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November 2018

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From the Publisher Year Round Thanksgiving For some people, even some Christians, the Thanksgiving holiday is not much more than a one day big event of gathering, catching up with family and friends, eating, ball game watching and giving thanks, perhaps in that order. In some cases, the “giving thanks” is done simply because it is expected before the huge Thanksgiving meal is eaten. As you and your family begin preparing for Thanksgiving Day later this month, make a conscious decision to do your best to give thanks every day of the year.

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Giving sincere thanks to God is mentioned and taught throughout the Bible. As God’s people, each and every day of our lives should be a day of thanksgiving. Here are just a few of the many Scriptures that reference giving thanks to the Lord. Think of your favorite verses regarding thanksgiving.

“We give thanks to You, O God, we give thanks! For Your wondrous works declare that Your name is near.” Psalms 75:1

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“Enter into His gates with thanksgiving, And into His courts with praise. Be thankful to Him, and bless His name.” Psalm 100:4 “And when you offer a sacrifice of thanksgiving to the LORD, offer it of your own free will.” Leviticus 22:29 “Oh, give thanks to the LORD, for He is good! For His mercy endures forever.” 1 Chronicles 16:34

6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Philippians 4:6 November is also the month that our country honors the men and women who have served our country in the armed services. Either on Veterans Day or sometime this month, spend quality time with a Veteran and thank them for service to our nation which has preserved our freedom over many years and many wars.

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Contents

Volume 10, Number 1

DEPARTMENTS 3 From the Publisher 5 Faith At Work His Perfect Image in Me, of Mine? 5 Body & Soul The Trinities and the Sign of the Cross

ON THE COVER 16

6 Faith Under Fire Feeling Lonely? You’re Not Alone

Majors Ethan and Sue Frizzell are fundamentally changing the way The Salvation Army serves Nashville. See page 16.

7 Miracle Moments In Good Hands (A Prayer List)

Give the Gift of Sweet Sleep

SPECIAL FEATURES 8

Meet Mac

13 Lee Company Hosts Vans4Cans Food Drive

9 Mission Makers Children Without Beds in Middle Tennessee? How is That Possible? 10 Healthy Living Swimming Up Stream 11 Family Matters Laura Was Special 12 Tech Talk Digital Communication Generation 14 An Encouraging Word The Wonder of God’s “Suddenlies”

14 Legal Matters You’ve Been Injured, Should You BringA Personal Lawsuit? 19 Hassle Free Zone Organize Your Kitchen 21 Best Books From Darkness to Sight 22 Teachable Moments Things We Need To Do 23 The Home Front Healthy Air in Your Home

25 Kid’s Korner God’ Force 26 Parent With Purpose Helping Young Children Memorize Scripture 27 God’s Plan For Salvation and Eternal Life With Him 29 Home Town Hero 30 Calendar 30 About Our Advertisers

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HIS PERFECT IMAGE IN ME, OR MINE? DON'T MAKE A GRAVEN IMAGE. Exodus 20:4 And just as we have borne the image (a weak, faint likeness or copy) of the earthy, we shall also bear the image of the heavenly. Flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of God. (I Cor. 15:49-50) The Bible says that Christ the Son is the image of God, and that now we are called to be conformed to the image of the Son. As a new man (or woman) in Christ, we are told that we are being renewed according to the image of the One who created us. Since Christ is now our all, it should be clear to us why the Bible holds mankind responsible for the sin of exchanging the glory of the incorruptible God for an image in the form of corruptible man (and other creatures as well). In the light of these Scriptures, it should be obvious that the image of Christ in us is the only one that God's Kingdom is interested in building. Let me put it to you simply and frankly: when Jesus saved Mark Simpson over 45 years ago, it was not for the purpose of building a better Mark Simpson. Rather, it was for the purpose of Mark being crucified to self and the world, so that Christ could become manifest in Mark Simpson. I look with sadness of heart at so many believers, even leaders, which have made their own personal image a very high priority. Along the road to preparation for ministry and other forms of leadership, we are often presented with an "image" of success that often only mirrors the values of the secular--a worldly worldview. We face the temptation of the hype and hyperbole regarding the exaggeration about church statistics, or the people that have preached in our church, or the model of car we drive, or how “in demand” we are as speakers . . . and a hundred other things. We read years ago of people that bought aerials for their cars to give the impression that they owned a mobile phone. We invest small fortunes to have our hair and face and body

images altered to gain a certain reputation. We carry the shopping bag from an expensive department store even while actually buying our items at Wal-Mart. Football coaches and prospective Washington DC staffers and many others dress up their resumes. Then they get caught. Down goes the image. It seems that our society is riddled with image-building! The process focuses on appearance, dress and grooming, name-dropping, being seen and mentioned in the "right" places, having “personality plus”, having attended the "best" schools, having the biggest names adorn the front pages of our books, the “best” groups at our concerts and the biggest speakers at our conferences. The world worships power and self. Reputation may enhance my temporary, earthly image but only the character of Christ is a solid foundation. If we "make ourselves of no reputation" as Jesus did, there is now nothing to lose and we are free to speak the truth, be the truth, and reflect the truth with no fear of image being soured. If we focus on bearing the image of the heavenly, we become free and at peace, not preoccupied about how our personal “building” is going, but rather on how much of Him is being reflected. — Mark Simpson

The Trinities & the Sign of the Cross As many of you know, I am a practicing Catholic who enjoys sharing the why behind the what. The “what” of this issue has to do with my favorite number, the number three and more specifically; the Holy Trinity, the human trinity, the three human actions and the sign of the cross. The sign of the cross in the Roman Catholic Church is much more than just an act that we do in remembrance of Jesus’ ultimate sacrifice for the world. It is really an amazing prayer with much meaning. It starts with the right hand touching the forehead while saying “In the name of the Father”. We start the cross at the top of the body because we are acknowledging that God, the Father, is the head of the universe; the creator of all that is good, including our body which is a temple in service to Him. The human head is also where our mind is and the beginning of all of our thoughts. The Holy Trinity begins with the Father, the human trinity begins with the mind and the mind is where the first of all human action begins, our thoughts. From the forehead the right hand drops to the

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chest as we say, “the Son”. The chest is where our heart is found. The heart is the center of our being and is associated with the virtue of love. Jesus, the son of God, is the center of the universal church. He was made man to conquer our sins through his teachings of love. Our heart gives life to our body, which is the second part of the human trinity. Without the heart we have no life within us and without Jesus in our heart, we have no share in the eternal life. We also recognize that without a body we cannot read, write or speak the second human action, words. Jesus is said to be “The Word made flesh”. We then bring our hand to our left shoulder and begin to say “and the Holy Spirit” while bringing the hand back across the chest to touch the right shoulder; ending with the acknowledgement of Amen. The movement from left to right represents the breadth of the entire body, from shoulder to shoulder. This brings to mind that the Holy Spirit is everywhere and flows like the wind from one side of the world to the other. Jesus told us that He would send the Holy Spirit to strengthen us so that we could share the good news with the entire world. It is our shoulders that bear the

weight of the crosses that we are asked to carry through the hardships of life. At the same time we realize that our soul, the third entity of the human trinity, is guided by the Holy Spirit from our conception. It is the human spirit or soul that acts as our conscience which in turn directs the third human action, our deeds. The Holy Trinity is three persons; the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit but only one God. The human trinity is the manifestation of man in God’s image. One body but three parts; the mind, body and soul. Finally we have the three human actions that allow mankind to serve God, neighbor and self with the love of Jesus Christ; our thoughts, words and deeds. Bless be to God for the Power of the Wisdom of Three! If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others. — Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

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In Good Hands (A Prayer List) I pray. As an Allstate agency owner, sometimes I am the phone call just after 9-1-1, someone's best friend on their worst day. I really care about people, and I always pray for them and their situations, as they develop and in the aftermath. As a result, there is always a prayer list banging around in my head, and it has worked just fine for many years, at least until that morning. My heart was already heavy as I walked into my five-person office that Monday, but then her expression quickly told me the medical testing had not gone (Real names changed for well on Friday for one of my staff. The privacy) previous week had been filled with highs and lows. The high was helping a young Haitian kid find a great job and plan for school, but at the same time two of my staff were dealing with potentially serious medical issues and several customers had experienced devastating losses, including a house fire with injuries. Emotionally, that was my tipping point. I felt I had to do something. The fuse was lit and I was about to explode, so I did not stop for coffee, I did not open my laptop, and I never made it to my office in the back. “Everyone to the conference room!” They filtered in as I wrote “In Good Hands,” on the whiteboard, the tagline used by our company. Expecting a typical coaching session, note pads started to come out, but not this day. Casting all rules aside, I went on to explain how we were on the front lines and in a position to identify people who were really struggling, and how they needed our help beyond claims processing. “I want your help with an office prayer list.” In a small intimate office like ours, I knew the people well enough to have a comfort level that I was not offending anyone. In a large corporate office, that may have been a different story. "Obviously, participation is optional." As they began to absorb and process my request, I started listing all of our customers and staff who were dealing with bad situations, but knew there were others. Enthusiastically, names and circumstances flowed from them like water, and as our whiteboard was filled, I realized what a step we had taken. We had come together, united, to show love and compassion, and asked God for grace. It was no longer just my prayer list, but was OUR prayer list. Yes, we closed with a prayer. I wish every office could have a board. I have shared our story with other agents, including competitors, and most have said they plan to start their own list also. It is so simple,yet so profound. New names continue to appear daily, but we can’t seem to take anyone off. We may need a bigger board.

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S p ecial F eatu r e

Meet Mac, Williamson Memorial Funeral Home’s newest employee. A little over a year ago Mandi Marlin, funeral director at Williamson Memorial was talking with a fellow funeral director in East Tennessee at a funeral convention in Chattanooga. Jason Chambers, owner of Smith Mortuary in Maryville, Tenn. was telling Mandi about their emotional support dog, Tuck, who they had just incorporated into their staff.

Mac went through extensive training with Off Leash K-9 in Murfreesboro, Tenn. where he graduated from obedience school and emotional support training. Not only has Mac brought great joy to the community, but he also brings a smile to his co-workers as well.

After a lot of research and convincing to the owners of Williamson Memorial, Mandi found Mac. In April of 2018, ten-week old Mac made his debut at the funeral home. He has been the center of attention ever since. Mac’s main purpose at the funeral home is to bring comfort and to help the emotional burden of

those families that have experienced a loss. The funeral home can be an uncomfortable place especially for children, so Mac also helps to ease that sense of fear with them.

You can find Mac wondering the halls of the funeral home greeting people with his kind nature and loving ways. He loves to receive and give hugs to people of all ages. Williamson Memorial encourages you to stop by and meet Mac. He is typically in the office Monday – Friday, 8 a.m. - 4 p.m. and every other weekend. We hope this story brings a smile to your face. — The Stephens Family

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M i s s ion M ake r s Children Without Beds in Middle Tennessee?! How is That Possible? Between 3,000 and 4,000 children in Davidson County are self-identified as homeless. And for donors in our community, that is unacceptable. Just as Sweet Sleep donors contribute to provide beds and mosquito nets for children in Uganda, they also rallied to build twin beds for formerly homeless children in our community.

sets, blankets, comforters, and pillows. Some placed orders on our Amazon registry, “Make the Bed,” sending donations directly to our Brentwood office. Another way we are providing beds for children in our community is through donations of dormitory mattresses from local universities. These mattresses are perfect for our partnership with the Department of Children’s Services and are used immediately to provide safe beds for children.

With a $5000 Nashville Predators Foundation grant, Sweet Sleep organized three bed builds this fall. With a pair of skilled volunteers from Nashville First Baptist who directed the construction and three sets of build teams—Belmont University incoming freshmen, HCA employees for the 50th Anniversary Day of Caring, and the Nashville Predators Foundation staff and players—75 beds were built with love, care, and lumber from Home Depot and Lowe’s. Our partners, United Way of Middle TN, took the beds to share with Safe Haven, Catholic Charities, and United Way recipients.

Three sets of teams, including Belmont students, Nashville Predators staff and players and HCA employees, helped build 75 beds this fall.

Whether you are interested in international or domestic support for children, we have no doubt that you, like many others, want to ensure no child is without a bed this coming year! Contact us to volunteer for a build, to go on a bed-distribution trip to Uganda, or to organize a sheet and blanket drive. There’s a place for you at Sweet Sleep.

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I love that people make a lot of gifts at home, in the kitchen, but a lot of times those extras make their way into the break room at work. Oh, the temptation. It looks so good, and it’s the holidays, and it’s small, and then I have eaten seven of them. However, I confess, I’m guilty in the other direction also. When my wife Sheryl says, “Hey honey, take these to work so they doesn’t tempt us”, I’m just following orders. How has your weight loss journey been going? My wife and I are 7 months into ours and we continue to see results thanks to the help, encouragement and wisdom of the team of professionals at Cool Springs MD. Is someone helping you stay healthy? It’s hard to go it alone. Is your spouse helping you make better choices? Well, even if it’s a one way street, it looks like there are benefits for both. I came across a report in “Obesity” a reseatch journal and it talks about an easy way to lose weight – get your partner to exercise while you do nothing. People whose partners are trying to lose weight also lose weight themselves — without trying, new research demonstrates. The non-dieting member of a couple lost an average of four pounds of their body weight, even though they made no effort to diet or increase their exercise. Researchers call it “the ripple effect" -- weight loss spreads outwards from the person who is dieting to the people closest to them. Gee, kinda makes me want to move in with a whole team of people trying to lose weight. So – here’s hoping we all can keep our head in the weight loss game over the holidays. My challenge will be to remain disciplined to exercise portion control. I don’t want to feel deprived but I can’t over indulge. What’s your biggest challenge over the holidays? What has helped you lose weight? Any tips you would like to share? I welcome your feedback, thoughts and ideas and look forward to sharing them in the coming months. You can email me at Doug@94FMTheFish.net or feel free to call me during my live radio show – weekdays between 3 pm – 7 pm on 94 FM The Fish, (800) 826-3637.

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The family was around the Thanksgiving table ready to feast on the delicious food prepared for this special meal. As each person spoke, thanking God for all that he had provided during the year, John realized just how thankful he was for his precious daughter, Laura. She was 12 years old, full of spirit and oh so curious. Laura lived with Down’s Syndrome. She brought so much joy into John’s life, yet, he wondered, how would she be taken care of if something happened to him. Laura attended school where she had many friends from school and her church friends were always there to help out when needed. John’s family was his rock in helping care for Laura. In the back of John’s mind, there was always a nagging feeling that he needed to do more to prepare for Laura’s needs as she grew into adulthood. Thoughts stayed ever-present. Who would prepare Laura’s meals if he were ill? How would Laura make it to school if something happened to him? What if he died, how would Laura survive? Who would take over the day-to-day care and provide the much needed love and support for Laura if John died? John participated in a Down’s Syndrome support group. At one of the meetings, a guest speaker had spoke about third-party supplemental needs trusts. John had half-heartedly paid attention to the topic, thinking he would never need such help, yet as he sat at the Thanksgiving table he felt he was being led to explore this opportunity to provide for his daughter. The speaker had said a third-party supplemental trust, for people living with a physical, mental or intellectual disability would help to give the loved one a good quality of life. John also remembered the speaker stating that this type of trust would give the family peace of mind knowing their loved one was being taken care of through the use of the trust. Maybe it was time to do more investigation into what exactly was a third-party supplemental needs trust. John made an appointment with the local nonprofit special needs trust company, where he met with the Executive Director. There, he was able to express his fears and his desires for Laura’s care, whether it be in the near future or many years down the line. The Executive Director listened intently, taking notes and then she told John he was doing the right thing by investigating how he and his family could provide for Laura, now and in the future. She began by explaining what exactly

is a third-party supplemental needs trust. A third-party supplemental needs trust is a specialized trust that allows the person living with a disability, “the beneficiary”, to use money held in the trust for his or her benefit, while at the same time allowing the beneficiary to receive essential needs-based government benefits. Wow, John thought. This is what I’ve been looking for but I need to know more. The Executive Director continued by providing John with the specific definition and the history of this type of trust, answering any questions John may have had. A supplemental needs trust is a specific type of irrevocable trust. The trust will not be valid unless it meets the terms within the requirements listed in the statute. The applicable Federal statute in the United States is found at Title 42 United States Code Section 1396p(d)(4)(A). John was intrigued with what he learned. Later that week, he called his extended family together to make his Christmas wish known to all of them. John wanted each of them to take half of the money they were going to spend on Laura’s Christmas gifts and help him fund a third-party supplemental needs trust for Laura. He asked that each year, for Laura’s birthday and Christmas, if they all followed through on this idea, Laura would have the money to live a good quality of life. John continued by asking for each of them, if they were going to include Laura in their will, to add in a specific clause to their will, stating Laura’s inheritance be placed in this third-party supplemental needs trust. Laura would be able to use the money in the trust for items and services such as: • Medical, dental, psychological or therapeutic services, supplies, medication, equipment or treatment.

• Services, including personal grooming, housekeeping, household repairs, chore services, educational or vocational services, telephone bills, internet connection, cable television connection, guardianship/ conservatorship and advocacy assistance. • Vacations, entertainment, including expenses for transportation, payment for lodging and meals while away from home, entry fees to public attractions, and payment of fees and expenses for a nonmedical caregiver. • Local public or private transportation. • Purchase or rental of a vehicle, and costs of modification, maintenance and insurance. • Purchase of appliances, furniture, electronic equipment, and other household furnishings and equipment. • Purchase and maintenance of a home. • Payment of any premiums and deductible amounts on insurance policies. • Any tax obligation (such as income tax due to the trust distributions). • Payment of funeral and burial or cremation expenses. John’s extended family found the idea of a third-party supplemental needs trust to be just what all of them had been searching for, to help Laura throughout her life. John had the paperwork drawn up, shared it with the family, and a trust was created for Laura, giving the family peace of mind. John knew that with the help of his family and the third-party supplemental needs trust in place, Laura would live a good quality of life. — Darlene Kemp, MPH, MBA-HCM is the Executive Director of Vista Points, Inc. For more information on third-party supplemental needs trusts, please contact the Vista Points Special Needs Trusts office at 615-758-4660 and visit the website at: www.vistapoints.org.

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T ech T alk I think it is safe to say we can all agree that communication has changed over the past 10 years. As devices take over and digital communication becomes the norm our people skills seem to dull. I know people that end their dogs to doggy day care to learn to interact with other dogs or athome moms that send small children to daycare, so they learn to interact with other children. Interacting with people is important to developing key communication skills.

generation cannot deal with healthy confrontation, but they can spit back nasty comments through a text, messenger, or other online post. When trouble arises with a friend they are not comfortable talking to one another or even calling each other but instead they will go back and forth digitally, emotions are misread and misinterpreted only adding to the dysfunction of the communication.

Inflection and tone of voice can completely change the delivery or meaning of group of words. There is more to the delivery than ALL CAPS and lol. Pick any sentence and each time you say it out loud use inflection on a different word, see how much that changes the message.

The same can be said for the professional world, the younger generations prefer to send a message or email than to pick up the phone and communicate what is really going on. Then we sit around and wonder what is happening to customer service.

I remember many times my mom would tell me it's not what I say but how I say it. Tone of voice made all the difference in how others perceive what i was saying. It might be the difference in getting a yes from mom or grounded.

As awesome as auto-correct is, it is not helping us become better communicators. Most of my teenager’s homework is done on the computer because of that spelling and grammar has suffered. Sure, kids have some spelling test and learn some grammar in school, but it is not the same as the practice of daily assignments written out on paper.

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Here is where I feel like I should say something about the effect on handwriting both print and cursive. But it’s no secret that cursive writing is not pushed or even taught in some schools now and definitely not practiced. And with all the online classrooms and homework each generation has less and less practice with his or her own handwriting. Like any other skill, practice makes perfect and if you don't use it you lose it. There are a few unicorns out there that still have beautiful handwriting, but it is become a lost art. Poor kids don't even know the fun of the crude origami we use to do to pass notes in class. =) — Brittney Griffy, Clarksville, Tenn.

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Lee Company Hosts Vans4Cans Food Drive to Help Our Hungry Neighbors Pay the bills or put food on the table for your family. How would you decide what to do? Unfortunately, too many of our neighbors have to make this decision every day. They’re not worried about what’s for dinner. They have to worry about whether there is anything for dinner.

• Give canned food and other non-perishables to a Lee Company technician during your next service call. • Drop off food donations at a Lee Company office. • Donate to their Virtual Food Drive where just $5 provides 20 meals for a family in need. Visit www.leecompany. com/vans4cans to donate today.

Lee Company is working to change this through their Vans4Cans Food Drive. By partnering with Second Harvest Food Bank of Middle Tennessee, they will be collecting non-perishable food items that will help feed our hungry neighbors.

It is not a hidden fact that Lee Company loves to serve their communities beyond repairing an HVAC unit or fixing a burst pipe. By joining them you too can help make a difference in the lives of our hungry neighbors. Together, we all can fight hunger and feed hope!

"It is an unfortunate reality that one in eight people, including one in five children, struggle with hunger in our community,” said Jaynee Day, president and CEO of Second Harvest Food Bank of Middle Tennessee. “We are so thankful for our continued partnership with Lee Company and the collective generosity of their staff and custom-

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To see this year’s Vans4Cans Food Drive’s updates and results, make sure to follow Lee Company on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram.

Through the Vans4Cans Food Drive, Lee Company invites everyone to join in helping to provide the much-needed food and resources to our neighbors in need. Here are the many ways you can participate, now through November 15:

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A n E ncou r ag i ng W or d November is abruptly here! What happened? Where did the year go? The eleventh month of the year is ultimately opening season for annual personal review. It’s an evaluation month. What did I or didn’t I do? How fully did I accomplish those lofty goals for 2018? From the first of November on, there are officially 60 days remaining in the calendar year. Then, we are catapulted into another new beginning. But, wait. I have more questions. So many things remain unaccomplished. Poet and author Langston Hughes rightly quantified my dilemma about this year’s dreams that never came to fruition: What happens to a dream deferred? Does it dry up Like a raisin in the sun? What happens to all those joyfully anticipated breakthrough accomplishments? Should I blame poor planning? Loss of concentration? Was it the lack of execution? Or do I simply credit my skinny balance of achievements to my old nemesis, procrastination? Nevertheless, something wonderful is unfolding today! The brink of November is perfect timing for remembering how God steps in suddenly. I also know that entering into the Divine atmosphere of God’s “suddenlies” requires something of us. It is a season of power, creativity, and promotion. God’s “suddenlies” demand these four things. 1.) Perfect positioning; be ready for it. When the day of Pentecost came, they were all together in one place. Suddenly a sound like the blowing of a violent wind came from heaven and filled the whole house where they were sitting.—Acts 2:1-2 NIV 2.) Hope…which means never letting go of the wonder of anticipation. Divine hope anticipates what is about to unfold suddenly. 3.) Prayer; it is still the key that opens doors to God’s wonder. 4.) Claim your victory, even when you can’t see it. Remember Peter? After Jesus’ death on the cross, he returned to fishing. Three years of intense ministry with Jesus seemed overshadowed by confusion, despair, and hopelessness. Yet, Jesus met Peter and company in an old familiar place, the Sea of Galilee. He challenged Peter to cast the net over the side of the boat, even after a night of catching nothing. The catch was overwhelming. (John 21:1-6) Your breakthrough is nearer than you think. While you may find this expectation astonishing, remember that God is never surprised. Whatever God unfolds in your November, welcome it! — Regina M. Prude is an inspirational speaker, SiriusXM radio host, columnist and author. E-mail comments to regina@reginaprude.com; follow her on Facebook (www.facebook.com/reginaprude) and Twitter (twitter.com/rprude.

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You’ve Been Injured, Should You Bring a Personal Injury Lawsuit? It seems like you can’t turn on the TV without seeing a commercial with a lawyer promising to fight for you. There is no shortage of lawyers ready to sue. But let’s face it there have been some questionable suits filed and some that even make the news for their absurdity. When that happens most sensible folks are appalled and rightfully so. Some lawsuits have bordered on the ridiculous and some, it turns out, have even faked injury to try to get money. You’ve no doubt heard jokes about this type of thing. But it’s not funny when it’s real and it’s you or a loved one. The reality of life is that people do get hurt and sometimes it is because someone else is at fault. They ran the red light just before hitting your car, the grocery store failed to mop up the puddle of water that was on the floor 30 minutes before you fell or the product they produced caused injury, just to name a few examples. So while the media is quick to pickup the story of the crazy lawsuit filed by someone you don’t hear anything about most of the suits filed by real folks with real injuries. In Tennessee we have a one year statute of limitations on personal injury law suits. A year may sound like a long time but it’s not. Many states have longer time periods. Simply put you have one year from the day you get hurt to file a lawsuit – after that, with rare exceptions, you are out of luck. The first thing on anyone’s mind who has been injured should be to get the medical attention they need and get well as soon as possible. However, keep that one year in mind and let a lawyer take a look at your case. Of course not every injury will give rise to a legal claim. However, if the other person or company is at fault you can be awarded money to cover your medical expenses, lost wages and pain and suffering. This can help compensate for your injury and loss. Having a lawyer review your case with you can help you understand your options. Good decisions can only be made after good counseling. So, if you or a loved one find yourself in this situation you should seek counsel and then determine how to proceed. — Jim Catalano is an attorney and founding partner of The Catalano Firm, PLC. He is a board certified civil trial specialist who has tried cases across Tennessee for over 20 years. He has handled countless injury cases representing both injured folks and those at fault. When not practicing law, he enjoys spending time outdoors with his hound dog Oliver Wendell Bones.

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For more than 125 years, The Salvation Army has been a fixture in Nashville, providing critical social services and programming to the community. As Music City continues to experience meteoric growth, Area Commanders Majors Ethan and Sue Frizzell recognize the challenges that rapid gentrification, struggling neighborhood schools, and economic uncertainty can bring to vulnerable members of the community.

By offering long-term supportive housing and life skills coaching, The Salvation Army creates choice paths in the lives of the people it serves. The organization is uniquely positioned to help individuals move from a state of crisis to independence and greater quality of life. In recognizing individuals’ need for choice and opportunity, the Frizzells’ goal is to move people back from the fringes to the center of society. They’re confident The Salvation Army can be a catalyst for positive change and social equality in Nashville and in doing so, positioning the Nashville Area Command as an influencer.

They’re ready to meet these challenges head-on, and in doing so they’re fundamentally changing the way The Salvation Army serves Nashville. Before assuming their post as Nashville’s Area Commanders in June of 2017, the Frizzells had each already served in The Salvation Army for more than 20 years. Together, they have extensive experience advocating for change, mobilizing communities, encouraging others, and working to help solve complex social problems. Citing their success in post-Katrina New Orleans and in Sarasota, Florida — where homelessness decreased by more than 40% — the Frizzells look forward to moving the Nashville Area Command from a traditional model based on power and control to one based on the power of choice. #TNhome: Quality of Life by Choice The Salvation Army’s programs, which range from supportive housing to adult education to legal aid, provide the kind of interventions that enable Quality of Life by Choice. “We’re trying to shift from a charitable response to a social solution response. Our passion is Quality of Life by Choice. And Quality of Life by Choice requires opportunities to participate at the center of society,” said Major Ethan Frizzell, during a recent interview at the newly remodeled Center of Hope on Dickerson Pike. “We have concentrated on this journey of hope for more than 10 years.”

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“Tennessee is formed by the choice of the people for peace, safety, and happiness,” said Frizzell, referencing the Constitution of the State of Tennessee, which was revised in 2014. “We believe if that is the goal of the Constitution, then that should be our effort as citizen neighbors to let people participate in that. So, Quality of Life by Choice recognizes that it’s time in Nashville to move from some of the traditional models of power and control to moving to choice. Recognizing that we need not focus on need or blame, but instead focus on choice and opportuniExterior of the Center of ty. We’re reframing compassion Hope which houses the from power and fear to choice and Residences on Bison Trail. opportunity.”

The Frizzells thrive on transparency; they welcome dialogue and pride themselves on taking an academic, research-based approach to affecting social change. As a direct result of his transformative work in New Orleans, Major Frizzell was invited to pursue and complete a Masters in Public Administration at the John F. Kennedy School of Government at Harvard University. His postgraduate work solidified his belief in offering sustainable services, developing compassionate public policy, and learning from the communities these solutions serve.

In “Quality of Life Supportive Housing,” a research-based white paper authored by Frizzell earlier this year, he notes, “Life is a story of self in community. The community determines the quality of life available to experience. Home is our closest community. From within our communities, we prioritize our quality of life choices. Our choices become part of the quality of community that all experience. Thus, we are all part of the same story of our #TNhome.”

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Making a Large and Lasting Impact Together, the Frizzells are actively working to change how The Salvation Army approaches and discusses poverty and they welcome the greater Nashville Christian community to join them in the conversation. Not only is Nashville’s new Center of Hope the embodiment of this ethos, but it also serves as a larger, more meaningful symbol of the direction in which The Salvation Army hopes to go. The changes made to the Center of Hope’s Residences on Bison Trail extend beyond the bright and inviting lobby and the comfortable living spaces for men, women, families, and children. Moving forward, the Frizzells are working to change the language and the culture.

In order to shine a light on the scope of the social issues facing Nashville, and to make community members aware of the cost of impactful social solutions, The Salvation Army is not only challenging language, but they’re also fundamentally changing their approach to this year’s Red Kettle Challenge.

to reduce hassle factors and increase opportunities,” said Frizzell. “What’s important in the Christian faith community is to recognize that homelessness is first a breakdown of family, then it’s a breakdown of community, then it’s a breakdown of housing. When you have a breakdown of housing you have a breakdown of food and health.”

“Instead of putting out a kettle and simply asking for dimes and dollars to fight poverty, this year our Red Kettle Challenge invites teams to raise $1000 — which allows one person to stay in supportive housing for one month. We’re making sure that we’re combining the highest level of our service with the investment of volunteers and community donors,“ said Frizzell.

The Nashville Salvation Army is focused on creating paths back to the center of the social, economic, and environmental center by using behavioral economics to reduce the number of days and the degree of pain of social exclusion. Simply put, The Salvation Army is working to replace the fear of hunger, health, and lack of housing with choice.

“We no longer use povWhile the erty language to label Frizzells are people and create stigdedicated to ma. We’ve changed the making big environment. Instead Children who live in Supportive Housing with their families changes within of using the language of have weekly tutoring sessions in partnership with the Metro The Salvation brokenness and poverty, Schools HERO Program. Army, they’re we use the language of also encouraging choice and opportunity. Nashville’s strong Christian community to satisfy not only basic needs but to provide opportunities “The truth is, the word ‘homeless’ is the most for belonging and community. biased and stigmatized word in the country and I would argue that it should not be in use in the Doing the Most Good Through country in the next five to seven years. We will Adaptive Leadership recognize that it is as harmful to children and Under Majors Ethan and Sue Frizzell, the Nashto families as other words we’ve managed to get ville Area Command strives to be passionate, out of our acceptable language. The challenge is compassionate, brave, uplifting, and trustworthy. who’s going to do it first. Who’s going to dare to be different and speak the language of compassion Adaptive Leadership, the leadership model under which the Frizzells operate, is a practical leaderand choice instead of judgment and sorrow,” said ship framework that helps individuals and organFrizzell with passion. izations adapt and thrive in challenging environments. This responsive leadership model enables By way of example, Frizzell went on to advocate both the individual and the collective to take on for the use of the more accurate and less pejorative term, “Socially Displaced Person,” rather than the gradual but meaningful process of change. the damaging and isolating term “homeless.” A Adaptive Leadership takes a Metro Nashville Socially Displaced Person refers to any person view and a view from the lived experience of the who may habitually be found in public places and socially excluded. Frizzell observed that “The culwho, due to illness or other factors, is unable to ture in Nashville is a very compassionate, faithful maintain a minimum quality of life and has no reliable means of subsistence, place of residence or culture. Which means that we believe in helping opportunity to access necessary care. The multiple our neighbors. I would contend that sometimes we help our neighbors until it hurts...Sometimes challenges experienced limit his or her capacity we make people comfortable in a bad situation to engage positively in the social, economic, or instead of challenging them and giving them natural environments of the community. an opportunity to live in a better situation.” The Salvation Army is committed to continue their These individuals who have been socially dishistorical collective impact with service providers placed are the very community members that the and the faith community throughout Nashville. Frizzells hope to empower and serve in long-last“We walk through these systems over and over ing and meaningful ways. and over again using behavioral insights in order

A Story of Hope To illustrate the power of the Adaptive Leadership model and Quality of Life by Choice, Frizzell shared the story of a young father who found himself at the Center of Hope, seeking choice and opportunity. The man and his five-year-old twins had been living in a tent outside of their home until this past summer’s soaring temperatures and inclement weather proved to be too much for them to safely endure. Sadly, the tent’s meager shelter had been a more secure place than their home, in which the children’s mother had succumbed to her drug addiction, rendering it unsafe and uninhabitable. They arrived at the Center of Hope hungry, desperate, and in need of shelter but with a measure of hope. Today, the children are receiving the counseling and tutoring services they need to overcome developmental delays and to succeed in school. They each enjoy the comfort that food security brings and the opportunity to make positive life choices. In the words of the Major, “They’re looking stronger every day. The children are finding peace, and the father, hope in God’s story.” “My people will live in peaceful dwelling places, in secure homes, in undisturbed places of rest.” Isaiah 32:18 About The Salvation Army The Salvation Army, an international movement, is an evangelical part of the universal Christian Church. Its message is based on the Bible. Its ministry is motivated by the love of God. Its mission is to preach the gospel of Jesus Christ and to meet human needs in His name without discrimination. To learn more about the Salvation Army’s services and vision for Nashville, the Majors Frizzell invite community members to attend the monthly Lunch and Learn tour on the second Thursday of each month at the Center of Hope. Please contact Detra Brown at 615-242-0411 to make a reservation. — Chad Vandermeer

November 2018

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H as s le F r e e Z on e If you’ve ever taken on a home organization project, you know the undertaking is usually larger that you initially expect. By the time you take inventory of your stuff, sort it and throw it away, half of your day is gone! However, by breaking it down by area, you can tackle one task at a time and conquer even your most cluttered spaces. 1. The Food Storage Container Cabinet It’s likely happened countless times before: You, the well-meaning victim, reach up to open the food storage cabinet and are greeted by an avalanche of containers and lids. Contrary to popular belief, you can bring order to this chaos! The first step is to take inventory of your containers and lids. Do you have a container with no lid that fits? Toss it. Make sure every container has a match. If you’re serious about getting organized, you may want to invest in new food storage containers altogether. By purchasing containers from the same brand family, you’ll know that it stacks well together. Stacking food storage containers like nesting dolls will save you space and help the entire cabinet be more organized. Consider purchasing bins to separate lids and containers, organizing the contents of the bins by size. If you’re using a drawer to store your containers, consider investing in dividers for easy visibility and access. If you have plastic containers, you can even number your lids/containers by size with a permanent marker (“1” – small, “2” – medium, etc.), so you’ll be able to find a matching piece quickly and easily. 2. The Spice Cabinet Spices are essential to cooking a perfectly flavorful meal. However, storing your array of spices has likely been a challenge… until now! Whether you want to keep your spices hidden or accentuate them as a kind of décor piece, use these tips to organize your spices: • As with your food storage container cabinet, it’s important to first take inventory of your spices. How old are your spices? Spices have a shelf life, so if you know it’s been awhile, it’s a good idea to do some research on how long your questionable spices typically last. In addition, it’s helpful to separate your everyday spices from occasional spices like those you use for holiday dishes. • Next, it’s time to get organized. If you’d like to keep your spices hidden, you have several options. Consider hanging a wire basket in your pantry or on the inside of your pantry door. This way, you’ll be able to easily access each spice. You can also use racks with different tiers in your kitchen cabinet so that

you’ll be able to see more spices up front. • If your spice containers are “décor worthy,” they should have a beautiful display to match! Consider placing your spices in a carousel that sits on your counter top. You can place it by your stove for easy access while cooking. Looking for a creative way to display? Put a small portion of the spice in a baby food jar and place them on your refrigerator/other magnetic surface! They will work as magnets and can be decorated to match your existing décor. 3. The Coffee Mug Cabinet It’s time to conquer the coffee mugs! When you’re struggling in the early morning to brew up some coffee, the last thing you should be worrying about is your mugs. Use these tips to get your them organized and ready to go: • Consider using individual/a set of hooks to hang your mugs decoratively in your kitchen. Beautiful mugs, whether as part of a set or unique designs, could be just the splash of color that a blank wall needs! • If you’re looking to utilize cabinet space, consider adding underbelly hooks to add hanging space or freestanding shelves to create different tiers. • Embrace visual storage options with a coffee cart or “nook.” This way, you can have your coffee machine and coffee (bags or K-cups) readily available with your mugs. Don’t forget a cute coffee sign to pull the space together! — Molly Maid of South Davidson, Williamson and Maury Counties

November 2018

S p ecial F eatu r e State of the Art Vision Procedure Performed at Wang Vision 3D Cataract & LASIK Center The state’s first 3D SMILE® procedure was performed at the internationally renowned Wang Vision 3D Cataract & LASIK Center in Nashville, TN, USA. It represents the first major advancement in laser vision technology in 25 years.

4,000 physicians. He has published 9 textbooks, an article in the world-renowned journal “Nature,” holds several U.S. patents, and performed the world’s first laser artificial cornea implantation. Dr. Wang is currently the only surgeon in the state who performs 3D SMILE® and 3D LASIK (18+), 3D Forever Young Lens Surgery (50+), and 3D Laser Cataract Surgery (60+). He established a 501c(3) non-profit charity, which to date has helped patients from over 40 states in the U.S. and 55 countries, with all sight restoration

SMILE® stands for Small-Incision Laser Vision Correction procedure. During a SMILE® procedure, a femtosecond laser with precise short pulses is used to make a small incision in the cornea to create a disc-shaped piece of tissue. This tissue will be removed. SMILE® has several advantages over LASIK; it is minimally invasive and no flap is needed. The laser incision is much smaller (only 5 millimeters), compared to 20 millimeters for LASIK. Post-surgical dry eye issues are also reduced, compared to LASIK. Margaret Coleman is a manager at the BlueDr. Ming Wang, Harvard & MIT (MD); PhD (laser physics), bird Café, Nashville’s famous hangout, which will make you SMILE with the SMILE ® procedure! was prominently featured in the ABC TV drama “Nashville.” She has had poor vision all her life (worse than legally blind). Ms. Coleman became the state’s first patient to receive 3D SMILE ® and she is thrilled about her newfound freedom. About Dr. Ming Wang: He is a Harvard & MIT graduate (MD, magna cum laude), a philanthropist, and Kiwanis’ Nashvillian of the Year. Dr .Wang is one of the few laser eye surgeons in the world today who holds a doctorate degree in laser physics. He is the CEO of Aier-USA, a new U.S.–China healthcare venture that brings investments from China to build eye clinics here and create jobs in the U.S. As a teenager, Ming fought valiantly to escape one of history’s darkest eras – China’s Cultural Revolution – during which millions of innocent youth were deported to remote areas to face a life sentence of poverty and hard labor. Through his own tenacity and his parents’ tireless efforts to provide a chance of freedom for their son, Ming eventually made his way to America with $50 in his pocket. Against all odds, he would earn a PhD in laser physics and graduate with the highest honors from Harvard Medical School and MIT.

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B e st B ooks From Darkness to Sight chronicles the remarkable life journey of Dr. Ming Wang Harvard & MIT (MD, magna cum laude); PhD (laser physics), a world-renowned laser eye surgeon, philanthropist, and Kiwanis Nashvillian of the Year. As a teenager, Dr. Ming Wang fought valiantly to escape one of history’s darkest eras - China’s Cultural Revolution - during which millions of innocent youth were deported to remote areas to face a life sentence of poverty and hard labor. Through his own tenacity and his parents’ tireless efforts to provide a chance of freedom for their son, Dr. Wang eventually made his way to the U.S. with $50 in his pocket and a big American dream in his heart. Against all odds, he would later earn a PhD in laser physics and graduate with the highest honors from Harvard Medical School and MIT. He embraced the Christian faith and tackled one of the most important questions of our time - Are faith and science friends or foes? – Which led to his invention of a breakthrough biotechnology to restore sight. To date, Dr. Wang has performed over 55,000 eye procedures and has treated patients from nearly every state in the U.S. and from over 55 countries worldwide. He is considered the “doctor’s doctor,” as he has operated on over 4,000 physicians. Dr. Wang has published 9 textbooks and over 100 articles, including a paper in the world-renowned journal “Nature,“ and he performed the world’s first laser artificial cornea implantation. Dr. Wang is currently the only surgeon in the state who performs 3D SMILE® and 3D LASIK (18+), 3D Implantable Contact Lens (21+), 3D Forever Young Lens (45+), and 3D Laser Cataract Surgery (60+). He received the Honor Award from the American Academy of Ophthalmology and the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association of Chinese American Physicians. He is the CEO of Aier-USA, which brings investments from China and creates jobs here in America. Dr. Wang established a non-profit foundation which provides sight restoration surgeries free-of-charge for indigent patients who otherwise would never have the opportunity to receive them. This is a story of one man’s inspirational journey of turning fear, poverty, persecution, and prejudice into healing and love for others. It demonstrates how focus, determination, humility, and profound faith can inspire a life that, in turn, impacts those of countless others.

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November 2018

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Things We Need To Do is right even if uncomfortable, if you must stand on a chair, place the back of the chair to the wall, get enough sleep, get some exercise, wear a helmet when you ride a bike, say thank you when someone does something for you, follow principles and laws instead of just preferences, never use profanity or vulgarity, honor your Mother and Father, listen to and respect your teachers and other adults, learn something significant every day, seek ways to have everyone who meets you today to be happy with the experience, enjoy multiple kinds of music, read books including the Bible, read biographies of people you admire, appreciate and learn about history, develop your God-given talents and gifts, work hard and finish what you start, don’t confuse the means with the ends (the end is your goal but the means must be ethical and kind), enjoy God’s masterpiece in nature, take care of your health, don’t let your attitude contradict your principles and faith, set both short-term and long-term goals, get the best education, learn from your experiences, dress according to where you are and the nature of the event, think about the future and not just today, and pray often to seek God’s counsel and forgiveness for your shortcomings. Please God, help others, live to your potential and smile some. These are some guidelines for a bountiful life pleasing to God. This month our topic is THINGS WE NEED TO DO. After 13 or 14 years of assisting a Kindergarten teacher (the wonderful Mrs. Gilliland) every Tuesday, I observed many of the basics of life that we should learn early and keep as we age. Your own Kindergarten experience might have been a lot like mine of playing with blocks of wood and taking naps on a rug. But Kindergarten today is an amazing place where at 5 (6 by the end of the year) children learn not only how to write a sentence and deal with numbers up to 100, they learn how to relate to other people. Many of the children have had little opportunity to interact with children their own age when they enter Kindergarten or have not been in a group situation where they are to follow directions. Robert Fulghum wrote a book saying what we need to know we learned in Kindergarten. Some of the things he mentions are: “share with others, play fair, don’t hit people, put things back where you found them, clean up your own mess, don’t take things that aren’t yours, say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody, wash your hands before you eat, flush, live a balanced life – learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some, take a nap every afternoon, when you go out in the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands and stick together, be aware of wonder, remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup, and then remember the Dick and Jane books and the first word you learned – the biggest word of all, LOOK.” Upon reflection on the many years I had in Kindergarten with Mrs G (as the students call her), I have added things we learned in Kindergarten along with others that we need to learn early in life and then keep them as guides for later. They are: Always tell the truth but you don’t have to tell everyone about all of your warts, be nice to others, smile when you see others but never go with a person you do not know unless it is a policeman, continue to make new friends, think about who needs your help and then provide it, others watch us – make sure you are a good example, create something that comes from your imagination, smell and enjoy the beauty of flowers, hand the scissors to others with the handle first, clean your plate, eat what is good for you but have a little chocolate from time to time, return what you borrowed, listen carefully – seek to understand before you act, stand up for what

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K i ds K or n e r the bag, and eat your armpit fudge. Describe and classify your armpit fudge by its observable properties. Did mixing the ingredients result in a new substance?

BIBLE TRUTH God is a powerful force! WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS

EXPLANATION

Acts 1:8 New International Version (NIV) 8 But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.”

Using your armpit, you applied a force, mixing the ingredients, creating a batch of sweet science. This is a physical change, which is a change that does not result in a new substance.

HANDS-ON EXPERIMENT

BIBLE CONNECTION

ARMPIT FUDGE INGREDIENTS • 1/2 Cup Powder Sugar • 1 Tablespoon Butter • 2 Teaspoons Cream Cheese • 1/4 Teaspoon Vanilla Extract • 2 Teaspoons Unsweetened Cocoa Powder • 1 Freezer Quart Ziploc Slider Bag

INSTRUCTIONS STEP 1: Observe the ingredients. Describe and classify the ingredients by their observable properties. STEP 2: Pour the ingredients into the freezer quart Ziploc slider bag. Remove the air from the bag and zip the bag. Using your armpit, thoroughly mix the ingredients. STEP 3: Remove the bag from your armpit, open

The force, created by our armpit, transformed the ingredients into a great tasting treat. God’s force can transform any situation, giving you the power to do the unexpected. Jason Lindsey, — STEM Certified Educator and Meteorologist Hooked on Science l www.hookedonscience.org Executive Director/Founder

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Helping Young Children Memorize Scripture Everyone learns differently. You may be familiar with the famous cartoon that shows a classroom with a monkey, a fish, and an elephant as students. The teacher says that to make sure grades are fair, everyone will get the same test: climb a nearby tree. Lucky monkey!

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While it may seem obvious, we all have different natural abilities and, as such, different ‘extra-effort-required’ areas. Memorization may come easily for your child: Bible passages flow from the tongue after only a few repeats. But this isn’t always the case. Here are some strategies I’ve found to be helpful as our children pursue hiding God’s Word in their hearts. 1) Repetition. It seems fairly obvious, but repetition is important, particularly for non-readers. If you have a different verse for each day of the month or even in a week, that’s likely too much time for a child to recall words. Stick with the same verse for a week or two, until it’s really in there. Find a habit. We do our verses at the breakfast table, every day. If you intend to just ‘fit it in’—you won’t. 2) Understanding. Words are just words if the child doesn’t understand what they’re learning. Simplification isn’t necessary. They can learn ‘transgression’ in the passage as long as you explain it means ‘sin’—otherwise they’re just making sounds. Explain once or twice, but ask them frequently to make sure they are recalling. 3) Don’t worry about the reference. I know, every Sunday school teacher from here to Canada just fainted, but truly, I can always sense my son’s frustration when he’s trying to remember Ecclesiastes or Ephesians, First or Second Peter, 118:1 or 1:18. I often cue with, “It’s your turn with Psalm 34:8-13,” and let them begin. This way they hear the reference each time, but I don’t require recall on that. Remember, it’s the words that God gave us. The ‘addresses’ are man-made additions to help us look it up (and we DO have Google for that now). 4) Work in passages instead of single verses. Longer seems harder, right? But it frequently isn’t. A kid may need a starter word here and there to get from one thought to the next in a series of verses, but a complete passage provides context and a single train of thought. A child can also often catch onto the rhythm of the words, adding an extra memory trigger. 5) Songs, motions and rhythm. Get your child’s body engaged with their mind: muscle memory is real. Pointing up for ‘God’ and to their mouth for ‘words’ will help them sequence the phrases they are learning. Say or sing the verse each time with the same rhythm and inflections to help your child establish a thought pattern with the words. 6) Repetition. See what I did there? Come back to passages approximately every three weeks. We stick with a new section for about that long, and rotate in previously learned passages about two days of the week. This allows past verses to stay fresh without an overwhelming time commitment each day. On the day I give their A+ and we call a passage ‘hidden in our heart’, it’s picture-perfect. — Kelley Rose Waller Kelley and her husband Matt are Pennsylvania foster parents and have two biological sons. Kelley lives and writes to uplift and glorify the name of Jesus Christ. Her debut novel, The Senator’s Youngest Daughter, was released in 2016. Read more at www.kelleyrosewaller.com.

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Has something in the magazine or something you have discussed with someone or some thoughts that you have had or something that you have heard, brought you to a point of realizing that you want and need to know Christ in the truest and personal sense?

If so, below is a simple outline for someone of any age who is not a Believer to act on their desire to accept Jesus Christ into their heart as their Savior.

God’s Plan of Salvation God created us to honor and serve Him Revelation 4:11: “You are worthy, O Lord, To receive glory and honor and power;For You created all things, And by Your will they exist[b] and were created Each of us has sinned against God Romans 3:10: As it is written, “There is none righteous, no, not one” Romans3:23: For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, The penalty for sin is eternal separation from God and Heaven Romans 6:23: For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. Good works cannot ever earn God’s forgiveness and Salvation Titus 3:5: not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to His mercy He saved us. God loves each of us John 3:16: For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. Jesus Christ died on the cross in our place, paying the penalty for our sin Romans 5:8: But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. We each must accept Jesus Christ as our personal Savior Romans 10:9: that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. Romans 10:13: For “whoever calls on the name of the LORD shall be saved.” To accept Christ into your heart and life, pray a simple prayer along these lines - “Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and I am sorry for my sins. I know that Jesus died for my sins and the sins of the world. Right now, I ask Jesus into my heart and receive Him as my personal Savior. Forgive me of my sins, thank you for saving me through the blood of Jesus. Please Lord, help me live for you. In Jesus name, amen.” All scriptures are taken from The New King James Version of the Holy Bible.

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Tommy Wolosin is Nashville’s Volunteer of the Month. The Director of Technical Sales and Marketing started his volunteer work around ten years ago with the organization Bridges for the Deaf and Hard of Hearing as well as working with children’s camps and after school programs. Tommy’s journey with the Nashville community began in 1999 after serving in the Air Force for ten years.

gate technological challenges they face. Now Tommy helps businesses and individuals figure out the best moves to ensure the success of their companies. He spends time teaching others what he has learned in the field of IT and business. His passion, however, also resides within working with children.

Once out of the Air Force, Tommy decided to stay with a friend in Nashville and use Nashville as a hub for finding jobs in other areas. Almost twenty years later, and Tommy not only calls Nashville home, but he also works hard to help Nashville become a better place. Teaching the kids at Bridges for the Deaf and Hard of Hearing about internet safety was how Tommy’s volunteerism began, and through that experience he realized the need for an IT director that would help organizations navi-

Tommy’s advice for those wanting to volunteer? It’s easy to find a place to volunteer, especially in a city like Nashville. There are so many different types of volunteer work; either working with children like Tommy, working with animals, businesses, or those who are homeless. The opportunities are out there, the hard part is making them priority. Tommy accomplishes this by scheduling time every Monday, and if he is able to do that, others can, too. — Allison Quintanilla Plattsmier, CFRE, CNP, MBA

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If you have an event you would like listed in the Nashville Christian Family Community Calendar e-mail us at: NCFPublication@gmail.com subject line - Calendar November 10 – 11 St. Matthew Church Annual Fine Art Show and Sale - It’s here!! The 13th Annual Fine Art Show and Sale is Saturday, November 10th 6-9pm and Sunday, November 11 9:30am-1:00pm. at St. Matthew Church in Franklin. Hosted by the Art and Environment Ministry, make plans now to attend this FREE event, full of live music, great holiday gift ideas and delicious food! Many talented artists will be showcasing their work in oils, watercolor and pottery. An appetizer and wine reception is held opening night. It’s a 21 and older event with complimentary childcare provided. On Sunday, families are welcome to come and shop for beautiful artwork and enjoy coffee and pastries. Additional information is available at www.stmatthewtn.org/church/Art-for-Inspiration. St. Matthew Church, 535 Sneed Rd. West, Franklin, TN 37069. Hope to see you there! November 16 Friday Night Skating At the Fairview Recreation Complex Enjoy skating in the gymnasium at the Fairview Recreation Complex, 2714 Fairview Blvd., on Friday, November 16, 2018. This event is from 6:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m., and all ages are welcome. Participants must bring their own skates.

No reservations are required. Admission is $5 per person, or receive $1 off both admissions when you bring a friend. Concessions will be on sale. For more information call Andrew Hawken at (615) 799-9331, ext. 2315. November 29 Local Trip To Chaffin’s Barn Planned For Seniors The Williamson County Parks and Recreation Department invites area seniors (55 and older) to join the fun on an upcoming trip to Chaffin’s Barn on November 29. Considered Nashville’s Original Barn, this unique dining theatre in the round will present “Elf the Musical.” Based on the beloved holiday film, this comedy follows Buddy the Elf in his quest to find his true identity. Join us to experience this afternoon of great food and entertainment. The trip is scheduled for 10:30 am to 2:30 pm, and is based out of the Williamson County Enrichment Center. Online registration ends November 28 or when the trip is full. The cost of $38 includes the show and lunch. Participants must register in advance, either on-line at www.wcparksandrec.com (Registration code #12682), or in person at the Williamson County Enrichment Center, 110 Everbright Ave., Franklin, TN. For more information, contact Traci Hamby

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Winter Tennis Clinic Registration Underway - The Athletics Division of the Williamson County Parks and Recreation Department announces open registration for winter sessions of indoor and outdoor tennis clinics. Prices vary depending on the duration of clinic. A full class schedule, fees and registration are available at www.wcparksandrec.com. All fees must be paid in order to secure placement in a class. Space is limited. Contact Ann Marie Flynn, at (615) 370-3471, ext. 2113 or Kylie Preston, ext. 2116 for more information.

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