HEALTH
HEALTHY
BOUNDARY By Natalie Smith
What does it mean when you hear the word “boundary”? Healthy boundary is when you have the ability to decline anything you do not want to do. You express your feelings responsibly. You take the initiative to be authentic with yourself by talking about your experience honestly. You can reply in the moment. Addressing problems directly with the person involved, rather than hold it back or involved a third party. These laws are based on the concept of the importance of considering our behavior in order to lead more mindful, compassionate life for ourselves and for others. 22 | ORLANDOSTYLEMAGAZINE.COM
It is important to have healthy boundaries. Boundaries create trust and build healthy relationships among yourself and others. Even when some people don’t like what you do, they will likely still respect you for standing up for what you believe in. When your privacy is respected, you are more likely to feel heard, validated and appreciated. Most of all, you are not taken for granted by your love ones, colleagues, friends and etc. It is no longer only about others’ needs but yours as well. Your boundaries are the rules for how others learn to respect around you, how you want to be treated,
what you will accept and what you will not – they are based on your own needs and wants. It is not selfish, rude, pushy or self-centered to make these requests. It is understanding the importance of your value, knowing your priorities and making sure others do as well. Setting healthy boundaries is part of self-care and self-respect. It helps forming the base of your own personal leadership. There are ten types of boundaries you need to set:
1. Physical Boundaries It includes your needs for personal space, your comfort with, and your physical needs like resting, eating food, drinking water 2. Sexual Boundaries Healthy sexual boundaries include consent, agreement, respect, understanding of preferences, desires, privacy 3. Emotional or Mental Boundaries It is all about respecting and honoring feelings and energy 4. Spiritual or Religious Boundaries Protect your right to believe in what you want, worship as you wish 5. Financial and Material Boundaries This is the boundary to protect your financial resources and processions, your right to spend your financial as you choose 6. Time Boundaries Your time is valuable, and it’s important to protect how it is utilized. 7. Non-Negotiable Boundaries Things that you must have in order to feel safe 8. Relationship Boundaries How you treat each other in a relationship by having respect, understanding, honesty, balance 9. Workplace Boundaries Having the ability to do your work without interference and drama 10. Intellectual Boundaries Refer to your thoughts, ideas, and curiosity. Some tips to set and maintain good boundaries:
1. Enjoy some self-reflection It’s the key to understand why they are each important to you and how they can benefit your emotional well-being. 2. Start small and be consistent Don’t overwhelm yourself, build your boundaries up slowly. Try keeping them consistent and steady. 3. Communication Expressing your feelings is very important.
