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Editor’s note
A Beautiful You People have always sought terms to define.
Supposed to make our complex world easier to understand, this has also in the process confined humans into a box, with a narrow thought pa-tterns.
There is only one you, with none as a measuring template. Since that is true, who then is beautiful and who is ugly? What do you define as beautiful? The words beautiful and ugly were coined by man.
We see things as good or bad, black or white, beautiful or ugly. When we relate with fellow humans, we apply this thinking pattern. For instance, “a lady is either beautiful or ugly”. Who said?
My conclusion, no one has the right to define you; nobody’s opinion of you is the fact, but just what it is: an opinion. Also remember that “a particular person or thing can mean different things for several people”.
Who said the model figure is the right shape? What happened to “the right shape being any shape, all shapes?” If you take a closer, deeper look at the terms humans use when communicating, you’ll discover that a particular person or thing can mean different things for several people.
As you decide to live your life, WE wish you success in discovering the beautiful you!
Man differentiates, nature doesn’t. Man considers things as separate, nature sees all as a whole made up of different important units; each unit neither inferior nor superior to one other. Should you then care about people’s definition of you, their opinion about you? Should you care to remove the tag put on you by others? Can you be everything for everybody, just because you care? Being everything for everybody does not guarantee people would reciprocate in good manners.
As you decide to live your life, WE wish you success in discovering the beautiful you! WE Always Love You!
Ojay Milah Editor-in-chief Your comments, letters and Suggestions are most welcome. Write to womans.essence.magazine@gmail.com
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Contributors Leanne Haynes editor
With a PhD in Literature, Leanne is a Proofreader for ARC Magazine, which specialises in Caribbean Arts and Culture and has an online column called ‘Artistic Horizons’, where she writes about new and emerging Caribbean artists, and works as Special Projects Editor for another Caribbean focused magazine. She is an amateur photographer and poet, with publications in the UK and US. drleahaynes@gmail.com
Angela McClain editor
Angela McClain is a graduate of North Greenville University in Tigerville, South Carolina. She obtained a Bachelor of Arts degree, and majored in Mass Communication. While attending North Greenville University, Angela took classes in journalism that enabled her become an effective writer, proofreader and editor. She was a freelance writer for “The Shelby Star” in Shelby, North Carolina, and wrote articles for the Lifestyle section of The Shelby Star.
Deanna Proach editor
Deanna Proach is the author of two novels, ‘Day of Revenge’ (Inkwater Press) and ‘To be Maria’ (PULSE). When she’s not writing, Deanna’s involved in her local theatre community as an actress, and she’s learning the art of sword fighting. You can learn more about Deanna at her blog, www.desstories.blogspot.com
Josette Wyatt contributing photographer
Josette always had the feeling she should be doing more, then took her love for photography and turned it into something beautiful and gratifying. In The Moment Portraiture is your photographer for weddings, engagements, boudoirs, head shots, fashion portfolios, children, families, and events. Although based in Southern California, In The Moment Portraiture travels the world for the love of photography. www.nthemoment.com
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Augusta Marquis interviewer
Lagos, Nigeria based Marquis Olufunke Augusta, is presently, a Student in her finals studying Business Administration in Lagos State University. She enjoys reading and meeting people and sees herself as an articulate, focused lady who believes in team work. Her skills are in good human relations and effective problem solving. She can be reached on funke_marquis@yahoo.com
Brandie Kekoa editor fashion
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Founder of Be Kekoa Hair Studio, Brandie has been involved with the textured hair industry from childhood and started as an assistant in 2001 at Barry’s Bad Creations Salon in Rialto California. After becoming a licensed cosmetologist Brandie has steadily built a stable clientele and coordinated and styled on several photo shoot and fashion show projects. www.bekekoa.com
Sharon Fox editor food
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Magazine Food Editor, Sharon is the author of ‘COMFORT FOOD for the Mind, Body, and Soul’. Working as a Cake Designer, Caterer, Cooking Instructor, Private Chef, and Party Planner has given Sharon over 35 years of culinary experience. She is currently about to go in the studio for production of her TV show Healthy Living, a new cook talk show. goodcooking4u2@gmail.com www.goodcookin4u2.webs.com
Trina Sims
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Chicago based Wedding Planner for 10 years and owner of Divine Elegance and Things, Trinas, CAAWP first passion was modeling. This led her behind the curtains, dressing models for fashion shows. Soon she began production, organizing and planning of these shows. With this new found love, she began helping friends and family plan their events and weddings. Now, she and her team plans about 20 weddings and events every year. divineelegancethings@yahoo.com
Ellenore Angelidis contributing writer
Ellenore is a happily married, working mother of three kids ranging in age from teenager to toddler. Being a member of the working mom club for the last fourteen years produced many stories. They range from the profound to the ridiculous as well as tips and strategies to keep balance or at least maintain a sense of humor. Follow along to hear more. www.balancingmotherhoodcareer.blogspot.com
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CONTENTS JULY 2012
52 Women Who Love To Write 10 Business & Career
4 Secrets to Fast Growth by Women CEOs
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12 Special Feature
Delvon Johnson - Fabulous Women Are A Weakness For Me
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Dicey Grenor Sleepy Willow’s Heartless Soul ( The Narcoleptic Vampire Series Vol. 2 ) Jean Holloway Black Jack Lacha’ Mitchell-Scott Destiny’s Child Teen Series Vol. 1
16 Fashion Trends: Things Women Wear 56 Food & Drinks Family Reunion That Men HATE!!! - Marinated Vegetable Salad 20 Beauty Tips: Accessorize: - Family Cheeseball Completing the Perfect Outfit - Honey - Lime Glazed 22 Jewelry: Grilled Chicken Look Amazing - Spicy Grilled Shrimp While Saving the Planet
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July Style pick - by Deanna Proach
30 Cover Story - Interview
60 Home & Decor
Shapes and Dining
64 Partners & Sponsors
Patricia Freeman Educator as Fashion Designer
42 Health & Fitness
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Did You Know Sitting Can Be Killing?
44 Love & Relationships 44 Relationships: Gravitation Phenomenon in Relationships 46 Weddings: Your Wedding According to Your Budget 48 Parenting: Surviving Bad Mommy Moments
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Patricia Freeman
Educator as Fashion Designer
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Business & Career
4 Secrets to Fast Growth by Women CEOs by Geri Stengel
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upercharged growth is all in your mind. Four women explain how changing your mindset can change your growth potential. If you want to be a winner, watch the moves of big winners. To find winning women entrepreneurs, a good place to start is Ernst & Young’s Entrepreneurial Winning Women. These women entrepreneurs had already reached the $1 million revenue mark and had the potential to ratchet that up even further. Revenues of the participating companies have grown almost 50% each year on average, with a corresponding average annual job growth rate of more than 25%, according Thinking Big: How to Accelerate the Growth of Women-Owned Companies, an independent impact assessment directed by the Babson College Center for Women’s Leadership. Several of the Entrepreneurial Winning Women achieved annual revenue and job growth into the triple digits--which is extraordinary given the tough economic times in which they’re operating, 2008 to 2011. No. 1 on the list of success factors is “think big and be bold.” Seems like a no-brainer, right? 10
Just aim high. If you’re already at a million, you must be thinking kinda big. The trick is getting into a really big, bold mindset. We spoke with four female founders and CEOs to learn their best tips for attaining fast growth. And, guess what? They agree with the study’s findings: A lot of it is in your head.
Forget about the “job.”
A business stays small when the founder fails to take the leap from doing a job to running a business. “That is the great leap,” says Gayle Brandel, CEO of Professionals for Nonprofits. “When you take it, that’s when you become an entrepreneur. Otherwise, you have a job you own.”
You may start a business so you can be your own boss. That’s OK, but it’s not the mindset that will make you the CEO of a high-growth company. “I don’t have a job. I’m not a recruiter or a sales person. I manage policy,” Brandel says. “Those entrepreneurs who want to grow large have to step back, and they have to bring on employees.”
Never be content.
If you push only to the edges of your comfort zone and are content with what you have, your growth may be stifled. “If you have your mind on growth and success, that will flow to your employees and support team,” says Deborah Sweeney, CEO of MyCorporation, a document filing services company based in Calabasas, California. “Engaged leaders who think big and are passionate about business growth are far more likely to see growth and success than those who are merely content.”
Keep moving the target.
Whenever Dareth Colburn reaches a goal, she sets a higher one. The founder of USABride, which is based in Beverly, Massachusetts, and sells wedding accessories online, used to think that making $1 million was an impossible dream. After all, she’d started with five veils and five tiaras, $30,000 in debt and working out of her apartment. But when the first $1 million came, she moved her target to $3 million, then to $5 million.
Don’t be afraid to lose.
“Entrepreneurs who made it really big also lost really big,” says Gloria Larkin, president of TargetGov, which helps companies sell to government agencies, and is based in Columbia, Maryland. Women are uncomfortable with losing but unless you’re willing to risk it all, you can win it all. Or, as Woody Allen said, “If you’re not failing every now and again, it’s a sign you’re not doing anything very innovative.” Where’s your head at? If it’s on micro-managing, being the only one who knows what’s going on, complacent about your business, and settled into your comfort zone, then your business probably isn’t going anyplace fast. Geri Stengel, Ventureneer.com, created Guiding Women Entrepreneurs to help women power-up their businesses. It pulls together – in one place – information that will inspire and enlighten. Content is drawn from top-notch sources, from Inc. to Forbes, from Women 2.0 to the Kauffman Foundation. As a women business owner, Kauffman FastTrac GrowthVenture facilitator, former adjunct professor of entrepreneurship, and past board member of the New York City Chapter of the National Association of Business Women Owners, she understands the unique challenges women entrepreneurs face when growing their beyond $1 million. The Next Women.com
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Special Feature
Delvon Johnson
Fabulous Women Are A Weakness For Me by Augusta Marquis
This month WE want to give you something different to read and enjoy. I had the pleasure of interviewing someone I believe you all want to know more about. Generally in WE magazine, what you'll find are female writers, authors, designers, producers etc., but this time I have the pleasure to interview the author, actor and producer, Delvon Johnson. Delvon is a gifted man from New York City, and the critically acclaimed author of Love Yourself First, a debut novel which has gotten 5 stars on Amazon.com and very much loved by female readers. He is a stage and screen actor, executive producer of an upcoming television series; a multi talented man who has a lot to say and to give. He has already written three other novels and the sequel to Love Yourself First. He started writing as a child enjoying poetry but decided to take it more serious in 2009 when his life took a turnaround. 12
Being a man of so many talents, he looks to the futures with much optimism and creativity. Delvon loves fabulous women since forever and even if he is a gay black man, the women he says "have always been a weakness for me". He manages a facebook group called “A Cup of Coffee� where facebook friends and fans can join and read the new novel he is writing for free, a way which he believes to get people interested in his writing. Now that I have shared a bit of information about who Delvon is, I hope I caught your interest and curiosity. If I did, then go ahead and read the interview and get to know more about him and the book and thoughts behind it. Enjoy!
How long have you been writing? Since I was a child writing poetry and music, I have always enjoyed writing. In 2009 was when I started writing professionally, and that has completely changed my life. What inspired your writing this book? I was in a relationship that went really bad. I was left with practically nothing, and I was so upset for giving my all and having nothing to show for it. I wasn’t exactly sure how to channel my anger, so it dawned on me that I should write a book. Promised myself that I would make the book so fabulous and successful, that he would wish that he never left. When the book was finally published, I thanked him in my acknowledgements for putting me through all the trials and tribulations because if he hadn’t done so, I wouldn’t have found the strength to write the book in the first place. “Love Yourself First” is a catchy title. What’s the concept/idea behind it? When I first started writing Love Yourself First, I was working at AT&T and I would work on it daily. The very first day that I started writing it, the computer asked me what to save it as. At the time, I had promised myself that I would always put me first from that point out, so that was what I named the file. When it came time to figure out the title, I thought about it for a moment, and then it hit me…Love Yourself First! It was there from day one, and to this day, I follow that rule to the fullest.
Since you try to write about the female character, I’m interested in knowing how you see them, when compared to your other characters? For as long as I can remember, I have always loved fabulous women. Even though I am a gay black man, fabulous women are a weakness for me. I wrote my women characters as I envisioned them, and some of them are even based on real people. The women in the book play different roles for different people. Joan, who is a cross between Dynasty’s Dominque Deveraux and Miranda Priestly, of The Devil Wears Prada comes off as a fabulous friend in the beginning, but then ends up being a fierce diva who will use her red bottom stiletto to step on anyone to get in her way in order to make it to the top. All the women in my book are power players or supporters of them. At what point did you decide to introduce homosexuality into your book? I’m smiling at this question too. It starts from chapter one. Dwight is a depiction of me. I have always wanted to be in the fashion industry so that is where I started the book. Rob, who is the fire starter in the book was introduced in the third chapter, and he starts out in denial about who he is, but as he goes on, he learns a serious life lesson.
Doesn’t it sound selfish when you say “Love Yourself First”? I don’t think it does. After many relationships of giving so much, I realized that you must love yourself first before you can love anyone else. When you love yourself first, it’s an intangible reflection that makes people love you too. Looking at the book title, one can easily mistake you for a Preachers son. This comment makes me smile. No, not a preacher’s son. OMG, I can’t even imagine. However, I did grow up in church, and God is my number 1.
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You discussed the down low lives of your characters, what is your stake on it? I think the down low epidemic is horrible. Society teaches us that being gay is wrong so much to the point where men are lying about who they are to make other people happy. It’s sad to see so many people living lies, not to mention the people that those lies affect. It’s also one of the causes of HIV, and that makes the whole down low epidemic just that much more serious.
I understand you self published; was it because the publisher(s) you approached rejected the concept/message of your book? No. I started out as a self-published author, and I went with it because I googled “how to publish a book”, and I found a phone number for a company named Authorhouse that would assist in publishing my book and I went with it. I had a plan, and I am on schedule. Currently, I am no longer self-published. I now have a medium sized publisher, World Audience. Now my goal is to get a larger one, like a Simon and Schuster or Kensington Press. What has been the reception for your book, mostly from your female readers? They love, love, love it! It feels so good when people come up, mostly women, and say how much they loved my novel. I think there are so many fabulous things happening in the book from photo shoots to shopping in Saks to looking for love, that it makes people feel fabulous when they read. I am very descriptive with scenes and places, and clothes, so it puts the reader in the driver’s seat, and they really like that. Any plans of writing another novel? Ha! Do I? I already have 4 books written, all of which are continuations to Love Yourself First. The second book, entitled, Be Careful What You Ask For, will hopefully be out by summer 2013. In addition, I am writing a book on facebook! Its entitled “Torn” and I created a group called “ A Cup Of Coffee” where my facebook friends can join my group and read the novel that I am writing for free. It’s a wonderful way to market my work, and get people interested in my writing.
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Things Women Wear That Men HATE!!! by Brandie Kekoa
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ummer is here and it’s time to shop! But before you go out to get those little shorts, that freekum dress, or those cute little shoes; take a look at this list. As a woman I like to know if my man finds me attractive in the things I wear. As soon as I get on my outfit, the first thing I say to my man is, “What do you think?” I can usually tell if he’s lying but sometimes I do wonder. That recently got me thinking, “What do men hate that women wear?” Well this month, I had a line-up of men that were excited and anxious to give me their opinions on what women wear that they hate to see. I want my WE readers to get the full effect of the interviews so I decided not to do any editing. I want my readers to see it exactly the way that I heard it. Read on ladies, you could be wearing something men hate right now. Luis Garcia, 43-years-old – “I hate women that fake advertise. I dated a girl that had three pieces of padding in each bra cup and found out she had padded booty jeans when I tried to tap her on the butt. That was just so wrong. Another thing I don’t like is gaudy eye lashes. It makes the women look like a drag queen.” 16
D Sands, a 42-year-old barber – “I hate to see women that wear really tight dresses that accentuate their muffin top area. I don’t like it when women wear pants that show booty crack. And I can’t stand when women walk around with sandals and have cliffhanger toes.” For those ladies who aren’t sure what cliff hanger toes are, let me explain. It is when the toes hang over the top of the shoe by an inch or two. Kenneth Robinson, a 43- year-old politician – “I don’t like the black lip liner ring-around the lips. I’m not into long toe nails. I really can’t stand when women wear sandals and the bottom of their feet are dirty. Please ladies, scrub the bottom of those hooves.” C, the 37-year-old owner of C’s Cuts & Creations – “Can’t stand it when women don’t wear the proper undergarments. It’s supposed to look smooth. I don’t want to see cracks and rolls. I’m not into too much make up and I also don’t like to see a woman smoke.” Eric Johnson, 43-years-old – “ I don’t like hooker boots. I also don’t like it when women wear eye lashes that are too long and have that white stuff on them.” Gavin Baumann – “I don’t like gladiator sandals or Toms shoes.” Kris Scott, 34-years-old – “I don’t like it when women wear hair extensions or weaves and the top part don’t match the weave.” Darrel Albano, 30-years-old – “Not into really loose fitting clothes.” All men said that women need to keep their feet in good order and to stay away from Zebra or Cheetah stretch pants. Some of the best advice I got was from 43- year-old Shawn, who is a production accountant in Hollywood. He said: “I like women to wear clothes that fit them. I don’t like it when women wear clothes that are too small showing every roll and crevice they have. On that same note, I don’t like it when women wear clothes that are too loose, trying to hide their fat. It only makes them look fatter. I think there needs to be a happy medium. It’s no secret when a woman is a little over weight. So what if there is a roll or two. As long as her clothes are her size and she just rocks it with confidence. Don’t pull and tug at your clothes trying to hide your curves because it just makes you look uncomfortable and insecure.” So ladies, take some of the things these gentlemen are saying into consideration, next time you’re getting ready for a night on the town. 17
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Completing the Perfect Outfit by Brandie Kekoa
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e caught up with Ericka McCrea, owner of Couture Fashions in Pacific Beach & Murrieta California, to get some fashion advice. Ericka has a real passion for fashion. She loves helping people find that special outfit for that special occasion. Ericka grew up in New York City, the fashion capital of America. She knew she wanted to do something in fashion or cosmetology since she was a little girl. Ericka opted for fashion and opened her first store, “Fun-N-Fashion”, on October 2002. Since then, her business has grown and is now called “Couture Fashion”. In 2010, she relocated to Murrieta and Pacific Beach, California. Ericka loves helping her customers when they come in looking for that special outfit for a certain occasion. 20
“It’s the best, when they leave with that smile on their face, because I achieved that special look that they were looking for.” She says. Along with building her boutique business, Ericka is working toward becoming a fashion consultant to the stars. Here are some pointers from Ericka on how to put the finishing touches to create your perfect outfit: When we buy a new outfit or piece of clothing it is easy to forget about how we will accessorize it until it comes to wearing it. Then we might discover that the outfit doesn't quite work, that it needs something to finish it. So we'll either make do with items we already have, but feel less than happy with the result. Or we'll find another outfit to wear. So, it really is a good idea to get into the habit of thinking about how you will wear an outfit or item of clothing when you buy it. What accessories will you wear with it to create or complete the look you're after? When shopping for accessories, as with clothes, you will find your most flattering looks by understanding the colors and styles that suit you best. Follow these simple tips to create the perfect look: • When choosing accessories, such as shoes and a handbag, make sure they harmonize with your outfit. • Make sure there's some common element or theme between the accessory and the outfit. For example, if you're wearing a light colored, summer dress choose light colored, elegant, strappy sandals rather than dark colored, heavy looking shoes. The same applies for the bag; choose a light colored, elegant looking bag. • It’s a good idea to harmonize accessories with each other in the same outfit. For example, similar silver buckles on shoes and handbag have some contrast in your look. Complete sameness can be boring and aging. Accessories as Focal Points Focal points can be used to attract attention such as a bright color or a striking design. The aim is to use focal points to attract attention to your good points and minimize or detract from your figure challenges! Clothing line and design aspects can act as focal points and so can accessories. A polished appearance is achieved through balance, so don't go overboard with your accessories and focal points. Too many can appear flashy, overdone or inappropriate. Too few can result in a drab or uninteresting look. As a rule of thumb, three focal points are the maximum, although less may work better for a particular outfit or occasion. If you're in doubt, don't wear it. 21
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ewelry artist, Victoria Brewer and her company, Pure Designs is delivering a bouquet of nature’s essence from the British countryside. With eco-friendly, nature inspired jewelry designs, this self-taught artist, is on a mission to save the planet and look fabulous while doing it. She was able to set aside some time between her busy schedules for a short interview.
How and when did you start making jewelry items? I can't remember a time when I wasn't experimenting with paper or fabric. I had an early fascination with origami and was making friendship bracelets (with remnants from my mother’s knitting basket) by the age of six. But, to be more specific, my ‘Pure Paper’ collection began last October, with my Christmas decoration range. This was inspired by my lack of enthusiasm over mass made plastic baubles and thinking, in a few years (when they go out of fashion) these will be lying in landfill and they'll probably still be there in 100 years time – not decomposing. This is why my decorations are made with paper, ecofriendly glue, eco matt varnish and strung with organic cotton – they will not give the planet indigestion. The ‘Fabric of Nature’ collection began last February due to two converging circumstances. One was discovering a British, fair trade organic fabric company, and falling in love with their ethics and products. The second was not being able to find an eco-friendly bracelet to go with a wedding outfit.
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What inspires you the most in regards to your creations? A lot of my designs are inspired by nature. I grew up in a very rural setting which heavily influenced my work. Quite often the color combinations I use in my designs are directly inspired by colors I see in my garden. My pa-ssion for nature also bred an interest in natural geometry, which you can see in my paper designs. One of my other influences, particularly in my fabric work, is the traditional oriental arts. I love the intricacy and devotion often seen in Japanese textiles. My fabric cuffs often take inspiration from (or end up reminding me of) the sash belts worn by Geisha's, called Obi. The other major influence on my work is the eco-friendly aspect. I think this quote from Goethe sums up my attraction to this rather beautifully: “If every man would sweep in front of his own steps, the whole world would be clean”. For me, it's all about personal responsibility and the effect that can have on the world. The effect one person can have is far greater than most people realize. It's surprising what can be accomplished by making even small changes, such as buying fair trade, eco-friendly and organic products. This alone can make a huge difference to so many people around the world.
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I think this point is illustrated very well by the following: The World Health Organization estimates that 20,000 to 40,000 people die from accidental pesticide poisoning each year, most of them in developing countries. It is safe to assume that many of them are cotton farmers. We truly are voting for the kind of world we want by how we spend our money.
What’s your favorite piece you’ve created and why? My favorite piece, so far, is probably one of the Christmas fairies. They are the most complex and time consuming pieces that I've designed and therefore most rewarding.
Do you have any new creations in the works; if so, what can shoppers expect to see from you? From ‘Pure Paper’, expect to see a new earring range, called Mandala, as well as lots of new Christmas designs, including tree-top fairies. From the ‘Fabric of Nature’ range you will soon be seeing lots of new bracelets, as well as an earring and necklace collection.
Quick Stat on Pure Designs Business name: Founded: Business description: Mission:
Pure Designs September 2011 Eco-friendly, handmade crafts. To make the world more beautiful, without harming the environment.
About the Designs
See more of Pure Designs www.facebook.com/VBPuredesigns
Pure Designs currently has two main collections – Pure Paper and Fabric of Nature. Pure Paper designs are eco-friendly, handmade paper crafts. While ‘Fabric of Nature’ are beautiful, ethical, organic cotton jewelry, hand painted detail, hand stitched, and hand braided designs. Pieces are made using a variety of the following materials: organic, fair trade cotton fabric, hemp fabric, up-cycled fabric, herbal dyed embroidery silk, and colored organic sewing thread.
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WE Style Pick
WE Style Pick Deanna Proach My Books
The Pretty Little Liars series by Sara Shepard. These books contained so much mystery, suspense, and the characters were so relatable, that I simply had to read all seven novels.
by Deanna Proach Deanna has been a member
of the Driftwood Players Story Theatre troupe as an actress for 2 years. The story theatre troupe is dedicated to bringing theatre to the people: they perform various folk tales and fairy tales at several outdoor venues on the Sunshine Coast of British Columbia throughout the summer months. This year, Deanna wrote two short plays: ‘The Laborer’s Plea’ and ‘The Ant and The Grasshopper’. www.facebook.com /deanna.proach
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The Pillars of The Earth by Ken Follett.
The description was so vivid, I learnt a lot about 12th century England just by reading this novel. The characters were also so real, it’s like I stepped back in time and got to know them.
Favorite Jewelry My silver Tiffany’s necklace, one that features a jeweled studded D--for Deanna--pendant that I received as a birthday gift one year from my Uncle. This necklace is beautiful and graceful, yet simple. That’s what I love most about it.
Movie Joan of Arc (1999 version starring Lelee Sobieski) is my all time favorite movie. I love the story of Joan of Arc: the young woman who was so strong, courageous and spiritual; the woman who died for her belief in God.
Black Tube Dress I love the short black tube dress I bought from the Garage last year for approximately $15.00. The dress is slimming and sexy, yet not too revealing. And I can wear it over tights.
I love Mascara; Any kind of mascara, really because it darkens my eyelashes and makes them look more full and luscious. Apple iPod My 2006 model Apple iPod. Yes, it still works like a charm and I can’t live without it. Music is my personal therapy. Sometimes I just like to get lost in the music.
A Big Influence - My mom and dad. They’re two loving parents, and they continue to support me in my writing endeavors.
Kesha Right now, one of my favorite songs is ‘Blow’ by Kesha. The things I love most about this song are the beat and the ‘let’s let loose and have fun’ attitude. Osoyoos, British Columbia. When I was a teen, I spent some time in Osoyoos in the summer, camping with family and friends. Located in the southern Okanagan, Osoyoos is a small town nestled in a valley between two mountains and right next to Osoyoos lake. The hot weather, stucco homes and desert-like landscape made me feel like I entered southern Spain. I’ve wanted to go back there since, and one day soon, I will. 27
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Believe it or not, I just had dreams of being an entrepreneur. Whatever that was, I just wanted to do it well.
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The path of discovery started when she went to live with her grandparents. Many things influenced the life of Patricia Freeman; but it was her grandparents that played an integral role in her life. While growing up, a lot of time was spent at their home while her mother worked and attended college. Living with her grandparents meant a regular dose of faith, compassion for others, arts/music, family, helping the disadvantaged and entrepreneurship. These qualities, taught by them early on in life, would play a key role in Patricia’s future later.
Growing up, several persons and incidences shaped Patricia Freeman, but she’s never been in doubt either of who she is or what she wanted to become. “Believe it or not, I just had dreams of being an entrepreneur. Whatever that was, I just wanted to do it well.”
Useful Lessons from Grandparents It was grandfather James who spent hours on end talking about music, life in the old days (the big band era music and fashion), religion, the way the world was turning, arts, thoughts on how important being an entrepreneur was and making a difference in life. Grandmother Rebecca was the one who instilled discipline and structure. “She believed it was a time and place for everything as well as remaining “classy” at all times. She was very strict and made sure I went to Sunday school, understood the bible and the “do’s” and “don’ts” of life.”
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Although she spent most of her time with the grandparents, Patricia’s mother still played a part in her life, exposing her to lots of cultural stuffs, ballet, and Broadway plays.
“She’s such a great organizer and administrative person with a great business sense. I believe that I had a lot of my admin and business sense from her”
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Down Syndrome Doesn’t Mean a Child’s Down Time after time, these lessons have been very useful for Patricia. While working with children in Prince George’s County Public Schools, she’s found to use them, even with the admiration of others, sometimes referring to her as an “angel” or “God sent”. “People have constantly told me that I have great instincts in working with children and families.” One extraordinary and unheard of incidence is that of a special Ed child, Stephany Perez, a 12 year old who has Down syndrome, and was always made fun of and regularly looked down on for being different, but is currently working as a runway model in the DC area. Miss Perez graduated from Bradbury Height ES CRI program, and in August will be in the CRI program at Kettering Middle School. “I noticed that she had a sense of fashion. She loved clothing and would always notice if I had something new on or changed my hair.” 34
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An opportunity came them surprised. “To this when Wendy Pittman, date, I haven’t heard of “My Bougie Baby” foun- a child with Down Synder, mentioned to drome to successfully Patricia of her plans to walk the runway.” She diversify the children went on to walk the runwhom walk the runway in way of the Baby Bash & an upcoming show. Bling Expo & Show on “I immediately thought May 19, 2012. about Stephany. “To this date, I haven’t A fulfilled Stephany Patricia says, heard of a child walked the “She’s since with Down Syndrome first runway been asked to successfully walk to continue show with no practice walking the the runway.” and with runway, on confidence that I’ve never her third show and countseen before. Mr and Mrs. ing. Now she’s walking Perez were both in tears with such confidence. We along with everyone else.” all learned something on that day. They learned Not skipping a beat, something but it was a Stephany was embraced confirmation to me of by all present, leaving what I need to do.”
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“I do Everything for my Children” Being a mother, most of Patricia’s decisions have been what’s best for her children. This includes her decision to go into fashion, a longtime passion. She’s always wanted a flexible job. “I wanted to always be available for them while still having a job that I see as important”. Primarily the one raising the children, as would be expected, it’s been hard for Patricia. “It hasn’t been easy achieving balance in work, while being an entrepreneur and raising my children. With each step I took I’d stop and make sure it was best for my children”. Four in number, the children are ages 24, 20, 19 and 13; two are in college studying Nursing and Graphic Design. The others, her son is entering into the Paramedic transition to nursing program, her baby girl is due to enter college program while in high school.
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Designing for the Curvy Woman Patricia’s love for fashion and fine fabrics can be traced back to days living with her grandparents. “Along with the 19th century fashion, my grandparents have been big inspirations to my designs. They gave me such a grand view of styles of 1920’s and up.”
affordable. Instantly becoming a vendor, she quickly went to work with her children. One son helped with the website, and the two older ones helped pick jeans and other merchandise. It became very successful, gathering out of state orders. “I had to shut the site down because I couldn’t keep up with the orders.” Even though Patricia shut the site down, she kept the customer survey pages where most of them requested better fitting clothing for curvier figures and maternity inquiries.
“I was told about the shoulder pad, big bands and outfits teens wore at the time. I learned a lot about fashion and music of that era”. No wonder why her new collection, “Beautiful You”, is inspired by the 1930’s “Great Gaspy” era, and with chic and trendy maternity wears, seeks to cover a market poorly touched. In 2011 she started the website up again but later decided to create and design her own cloth Due to debut in October 2012, Denim Blu ing; something she’d always wanted to do. Her as a maternity line was also influenced by Patri- customers had asked for better fitting clothing. cia’s heart condition. “I created this line because An opportunity presented itself. “I changed the of my own heart disease. With whole concept of Denim “The fashion world is a all of the meds I take, I can Blu and went in a totally gain 20lbs or lose 10lbs and I wonderful place that really different direction”. always have to purchase new embraces charitable causes.” clothing”. Still currently working in the PGCPS school system, Based in the Washington DC area, the dis- Patricia, with the help of a seamstress makes the tinguishing features of all Denim Blu designs clothes that she designs and sketches. When the according to Patricia is “expandable waistlines orders from her clients seem overwhelming, she and seams in the arms so that a person can wear contracts them out to a manufacturing company the clothing (within a few sizes) even through to help with the bulk orders. weight gain or pregnancy”. This saves thousands of dollars for women, considering that weight Denim Blu is a way to help fulfill the charigain is no more an excuse to purchase new table and philanthropic need of Patricia. “The clothing. fashion world is a wonderful place that really embraces charitable causes. A percentage of the Denim Blu, created proceeds from shows, events, sales of garments in 2008 as an online from Denim Blu, will benefit children’s organiboutique, came about zations or families that are disadvantaged.” One because Patricia want- major focus for Patricia is the Special Needs ed better ways to find Children or Children with disabilities, as she good clothing for her goes ahead to be remembered for “making a dichildren at the time fference”. that was trendy, and
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Health & Fitness
Did You Know
Sitting Can Be Killing? by Chitralekha Shalom
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hat is right. If you spend most of the day in a sedentary position, and I mean all of you who, like me, is hunched up in front of a desktop or laptop, this is a wake-up call. Your body was made to be on its feet, not sitting in front of a computer or television screen. Sitting for six hours and more per day puts you at a 40 percent higher risk of dying within the next fifteen years as some studies suggest. Sitting disables certain vital body functions and increases your weight in an abnormal way. The only way out of this killing posture is to avoid sitting as much as possible and follow some instructions to live a long, healthy life. First, let us find out how sitting can cause us more damage than asked for. Here are the results of the studies:
• After sitting for two hours there is a drop of 20 percent in the good cholesterol. • Your diabetes immunity system comes down by 24 percent after sitting for 24 hours. You can be increasing the risk of diabetes and not know it.
• The moment you sit down, the electrical activity in your leg muscles stop working. • The rate of calorie burning reduces to just one calorie every minute. • Fat breaking and burning enzymes in your system is drastically reduced by 90 percent.
If the above facts are not scary enough, read this: sitting increases the chances of heart problems twice over when compared to people who work more often on their feet. The act of sitting actually switches off the body systems and puts them into a meltdown mode. You scarcely spend any energy when you are sitting - a worrying thought.
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Statistics show that thin people sit 2.5 hours less than obese people on average; every third American is obese; obesity doubled between 1980 and 2000 while sitting time increased by 8 percent, but exercise time remained the same. Just a few decades ago there were less obese people and fewer people died of cardio vascular diseases. People lived longer and were healthier; they were more active and very few suffered from weight problems. You know what? There was no television, computer or desk jobs - people were on the move those days. Life was simpler then: if you wanted to eat, you got up to prepare it; if you wanted to be entertained, you enacted it or went out to get it. There were no fast food joints or home delivery service; no cell phones or internet to put in your order while you kept sitting. In retrospect, life had a fuller meaning in those days and people derived more joy from life. Of course you cannot turn back the clock hands, but you can give yourself a better chance to live a quality life. The first rule of the day is to break your sitting schedule as often as you can, even if you are in the middle of a project. Just stand up, stretch your hands and swing your body from left to right and vice versa. It only takes a couple of seconds to do this. After, do some bending exercises before you resume your work. Here are some activities that can be done in longer breaks: • Take the stairs and avoid the elevator. • Walk around the office or home to do small jobs instead of getting things done. • Keep an alarm close at hand; set it to give small hoots every hour or two hours. • During these breaks, stand straight, pull in your buttocks, tighten them, straighten your legs and lock them at the knees; keep your hands by your sides, pull in your stomach, keep your spine rigid and breathe normally for about ten spells. Relax slowly and gradually, bit by bit. • Sit at a 135 degree incline to put less strain on your back. • Finally, interrupt your sitting as often as you can. The less you sit, the more you will prolong your life.
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Love & Relationships
Gravitation Phenomenon in Relationships by Steve Wickham
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aking a definitive event - maybe a task, us with one or two other people - there is generally an unspoken, ebbing and flowing, gravitation within the relationship. Everything within the negotiable elements of the relationship is flexible. Everything is up for grabs. People’s choices within the relationship determine how it gravitates. This is most discernible by people’s early verbal agreement that varies by the form of the actual result as observed later. What comes about is not exactly as it was initially agreed.
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This is because: 1. There was no perfect agreement to begin with, or 2. Either, both, some or all parties have changed their minds, or 3. The needs of the situation changed. This is a marvelous phenomenon. It proves there is a willingness for parties in the relationship to: 1. Have a wait-and-see approach, or 2. Try to use unspoken influence, or 3. Want to work together on the same general goal
When Relationships Become Truly Win/Win The importance of knowing these things could be primary as we begin to see the other(s) as thinking, feeling persons just like we are. They have goals from their perspective just like we have goals from ours. When we understand there are multiple perspectives in any given situation. Our perspective does not need to dominate the relational territory (It is humbling to accept we have merely one perspective - we need others to broaden our perspectives.) The landscape of conflict can then become more of a vista of cooperation. But, it begins with us. We are able to facilitate progress if we have risen above our potential stubbornness. Achieving things with others is made easier when we embark on cooperativeness.
That a small group of individuals can be so surrendered for the group or collective good is glorious. As the flow of progress gravitates all players, more or less, regulate the relationship - so long as one person or group is not dominant. When people work together and listen to one another, with a willingness to explore common perspectives, putting their own agendas to one side, great things can be achieved. It is one representation of heaven brought to earth.
When we are no longer the barrier they, too, are subconsciously encouraged, with their defenses down, to no longer be a barrier, also. And so the process we are working on gravitates by an unknown force, perhaps by the Spirit of God, beyond any one person’s direct control. This is relationships’ most wondrous ally, surely.
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Your wedding according to your budget P
by Trina Sims
lanning your wedding…. and you have that thing called “The Budget”….You are thinking, what can I really afford? Will that be too much or not enough to get what I really want? Planning a wedding does not have to take you into the hole of a bottomless pit. Your budget is your friend and not your enemy. Take it in stride and utilize it to your best ability. Plan the wedding and do not let the wedding over plan you. The average wedding today, can add up to an easy $27,000.00 and higher. All weddings do not have to fall into this area of budget planning. Your budget will be what can best come out of your pockets. Plan ahead in your process and get started from there. Going for the gold with a desired budget of about $10,000.00, can get you some bang for your buck, if you plan within a realistic point of planning. Caution ~ Do not let your view get in the way… With a planned budget of about $10,000.00, remember you first need to decide on the number of guest. Remembering also, at least 48-50% of your entire budget should go to your space, dinner and bar, if planning for most banquet halls. The other half, will be allotted for flowers-décor, music, photo/video and stationary. You may want to plan this 46
portion of your budget like so within that realistic point of planning. Ceremony – 3%- this can be for a church space or even an extra room in a banquet hall. Photography – 10%- this can include a package of up to 10 hours of coverage and rights to your photos. Videography – 8%- this can include a package of up to 10 hours and an edited DVD of your ceremony and reception. Stationery – 6%- this could include just about anything paper related, from the Save the Dates down to the programs Flowers and Decor – 15%-this could include your bridal party flowers and your reception centerpieces. Transportation – 2%-this can be for bride/groom and bridal party. Optional, based on the need for use.
This is to be used as a guide to help get you started along the way of planning out your budget. You can change this to fit in the areas of importance that apply to you in your planning. After deciding on your guest count and assessing your realistic budget, you then want to determine what style of location you want and can afford to have for your wedding day. Whether you do a church ceremony with a simple, but elegant banquet hall, or perhaps a more open space, like a loft area venue or even your local community center, you want to always plan according to what your budget can do for you. And with having all the right elements in place from your guest list, to your budget, down to your vendors, you are sure to pull off the best wedding with the right budget in mind. Remember, it’s Your Wedding....Make It Your Own... 47
Surviving Bad Mommy Moments by Ellenore Angelidis
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eing a working mom (and I think it might true for just the mom part) comes with built in guilt. Am I doing a good job with my kids? Am I doing a good job at work? Inevitably, the requirements for both collide. The business trip I mentioned in my last post was one of those times. I needed to go to a conference for my job. It had been planned months in advance and the calendar looked all clear on the family front.
One of my favorite roles as a mom is to encourage my children to explore their interests and talents. My eldest son is very artistic but his school budget doesn’t allow for art classes. He is always busy with schoolwork and his sports teams. There was an art contest run at the state level through his school district that I heard about and wanted him to enter. He was less than enthused. . . I pulled out the mom credentials and told him to do it anyway. The contest’s theme was “what is beautiful.” My son asked if he could use a camera and the FLIP video camera. I said sure. And he went about his business without asking for any help. He put together a video which included pictures of his little sister, his pet parrot, flowers from the yard and interesting shots of items from around the house. It was all set to “Somewhere over the Rainbow.” Some of his photographs which represents what he finds “beautiful” are included below. It was a special peak through the lens of the camera into my son’s view of the world. 48
I thought it was lovely but it was only a minute. I asked him if he wanted to take some time to extend it a bit because I didn’t think it was his best effort. He declined and said he was happy with it. When he turned it in, he came home a little discouraged. He thought some of the entries looked much better than his. And then he said what moms love to hear, “I should have listened to you.” When I saw that the district finalists had been chosen in a school email, I called my son since I thought he might be disappointed. He answered the phone and sounded a bit down. I asked him if he was okay. He said, “Yea.” He paused for a few moments . . .then said in an excited voice (apparently he was pretending to be down and I fell for it). “I won. I have been selected to go the district finals.” I told him how excited I was for him. Then he said laughing, “See mom, I don’t have to do my best and it’s still better than most people.” Score one for my
almost teenager. I have found as a mom that sometimes your intended life lessons boomerang on you and this was one of those times. Then he said, “I can’t wait to have you come to see me get my award.” I asked him when it was and my heart sank . . I was going to be out of town on business. Kids are not always very forgiving about these types of conflicts and I don’t think they should be. But a part of me wished that he understood better how hard it was for me also. I knew I was lucky that he wanted me to be there. We shared our artistic interests although I too find few outlets for mine these days with our busy life. His Dad, on the other hand, was the person he wants to talk to about sports. I told him, Dad will go. He looked at me rolling his eyes, “Really, mom.” I wasn’t doing very well. I ended up promising to go to a movie with just him after I got back. He was mollified but not happy. Dad attended and the event was great. It gave my son and husband a unique opportunity to bond. My husband was so proud and impressed by our eldest’s effort. And my son was pleasantly surprised by his Dad’s enthusiasm. As it turns out, my son’s entry was chose as a state finalist. Which, as he told me when I got back from my trip, now gave me the chance to, “come to that and make it up to me for missing this one.” I gave him a big hug – he still lets me (and I love it). I dodged a bullet this time. But there will be a next . .. Guilt is part of the working mother’s, and let’s face it probably every mother’s, reality. Being a mom is a wonderfully challenging role that stretches and grows you in ways you could never anticipate. I do my best to be there for my kid’s important moments. But there will always be times that I can’t and I have to accept that is part of the deal.
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Dicey Grenor Sleepy Willow’s Heartless Soul (The Narcoleptic Vampire Series Vol. 2) About the author:
Growing up in a small North Carolina town gave Dicey plenty of time to dream of Hollywood and vampires. She loved escaping in great movies and fiction books, and discovered she wasn’t bad at writing either. But she didn’t think that was going to pay the bills or that anyone would take her seriously. So she graduated high school, college and graduate school, then moved to Texas for law school. After getting married and having two babies, she decided it was past time to start doing what she was passionate about. Now that she’s a wife, mother, attorney and published author, she feels thrilled and fulfilled. www.diceygrenorbooks.com
Synopsis: Sleepy Willow’s Heartless Soul
(The Narcoleptic Vampire Series Vol. 2) Willow’s existence is not easy. Hav-
ing narcolepsy is bad enough without her bond to an arrogant maistre, vampire extermination agents eradicating her kind, and “friends” with ulterior motives. Being undead could seem more of a hassle than being alive. But Willow has had enough. After all the betrayals and abuse— even with her sleep disorder—she refuses to take things lying down. It’ll take more than performing for necrophiliacs at a fetish club to make Willow’s existence worthwhile. Now,
she’s on a mission to get her heart back. A mission that may liberate or destroy her…and everyone around her. With the help of powerful supernatural colleagues and Remi, her lover with a personality disorder, she faces danger. And she’s determined to win this time. THIS IS PART TWO OF THE NARCOLEPTIC VAMPIRE SERIES. BE SURE TO READ SLEEPY WILLOW’S BONDED SOUL FIRST, AS THIS ONE PICKS UP RIGHT WHERE IT LEFT OFF. Same warning applies: This book is not for the easily offended or squeamish. Bad language, explicit scenes, and gore abounds.
Book Review: “Sleepy Willow’s Heartless Soul, the sequel, was another unique and fascinating ride. Willow came back fighting strong with some serious “take no crap” attitude and new skills to back it up! LOVED IT! Loved the faster pace. Loved all the new secondary characters and new revelations of previous ones. This time around, Willow will not take things lying down. She is stronger, smarter, saucier than ever and taking charge of her own undead life to gain her freedom. She is still funny and sarcastic as ever and I love how there is a bit of humor in dire straits situations. A supernatural world unfolds that Willow didn’t know existed, with more mixed species coming to light. Species with supernatural abilities, power and magic. And Willow finds out her role in this supernatural world. Another great read second time around!!” ~By Cace411 (CT)
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Jean
Holloway
Black Jack About the author:
The daughter of an entrepreneur, Jean Holloway saw the only limitations you have are the ones you put on yourself. In the early 60s, her father owned his own cab in NY, which was unusual for a Black man armed with a tenth grade education. Jean’s debut novel Ace of Hearts started in 1980, in answer to a bet, yet it wasn’t published until 2007. Two years later, Black Jack was released and Deuces Wild was released 10/10/10 on her 60th birthday! On 11/11/11, she completed Full House, the 4th and final novel of her Deck of Cardz series. Jean now lives in Kennesaw, GA with her husband, Fred and their dogs, Kayla, a Lhasa Apso and Max, an Afghan. Their six grown children all live nearby. They have ten grandchildren and three great-grandchildren. Jean is now managing partner of her publishing house, PHE Ink - Writing Solutions Firm. The moral of her story: Never give up your dream www.deckofcardz.com
Synopsis: Black Jack Jean’s second novel of the Deck of Cardz series, Black Jack, picks up four years into Detective Shevaughn Robinson’s career as PPD’s lead homicide detective. She has gone from the cop that everyone doubted, including herself, to the “golden child” of the police department with a record of sensational arrests and closed cases. But when Helene Elliott is found dead from an apparent suicide, her family insists it was murder and pressures the Portsborough Police Department to take on the in
vestigation. Detective Robinson is assigned to the case at a time when she is struggling to strike a balance between her personal and professional life. Was the Elliott death a suicide or the work of a coldblooded predator? Will life throw Shevaughn another unexpected blow? Buckle up and follow Shevaughn as she moves closer to solving the Elliott murder, unknowingly rekindling old grudges and awakening a sinister spirit. Get ready, it’s gonna be a bumpy ride.
Book Review: “Homicide Detective Shevaughn Robinson has the knack for solving the cases she’s been assigned. After starting her career by second-guessing herself, she now has the skills and confidence to do her job. However, when she’s assigned to investigate what appears to be the suicide of an older woman, she is led to someone from her past. As she works to solve the case, her past keeps reappearing with a score to settle. Will Det. Robinson be able to deter them? Black Jack by Jean Holloway is the sequel to her debut novel, Ace of Hearts. Holloway spins a tale of mystery, revenge and intrigue from beginning to end. Throughout she offers complex characters she creatively brings to life. Black Jack is an intense page-turner that kept me turning the page to find out what was going to happen next. Ms. Holloway’s work is definitely for those who enjoy reading mystery/thriller novels.” ~By Jaime L. Lincoln, RAWSISTAZ www.rawsistaz.com 54
Lacha’ Mitchell-Scott Destiny’s Child Teen Series Vol. 1 About the author:
Lacha is an inspirational speaker, published writer, freelance writer, song writer, publisher, book reviewer, avid reader, wife and mother of three beautiful daughters and resides in NC with her family. An ordained minister, Lacha’ who began working with the church youths, has worked in several leadership positions of her local ministry under the direction of Senior Pastor Arlene Chavis since 2003. Lacha’ has been keynote speaker for women’s conferences, youth revivals, conferences in and outside of North Carolina. She believes that God has called her to minister to broken women, girls from all walks of life and to be a living testimony to all through God’s two times healing of her Breast Cancer. Lacha’ is the visionary and CEO of Silent Unity Publishing Presents which encompasses the vision to birth a God’s Girls Rock Day according to Proverbs 3:15. www.godsgirlsrock.us
Synopsis: Destiny’s Child Teen Series Vol. 1 Dasia Washington is an eighteen year old single mom
and high school dropout. After losing both of her parents to tragedy, she is left to deal with the aftermath of the indiscretions of her father. Living in the Jordan Downs Housing Projects has gotten worse but still, Dasa deals with her environment. Now the city wants to close down the project and rebuild the area in order to revitalize the city. Drug and gang activity is a huge problem and Darnell, her boyfriend is the lead-
er of it all. Dasia thought her life couldn’t get any worse, but destiny awaits her and it takes all of the prayers her mother taught her during their sixteen years together to get her through. With the help of her two best friends, Skylar and Maliya who have her back at all times, Dasia is prepared as she will ever be when an even more tragedy appears. When fate throws her the curve ball of a lifetime, will she fin the inner strength to rise above it all?
Book Review: “Well I waited and waited for the release of Destiny’s Child Teen Series; Dasia and I have to say I am glad I did. This book kept me on my toes every time I picked it up so much so that I had to read it 2 more times and got something different out of it every time. I took my time and read it slowly so that I wouldn’t miss a beat. This baby had blow after blow after blow. The storyline may be fiction but it hits home for a lot of teens, male and female in today’s generation. From the hurt, the pain, wanting love and being accepted, to trusting God one minute and questioning and cursing Him the next, she truly had a test of faith in every aspect of her life. I applaud the Author for bringing out such detail in a way that wasn’t vulgar or explicit, allowing the reader to fully grasp what is being told. I honestly don’t know if I could’ve been as strong as the main character, although weak at times, she never fainted, although she seemed to have the world on her shoulders. I have to admit though, the end caught me by surprise and of course I am anxiously waiting for the next volume of Destiny’s Child” ~By An Ecstatic Reader www.amazon.com 55
Food & Drinks
Family Reunion by Sharon Fox
What better way to celebrate who you are and where you came from than with an old-fashioned family reunion? July is traditionally the month most chosen for family reunions. It’s mid-summer, vacation time, and the best time to gather the entire family from all over the country. The highlight of the reunion is the good food. This is a great way for the older generations to introduce old family recipes and also a time for the younger generations to bring out some new recipes that will surely be traditional in years to come. Here are some magnificent recipes that everyone will enjoy. Maybe you could get with all the cooks and have a recipe swap!
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M arinated V egetable S alad Ingredients
3 cups fresh broccoli florets 2 cups fresh cauliflower 1-1/2 cups fresh baby carrots, cut in strips 2 bell peppers, (combination of red, yellow or orange) cut into 1/2-inch strips 1 medium bunch asparagus *1 can (14 ounces) water-packed artichoke hearts, rinsed, drained and quartered (optional) *1 can (6 ounces) pitted ripe olives, drained (optional) *1 jar (4-1/2 ounces) whole mushrooms, drained (optional)
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3/4 cup vegetable oil 1/3 cup apple cider vinegar or rice vinegar 1 teaspoon garlic salt 3/4 teaspoon sugar 1/2 teaspoon salt 1/2 teaspoon lemon-pepper seasoning
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Blanche the broccoli, cauliflower, and carrots in salted boiling water for 2 minutes then place into a bowl of ice water to stop the cooking process. This brings out the bright colors! In a large salad bowl, combine the vegetables. In a jar with a tight-fitting lid, combine the dressing ingredients; shake well. Pour over the vegetable mixture and toss to coat. Cover and refrigerate for 8 hours or overnight, stirring occasionally. Makes 14 servings. This recipe is easily doubled.
Family Cheeseball Ingredients
3 (8 ounce) packages cream cheese, softened 1/2 teaspoon minced garlic 1 tablespoon Worcestershire sauce 1 tablespoon hot pepper sauce 8 oz. shredded Cheddar cheese 8 oz. crumbled blue cheese 1 cup pecans, coarsely chopped 1/4 cup chopped fresh parsley
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In an electric food processor or blender, combine cream cheese, garlic, Worcestershire sauce and hot pepper sauce. Blend well. Add cheeses and process until the Cheddar is fine, but still very visible. Shape the mixture into balls or logs.
Wrap individually in plastic wrap and place in the freezer. While the balls are in the freezer, combine the ground pecans and parsley in a shallow bowl. Remove the balls from the freezer and roll them in the pecan and parsley mixture. Serves 12
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Honey Lime Glazed Grilled Chicken Ingredients
3/4 cup honey 3/4 cup reduced-sodium soy sauce 4 teaspoon(s) freshly grated lime zest 3/4 cup lime juice 2 teaspoon(s) crushed red pepper 8 (6-ounce) bone-in chicken thighs, skin and excess fat removed 4 (12-ounce) bone-in chicken breasts, skin and excess fat removed, cut in half crosswise
12 servings
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Mix honey, soy sauce, lime zest, lime juice, and crushed red pepper in a large bowl. Add chicken pieces; stir to coat. Cover and refrigerate for 2 hours, stirring occasionally. About 20 minutes before you are ready to grill, preheat a gas grill (with all burners lit) to 400°F or build a fire in a charcoal grill and let it burn down to medium heat (about 400°F). If using a gas grill, turn off one burner (leaving 1 to 2 burners lit, depending on your grill). If using a charcoal grill, move the coals to one side. Remove the chicken pieces from the marinade (reserve marinade) and place bone-side down (with the thick part
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of the meat facing up) on the unheated side of the grill rack. Close the lid and roast undisturbed for 25 minutes. Meanwhile, place the marinade in a small saucepan over medium-high heat and boil until reduced by about half and thickened to a glaze, 8 to 10 minutes. Rotate the chicken to other spots on the unheated portion of the grill to ensure even cooking and lightly brush with some of the glaze. Cover and continue roasting, basting once more about halfway through cooking, until an instant-read thermometer inserted into the center of the meat without touching bone registers 165°F, 10 to 20 minutes more.
SPICY GRILLED SHRIMP Ingredients
Shrimp brine: 2 cups sugar 2 cups salt 6 pounds fresh shrimp, peeled -----------------------4 teaspoons dried oregano 4 teaspoons smoked paprika 4 teaspoons fresh thyme leaves 2 teaspoons chili powder 4 teaspoons salt 1/2 cup olive oil 2 sticks unsalted butter 4 cloves garlic, minced
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Fill a large container with enough cold water to cover shrimp and add the sugar and salt. Stir to dissolve then add the shrimp and let them sit in the brine for about 30 minutes. Drain. Combine the oregano, smoked paprika, thyme, chili powder, and salt in a large bowl. Add the shrimp and olive oil and stir until all of the shrimp are coated in the oil and spice mixture. Let sit for 10 to 15 minutes.
Melt the butter in a small sauce pan until melted and just beginning to sizzle. Add the garlic, stir, and turn off the heat. Cook the shrimp on a very hot grill for 4 to 5 minutes, until seared on the outside and fully pink. If using a grill basket, toss once or twice to get the shrimp evenly seared. If using skewers, flip once while cooking. Serve with the garlic butter and good crusty bread for dipping.
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Shapes and Dining
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hen choosing a dining room table, you will find that there are several shapes and sizes to choose from and choosing the wrong size or shape can make a workable space feel cramped and uncomfortable—not at all how you want you and your guests to feel. When choosing your dining room table, it is important to look at the shape and square feet of your dining area. The size and shape should determine the size and shape of your table and to help you out, here are some guidelines on the different shapes that tables for your dining room come available in. 60
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ROUND Dining Table The round table is considered the most effective shape for a dining room space that is small. Round tables allow you to move around them easily and create an informal or formal appearance, depending on the type of material that you choose. If you are working with a small condo or a home where the dining area is a part of the living space, a round table could be a great solution. People also like the round table because everyone can sit and talk without craning their neck to see the speaker, they work well for game playing and projects, and you can always squeeze in a couple more people. The only advice I have for you as a round table owner, is that you want to choose placemats that are round in shape— those work the best.
OVAL Dining Table Oval dining room tables are the most formal and are usually associated with holiday dinners and family gatherings. They work best in a large formal dining room or an open space because they typically host six or more people. For decorating, you can do a lot with oval tables, using runners and large centerpieces to create a beautiful and elegant dining experience. The oval table tends to be the setting for the fine china and silver when the occasion calls for it but also can be used as a great buffet table for informal parties because you can set serving dishes in the center.
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SQUARE Dining Table Square tables also work well in smaller spaces and the pub tables are quite popular right now with condo and apartment owners. Like the round table, the square table allows everyone to see each other and talk easily, they are great for game playing, and they can fit nicely into a corner to create an intimate setting for two while keeping space open. The only downside to a square table is that they are not flexible so four is the maximum number of people that you will be able to fit at a table. You also have to be careful about not bruising yourself on the edges of a square table if it is placed in the center of a smaller space.
RECTANGLE Dining Table The table that is rectangular in design tends to be popular in homes of all designs and many people like these tables because of their versatility as a casual or formal dining area. The rectangular table can seat a large group of family and friends and support large dinners or luncheons. The downside is that you cannot easily converse with everyone at the table.
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