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I’m 54 years old, how can I increase my sexual intercourse from 3 to 4 rounds in a night? Hi Adeola, kindly advise me on how to increase my sexual intercourse from three to four rounds in a night. I’m 54 years old and married with children. - M from Jos. Dear M, I see a problem here. Most guys your age (and even those who are younger) are happy to have one good sex in the night before falling asleep and another one early in the morning before going to bed, and that’s like winning a prize. By 40, most busy men manage to get in the sack five times weekly. So if you’re thinking of having sex three to four times a night every night or let’s say five times in a week, you may have a problem here. If at 54, you can still have 20 rounds of sex in a week, then you’re a stud. I hope you’re not too high on aphrodisiac because that may pose a problem to your heart.
How old is your wife? If she’s about your age, she should be occupied more with getting the children on the right paths in life rather than having sex four times in a night. Can she cope with your high demands for sex? Or is she the one asking for more rounds? If she is, and she’s already getting three rounds per night, let her know that sex is more pleasurable if it is taken slowly but steadily. If your wife is younger, she may want more than three rounds per night, but I know that once a woman has reached orgasm once or twice in a night, she’s okay and may not want more. Maybe you’re not getting her to the hilt hence the need to overwork you. Ask her if she’s actually getting satisfied to her brains. If she’s not, work more on knowing her G-spots and making her scream with pleasure rather than just pumping in and out many times in a night. You’re not as young as you used to be and you’re not a machine, so slow down a bit. Life is not about how much, but how well.
I’m still a virgin at 20 but my guy is suggesting that we have sex so that I’ll be free with him I’m 20 years old and I’m dating someone who loves me and I love him too. But there is a problem I’m facing – whenever I’m with him I’m always so shy I don’t know what to say and I’m not bold enough to ask him anything. This is really costing me my relationship since he no longer calls as he used to. He’s always with his friends because I’m not free when I’m with him. He is suggesting that we have sex so that I’ll be free with him, but I’m still a virgin and I don’t want a situation where he would leave me when he has gotten what he wants. Please tell me how to keep this relationship by telling me what to do to fight shyness. - E from Warri. Dear E, in the ‘shy faculty’, I could be HOD, but when I meet those who are my kind, the shyness soon disappears and we relate as if we have known for years. If at 20 you have been with this guy for a while and you’re and still shy around him then it could be something deeper than just being tonguetied around him. If you have a lot in common with somebody for instance, you soon hit it off and have endless things to talk about. So if you find you hardly have things to talk about, then you have no reason to be in this relationship. In on the other hand, you know you have a lot in common, but you’re too shy to open up around him, then you may have issues with self-confidence. It is either you think he’s more superior to you and so, you don’t know how to place your words when you’re with him, or you simply feel overwhelmed when you’re together. If it is any of the two, you need to take a break and work on yourself. You may find yourself being like this with other people and they may take you for
granted. DO NOT fall into the trap of having sex in order to shed your shyness. Sex in itself can be awkward. If you don’t have anything to say to a guy before sex, is it after you have shown your body to him that you will now have something to say to him? For most guys, they always have something to say to you before they get you to bed after which they run out of ideas. After
all, the chasing game and brain-cracking to get you are both over, so they may get quiet and reflective. For somebody who is already out of ideas on what to say to you, you’ll just go to bed, behave like two deaf people and get out without a word being spoken. You shouldn’t even try it. Grow out of your shyness. Mix with people who share whatever passion you have and love yourself.
Baby, I want you to teach me English Baby I want you to teach me English language. Hi. Asking me to teach you the English language is just like asking somebody to teach me German or French. That person would need to be dedicated and a lot of hours would need to go into it. I really don’t know the level you have already reached with the language, but since you could send a text, it means you’re a bit above the elementary stage. However, a lot of people speak English and when they say they’re university graduates; you want to ask if they taught them in pidgin English. I’m glad you’re not one of those who think they know, but who do not. The English language has many rules and structures, but once you know them all, it’s as easy as your local language. Study skills - For Beginners: Learning any language takes practice - lots of practice! Often, it’s difficult to know what you should practice. Should you watch a video? Perhaps, it would be a good idea to do a few quizzes. Of course, you should try to speak English with your friends. All of these are great ideas, but it’s also important to build a routine. A routine will help you make studying English a habit. That’s the
best way to improve your English! Make learning a habit: It’s important to be exposed to many different areas every day. However, you shouldn’t try to study too many different subjects. These suggestions take a short listening and reading as the basis for daily practice. You are trying to learn many new things, so don’t try to learn too much in any one area too quickly! There are a number of videos and books that you can use. Books written for children are also a great idea. These tips should help you.
Hearts With Adeola Agoro
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Re: My sister, Folawe Agoro has left us P.S: When I saw the overwhelming number of condolence messages a lot of you beloved sent to me on the passing away of my sister, I shed tears afresh. As at the last count, I had received over one hundred and eighty. Thank you all for the messages, telephone calls and prayers. I know that by the grace of God, we shall never have any cause for me to repay back this way. Instead, God will make you all celebrate promotions and elevations in your private worlds. Thanks a lot. Ese pupo! •Hello maa, I want to use this opportunity to tell you that I sympathize with you on the death of your sister. It’s always a painful thing when we lose those that are very dear to us, but who are we to blame God. Take heart my sister and God will keep watch over you, your dad and other siblings. Ani ri iku akufa, Olorun o ni se ni telentele. – Biodun from Ijebu (07060708070). •I commiserate with you on the passing away to glory of your dear sister. May her soul rest in eternal peace with the Lord. Accept my sympathy. – Mr. Demolu. •I’m deeply sorry about the death of your sister, I pray the good Lord will strengthen and comfort your family at this period. Cheer up sister. Like you said families should always create time to be together because it is always terrible when it is death that brings people together. Please take heart. E o ni ru e mo o. - julian_oyakhire@yahoo.co.uk. •Dear Deola, just want to say pele for the loss of your sis. My name is Wale Ademowo, former editor of Tribune. I know daddy very well, he used to frequent my office then with one of his wives, a fair complexioned woman. Anyway I am a fan and I read your column. Just read about it. A o ni ri ru e mo o. Pele dear take heart. You are doing a good job. acusarpr@yahoo.co.uk. •Precious Hajia Adeola, It is with a heavy heart that I write this mail as I learnt with a big shock, the untimely demise of your darling younger sister, Folawe Agoro. The very sad incident which according to you happened on Sunday April 15th, 2012 was no doubt a big blow to you and the rest of your beloved family. I’m very sorry. Your amiable dad, the great man of God and consummate politician, Dr. Olapade Agoro must have taken the unfortunate incident with philosophical calmness hence he instructed that burial took place same day. That Folawe departed this wicked world through a “common” ailment, typhoid fever, is all the more painful. Well, we can’t fight or query God. He gives, He takes. Take heart, my dear sister. Cry no more and be your cheerful and lively self once again. Take solace in the fact that Folawe has gone to rest in the abode of her creator. I fervently pray that your family never witness such a sad incident again. May Allah grant all of you the fortitude to bear this irreparable loss. May the gentle soul of your departed sister rest in perfect peace. Accept my condolence, please. It shall be well with you and all the members of your large and lovely family. Jackson Nwadike, ikembanaija4life@yahoo.com.
A Libran skill? Good day my beautiful auntie, how are you today? I read your Column every Saturday and see how you masterfully dish out solutions to people’s problems. I must commend your efforts. Nevertheless, my email isn’t on any relationship related issue but on something I need to know. Is the ability to help people find solutions to their problems via advice and motivational words an innate dexterity of the Libra born? I thus ask because I’m a Libran and I find myself doing exactly what you do on social networking sites and I have a Libran friend whom I seek advice from whenever I have reasons to because she dishes sound probable solutions. So, Ido hope you’d help me understand this “thing” because I wanna know from a more experienced Libran! I’m Tadi Duwem from Abuja, (izudinho@aol.com). Dear Tabi, I grew up knowing that the Libra sign is the best zodiac
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sign because it’s the only sign represented by an inanimate object. All other signs are represented by animals making them easily prone to extreme feelings and other animalistic tendencies. Irrespective of my religious beliefs, I hold on firmly to the astrological calculations and of course the Libra power over other zodiac signs. To your question, yes, I think it’s a Libra gift to be wise and articulate in our dealings with people and whatever life throws at us. We have the ability to weigh whatever we hear and look at issues with great perspectives. We also take our time to arrive at decisions. Instead, we usually take time to ponder on things and check the two sides of a coin before uttering our opinions. We are also people who love people, but we love time by ourselves when we want to. Spending time alone allows us look at life more objectively and makes us wise people. We also look at what God would say by our decisions, so we tread with caution in matters involving others. The Libra person is a man/woman of great conscience. I could go on and on, but I have limited time to socialize. I copied the following for you from the web on the Libra and wisdom. Enjoy: When I think of Libra what comes to mind is definitely the concept of the balancing act, the person trying to juggle all the balls without
dropping any of them. Your life is dedicated to have all things in harmony and all relationships at peace. Of course this is a tall order to perform but it doesn’t stop you at taking the role of the peacekeeper even when you should keep out of it. The symbol associated with your sign is the Scales of Justice. In your personal relationships you show understanding of the other person’s point of view, trying to resolve any differences by compromise, and you are often willing to allow claims against yourself to be settled to your own disadvantage rather than spoil a relationship. In matters of the heart you have a strong idea and fantasy of what true love is and you will constantly pursue this journey for your soul mate. However you probably will experience heartaches on your search because you have such a clear vision of the perfect partner that you can easily be disillusioned by the imperfection of most other human beings. But disappointment will not deter you from your mission of marriage. Emotionally you are always sensitive to the needs of others and have the gift, sometimes to an almost psychic extent, of understanding the emotional needs of your partners. You are very social human beings. You hate cruelty, violence and crudeness and detest conflict, so you do your best to cooperate and compromise with everyone. I have often seen the analogy of the pressure cooker when associating with Libras. What I mean is that Libras will try very hard to keep peace and will give up their own individual needs for the sake of harmony. But like a pressure cooker slowly and eventually the steam and pressure builds up and if the Libra continues to keep a tight lid on their true feelings, which is usually the case, well, that lid is going to blow right off the cooker. Libras are not wishy-washy or indecisive as written in many astrology books. You just spend too much time weighing all the possibilities before making up your mind. And when you do you are very determined, it just takes you so long because of your overly cautious analyses. Therefore you have good critical minds and you are able to stand back and look impartially at matters that call for an impartial judgment to be made on them. But you do not tolerate argument from anyone who challenges your opinions once they are set. But your character is on the whole balanced, diplomatic and even tempered.