed by a Naples couple. The Chicka version is made with chick pea flour, organic chicken, kale, blueberry, flax and rosemary. Retails for $9.99. Available at dogslovekale.com.
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Show off your furry fellow at Yappy Hour. The Bell Tower Shops in south Fort Myers rolls out the red carpet for pets on select Friday nights. On August 11, there’s a special Back to School Block Party Yappy Hour (admittedly more of a family date) with live music, bounce house, sidewalk chalk station and other activities. Owners and dogs are encouraged to don their favorite school apparel, and the most spirited pup wins a prize.
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Create your Bullet journaling is a practice that takes an ordinary notebook and turns it into a personalized planner, a great way to keep track of school assignments and random thoughts. How-to videos abound online (search “bullet journaling” or #bujo). Here are some cool tools to help you create yours.
The pens
The notebook Any bound book of paper will do. With lines. Without lines. On a grid. The one that tends to get recommended most often is the dotted layout by Moleskine. Pick a size that’s small enough to fit in your bag but big enough to do what you need. Prices for the Classic Moleskine start at $14.95 at moleskine.com. Also available at major retailers.
Add color Add more depth and color to your bullet journal with highlighters. This set of six Stabilo Boss Original highlighters sells for $10 on Amazon.com. It’s been a favorite in Europe for decades. Plus, it can stay open 4 hours and not dry out, and it’s refillable.
Any pen will do. We like the Triplus Fineliner 334 by Staedtler. It has a superfine tip, an ergonomic triangular shape, and if you leave it uncapped for a few days, it won’t dry out. Nice, right? The ink also washes out of most fabrics. Another plus. Available in 30 colors. $18 for 10pack, $36 for 20-pack at staedtler.us.
Do I smell citrus? Scratch-and-sniff washi tapes by Recollections add a bit of fun — and scent — to your custom planner. Use them as décor, for framing or whatever your creative mind conjures. Washi tape comes in a variety of scents and colors, including lemon, caramel, pumpkin and bubblegum. $5.99 for a 2-pack at Michael’s.
Mistakes happen Don’t let them fluster you. We love Wite-Out EZ Correct correction tape by Bic. A pack of two sells for $5.99 at Office Depot and OfficeMax. You might even find them in a back-to-school sale.
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Want to build a scarecrow? Youth groups and businesses have until September 21 to register to enter the annual Scarecrows in the Park contest. This Lakes Park Enrichment Foundation competition is always a highlight at the Lakes Park Fall Festival in October. For details on how to enter, visit lakesparkenrichment foundation.org.
“Ding” photo contest opens to all ages Photographers young and old are invited to enter the “Ding” Darling Days Amateur Nature Photography Contest. Each photo entered must have been taken at the J.N. “Ding” Darling National Wildlife Refuge within the last two years. The winners will be heralded at the weeklong “Ding” Days celebration in October and could win up to $250. The entry fee is $25 for two photos. Deadline is September 15. Rules and entry form are available at dingdarlingsociety.org/articles/ photo-contests.
“Green Heron Raising its Crest” by Ben Vanos took first place in the 2017 “Ding” Darling Days Amateur Nature Photography Contest.
P&C joins CCCR Business 100 Southwest Florida Parent & Child magazine has been added to the CCCR Business 100, a group of philanthropic businesses that support the Collier Child Care Resources’ early learning programs. In addition, 12 other new members were added to the group in June: 859 Print, Skrivan & Gibbs, Inspirations Artists and Design Gallery, Essential Chiropractic, Sunshine Ace Hardware, Allegra Naples, Hilton Naples, Sweet Art Gallery, AVMedia, Vineyards Country Club, Makara & Associates and Concierge Insurance Partners.
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Special cell phone pocket aims to save lives A nonprofit organization that has been rallying around the effort to prevent children from dying in hot cars announced this summer a new safety tool for families. KidsAndCars.org now offers CellSlip, a canvas pouch with a lining that blocks cell signals and notifications. Slip your phone in and leave it in the backseat (KidsAndCars.org recommends in the pocket behind the seat out of reach of your child), thus preventing distraction from phone notifications while you drive and giving you another reminder to check the backseat before you leave the vehicle. When you take the phone out of the CellSlip, you’ll get the notifications you missed while driving. Sells for $6.50 at kidsandcars.org/product/cellslip.
New this month: The Little Gym and two child care centers We may have mentioned these before, but they’re worth bringing up again. Southwest Florida welcomes the opening of two early learning centers for littles and south Fort Myers’ The Little Gym. » The Little Gym offers numerous classes to get kids moving, from as young as 4 months up to 12 years old. A grand opening celebration is Saturday, August 11, and classes begin August 13. The Little Gym of Fort Myers is at 13211 McGregor Blvd., south Fort Myers. Get details at thelittlegym.com/fortmyersfl or call 239-362-0335. » Baby Rays Early Learning at Seacrest Country Day School in Naples opens
this month, serving infants from 6 weeks to 3 years old. Get details at seacrest.org/ admissions/babyrays. » Connection Point Early Learning Center is opening on the campus of the First Christian Church of Fort Myers. The preschool serves ages 1-5, including a Voluntary PreKindergarten class. Meet the teachers 2 to 4 p.m. Saturday, August 11. Details available at cpointelc. com.
Is your boss family-friendly? Do you work for a family-friendly business? Collier Child Care Resources is accepting nominations for its 2018 Family Friendly Business Awards for Lee and Collier businesses. They’re looking for employers that have policies and programs that help employees with families. Think flex time, health insurance, employeesponsored child care. To nominate a business, or see past winners, visit collierchildcare.org or email JoAnn Lawrence at joannl@collierchildcare.org. Deadline to nominate is Friday, August 24.
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The new back-to-school worry How to prepare your children for a new school year in a post-Parkland world
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hen it comes to back-to-school, I used to worry about my kids not having the right clothes, or the best school supplies or having the dorkiest shoes on their first day of school. But those days are long gone. With school shootings happening closer to home, many parents and students are left worried about the possibility of something like this affecting our communities, our schools and our children. I am a mother of two (one in middle school and one in day care), and I think about this on a daily basis. Did I mention my husband is also a high school teacher and I work in a middle school? Um, anxiety! I’m guessing I’m not alone when thinking that this year is different. This year there are new worries: worries about their safety, worries about being able to communicate with them throughout the day and worries about what I cannot control while my little ones are out of my sight. So how do I manage my own worries, as well as those of my children and clients? After working with many families, the school system, doing research, and most importantly, figuring out what works for other families, I have compiled some tips for parents: To begin, it’s crucial that you practice self-care and stay in tune with your
emotions. It’s easy to get lost in the fear of what-if (which is extremely anxietyproducing) and become paralyzed in the dread of sending your littles off to school. But to help them be confident learners at school, they need to see that same confidence in you. Be honest with yourself about your fears and talk with your close support person — a partner or spouse, a loved one or a good friend. If you find that your worries are taking up the greater part of your day for over a week or so, or if you are having difficulty sleeping at night because of them, it might be a sign that talking with a professional could help. Open up: Sometimes putting words to worries helps to give them less power over you. Talking with your little ones is also important, while being mindful of their age and developmental level. What one child may be able to understand might be different for another, so try to have conversations separately with each one. Let them take the lead on the conversation so that you have an idea of their worries and how they are already processing the school shootings in their little world. Consider asking them about what they have heard, what their friends are saying and what they have read on social media. Be mindful of voicing your worries to them, as the goal is to ease their worries, not to add yours on them. Reassure them that
their school is a safe place, even if you are worried yourself. Give just enough information to answer their questions without overloading them with more unknowns to worry about. Just as giving voice to your fears and worries gives them less power over you, this process will help ease the power that worries have over your child. Allow your child to voice their worries while validating them at the same time. This can look something like: “Mom, I’m scared that someone is going to shoot me and my friends at school.” Your response could look something like, “That does sound scary; I would be scared, too. Can you tell me more about that scary thought?” This opens up the conversation, allowing your child to talk honestly about their fears while giving you the opportunity to provide support and comfort to their feelings. There is no fear or worry too silly to feel or talk about. Encourage them to feel the feelings they have, while again validating them throughout the conversation. This increases confidence and empowers them to speak up about their fears. If you have a child younger than 6, try using feelings charts, books or online printouts. Often the younger ones have mixed emotions that they don’t quite have the vocabulary to identify. Try not to make promises that are
ASK THE EXPERT We welcome questions from readers. Ask us anything. We’ll find the answer. Send your question to editor@swflparentchild.com with “Ask the Expert” in the subject line.
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impossible keep. Before having this conversation, think about what you can and can’t control. To me this is similar to riding with my little one on a Disney ride. I can help her get in the seat, latch the buckle, make sure she doesn’t stand up, prepare her for the big drop, etc., but I am not in control of the start or stop button, I can’t control the behaviors of other passengers, and I can’t guarantee the stability of the ride. You are in control of the love you give your child, the clear communication you have with them and the promise that you will always do everything you can to keep them safe. Staying connected with your child’s school can also ease your worries while lending a hand in preventing something like this from happening again. Show up, ask how you can help and get to know the teachers, staff and students. If you work during the day, sign up for the PTO or volunteer your time on field trips and after-school events. Take a day off here and there to be in the classroom (it will pay its weight in gold). Look around the classroom and reach out to students who seem less connected with the others; find ones that seem down or apprehensive to join groups. One of the greatest ways to help our children is to instill a sense of family and community within our schools. Encourage students to be active and involved in groups, clubs and sports, to build their social and support networks (sometimes they need some direction here) and to actively engage with their teachers and other school staff. If you see a student who seems to be down, frequently alone, bullied by other students or just a little off one day, speak-up and tell the counselor, teacher, principal, anyone. Trust your gut and offer them some support. Lastly, talk with your support person about having a plan in place should something occur. Talk with the school about their procedures in terms of emergencies and how they handle these situations. Each school practices active shooter drills, so they should be able to answer your questions about this procedure. Consider asking how students will be kept safe during a possible situation, how communication will be handled and about active shooter staff training. You could also ask about mental health services that are provided in your child’s school, perhaps even write your local school district and state representatives to ask about improving student mental health services in schools. These things will help ease your fears by answering unknown questions, teaching you about the safety procedures already in place and increasing your participation at your child’s school. There are no magic words to make these conversations easy. Be strong, be supportive and simply continue to be the loving parent you already are. Discussions about school shootings are uncomfortable and tough to have with your little ones, but they will help ease both of your worries and help you have a sense of control. So, as we embark on the 2018-19 school year, just remember there is plenty of space to worry about the heavy stuff; don’t let that spoil your year. Continue pricing the cheapest pencils, hunting down the best deal for shorts and scouring those BOGO ads for school shoes.
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Echo Copeland is a single mom who lives in Southwest Florida.
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few months ago, I went to my doctor’s office and noticed a sign behind the receptionist. On a small, square, gothic black canvas painted in white calligraphy were the words (now my new mantra): “Don’t look back, you’re not going that way.” How factual is that statement — for the most part. We’ve all heard it many times. Don’t dwell on the past. Don’t beat yourself up about mistakes you’ve made before. And the cute one, don’t cry over spilled milk. All are true, all make sense, except for one little, miniscule, tiny disclaimer: You have to look at the past or your history to make changes and ensure you do better next time. As a single parent, this is what I endeavor to do. I often find myself stuck in situations that I could have avoided had I reviewed the past patterns and mistakes that led me to similarly awful situations. God willing, by the time you read this, I will be settling into my new job as a teacher in a middle school. Again. I’m grateful that I finally figured out what I was called to do, and I’m even more pleased that I’ve been doing it for a while now, and that is to teach. In the past decade, I have been a guest teacher, teaching children from prekindergarten all the way to college level. I have taught as an interim music and math teacher, an advanced reading teacher,
and most recently, an adult education computer program teacher. I have to be honest, I’m really going to miss teaching Quick Books (sniff )! I feel that teaching in middle school is where I belong, the right fit as a parent and as an educator. I do look forward to going back to teach students under the age of 65. I also get the privilege of teaching my daughter’s grade. It’s always great when you have the opportunity to start over. I should know. As a single parent, change has become my greatest friend. Yes, it used to be an enemy, but I have learned to embrace it and look forward to it, like an old pal you never tire of seeing. Change is far from simple, but such a necessary part of the fabric of our lives. We as single parents,
in particular, know this very well. Many of us who have been single for years realize that and hopefully embrace the importance of change. If not, it is imperative that we do; change is the one thing that is constant. August is here my friends. I always look to this month as a time of rebirth — not only because I have a birthday (I turn 44 years old, thank God!) but because I remember being engaged this time last year (that’s another column). I had to start over from that, and I had to make changes that were particularly distressing, but here is a new year, for me, for you. Your kids go back to school after an amazing summer, albeit a short one. It’s time to review what they will need to know this year. Remember what you learned from the past school year, and make good changes for the coming one. Make this the year to connect with your child’s teacher (By the way, I relish parent phone calls). Make it a point to be active in your kids’ lives; yes, even high school and college kids need our extra guidance. Pay attention to signs that there may be something amiss. As a parent, we mostly know our kids’ patterns; be vigilant and ask God to guide you, as I do daily. Single parents, all parents, I’m here for your kiddos — I will do my best with the ones I have the privilege of teaching. Here’s to a God-blessed year.
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After turning the calendar to August, it’s OK to freak out when you realize the first day of school is here (August 10 for Lee County Public Schools, August 15 for Collier County Public Schools). Is it my imagination or is the first day of school getting earlier every year? Any way you slice it, the reality is the lazy days of summer are over. Casual summer dinners are soon replaced by the daily grind of juggling — eating a healthy breakfast, getting to school and work on time, chauffeuring children to after-school activities, rushing home to prepare and eat dinner, supervising homework and going to bed at a decent hour — repeat for 180 days.
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Francine Wolfe Schwartz is a food and consumer product consultant in Southwest Florida.
This recipe is so easy you can prepare it on a weeknight. Older children with basic cooking skills can cook most of the meal with a little help preparing the shrimp. INGREDIENTS For the slaw: » 1 jalapeño, halved, seeds removed and sliced (optional) » 1 package of coleslaw mix » 1/2 cup whole milk » 1/2 cup mayonnaise* » 1 tablespoon sugar* » 1 teaspoon white vinegar* » 1/4 teaspoon cayenne pepper (optional) or freshly ground pepper* » 1/4 teaspoon salt* » 1/2 bunch fresh cilantro, roughly chopped For the shrimp: » 2 tablespoons vegetable oil* » 11/2 pounds medium shrimp, fresh or previously frozen, already peeled and deveined » 1 (6-ounce) can Mexican tomato sauce or
enchilada sauce* » 1/2 teaspoon ground cumin* For serving: » 16 corn tortillas, warmed according to package instructions » Pico de gallo (good quality jarred) » Avocado slices » Sour cream » Prepackage already shredded Mexican cheese blend » Lime wedges * Pantry or refrigerated ingredients to keep on hand DIRECTIONS Prepare the slaw: In a large bowl, combine the sliced jalapeño (if using) and slaw mix. In a separate bowl, mix the milk,
mayonnaise, sugar, vinegar, cayenne or ground pepper and salt. Pour the dressing mixture over the slaw and toss to combine. (Cover and refrigerate for a couple of hours, if you have the time.) Before serving, toss in the cilantro. Prepare the shrimp: Heat the oil in a heavy skillet over high heat. Add the shrimp and cook 2 to 3 minutes or just until opaque. Reduce the heat to low and pour in the enchilada sauce, stirring to combine. Stir in the cumin and cook for another 1 to 2 minutes. Serve separate bowls of the shrimp, slaw, pico de gallo, avocado slices, sour cream, cheese and lime wedges. Wrap the warm tortillas in foil or a cloth napkin. Let everyone build their own tacos. SOURCE: adapted from foodnetwork.com
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With all the craziness of each day, it’s dinnertime that seems to suffer first from this constant time crunch. It just gets easier and easier to rely on fast food, pizza or not-so-healthy quick dinners cooked at home. You can win the healthy dinner challenge in one simple word: organization (and I mean a very simple organizational plan). By setting aside about an hour per week to map out five weeknight meals, you will have a solid framework for putting a healthy dinner on the table each night. Don’t worry about what’s on sale at the grocery store or being too creative. The object is quick and healthy. It’s no secret your child’s academic and sports performance
depends on good nutrition. (And you, too!) To save time (both preparation and thinking), I like using a type of rotating menu philosophy based on the main feature of each meal. Let’s use my family as an example. I know I’m going to cook meals featuring our favorites, such as pasta, chicken, fish or seafood, a big salad or vegetarian and a not-so-authentic Asian stir-fry. No, it’s not boring. With all the must-cook family favorites and the recipes you use, the featured foods dinners won’t seem to repeat from week to week. Next, once I decide on the main foods, I plan the side dishes. They can be as easy as quick-cooking couscous,
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a salad made from pre-washed lettuces, frozen vegetables, etc. From these ideas, I now have a week of dinner menus, and it’s easy to write a grocery list. Another tip: I try to keep the pantry or freezer stocked with ingredients for side dishes just in case I run short on time grocery shopping and can only pick-up the entrée ingredients. Using this philosophy, you can expand your family’s favorite meals into a predictable bi-weekly or even monthly plan. I think you get the drift. Plan straightforward meals during the week and leave creativity for the weekend. Keep it simple and write a game plan.
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Linking cultures and cuisines LYNQ offers something for everyone. BY ANN M. O’PHELAN
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he name “LYNQ” sounded to me like an interesting name for a restaurant, and as it turns out, it is. LYNQ is all about linking various cultures and cuisines, offering chicken fingers alongside California rolls on the kids’ menu and Whit’s fried chicken ($13) and tuna rolls ($8) on the adult menu. The menu offers steaks, seafood, sushi, ramen, tacos and a wide variety of cocktails for mom and dad. I first noticed the name at Ada’s Natural Market in south Fort Myers, where they have a sushi and ramen bar along with grab-n-go boxes (the bar’s open 11:30 a.m.-2:30 p.m. and 5-7 p.m. MondayFriday). Then I saw it got great reviews on TripAdvisor. So I decided to take my family there. We soon found ourselves seated in a comfy half booth/table, where we watched cool flicks of old and new music videos — linking various genres and periods. What also linked was the décor. There was an array of interesting lighting, mixed textures (bricks and metal), and a variety of seating arrangements — some more open and some cozier. Somehow it all blended, or linked, together perfectly. We were seated promptly, and our waitress was well-informed about the menu items. She was also accommodating and friendly. We first ordered the cheese quesadilla off the kids’ menu, along with the Strawberry Fields salad off the regular menu to share ($9). The salad was made with spinach, romaine, arugula, snow peas, carrots and strawberries, and topped with a homemade strawberry kiwi vinaigrette.
All was fresh and delicious. The vinaigrette was perfect in flavor with just the right amount of sweetness. Next, we tried an order of flour tortilla veggie tacos with mushrooms, bok choy, red onion, roasted tomatoes, red bell peppers, zucchini and a variety of other mixed veggies ($12). The tacos were flavorful and filling. We had planned to order dessert — and the in-house pastry shop had numerous offerings, such as cheesecake, bread pudding and creme brulee — however, the dishes were filling and we were perfectly filled. Maybe when we return, which we will, we will check out the outdoor patio seating and bring along our (leashed) dog as it’s pet-friendly.
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ZIP YOUR LIP Five phrases your child’s coach doesn’t want to hear
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fter being married to a man who’s coached for 29 years, I will tell you that as much as I respect some coaches, they are undoubtedly very, very human. There are things that irritate them and test their patience, especially when it comes to things their athletes say. It’s not necessarily the words that are so annoying, as it is the attitude that those words represent. Words can be shut down; attitudes are harder to reform. After living with a coach and talking with a lot of coaches over the years, I’ve chosen five phrases that most of them do not like to hear and the attitude that usually accompanies those words.
“I can’t.” Sometimes kids say this and don’t really mean it. They are just reacting to a failed first try. But other times it truly represents a defeatist attitude. An athlete who is negative about their effort and shows no motivation to improve is frustrating for any coach.
“They messed up; I can do that better, Coach!” There was a reason that the coach put the other player in that position. Athletes who complain about it to the coach or to the team to build themselves up are exhibiting a lack of sportsmanship.
“That was their fault.” An athlete who blames teammates struggles to improve because they cannot find fault with themselves. This is never an encouraging sign for coaches.
“They’re mean and hog the ball. I don’t like them.” Your child might think that complaining about a teammate will make the other player look bad to the coach while making your child look better; but really it makes your child look petty. Instead of using these types of phrases, encourage your child to talk with the coach one-on-one and express what they are feeling underneath these types of comments. You may need to coach them through this a bit and help them understand what they are feeling before they talk with the coach. And then encourage your child to let their effort do the talking for them. When that happens, the coach will be all ears.
“Do we have to do this? I hate this!” Let’s all agree that hard work is not fun. But athletes who make a habit of complaining can get on any coach’s nerves, just the same as you would get on your kids’ nerves if you constantly complained about having to fix dinner, clean clothes, go to work and taxi them everywhere. Help them understand that complaining never makes things better and only irritates those who hear it.
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Families gain insight Becoming a mentor with Big Brothers Big Sisters of America enriches the entire family. STORY AND PHOTOS BY ANDREA STETSON
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rva and Karen Trotter cheer on three young children as they participate in a weekly athletic program in Naples. The children giggle and play on the field, they teach each other funny dance moves and talk about their weekend plans to have a barbecue and swim. While they look like a family of five, only Mia Trotter, 5, and Maya Trotter, 3, are biologically part of the family. De’Shawn, 8, is part of the Big Brothers Big Sisters of America program. Since Erva became a Big Brother in January, he has had lots of one-on-one time with De’Shawn. He’s helped the young boy with homework, taught him sports and taken him to sporting events. But he’s also invited him to many activities with his family. While many people envision the Big Brothers Big Sisters program as exclusive to the Bigs and Littles, it can benefit an entire family. “I want my kids to know about just being a help and support for someone in need,” Erva says. “They are so small now that they think he is my brother, but I want them to see later as they grow up that it is really nice to mentor and help
someone. And maybe one day they will do that for a younger girl.” Having a Little not only benefits a child in need, but the children of the Big, says Michelle Groenings, mentor manager with Big Brothers Big Sisters of the Sun Coast. “I think most importantly it brings perspective,” Michelle says. “At least from my own perspective. I am a mom, and I have a Little as well. I have a 17-year-old that too often thinks life is easy, and it’s just good to be around other children that don’t have the opportunity that they have. It makes their lives less self-centered. “It’s important even at a very young age for kids to learn humility and to learn that giving back doesn’t have to be patronizing. You can welcome someone as a family member without patronizing them. Young children learn we’re all responsible for one another. One of the most beautiful gifts you can give a child as a parent is that insight.” Michelle’s daughter is a cheerleader and made the team after years of dance lessons. Michelle’s Little would like to be a cheerleader, but could never afford the training. “My daughter sees that and thinks maybe she does have it
Erva Trotter is shares the ex a Big Brother to De’Sh awn, 8. He perience wit h his daughters M wife, Karen, and ia, 5, and M aya, 3.
“It’s important even at a very young age for kids to learn humility and to learn that giving back doesn’t have to be patronizing. You can welcome someone as a family member without patronizing them. Young children learn we’re all responsible for one another. One of the most beautiful gifts you can give a child as a parent is that insight. — MICHELLE GROENINGS
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good,” Michelle says. “I think in this day and age a lot of kids need to be reminded of what privileges they do have. A lot of them spend a lot of time complaining about what they don’t have. “I think it’s important for them to see that my Little is a happy young woman. She is sweet. She is kind. Just because she does not have these opportunities doesn’t mean that she is less of a person. Sometimes you don’t need all that stuff.” Michelle says many people think they can’t be a Big if they have children of their own. “That is the greatest misgiving,” she explains. “A lot of them say, ‘Oh, I have a 3-year-old, and I have to spend time with my kid.’ You work on your one-on-one relationship with your Little and then you integrate them into your life.” That’s exactly what Erva did. He enjoys his mentoring time with De’Shawn. He encourages his Little to do well in school, is teaching him football and how to swim. But most of all he likes showing De’Shawn family life while showing his children life with De’Shawn. “He comes over and has dinner with us for family nights,” Erva describes. “We sit at the table and just sit and talk about our day. He’s used to just eating in front of the TV, but we sit and talk at the table.” Erva, who is the system director of environmental services for Physicians Regional Healthcare System, says he and De’Shawn have something in common. Erva lives with his wife and two daughters and De’Shawn lives with his mother and three sisters. So they are usually the only males. That makes their time together extra special. “We have guys’ time,” he says. De’Shawn loves being part of the Trotter family. “He’s so nice,” De’Shawn says. “We go to Bounce; we go to Chuck E. Cheese; we go to baseball games; we go to hockey games. I like to do everything with him. They are all pretty cool. I like to play with their toys. They are pretty nice.” The girls think the relationship is nice, too. “I like to play with De’Shawn,” Mia says. “I like to go in the pool with De’Shawn,” Maya adds. The girls enjoy playing Uno, Yahtzee and other games with De’Shawn. De’Shawn has fun teaching them dances. “For the girls, they see him as a big brother,” Karen says. “He’s their friend. They are always asking when he is coming over. For me, you are able to have a positive influence on somebody’s life.” Erva hopes as his girls get older they will understand even more about what De’Shawn means to the family. “I just wanted to give back to the community,” Erva says. “Sometimes you can volunteer outside of church and find some way to help somebody’s life and to be a mentor.” Michelle hopes more families will mentor a Little. “It’s eye opening,” she says. “Once you bring a Little into the family, it is a new perspective.” EDITOR’S NOTE: De’Shawn is only referred to by his first name as requested by Big Brother Big Sisters of America.
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Freshman students get off the bus in August 2017 for their first day of school at the temporary campus of Bonita Springs High School while the new school building was under construction.
Making history in Bonita Students talk about being the first at the new Bonita Springs High School. BY ANDREA STETSON
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he students were captains, school leaders and football stars, and they were only freshman. Now as they head into their sophomore year, they are to make history on their own school campus for the first time. Last year, 260 freshmen became the first students of the new Bonita Springs High School in its temporary location in portable classrooms beside Estero High School. Now they have their own building in Bonita Springs, and once again they get to be leaders. This year, only freshmen and sophomores will walk the halls of Bonita High. Next year, juniors will be added, and by the fall of 2020, students in all four levels of high school will fill the building. The upcoming sophomores are excited about another new start and another year of being the top bull sharks,
the school’s mascot. “We are going to create a future for others,” says Katie Martinez, one of Bonita High’s first students. “We can set the tone for everything for the next three years,” says Aidan Piotrowski. “It is nice to have everyone look up at us,” Taylin Fernandez adds. “It is nice to make history,” says Samantha Deviese. After spending a year in portables, the students are excited about moving into the new building. “It will be nice to have a place to practice at,” says Taylin, who competes on the volleyball and track teams. “We will have nice equipment, and it will be our equipment.” “I am excited about actually moving into a school,” Samantha says. The students say they had lots of
huge opportunities being in a freshmanonly high school, and they expect that to continue this year. “It is nice not to be that one kid in 2,000,” Aidan says. “You have a better chance of getting noticed than if you went to a bigger school. It is a smaller class, but you have a lot more opportunities. Usually it’s seniors that are captains, but here you have a chance.” “We represent our school,” Taylin says. “We went around to different middle schools, and we represented it and told them why they should choose Bonita.” Ethan Saure made history last year when he made the first touchdown for Bonita Springs High School. The football, in a display case in the main office, has a plaque with his name and his feat against Cape Coral High School in October 2017.
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“At first I wanted to go to Estero,” Ethan admits. “I got moved here, and I am happy to be here. It is nice to be the first.” Jeff Estes Jr. is the principal of Bonita Springs High. He says this is the first time a new school building in Lee County will open with just a freshman and sophomore class. “This is a little bit unusual,” he says. “When the school is built, we usually welcome in all four grade levels. What we requested is one grade level at a time, so we could hire 15 to 20 teachers at a time to keep the quality. There is a real teacher shortage. By doing one grade level at a time, we can still be picky.” Estes wants his students to have the best opportunities he can provide, and that includes much more than great teachers. Bonita High will be an FGCU Collegiate Academy. The high school has a partnership with Florida Gulf Coast University for dual enrollment. The hybrid plan calls for some online college classes, some taught on campus and some at the university. “Students that complete the entire program will have 60 to 62 dual enrollment hours,” Estes says. The new high school also has an aerospace academy. There are flight simulators and flight drones. Students can work toward getting their flight license. Students in the health academy can become certified nursing assistants, and Estes hopes to expand the program so students can become licensed practical nurses. “We have a huge need for nurses,” he says. There will be a HVAC academy where students learn the air conditioning business. The STEM Academy will focus on sustainable energy. “We have a heavy dedication to the arts,” Estes adds. The school also has just about every sport except wrestling. Estes says 84 percent of students are involved in an extracurricular activity. Another advantage to this new school is the camaraderie of both students and teachers. “We had a golf tournament on Saturday, and more than half the teachers showed up,” Estes says about the previous school year. “Homecoming, every teacher showed up. They are amazing people. They love kids. This is one of the amazing schools because everyone here wants to be here.” Technology has made the construction of this school different from new schools in the past. It has allowed Estes to keep students, parents and teachers informed about the future and it documents the past. “With technology, it is easier to preserve a lot of this stuff,” Estes says. “And we have drone video of the panels on the ground and how it will become the building.” Now students and teachers are about to set foot into the new high school for the first time, and they are ready to make history. “It is definitely something the city has needed and wanted for a long time,” Estes says.
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Tucker Hanks practices in his backyard prior to a national competition in June.
STORY BY ANDREA STETSON • PHOTOS BY K ATIE KLANN
ON TARGET TO WIN Naples teen, among best archers in Florida, takes aim at his father’s No. 2 spot in state.
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ucker Hanks is only 15 years old, but he already ranks third in the state in men’s archery. Now he’s closing in on the No. 2 spot held by his father, Doug Hanks, and hopes to move up to that place during his next state competition in August. The sophomore at Naples High School started shooting with a bow and arrow when he was 5 years old. “My dad got me a bow, and I loved it ever since,” Tucker says. “Competitively I have been doing it for a little over a year.”
Yet in that year he has steadily moved up in the ranks as he goes from competition to competition around the state and the nation. “I have been winning a lot of the state shoots,” Tucker says. In June, he received two gold medals in the Sunshine State Games and set a state record in field archery. When Tucker competes, he says there are usually only four or five other kids at his level. The rest of his competition is men. Tucker practices two hours a day in his Naples backyard. He stands in a garage area under his elevated home and
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Tucker Hanks practices in his backyard prior to a national competition.
aims at a target 20 yards away in the backyard. For longer target practice, he heads to Lee County Archers in North Fort Myers once or twice a week. “I don't take lessons,” Tucker says. “I learned through my dad and a lot of people at Lee County Archers, and there are some resources online. Podcasts have been helpful. YouTube and podcasts are what I use.” His dad says these online resources are helpful. “It’s a great way to learn,” Doug says. “It is hard to find really good technical information. This is all up to date. There is no delay.” Tucker and Doug originally started shooting for game hunting. It was something they did together each fall in Florida and the Midwest. But they wanted a longer shooting season, so they decided to start competing. “This year I have really been taking the competition seriously,” Tucker says. “I had been doing cross country, and I still do a bit but not as much as I used to. This really has been taking precedence.” This summer he competed in Georgia and Illinois. During the school year,
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he sticks mostly to state events. “Two out of three weekends we are going somewhere in the state,” Tucker says. At competitions, he takes part in a wide array of events, both indoor and outdoor, with targets that range from 20 to 80 yards away. “This is 20 yards,” Tucker says during my visit to his home as he stands among the building’s pilings, “which is what they shoot for indoor archery.” He says indoor competitions are the most nerve-wracking. “Indoors by far is the most stressful,” he says. “You are in a building, and you are elbow to elbow with people shooting.” Tucker shoots at not only flat, circular targets during competitions, but also 3-D foam animals. He says the latter is challenging, because you often can’t see the target on the animal. His favorite event takes place in the woods. “I like field archery the best,” he says. “It is a course in the woods with 28 targets, four arrows in every target from 20 feet to 80 yards. It feels pretty challenging, but it is a lot of fun.” Tucker uses a Mathews Halon X
bow. The arrows he uses depend on the competition. Outside, he usually uses thinner ones, thinner than a pencil, while inside he might use a thicker arrow. It also depends on wind and distance. “With a longer distance, you use a thinner arrow, because it gets a better flight,” he explains. Doug knows he doesn’t have long until Tucker outranks him in the state. “He's going to overtake me for sure,” Doug says. Will that be hard for the father who was his son’s first archery teacher? “Oh, I’ll be proud, but I am riding it for all I can now,” he says, jokingly. Archery may not be a popular sport among teenagers, but it is the one Tucker loves. “I’m good at it,” he says when asked what he enjoys about the sport. “It’s not a meditation, but it clears your head a lot. You can't really be thinking about anything when you are shooting if you are shooting well.” “It gets addicting,” he adds. “You start, and you just constantly want to do more and more. If you can get into it, you can't get enough of it.”
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OR NOT Back to school brings challenges against these pesky parasites. BY TRACY O’GRADY
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aples mom Jill Gaffoli remembers the first time her daughter contracted lice. “She was in kindergarten. And I was mortified,” Jill says. “I called my husband hysterical. I called his sister, who is a pharmacist, still hysterical. I had never dealt with it before. I probably thought all those taboo things we now know aren’t true.” Several cases of lice among her three children later, Jill is the go-to mom among her pals for help and advice. “My friends now call me to go to their house to pick hair and run the clean-up routine.”
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September is National Head Lice Prevention Month; it makes sense, considering outbreaks of lice happen most often when kids return to school from summer break or other school vacations. The majority of outbreaks occur in lower grades. “The sort of justification is that most of the time the infestation begins outside of school, not during school, because kids have more sleepovers and more close contact play time outside of school, and that could be why the exposure rate goes higher,” says Rae Young, a registered nurse who works at Seacrest Country Day School in Naples. There is debate between the medical community and some lice prevention advocacy groups on how schools should battle lice. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the National Association of School Nurses and the American Academy of Pediatrics all share the position that recommends children should remain in class and participate in school-sponsored activities when live lice or nits are found on their heads. Follow up actions include informing parents and providing information about treatment options. These groups do not advise schools to operate under a “no nit” policy. This rankles Deborah Z. Altschuler, president of the National Pediculosis Association, who says the mentality that head lice are only a nuisance keeps children unnecessarily vulnerable and chronically infested. The all-volunteer nonprofit organization wants schools to have a non-punitive, educationbased “no nit” policy. Altschuler says parents should be taught before the school year begins what lice are, how to look for them and how to treat them without prescription pesticides. The NPA sells a comb it designed to help parents look for lice. “We want parents to start dealing with this. Inspect and detect early, check regularly,” Altschuler says. “The
reward of getting them out early is that no one has to miss any school at all. We need to empower the parents to not send their kids to school with the problem in the first place.” The head lice policies for public schools in Collier and Lee counties differ in wording but state similar courses of action. In general, parents are to be contacted immediately if their child is found to have lice, and the child is not allowed to return to school until the hair is treated and all nits are removed. The parent should accompany the child back to school, and the child should be re-inspected before returning to school.
TINY LITTLE BUGGERS Head lice have three forms: the egg or nit, the nymph and the adult louse. A louse is a parasitic insect that lives close to the human scalp and feeds on blood. Despite their icky description, lice are not known to spread disease. The CDC reports an estimated 6 million to 12 million infestations happen each year in the U.S. among children ages 3 to 11. Infestations happen less frequently among AfricanAmericans. The theory is that a louse’s claws are better at grabbing the hair shaft of other races. Lice move by crawling; they can’t jump or fly. They are fast crawlers that like warmth and a steady diet of human blood. They do not discriminate based on hygiene; in fact, they prefer clean hair over dirty hair. They are extremely small. And therein lies the problem. These little buggers are really hard to find. A full-size adult louse is about the size of a sesame seed. Eggs and nits (empty egg shells) look like tiny white dots, but nits are sticky. Lice like to take up residency on the scalp, behind ears and near the neckline. “I like to use a magnifying glass and really good light when picking for lice,” Young says. “It’s even better in the sunlight.”
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TREATMENT OPTIONS Parent education is key. When a student has lice, Young will look for a louse, fold it into tape, and then show the parents what it looks like so they know exactly what to look for. Then, she’ll discuss treatment options with parents. Parents often reach for over-the-counter treatments first. Nix (permethrin) and RID (pyrethrin) are two well-known brand-name pesticide-based options. Nix is approved for use on babies and children ages 2 months and older. Prices range between $13 and $20 for a single-use kit. A non-pesticide over-the-counter option is silicon-based Dimethicone lotion. While less expensive than other treatments, you’ll spend a big chunk of your own time combing and picking. “You do a treatment. It’s on 10 minutes,” Jill says. “But then it takes 2 to 3 hours to comb and section it. It’s extremely time consuming.” Prescriptions are also available. Ivermectin lotion (such as the brand Sklice), spinosad topical suspension (Natroba) and benzyl alcohol lotion (Ulesfia) are all available for ages 6 months and older. Young says more parents are turning to lice picking businesses for help (see page 34). These salons are staffed by professional pickers who have undergone training. “Most families come to us after they think they got rid of it, only to realize they didn’t,” says Kathleen McGrath, owner of Lice Wizards in North Naples. “When I do a treatment, I can tell you how long you’ve had lice.” Professional lice-picking treatments average about $150 per person at Southwest Florida businesses, but many offer a 30-day guarantee and include a follow-up treatment. “I think parents who choose this option are overwhelmed or who have multiple children,” Seacrest’s Young says.
FINAL PRECAUTION Don’t forget about your home. You’ll want to strip beds, pillows and car seats and wash them in a hot water or sanitary cycle and follow with a high-heat dryer setting. Toss out any hair accessories that may have been infected. Put hair brushes in an airtight bag and leave them for 14 days (any eggs or lice on the brush will die during that time). And bag up any stuffed animals for a couple of weeks, too. Teach your children what to look and feel for, too. Jill taught her daughter to recognize the symptoms, and her daughter was able to self-diagnose and ask for help.
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Siblings Taylor Reis, 8, and Tyler Reis, 6, model in their new school uniforms in the media center at J. Collin English Elementary School in North Fort Myers. Taylor and Tyler attend the North Fort Myers Academy for the Arts.
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How to ensure your child has a good school year ack-to-school time means much more than buying new clothes and sharpening pencils. New classmates, teachers and surroundings are all challenges to which children need to quickly adjust. As a parent, there are several things you can do, even after the first bell rings, to help ensure a successful school year.
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School open houses are a superb way for parents to establish an initial connection with the teacher or teachers, relating that you are an involved parent and less likely to be adversarial if a challenging situation emerges during the school year. If questions or concerns arise later, a rapport has already been established. “Parents should communicate anything pertinent in writing to the teacher that they feel they should know to help ease the child’s transition into the school year,” says Nikki Ernst, lower school director at the Canterbury School, an independent college prep school that serves grades preK3-12 in south Fort Myers. Examples include allergies, daily pick-up instructions or preferred contact information for the parent and teacher. “When visiting the classroom, parents can take note of its setup, materials and posted schedules. This can be a great communication starter later with the child.” She adds parents can “share something unique about their child’s personality, talents or learning interests with the teacher.” (Canterbury’s open house is 9:30-10:30 a.m. Thursday, August 16.) If you missed your school’s open house, send a quick email or note to the teacher introducing yourself and sharing any pertinent information. The effort will be appreciated.
Get organized Along with the usual organization tasks — maintaining a planner to track assignments, scheduling time at home and setting up a study routine — getting in the habit of organizing the night before early in the school year can help foster a smooth routine. “This is especially helpful in transitions from middle school to high school with the earlier starting times,” says Mary Lynn Rodriguez, coordinator of school counseling services for the School District of Lee County. “Get clothes laid out, put homework into the book bag. Less stress in the mornings will have them better prepared for learning.”
Brush up on math Math can sometimes be the most daunting and challenging
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Reading with your kids primes your little student for school success.
subject for kids to get adjusted to again after a fun summer. Riverdale High School Dean of Students Melissa VonHagen, who taught math for 12 years at Riverdale and at Oak Hammock Middle School, both in east Lee County, and spent two years as a math coaching specialist, suggests “parents and students review lessons from the beginning of the previous year [as] the math curriculum is designed through vertical alignment; the math content builds upon itself from year to year. This way, they can review the skill before it builds the following year.” Along with practicing the basics, she condones the Khan Academy (khanacademy.com) resource with its video tutorials and practice, and coolmath.com as it “reinforces fluency skills through fun games.” Reinforce math as it naturally occurs. For younger children, you can have the child “count how many white
cars they see on the highway, count back change at the grocery store, find the amount of time a movie will run or help measure ingredients while helping out in the kitchen,” suggests Lori A. Milton, math department chair and liberal arts math and algebra teacher at Cape Coral High School.
Ratchet back the screen time
We asked educators in Southwest Florida to give us their best advice for getting a good start to the school year. Here’s what they said:
Reducing your student’s open screen time will get them adjusted to returning to school studies. “As so many children use computers for school, just get them to understand what they need it for now,” says Anjali Van Drie, a Fort Myers board-certified behavior analyst and vice president of the local nonprofit Family Initiative Inc., which supports children with autism spectrum disorder. She suggests positioning open screen time as a prize when they finish their homework. “Be consistent, establish a routine,” she says. “Ease into it; don’t suddenly put the hammer down one day. Don’t make it ‘all or nothing.’”
“It’s a new year with new experiences, new classmates, new teachers. “When your child comes home with concerns (friend in other class, I’m the only new kid, nobody sat with me at lunch, etc.), listen, be sympathetic and provide them with enough confidence for both of you. “Letting our kids know they can handle these sometimes upsetting situations is building confidence and giving them the opportunity to develop strategies. “When all is smoothed over, there is sure to be another bump in the road — remind them of how they handled the last one. “This is our job as parents/educators: provide more tools, not solve their problems.” — CINDY WEIR, dean of Upper School at Seacrest Country Day School in Naples
Make sleep a priority
“Learn how to tie your shoes! This is something parents can help their kids with over the summer. When the students get back to school, they feel empowered to tackle other challenges.” — AMYROSE LOMELE, fourth-grade teacher at Seacrest Country Day School in Naples
Establish a sleep routine to get kids fresh and attentive. Getting kids off screens a solid hour before bedtime is advisable. “Keep their cell phone out of their bedroom when they go to sleep,” Van Drie says. Serve kids foods that help them relax, fall asleep and stay asleep. Some that are packed with sleep-promoting vitamins and minerals like tryptophan, magnesium, calcium and vitamin B6 include kiwi, soy, tart cherry juice, fish, nuts (especially seeds, walnuts and almonds), yogurt, bananas, dates, and dark, leafy green vegetables like kale, spinach and collard greens.
Prepare for bullying School counselors can assist with building social skills and being another adult who children can talk with and confide in. “They can work in tandem with parents in helping with role playing and can show the difference between mean behavior and bullying,” Rodriguez says. The Florida Department of Education is preparing rules to govern the Hope Scholarship program in which families of children who have been bullied or harassed in a Florida public school can apply for vouchers toward attaining state scholarships to attend a different public school or a private school (myfloridahouse.gov).
“Talk to your kids. Be interested in their day and let them be interested in your day. Discuss a plus and something that could have been better in the day. Ex. ‘What did you like best today? Why?’, ‘What is something you would have liked to go differently? Why?’ and read, read, read... Whether it’s reading to them or having them read to you, read for at least 15 minutes a day.” — MELISSA HOLLAND, teacher at Tanglewood Elementary in Fort Myers “Have everything ready the day before — clothes out, backpack, etc. Make sure your child gets a good night sleep and has breakfast.” — JENNI CAVES, substitute teacher in Lee County “Ask the teacher what the best way to get in touch with them is. Some teachers like email, some like text, some use apps like Class Dojo.” — JENNIFER WELCH GRIDA, teacher at Tortuga Preserve Elementary in Lehigh Acres “Be present for your kids every day and really listen to them. Play with them. Talk to them. Every day.” — STACY ATKINSON GRAISON, director of education at the Naples Zoo SOUTHWEST FLORIDA PARENT & CHILD » AUGUST 2018 » 39
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Read with your kids Read to your kids, and have them read to you. It’ll help improve their reading skills and is superb bonding. Spruce it up with fun reading in topics they like and empower them by providing many choices. For all ages, be a reading mentor and let them see you reading for your own pleasure. “Some parents limit their kids with a ‘read a book, take a test’ mentality,” says Amy-Jane McWilliam, the youth services programming coordinator with the Lee County Library System. “They may feel that’s all they should focus on. Find books that are in or similar to their class reading and also others that they are interested in.” Reading in other topics “helps prepare them for the rest of their education and the real world,” she advises, adding the approach also clicked at her home, making her three daughters become reading lovers. “Don’t be afraid to ask for assistance at libraries to find suitable books within the right range for their children,” she suggests.
Be supportive “When your child [has] concerns, listen, be sympathetic and provide them with enough confidence for both of you,” says Cindy Weir, dean of Upper School at Seacrest Country Day School, in Naples. “When all is smoothed over, there’s sure to be another bump in the road. Remind them of how they handled the last one.” Van Drie cites the importance of the settings for such discussions. “Just being in a classroom for seven hours is a big change for them. Try to ask them how their day went, about their friends at school and more in the car or at the store, in casual environments instead of formal ones.”
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The ParentLink messaging system (parentlink.leeschools. net) allows teachers to communicate with parents on a regular basis regarding class assignments, schedules, grades, attendance, lunch balance, news on special events plus in the event of an emergency. It’s also available as an app. Lee County’s Focus Parent Portal (lee.focusschoolsoftware.com) provides parents a real-time view of child assignment grades, attendance info, current averages in all classes and more. Along with using ParentLink to communicate with parents, the Collier County Public Schools Parent Portal (collierschools.com/portal) is a one-stop shop for parents to update emergency contact information, change communications preferences, check test scores, see what children are checking out at the school library and, for middle and high school students, check grade scores.
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Anabella Maria Galang, 16, poses for a photo at Tiburon Golf Club in Naples. Galang, a senior at the Community School of Naples, had her cancer research project approved with a researcher at FGCU and won fifth place in a Florida State Science and Engineering fair, competing with 900 students around the state.
Naples teen who presented her research findings at a national cancer conference is starting a nonprofit to get female students involved in STEM subject areas.
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Dr. Cigall Kadoch, left, a researcher at Dana-Farber Cancer Institute, is a mentor to Anabella.
BY LIZ FREEMAN nabella Maria Galang rattles off complex medical terminology with ease. She’s come to the attention of scientists at Florida Gulf Coast University and top researchers at Harvard Medical School. She is all of 16 years old and a senior this fall at The Community School of Naples. She is likely the youngest member of the American Association for Cancer Research. She presented her research findings at the group’s annual meeting in April through a poster board display during the high school program. She was one of 11 students present-
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ing, and there were about 200 students in attendance, according to a spokeswoman for the association. In between school and pursuits in cancer research, Anabella is launching a charitable organization called The Steminist Movement, a reference to science, technology, engineering and mathematics curriculum. The mission is to empower Southwest Florida middle school girls’ interest in STEM-related topics. She has a website and a GoFundMe account and is preparing documents so her charity can acquire nonprofit status. “I think students are far too often underestimated,” she says. “The ability to make a difference is up to them. I know it sounds like a cliché, but it’s true.”
Her days are jammed after waking at 5 a.m. with a refreshed mind for homework and her rigorous curriculum at school. She comes from a driven family: Her father, Dr. Kenneth Galang, practices physical medicine and rehabilitation in Fort Myers, and her mother, Maria Galang, is a physical therapist. Family on her mother’s side were physicians in the Philippines. Anabella is fluent in Spanish and nearly fluent in Mandarin. She has 18 universities in mind — so far — that she plans to apply to attend. She intends to pursue medical and doctoral degrees to become a practicing physician in oncology; she will engage in cancer immunology research and
perhaps be a part-time associate professor at a university. CANCER RESEARCH A FIRST LOVE At 14, Anabella shadowed doctors as they interacted with patients. That’s where she saw how some patients were given a few months to live; others had a life expectancy of two years. That piqued her interest in cancer immunology. Following her freshman year in high school, she took v a summer class at Duke University and a class at Brown University. Students at Brown encouraged her to stick with cancer research. Anabella read hundreds of scientific papers involving cancer research. She developed an idea for a project and sent out 300 emails to scientists for feedback. A biology professor at FGCU, Lyndsay Rhodes, offered to mentor her. The project was tweaked to focus on a specific protein and its potential effects on certain types of breast cancer. Rhodes guided Anabella through daily life as a laboratory researcher. “It was my first experience in a living, breathing lab at FGCU,” she says. “It was incredible.” Even though the outcome was negative, finding no correlation between the protein and breast cancer, she accepted it. “I was pretty disappointed, but in a way, it was really interesting, because all scientists have gone through this sort of failure,” she says. Rhodes says Anabella’s project was fantastic. They will work together again. “She’s clearly very bright, very driven and very determined,” Rhodes says. Rhodes fully expects Anabella to pursue a career in cancer research. “If that’s what she wants, then that’s what she will do,” Rhodes says. Anabella took the results of her research project to the Collier Regional Science and Engineering Fair and won. She took it to the Florida State Science and Engineering Fair and won fifth place in the health and biomedical sciences division. “I was really impressed with all the students there,” she says. “It was an amazing experience.”
She wrote the American Association for Cancer Research and was granted membership. She has attended two of the organization’s annual meetings, the most recent one in April where she displayed a poster presentation of her research. Scientists stopped by and engaged with her. “A lot of them offered suggestions of different iterations of my project that I could test,” she recalls. “All of that was very inspiring. They seemed genuinely interested in me developing my ideas and continuing my cancer research. They were all very receptive of the fact that even though I am this age, I am very interested in cancer immunology.” Her mother attended both conferences with her and recalled that about 40 people stopped by her poster presentation. In 2017, Anabella took two pre-college summer classes at Harvard from Dr. Maurizio Fazio, who wrote a letter of recommendation for her. “She is an extremely enthusiastic and dedicated student with a remarkable passion for biomedical sciences,” Fazio says. “She carefully listened to the feedback from the previous course and, rather than being discouraged from it, she stood up to the challenge and used the criticism for her own improvement.” HELPING FELLOW STUDENTS Anabella believes many middle school students are not exposed to enough science, technology, engineering and mathematics. With The Steminist Movement, she wants middle school girls to explore these subject areas through free educational sessions. “I think there are probably a lot of children in Southwest Florida who have an unkindled passion for STEM subjects,” she says. She’s planning to hold interactive workshops, one each month in Lee and Collier counties. The first will be August 18 at the Naples Regional Library, 650 Central Ave., followed by one August 25 at Lakes Regional Library in south Fort Myers. Like her mentors, Anabella wants young students to realize their ideas are important and can have an impact in the world.
EDITOR’S NOTE: Details about The Steminist Movement are available at steministmovement.org. Inquiries should be directed to anabella_maria_galang@steministmovement.org. She has set up a GoFundMe account for The Steminist Movement at gofundme.com/the-steminist-movement.
The Steminist Movement Anabella Maria Galang, 16, is launching The Steminist Movement, a nonprofit organization that aims to close the gender gap in the fields of science, technology, engineering and math by engaging middle school girls in free, hands-on workshops each month in Lee and Collier counties. Each interactive workshop is hosted by qualified individuals ranging from high school scientists to university professors from schools such as the Massachusetts Institute of Technology and Florida Gulf Coast University. The first is in August, called Why Haven’t We Cured Cancer Yet? The dates for this and subsequent workshops are: • August 18 and 25: Why Haven’t We Cured Cancer Yet? • September 15 and 22: Hello World! Computer Programming Can Take You Anywhere • October 13 and 20: Stem Cells and Regenerative Medicine • January 5 and 12: Number Theory • February 9 and 16: Anatomy and Exercise Science • March 16 and 23: Marine Biology: Beyond Dolphins and Whales The workshop on the first date of each month takes place at the Naples Regional Library in Collier County and the second date at the Lakes Regional Library in Lee. Details are available online at steministmovement.org.
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lorida’s Poison Control Centers recently released data showing that calls about poisonings peak in summer — with specific increases related to outdoor activities common with Florida families. While poisonings happen year-round and to people of all ages, calls increase in the summer in several important categories. Since our weather remains balmy well into fall, poison centers get “summery” calls well into October. Call center data shows: » Calls regarding pool chemicals typically increase by more than 70 percent over the summer. Nearly a third of these calls involve children 5 and younger. » Insect repellent calls double during Florida’s wet summers, but mosquito season lasts until a hard frost. » Snake and spider bites increase by 30 percent in the hotter months, although most bites are reported in adults. » Marine stings peak in August, with calls for jellyfish leading in frequency. Other calls are about stings from lionfish, catfish
The Florida Poison Control Centers’ Seasonal Trend Digest notes areas where families should be especially cautious. Here are some tips for staying safe. » Treat the pool when the kids aren’t around. Most chemical exposures occur when the product is in use. Follow the product instructions carefully. Chlorine shock treatments are highly concentrated and can cause eye or respiratory irritation, even in adults. Only open/mix chemicals in a well-ventilated area. » Before applying insect repellent, read the warnings on the label. We know the warnings are in tiny type — but it’s worth getting your glasses. There are many products that aren’t safe for infants and children younger than 2. Never spray repellent onto a child’s hands, face or open cuts. Instead, spray an adult’s hands and gently dab the child’s skin, away from the eyes. Repellent can also be sprayed onto clothing for a similar protective effect.
and exposure to sea lice. It’s certainly possible to participate in outdoor activities while staying safe. Parents can take some basic steps to prevent poisonings, and can get immediate help in the event of exposure by calling the poison control center at 1-800222-1222, 24/7. Calls are fast, free and confidential.
Wendy Stephan is the health education coordinator for the Florida Poison Information Center-Miami.
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» Keep a spray bottle of vinegar in your beach bag in case of marine stings. Call the poison center for specific instructions before applying. There are several steps to controlling pain (and scarring) and the poison center can help you walk through them. » For snake and spider bites, call the poison center immediately.Don’t wait for symptoms to appear.
The Florida Poison Information Center-Miami is available to help at 1-800-222-1222, 24 hours, seven days a week. The doctors, nurses and pharmacists have extensive experience treating poisonings both big and small. The doctors, nurses and pharmacists on staff have extensive experience treating poisonings both big and small. Safe Kids is a nonprofit coalition of agencies and organizations dedicated to eliminating preventable childhood injuries. Visit safekidsswfl.org.
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Family bikes across America for ECHO The Carters pedal more than 40 miles a day to help a Southwest Florida nonprofit. BY MADDIE CHRISTY
Jerry and LisaPage Carter with their three boys are cycling across America to help ECHO.
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op! Like a firecracker, the front wheel on the three-seat bicycle explodes. LisaPage Carter jumps at the shock of it but quickly focuses on steering the long bike, which also carries two of her children, safely off the road. Jerry, her husband, performs a quick fix with a spare tube and tape. The family of five continues 20 miles down the road with a bulging tire poised to explode again at any moment. When they arrive safely in Larned, Kansas, they meet Dennis, a stranger who has made it his mission to help bikers along the TransAmerica Trail.
Dennis drives Jerry 23 miles to the nearest bike shop. The Carters are reminded yet again of the lesson they are continually learning along this journey — there are good people in a world that screams otherwise. Jerry and LisaPage Carter and their three boys, ages 12, 10 and 8, are biking across America to raise support for the North Fort Myers-based nonprofit ECHO. They took off from Yorktown, Virginia, on May 1 with the goal of reaching Astoria, Oregon, in August. That’s four months of riding two bikes (one tandem and one triple-seater) more than 4,000 miles across the country.
“It’s been nerve-wracking for me as a father, because I want to have things planned out,” Jerry says. “It’s a challenge not knowing exactly where we’ll pitch our tents each night or where our next meal will come from.” Part of the mission behind the Carters’ trip is to raise awareness for ECHO, which works to fight hunger and improve lives worldwide. “I know this is so cliché,” LisaPage says, “but it’s really so much more about the joy of the journey than the destination.” To follow the Carters, read their regularly updated blog at echonet.org/ carter-blog.
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The USA Freedom Kids sang at the Fort Myers Miracle baseball team’s Military Appreciation Night on June 29. From left: Alexis, Katelyn and Brianna. Photo special to SWFL Parent & Child
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the waterslide on June 21 at the new aquatic center at Eagle Lakes Community Park in East Naples. Photo by Katie Klann
Special Olympics » Natalie Pernia, 18, from Manatee County, waits for the start flag from Tom Navin during the Special Olympics Florida Area 9 Standup Paddle Competition on July 14 at Sugden Regional Park in Naples. Special Olympics provides year-round sports training and competition to children and adults 8 years of age and older with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Photo by Nicole Raucheisen
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More than 100 kids attend De’Vondre Campbell’s football camp in July at Cypress Lake High School in south Fort Myers. Campbell, a Cypress graduate, plays for the Atlanta Falcons. Photo by Kinfay Moroti
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Naples mom Hilda Mowbray shares these photos of Haylee, 5, and Vanessa, 4, from a family vacation to Jamaica this summer. Photo by Hilda Mowbray
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In Naples, 48 elementary students embarked on a week of serving others at North Naples Church Serve Your World Camp this summer. The camp was created in 2015 as an extention of the church’s traditional vacation bible school camp. Projects include sending care packages to active military, honoring veterans, a food drive, washing the vehicles for first responders and preparing hurricane kits. Photos courtesy of North Naples Church
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A GRAND TIME WITH KIDS Old Florida grandeur meets coastal chic at the re-imagined Pelican Grand Beach Resort in Fort Lauderdale. BY JENNIFER THOMAS
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here is just something about waking up to the waves crashing outside your balcony or witnessing the sun rise over the Atlantic Ocean. In Fort Lauderdale, the Pelican Grand Beach Resort, basking in the glow of a recent multi-million-dollar re-imagination, places you beachside with views for miles along 500 feet of beachfront. And did I mention, a lazy river, zero entry pool and a divine spa? This resort, named by Coastal Living magazine as one of the Top 10 beach hotels in Florida, boasts an Old Florida grandeur with seaside elegance in a coastal-chic waterfront retreat. The Pelican Grand coupled with Fort Lauderdale as a destination to explore, even for those of us who call Southwest Florida home, is a must–do getaway.
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“Families that want the experience of a true family beach vacation, with the benefits of a 4-star resort, embrace Pelican Grand for its close proximity to many South Florida communities,” says Bill Foster, regional director of marketing at Noble House Hotels & Resorts. “The Pelican Grand Beach Resort is a gracious and beautiful option for families wanting to make great memories. “… It’s far from the noise and activity of Miami Beach, and our serene stretch of white sand welcomes families with open arms. The resort’s ocean front verandahs, complete with comfy rocking chairs, offer a careful nod to the grandeur of Old Florida — perfect for family time.” The resort is welcoming, fun and very appropriate for children. “From the lazy river pool to The Emporium ice cream parlor, the kids truly enjoy every minute of the day,” Bill says. Fort Myers mom and owner of Gulfshore Trucking Terra Anderson concurs. She and her husband and two daughters have stayed at the resort several times over past three years. “A couple of years ago, when we started going to the Bahamas out of Fort Lauderdale, I was looking for a kid-friendly place to go the night before we left out early in the morning,” she explains. “I initially selected the Pelican Grand, because the pictures of the rooms were beautiful and for the property amenities — especially the lazy river and the views from the
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room being right on the beach.” Besides location, Terra says what her family liked even more were the amenities and the overall feel of the resort. “It reminds me of an oversized Southern plantation mixed with Tommy Bahama style,” she says. “When you walk in, you feel like you are in a 5-star luxury hotel. The rooms have the same Tommy Bahama feel and open up to a large balcony to enjoy the Atlantic Ocean view.” There are 156 guestrooms and suites, including two suites added in 2016: the 12th floor Sky Suite penthouse (starting at $1,900 a night) and the 11th floor Pure Suite. Terra says her family has stayed in two types of rooms. “One that was just a big room on the corner, but my favorite was the suite. It had two queen beds, then basically a separate room where there was a fold-out couch that led out to the balcony,” she says. The resort offers a 20 percent discount off standard room rates for Florida residents in addition to other specials. “The pool area is large and has a bar right off of it where you can enjoy yummy appetizers, and it has a great drink selection. You already feel like you are in the islands,” Terra says. “My kids thoroughly enjoyed the lazy river part, which is separate from the main pool.” While soaking in the sun at the Pelican Grand, Bill recommends families grab a float and spend the day in Fort Lauder-
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dale’s only Lazy River, head to the beach and paddleboard, and indulge in a meal at OCEAN2000, which is situated on the beachfront. “While Sunday brunch is perfect for the whole family, parents can treat themselves to the unlimited Bloody Mary bar, complete with 50 toppings,” he adds. Another resort offering is its PURE Spa, where guests can rejuvenate in the nearly 3,000-square-foot, luxury 11thfloor oceanfront retreat. Expanded treatments were added in 2016, and the spa is based on the concept of overall wellbeing and the Swedish lifestyle, according to Bill. There are even two outdoor spa cabanas. The city itself is a water lover’s paradise. Bill suggests guests enjoy the resort’s prime beachfront location with sailing, yachting, surfing, paddleboarding, deep-sea fishing charters and water taxi cruises. “Take a ride on the water taxi up and down Florida’s Intracoastal Waterway, take in the Riverwalk District for an evening concert, stroll down A1A to Hugh Taylor Birch State Park with countless things to see on the way,” Bill also recommends. “From Las Olas Boulevard with boutique shopping and chic cafes to fine art museums and breathtaking gardens, Fort Lauderdale provides high fashion, historic homes and miles of white-sand beaches, just steps outside the resort.”
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PHOTOS SPECIAL TO SWFL PARENT & CHILD
Help hatch a baby gator
Disney On Ice returns with 'Search Party' Disney On Ice promises to bring the magic closer to fans than ever before when the latest show comes to Germain Arena on September 21-23. There’ll be ice skating, Tinker Bell and Captain Hook, Miguel from “Coco,” characters from “Frozen,” Belle and the enchanted objects from “Beauty and the Beast,” and new technology and “visually immersive performance elements” to immerse the audience in the show. Tickets start at $20. For details, visit disneyonice.com or germainarena.com.
Zoomers throws back-to-school party The arrival of the new school year brings back-to-school celebrations. New this year is the Back to School Bash at Zoomers, an indoor/outdoor entertainment complex in south Fort Myers. From 5 p.m. to close on Friday, August 17, wristbands cost $15 with unlimited go-karts, attractions and mini golf. Normally, wristbands that include all that start at $29.99. There will also be hourly drawings for annual passes and a $250 Zcard, entertainment by Big Mama and the Wild Bunch from B103.9, and vendors. For more about Zoomers, visit zoomersamusementpark.com.
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Hula at the Tiki Fest Fishermen’s Village is throwing a party: Tiki Fest. From noon to 4 p.m. Saturday, August 11 enjoy island music, hula dancers and family activities. Fishermen’s Village is at 1200 W. Retta Esplanade, Punta Gorda. Get details at fishville.com.
Every year about this time, baby alligators break through their shells and emerge into the world. And Gatorama, located northeast of LaBelle, invites the public to be a part of that. The exact days are to be determined by Mother Nature. It’s expected to take place between August 18 and September 3. “We know from experience that the hatching is going to peak the last two weeks of August,” says Patty Register, who owns the gator farm and attraction with her husband. “Sometimes we’re wrong, but I think we’ve only been wrong once in 15 years.” Tickets to reserve a spot at a hatching station ($18) go on sale August 1. If you just want to watch, you don’t need a hatching ticket. In addition to hatching baby gators, the 15th annual Hatching Festival also features activities and food, plus the usual shows and wildlife encounters. The big gator feed show is at noon and 2:30 p.m. daily. Gatorama is at 10665 N. US Highway 27 in Moore Haven. Hours are 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. daily. Admission is $14.95 for adults, $8.95 for children and free for kids under 36 inches. Hands-on experiences are available for an additional fee. Get details at hatchingfestival. com or 863-675-0623.
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Saturday, Aug. 4 “Annie” » Through August 11. Broadway Palm, 1380 Colonial Blvd., Fort Myers. The classic musical about everyone’s favorite orphan. $20 for ages 18 and younger, includes buffet and show, $45-$70 for adult tickets. For full schedule, visit broadwaypalm.com. 239-278-4422. Free Dentistry Day » 8 a.m.-noon. Family Dental of Fort Myers, 9011 Daniels Parkway, Suite 105, south Fort Myers. Family Dental of Fort Myers teamed up with local dental practices to provide free dental care to residents in the Fort Myers area. Recipients choose from a free cleaning or free extraction. First-come, first-served basis. 239-561-2665. freedentistryday.com
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Lipman Family Farms Backpack Giveaway » 9 a.m.-noon. Immokalee High School, 701 Immokalee Drive, Immokalee. On the football field. Lipman Family Farms is giving away more than 1,500 backpacks, 200 bikes, gift cards and free back-to-school haircuts to elementary and middle school students in Immokalee. Students must be present with parent or guardian to receive free supplies. There will also be music, food, face painting and games. 239-657-4421. facebook.com/ lipmanfamilyfarms Miracle Backpack Giveaway » 6-9 p.m. CenturyLink Sports Complex/Hammond Stadium, 14100 Six Mile Cypress Parkway, Fort Myers. The Miracle face off against the Florida Fire Frogs. The first 500 kids (ages 12 and younger) to arrive at the baseball game get a free Miracle backpack. 239-768-4210. miraclebaseball.com
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Monday, Aug. 6 Summer Institute for Marine Science » 8:30 a.m.-4 p.m. August 6-10. Rookery Bay NERR and Environmental Learning Center, 300 Tower Road, Naples. $150. Discover the coastal environment with Rookery Bay staff and local researchers. This week-long program brings students into the field to experience concepts in ecology, marine biology, sustainability and citizen science. Program is open to students entering Grades 8-10 with an interest in marine science. 239-530-5989.
Tuesday, Aug. 7 Breastfeeding Class » 6:30-8:30 p.m. The Family Birth Center of Naples, 2930 Immokalee Road, Suite 2, Naples. Learn how to successfully breastfeed your newborn baby, use breast pumps and transition to returning to work while breastfeeding, plus talk about the benefits of breastfeeding, the techniques for positioning and latching-on, timing and frequency of feeds, and learn about challenges and solutions and resources available. 239-594-0400. naplesbirthcenter.com Florida’s Amphibians » 1-2 p.m. Rotary Park, 5505 Rose Garden Road, Cape Coral. Learn which amphibians call Southwest Florida home and learn the difference between frogs and toads. There will be live specimens to see. Free but reservations requested. 239-549-4606. Free Kids Movies » 10 a.m. Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday. Paragon Theaters, Pavilion, 833 Vanderbilt Beach Road, Naples. “Prince of Egypt.” 239-596-0008. paragontheaters.com/promotions Summer Movie Express » 10 a.m. Tuesdays and Wednesdays. Two Regal Cinemas locations: Regal Bell Tower Stadium 20, 13499 Bell Tower Drive, south Fort Myers, and
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« calendar Regal Gulf Coast Stadium 16, 10028 Gulf Center Drive, San Carlos Park. $1 per person. August 7-8: “Minions,” “The Boss Baby.” August 14-15: “Paddington 2,” “Captain Underpants: The First Epic Movie.” regmovies.com/movies/ summer-movie-express
Friday, Aug. 10 Manatee Talk » 10-11 a.m. Lovers Key State Park, 8700 Estero Blvd. Fort Myers Beach. A park naturalist talks about manatees in Southwest Florida. Learn what these creatures are all about and how you can help protect them. Reservations required. Free with regular park admission, which is $4 for a vehicle with one person, $8 for a vehicle with 2-8 people, $2 for pedestrians and cyclists. 239-4634588.
Science Saturday » 11 a.m.-1 p.m. Miromar Outlets, 10801 Corkscrew Road, Estero. In WINK Playland. Join Mr. Glen and his Science and Engineering team for interactive science projects. miromaroutlets.com Tiki Fest » Noon-4 p.m. Fishermen’s Village, 1200 W. Retta Esplanade, Punta Gorda. Listen to island music, see hula dancers and enjoy family fun. 800-639-0020. fishville.com
Tuesday, Aug. 14 Fishing in a Waterfront Wonderland » 2-3 p.m. Rotary Park, 5505 Rose Garden Road, Cape Coral. Cape Coral canals are home to many species of fishes, both native and exotic. Learn about what you can catch in the canals, discuss responsible angling practices, which parks are good for fishing and launching your boat. Free but reservations requested. 239-549-4606. Summer Movie Express » 10 a.m. Tuesdays and Wednesdays. Two Regal Cinemas locations: Regal Bell Tower Stadium 20, 13499 Bell Tower Drive, south Fort Myers, and Regal Gulf Coast Stadium 16, 10028 Gulf Center Drive, San Carlos Park. $1 per person. August 14-15: “Paddington 2,” “Captain Underpants: The First Epic Movie.” regmovies.com/ movies/summer-movie-express
Wednesday, Aug. 15 Moms Appreciation Dayz » 10 a.m.-noon. Miromar Outlets, 10801 Corkscrew Road, Estero. In WINK Playland. Moms receive a coupon for a free drink and treat from le macaron french pastries while the kids participate in free Kids Crafts. miromaroutlets.com Nutrition Class » 7-8:30 p.m. The Family Birth Center of Naples, 2930 Immokalee Road, Suite 2, Naples. Nutrition for pregnancy, lactation, postpartum and family. 239-594-0400. Register by emailing FBCNaples@gmail.com. Mystery Walk » 6-8 p.m. Fort Myers River District, 1400 Jackson St., Fort Myers. A mystery scavenger hunt every second Friday of the month.
Saturday, Aug. 11 Back to School Block Party Yappy Hour » Bell Tower Shops, US Highway 41 and Daniels Parkway, south Fort Myers. Live music, bounce house, sidewalk chalk station and other activities. Owners and dogs are encouraged to don their favorite school apparel, and the most spirited pup wins a prize. One Day Childbirth Education » 10 a.m.-3 p.m. The Family Birth Center of Naples, 2930 Immokalee Road, Suite 2, Naples. Learn about stages of labor, pain coping practices, moving beyond your birth worries and more. Breastfeeding class included. 239-594-0400. naplesbirthcenter.com PalmArt Playshop: Shells, Driftwood and Sun Engraving » 1 p.m. Alliance for the Arts, 10091 McGregor Blvd., Fort Myers. Learn how to make beautiful, useful, and durable stuff using natural and recycled materials that might be in your own backyard. Conducted by writer and teacher Shawn Holiday. All the materials are provided but people are invited to bring their own supplies to incorporate into original creations. artinlee.org.
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Thursday, Aug. 16 Marriage & Relationship Conference 2018 » 5 p.m. Hyatt Regency Coconut Point Resort & Spa, 5001 Coconut Road, Bonita Springs. The Dr. Phil Teaching Ministries Marriage and Relationship Experience is a weekend getaway designed to refresh, renew, empower and equip couples who desire to create a healthy and long-lasting relationship. Learn practical principles that strengthen relationships.
Friday, Aug. 17 Walk on the Wild Side » 10-11 a.m. Lovers Key State Park, 8700 Estero Blvd., Fort Myers Beach. Join a park ranger for a guided hike along Black Island Trail. Learn about the vegetation and wildlife that reside in this maritime hammock. Do some bird watching, and maybe learn a little local history. Reservations required. Free with regular park admission, which is $4 for a vehicle with one person, $8 for a vehicle with 2-8 people, $2 for pedestrians and cyclists. 239-4634588. Zoomers Back to School Bash » 5-11 p.m. Zoomers Family Amusement Park, 17455 Summerlin Road, Fort Myers. Starting at 5 p.m. until the park closes, wristbands will
calendar » be $15 with unlimited go-karts, attractions and mini golf. Hourly drawings for annual passes will be done with a grand prize of a $250 Zcard that you can use like cash anywhere in the park. Big Mama and the Wild Bunch from radio station B103.9 add fun and entertainment, as well as other vendors. Sidetracked Bar & Grille is also onsite. 239-481-9666. zoomersamusementpark.com
Friday, Aug. 24 Bike Tour » 10-11 a.m. Lovers Key State Park, 8700 Estero Blvd., Fort Myers Beach. Join a park ranger for a leisurely biking adventure around Black Island Trail. Bring your bike, or rent one from the in-park concession. Reservations required. Free with regular park admission, which is $4 for a vehicle with one person, $8 for a vehicle with 2-8 people, $2 for pedestrians and cyclists. 239-463-4588.
Saturday, Aug. 25 David Barbur Biker Brunch » 8:30 a.m. Starts at HeadPinz Entertainment Center, 14513 Global Parkway, Fort Myers. Concludes at Keylime Bistro on Captiva Island. Motorcycle run to benefit Abuse Counseling and Treatment Inc. $20 per person. actabuse.com Kids Day » 10 a.m.-noon. Miromar Outlets, 10801 Corkscrew Road, Estero. In WINK Playland. Toddlers to 12-year-olds participate in activities and receive a free slice of pizza and treats, while supplies last. miromaroutlets.com National Honeybee Day BOGO » 9 a.m.-4 p.m. Rookery Bay NERR Environmental Learning Center, 300 Tower Road, Naples. Buy one, get one free admission to celebrate National Honeybee Day. rookerybay.org/calendar
Saturday, Aug. 18 2018 Hatching Festival » August 18-September 3. Gatorama, 6180 N. US Highway 27, Palmdale. Celebrate the hatching season of alligator eggs with activities, food and opportunities to hold a newborn baby gator. 863-675-0623. hatchingfestival.com or gatorama.com
Monday, Aug. 27 Back to School Parent Resource Fair » 6-8 p.m. Bonita Springs Charter School, 25380 Bernwood Drive, Bonita Springs. Six breakout sessions cover topics such as raising a champion, bullying and school safety. Plus, raffles, kids’ zone, vendors adn dinner for purchase. A partnership between the school, Alice on Demand and JBM Coaching. 239-992-6932.
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History Saturday » 11 a.m. IMAG History & Science Center, 2000 Cranford Ave., Fort Myers. Included in admission. History Saturday is the third Saturday of the month, while Science Saturday is the first Saturday. Enjoy interactive experiences above and beyond IMAG’s more than 60 exhibits. theimag.org
Symphonic Chorale of Southwest Florida Summer Sing 2018 » 7-9:30 p.m. Sidney & Berne Davis Art Center, 2301 First St., Fort Myers. Free. Open to all community singers to participate; register at symphonicchorale.org. Music will be provided. 239-560-5695. symphoncichorale.org
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Movies on the Lawn: “Lion” » 8-10 p.m. Mercato, 9118 Strada Place, Naples. Guests are invited to bring lawn chairs, blankets and well-behaved pets for a movie under the stars. No coolers; food, adult beverages and soft drinks are available for purchase, provided by Naples Flatbread. “Lion” is rated PG-13.
Kayak Tour » 10-11 a.m. Lovers Key State Park, 8700 Estero Blvd., Fort Myers Beach. Join a park ranger for a 11/2-mile kayak tour. Bring your kayak or rent one from the in-park concession. Reservations required. Free with regular park admission, which is $4 for a vehicle with one person, $8 for a vehicle with 2-8 people, $2 for pedestrians and cyclists. 239-463-4588.
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GUEST COLUMN
A rare way to learn
am often asked, “What does home-schooling a 5-, 4-, and 2-year-old look like?” I always say, “It’s real, it’s rare, and it’s part of our everyday lives.” However, what really gets people’s wheels turning is when I say that they are probably already home-schooling without even realizing it. I suppose the way I teach my children is not really rare. Rather, my approach to teaching them is more based on being intentional. Being intentional does not mean difficult or that you have to overcomplicate things. It also does not mean it has to be formal or take the place of traditional schooling. For our family, home schooling has been a rare journey since birth. I have set my intentions for teaching my children based on our lifestyle. Take a few minutes and think about a 24-hour day in your life, in your home. You probably have a million thoughts going through your mind. But this is where we can also practice being intentional. I want you to try to zero in on your daily interactions with your child (or children). Children are naturally eager to learn, but as parents we sometimes overthink or overlook the opportunities to teach them. We tend to see learning as something that needs to be formal, but does it really need to be? For our family, the answer to that question is simple: No. Every experience is a learning opportunity and a teachable moment inside and outside of our home. What is rare
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about this approach is that how and what I teach my children will differ from your interactions with your children. I am a married, Haitian-American woman, and I work from home as a natural health consultant. Those factors play into how I teach my children. My culture, career and character are all infused in my intentional teaching, and that’s what makes it rare. For example, take an average trip to the grocery store. We don’t just go to the store and shop — we learn. The store is our classroom, and I act as the instructor. We explore colors, names of items, count out the amounts needed, talk about textures, the smells and guess what things will taste like. My husband, Terry, thinks I overdo it sometimes, because I will ask the kids things like which pepper (red, orange, yellow or green) is healthier. This is not out of the ordinary for me because of my background in alternative medicine and in my health consulting practice I offer a program called “Food Forensics for Kids.” These questions are not random; somewhere prior to that shopping trip or a trip before, I already planted that seed. Where my husband thinks it’s too much, I think it’s the equivalent of a more formal side of education — a simple pop quiz. I should add most of this is done in Creole and English. I never say, “Let’s have a Creole or English lesson!” I simply use one language and clarify in the other when needed. PHOTOS BY JESSICA MCCALLA PHOTOGRAPHY/SPECIAL TO SWFL PARENT & CHILD
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Roselyne Dorval is a Southwest Florida mom, natural health consultant and owner of RAREbyRoselyne.com, an online wellness practice. Follow her on Instagram @RAREbyRoselyne.
With all that being said, here is my most valuable advice to parents considering this approach to teaching: 1. Give yourself permission to teach your children using the resources you already have. My mother,
Grace Rose, was a housekeeper with zero higher education, but she was still able to teach us. 2. Supplement for what you don’t know or have.
We love going to the library or finding things in nature. 3. Practice talking with your children, not just at them. That gives you an opportunity to listen or learn
and not just speak or teach. I had to take my own advice recently when my 4-year-old, Jabari, and 2-year-old, Ras Tafari, caught a grasshopper and placed it in a little insect house they have. I said it was a cricket, but Jabari was adamant that it was a grasshopper. So, we took a trip to the local library and learned it was, in fact, a grasshopper (we could have Googled it, but there is something about researching at the library). We learned about the types of food grasshoppers eat and so much more. That grasshopper scenario clearly shows that I don’t know it all, but I don’t try or claim to. What I do now and what works for us is being intentional, using what I know and learning as we grow. Earlier I said this rare teaching journey started at birth, but the truth is it was probably during pregnancy, and I am doing it now with this pregnancy. I knew I wanted to be a hands-on parent and involved in my child’s growth and learning process. I am even intentional with the vitamins I take. I learned in undergraduate school that probiotics, omegas and folate (instead of folic acid) would help with brain development and growth. Of course, I wanted the best there was on the market. I spoke positive words to my belly and sang (I am not a singer), I danced, was outdoors, and I set personal goals and practiced self-care things that would make them proud of me. My teaching style still incorporates speaking positive words to my children every day. I sing and, thankfully, they sing over me. They dance and I mostly watch, because they can see that I am clearly not a dancer. We go outdoors to play, learn and walk barefoot to the ground with the earth. We set educational goals and intentions. I want to be a doctor, so next fall I start school to be a doctor of chiropractic medicine. Each week their goals change as they grow, and that is OK. We don’t overthink it. We simply focus on the fundamentals and learning is intentional. Maybe home schooling isn’t for you, but I strongly encourage you to take on an intentional approach to teaching.
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ids are so grown up these days. It seems that at every stage and in most every way, they are somehow better, faster, stronger, smarter, savvier than we were at that age. When it comes to my kids, it doesn’t bother me at all. I want the best for them, and I love to see them excel where I may have struggled. It is one of the very cool things about being a parent, to see your child succeed in a way that you could only dream of yourself. Between the three of my sons, they pretty much have me covered. The one area where I maintain the top spot in the family is in music. I was a band geek growing up. I was in the concert band and jazz band in my high school. During the football season, I was in the marching band. Those school bands provided me with some great friends and fun times while navigating high school, but the most fun for me was the rock bands that I played in. In my sophomore year, I found a
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few other kids my age who wanted to play, and we formed our first rock band, West Wind. We played at any event we could as teenagers and became well-known around town as a talented group. As a drummer, I decided I needed to branch out and started to play guitar. While always part of a bigger band, I decided to try out for the high school variety show as a solo act. I ended up making the show for myself and as the guitar player for a friend of mine. That time in my life, I was at the top of the world on top of my game. I kept playing in bands through college and beyond. My kids have heard stories about my days playing rock ’n’ roll music. Whenever a song comes on the radio that we covered, I tell them time and again that this was one that one of my bands did. I tell them about all the different places and events where I played. They think their dad is pretty cool and even though they never heard me play in my prime, they are convinced that I was awesome.
That was until a couple of months ago. I have a friend with kids who attend my old high school. At the end of the school year, his kids brought home the yearbook, and paging through, he stumbled upon a photo of me from the archives. My picture under “Then” was captioned “Jim Dwyer performs in the variety show (1983).” Beneath that was a photo under “Now” of a girl currently enrolled in the high school with the caption “Opening for the band ‘Chicago’ for nine shows from Cincinnati to Chicago.” Thirty-five years after I left the school, and I made the yearbook as an example of mediocrity. When my kids saw the picture, they asked if I ever opened for Chicago. Nope. How about playing in Cincinnati? Nope. And just like that, I lost at least a little bit of my cool. It did serve as a reminder that luckily for me, high school is not where it all ends. Everyone got a good laugh at my expense, but in all honesty, they still think I’m pretty cool, and I still tell stories of my time as a rocker.
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