Freindship

I’ve been travelling with my longtime friend for the past month and a bit, but she has been extremely negative the entire time and has changed so much since the last time i saw her.

Before the trip, we both left for exchange one after the other so it’s been over a year since the last time we actually spent time together. I don’t really know what to do because my opinion about her has completely flipped, even though we used to be so close and I would feel bad going home and not talking to her anymore.

Is there a way I can fix things without sounding like an asshole?

us because they are going through the ups and downs of this tumultuous existence. But sometimes people just change. By giving her an opportunity to explain what is going on, you are opening the door to fixing your relationship. Truth be told, sometimes we are unaware of when we are acting differently with friends, and a reminder might open her eyes to her recent behavior and perhaps unearth what is causing such negativity.

And just like a romantic relationship, it is terrifying, but necessary, to know when to let things go. It can be strange to outgrow a friendship, knowing that no big blowout or betrayal has occurred. Friend break-ups are not nearly as normalized as romantic ones - though they can be equally devastating. But you also owe it to yourself to be transparent about which relationships serve you, and which don’t. If this relationship is something you no longer feel makes a positive difference in your life, you can express the concerns knowing that perhaps you are both growing up and away from each other.

We all have our own seduction styles. A friend teased me that I draw people in without trying, but that isn’t true. Every look of my eyes, every turn of my head, every movement and placement is technical and applied. I often say I do nothing, and that’s a lie. It looks like nothing, but it is always with purpose.

Travelling is one of the greatest joys of life— when free of drama. Nothing is worse than spending Air Miles points just to be anxious about a potential spat with a pal.. Friendships are perhaps the most complex of all the relationships we have in our life; when you remove the thrilling aspects of intimacy, sex, passion and romance, you are left with a bond that relies purely on trust and loyalty.

Maybe as a result of this, we have a harder time solving issues in our friendships compared to issues in romantic relationships. There is a significant lack of resources teaching you how to communicate with a platonic friend, an absence of juicy articles and shared anecdotes. I think there is value in treating a platonic relationship similar to a romantic one, and the first step in “fixing things” in any relationship is to talk about your feelings. It can be scary. But if you have come to the conclusion that this is significant partnership in your life, you need to give repairing it an honest shot— and at least, offer this person who has given you so mucha chance to know how you really feel.

If you are looking to fix this issue without hurting your friend, the most crucial step is to intervene and tell her that you notice a change. Sometimes people feel different to

Best of luck—being honest is hard and it is easier said than done. But ultimately, if your relationship is not an honest one—what’s the point? Hopefully you can work through this issue ; friends usually, and luckily, go through these hiccups and make out stronger on the other side, laughing off the memory of a vacation tainted by temporary bad moods. Treat your friend with kindness and be as truthful as you can—and think carefully of the tone and environment of your chat. Best to have the conversation soon before your trip ends; being stuck on a plane a thousand metres in the air might not be the best place to have an intervention.

Yours Creatively, Liz

A subtle look, I glance over your eyes. You are watching Where they land, So obsessed I turn to the side.

Never standing in one place long,

I dipped beneath the light. Proportioned with Artless purpose, Heavenly placed, Carelessly, blatantly, Caught in nettings of your sight.

Laugh, Throw my head back About things I observe, And then I will Look to you. It is shared You are already there, Waiting to hear my voice Like the flute That opens the film. It was a red aura,