March 2023 SOCO magazine

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THE ANNUAL HOME

& REAL ESTATE REVIEW ISSUE

James Beard Award Winners Announced

Perception: Print vs. Digital-Who Wins?

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Home Sweet Home!

We’re back, and this month you’ll be pleased to see the return of our Annual Home & Real Estate Issue.

March has always been the gateway to a new season; it’s the time of year when we notice breaks in the weather, accompanied by the first signs that spring is quickly approaching; it also means the housing market is heating up—just in time for summer occupancy.

We’ve been fortunate this winter season, except for a few inclement days; overall, we were spared any of the usual drastic conditions New England is known for; but what is truly remarkable is the unseasonable weather has allowed for a significant number of changes, improvements, and tactics for those in the business of selling homes.

Being one of the building blocks of America’s economic foundation, real estate always has a place in a personal portfolio. Whether it is a primary luxury residence, seaside summer cottage, mountain retreat, or rental property that will build equity, owning a ‘piece of property’ has always been a wise investment.

Also, this month we are pleased—and excited—to highlight the world-famous James Beard Awards winners. Found under our

“Table” section, we bring you a long list of local and regional winners you’ll want to visit and enjoy the best in the culinary arts and in the beverage service industries.

A monthly favorite, “Intimacy,” features some advice about those considering, or are already in a long-distance relationship. These connections are not that unusual in today’s dating world, but they require some tools to help make your love relationship satisfying. We round out the month with a look at a piece about how ‘bad news’ can have a detrimental effect on mental hygiene, along with an essay on depression. With the recent news of a family tragedy in Duxbury, Massachusetts, it is crucial that we all learn the warning signs of the disorder and how we can make a difference in others’ lives.

Finally, it isn’t too early to plan a visit to Tanglewood; we share all the information you’ll need to enjoy a day or weekend in the Berkshires.

Take the time to pour your favorite beverage, and enjoy the thrill of finding your next home and a delicious meal.

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EDITORIAL

MANAGING EDITOR Lynn Palmer

SENIOR EDITOR Rachel Velazquez

ASSOCIATE EDITOR James Holden

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STEVEN CHAN LUCKI SCHOTZ

CONTRIBUTORS

Linda Bertrum Steven Chan Susan Fletcher James Holden Peet Nourjian Margo Roberts Rob Saint Laurent Natalie Simmons Robert Wright

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Home & Real Estate Review

If it’s March, we are on the cusp of another incredible real estate market.

Each year, we look in-depth at the housing market and geographic areas; simultaneously, we explain what attracts buyers and motivates sellers.

This year may be a bit more elusive due to inventory and pricing concerns, but we take an educated guess at how searches and sales may play out as we enter the spring and summer seasons.

From discussions with leading agents and agencies throughout New England, we’ve learned that demand remains strong—in specific sectors—even with the return of heightened mortgage rates. At the highest range of affluent homes, investors are showing patience; many have watched homes in the $10-$40 million range sit idle, only to take advantage of deep discounts by owners feeling they better accept what is offered. Recently, in a private, undisclosed sale of a prestigious property, a high-profile buyer watched his targeted property be reduced by $10 million, allowing him to scoop up the prize and gain valuable equity at closing.

In this issue, we look at what homes are selling and how they are being marketed in a highly competitive arena. In review, there has been a dramatic consolidation of agencies, real estate salespeople, and brokers, making moves and focusing on new home construction.

At the other end of the spectrum, the lowest-priced homes, appraised in the neighborhood of $300,000, never make it to the Multiple Listing Service. Buyers, investors, and speculators have cash and little concern about the condition. They know if they delay, the chance of missing an opportunity grows by the hour.

In this issue, we look at what homes are

selling and how they are being marketed in a highly competitive arena. In review, there has been a dramatic consolidation of agencies, real estate salespeople, and brokers, making moves and focusing on new home construction.

King of all properties seeming to hold reign are those located on the water along the coast. Prices are holding strong as we approach better weather; they may actually begin to increase if we start to witness some easing in financial markets.

Another interesting topic we explore is the marketing of real estate. The debate of print vs. digital is explained from a scientific point of view; and while everyone has an opinion about this hotly contested issue, the evidence is clear; both work hand in hand, and rather than compete, the smart money knows how to incorporate both methods for attracting clients and turning them into buyers.

We hope you enjoy our annual review and take away some knowledge that will aid in your search for a new home or help those in the real estate business.

And be sure to stay tuned; we expect more news to come out in April—you don’t want to miss it! H

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When, Where & What To Buy

BY STEVEN CHAN

he mantra often heard when purchasing a home, “Location, Location, Location,” has usually lived up to the promise of creating home equity and a positive return at a future date. The delivery of financial rewards through a home purchase can sometimes be stumbled upon, but usually, it’s developed through thoughtful planning, research, and negotiation.

When considering a new purchase, a list of variables, such as location, taxes, entry price, and now in some communities— wastewater options, are decisions that will follow a transaction for decades.

For those hesitating, you can argue that prices are too high, mortgage rates are prohibitive, and waiting could yield a significantly better opportunity once housing inventories improve. And, in fact, to some degree, all points may be correct, but, at the same time, housing prices have leveled, demand remains high, and often, the home you sell should produce enough equity to make a purchase, with little if any borrowing. Finally, if you’re not turning over stones and looking for a fabulous deal, you’ll never know if it was scooped up by someone else. Today is a great time to make any investment because if we have learned one thing, timing doesn’t work all that well when purchasing real estate.

As time passes, people’s life circumstances change. Families grow, move, disperse, and downsize. College-bound children leave an empty nest. Assessing the next ten years is a good

measure for helping decide what category you should look into. City, historical, country, or contemporary chic? The choices are many, and much can be said for architectural beauty, modern conveniences, access to entertainment venues and friends, or the peace and tranquility of a farm.

In reality, a factor in every case will be the carrying—costs of a home—often overlooked—these expenses can initially be reasonable but potentially spiral out of control.

Across New England and beyond, communities blend well; one can seamlessly cross from one town to another, never realizing they’ve passed through an invisible border. What can be shocking is how tax valuations can fluctuate between homes within a neighborhood. Differences are usually due to public services offered, quality of school systems, tax base, type of housing, and the spending of tax revenue.

Items that can also impact your taxes include improving your property, having a view or living near the ocean, being a seasonal owner rather than a year around resident, and a townwide revaluation.

Understanding variations in property taxes between towns is significant; often, leaving options open or finding a home a block or two from a townline can save thousands of dollars per year.

Another important issue is municipal utilities, water, and sewer in particular. Most cities provide such services, while the suburbs can be hit or miss. The benefit of being hooked into the system is that you are responsible for services from your home to the street where they connect, but after that, you are not liable for repairs or replacement.

Today is a great time to make any investment because if we have learned one thing, timing doesn’t work all that well when purchasing real estate.

However, you are entirely liable for maintenance and function if you have a well or a septic system. Recent news about homeowners on Cape Cod and areas of the SouthCoast of Massachusetts learned they might be facing problems with the presumption they are contributing to Nitrogen being released into the nearby waterways. Those purchasing a home in these areas could soon feel the pain of the expenses needed to upgrade or completely replace systems.

This problem will not get solved or improved overnight; focusing on these first locations could be a warning to all other coastal areas; the worse is yet to come.

Living on the coast has always been of interest, and it continues to be attractive, but an issue that has caused havoc in obtaining insurance is how underwriters outline what constitutes a coastal property. Being near the ocean or a waterway was obvious, so rates were often commensurate with risk. But in the last few years, if you live miles from the shoreline, you’ve been penalized from the threat of wind from the ocean. Rates have risen well beyond what could be considered expected price increases, and in some cases, they have doubled even if you have never had a claim.

Condominiums are a popular choice for people who have busy lives or are not interested in doing or managing their home’s maintenance. But this is an option that comes with a different set of rules. Too often, a family buys a unit, whether free-standing or connected to others, and quickly learns of the many restrictions that govern how they will live. Most shocking to new owners is the

difference between what used to be an owners’ “yard” and what they discover is “Common Area” owned by the development’s Homeowner’s Association.

When purchasing a unit in a community run by a board of directors or management company, it is vital to understand precisely what you will own and, more importantly, how you may use it!

There are benefits to condo life; just about everything is taken care of for a monthly fee, but if you think you’re going to grill at 7 a.m. on Sunday morning in your bathrobe, maybe you should consider owning a home in a location that doesn’t enact rules surrounding privacy or lifestyle choices.

Another cost of home ownership is that of regular maintenance. Lawn care, snow removal, painting, repairs, replacing windows, updating HVAC systems, a new roof, and so on. Often, a family qualifies for a mortgage on their home of choice, only to struggle with the expenses to keep it running once the overhead increases or unpredicted expenses arise.

Recently, buyers hoping to score a home of their choice have tried to entice sellers to accept their offer over another by eliminating home inspection. The belief that it would make an offer more attractive is accurate, and many homes have been bought without the assurance of condition. But, this is risky on many accounts. First, you will likely need to consult with your bank or mortgage company since they are your ‘partner’ in the purchase until you pay off the loan. And for those making a full cash offer, unless you’ve got experience and knowledge that allows you to judge a home’s condition, you could be making the biggest gamble of your life.

The most critical piece of the home buying experience is where most savvy home buyers and investors end up; in the office of a real estate broker or agent. Without good representation, those ‘winging it’ may find themselves disappointed and regretful.

Having experience on your side during a negotiation can make the difference between winning and losing; it only makes sense to find a company to sit in your corner. Take the time to build a relationship with a professional that aligns with your perspective and objectives.

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Should I Sell?

BY JAMES HOLDEN

It’s the early days of 2023, and the question of selling or staying put continues to haunt buyers; it is a time when housing inventories are depressed, inflation is out of control, mortgage rates are sky-high, and a recession is looming in the future.

But, as consumers see the value of their homes increase beyond their wildest expectations, many are tempted to list their primary residences for sale; they view it as the perfect opportunity to generate a windfall. Of similar thought, others believe it is an ideal time to upgrade to

a more impressive home offering more lavish amenities.

Unfortunately, the challenge homeowners face after a quick sale, and a handsome profit, is to find an affordable and suitable replacement. In reality, without a firm commitment to relocate, risk takers will need to search for a rental or move to another state; and in the worse case, it would be to place personal items and furniture in storage.

During the last decade, families and speculators have used real estate market gyrations to upgrade or spin homes for profit. Low-interest rates, stimulus packages, the ability to work from home, plus

a glut of properties coming to market at the speed of a conveyer belt; have made for perfect fiscal scenarios.

While the party seems to be over, it isn’t a complete bust; home buying has slowed, having to do with fewer homes being listed rather than inventories sitting idle. Demand remains robust, with available properties spending only a few days with a for sale sign in front of them.

There are plenty of qualified buyers on the sidelines with guaranteed funding, so what is the problem?

Primarily, it is a combination of fear and interest rates for the lower and midlevel markets; the less savvy buyers re-

It’s a seller’s market and could be an ideal time to move, provided you are patient and have your eye on a new home.

main hesitant, while seasoned investors are quick to come in with cash, gut a home, and turn it into an income-producing asset. The result is a trail of remorse felt by the timid and inexperienced.

Conversely, as net worth increases, so does the ability to sit and wait for a deal. Not long ago, homes sold at top-tier prices of $5-$30 million. However, with a softening market, there appears to be a wait-and-see attitude. Motivated buyers are searching for homes supplying equity after the sale, a distressed sale, or locate a seller unwilling to ride out the slow-down and accept a less-thanoptimal offer.

By all indicators and conversations with leading real estate professionals, there’s an emerging trend for homes priced between $650,000-$1.5 million. This soft spot is a comfort zone for those ready and able to purchase. The loosely guarded secret is to enlist a broker to

locate what you are looking for because seldom do the best deals make it to the public square.

Understanding the market’s psyche and looking forward rather than viewing the past or present is far more productive in predicting what lies ahead for housing. The adage, a rising tide floats all ships, could be what’s on the horizon. Here’s why: there is a supply crisis and a significant lack of affordable rentals. Lower-end properties are hard to find, although government incentives and programs should show some easing.

As populations find new housing opportunities, their standard of living improves, resulting in competition and giving families an incentive to purchase a home.

Basic rules of supply and demand will likely be tied to the future easing of mortgage rates, which will be related to politics. As we approach a hotly

contested election season, both parties will push to reward consumers for swaying opinions of the country’s financial condition.

Back to the question, “Should I sell?” It’s a seller’s market and could be an ideal time to move, provided you are patient and have your eye on a new home.

Proper planning can be achieved by working with a qualified broker or agent. To orchestrate selling a home and securing another can be intricate and requires careful planning and timing to complete the seamless sales.

Expertise in negotiating an option to purchase a home upon selling your property requires experience. A strategy used in this type of negotiation is to create an incentive for a seller, a willingness to make concessions, or pay a fee for the privilege of entering into this type of agreement—it’s only one of the many options available. H

Clearing Up

Misconceptions:

THE TRUTH ABOUT PRINT AND DIGITAL RECALL & BRANDING

BY NATALIE SIMMONS

THE GREAT DEBATE

Every day, for incessant amounts of time, faces are buried into a phone, tablet, or other devices, less often than a newspaper, magazine, or other print media. One reason for the transition is the speed at which information can be viewed as it is created or reported. A person can be easily alerted about preferred details quickly.

At the same time, the annoyance of having predatory sites sending notices, false media content, and simple ‘internet trash’ directly to massive audiences is a nuisance.

The flip side of maintaining constant contact with electronics isn’t usually for a need to gather information or conduct research, but more likely to take a look at unnecessary emails, to text, or to talk, as an interruption to boredom or to fill in

what used to be enjoyable—free time.

Cultural exploitation is partly the result of large populations believing they have to be tuned in to every trend, news item, or piece of gossip about people and places

that give a false sense of security or a pseudo-belief of relevance or importance.

When observing someone reading print, there always seems to be a different purpose exhibited by solitude, a focus on content, and deliberate page-turning.

With such differences, we look to science for reasons why many tout the benefits and superiority of print over digital for learning and searching for information.

DATA AND RETENTION

The obscure but never talked about differences between print and digital is that print produces curiosity, and digital access delivers predetermined information. Think about it, when was the last time you picked up your phone and decided to learn more about a subject, product, or idea you hadn’t thought about but suddenly found interesting? It just doesn’t happen that way.

The primary difference between digital and print is that one passively delivers data, while the other is an active and intuitive process that involves learning and participation.

From the standpoint of opening up your phone to retrieve a message from a daily feed, you may get countless alerts about the social life of a celebrity, email notifications, or learn the person you’ve been trying to get a date with is hooking up with a friend, courtesy of Instagram. Yes, often, useless content occupies your not-so-precious time, lacking significance.

The primary difference between digital and print is that one passively delivers data, while the other is an active and intuitive process that involves learning and participation.

MEDIA AND COGNITION

It’s believed our ability to remain focused is impeded by the oversaturation of digital content and consumption. Efforts to cognitively upload and retain facts and details are replaced with skimming sentences, shallow comprehension, and selective word choices; when linked, minimal understanding of content causes significant decreases in recall.

As for reading and comprehension, while holding print, our eyes see words more clearly, which for all intents and purposes, allows for a quicker and more streamlined connection to our brains. Also, how we process data in print appears to be more intentional.

A few indicators that may contribute to an elevated state of focus is the mindfulness someone is in when they want to read for pleasure. Such a time allows for different sensory inputs; tactile, visual, and auditory stimuli can be created and controlled by the individual causing a more conducive environment for learning, understanding, and critical thinking.

A study by Mangen et al. (2013) found that when two groups of subjects, tenth-grade students, were asked to read the same content and test for reading comprehension—one by way of print and the other on a screen, those showing higher levels of understanding were from the print reading group.

To be fair, there is research pointing to how content is presented, i.e., format,

flow, amount of effort needed, and pagination, with mixed results; however, such efforts to create a reading style aren’t possible in most cases.

Other studies have shown that subjects have significant problems with concentration when comparing print to digital reading. It was reported that online readers are disoriented from their original task more often than those reading print by the urge to multitask. By doing so, comprehension is lessened.

It appears a person’s concentration is affected by the type of information delivery system used. The more involved and focused one can be on a task, the better one retains and recall what is read.

RECALL AND ADVERTISING

In the article found at pagination.com by Alice Morotti, “Print or Digital? Psychological factors influencing the perception of printed and digital content,” some interesting findings were reported regarding the differences between the reactions of people viewing print and digital content.

The author highlights research results by Venkatraman et al. (2021). The data obtained indicate significant results when measuring the “memorability of print versus digital advertising.”

Morotti writes, “…[using] eye-tracking for measuring attention, skin conductance and heart rate for measuring engagement, functional magnetic resonance (fMRI), for observing brain activity, and tests on recalling or retrieving accuracy, both attention and engagement are involved in processing new, unknown stimuli. An ad is more likely to be remembered the more the viewers are engaged and focused while looking at it. The authors hypothesized that the tangibility of paper may result in greater memory durability for print ads since directly touching and holding paper offers sensory and spatial cues. These cues also favor a clear representation of the context of material presentation.”

The above conclusion indicates that reading physical print and taking in information exposed to different senses

resembles an experience close to the actual event. Under consideration is that being as close as possible to the recreation of a near-life experience uniquely enhances memory, recall, and emotional connection. If this were to be accurate, it could be hypothesized that digital reconstruction, resembling a singularly dimensional feed of data, is flawed by the static or mechanical exchange of identical information.

Over time, researchers did find that “recognition and content memory didn’t differ across ad formats;” however, subjects were found to possess “quicker and more accurate recall in the context for print ads” (they better remembered the format in which they had seen the ad). This finding was attributed to increased activity within the hippocampus, where memories are created, and “new experiences, emotional context, and spatial representation [are derived].”

A conclusion the author put forward from the research was th at “print ads are linked to better encoding and higher engagement.” It doesn’t end here; more work indicates the effectiveness of print promotion. In another study, “… ads containing copy, visuals, and locations in a printed format showed a higher incidence of recalling content, context, and brand name associations based on retrieval cues.”

“… ads containing copy, visuals, and locations in a printed format showed a higher incidence of recalling content, context, and brand name associations based on retrieval cues.”

Startlingly, efforts show readers, who are potential clients, can retrieve “thoughts and feelings they [associate] with an ad [at] the moment they make purchasing decisions.”

Anecdotally, when asked why those attracted to reading paper enjoyed the experience, they explained the touching and feeling of paper, combined with the aroma of ink, caused them to relax and enjoy the experience more than touching a screen.

Research has discovered that the brain is activated by physical senses interacting in conjunction with learning. The stimulation and integration of motor and sensory input enhance experiences. This action reveals engagement and a willingness to connect with the source providing the content.

WINDOW SHOPPING AND OWNERSHIP

An exciting extraction from the discourse over the impact of visuals (photography) when comparing digital and print is that humans love to view images; the more color, the better they enjoy it. Best of all, and something publishers are well aware of, increased reader satisfaction is found in high-quality magazines like the one you’re holding.

The integration of text, font, style, format, and design directly influences consumer preference. Creative necessity has long been argued, the same as good taste, and while some consider it subjective, one thing is clear, when you see it, you recognize quality.

If you don’t believe it, think about a lush gift wrapped in a box from Tiffany compared to a hamburger thrown in a bag from McDonald’s. Not a fair comparison? Then consider what the price would be if the same luxury jeweler started selling beef; doubtfully, its burgers would be sold for 99 cents, and regardless of the price or the ridiculousness of the thought, there would be a market for them. Quality and taste can be determined, even created, for consumers with appetites.

Perception is a motivator; showing the use of a product or service in inviting,

exposing benefits and lifestyles to motivated customers causes familiarity and loyalty. Placing a potential client into the experience allows for the opportunity to feel joy and a sense of belonging. Such conveyance is a marketer’s dream; even though the public is aware of these marketing efforts, the stimulation they feel by the production of ‘feel good’ hormones overrides the ability to rationalize and resist advertising efforts that continuously summon their attention and subsequent action.

Ownership is the goal, so if you want to create a transaction, try not to sell your product; focus on the idea and emotion. It may sound odd, but it’s factually accurate. Wise salespeople allow the customers to sell themselves; all it takes is to explain why a customer needs it or what they are missing by not claiming the right to own.

Creating an attachment to a brand, location, lifestyle, or product is seen throughout life—generation after generation. Whether it’s a sports franchise, car company, or liquor, when a connection between a brand, person, product, or service is introduced to someone, the mechanism of identification and ownership follows. Naturally, perceived ownership comes first, but this geminated seed will sprout tangible results and sparks the need to purchase what is attractive.

For example, we eat with our eyes; seldom is a dish served as it appeared in a photo. Will you look like the model who wore the swimsuit you’ll purchase next month? And, if you buy that $200,000 Porsche, will a collection of celebrity actors or actresses find you? It’s laughable, but the car companies have had their best years ever. Branding is the key to marketing success.

PREFERENCE

Generally, people of means—an important point, prefer print over digital for critical information gathering and find the digital world more satisfying

for communication purposes. As for the rest of the world’s population, the website referenced in this essay reports that globally an incredible 72 percent of those polled prefer reading books and magazines over digital types.

Also found is believability and trust rates higher with print over digital. By all indications, electronic media is viewed under a cloud of skepticism because of the need to watch for fraudulent claims and scams. Magazines, in particular, are placed in a high-value category. The content and advertisers are viewed in a much better light than newspapers or flyers and perceived to be elevated unless their presentation is of insufficient quality, or the messages are poorly composed.

From internal measurements of selfreports by subscribers of luxury lifestyle publications, the preferred choice of subscribing to a magazine is “hardcopy,” which means printed material. Some of the comments readers submit regarding digital reading include, “it’s not the same,” “I don’t spend the same amount of time reading,” “I like the feel of the paper,” and “The photography isn’t as beautiful online.”

THE FUTURE

Digital magazines come and go, while those with staying power adhere to the demand for print by a loyal audience and advertisers.

As expected, it won’t be long before those who believe washers and gas stoves should be outlawed will be quick to voice their opposition to the harmful effects of printing. However, hopefully, at some point, we’ll cover the topic so you can grab a copy, find a quiet place, and chuckle at our thoughts about the subject.

It is important to remember that issues unable to find an unbiased platform for debate need print for open and free debate. The appeal of paper over digital is that AI won’t modify or selectively edit what you read, and the truth will be told. H

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Top Restaurants & Chefs Make The Cut— Next, Come The Finals!

BY MARGOT ROBERTS

t the end of January, The James Beard Foundation® announced its 2023 Restaurant & Chef Semifinalists in advance of a decision and the determination of overall winners of the prestigious competition.

The James Beard Awards are among the nation’s most distinguished honors, recognizing exceptional talent in the culinary and food media industries; such an award can launch a career overnight.

Adding to the excitement, this year’s contest has several contestants from the northeast and chefs from familiar towns and cities.

After the announcement of the semifinalists, nominees will be recognized on March 29, with winners celebrating their success on Monday, June 5, 2023, at the Lyric Opera of Chicago.

Clare Reichenbach, CEO of the James Beard Foundation, had this to say when the announcement was officially made. “Congratulations to all our 2023 James Beard Award Semifinalists! This is always an exhilarating moment as

we kick off the Awards cycle and recognize the outstanding achievements of individuals and teams across the country. After a year of fundamental changes, we look forward to building on the progress made, celebrating those paving a better future for us all—through their talent and craft, service to others, and commitment to a better, more sustainable industry.”

The James Beard Foundation’s Restaurant and Chef Awards—established in 1990 and first awarded in 1991— are one of five separate recognition programs of the Awards. This Awards program celebrates excellence across various experiences, from fine-dining establishments to casual gems, and emerging talents to established masters. The 2023 Restaurant and Chef Semifinalists are recognized across 23 categories, including the new Award for Outstanding Bakery. There is a lot of curiosity about how winners are chosen and who votes for the awards. According to the Foundation, “The Restaurant and Chef Awards voting body—comprised of subcommittees and judges—includes members who have the ability to independently evaluate chefs and restaurants. The Restaurant and Chef Awards Subcommittees members, are national or regional representatives and are divided evenly among the Award regions. Regional committee members live in their assigned regions, and national committee members

are frequent travelers who are up-to-date on national food trends. Members include food and beverage writers, critics, editors, book authors, media producers, food studies scholars, and culinary instructors. Others who could also qualify include, former chefs, restaurateurs, and diners from other professional backgrounds with knowledge of the restaurant scene in their region. Subcommittees shape the awards by creating categories and criteria, choosing judges, voting in each round, voting on committee-chosen awards (America’s Classics), and breaking ties.”

MORE THAN FOOD

Besides acknowledging food artistry and exceptional hospitality, The James Beard Foundation dives deep into many other facets of communities. One of their specialized programs that have made a difference is their Chef Bootcamp for Policy and Change, which celebrated its 10th anniversary in 2022. Beginning in 2012, chefs around the country became advocates for changes in school meal programs, protection of SNAP benefits, promoting and supporting the fishing industry, reducing food waste, and improving food production.

EDUCATION

In 1991 The James Beard Foundation established a scholarship program to support those who planned on continuing their training at an accredited culinary school, hospitality institution, college, or university. The Foundation

has made significant strides and shares some of its success. “Since its inception, the program has not only grown in visibility and financial scope but in the array of subjects its recipients have embraced. As of 2022, the Foundation has awarded nearly $9 million in financial aid to over 2,000 recipients. During this scholarship cycle, we awarded $315,000 in scholarships, tuition waivers, and work-study grants to students attending accredited culinary programs across the nation.”

WOMEN’S ISSUES

The Foundation is a leader in providing assistance, resources, and networks that support women-owned businesses. They assist in their careers with specialized training, programs, and funding.

One program the Foundation is proud to discuss is its Women’s Entrepreneurial Leadership (WEL) initiative. In partnership with Cornell University, the curriculum includes sessions on leadership, negotiation, business strategy, financial models, raising capital, and measuring success. The 10-week advanced education, training, and networking program for business owners in all areas of the hospitality industry have delivered remarkable results.

In releasing the list of successful Semifinal candidates, Adrian Miller, Restaurant and Chef Awards Committee Chair added, “We are so thrilled to recognize this year’s Restaurant and Chef Awards Semifinalists, a truly diverse group of talented individuals across the culinary industry.”

Our list is limited to New England competitors

OUTSTANDING RESTAURATEUR

A restaurateur who uses their establishment(s) to build community, demonstrates creativity in entrepreneurship and integrity in restaurant operations and creates a sustainable work culture while contributing positively to their broader community.

Krista Cole | Sur Lie and Gather Restaurant, Portland, M.E.

OUTSTANDING CHEF

A chef who sets high culinary standards and has served as a positive example for other food professionals while contributing positively to their broader community.

Rachel Miller | Nightshade Noodle Bar, Lynn, Mass.

David Vargas | Vida Cantina, Portsmouth, N.H.

OUTSTANDING RESTAURANT

A restaurant that demonstrates consistent excellence in food, atmosphere, hospitality, and operations while contributing positively to its broader community.

Cora Cora | West Hartford, C.T.

PAGU | Cambridge, Mass.

Red Rose Restaurant | Lowell, Mass.

Veselka | New York, N.Y.

EMERGING CHEF

A chef who displays exceptional talent, character, and leadership ability and who is likely to make a significant impact in years to come while contributing positively to their broader community.

Vinh Le | Cicada Coffee Bar, Cambridge, Mass.

BEST NEW RESTAURANT

A restaurant opened between January 1, 2022, through September 30, 2022, that already demonstrates excellence in cuisine, atmosphere, hospitality, and operations while contributing positively to its broader community and seems likely to make a significant impact in years to come. Those establishments that have opened after September 30, 2022, can be considered for the 2024 awards.

La Royal | Cambridge, Mass. wolfpeach | Camden, M.E.

OUTSTANDING BAKERY

New in 2023, this category recognizes a baker of breads, pastries, or desserts demonstrating consistent excellence in food, atmosphere, hospitality, and operations while contributing positively to its broader community.

Haymaker Bun Company | Middlebury, V.T.

OUTSTANDING PASTRY CHEF OR BAKER

The former Outstanding Pastry Chef and Outstanding Baker categories have been combined into one, Outstanding Pastry Chef or Baker. This category recognizes a pastry chef or baker who makes desserts, pastries, or breads. The candidate demonstrates exceptional skills, can be affiliated with any food business and does not need a brick-and-mortar presence. Candidate contributes positively to their broader community.

Atsuko Fujimoto | Norimoto Bakery, Portland, M.E.

Amanda Wildermuth | Honey Road, Burlington, V.T.

OUTSTANDING HOSPITALITY

A restaurant, bar, or other food and drinking establishment fosters a sense of hospitality among its customers and staff. It serves as a beacon for the community and demonstrates consistent excellence in food, atmosphere, hospitality, and operations while contributing positively to its broader community.

The Quarry | Monson, M.E.

Sur Lie | Portland, M.E.

OUTSTANDING WINE AND OTHER BEVERAGES PROGRAM

Expanded from Outstanding Wine Program this year to include other beverages, this award is presented to a restaurant that demonstrates exceptional care and skill in pairing wine and other beverages with food while contributing positively

to its broader community. This includes the selection, preparation, and serving of wine, cocktails, spirits, coffee, tea, beer, or any other beverage with outstanding hospitality and service that helps inform and enhance a customer’s appreciation of the beverage(s). Ethical sourcing and positive contributions to the broader community will also be considered.

Foam Brewers | Burlington, V.T. Rebel Rebel | Somerville, Mass.

OUTSTANDING BAR

Expanded to include wine and other beverages, this award is presented to a wine bar, beer bar, cocktail bar, coffee bar, or any other business whose primary offering is a beverage and that demonstrates consistent excellence in curating a selection or in the preparation of drinks, along with outstanding atmosphere, hospitality, and operations while contributing positively to its broader community.

The Jewel Box | Portland, M.E.

BEST CHEFS (by region)

Chefs who set high standards in their culinary skills and leadership abilities are making efforts to help create a sustainable work culture in their respective regions while contributing positively to their broader community.

BEST CHEF: NORTHEAST (C.T., MASS., M.E., N.H., R.I., V.T.)

Robert Andreozzi | Pizza Marvin, Providence, R.I.

Paul Callahan | Vino e Vivo, Exeter, N.H.

Jeff Fournier | Thompson House Eatery, Jackson, N.H.

Mojo Hancy-Davis | May Day, Burlington, V.T.

Valentine Howell | Krasi, Boston, Mass.

Christian Hunter | Community Table, Washington, C.T.

Sara Jenkins | Nina June, Rockport, M.E.

Jason LaVerdiere | Flux, Lisbon Falls, M.E.

Courtney Loreg | Woodford Food & Beverage, Portland, M.E.

Alganesh Michael | A Taste of Abyssinia, South Burlington, V.T.

Yahya Noor | Tawakal Halal Cafe, Boston, Mass.

Tony Pastor | Fore Street, Portland, M.E.

Isaul Perez | Isa, Portland, M.E.

Sherry Pocknett | Sly Fox Den Too, Charlestown, R.I.

Yisha Siu | Yunnan Kitchen, Boston, Mass.

Derrick Teh | SEKALI, Boston, Mass.

Ellie Tiglao | Tanám, Somerville, Mass.

Renee Touponce | The Port of Call, Mystic, C.T.

Milena Pagán | Little Sister, Providence, R.I.

Douglass Williams | MIDA, Boston, Mass.

CALENDAR

As of the 2023 Awards cycle, the Restaurant and Chef Awards defines the annual eligibility time frame as October through September (formerly January through December) to allow the voting body more time to consider businesses opening later in the calendar year. H

Upcoming Awards Announcements

(Dates may be subject to change)

FEBRUARY 22, 2023:

Restaurant and Chef America’s Classics Awards announced

MARCH 29, 2023:

Restaurant and Chef Award nominees, Leadership Award winners, and honorees for the Achievement Awards (Lifetime and Humanitarian of the Year recipients) to be announced live in Nashville, T.N.

APRIL 26, 2023:

Nominees for the James Beard Foundation Media Awards announced live in New York City

The 2023 Awards ceremonies will be held in our proud host city of Chicago on the following dates:

Media Awards | Saturday, June 3, 2023

Leadership Awards | Sunday, June 4, 2023

Restaurant and Chef Awards | Monday, June 5, 2023

For more information about the James Beard Foundation Awards, visit jamesbeard.org/awards.

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The Gateway to Award-Winning Theater

BY STEVEN CHAN

n attraction drawing tourists, visitors, and new residents to Long Island is its proximity to New York City, and unyielding—yet satisfying vibe.

While headed away from the entertainment center of the world and approaching mid-island, you begin to experience a sense of being hauled to a place that takes the best of the Big Apple and integrates it with an incredible landscape of farms and vineyards, further enhanced by a coastline of magnificent beaches and harbors.

Leaving behind the bothersome elements of the metropolis while embarking on an adventure that delivers the finest amenities is beyond satisfying. Gourmet cuisine, first-class entertainment, and the best in a long list of agricultural products are located minutes of all major routes heading towards the North Folk and Montauk.

A single visit makes it clear Long Island is a destination many have attempted to imitate, but no other location can duplicate its uniqueness.

Tree-lined streets, parks, and waterways make a scenic backdrop rain or shine; stylish shops, roadside stands, and high-fashion boutiques

offer unmatched quality and intriguing energy that attracts tourists all year long.

One of the Island’s least-known gems (by new arrivals) is the Gateway Theater, aka Gateway Playhouse, and The Performing Arts Center of Suffolk County; I too, had to learn by experience.

Nestled in the iconic village of Bellport, a mere hour from New York City, a short trip from one of the many convenient airports, or an enjoyable ride from the Cross Sound Ferry landing at Orient Point, the magic of Broadway is captured and delivered upon the south shore of Long Island where there is an atmosphere of charm and sophisticated exuberance.

The Gateway is an idyllic partner and attraction among the merchants, watering holes, salons, and markets. The Theater began as an idea and soon grew as tall and bright as the fields of sunflowers blanketing Long Island.

Sally Pomeran had the sense to dream and dream emphatically; she and a small group of actors wanted to provide towns what they longed for even if they might not have realized it; in her words, the people need an “above average, run-ofthe-mill stock play.”

According to written history obtained from the family, it was 1941 when Sally’s father, Harry C. Pomeran, bought the 70-acre farm in Bellport. His ambition was to run a hotel, so, Pomeran converted the location into a resort for Christian Scientists wishing for a summer vacation on the Island.

Along with the husband and wife team, brother David and sister Ruth were recruited to “plant vegetables, wash dishes, wait tables, and milk Daisy, the family cow…the property [also] housed two hundred chickens, hay, corn, and other farm essentials.”

The children’s contributions didn’t end at sundown; they entertained hotel guests with music and shows, and it wasn’t long before word had spread and locals came out in support.

“We had three willing people and an empty barn with which to startwhy not try? With this incentive, we proceeded.”

Sally Pomeran

“Summer Theater on a Shoestring”

The Christian Science Monitor, 1952

Harry quickly realized a serious interest in the concept and decided to displace Daisy from the barn, and in 1950, the Gateway Playhouse raised the curtain to The Taming of the Shrew.

With success came greater demand, and more productions followed, giving Sally the incentive to do her senior thesis on turning the barn into a professional Theater.

The Gateway became known as a serious player in the arts and entertainment industry, presenting classics like Shakespeare and Moliere and contemporary productions such as Tennessee Williams and William Inge. It also began many acting careers; names who took the Gateway stage included Gene Hackman, Ulu Grossbard, Ken Howard, and Julia Migenes-Johnson.

The unofficial mission of the Gateway has always been to educate performers; often, the staff and players were students, albeit talented ones. Many

lived and worked on-site and performed in the evening.

BIG CHANGES COME TO BELLPORT

In early 1960 the Gateway earned a reputation as a notable Summer Stock Theater and Training Center. However, almost immediately, with Columbia Pictures choosing them to be their casting farm, everything changed. Gateway was training and providing a stage for perfecting talent. With the West Coast noticing its potential, professionals were coming in to run the Main Stage season.

By 1962 the production quality was reaching top-tier notoriety; scenery and costumes were manufactured on the grounds with more than 60 apprentices housed in dormitories during the summer.

For the remainder of the decade, the Gateway produced up to 16 shows per season, including a series of children’s shows; work never ceased.

In the 70s, summer stock waned, and the schedule dropped to 4-6 shows. At the same time, the Gateway found its stride and began producing musical productions. The result was renewed interest from audiences at a distance, with its reputation growing.

Throughout the 80s-90s, the family continued the operation, with a new generation joining and trying new opportunities; vast improvements to the footprint of the grounds, lighting, and sound equipment were made, with word of their efforts continuing to spread. Between 1990-2000, demand for sets and costumes came from all directions, so the Gateway touring company sent shows to 25 US cities and countries worldwide. According to an account of the Gateway’s success during the period, “Production of Andrew Lloyd Weber’s Song and Dance enjoyed a 25-city national tour, and their version of Rodgers and Hammerstein’s The Sound of Music visited countries in the Far East

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Nestled in the iconic village of Bellport, a mere hour from New York City, a short trip from one of the many convenient airports, or an enjoyable ride from the Cross Sound Ferry landing at Orient Point, the magic of Broadway is captured and delivered upon the south shore of Long Island where there is an atmosphere of charm and sophisticated exuberance.

including Malaysia, Singapore and—in a first for American musicals—South Korea. Other Tours produced internationally included Anything Goes, South Pacific, Camelot, and A Chorus Line.”

In 1997, the company began renovating and restoring Patchogue’s derelict 1923 vaudeville house and movie theater, which reopened as The Patchogue Theatre For The Performing Arts, a short distance from Bellport.

During the last decade, the Gateway, striving for theater excellence, hit a pinnacle with the production of Broadway-quality musicals with Broadway stars. But, as with all business cycles, economics knows no friends, and the family had to tough it out. To survive, in 2011, the business— held close to the heart—went from a commercial entity to a non-profit regional theater. A new challenge, the same blood, sweat, and tears that went into building an incredible organization pivoted and is running strong for another act.

A Legacy of World-Class Entertainment

TODAY

The Gateway is one of three professional theaters on Long Island. Standing on acres of landscaped grounds, the modern-fitted playhouse with its rustic exterior invites guests to enjoy a specialized entertainment experience not found anywhere else.

And while the three generations poured themselves into the love of their lives, it wasn’t in vain, for they claim the honor of being one of the top 10 summer theaters in the United States.

The Gateway continues to attract the best professional directors, actors, and musicians, plus a flood of visitors to Long Island who expects quality entertainment.

Having recently learned about the Gateway and researched its illustrious history, as we go to press, I’m heading to Bellport for an opportunity to enjoy the highly acclaimed musical comedy with a long list of awards, The Wedding Singer. Attending one of the final performances,

based on the 1998 Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymore film, I am delighted for this opportunity, especially knowing the effort that goes into each production.

I’m also hoping to have an opportunity to attend their final production of the yearlong season, Clue. The classic whodunit murder mystery musical comedy is scheduled for March 17 - April 16, 2023.

Starring Sally Struthers, a two-time Emmy Award and Golden Globe Award winner for her performances in the groundbreaking TV series All in the Family, and who starred in the Fox television series 9 to 5, along with her own CBS series Gloria, she is sure to bring the house down.

With an early spring, now is the perfect time to plan your trip to Long Island and reserve your seat at the Gateway. H For more information about the Gateway and its history or to contact the box office to reserve tickets, call 631-286-1133, or visit thegateway.org.

IT IS POSSIBLE!

BY STEVEN CHAN

Imagine you find or meet someone that steals your attention with a gaze, or you discover a profile that fits you like a glove, and you can’t swipe them away, only to realize they are outside your physical comfort zone.

You’ll ponder, “Should I take the risk?” and probably ask yourself, “Am I able to handle this type of relationship?”

Let’s face it; an LDR isn’t for everyone, especially if you desire daily face-to-face time.

When love knows no boundaries, and those you meet on dating sites leave you yearning for someone living hundreds of miles away, the essential skills necessary for maneuvering in this new territory in the hope of finding efficacy in a loving relationship are vital to learn, understand, and follow.

A primary obstacle practically all LDRs face is that regardless of how busy you are, the activities you enjoy, or the social events you attend, there will be a long list of occasions when you wish your love interest were beside you but is absent. It takes strong will and confidence in yourself and your partner to deal with these feelings.

If you attempt, and these types of relationships have benefits—until something more permanent is achieved, expect to be patient, tolerant, and most importantly— particular.

Let’s begin with the first quality you should look for in an LDR partner; trust. The ability to feel confident in another is essentially the epoxy that will hold you together; without it, you’ll be destined for emotional hell. Even the slightest indication of lying, cheating, and deception can quickly erode the most heartfelt emotional bond.

Of course, some involved in these relationships enjoy the distance because they are not serious about a long-term outcome. They find the sexual energy from time away from another creates an erotic wonderland of fun; these individuals may participate in a few ‘friends with benefits’ opportunities or open relationships. Both can be met with some success, although the key element when becoming involved is that each partner must be upfront about their intent.

We will address what is necessary to be involved and evolve in a committed LDR.

The objective for both partners wishing to form a serious relationship and move through the steps of traditional relationships involves connecting. It means that when you aren’t physically in contact, you are emotionally.

COMMUNICATION

It is the Holy Grail for every relationship, but even more so when distance applies.

To know and understand a partner’s mental state, their level of intimacy, and becoming involved in their lives and routines means sharing details of daily experiences. Such effort will allow a flow of information and feelings to intertwine, building a lasting connection.

STEP 1: THE ALMIGHTY TEXT

You have one of the essential tools in your pocket; don’t be afraid to use it; send a text when they least expect one. Yes, everyone is busy, but nothing

beats a quick text showing interest and sharing a thought. Not enough can be said about being considerate and letting your special person know you’re thinking about them.

STEP 2: BUILD A BRIDGE— CALL TWICE

If you intend to grow together, make a call— twice a day. Starting and ending your day with a conversation shows your effort and concern. It’s a great way to lift someone’s spirits, exchange knowledge, or get a laugh. This exchange is meaningful because long messages can be misinterpreted; being able to qualify or add greater detail to a written conversation can avoid an argument.

Humans interact with all their senses, and hearing a familiar voice adds to emotional well-being. The tone and sentiment of listening can relax and provide a sense of caring.

While you may not be able to touch, you can try Facetime; seeing your partner and their expressions adds another level to the conversation.

Evening discussions often occur with couples living together or close by; it is at the end of the day when loneliness creeps up, causing a sense of loss. Providing feelings of security and comfort, even with an abbreviated talk,

will show you are trying to stay in tune with your partner.

STEP 3: DATES, DATES & MORE DATES

Depending on the distance, be sure you meet up as often as possible, weekly or twice a month, for as much time as possible, which helps create a lasting relationship that begins to feel reliable. Ideally, spending a week or more with each other yields great dividends and will allow each partner to see what a life together could look like. Of course, one of the partners will need a career offering increased flexibility and the ability to fund travel expenses. And, one last suggestion; an impromptu visit is always welcomed, even if only overnight.

STEP 4: WHAT’S NEXT?

Everyone likes to have a goal or an event planned; looking forward to a satisfying experience and knowing that there is a specific time and place you get your next relationship ‘fix’ can be thrilling. The process of waiting for the day to meet has significant value; it offers you the time and opportunity to check the days, knowing exactly when and where the next connection will take place. It’s a good idea to plan a new meeting or event as one ends.

STEP 5: TRAVEL TOGETHER

It is well known that traveling together will allow the chance to see your significant other in a different

light. Everyone has idiosyncrasies, preferences, and styles when going away. Being together, outside of familiar surroundings, builds upon the foundation of any relationship. Newly discovered traits will abound, and your interactions will bring surprising turns. Also, increased reliance on each other should strengthen your connection.

STEP 6: MIND-PLAY

Relationships are not all about sex; we use mind-play so as not to be crude, but the intercourse of thoughts and feelings is relevant and should be explored.

Asking questions and sharing information about feelings, preferences, and desires are all part of the loving equation; listening and hearing how your partner feels can be satisfying to them. Sometimes they may feel disconnected, but you can offer assurance by turning a negative emotional state into a positive one.

STEP 7: THE MAGIC OF FLOWERS OR GIFTS

Nothing creates a burst of sunshine or brightens someone’s day when getting an unexpected delivery. The thrill of a package arriving unannounced at the doorstep fills the person with warmth and appreciation.

Being creative doesn’t hurt either; a special pizza, sushi, or dessert delivery won’t go unnoticed. One word of caution, try to time the delivery so that your person is available to receive your offering.

STEP 8: SEX? HOW SO?

To the naivete, this is what younger people have been up to for a very long time, and it never mattered if they were at a distance or not.

When love knows no boundaries, and those you meet on dating sites leave you yearning for someone living hundreds of miles away, the essential skills necessary for maneuvering in this new territory in the hope of finding efficacy in a loving relationship are vital to learn, understand, and follow.

sends you a message, you should approach the subject sooner rather than later.

It could be imaginary, but then again, intuition is a gift. Clear the air, or at least try to find closure. Regretfully, it happens much too often.

STEP 10: COURTESY, PRIORITY, AND CONSIDERATION

Second to communication is to make the person you want a relationship with feel validated. It begins with making them believe they are essential to your well-being.

Sexting has been an active pursuit for a long time, and sex toy manufacturers have caught on.

Many LDRs have found their relationships rewarding through the use of video and ‘toys’ to get through long periods of absence. Couples are using vibrators working through apps controlled by a partner hundreds of miles away; this keeps the passion burning until a meeting can be consummated.

STEP 9: YOUR TRUST WILL BE TESTED

It is only a matter of time before one of you feels uncomfortable and needs to discuss infidelity.

Don’t feel it is in your mind or overreact, but if it is a concern or your gut

Taking the time to extend an effort to show concern and put them above friends and sometimes the family will bring you closer. Before making arrangements, visits, or taking time away from what very little you have to share, make them the priority and have the discussion. Agreeing ahead of time will prevent discourse or feelings of neglect.

A word of caution, creating an emotionally distant environment is far worse than the miles apart; any move towards withdrawal will instantly become apparent. Once these three elements are depleted, there isn’t much hope for a future.

STEP 11: THE FUTURE

If everything is going well, don’t limit the possibilities; begin to develop a plan of action; where will you two live? What will daily living look like? And, address expectations and how existing support systems will fit into your new lifestyle. The rest is up to you, Godspeed. H

DOOMSCROLLING

WHY WE DO IT, ITS HEALTH IMPACTS, AND BREAKING FREE

BY ROB SAINT LAURENT, M.ED

With the click of a mouse or tap on a screen, it’s easy to get swept away in the rip current of unsettling news. Ongoing extreme weather, persistent inflation and economic uncertainty, the specter of unelected world government in the World Economic Forum, vaccine controversy, daily mass shootings, escalating war in Europe, the World Health Organization renewing calls for governments to stockpile radiation medicines in the event of a “nuclear emergency,” the Doomsday Clock moved to 90 seconds to midnight—the list goes on. While we can’t ignore these ominous issues and pretend they’ll go away, overconsumption of negative news can impact mental health, say experts.

‘IF IT BLEEDS, IT LEADS’

The media has long known that it’s hard for many of us to turn off and tune out the drama and trauma. The internet, smartphones, and social media have conditioned us to respond to the latest, up-to-the-minute breaking news. Like Pavlov’s dogs, we automatically react to the ping of the breaking news alert. Steve Rose, Ph.D., an addiction specialist and college professor in Canada, explains why.1

We may say we desire more positive news, but Rose believes most of us probably wouldn’t pay attention to it. Negativity bias is one explanation. We’re compelled to pay greater attention to bad rather than good things. Research has shown that bad parents, emotions, and feedback impact us more than good varieties. Criticism sticks with us much more than any compliment. Rose says focusing on the negative has protected us from environmental threats throughout human existence. This natural tendency to focus on the negative has been hijacked by the news media, “keeping us coming back for more.” We do that to try to gain control over the uncertainty, even though we can’t; instead, it just keeps us on perpetual high alert and reinforces our sense that all is not well.

Confirmation bias keeps us locked into our negative information bubbles, says Rose. Instead of challenging our beliefs and questioning the narrative, we default toward information that confirms our pre-existing beliefs and fears. Of course, the internet and social media facilitate these biases with their algorithmically based newsfeeds. It’s difficult to question our worldview, as it’s easier to remain certain of the existence of our fears. Rose says the fear of uncertainty is worse than the bad news itself, but this false sense of certainty from an “illusion of control” comes at a steep cost to our mental health.

Llisa Kaufman, Psy.D., also notices how overconsumption of negative media affects her clients, especially those predisposed to anxiety and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). In April 2020, she foresaw the effect of heavy promotion of protective health behaviors over an extended period on these populations. Even after policies and restrictions in their state had been lifted, many couldn’t move forward and remained stuck in their protective behaviors. She believes the media shares much of the blame. Repeating negative phrases like “new infections” and “death toll rising” (intentionally or otherwise) kept people locked in a fight-or-flight response that can have unforeseen health consequences.2

Paradoxically, fear can also be addictive, which could complicate the issue. After watching a scary film, we get a rush of pleasurable endorphins in the amygdala of the brain, much as we would from a vigorous workout.3 Scrolling from the safety of their homes, it could also be that some people subconsciously get a rush from reading scary news.

ANOTHER PUBLIC HEALTH CONCERN

The feelings of fear, anger, and sorrow elicited by overconsumption of negative news only lead to “worse mood and more anxious scrolling,” say experts.4

Research has linked bad news to greater distress, anxiety, and depression, which can happen with relatively benign news. Professor emeritus of psychology Graham Davey, Ph.D., at the University of Sussex, says bad news can amplify personal worries, even causing “acute stress reactions and some symptoms of posttraumatic stress disorder that can be quite long-lasting.”4

Davey and other experts have suspected this for decades. In a small 1997 study, he and a colleague looked at the psychological impact of fabricated positive and negative news bulletins on men and women in their 20s. Several groups were shown 14-minute news segments edited to be more positive, neutral, or negative in content. Compared to other groups, those who watched the

negative-leaning material felt more anxious and sadder and tended to “catastrophize” personal worries. The researchers say this is consistent with the belief that negative mood can promote worrying thoughts and suggests that negative news can make us worry more about personal matters unrelated to what we’re watching.5

We also know that being in a prolonged fight-or-flight state can affect our physical health. Short-term, we experience reactions such as increased heart rate, breathing, and blood pressure. If these stress responses stay chronically activated, as from habitual doom-scrolling, they could lead to a host of physical consequences ranging from headaches and heart disease to problems with sleep and digestion.6

A 2022 study in the journal Health Communications points to the magnitude of the problem. Using data from a national sample of roughly 1,100 US adults who engaged in doom-scrolling, researchers from Texas Tech University found that 16.5 percent reported significant levels of anxiety and stress, with impacts on physical health, and 27.3 percent reported “moderately problematic” stress levels. The remainder reported either slight or no issues from scrolling. The researchers say they were surprised by the 17 percent, which suggests a widespread problem. They say increased public awareness of the potential for problematic news consumption is needed.7, 8

On a cultural level, Rose says addiction to negative news and mental health issues are symptoms of an ailing society. He believes the demand for negative news is also a reflection of ourselves in which “political divisions and dissolved communal bonds have heightened our sense of uncertainty…‘the flames of fragmentation’ fueled with negative news.”1

GUARDING AGAINST FEAR

A reasonable optimistic bias may be helpful at shielding against the effects of negative news. Our brain’s inferior frontal gyrus typically filters out bad news when we form beliefs about new

information. Optimists may not judge risks as well as pessimists, but they are generally healthier.4

That said, positive thinking is hard for many of us, and we cope with anxiety by preparing for worst-case situations. Thus, keeping abreast of what’s happening in the world is important.4 Researchers say this isn’t doom-scrolling if it isn’t affecting our outlook and quality of life. Being a “news junkie” and a doom-scroller aren’t the same thing.7

For people feeling stressed from all the negative news, online vitriol, and “fear porn,” however. Kaufman has a handful of practical, common-sense suggestions.2

Limit media intake or turn it off. This includes social media, which, she says, “is filled with plenty of strangers and ‘friends’ trying to persuade and terrorize you.”

Use the time to get outside. Go for a walk or run, as exercise can reduce stress. Moderate sun exposure has also been shown to benefit some psychological conditions.

Don’t engage. Don’t get into conversations with those who want to discuss something terrifying they heard on the news.

Get help if needed. If negative media interferes with daily functioning, programs are available to help desensitize and regain quality of life.

Kate Mannell, Ph.D., a media studies researcher at Australia’s Deakin University, explains that the COVID-19 lockdown made people more likely to obsessively scroll through the vast amount of depressing stories. She found that people who realized their news consumption was becoming unhealthy and limited their intake had better wellbeing. They often found more direct ways of staying informed, like going directly to public health sources. 8

She advises that, rather than turn off all news media, news addicts realize the potential health impacts of their obsessive scrolling. “Becoming stressed and anxious is a legitimate natural reaction to the world around you, but it’s important … people are able to gauge when [news consumption] becomes problematic.”8 H

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2. K aufman, L. (2021, May 23). Has Fear Porn I nserted Its Way Into Your Mind? Psychology Today.

3. L ang, K. (2021, October 29). Fear can be fun, and it m ight even be good for you. Medical News Today.

4. B lades, R. (2021, March 22). Protecting the brain against bad news. Canadian Medical A ssociation Journal, 193(12), E428-429.

5. Johnston, W. M. & Davey, G. C. L. (1997). T he psychological impact of negative TV news bulletins: The catastrophizing of personal worries. British Journal of Psychology, 88, 85-91.

6. M ayo Clinic. (2021, July 8). Stress management.

7. McLaughlin, B., Gotlieb, M. R. & Mills, D. J. ( 2022, August 23). Caught in a Dangerous World: Problematic News Consumption and Its R elationship to Mental and Physical Ill-Being. Health Communication.

8. T homson, F. (2022, September 9). What is d oom-scrolling, and why is it bad for us? Open Access Government.

Danger of Depression

BY ROBERT WRIGHT

We’ve been lucky this winter; the temperatures have been mild—except for the recent but short, deep freeze followed by spring-like weather, all within days of each other.

The sun has been welcoming, with many basking in mid-day warmth. With such encouraging conditions, little has been said about Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) which typically makes headlines under the gray clouds during February and March.

At the same time, the news is filled with countless stories of suicides and murders. The reports making the biggest splash often come from places like Manhattan. Recently a young businessman leaped to his death from a high rise at Times Square. Successful, with the appearance of living the American Dream, he believed otherwise.

Months before, a model climbed out on a ledge on the 27thfloor balcony at an outdoor bar and jumped; the staff could not come to her rescue. A split second could have made a difference.

Then, making headlines closer to home is the arrest of a woman accused of killing her three children in Duxbury, Massachusetts. Speculation is circulating that the mom, a labor and delivery nurse at a Boston hospital, took her kids’ lives, then attempted to kill herself by jumping out a window of her home because of a condition known as postpartum depression. But, recently, her defense attorney has floated the notion that besides significant mental illness playing a role in her decline, the cause of the alleged actions may be attributed to the effects from dozens of prescribed psychiatric drugs.

Sadly and unforgivingly ruthless, a young girl from New Jersey took her life after four teenage girls beat her at school, videotaped the incident, and then posted the attack. The girls have been charged with the senseless assault, but what is left is a family in complete turmoil and pain.

These are just a few of the many accounts taking places daily; people unable to face the mounting stress of life are making choices without the benefit of sharing their pain and confusion. Noticeably, each comes from a different background but seems to lack coping strategies.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), suicide is the leading cause of death in the US, resulting in 46,000 deaths in 2020. In the same year, an estimated 12.2 million adults seriously thought about suicide, 3.2 million made plans, and 1.2 million attempted to harm themselves.

But, most egregious is suicide rates in 2020 were 30 percent higher than in 2000 and are likely increasing yearly.

It is essential to differentiate between mild bouts of depression and the type that lead to a tragic ending. The CDC and the

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), suicide is the leading cause of death in the US, resulting in 46,000 deaths in 2020. In the same year, an estimated 12.2 million adults seriously thought about suicide, 3.2 million made plans, and 1.2 million attempted to harm themselves.

But, most egregious is suicide rates in 2020 were 30 percent higher than in 2000 and are likely increasing yearly.

National Center for Health Statistics, report that suicide rates in the United States are lowest during the winter months and highest in the spring and summer.

SAD usually occurs in the fall or when the late winter months are upon us. According to George Dominiak, M.D., a psychiatrist with Mass General Brigham Integrated Care, “Humans are not immune to the cycle of the seasons. We have changes in our hormones and in our physiology that occur when the weather gets colder and the days get shorter that can affect mood, anxiety, and energy levels.”

“During this period, symptoms can include; an increase in sadness, lower energy or feeling lethargic, excessive sleeping, a craving for carbohydrates, and weight gain. Also noticeable is the loss of interest in daily activities.”

“It’s often mild. But when it happens and repeats for several years in a row, or so severely that it affects a person’s ability to function at home or work on a daily basis, it could be considered an actual depressive episode,” says Dr. Dominiak.

What are the risk factors for seasonal depression? According to Dr. Dominiak; you may be more likely than others to have seasonal depression if:

You’re a woman.

You’re aged 18 to 30.

You have other mood disorders, like depression or bipolar disorder.

You have a family history of seasonal depression.

You live far away from the equator, or you live in a place that typically has cloudy, rainy, or foggy weather and places with less sun exposure.

As for treatment with mild blues, Dr. Dominiak recommends people make some lifestyle changes. “The simplest treatment is to get up earlier in the morning to go outside and get some sunlight on your face,” he says. “Even on cloudy days, just getting daylight exposure can make a big difference.” Dr. Dominiak also recommends not wearing sunglasses on winter mornings because it reduces the amount of light that touches your face and enters your eyes.

Other lifestyle changes include:

Getting regular exercise

Eating healthy foods rich in vitamins and minerals

Engaging in normal social activities

Dr. Dominiak also suggests that for people with more severe seasonal depression, exposing their faces to a light box first thing in the morning for 15 to 30 minutes a day can be helpful. A light box generates bright light that mimics sunlight.

It should have a rating of at least 10,000 lux, which measures the intensity of the light produced. Doctors also may recommend cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) or medication treatment to manage symptoms.

In more extreme cases, not appearing to be the result of SAD, it is important to be alert to warning signs; often, behavioral clues are apparent but overlooked. Seldom a person contemplates their demise without planning; at this stage, intervention can be crucial in prevention.

If someone is at risk for suicide, the CDC recommends you watch for warning signs, including:

Talking about being a burden

Being isolated

Increased anxiety

Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain

Increased substance use

Looking for a way to access lethal means

Increased anger or rage

Extreme mood swings

Expressing hopelessness

Sleeping too little or too much

Talking or posting about wanting to die

Making plans for suicide

Most troubling is the connection between bullying and selfharm. School administrators and teachers are fully aware of the cause-and-effect link, yet we continue to hear that student-onstudent violence continues and seems to proliferate. Parents need to ask those entrusted with their children’s safety, “What specific action plan do you have to prevent verbal and/or physical attacks on the student population? And, when weeded out, what is the punishment for the antisocial behavior?”

The tragedy of suicide is reprehensible, especially when the call for civility and the acceptance of differences is at an all-time high. The belief that ‘kids will be kids’ is unacceptable; shouldn’t the focus on enforcement of appropriate social interaction be paramount?

History has shown that allowing students with underdeveloped minds and personalities to monitor and control themselves— doesn’t work. Adult supervision and intervention are critical components of providing a safe and secure environment for today’s youth.

It’s time to hold everyone responsible for their actions. H

If you feel unsafe, bullied, or having thoughts of self-harm, contact 988 or visit SuicidePreventionLifeline.org. Or, confide in a friend, parent, teacher, or adult; let them know you need to talk.

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Mechanics Cooperative Bank Employees Dress-Down Raises Over $14,000 for Local Non-Profits

donations totaling $14,490. Employees enrolled in the program voted for gift distribution.

The three winning organizations were St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital, Children’s Advocacy Center of Bristol County, and Forever Paws Animal Shelter. Each organization received a gift from Mechanics Cooperative Bank and their employees, totaling $4,830 each.

“Our employees rose to the occasion this past year to raise a significant

amount of money for these three amazing organizations,” said Joe Baptista, President & CEO of Mechanics Cooperative Bank. “Giving back to our community through programs like this represents the very best of what community banking is all about—and helps make our Let’s Keep it Local! philosophy a reality. Thank you to all who participated for your kindness and generosity.”H

Boston Symphony Orchestra

ANNOUNCES THE OPENING OF TANGLEWOOD

2023 SUMMER SEASON

One of the country’s premier summer music festivals—with dance, jazz, drama, and opera joining the mix in this year’s line-up—Tanglewood welcomes all to its iconic grounds surrounded by the beautiful Berkshire Hills of western Massachusetts.

The 85th Tanglewood season offers audiences a wide range of programs and events that spotlight favorite guest artists and repertoire while introducing dynamic new performers, conductors, and composers, with 48 artists in their Tanglewood or BSO debuts and works by 28 living composers,

including world premieres and five BSO commissions.

Tickets go on sale at 10 a.m., March 9, at tanglewood.org and by phone at 888-266-1200. For BSO, Pops, and Tanglewood Music Center performances, free lawn tickets are available for those under 18 years of age.

Season highlights include Andris Nelsons and the Boston Symphony, Keith Lockhart leading five Boston Pops programs, James Taylor and his All-Star Band performing on July 3 and 4 as part of the festival’s Popular Artist Series, along with other artists, including Robert Plant and Alison Krauss, the Steve Miller Band, and Train. H

For more information, visit tanglewood.org.

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Catch a fast, fun, safe trip to beautiful Cuttyhunk Island on board the M/V Cuttyhunk!

• Depart from New Bedford’s historic waterfront; a short walk to downtown New Bedford’s many restaurants, boutique shops, museums & galleries.

• Enjoy the gorgeous views of Buzzards Bay as you make your way to the laid back island of Cuttyhunk.

• Friday Night Sunset Cruises! Breath taking scenery, comfortable accommodations, not to be missed excursion.

WEATHER NOTE: IF SEVERE WEATHER IS PREDICTED, IT IS ADVISABLE TO CALL IN ADVANCE OF DEPARTURE FOR POSSIBLE SCHEDULING CHANGES. 508.992.0200

RESERVATIONS ARE REQUIRED FOR ALL PASSENGERS AND FREIGHT

To get a ticket you must have a reservation through our online reservation system. No charge for children 2 years and younger. The office must be notified at time of ticket purchase about each child 2 years and under that will be traveling with you in order to accurately count all persons on board the vessel. Dogs, on leash, are welcome at no charge. For non-web or special group payments and for check, cash or different form of payment, please email reservations@cuttyhunkferryco.com or call 508.992.0200. You can leave a message and your reservation will be held.