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THE HIGHWAY TO SUCCESS.
When alignment of body, mind and spirit meets the power of momentum.
Sonja Martinovic High performance and law of attraction coach, helping ambitous coaches to scale their coaching business and have a big impact on the quality of peoples lives.
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It’s Christmas eve, my daughter’s 6th birthday, the day we received our ‘less than 5%’ miracle. I remember being called in the doctors’ office. Oddly he had a friendly smile on his face when he told us that, even with medical help, the chance we would ever have children is less than 5%. Our world shattered in 1000 pieces. We decide to travel to the best Clinic in Belgium. After the first try, I became pregnant, with a little boy named Luka. He passed away at the end of the pregnancy, leaving us with empty arms and a broken heart. This angel had changed our lives forever. The chance of this happening and the doctors never finding out why was less than 5%. After years of struggle, we finally became parents of 2 miracles, a daughter and a son. When my son was 6 months old my mother got diagnosed with a rare tumor. I fought like a Lion to keep her alive, but the tumor was too aggressive. My children, lost their loving and so vivid grandmother, 1 week after my son’s first birthday. You might guess by now, chances of this happening, was less than 5%. This was the moment when everything shifted in my life. Life is short and vulnerable, we might not have second chances. I would make every minute count. I left my successful corporate career as a Sales Manager, Trainer, and Coach. I burned all my ships and fully immersed on changing my mindset, habits and actions to make a profound impact on the quality of peoples lives. I decided to become the 5% of the most successful people positively influencing other people’s lives. I decided to create a movement of coaches to step into their full potential so they can influence the quality of people’s lives. Showing my ‘less than 5% chance’ children, how much potential they have, and that the only limits we have are the ones we create ourselves. Inspired by all the wonderful masterminds, mentors and world6 | OneTribeMagazine.com
class coaches who have crossed my path and contributed to me finding my power, the habits for success and true fulfillment. I was blessed with the awakening of my higher self, flowing with inspiration and intuition. Do you want to live an extraordinary life? Even though everybody says, your chances of succeeding are less than 5%? Absolutely life changing in creating success and fulfillment was when I started practicing a morning ritual. Aligning body, mind and spirit to my true purpose and discovering the power of belief and momentum. The 7 steps to the Trinity Morning Ritual; 1. The power of Gratitude In the first 7 seconds you are awake. Start with one of the most powerful forces of manifestation, Gratitude. Think about what you are greatful for before your subconscious starts handing you all your to do’s, obligations and problems. No matter how much curveballs you get from life, you always have something to be grateful for, even if it’s a little thing like having a nice comfortable bed to sleep in. Do this until that force of gratitude has transferred to a physical sensation, energy or simply a smile.
2. Remember your WHY Visualize your biggest dream as if it had happened yesterday. Visualize all the details and feelings you had when you received your dream. Imagine, who you are you telling, how did you celebrate, how did you look? Do this until you feel the energy of celebration in your body. 3. When you snooze you lose Avoid starting the day with procrastination. Jump out of bed within 7 seconds, before your subconscious starts to negotiate reasons for you to stay in bed or get you distracted. 4. Get in motion Work out for the first 20 minutes of your morning. Some benefits; you have prolonged your life span, gave your nervous system a reset, improved your cognitive performance. You primed your day for success. No time to wake up even earlier? Take a couple of minutes to dance outrageous to your favorite song, works wonders! 5. Set your intentions, your promise to yourself In this energy, mentally and physically, you set your intentions for the day. Take your journal and write about the powerfull you, praise the powerfull you and pick
2 things you are going to focus on. Believe you are creating this outcome by progressing every day, know with a 100% certainty you will manifest. 6. Meditate Take a couple of minutes to quiet the mind and feel the connection with your life force. When you master this, you can start asking for guidance, solutions, inspiration, creativity and everything else you need to break through limitations. Once you feel it’s power, you will find a way to quiet your mind from other thoughts. 7. Start your day in momentum The most important step now is to take massive action, this keeps the momentum going. Make sure you make time for doing what you love, so you keep creating momentum. Since you are still reading, I guess somewhere deep down you know that you are meant for more and it’s time to step up. I challenge you to master this success habit in the next 90 days. If not now, when? You will start the creation of your dream, become the character ready to receive the life you deserve, full of manifestation and abundance.
And yes, you can.
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What to Do When You Just Don’t Feel Like Doing What You Have to Do! Robert Landau | National Motivational Speaker, Certified Life Coach. We’ve all been there. You wake up in the morning and the dreaded day has finally arrived. The emotional buildup you’ve assigned to this day has been nothing short of intense. You lie there in bed, wishing there was some way you could magically erase the fact that you have to get up, get ready and go face what fate has assigned to you on this day...doing the thing that you’ve been wishing you didn’t have to do! As you get ready and make your breakfast, get dressed and make yourself presentable, nothing you do to try and distract your very active imagination from thinking about what you have to do in a few hours works. It’s all you can think about. Nervous? You bet! Your heart is about to jump out of its casing and you feel as if you are going to break into a cold sweat. All of a sudden, the phone rings. “Oh...my...God!!!!”, you think! “This is JUST what the doctor ordered!” Something unexpected has come up that needs your attention. So what do you do? It seems as if the Universe has answered your call for a distraction. That old phrase, “Don’t ask for what you want because you just might get it” finally comes into play here. So now you’re at a fork in the road. Do you face the dreaded thing you have to do today but you really just don’t feel like it at all? Or, do you opt for the issue that’s just come up that serves as a distraction so you don’t have to deal with what you’re really supposed to deal with...the initial thing you woke up dreading in the first place? Hmmm... decisions, decisions! Does this scenario sound somewhat familiar to you? It does to many and 8 | OneTribeMagazine.com
Did you get it? If not, the answer has to do with the following words in the question, “so that they really aren’t issues at all.” The point is if you don’t think or feel that the thing you have to face is the huge issue you’ve blown it up to be, it would be so much easier to face it, see it through and finish with it so that it is no longer an issue. Could it be that it’s such a big deal because you’ve made it out to be so? Sometimes it’s what we think about something that hasn’t happened yet that makes it appear as if it’s so much worse than it actually is. It’s the emotional energy that you attach to an upcoming situation in the future that makes it seem as if it’s something that it really might not actually be. What do you do about the distraction? Let’s call it what it truly is...a distraction. Deal with the distraction but don’t use it as an excuse to not deal with the major issue.
believe you me, we’ve all had to face situations like this more times than we’d care to remember. But what do you do and how do you handle issues like this when they come up so that they really aren’t issues at all? The key and the actual answer to the question I just posed lies within the question itself. Here’s the question again. See if you can find the answer within the wording of the question itself; “What do you do and how do you handle issues like this when they come up so that they really aren’t issues at all?”
The only way to deal with something is to take a deep breath, look at it right in the face, know that everything is going to be just fine, and see it through. After all, is it really a life or death situation? The sooner you deal with it, the faster it’s over. It’s the anticipation and fear that you’ve allowed yourself to engage in way before the event actually occurs that can also prevent you from wanting to deal with the situation when it comes up. So here are some important things to remember when you just don’t feel like doing what it is you have to do;
We’re only human. Sometimes we just don’t feel like doing what we have to do. That’s fine. But if something has come up that needs to get done, just get it done. Nothing more, but certainly nothing less. In these days of having little time to do a lot, just face the situation instead of putting it off. You’ll save so much time in the process. You’ve got the power to be the success in life you totally deserve to be. Don’t hold yourself back. The road you are on is full of interesting twists and turns. Don’t get stuck on any one twist or turn otherwise you’ll stall your entire journey. Getting to where you need to be is what you should set your sites on. The bumps along the way are just that...bumps. Don’t make more of them than they really are. Just keep moving forward and have your eyes fixed on the prize. You’re a winner...and don’t you forget it!
The only way to deal with something is to take a deep breath, look at it right in the face, know that everything is going to be just fine, and see it through.
1) Stop yourself from thinking negatively about the situation before it actually comes to pass 2) The same amount of negative thought energy you put into thinking about the issue could be spent thinking positively about the outcome of the very same event 3) D on’t fear the future, the event is in your path for a reason 4) Believe in yourself and your Godgiven ability. You are never given more than you can handle. You are more powerful than you often give yourself credit for 5) Just breathe. Everything will be fine. All you have to do is take it one moment at a time 6) T hink of how relieved you’ll be when it’s done 7) Don’t think you can see the issue through? Think again!
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Becoming The King Linda Liv Doktar | Expansion Coach for High-Performers & Entrepreneurs
He lives his life not from a space of need & validation, but from a space of WANT & SERVICE.
A brother recently asked me “So Linda, what is your definition of a ‘King’?” As a result of this question I began to dig deeper into the man’s evolution into becoming a King so that he can ‘hold’ a Queen.
He does whatever it takes in life. He has a big heart and loves deeply. He looks after himself.
The ‘King & Queen’ wording gets thrown around a lot. Do you agree?
He is enough & worthy - and he knows it.
There are many people in relationships who call their princes Kings, and who call their princesses Queens. That’s cute. But it’s far from a fact. And it has almost become “trendy & cool” to call your partner King/Queen.
He has ‘done the work’ per say. Men don’t just randomly ‘become King’. And women don’t just randomly ‘wake up as Queen’. They have done the work to earn their crown.
Just because you are in a relationship with a man, doesn’t mean you are dating a King. And just because you are in a relationship with a woman, doesn’t mean you are dating a Queen. Let’s be clear - a relationship does not equal King & Queen. “So what’s your definition of a King?” - This brother asked me... Generally, a man enters his Kinghood in his late 30’s or early 40’s. Yes there are exceptions! And this goes both ways. Sometimes a man will never grow into a King (quite often in fact). And sometimes a man may enter his Kinghood in his very early 30’s (this can be rare, but very possible! Maybe even late 20’s!). So what defines this? A King is a man living his divine purpose. He has set himself up and taken the journey into success. Meaning - he has created a life of wealth, happiness, inner peace, love for himself and ability to spend time on his own. He has the ability to PROVIDE for his Queen or Queen to be. 10 | OneTribeMagazine.com
He is self-aware, self-responsible & self-directed. He has nothing to prove to anyone. He is at ease in his own skin but can step up when required. He is respected and holds everyone around him to their highest standards. His masculinity is strong, yet he is not afraid to be vulnerable and gentle. He embodies healthy masculine qualities and respects the divine feminine, deeply. He embodies healthy energy of a natural protector (not control), and the feminine feels safe around him. He is sure of himself and he knows what he wants. He is decisive and embodies CERTAINTY. He is GROUNDED in his being.
This takes years. Years of hustle and deep inner work. A KingQueen dynamic is a relationship or connection that JUST IS. It doesn’t form from a space of neediness, co-dependency, fear, scarcity or impatience. Whether it develops quickly or slowly, when King & Queen meet, it’s like a merging of two powerful forces. It’s an abundant dynamic. There is a deep honouring of what is standing in front of him/her. The King recognises and SEES the Queen because he has the ability to SEE HIMSELF. The Queen recognises and SEES the King because she has the ability to SEE HERSELF. In this kind of connection or relationship, there is a natural balance of the feminine & masculine dynamic. Emasculation is not even a concern because a Queen calls in her King from an ALIGNED place, depending on who she is and where she is at in life. Here is an example (quite a personal one) I have my eyes on making my first million in 2020 and I will do whatever it takes to make this a
in that reality. Nothing to do with amounts of money he makes, but he can, wants and will provide for me with ease. Our relationship is ABUNDANT. He is a self-empowered masculine man so that I can naturally be and continue to be a self-empowered feminine woman.
Commonly, the development stages of a man are – Boy, Knight, Prince, King. And they don’t attach to an age specifically. Unfortunately, there are many 50-year-old ‘little boys’ running around this planet...
I have no interest in wearing the pants in the relationship. I have no interest in making all the decisions. I have no interest in being the main or sole provider in the relationship. That’s the role of the masculine.
They simply haven’t done the work to embody the qualities of a King. However, a King/Queen doesn’t mean being perfect in who we are. We ALL still have our shadows. But a King-Queen dynamic has the ability to hold each other through the shadows and the darkness.
And me personally, I want to keep being a woman who is the embodiment of radiance, love, sensuality, play, pleasure, presence, care and nurture.
Why don’t we ALL (men & women) begin taking more responsibility for our evolution, so we get to have more harmonised and balanced relationships with each other.
I am not interested in being the “lady boss”. That’s what my ex-boyfriend from 3 years ago called me. And he walked out on me because he felt emasculated. He had naturally taken on more of a feminine energy in the relationship because I was so stuck in the masculine energy myself. And I tried to coach him (lol). I am so grateful for this experience because it prompted me onto a path of doing the work to becoming a Queen. Too many people on a ‘conscious growth path’ try and coach their partners. This leads to all sorts of unnecessary conflict. To expand on my personal example - King-Queen dynamic has got nothing to do with how much money each make. The question here is - Can the King provide for the Queen with where she is at in her personal journey? Can the King hold her in her magnificence while still NATURALLY maintaining his masculinity?
I am not looking for Mr Perfect. And I am not impatiently waiting for ‘The One’. I am focusing on my own journey, mission, and falling even deeper in love with myself (including my shadows) - while allowing the Universe to deliver the physical manifestation of my ‘human & soul aligned’ King, without the attachment of ‘how and when’. I honour the Kings who have done their work to earn their crown. Thank you. I see you. Linda
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Personally, I am not attached to an age, to certain looks or to a certain physical place of my King to be. What matters to me is that my King can hold me in his masculinity, certainty, unconditional love, direction and natural desire and ability to provide. He will probably think “it’s cute” that I want to make my first million next year, whereas many men (who don’t play at that level) may feel emasculated by that thought.
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Reconnect Nina Sadlowsky International Results Coach & Speaker, Yoga Instructor, Essential Oils Lover.
I’ve heard the words ‘Connect’, ‘Disconnected’ and ‘Reconnect’ a lot. Maybe this is because so many people feel disconnected from themselves and want to reconnect with their body, mind, and spirit, or I’ve noticed it increasingly since it has become one of my favourite topics. I truly believe that if we lost connection with ourselves that we can get it back, we can build the connection with ourselves again. We can reconnect.
reconnection process, you can come closer to your true self. Once you start the journey becoming the real you, you’ll feel lighter and happier.
Reconnect on different levels
It is liberating. ‘Cause every day feels lighter, with less bullshit, instead with more awareness and gratitude, especially for the small things in our life. Because I also noticed one more thing, it is not really the big things that make up our lives, it is the small things.
In my opinion, this needs to happen on different levels, physically, mentally and spiritually. Reconnecting with yourself means first of all to become aware, of your body, mind and soul. Ask yourself what is going on here? What are my pain points physically and emotionally? Where is my mind going? What keeps my mind busy? Is my soul telling me something? Do I sometimes feel restless? Why? When do I feel most disconnected with myself? When do I most feel the urge to connect with myself? Notice and sit with it Become aware, notice and sit with it to start with. You don’t have to take any action right away. I know it’s difficult, but it’s better not to fight it, because that would mean you are fighting life, and that in return would mean that you are fighting yourself. So, start with bringing more awareness into your being. Deautomize your being and your actions, whatever you do, do it less 12 | OneTribeMagazine.com
Of course, there will be difficult moments, of course, you won’t feel light 24/7, but again I know from my own inner journey how amazingly rewarding it is to start this process. To walk the liberating path of personal development. A liberating feeling
automatically, more consciously. Bring more awareness into your life. Maybe you wonder now, what this is all about and how this should help you reconnect? Awareness I know from experience that bringing more awareness to my being, to my body, mind and soul is the first and only step required to commence the reconnection process.
And if we manage to appreciate the small things, if we manage to appreciate ourselves, we can reconnect with ourselves, we can let go of bullshit and instead embrace all the beautiful new things flowing (or even flooding!) into our lives. And we can go off design it.
How do you think you can connect with your beautiful life, if you don’t start connecting with yourself? How can you see, feel, smell and taste all the beautiful things in our world, if you cannot even see or feel yourself? Awareness and appreciation are your entry to reconnect with yourself.
Become yourself
Use your 5 senses consciously to bring more awareness into your life, they’ve been given to us with reason, so use them and enjoy them.
I’m so excited about your journey and it just gets better with every single day (with some exceptions, haha).
Feel Understand Heal
Love to you, love to us, love to the world.
Once you feel & understand, you can heal. Once you start your individual
The closer you get to yourself, the more you become yourself, the lighter you will feel and the happier you will be. Because you are truly you. You can be happy only if you become yourself. Isn’t that a wonderful outlook?
Yours, Nina
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When I did THIS ONE Thing More Efficiently, My Relationship Blossomed. Joanna Intara | The Intimacy Genius
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I hear every day that couples want a relationship life to be EASIER. Easier with the kids. Easier with the connection. Easier with sex, love, and closeness. And I’d be lying if I let you believe it has all been a bed of roses for me, as some people think...it has NOT. It has been a WHOLE journey, a LIBERATION journey, a connecting, loving, definitely amazing, ...Aaaand potent, transformative, freakin’ journey. There are so many things that go into creating hot sex, love and connected relationship. People think it’s surface basic stuff and that’s not realistic. It seriously takes inner resources that few of us arrive at adulthood having what’s truly needed, even though you feel like you should just automatically arrive at adulthood with them. I know, because I hear every day through some sort of challenged perspective from my clients, “...we need a bigger view..., ...how do I not take things as personally?... ...what do we do when we’re stuck that actually makes sense? ...that actually works?...” The EXACT same things I once deeply struggled with. And because I didn’t have these things figured out... It HURT, a lot! Disconnection, frustration, lack of closeness...not the ideal sex I desired... Questioning myself. Us questioning each other. Doubting. Enactments. Probably in one shade or another, what you’re experiencing as well.
out of it... Because that’s EXACTLY how we BOTH felt... And because I drank from that well... it was family transmitted...so for a long time I thought it was normal. Usual and familiar...{{ as in root word of FAMILY ;-) }} And it took a long time to get to the root of what created the problem. Let alone the inner resources to satisfy my hunger on how to really have the love, sex and closeness I desired. And in ending the struggle, I embraced the partnership and the journey of it, AS SPIRITUAL PATH, Which deepened EVERYTHING. Because you need a bigger perspective, especially when it comes to partnership... Because the relationship is the place where your mind can make things small, ...and your conditioning can sometimes make you contract around love, ...and those of you that are parents will resonate; you’re confronted with more input than you can sometimes feasibly handle. And it wasn’t enough to become more aware of our patterns, our feelings, our wounds and injuries along with the creativity and heart to heal it. We had to embrace our challenges and desires for growth through a wider lense, ...a more compassionate lens ...a more impersonal lens ...an undeniably more wise and loving lens. And this became the beginning of our spiritual path as relationship, And it’s only continued to grow,
Nobody likes to talk about it, but it’s an EPIDEMIC.
And deepen...
And I believe we’ve got TO put ourselves out of our own misery so we CAN experience The Hot Sex, Love and Closeness we desire and deserve.
And repair..
Even though we can stay in the same disconnection patterns that cause unhappiness and love lost, and sometimes for a painfully long, disconnected time, even only IF in certain places or pockets between you.. the rub... RUBS! And I know how tempting that can be to feel like you’re never going to get 16 | OneTribeMagazine.com
And heal... And bring certain things to an end {that needed to...} And birth to other things.. that we both deeply desired... And to grow love, real promise-land, sustainable, true love.. NOT the love of romantic fantasy and projection kinda love. And I tell you, it wasn’t easy. I didn’t know if we were gonna make it at times,
But holding our relationship through the lens of a spiritual path was EXACTLY helpful, the right medicine... And we did it by ultimately staying open, asking the right questions, listening humbly for answers, even if it was after difficult moments, which... let’s face it.. are going to happen. And I know it’s not easy for you either.. at least not in this place.. But that you want SOMETHING... that thing that gives you more space, a deep exhale of AH, and the knowing you are each individually and your journey together is HELD with exactly the support it needs. That is what relationship as a spiritual path can DO for you.. When you have a spiritual path, you feel held in practices that grow love, perspectives that increase presence and meditation that grow awareness. These are things you can DO, right now and they are ALL so useful for growing Hot Sex, Love and Closeness.... it’s like you have a compass to guide you and a HUGE net to catch you when you get stuck.. and when you have that.. you feel closer, more connected.. you overcome stuff easier.. you get back to loving easier.... and this is why getting support is such an IMPORTANT step because it helps you get connected to this (even if it’s feeling unclear how you’d get there right now). And you can learn to create it for yourself. And..I’ve got ONE spot (https:// freecallwithjoanna.com) open this week for anyone who is wanting to turn up the hotness, love and intimacy in their love relationship.....even if you haven’t been having it for a while... get on this while there’s openings.. you can tell me any one thing you want help within your relationship.. and I’ll share with you the MOST EFFECTIVE thing that will totally help you. What’s ONE thing you want to see different in your relationship this week?
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Conscious Connection in a Chaotic world Dawn Alexander | Intuitive Channel. Energy Alchemist. Clairvoyant. Clairaudient. Clairsentient. Claircognizant.
fed a diet of lies. We were told to forget what we began to remember.
Happy not New Year. I know I am not alone in not feeling the vibes of drinking alcohol or dancing around as the clock strikes twelve. I don’t need to run home before my carriage turns into a pumpkin as I never left home in the first place. There are many layers and levels to this life. When we take a moment to stop and simply observe it all we can clearly see the madness in it all. A narrative cleverly created for us to read too deeply into or become too absorbed in. Often we need to put down that dismal depressing book we were reading and go choose another one. You don’t need the librarian to tell you what book you need to read. Your Soul will pull you into the pages. The seeds are planted into the fertile ground in Spring and we know that before long the most beautiful flowers will appear before our eyes. A somewhat effortless manifestation of beauty that stems from a place of trust. We watch with a sense of marvel when we make time to simply slow down. Reading newspapers or watching the news simply sucks you into the tornado of turbulence. The tentacles of the octopus wrap itself around your head and stop the sense from circulating around your psyche. You can throw your common sense out of the window or you can connect into your own consciousness. The soft and gentle breeze that wafts over your skin reminds you of the softness that lies beneath. The sweet music you sing to yourself reminds you of a place where you feel at peace. The rhythmic swaying of your body as it aligns itself without any force. The majestic trees can bring you to your knees. The expanses of water remind you of life itself. The sustaining qualities that never leave. They are always at home. Where is your home? Where do you 18 | OneTribeMagazine.com
We were deemed crazy or we were urged to take part in the world that never made sense to us. I know I am not alone in this. For many years I peeked out at the world and retreated back into my sanctuary. My heart. I knew this place. I knew me even though the world and I weren’t always friends we always had a respect for life. Reading, writing, breathing, moving, dancing, connecting, flowing, growing, expanding and evolving. I vowed to never forget what I was now remembering.
feel that sense of safety? We all have a place within our heart where we can curl up and connect. Wrap the divine blanket of Love around your shoulders and know you are safe. When you peek outside you will witness many things; a myriad of experiences being played out and not all of them are for you to engage with. We are here on Earth to be us in a way only we can. We are Cinderella, we are the Prince, we are the Fairy Godmother. We are many archetypes, energies and emotions. The Earth experiences are placed into the Cosmic melting pot as we enter a time and space for many new beginnings on both a personal and collective level. Every breath and every small step takes you where you need to be. You can course correct in any moment. You are the captain, the caretaker and the conscious creator. We have walked through times where the path seemed dark. We have fallen and we were blinded. We were spoon
This world can definitely seem chaotic if you allow it to. The energies may feel harsh and your heart may feel bruised. Take time to bathe in the bliss of your own Soul. This requires no belief systems, doctrines, rules, incantations or rituals. You know deep within you who you are. It is when you stop listening to the outside influences that you truly begin to discover who you are. You are the Angels, Masters, Guides and Galactics. There is no need to be saved or rescued. You can be assisted and supported yet you have all you need right here at Home. Home within yourself. The thrive-all kit. Not merely survival. Enough of those ‘begging for scraps’ days. It is time for us all to thrive. Big time. It is time for us all to come home to our true Soul essence and the truth of our infinite nature. I welcome you into my Home. My Heart. I open the doors so others can walk through. I found my way back to where it all began. The heroine’s journey that many others walk too. Are you ready to join us? I HEART EARTH. I am Home.
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When 7 turns 48 Christine Saunders | Empowerment Coach at Wholehearted Life.
In my experience, the life cycles tend to each last about 7 years. It just so happens I am heading into the last year of the 7th cycle of my life. In reflecting on these 7-year cycles, some feel like yesterday and others feel like a lifetime ago. Until I really took some time to reflect on these cycles, I didn’t really understand how significant they are in my life. I always wondered why my favorite number is 7, now I have more clarity around why. Encountering angel number 7 repeatedly means that positive things are flowing freely toward me. It wasn’t until recently, I gave myself permission to have awareness of things like this. I am blessed for every day I have the courage to lean into and discover this part of my journey. An important part of my journey is that it allows me to share my knowledge I have learned and share it with others. This is my journey of when 7 meets 48, my cycles journey; When I was 7 my world consisted baby dolls or dollies as I called them, my mama and papa and stuffed animals. Age 7 comes in second grade. This is the time we begin to learn where we fit in, truly understand right and wrong, and discover our awareness of how others accept us. We are aware of body image and our baby teeth begin to fall out to make way for adult teeth. The first 7 years of life we have been busy exploring, testing, and loving. Age 7 was the first real moment I felt shameful or embarrassed about my body. Every school year we were tested. Our hearing, eyes, and all our “stats” were measured. Let me paint you a picture of this situation. A vulnerable 7-year-old discovering all these firsts in life standing in line, waiting for my turn to have
my first kiss as she waited outside the door, and so many more. When I was 14 my second cycle consisted of experimenting with makeup, music and boys.
my weight and height measured. I absolutely dreaded the line and this year seemed worse. I was growing up, I was the tallest, and biggest girl in class. Exploring the 7-year cycle made me realize just how much this shaped my rules and beliefs around body image. It was my turn to step on the scale. What happened next was the catalyst for a future of body obsession and poor body image. The nurse yelling my height and weight as my classmates snickered and laughed at me. I was a shy little girl, I had one close friend. The neighborhood I lived in had very few kids my age, looking back I am so grateful for my friend and that we were the same age. We were kind of the two-little tag along kids with all the older kids. At that age I was just beginning to understand what the word “friend” truly meant. We were like two peas in a pod, we did everything together. So many firsts in my life were with her. My first movie without my parents (Grease by the way), my first concert without my parents (Bryan Adams),
At age 14, my independence came in the form of a bicycle. My friend and I rode our bikes around the neighborhood hour after hour talking about boys, clothes, and makeup. That time I kissed a boy, I’m not going to lie, it was awkward. I was so nervous that I just stood there frozen in my awkward glory. I thought I was going to die when he told my friends I was an awful kisser! I was mortified!! At that time I was embarrassed. Now, I’m like “Dude no one is good at anything when it’s their first time and you don’t know what you’re doing”. So not only is my body weird but I have now been deemed an “awful kisser”. Age 14 further shaped my poor body image. Imagine me being a shy awkward girl telling her circle of friends I had a crush on a boy. Then that boy finding out and his response being, “that fat cow over there?” pointing at me. So, I went on my first “diet” and began lifting weights. I even made my mom take me to weight watchers. They told me, “you don’t qualify for this program you are not overweight”and still I felt lost as all my friends were “thin” in my eyes. None of them were called “fat cows”! I got a job at a gym in the childcare center babysitting for a free membership. And so, my relationship with body image truly began in full swing. My third life cycle at age 21 was pivotal in my journey. The night I was sexually assaulted changed my life forever. I began drinking, smoking more and seeking outside influences to help me “feel” again. 21 consisted of smoking, booze, college, and a OneTribeMagazine.com | 21
career. I was taking 18-21 college credit hours to keep myself busy, partying on the weekends, and doing an internship. Looking back, I was once again searching for belonging and at the same time trying to escape my reality with booze, and partying. I was dating a man who cheated on me multiple times. I stayed because in my mind, “who would want me?” Also, at 21 the most beautiful part of my 21st year was when I met my husband John later that year. I fell madly in love, started my career and soon would be engaged. My life was awesome! What I didn’t realize at that time was, God had sent me an angel! What was not so beautiful was, I hid my secret and it seemed to be working. My fourth life cycle at 28 brought me marriage, work, and dogs. We bought a house, had careers, worked opposite schedules, and were more like roommates than a married couple. It’s hard to think about, even write about, yet this time is significant for me. We had a rough patch, we both had some internal turmoil we needed to work through. The hard part for me was being brave and saying something. I knew it would break John’s heart, it broke mine. We never gave up! Even though at one moment in time I thought it would be easier. These tough few months, many late nights of conversations, changing work hours, and giving 100% to the other person kept our love alive. I love this man with all my whole heart and I’m blessed every moment of every day for my husband and our collective strength to honor our commitment. As you will read, John has been my rock, my savor, my ride or die for over half my life. At age 35 my fifth life cycle would have my world turned upside down with a significant career change, lost identity and hiding my secret even more. I had a successful career as an addiction therapist, built a legacy facility and knew I needed a huge change. Again, God had a plan for me. At this time, I didn’t understand why these things were happening to me until later when I realized it was not happening to me at all but it was happening for me. A career change was just what he knew I needed. I was challenged, in a whole new way. I learned new things, met 22 | OneTribeMagazine.com
new people, and began to realize there was more I wanted to do in my life. I was not sure what or how to make “it” happen, whatever “it” was. I toyed with the idea of a life coach because I missed helping people. I didn’t know where to start to figure out what was next. So I floated along doing my work, seeking out new things to learn, all of which moved me along very slow. I liked the consistency of life, had an awesome marriage, a good career, but I knew there was more. Then it hit…at 42 my sixth life cycle. I was consumed by depression, work was just work and again I found myself searching for purpose. My depression was the worst it had ever been in years, I was lost and didn’t know why. I knew there was more I was meant to do. I finally decided I wanted to be that life coach I had dreamed of. With the support of my husband John standing by my side, I decided it was time to make that move. He has supported me and loved me through the rough spots of this life, Helped to make sense of my life’s purpose and move forward. I discovered my mission in life, the dream became a reality… I am that Empowerment Coach!! I live in and love from my whole heart. And now I’m 48 heading into the last year of my 7th cycle of 7 years. Yes, at the age of 49 I will be entering the 8th, 7 year cycle of my life. Today, my world consists of opportunities, a beautiful marriage, and Love. I’m madly in love with my life!!- I have an amazing coaching practice and I am making an impact on the world by sharing my story. Thus, I am doing what I’m meant to do, living and loving in and from my wholeheart. Now do you believe in the power of 7?
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How Do We
Communicate? Charmaine Barber | Transformational Coach & Writer.
how we talk to people. Do we snap at them if we are irritated, or do we react happily when we see someone. The last part is our physiology, as in non-verbal, the way we shrug our shoulders, nod or shake our heads, wink at someone or generally have a whole conversation with them without saying anything at all which accounts for 55%. Ever picked up someone at a disco, rave, dance or perhaps the local supermarket or work, with just your non-verbal facial and bodily movements? You won´t have realised you were doing it, but you were having a conversation with them the whole the time.
Communication is something we all do and have to do in order to physically survive; food, shelter and clothing being the most basic of our needs whereby we have to use communication in some shape or form in order to earn, be given, buy, steal or whatever we do which we feel is necessary for us to in order to attain it. We have emotional needs which we strive to fulfil in our lives also. Without fulfilling our physical needs, we would live a very uncomfortable life, probably no home, or lacking in many material things which would help to make us feel more comfortable and experience having an easier life. Our emotional needs also need attending to so that we are happy and fulfilled. Most of us expect these things to happen almost magically, especially when we´re children. We grow up usually with a roof over our head, full stomach and clothes on our back. We have friends and family around us whom we hopefully connect with too, and the majority of us are, for most of the time, happy with how our lives are. What we don’t usually learn about unless we want to study communication and language at greater depth, is how we communicate in order to get our needs met. We aren’t really taught communication skills at school; we just pick up things as we go along. Think, boys pulling the girls hair and learning that if they do something like that, it´s because they like us! Or think, if we spilt something on the kitchen floor, we would be 24 | OneTribeMagazine.com
communicated with in a way which made us realise that it wasn’t a good thing to do because one of our parents would have been upset with us if we had done something like that. To get a better understanding of communication, professor of psychology Albert Mehrabian studied the importance of nonverbal communication in the 1970s and he came up with: Albert Mehrabian ‘s Communication model: 7 – 38 – 55. What it stands for is the percentage of how we actually “turn up” in the world when we are communicating with others. It turns out surprisingly, that only 7% of our communication is done using words, 38% is the way we say what we say, that´s the tonality,
Is it any wonder then, that we get things so massively wrong at times, especially in this ever increasing speed of the world which we live in, where we are rushing around trying to take in huge amounts of information which we can´t always cope with. It saps our energy and we all only have so many energy units for our day and then we need to recharge by getting a good night’s sleep. What we don’t realise when we´re communicating with others, is the split-second speed of the decisions we make and how we arrive at them and also that there are different levels of communication which we use to communicate with. We have our own map or perception of the world in our head which we have been putting together since we were born, so we automatically react to our own perception of reality which is not like anyone elses.
Just visualise everyone walking around, each of us with one of these little animated clouds above our head with all our beliefs, thoughts, ideas perceptions etc. inside it, then try to imagine everyone getting on with each other, no mean feat! What we are hearing and seeing is totally based on that little animated world inside our head which puts us in all sorts of various frames of mind, either positive or negative, our own experiences, expectations and preferences for how we are fully immersed in that world. For any real, meaningful communication to take place, we must first build trust and rapport with others by listening fully and with complete focus on the other person, not on ourselves. Forget about thinking about what you should be cooking or buying for dinner or whether the car needs winter/summer tyres putting on it. Be in the moment and not somewhere in the future or maybe even the past. Be there for that other person. Be aware of yourself also and try to not bring shame, blame, judgement or criticism to the relationship table and try not to jump to conclusions which are nowhere near the truth of the matter. It´s far better to bring honesty rather than hidden intentions with you. If you don´t, it will only bring hurt, if not now then later. Don´t attempt to assume that you know the other persons intentions and be prepared to ask open questions so that you receive the true, real and honest answers.
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We have our own map or perception of the world in our head which we have been putting together since we were born, so we automatically react to our own perception of reality which is not like anyone elses.
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Burt Kempner | Independent Writer/Producer & Author
Traveler, there are no paths. Paths are made by walking. Aboriginal saying
This is what I’ve learned over the course of a long life: the finest teachers and mentors can only take you so far. There comes a point at which the next step is yours and yours alone. To take another person’s journey as your own would be as unnatural as wearing someone else’s skin. So you lift one foot and the questions descend. “Can I do this alone? What if I don’t like it? What if I do?” Your heart is pounding. You lift your other foot and place it in front of you. There is no turning back now. You need no one’s permission. You have no idea where the path will lead you, what sights and sounds you will experience, what triumphs and tragedies await you You grow more confident with each new step. Let whatever is going to unfold happen. You are walking in your own truth to find your own happiness and, succeed or fail, that sets you apart from the incurious herd.
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(Re)Imagining The Future After Midlife Andy Ferguson | Reimagineer.
Most of us will recognise the term “Midlife Crisis”. And most of us might imagine it as a guy dyeing his hair, to hide the grey, fantasising about running away with a younger woman, or man and buying a bright red sports car. All to “feel young again”. What’s fascinating about this clichè is that it’s not far from the truth. Men and woman reach a point in their lives, no matter how successful they’ve been, when they realise that they are not “young” any more. They look in the mirror and think they’re on the downslope of life rather than the upslope. And it’s not just that, often they look at all the stuff they’ve been working for: Their home, career, friends, hobbies, their whole life and think ...” meh”. So if the things we’ve been working for, for so long, no longer satisfy or excite us and we know the number of days we have left on this planet are numbered, what are we supposed to do? Well, before we answer that question, let’s look at things from a slightly different angle. Imagine you are in your thirties. Perhaps you have started a family and have children. Most likely, you are in a job with some degree of responsibility, and you’re on the rise. You have commitments of some sort in your life, even if it’s only to yourself, your career, your future. Your childhood seemed a long time ago, and yet in some ways, it feels like it was only yesterday. The focus you have for the future drives you on, yet you know there’s still a long way to go. At your best, you feel driven, committed and full of viability. The world is still full of potential, yours to do something with - something that’s important and exciting. On a bad day, 28 | OneTribeMagazine.com
worn us down and the toll on our mind, body and soul of striving for better, higher or faster have exacted a price that we feel is getting higher, maybe too high, to pay. Often we feel we have become tired, bored, worn out and done. Oh, to be young again.
you may feel conflicted, frustrated and pulled in all sorts of directions with competing demands on your time and energy but this is a life of your choosing, and you know you’ll get through it, you’ll find a way. ***** It’s not hard to imagine life as a journey: From the cradle to the grave, after all, we have ample evidence to back it up. There is an almost unlimited number of stories told in person, in books and articles, films and plays, song lyrics and art. Life is a journey with a beginning, middle and end, right? If we take this view, we may start to understand where the idea of the Midlife Crisis has its roots. If there is a beginning, middle and end, then our Midlife Crisis hits as we realise we are heading out of Midlife and towards the END of our journey. No, wonder we panic. The end is nigh. HELLLLPPPP. Is it not a nice feeling waking up one day and asking “are the best years of my life really behind me”? By our fifties, the things that once gave us such pleasure have become stale. The challenges that once inspired us have
The truth is, though, throughout our lives, beginning, middle and end, there have and will always be challenges. There is no golden age, no happy ever after, just our past, present and future. Where we are on our journey simply defines the particular set of challenges and opportunities that we are likely to be confronted with at this time. ***** Throughout our lives, whether we realise it or not, we work to develop an understanding of ourselves and the world around us, and throughout our journey, we will continue to seek the best accommodation with our world, our circumstances, that we can. We will seek help and advice from those around us; we will build up skills, knowledge and tangible assets to be used to make our life safe and secure yet interesting, stimulating and worthwhile. We will search to find a satisfactory blend of safe and exciting that best suits our temperament and needs. When we get bored, we will seek out situations to excite us, whether consciously or unconsciously and life will throw in unexpected roadblocks and chasms that we will have to cross. And like a game of Snakes and Ladders we will often slip back and be accelerated forward by forces we don’t see or fully understand. We all of us seek to control the circumstances of our lives, and when we are young, we are more likely to believe we can. As we get older,
we may lose our optimism, energy, resilience and drive. The number of funerals we attend, friends and loved ones lost will do that to you. No matter how good or bad a start we had in life we’ve had by the time we are on the other side of Midlife we will have experienced a lot of setbacks, accumulated disappointments and failures or we will have lived a uniquely privileged life indeed. Yet the homeward leg to our Journey’s End need not be one of misery, joylessness nor disappointment. Indeed it can really be the best time of our lives: It’s all to do with perspective. Okay so we may not have youthful energy on our side, but we do have experience. We have a bigger world view because we have seen; further, we’ve experienced deeper, more often and for longer. Life is still a great mystery, and there are still great truths to be discovered and great battles to be fought. And there is still plenty of energy out there that we can (wisely) tap into and take advantage of. Dr Martin Luther King once said, “We must use time creatively, in the knowledge that the time is always ripe to do right.” The journey out of our Midlife and on to our Third Life is really the best time to realise that we
can only find the joyful, rewarding and fulfilled life we seek when we accept that time has always been on our side. When we are in our thirties the end of our life may have seemed a long way away, there was so much to do and we filled it with so much. When we are in our fifties, and beyond, we realise the value of the present - the present is our gift and it is ours to share how we choose. We know not to squander it, take it for granted or abuse it. We choose to use our time, these precious moments, to love more deeply, share more fully, talk truth to power more often and more persuasively. We right wrongs that have stood for too long and work to leave things better than we found them. We make a new commitment to live our lives as fully as we are able and explore our lives and our world in ways that would have been impossible or at least unlikely when we were occupied with all the other stuff of our earlier lives. We may or may not need a Midlife Crisis to awaken within us the reality that this is indeed the right time to seek out and realise the joyful, rewarding and fulfilling life that we always promised ourselves. It’s never too late; the time is right to Reimagine what our life can and should be about, every minute of
every hour of every day, from this day until our last day. So remember while you’re here, there is still so much to enjoy, so much to develop, so much to improve, create, express, discover, share, highlight, teach and learn. Isn’t that amazing? There is no time like this present. You can find out more about Reimagining at Andy’s website below. [Andy is currently writing a number of books on Reimagineering as well as collaborating on Reimagineering projects with partners around the world. For fun, he’s trying to find time to build Electronic Musical Instruments to use with his group The Infinity Collective, and he’s recently begun an adventure to travel 2020 miles on foot, in the saddle, by paddle and on skis in 2020.]
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The time is NOW! “Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment” – BUDDA Vanessa Louise Birt | Transformational Mentor & Speaker.
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Why is it we hear all too often “doesn’t time fly” “where has the year gone?” “time just goes faster and faster” A little way into the New Year and we may have simmered down from the boil a touch. The excitement, focus and anticipation for the New Year ahead can soon lose its edge, why is that? I believe it’s because of our inability to BE in the present moment. We all love to feel happy, at peace and excited about having something to look forward to, because it feels good. And we all love to feel good! On the flip side it feels rubbish when we feel crappy, out of sorts and have nothing to look forward to. Earlier today I sat next to a newly engaged couple and their parents all having a celebratory lunch together, champagne, smiles and laughter. A joy to see. I can only imagine they felt happy to be with each other, at peace they have found that someone special and looking forward to planning a wedding and future life together. They were all having a joyous time getting to know each other. Watching them all so happy and enjoying each other’s company made my heart sing and it also made me feel sad to think that so many others don’t make the same choice. The choice to be happy. The choice to enjoy. The choice to be at peace. Yes, we all have s**t happen in our lives and past experiences that we think prevents us from being happy but when we allow all that crap to define us, we allow it to rob us of what’s rightfully ours: HAPPINESS ~ PEACE ~ ABUNDANCE and more. We get too caught up in our stories from the past and live our lives based on our past experiences, which can leave us feeling depressed or we live in fear as we worry about what will happen in the future leaving us feeling anxious and we can’t see how we will ever be truly happy and fulfilled trying to keep up with the demands of our busy lives.
The only place where we will ever feel happy, at peace and abundant is in the here and now. Learning how to BE in the present moment takes courage and a willingness to accept and let go of what your analytical mind tells you about yourself and to trust, by connecting with your heart centre and feeling the truth of your essential loving self. This takes practice and perseverance because your analytical mind will do it’s best to prevent you from connecting to your heart centre for fear of no longer being in control. For generations, we have been led to believe that our mind knows best, when it’s our hearts that lead the way. One of the best ways I have found to BE in the present moment is by concentrating on my breathing. Breathing is something that is done for us by our autonomic nervous system, so to bring your attention to your breathing allows your analytical mind to stop racing and become still. When we become quiet and still, the gentle whispers of our hearts can be felt and heard.
So how about making 2020 the year you master your~self and master living in the present moment… The time is NOW! “You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island opportunities and look toward another land. There is no other land, there is no other life but this” - Henry David Thoreau
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As yoga teacher and enthusiast Kelle Yokeley says, “The path to presence is through our mind, body connection ~ our path is through our breath. The breath is ALWAYS the here and now, it is the ultimate present moment…Our breath is our constant connection to the here and now, and our presence is rooted in its flow” (Yokeley) The simple exercise of focussing on your breathing will bring you straight to the present moment, quietening the most stubborn mind that is wired with worries. Next time you feel yourself feeling anxious or sad, frustrated or guilty, take a long breath in for four counts, hold for four counts and exhale for eight counts. Repeat until you feel calm and present and know you can turn to your breath whenever and wherever as your breath is AWLAYS with you. Try this simple breathing meditation to get you started if you are new to the whole concept to see for yourself the power of coming back to your breath. https://www.youtube.com/ watch?v=XeTmJcjMf1Y OneTribeMagazine.com | 31
TIME to SPA Dawn Bates | International bestselling author, coach and speaker
Missing my children.
Having sailed across the Atlantic on a 55m tall ship with over 25 sails, through high winds and the doldrums, arriving back on land after 3 months, I needed time to just relax my body.
Being in a different continent where I don’t know anyone or speak the language. The energy and flow of life so different, and I had arrived during the middle of an uprising taking hold of the country.
You see as much as the ocean is a relaxation of my mind and a reset for my soul, my body is constantly moving.
Logging onto the internet and being hit with the masses amounts of information, mostly great, but also some not so great, the reality of life back on land hit me hard; and I wanted to hide away in my room and not see people.
Boat yoga I call it. All the micro-muscles in your body are working overtime to keep you balanced, even when you are sleeping. Then there’s the climbing of the masts, hauling the sails in high winds (which can take up to 6-8 strong adults to haul up the mast), not to mention the hanging on when the boat is heeled over. Yep. Your body gets a workout for sure. You may not be running or cycling anywhere, but if you are lucky, as we were, when you hit the doldrums, you get to swim in the ocean; but full on cardio work is out of the question.
All this aside though, I was tired. I had gone so deep into my soul, got present to so much, cried, journaled and had my heart crack open, especially when the Minky Whales and turtles swam by and I turned to say to my boys come look at this and they were not there to share the moment with me. Day three of being back on land, I went for a short walk. Only of about 10km, but Day four!? OH MY DAYS!
I did find a place to turn up my music and dance away on the sloop deck though, much to the confusion and amusement of others on board the ship.
I couldn’t move. My body had seized up well and truly around my core section, my hip flexors and my ankles. The DOMs had well and truly taken hold.
Had I been drinking? Had I gone a little crazy?
It was time to seek out a spa and allow the intense heat take hold of my body, relaxing the mind, body and soul in a very different way.
Nope! Just happy in myself and with my music; and you know what? Dancing on the sloop deck in the middle of the Atlantic, with 360* views of the ocean, and the clear blue sky, I was having a great time I can tell you!
But first, I needed to swim. I only did a few lengths but hmmmmm…. To be in the water, to be under the water and then to gaze out of the window at the horizon of the ocean… tears flowed. The intensity of emotions came flooding to the surface.
Had I lost the plot?
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But people were everywhere. With cars. With fear. With a speed of life alien to me after three months at sea. Sailing may sound glamorous to many, but the reality is quite different. You work shifts on a boat, making sure the ship is heading in the right direction, making sure there is nothing in your path. You are hauling sails, washing the decks, working on a 4 hours on and 8 hours off shift pattern on most boats. Add to that the study for my captaincy, the articles I was writing, the creation of my up and coming Executive and Leadership Coaching Programme and my 7 Month Author Mastermind, not to mention the writing The Mermaid´s Guide to Hitchhiking, the last three months were intense. Being watch leader to 33 people, over the 3-month period, I was ready to have some solitude. I was ready for silence. A silencing of the soul, of the mind and of the aches in my body. Taking time out to nourish the body, feel the emotions instead of pushing them down, and to silence the mind
The only thing is, I had to start doing things differently. I am no longer the woman I was when I stepped onto the ship back in October.
is so important; and yet how many of us do it? So busy in the hustle and grind. So busy with the family and demands of others. So busy keeping house.
I am no longer the woman I was a year ago, or even a month ago, a week ago.
So busy going to the next level.
None of us are.
So busy getting here and there.
We adapt and change with each new moment and yet we don´t check in deep enough, still just going through the motions, still moving towards the goals we set at the beginning of the year, the beginning of last quarter and staying in places which keep us stuck in a way of being because that is who we have become known to be.
So busy. So busy. So busy. So busy we enter the realm of stress jealousy with others, wearing the ´Busy badge´ like a suit of armour, and then entering into the cut and paste of life, and not always our own life. We cut and paste from others opinions, beliefs, viewpoints and styles, failing to create our own. We cut and paste messages from one contact to another, thinking we are being efficient, but are we? Really? We cut and paste parts of books we read. We quick fix a problem, taking short cuts which finally come up to bite us on the backside and we ignore that message our soul is screaming at us, through frustration, aches and pains in our bodies, the longings, the distractions and then we wonder why we burnout. I knew I needed to see and speak with my boys. I knew I needed to see and speak with my Mum, and my friends. I knew I needed to sort our things with my business. But I also knew my body needed down time. I knew I needed time away from others. I knew I needed sleep. So, I listened. Deeply. Attentively. I checked in with my body. I checked in with my soul.
And I checked in with my mind. I also checked in with my purpose and considered whether I wanted to keep pursuing this journey around the world promoting my books and business, studying cultures and writing more content for books and coaching courses. Did I really want to continue carrying all my luggage with me? Did I really want to keep travelling by myself? Did I really want to keep receiving the messages from people who think I am being selfish and irresponsible because I am away from my children, because ít´s alright for me faffing around the world on boats enjoying myself´ Did I really want to keep doing business online, or did I want more 1:1 in person connections, collaborations and a social life? And the answers to these questions surprised even me, because as close as I came to booking a flight back to the UK to see my boys, my dogs and my parents, I just couldn´t go through with it. Yes, it would be easier. Yes, it would be great to see and hug my boys and snuggle with them; walk my dogs and be woke up by them at 5:30am for their morning walk, as well as get back into speaking on stages again in the UK, but that´s not what soul said. I have no choice but to continue on this journey. I feel like I have no power over this driving force within me. This is what I was born to do, and so it is and so it is done.
And then BOOM! Before we know it, we are living a life we didn’t consciously choose, and we ask ourselves “how did I get here?” “Why is this happening?” and yes, there are times when things happen and we ask these questions from total disbelief at the curveball life just threw our way, but when did you last stop? Like REALLY stop? Take time out to FEEL into what your body, mind and soul is screaming at you, which you muted years ago because of one reason or another? When did you last take your soul off mute and listen? Being present in the moment with the volume of your soul turned up loud and clear? Be honest with yourself. Even if it was last week, what does soul say this week? Tune in, it´s so worth it. And if you wish to, let me know what came up for you. I´d love to hear from you. You can contact me via my website or via social media.
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When did you last take your soul off mute and listen? Being present in the moment with the volume of your soul turned up loud and clear?
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A tribe is a group of people connected to one another and connected to an idea. A group needs only two things to be a tribe: a shared interest and a way to communicate. – Seth Godin
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Your inner empress is calling Katie Moriarty | Writer & Quantum healer
It is time to rise.
Her life is a series of beautiful, breathtaking moments.
It is time to claim, to own, and to EMBODY the highest iteration of you.
She lives for magic and wild adventure.
Your inner empress is calling ‌
She is ever evolving.
Can you hear her?
Her spirit is truly free.
Divine woman,
Are you ready to receive her?
She will never be tamed, but she will absolutely allow herself to be cherished for the magnificence that she knows she is.
Most importantly ‌ will you answer her call? If you just know you are ready to own all of the majestic power that is your birthright, please read on.
She is luminous.
So, who is your inner empress?
She is radiant.
I am SO pleased you asked.
She is love.
Let me re-introduce you, for she has been there waiting all along.
Magnetic, powerful, and free.
She is the divine essence in you that deeply desires to embody it ALL.
She embodies all of this simply by standing in her truth.
And she is absolutely ready to cocreate and play with you to craft out the life of your dreams.
In her natural essence.
To blend with your soul and upgrade your life in more ways than you can even imagine. She is the part of you that just knows that she deserves the absolute best of everything. All of the luxury that life has to offer. She is truly empowered in her truth & divinity and steeped in clarity of self and meaningful purpose. She does not hustle. She does not beg. She does not compete. She aligns and attracts with an inner magnetism most only dream of. She receives everything her heart desires from a state of flow, ease and grace. And she is just as interested in the pursuit of pleasure, play and creation as she is in her purpose. 36 | OneTribeMagazine.com
And she knows, that just by becoming more of her, she will receive the flow of abundance that was always her destiny. Abundance of material wealth, of divine experiences, love and adventure. She is presence personified. She is passionate, and purposeful with her every move. Comfortable in her emotions, the embodied empress knows that anything that is not a resounding heart centred YES is a no. And she makes no apologies for answering the calling of her soul and honouring herself in every moment. She respects her energy, her space and her boundaries and in turn others do the same. And yet at the same time, she is acutely aware that vulnerability is her super power. She has sensuality down to a fine art.
Above all, she is ready to meet you. To blend with you. To co-create with you. She is patiently waiting for you in the place where all of these things reside. So, what is it that you need to do in order to receive all of these blessings? You simply need to activate and embody her. To shift into her world, and her reality. As you shift into the highest version of you available now, you will feel her presence radiating from within. It is time.
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What is more beautiful than love? Did it occures to you that…? Ingrid Meijerink | Mindfulness & Creatieve Art Therapist
energy. My friend said he felt my energy drain when I energized others. That was my turning point. If I wanted to continue to help others, I first had to love myself again: selflove!
You walk outside along the lake. It is 7 a.m. in the morning. The sun rises and shines over the water. Small sparkles and early bird sounds fill the blue sky. It is still cold. I wrap my scarf well around my neck and walk further along the water. I enjoy the fresh air and the sounds in the air. A jogger is coming my way. His head looks sweaty. Without enough air he greets me with a smile and I smile back and nod my head to confirm what he means.
You can recharge by walking in nature. Nature is beautiful! If you realize how nature works and where energy is all around and even within you as a person, then you can only be surprised. Day in and day out nature gives us what we need.
Twigs crack under my feet. My weight is too heavy. They can’t carry me ... but that’s why I walk early. I have decided to enjoy nature more. In the past year I was too busy to ensure that I could start my business properly ... At the start of this year, I decided to lose weight and get closer to nature. That walking has been one of my good intentions - goals. But also eat less meat and more vegetables. It all sounds so cliché but I understand better and better how the human body works. I have fallen in love with my own body. Before that I had a hate/love affair: eating what I liked and being lazy ... I spent hours at the computer because I wanted my Mindful program in order. But uhhhh .... practice what you preach!
But ... we also need each other! The love that you feel for yourself is the love that you can give others. When there are wars or fights, you feel the negative energy.
period in my life, but I realized that body and mind were not sufficiently connected.
It even threatened to get out of hand: heart rhythm disorder and a number on the scales that I had never seen before in my life!!
The special thing was that in the last months of 2019 I helped people who were physically and physically in trouble. They were happy with me and even thought I was “the light”. Very special if you have the feeling that you are in a dark period of your life. Until a friend remarked that we were always on the same line in terms of thoughts. I knew exactly what he was thinking and dreaming. We apped about this at some point every morning to compare this. What turned out now? I sense what others “feel” and tune into their energy.
Yes, I was very conscious of becoming more calm after a hectic
Because I was helping other people, I forgot to keep an eye on my own
What was I doing?
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I would like to use the month of February to make a call to everyone and to reflect on love on February 14/28. Let’s turn our energy into a smile, a warm hand or a hug to someone who needs it. Let’s forget the sadness and send positive energy into the universe! I wish you all a loving month and we are looking forward to achieving our goals! Love, Ingrid – The Mind Factory
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LADDER TO THE MOON Burt Kempner | Independe nt Writer/Producer
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And the crowd below gath ered to jeer. “Come back down, you fo ol!” “Look at that rickety lad der. It can’t possibly support you.” “Jump!”
“Why can’t you be like ot her girls?” She ignored them and ke pt climbing. Their mockin g laughter eventually grew too faint to hear. And while they strutted and sneered and profaned the Earth, she touched the moon, And liberated us all to do the same. Lovingly dedicated to thos e who keep ascending without a net, despite the occasional pang of fe ar or doubt, unshackled by the weight of others’ opinions and expectations .
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