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Queensmount is set in a peaceful area close to the heart of Bournemouth, overlooking the golf course. It has recently been refurbished to the highest standards, enhancing the care and comfort of the residents. Key features at Queensmount: đ 52 ensuite rooms đ Bar đ Full lift access đƫFlat screen TVs with Freeview đ Conservatory đ Hair salon đ Bright lounges đƫMobile library đƫWiFi available

Care available at Queensmount: đ Nursing đ Residential đƫPalliative đ Respite đ Convalescence For more information about Queensmount, please call 0800 012 1508 quoting CH2700 Search ‘Bupa Care Homes’ If you are looking for a career in nursing or the health sector please visit our website for more information on job opportunities within Bupa or call 0800 028 0275.

Welcome to the rest of your life!

in this issue...

Age is a funny thing that seems to happen to other people – just when did those children become adults with children of their own? But age also occasionally becomes visible out of the corner of one's eye as one passes a mirror. It is not, though, time just yet to reach for the wrinkle cream, but instead let us pause for a moment and reflect on how life has changed. 50 years ago, a 50-year-old man looked like an old man; 60 years ago, a 60-year-old wearing jeans was a cowboy; 70 years ago, wireless was something that a 70-year-old listened to; 80 years ago, an 80-year-old would already have lived 20 years longer than the average life expectancy. We are not just living longer, though, we are spending longer living; we are much more likely to be much more active, both mentally and physically, for much longer. All the above is by way of saying that, whilst those in their 20s and 30s are becoming infantilised by wearing 'onesies', those who have passed their 50th year are not 'not acting their age', they are simply enjoying the fruits of their labours and not allowing their actions to be determined solely by their date of birth. Welcome to the rest of your life; this is Senior Living… be sure to enjoy it!


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The medical and social care professionals agreed with us that the time had come for residential care, so we faced the next big question for the sandwich generation: how on earth do you choose the right home for your elderly parent? The answer is that you can follow all the advice, visit dozens of homes and ask all the right questions, but you just don’t know until after she has moved in. It is not only a matter of checking the facilities; even the least paranoid of us has read of ‘elder abuse’ in places like Winterbourne View, so the weight of responsibility is huge. We found a delightful home in the nearest town to my mother’s village. The staff were unfailingly kind and competent, the place was

clean and bright, and to her credit, my mother went there in a positive frame of mind, prepared to make a success of the new arrangement. Within a week, though, it was clear that it wasn’t working. Nobody was at fault, but my mother moved to a nursing home near my brother and sister in Hertfordshire, where she is today, cared for brilliantly and as happy as she is likely to be anywhere. We have been very lucky in being a large family; the pressure on an only child is hard to imagine. We have been able to spread the load, one of us dealing with financial matters and having power of attorney, another liaising with the domestic care agency, another being the contact for the GP and other medical professionals, and so on. At the same time, there is potential for deep family strife at a worrying, emotional time. Fortunately, we all get on well and have felt able to express our views while accepting that the only concern is the best interests of our mother, and that those would not be well served by creating divisions through a refusal to compromise. Our main lesson from the experience is the rather depressing one that there is no good solution to the problems of an elderly parent who needs increasing levels of care; the most one can hope for is to find the least bad one. Her quality of life is inevitably going to deteriorate along with her physical and mental health, to the point where one wonders why so much effort is put into warding off conditions which a century ago forestalled the miseries of old age; pneumonia used to be known as ‘the old man’s friend’. My mother has said often in the last year that she hoped the Lord would take her during the night, and it would be difficult to regard it as a tragedy if He did. The tragedy is the slow decline of an independent, spirited old lady into a sad, confused geriatric, but it is one with which the sandwich generation increasingly has to deal.


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It is specifically designed for people over 65 who want to enjoy independent retirement living in their own luxury home, but, remain secure in the knowledge that care and support are immediately available on-site, if and when they may need it. Plus our unique house swap offer gives you full market value for your existing property (and there are no caveats or clever smallprint) or cash buyers can get up to £43,000 discount. While our free move service and 2 week window to move your belongings from your old property to your new one, all help take the stress out of moving.

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FITNESS IS a little bit like laundry, do a little bit regularly and it is easy to keep on top of things; leave it too long and you'll end up having to buy new clothes! An absence of fitness doesn't happen overnight, it sneaks up on you until you find yourself sweating and breathless; likewise, a return to fitness doesn't have to be done in one intense session… with the same results. One of the alternative names for RSI (repetitive strain injury) is SPOD: Static Posture Overuse Disorder. This, though, is a term which could validly be applied to the sedentary lifestyle which it is all too easy to slip into – not only when the daily imperative of getting up and going to work goes away, but equally when one is sitting at a desk, sitting in a car from home to work and sitting down at home. There are serious health implications of this kind of lifestyle – significantly exacerbated by smoking and poor diet – not the least of which are, in no particular order: heart risk, stroke, pulmonary problems, disturbed sleep, digestive issues and feeling tired. In much the same way as the word 'pension' is boring, 'exercise' has a feel of punishment to it. It conjures up images of sweaty gym bunnies and lonely joggers looking bright red and miserable in the sleet. There is no doubt that exercise as an end in itself can be quite difficult to get into, but strangely (and not wholly healthily) addictive once one is dedicated to it. The key to improving and maintaining fitness is not to look upon exercise as the goal. Taking a stroll by the sea on a beautiful day sounds a lot better than exercise; communing with one's dog on a walk

in the woods sounds much more fun than pumping iron; playing with one's grandchildren is much more rewarding than sitting on an exercise bike… as is, incidentally, actually getting on a bike to go for a pub lunch in a country village. The key to fitness is not to punish oneself with exercise, but to reward oneself with it. Yes, you will get fitter faster if you have a personal trainer who is 'beasting' you into 'another 30 reps of bicep curls', but why would anyone want to be bullied into feeling better? The answer, rather depressingly, is that we often need an external stimulus to help us to start and to continue with a fitness regime. So, for those without a dog, a bike, a personal trainer or grandchildren, what is the best way to get, and to keep, fit? The answer is simple: find someone else who is looking to do the same thing. This might be in the form of group exercises (and your local GP's surgery will often have information on this kind of thing), it might be in the form of taking up a new sport, or re-engaging with one from one's youth. If it is the latter, and this is particularly, but not exclusively addressed to the male readership, do not for one instant think that a lay-off of forty years is perfect preparation for high impact sports; it really, really is not. Overdo it at the beginning, and pain is coming your way. There is a more serious point here. If you start to do high-impact exercise, do remember your knees may be carrying more weight and with less muscular support for your ligaments than was the case when last you exercised seriously; this can lead to injuries.

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An alternative to serious exercise is, well, to exercise in a way that is silly. The Silly Army is a group that meets up every Sunday behind the playground at the Ashley Road entrance in Kings Park in Bournemouth and plays alternative games. There are throwing games, ball games like big tennis and combiball, which are perversions of well-known sports, but huge fun as well as other bizarre takes on what constitutes sport, often involving space-hoppers. The age range runs from students to those who should know better, but it's an incredibly enjoyable way to get fit. If this kind of organised sport seems a little intense, you can take other small steps, literally, to keep yourself fit. A staircase is a cheap gym: go up and down the stairs a few more times than usual. And choosing to walk for any trips of two miles or under can boost your fitness quite quickly. Remember, exercise can be aerobic or anaerobic, so if you are out of breath, that is not a bad thing, it just shows you have been putting effort in; the key to fitness is how quickly you stop being out of breath. At the beginning, this may be quite a while. The more exercise you do, the more quickly you will recover. Suppleness is often one of the first things to 'go' when you have not exercised for a while. You can devote just a few minutes per day to gently stretching your muscles and improving your flexibility. Greater flexibility makes other physical exercise easier, so do try to incorporate this into a daily or weekly routine:

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it could be as simple as gently stretching after a bath or shower, reaching around a bit further with a towel to dry oneself, stretching on tip-toe, or gently reaching down in the direction of touching one's toes. The key is just to try a tiny bit further each time, but without forcing things to the point of agony. Health is not only about fitness and our locomotive powers, which may dissipate over the years without a little maintenance; general health also includes sight, hearing, and dental health. As well as permitting us to keep active in lots of different spheres, having decent sight is a must if one is driving and effective hearing is fundamental to safety when cycling on country lanes. Furthermore, sight testing may reveal early indicators of other, more general, health issues. Defective eyesight is not only annoying and occasionally dangerous, but can lead to headaches and unnecessary pain. Likewise, a poor dental routine, as well as inevitably leading to tooth and gum problems, can lead to pain that is on a different level to practically anything else in ordinary life. Hearing loss can have an altogether more insidious side-effect, if left uncorrected: that of isolation. If you start to avoid situations where there are groups of people as you can't easily understand what is being said, it can be the start of a slow, inexorable move into isolation. Loneliness is a medical issue; it has been estimated that being lonely has the equivalent deleterious health effect as of smoking 100 cigarettes a week! On a less mortal, but equally important note, whilst mishearing or not hearing one's spouse may occasionally have hilarious consequences, it is very, very annoying for the other party, and in may cases is almost entirely unnecessary. Whilst the one-time stigma of wearing glasses has now been reversed to the extent that people without an eyesight problem wear them for fashion reasons, hearing aids (Manchester misery Morrissey, of the Smiths, aside) have not become a fashion item. However, they have come on leaps and bounds in terms of both their effectiveness and their size. The golden rule for health â&#x20AC;&#x201C; whether in terms of fitness, pain, sight, mobility, hearing or teeth â&#x20AC;&#x201C; is to do something about whatever may be bothering you by talking to someone about it, and then doing something about it. Few things in life are catastrophic if left for a few days; it is, however, all too easy to let a few days become a few weeks, months or years, by which point the minor issue may be a major problem and may be may be too late to resolve.

Yaffle Care, a new type of care home, has opened in Broadstone, Poole. The new concept brings together over 30 years of nursing home experience of Sarah Jessup and her family with Burwood Nursing Home which they built in the early 1980s. The new home accommodates residents with varying degrees of nursing care including dementia and is based on the idea that residents not only receive nursing care but also stimulation and variety, so they can continue to enjoy doing the things that they always have done. There are separate facilities for different activities, which means that family members can also be involved. You can go with your family to the 1920’s styled theatre to see a show or a movie, to the Railway Tavern for a game of cards and a ploughman’s lunch or bake some scones in the residents' kitchen. Mealtimes are important daily occasions. At Yaffle, the open-plan dining room allows residents to see their food being prepared, cooked and served, and they can also let the chef know what they would prefer to eat and how they would like it cooked.

The New Yaffle Care Nursing Home

Quality Care in a homely environment We are a family run care home in Broadstone, Poole. We provide all aspects of nursing care, including dementia, within a new purpose built 42 bed home set amongst beautiful woodlands. The direct involvement of our family on a day to day basis means that we provide care of the highest quality within a homely environment.

Yaffle Care offers: 24 hour nursing care including dementia Own minibus providing regular excursions Spacious and light rooms with private balconies  Comprehensive activities schedule  Extensive communal space including dining rooms, hair salon, pub, music hall, library and activities rooms.  Aromatherapy and hydrotherapy treatments  All bedrooms with digital television, internet access and telephone Ensuite wet rooms to bedrooms  Convenient location with a bus stop right outside  Real home cooking in our open plan kitchen  Wonderful and loyal care staff

All bedrooms are attractively furnished and include modern comforts such as: an ensuite wetroom; a television with internet access; an electric, profiling bed and ceiling hoists to facilitate the safe and comfortable movement of less-mobile residents. Other facilities include kitchen/diners on each floor, hydrotherapy and aromatherapy bathing, a hairdressing salon and the Chinese Library, which has a fish tank looking through to the open-plan lounge. Yaffle has its own minibus enabling regular outings to local attractions such as Wimborne Market, local garden centres and Poole harbour boat trips, which are always very popular.

Yaffle Care Come and see the new home and our refreshing approach to care based on activities, stimulation and the love of nature. Drop in anytime and we shall be pleased to show you around. 100 Dunyeats Road, Broadstone, Dorset BH18 8AL

100 Dunyeats Road, Broadstone, Poole, Dorset BH18 8AL

Tel: 01202 693224 Email

Tel: 01202 693224 Email

Yaffle Care

Volunteers crucial in helping older people to beat loneliness. Research published has shown that around 10% of older people over 65 are chronically lonely in the UK. This means they are lonely all or most of the time. This has the same health impact as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. Local charity Brendoncare offers a solution to this problem by running over 20 friendship and well-being clubs across Dorset. The clubs are tailored to the needs of the communities they serve. They provide a relaxed environment where people over the age of 60 can meet and share common interests. Crucial to the success of these clubs is the hard work and dedication that volunteers bring. With new clubs opening all the time the need for new volunteers has never been greater.

Club locality Manager Tony Hanson said: ‘Clubs in Dorset are thriving. We’re delighted to have opened our first ever club in a pub earlier this year. Brendoncare clubs are small, intimate and friendly and the members get a big say in how the club runs and the activities that are provided. We want to grow the number of clubs across Dorset but we need many more volunteers to meet the demand. If you have a couple of hours spare each week then we’d love to invite you to come along and discover more about our clubs.’

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Would you like to join a friendship club for people in the South? Brendoncare Clubs are devoted to giving older people the opportunity to meet new friends, take part in activities and enjoy club outings. Here are just a small selection of clubs running in your area. Why not come along and try out one of the activities and see how you can become a member....we’d love to welcome you there. Whistlestop Club West Moors Memorial Hall, 231 Station Road, West Moors, Ferndown, Dorset BH22 0HS Tuesdays, 2pm-4pm

Penny’s Friendship Club St Mary’s Church Hall, Church Road, Ferndown, Dorset BH22 9EU Wednesdays, 2pm-4pm

Castle Club Waterford Lodge Hotel, 87 Bure Lane, Friars Cliff, Christchurch, Dorset BH23 4DN Mondays, 2pm-4pm

Juniper Jumpers Bure House, Loring Road (off Jumpers Road), Christchurch, Dorset BH23 2AZ Tuesdays, 2pm-4pm

Alpha Club Greystones Hall, Waterford Road, Highcliffe, Dorset BH23 5JL Wednesdays, 2pm-4pm

Bright Sparks Hamworthy Community Library, Blandford Road, Poole BH15 4BG Thursdays, 2pm-4pm

 We really enjoy our weekly meetings, this club is great and we thank Brendoncare for making it possible. Margaret Townsend

This is just a small selection of clubs currently running in the South with new clubs opening all the time. Visit or contact Tony Hanson on 01202 722211 to find your nearest club and become a member. Registered Charity No: 10913454 12

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be derived from elsewhere. Oh, and cows are not concentrated greens, neither is wine concentrated grapes, nor (outside the USA) does ketchup count as one of your five a day. Too much of anything is bad for you, that's why it's called too much! But very few things in food terms are evil. If you like salt, feel free to add a little, but ensure that you don't add it to already very salty prepared foods, and avoid snacks with high salt content. If you like butter, eat butter, but don't overdo it; if you dislike eating fruit, but are happy drinking fruit juice and eating veg, that's fine too. One needs a certain level of hydration during the day, but there is no need to sluice one's system out with expensive bottled water every day: food contains water, as does milk and tea and coffee. Some people counter that coffee is a diuretic… so what? Are they planning to keep all that water on board permanently? There is also a good deal of smoke and mirrors about food marketing. So-called superfoods may be good for you, but most things are in moderation. There is no single ingredient which will cure all ills: anyone who says differently is trying to sell you something. Likewise, when someone is trying to sell the idea of convenience, consider firstly how convenient it is. Washing-up aside, is a meal which takes 20 minutes to cook in the oven more convenient than one which takes 20 minutes to cook on the hob? And one doesn't have to think terribly hard to recall that when this convenience is sold at a knock-down price, there is probably something else going on. Have a think about the cost of food in general; 'value-added' foods, like premium yoghurts, are pretty much all marketing and profit. If you are paying a lot for a single ingredient – say fresh, locally sourced meat – then there is a good reason for that cost; it is likely to be of better quality and taste than the homogenised, artificially red and under-aged meat one gets wrapped in plastic. So the moral of this piece is: be informed about what you buy, be creative about what you cook and be relaxed about what you eat. Bon appetit!

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Save, invest, borrow or spend? <i`Z9cXZb\oXd`e\jk_\fgk`fej]ficXk\i$c`]\]`eXeZ\ THE LOVE of money may be the root of all evil, but having a heathy disrespect for living in abject poverty is certainly not one of the seven deadly sins. Most of us lie between these two extremes with the current generation in, and approaching, retirement riding the crest of a wave in terms of pension provision, certainly when compared with those that came before and those that will come afterwards. The huge majority of those already retired will have either a finite pot of money or a fixed income with which, no more employment opportunities being possible, they will have to live on until the end of their days. For those approaching retirement, there are more options, but these are also constrained by the single most important factor of any investment: the point at which one sells an investment or buys an annuity to give a monthly income. Not knowing precisely what state an investment will be in in a few years' time can be frustrating and can cause real-life financial problems. As was all-too-clearly demonstrated by the international ratings agencies' 2006/2007 motto 'Everything is going great guns… er, hang on a minute, no, everything's terrible', looking even a short distance into the future can be problematic, whether one is a supposed expert or not. When one is an individual, the import of decisions taken in a moment of exuberance can have an impact long into the future. The English language is peppered with useful idioms for the decision-making process surrounding money management. In Alice in Wonderland, the White Queen explains to Alice that: 'The rule is, jam to-morrow and jam yesterday – but never jam to-day', which is as good a metaphor for the current government's austerity measures as you are likely to find. John Maynard Keynes used 'jam tomorrow' to mock excessive saving and its effect of causing stagnation in the economy, but one supposes he

wasn't down on his uppers personally when talking about this. But in this world of historically low interest rates for savers, just what is the best thing to do with one's money: to save, to invest, to borrow or to spend? Reaching into the book of financial clichés once again, the maxim: 'Cut your coat according to your cloth' is one with which we are all familiar. Buying what one can afford and no more, has been inculcated into anyone of a certain age, but is it right? One of Jean Paul Getty's maxims was 'buy that which appreciates, lease that which depreciates'. It is just that little bit harder to determine what will appreciate these days. If your money is earning practically no interest in a savings account in number terms it could be better to spend it on something which, if not appreciating in terms of being an investment, will certainly increase in price by more than the increase in savings over a given period. In terms of investments, despite the turmoil in the world economy, the US Stock market is approaching a historical high, but does that mean one should invest in a rising market? Well, Greek and Italian government bonds are offering a pretty good yield at the moment, but investors are hardly proclaiming their virtues from the rooftops. There is risk and sometimes reward in any investment and the golden rule – in investments as in no-limits poker – is that if you are not an expert, don't play. So are there any risk-free investments out there? Investing in domestic energy efficiency is about as close as it gets; many see the installation of solar PV not as a hedge against rising energy prices (although it is that too), but as a fixed return investment over the lifetime of the installation. Equally, one might be tempted to think that with safe investments and savings offering such low returns, might one do better to remove one's money

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How much money does one need to see out one's life? The answer needs to be always more than is actually needed. Why? because we no more know the moment of our passing than we do the ebbs and flows of the world financial markets. The odds of successfully calculating how much money one needs to live on until one's ultimate day, and not a penny more, are infinitessimally small. Which leads nicely to the question of care funding and inheritance tax planning. For some, the issue of having something to pass on to their children is massively important – owners of a family business, farmers and landowners. But for others, inheritance is more of an abstract concept; the Government's conversion of the Dilnot Plan from a cap of £35,000 maximum contribution to care costs to a £75,000 cap, not including the 'hotel' costs (ie the cost of shelter and food in a care home environment), means that many of the next generation are reconciling themselves pretty quickly to the idea that if their parents live for a reasonable time, there will simply be nothing left for them to inherit. Cretainly not enough to trouble the inhertance tax 'nil-band' threshold of £325,000. So it seems that whilst it is certainly increasingly difficult to survive, or at least to continue to maintain the living standards we have become accustomed to, in a world of increasing prices and diminishing savings returns, things could be an awful lot worse… we could have been born thirty years later! Perhaps the best thing we can do with some of our money is to treat our family to the occasional day out; after all, it is unlikely they will be in a position to do the same for their children when they come in turn to retire… aged 75.

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The historic building has a long and colourful history dating back to the 16th century and has a very beautiful, secluded rear garden which offers a tranquil area of harmony with nature including water features. Areas with ample seating and level walkways are provided to give both visitors and residents the opportunity to enjoy this area of seclusion. A courtesy car is provided for local journeys and trips to the shops, day trips, afternoons out for a cream tea and trips to local places of interest. We also offer, on a regular basis, gentle exercise and mental stimulation such as armchair keep ďŹ t sessions, quizzes, and musical afternoons. The independent living units are either apartments within the house or purpose-built lodges in the grounds. They all offer one- or two-bedroom accommodation, ďŹ nished to a very high standard and all are ďŹ tted with the nurse call system should help be required. Why not pop in for a chat and an informal tour? The Malthouse Residential Care & Respite Home Bay Road, Gillingham, Dorset, SP8 4EW Tel: 01747 822667 Fax: 01747 821270

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issues and problems identified when you contact or are referred to social services for help. Eligible needs are those listed in a local authority’s eligibility conditions which mean it has a duty to meet these needs. There are four bands based on how serious an assessed person’s need for support is: Low, Moderate, Substantial or Critical. In these tough times, they need to focus their attention on the Critical and Substantial need cases, but what does that mean? The authority will compare the risks to a person’s independence, health, safety, their ability to manage daily routines and whether they get involved in family life and their community life with the eligibility criteria. If a person is eligible for services, local authorities should record and develop care plans in line with the assessment process. A person’s eligibility to services might be affected by the level of support they get from their existing carers and a separate assessment of the needs of the person’s carers may be done. A local authority should not take your financial situation into account until they have carried out your assessment, only once they have established what care needs there are will they decide how much you should contribute towards that care. There is, clearly, more to it it than this, but these are the basic steps towards sorting out care. For more information for your particular local authority, contact the relevant team from the box below, where there are also some contact details for carer support organisations.

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First of all, though, perhaps it is sensible to examine what we mean by mobility. In the abstract, it is a combination of strength, flexibility and stamina: the strength to move oneself around, the stamina to do so over distance and actually to be able to do something once one has got somewhere, combined with the flexibility to get up, turn round, reach up or bend over. The biomechanical process of doing all these things is based on the body's bones, muscles, joints, cartilage, tendons and ligaments all working normally; introduce a weakness – whether in the form of a specific weakness like a hip problem or historical ligament damage, and mobility is reduced. There is another issue, though, that of pain. Sometimes there is a very good reason for pain – a sharp warning from the body that one is about to damage something very important, but there is also a vicious cycle, which comes from pain avoidance. Here the pain may well be real, but its effect is to limit movement further, which weakens muscles, robs the sufferer's body of flexibility, and starts a cycle of movement avoidance that inexorably reduces the scope of the person to move around. Some of this can be caused by lifestyle; the trinity of health bugbears – obesity, smoking and drinking, all play their part in reducing mobility. Extra weight can cause a loss of fitness and place much greater strain on the mechanical functions

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– the symptoms, and the problem will continue to become aggravated. So there are three approaches to dealing with mobility-limiting pain: moderate the behaviour, mitigate the pain, or both. After all, if a friend were to say to you: 'every time I bang my head on the wall, it hurts,' you might quite quickly conclude that it was time for that person to stop banging their head on the wall. On the other hand, if someone gets a shooting muscle pain every time they lean forward brusquely, you might suggest that they practise gently leaning forward to improve their flexibility, not that they stop ever leaning forward. Sometimes, though, there are clearly issues which are not going to go away, and it is time to start thinking about not adapting behaviours, but about adapting the environment in which that person lives, or the way in which that person does certain things. So, if someone is clearly unable to stay standing for a long time, or to get up and sit down without aid, or walk long distances for a reason other than being unfit, it is clearly not a brilliant idea for them to be forced to do it. Neither, though, should that person simply give up doing these things. There are plenty of mobility aids that permit a person to continue largely normally with his or her day-to-day activities, by removing the need for a disproportionate effort into doing something others would consider banal. Lifting chairs, mobility chairs and scooters, frames and support handles around the home may deal a blow to one's ego, but there is nothing more damaging to health than being isolated and unable to do the simplest tasks, particularly when it is entirely avoidable. Grants may be available for adaptations to homes and vehicles to ensure a person can continue with their daily life, not least because health and social care professionals know that nothing is more expensive than in-patient care, and few things better for the mental and physical health of someone than (figuratively, if not always literally) that person being able to stand on their own two feet.

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YOU KNOW you’re getting old when someone asks you to write a column about getting old. In fairness, I’m doing the editor a slight disservice; his request for ‘a wry look at life after 50’ hardly suggests misty eyes, a comfy chair with an antimacassar and a bag full of Werther’s Originals. And 50 is the new 35, although that argument was less successful when trying to overturn a speeding fine. But when it comes to getting old, I have set my personal bar at two specific levels: When the new Pope looks like he could beat me over a 50-metre dash, it’s time to buy a car coat and, secondly, when there is more hair sprouting from my nose and ears than my head, I will buy some elasticated slacks to complement it. I actually blazed a fiery trail through the 50 barrier in 2008 on a night I still can’t remember and I am proud to say that my wife’s 50th birthday two years later was spent turning our knuckles white at Alton Towers. Of course, this is a wonderful county to grow wrinkles. I actually came here to retire in 1987, but my company’s pensions department was adamant that 27 was a bit young to be doing so. No selling job had been needed to lure me to Dorset; the place was in my blood from an early age. We travelled down from Manchester every year for six years; each time it was for the same two weeks of August, the same guest house in Southbourne and the same beach hut. Somehow we managed to ship seven of us – four children, my mum and dad and a flatulent granddad – in the family saloon, presumably with the two youngest strapped to the roof rack with the luggage; to this day, my kid brother still can’t comb his hair forward. It may have flown in the face of European health and safety regulations, but we were tough Northerners and nothing was going to keep us from our holiday in beautiful Dorset. I swear at least two days of the fortnight were taken up with travelling. One time we split up the eight-hour journey with an overnight stop in a lay-by. I can only assume my brother and sister were left on the roof overnight. To be honest, though, I don’t remember much beyond a haze of happy smiles and playing on the beach. I do remember getting into trouble for burying my baby brother up to his neck in the sand, but I now


realise I would probably have got away with it had I buried him feet first. I had no idea what Dorset’s 'tourism offer' was back then, nor did I care. Wet weather facilities? Hell, we had a beach hut. If there was sand, sea, sun and a plentiful supply of ice lollies, I was happy. Although to be fair, my only other experience of the seaside had been Blackpool: it had the Tower, the shows and donkeys on the beach, but it also had sea water the colour of weak tea. When I paddled in at Bournemouth for the first time, I ran out screaming in terror. My Dad had to take me back in and explain that those pasty white things scurrying around my legs were indeed my feet. Mind you, it was also my Dad that convinced me every one of the six years we came to Dorset that the builders would have Corfe Castle finished by the time we arrived the following year. For those willing to make the annual pilgrimage – and thousands upon thousands did – the county was a place of refinement, its pristine beaches and beautiful gardens just two of the many reasons why we kept coming back. We couldn’t afford the shows – my money-conscious Dad maintained that the Punch and Judy qualified as a theatrical experience – and eating out was beyond the family wallet. But it would be difficult to think of any better way for a youngster to enjoy an annual holiday. Fifty years on, it’s hard not to smile at Bournemouth tourism’s ‘Let There Be Love’ hook to visitors, some of whom need little encouragement given the paucity of clothing they’re wearing. But that’s an old man’s jaundiced view and I’ve a lot more Dorset summers and bracing walks along the coast to tackle yet. The trouble is, whilst a double episode of Coronation Street and a glass of fortified wine is about the height of my excitement level these days, I like to think of myself as the man who once kissed Annie Lennox, who swam naked at midnight in the Caribbean Sea and who once shared a shower with Bobby Charlton and George Best. Neal Butterworth was editor of the Bournemouth Daily Echo for almost fourteen years until late 2011 and is now a freelance writer, editor and speaker. Find out more at:

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Senior Living 2013  

The fact-packed magazine aimed at those who want to create memories, not just relive them

Senior Living 2013  

The fact-packed magazine aimed at those who want to create memories, not just relive them