COMPARING SIBLINGS

... breaks trust

Kids long to feel cherished and unconditionally loved. When we compare kids to each other we expose a measuring stick that judges their worth.

... turns friends into rivals

Every time you compare your kids, it’s like firing the start pistol for the race for your approval. You’ll witness an uptick in tattling and put-downs instead of partnership and fun.

... hurts your child’s character

Every time you single out who is the most responsible or funny, attractive or talented, this child will be tempted to look down on the “lesser” siblings.

... creates quitters

Comparing your kids will damage their motivation and confidence to try new things. Every time parents compare their kids, the kids feel pressure to perform. That stress to perform can lead them to quitting.