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alentine’s schmalentines – the big rom con is upon us. I’m not being cynical here but in the same way that a new puppy isn’t just for Christmas, so a relationship is not just for February 14. Forget about wilting flowers, melting chocolates and an overpriced meal – I’d rather have a partner who makes chicken soup when I’m ill and offers space when I need it. If I wanted diamonds, I’d buy my own. Even so, I’m not going to completely vilify Valentine’s Day. There’s something rather nice about having an event in which to celebrate the strength and importance of relationships – even the platonic kind. So, go on, share this day with friends, family and colleagues and show them you care. It is after all, not only Valentine’s Day but also Random Acts of Kindness Week.
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FEBRUARY 13 2013
Features 18 Omani Dating Love. Lies and Secrets 22 Getting A Date in a Day Y’s Intrepid Singles Looking for Love
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Your Oman 06 The Big Interview Flower Power 08 Voice of Oman Readers’ Letters 11 News Tour of Oman
Food & Drink 26 Erotic Eating Aphrodisiac Foods 28 Gallery Thanks A Bunch 29 Restaurant Review Come Prima
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This Week 13 Movies Listing Favourite Chick Flicks 14 This Week The Big Catch 16 Gallery Muscat Festival
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Health & Beauty 32 Fashion Bling It On 35 Shop of the Week Pure Gold Jewellers 36 Health What Becomes of the Broken Hearted?
18 Cars & Outdoors 38 Destination Wahiba Sands 40 Outdoors Nizwa Souq 42 My Hood Muttrah 44 Y-Fi V-Day Gifts 46 Car of the Week Rolls-Royce Phantom
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SCENT OF A WOMAN EMMA BROWN, Manager Of The Flower Shop, SABCO Centre Why did you become a florist? I’m passionate about design and flowers so it was the natural career choice. I learnt floristry in college and then trained with a very high-end florist in Jersey. There, I got the opportunity to decorate some really nice houses and parties. What are the challenges of being a florist in the middle of the desert? The climate is a huge issue for keeping flowers in peak condition. Plus, nothing is locally grown, so I have to source the best blooms from various part of the globe. This can make some last-minute orders a bit of a challenge. You’ve been here for years, so there must be plenty of highs. What are they? I love working with interesting clients and prestigious brands to create the crème de la crème of events. Big budgets, international teams and lots of creative freedom are every florist’s dream.. What’s Valentine’s Day like in Muscat? It’s crazy here a couple of days before the 14th. Clients want something special, so I get top-grade red roses imported from Holland. Other popular gifts include scented candles from Paris and quirky items from Bombay Duck. In general though, popular bouquets tend to be vintage inspired with peonies and roses. What makes your shop different from the rest? As an experienced, international team, we’re on top of all the latest trends and have some amazing contacts from all over the globe. I guess we’re expensive because we’re buying the Chanel of flowers. Any tips for readers who want to keep their Valentine flowers in tip-top condition? You need a germ-free vase, very clean water and some feeder. The water needs to be changed every second day. What would be your ideal Valentine’s gift? Anything from Chanel or Tiffany’s – but in floral terms, I’d love a bunch of sweet avalanche roses in dusty pink.
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COOL COMMS SPECIALIST ISOBEL SPAVEN-DONN TALKS ABOUT THE BENEFITS OF BACK ROAD TRAVELLING
correspondence Preserving Kumzar’s unique legacy
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ast week, while speaking with a friend who had driven overland from Al Ain to Muscat, I realised something: Oman needs backpackers. Yes, Oman is perfectly suited to luxury destination marketing. Boutique hotel lobbies impregnated with bukhoor and sumptuous Arabian-style upholstery offer the ultimate traveller seduction. Yet if Oman’s marketing communications could extend beyond five stars, there is certainly a clear silver lining for what the industry describes as independent travellers. On her way to Muscat my friend discovered an ancient village on the back roads, a treasure that could well be overlooked at best and neglected at worst given its remote location. Yet lowbudget travellers get to these undiscovered places, create new attractions out of them, promote them to other tourists and contribute to local village economies on the way. After all, the best marketing tool is word of mouth and the online travel community is the first stop for holiday planning. Of course, other infrastructure needs to be developed before this is made possible. But last week’s International Association of Public Transport Assembly in Sohar shows that the tracks are certainly being laid for an alternative route in the future. Next week: The YUMMY MUMMY TO BE RETURNS
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The article on Kumzar was mind blowing. The pictures of this 500-year-old reclusive village were awesome and breathtaking. I happened to read recently in the news that the Kumzari language is likely to become endangered as it is spoken by a limited number of people in the area, which is quite alarming and painful. The authorities concerned have to take up the issue seriously and immediately with measures to safeguard the language from dying out in the near future. Perhaps scholars can intervene and look in to the matter to protect the language. I am reminded of the quote: “Language is the archives of the history.” There is a warning from the Andaman Islands where the last remaining speaker of the Bo language died in January 2010 in Port Blair. With her death, many important aspects of cultural heritage faded into oblivion, most of all her language. I hope the required measures will be taken to save the Kumzari language from this fate. G.V.K. Durga Ravi, Muscat
THE ART OF WOW In issue 255, I was interested in the Omani Manga interview. I have not heard of nor seen a manga artist in Oman and I was amazed that the Omani artist, Raya al Maskary, was using this Japanese art form to create an original Omani manga art in her own unique style. After reading about this, I went on to research all about it, and came across beautiful but also violent, yet fascinating pieces of artwork and comics. The art seemed complex and very detailed, which I guess is what makes it stand out from other comic styles. All power to the artist, and hopefully she will create another new and original Omani art form. Yours Yaqub Al Zadjali Azaiba
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What is the most romantic gesture you have done for someone else or they have done for you? Rishikesh Chidhambaranathan “Thank you” uttered by a small girl with her innocent voice for presenting chocolate. Mohammed Ali I bought my wife a Tandoori chicken, which she loves eating in the car on the way to Ruwi High Street from Mawaleh. Sherrin Finoj The most romantic gesture for me in my life was when my hubby gave me a surprise gift in front of the romantic Dubai Fountain. It was unforgettable and I was so happy.
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A Poem for Valentine’s
Enchanted, in their spell Often, their moods decide my fate Either Heaven or Dante’s Hell.
My Valentines, I have but two, (And one of them is a mother) Both love me, I love them too But they can’t stand each other.
Managing them both is a big ask But I am not the kind to shirk Manfully I keep at the Herculean task (I get to relax when at work!)
Poles apart in word and deed As in likes, wants and demands Similar only in their burning need To have me in their hands!
Each is a gem, unique and rare And it would not be a lie If not for them, I wouldn’t be here By, of and for them, am I.
Each desires a piece of me And neither is willing to share muesli morning to evening tea Each needs me to be there.
That’s how it is, all said and done With the Valentines of my life We are one for all and all for one Me, my daughter and my wife.
They have me, I need to state
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Shetu Sushil My girl told me she had a crush on me – the same as I had for her. Shubham Agrawal I haven’t tried all those things till now, as I am just a 13-year-old kid. Poyal Don I have never really done this for anyone because whenever I tried, they ditched me. Arshi Sarfaraz For me the most special gesture was when my one-year old son kissed me on my forehead for the first time. It’s the most special moment for all mothers. Mysterious Fefe I took a picture while holding a big teddy bear, which had a heart in its hand that says ‘I love you’... I sent it to the person I love the most! It was cute to us.
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What they lack in stature these tiny cooks made up for with their skills in the kitchen ifty children from the Art of Living Nursery in Al Ghubra took part in a ‘Little Chef Hunt’ to find the top culinary king or queen in their age
group. Dressed in chef ’s caps and gloves, the children turned out dishes from salads and smoothies to sandwiches. Due to their age, the contestants were not allowed to use knives or work with fire. Surprisingly, more boys than girls turned out to try their hand with pots and pans in the contest
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held at the Daawat Restaurant. Mini gourmands from Nursery to Standard 4 took part in three categories: Tiny Tots (Nursery, KG1 & KG11), Classes I & II and Classes III to IV. The winners and runners-up were: Group 1 - Akshita, Advika, Lizleah, Consolation - Mrunali, ANchit Group 2 - Saanvi, Vedant, Nandini, Consolation - Gargi, Rishita, Preksha Group 3 - Samuel, Avantika, Safiya, Consolation - Aman
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TOUR DE FORCE
Oman goes cycling crazy as Wiggins & co. come to town
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f you don’t know it already, the world’s best cyclists are in the country. And today (Weds) you have a chance to see the current Tour de France champion and gold medalist, Sir Bradley Wiggins, and other top names in the sport carry on the battle of the pedals. More than 140 cyclists are competing in the Tour of Oman, which started on Monday (Feb 11) and takes in 935.5km through the streets, mountains and wadis that make up the rugged terrain of the country. Today’s third stage will see riders fight for the prized leader’s jersey with the dramatic backdrop of Jebel Akhdar mountain and an oasis of date palms. Beginning at Nakhal Fort, the twisting 190km stretch is due to end at Wadi Dayqah Dam, one of the few wadis continuously flowing all year round in the Sultanate, shortly after 4pm as the early afternoon sun begins to set. The riders will be greeted at the stage finish by Omani singers and dancers. It will also offer a great spot for spectators to catch the final minutes of the action. Tomorrow (Thurs) the challenge of the unforgiving, strength-sapping slopes of the Green Mountain awaits. Saturday’s climax will see the frontrunners sprint to the finishing line at Muttrah Corniche. Other big names are Tour de France 2012 runner-up Chris Froome, World Champion Philippe Gilbert and last year’s Tour of Oman winner and defending champion, Slovakian rider Peter Velits.
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he waiting is over and the stage is ready for one of the biggest nights of the year. Tonight (Weds) the King of Bollywood, Shah Rukh Khan, will rock Muscat with Katrina Kaif, as they perform together live for the first time. Up to 22,000 fans are expected at the ‘Temptations Reloaded’ event in the grounds of the Oman Automobile Association.The show will be a near sell-out,
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They were welcomed to Oman on the eve of the start of the race at a reception hosted by HE Sultan Hamdoon al Harthi, head of Muscat Municipality, which organises the tour as part of the Muscat Festival celebrations. “It’s encouraging to see a rapid growth in the infrastructure of Oman,” said Froome, before the start of the race. “I’ve learned about the importance of the race for this country. I suspect it won’t be long before we see an Arabic rider among our ranks.” Marcel Kittel, who won two stages of Tour of Oman last year, said he was happy to be back. “I have good memories of Oman from last year,” he said. “Personally, I want to enjoy the race, do a few sprints and see where I stand against the others at the moment.” HH Sultan Hamdoon al Harthi said the Tour, now in its fourth year, is important to Oman and the international cycling event calendar. “February in Oman is no longer known just for its glorious warm temperatures, but also for the Tour of Oman,” he said. “We would like to encourage all residents and visitors in Oman to come out on the streets and support the riders.” Legendary cyclist and race organiser, Eddie Merckx, added: “The Tour of Oman is such an amazing example of what potential and will power together can achieve in such a short space of time. “The line-up for the event this year is simply outstanding. It is all thanks to the willingness of the Omani authorities and the incredible reception of the Omani people.” Full details of the race can be found on the website www.tourofoman.om or you can follow the race on Twitter and Facebook live throughout the race.
according to the organisers, Muscat-based event management company Light & Shadow Enterprises LLC. The most expensive tickets, priced at RO500 and RO250, sold out several days ago with the cheaper seats, at RO25 and RO12, also selling fast.“The response has been brilliant, we will try to make it one of the best nights ever,” said Shruti Chowdhary, director of Light & Shadow. Gates open at 4pm with the show due to start at 8pm.
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MOVIES MOVIES THIS WEEK’S MOVIES For more information and times, go to: City Cinema: citycinemaoman.net Al Bahja Cinema: albahjacinema.net Star Cinema: Tel +968 24791641
Broken City A gritty thriller about a killer cop turned private eye (Mark Wahlberg) who is drawn into the dark intrigues of corrupt town hall politics. The mayor (Russell Crowe) has Wahlberg follow his wife (Catherine Zeta Jones) who he suspects of having an affair. But it’s much more complex than that, as the “lover” turns out to be the political manager of the man who wants Crowe’s job (Barry Pepper) and is standing against him for election. The subject matter of corrupt politicians and property dealers carving up the city for the benefit of insiders is at least relevant to politically cynical audiences. However the characters and stories do feel like they are filling their assigned roles – Wahlberg as flawed good guy trying to survive in a corrupt world, Crowe as
an unpleasant, corrupt bullying politician with a ridiculous haircut and Zeta Jones as the trapped politician’s wife with a conscience. Wahlberg and Crowe are the kind of stars who don’t really have to step out of their comfort zone – they do what audiences expect by mostly being themselves. Zeta Jones is probably the most convincing but unfortunately her character doesn’t have enough room in the script to take centre stage. Pepper plays Jack Valiant, the not so valiant liberal hopeful who wants to topple Crowe’s crony politics and save a housing project from greedy developers. No need to spoil the ending, but every character is tragically trapped by the compromises and crimes they have committed along the way, leaving self-sacrifice as the only way out.
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Featuring the ultimate love story, leading man and film song, the romance genre doesn’t get much better than this 1990 American classic. Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore star as lovebirds parted when he dies but reunited thanks to movie magic. There’s an infamous pottery scene, a tune from the Righteous Brothers, which will bring a tear to your eye, and an ending which will have you weeping like a baby. Fabulous.
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Deadfall The ever-watchable Eric Bana stars alongside Olivia Wilde as siblings on the run with loot stolen from a botched casino heist. They split up and head for Canada, before turning up for Thanksgiving at the home of their parents, played by Cissy Spacek and Kris Kristofferson. Great use of wintery scenery and Bana’s charisma.
A Bullet To The Head Veteran action director Walter Hill teams up with Sylvester Stallone to give us a hefty dose of ’80s-style
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skull-shattering violence and amusing one liners. Stallone’s amoral killer forms an unlikely partnership with rookie cop Sung Kang, as they face down sexy villain Jason Momoa. Entertaining action from masters of the trade.
Murder 3 Third outing for the hit Hindi erotic thriller series. This time we find photographer Vikram (Randeep Hooda) starting an intimate affair with waitress Nisha (Sara Loren). Then Hooda’s ex-lover returns, so starting a complicated love triangle that will, inevitably, end stickily.
A Good Day to Die Hard While we are with ’80s action heroes, there are none more dependable than Bruce Willis as John McClane, who now returns for a fifth time. Appropriately enough, he’s got a grown-up son (Jai Courtney), who unbeknown to him is a CIA operative working in Russia. The pair join forces to take on a sinister group planning nuclear terrorism. Unfortunately for a much-loved franchise, this one could finish it off.
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Richard Gere is every bit the part in this classic story of a trainee US Navy aviation officer and his love for factory girl Deborah Winger. There’s nothing like Gere in a uniform when he carries Winger out of the factory to all-round applause. Tough love.
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Dirty Dancing
The megahit teen romance set in a 1960s resort in the Caskill Mountains. Seventeen-year-old New Yorker Frances ‘Baby’ Houseman (Jennifer Grey) falls for working-class dance instructor Johhny Castle (Patrick Swayze). Their dance to ‘I Had the Time of My Life’ set a million hearts swooning.
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Left Foot Forward Shane Connaughton, the Oscar-nominated writer of My Left Foot, wrote new play The Pitch and leads the original cast for one night only at the ABA Theatre School, Al Khuwair, tonight. The play centres on main character, Philly, who lives for his team, the shirt and his
parish but the football pitch he gave the community is threatened with being turned it into a housing estate. Tickets are RO15 and includes a complimentary beverage at O’Malleys Irish Bar. For tickets email irishinoman@hotmail.com. Show starts 7.30pm.
Art of Loving While Valentine’s is mostly about showing how much you love your nearest and dearest, why not also cherish your own beauty and spiritual needs? The Sri Sri Ayurvedic Clinic is offering Ayurvedic facials and cosmetics at the ‘Inner Beauty Outer Beauty’ event from 10am-12.30pm. It’s being held at the Rajdhani Restaurant, Art of Loving Centre, Mosaic Tower in Al Khuwair. Donation of RO3 goes to the Art of Living School. Call 98218095 for information. Ladies only.
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It’s almost Y Day at Muscat City Centre Food Hall where the Valentine’s quiz action kicks off from 6pm till 8pm tommorow. Merge FM’s very own morning presenter Chris Fisher will be hosting ‘Y Are You Soulmates?’ as contestants are gearing up to prove just how well they really know their loved ones. There are prizes galore for contestants. We can’t wait to see who’ll be the King and Queen of hearts!
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A night of world-class classical music is on offer at the Royal Opera House tonight with a performance from The American National Symphony Orchestra, under the leadership of music director Christoph Eschenbach. The NSO, the resident orchestra at the John F. Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts in Washington, D.C, will be joined by violinist Arabella Steinbacher and pianist Tzimon Barto.
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Muscat Arts Festival continues its series on the Creative Process in Art with an exhibition of calligraphy from across the Arab world. Iraq’s Hassan Massoudy and Tunisia’s Lassaad Metoui are exhibiting at the Bait Al Baranda Visitors Centre in Muttrah until February 21.
FOOTBALL FEVER Women’s Guild Oman is holding its Health & Beauty Show at Bahja Hall next to Jungle Café from 9am to 1pm on Tuesday, with everything from yoga to manicures and head massage on offer. Entrance is RO3. You can sign up at the Coffee Morning today at the InterContinental Hotel’s Musandam Terrace.
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If you fancy yourself as something of an oceangoing angler with big catch in mind, book yourself into the Jebel Sifah Challenge. It naturally starts early with participating boats casting off at 7am from Jebel Sifah, Bandar Rowdha or Capital Area Yacht Club marinas. Fish are weighed at 4pm at Jebel Sifah and prizes given, the biggest catch winning a complimentary double room at the Sifawi Boutique Hotel. The prize for under-14s is a free dolphin watching trip. To register, send boat name, skipper’s name and number of crew by email to marinas@muriya.om
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You may not know the Kyrgyz Epic of Manas from Uzbekistan’s Mavrigi dance, but you can discover it all as Central Asia’s rich heritage is brought together for two nights at the Royal Opera House. Troupes and players from Kazakhstan, Uzbekistan, Kyrgystan and Tajikistan will offer vibrant samples of the region’s diverse culture, with traditional instruments, dance, song and recitals of great works of verse and literature. Visit www.rohmuscat.org.om for more information.
Must Read Critics and readers alike have been raving about Girlchild, a novel by Tupelo Hassman, which has just come out in paperback. It’s a series of smaller stories tied together by the lead character’s search for answers, but also an exploration on what it’s like growing up as a woman in small-town America.
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Omani relationships have changed. On Valentine’s eve, we discover how the young generation are pushing the boundaries of tradition in search of true love.
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ating and pre-marital relationships in Oman are still taboo subjects. But the truth is that both are going on, it’s just that no-one talks about them. Divorces here are on the rise, according to new research, as the tradition of arranged marriages is spurned by the younger generation. Figures from the Department of Marriage Registration revealed that divorces in the country increased by 12 per cent last year. The trend puts arranged marriages under the spotlight, with couples apparently opting to divorce and find a partner on their own terms. Y spoke to three different people, two men and a woman, about their experiences of dating and marriage. What emerged is clear evidence of a social shift and a growing split along generational lines in attitudes towards marriage. ‘Secret dating’ is now an accepted part of being a young Omani. Social media has opened up a brave new world to the modern generation,
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where talking to the opposite sex is possible just by logging on. Smartphones, tablets, laptops and computers in bedrooms are all commonplace, allowing access anywhere and at any time of day. They ‘meet’ in virtual chat rooms, in a world which cannot be controlled by parents or governments. More male and female youth are also attending university or go to work in mixed offices, allowing more opportunities to meet the opposite gender. Women are now more confident and aware, in and out of the office, and want a husband who agrees with their modern view on life. In the past, men and women would marry before the age of 18. Today, many young people are still unmarried at 25 or 26 and, if they do marry, will insist on choosing their own spouse. They want to marry for love, not for a sense of duty or familial pressure. The stories that follow are meant to give an accurate reflection of dating and modern marriage in Oman today, told in their own words.
Tariq al Haremi
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ating in Oman can be tough, especially with Valentine’s Day approaching – and especially if the date is with an Omani girl. Since we live in Oman and it is a Muslim country, dating is frowned upon. Traditionally men and women are brought together through family connections, often with the help of a matchmaker, for marriage only. Some parents, if not all, wouldn’t approve of their daughter dating a stranger as a matter of reputation and honour. And in a country where everyone knows everyone else, gossip spreads like wildfire. Date someone in public and quicker than a flash your mother is asking, ‘so who is this girl you were seen with?’ This may not be the most popular thing to say but, as a single man and young (I’m 24), I have sworn an oath that I would never again date an Omani girl, which may explain why I am single most of the time. I am half Palestinian and was raised in many different places. I have experienced life outside of the Gulf, so it is safe to say that I have a more western mentality. This does not mean I prefer western women, it just means I’m not a traditional Omani and I do not have a typical outlook on relationships. That is why I prefer to date a girl from the Sham countries, because it would be easier to talk to her and get on. Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against Omani girls and respect them completely. However, the practical reality is that dating an Omani limits the chances of
meeting up and sharing my day and even life with her. One of the most common problems with dating Omani girls is the limitation of places to go. Since all the popular places are mostly infested with people, a couple will most probably bump into a relative or friend, and because the relationship is usually secret, talk will start. There is another problem. From my own experience, and it’s not exhaustive, dating some Omani girls can be like dating a needy child. They don’t act their age but, rather like a small kid, they need constant attention and reassurance. Trying to be cute can be adorable but overdoing it is just too much to handle. Shyness is common and some girls are so timid that you cannot hear their voices when they speak, or they will giggle for no reason. I’m sure some women out there reading this are thinking that I’m grumpy and too serious. That is not true at all – I just want a confident and strong woman that acts her age. This is not a complaint, just an observation based on my experience. I know there are a lot of strong, independent and confident women out there. And of course there are a lot of respectable Omani girls that really do want to find their Prince Charming and share their lives. But parents, honour and reputation are holding them back. Despite all the obstacles though, they have a few tricks up their sleeves. Sometimes lying to parents can get them what they want, and that
would be a date. Sometimes they tell their parents they are going out with friends, in a group, but instead go meet up with their “secret” boyfriend. It is a lot of work for girls, but I do understand that parents are also afraid for their daughters. They are afraid she will be betrayed and have her heart broken or something more serious will happen. In my opinion, parents should stop living in the Stone Age, and be more open-minded. Some are, yet many are not. Not all men are bad people, and the only way to gain trust is to meet the man or boy, see what kind of person they are and hopefully trust him enough to take care of the girl and respect her in the utmost manner. In the meantime I’ll wait and see what turns up this Valentine’s – perhaps a pizza.
I’m not a traditional Omani and I do not have a typical outlook on relationships.
Salma*
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hen I married my husband, I had only seen him four times, mostly viewed from a window. On my wedding day, I did not recognise him when he first approached me. I had grown up in my uncle’s house with limited contact with boys and the outside world. We weren’t allowed to watch much television and we didn’t have mobile telephones or access to the Internet at the time. I was only 18, so young that I didn’t even really know the meaning of marriage. I liked my husband but I didn’t love him, I didn’t have strong feelings for him. I had wanted to marry another man, who I did feel something for, but my family said ‘no’ because of the family name. I had to do what my family wanted. On my wedding day I didn’t feel happy, I didn’t feel anything really. I didn’t work and we were not blessed with children, so I mostly sat at home. I was very lonely. We were married for nine years and then divorced. He was a good man but we both agreed to end the marriage. I felt my life had
stopped; I didn’t even have a car or any friends at that time. That was two years ago and my life is better now I am working and have friends. One of my sisters has just got married and she married for love. I know girls who go on dates now. They have to keep it a secret, and can never let their parents know. They would be so angry. My brothers are able to date but we are not. I meet men through work and sometimes friends will introduce potential boyfriends. I don’t like meeting men in malls, which is quite common in Muscat. They will come up to you and give you their phone number and if you like them, you contact them. I would prefer to get to know someone first. A friend uses Facebook though. She meets boys there and in chat rooms. If I ever went on a date, I would go to a restaurant or the beach. I would get into trouble if my family or a neighbour saw me out with a man. It’s a risk but for the right man I would be prepared to take it. I know some of my
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family are talking about me, that I don’t have children or a husband, as if I don’t have a leg or something. They don’t look at me and see that I’m trying to do something with my life. Some people think that as this is an Arab country, the girls are just sitting at home alone. We are not. Even some girls who look conservative are doing things that they shouldn’t. I know one girl who got into trouble and had to get help. There are places you can go. She was very upset because she was in love but the moment the man found out, he did not want to know her. He was just using her. A lot of guys are like that. They will date you for a month and you think they’re really nice and then realise they just want one thing. Married men are like that too. In my eyes, it’s very wrong. It is also well known that girls can travel to seek help before they get married. I heard of a girl who was afraid that she would get into trouble when she got married and wanted to go abroad. The whole dating thing needs to be more open but not too much. We are Muslim and I think too much freedom would be a bad thing. I am 30 now but hope that I will marry again one day. I sometimes feel tired of being lonely. But if I do marry, I will not make a mistake again. I will marry for love only. (*Her name has been changed to protect her identity)
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O In the course of a year, I met her many times and got to know her. This is the traditional Omani way.
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mani society doesn’t accept dating as a way to find a life-long partner. It is a matter of honour, reputation and well-being for both man and woman. If you want to meet up with a girl or boy, you have to meet through the right channels. I come from Barka. My sister, my mother and some other family members met my future wife and her mother at a wedding party. They thought she was good for me and the first meeting was arranged. We had to ask about her family, then my mother and sister went to her house. They asked if she was engaged or if any other man had asked to marry her, and she said ‘no’. Then they told her about me. She said she was interested but we would have to check with her parents. When I first met her at her house I came with my aunties and some neighbours. When I
entered the living room it was full of ladies sitting on sofas. There were a lot of hellos. I didn’t know which one was my wife to be. She was shy and hid from me at first. Then everyone left the room and we had a chance to talk. It was a bit awkward at first but we agreed to meet again. In the course of a year, I met her many times and got to know her. This is the traditional Omani way. Dating has become more typical for the new generation but, according to custom, couples can only meet independently when they have the Malka. This is a ‘no objection’ document signed by the girl’s father and authorised by an Imam. It is almost like an engagement. The imam calls the girl’s father and will also speak to the girl and ask her if she knows this man has asked to marry her and that her father has agreed. She has to say yes or he will not authorise it. The Malka ceremony takes place
at the mosque – only men attend. After this the couple can go out together but they will not sleep with each other. The engagement can go on for six months or longer, and that gives time for the couple to get to know each other. This system will survive. Even people with a socalled open mind still build a majlis in their home, because male and female guests all meeting in the same room is not acceptable in traditional Omani culture. I can say that any couple that is dating will be scared to reveal this in public. Why? Because it is wrong. There will be a big problem between the families. This is what we feel in Islamic and Arabic culture and what we have to follow.
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Kate Ginn
‘The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person, it’s learning to love that person you have found.” This message dropped randomly into Y’s inbox. It must be serendipity as I was just about to start writing this article on finding love, or my attempts to do so, and was wondering how to start it off. I agree with the sentiments of the message and if I actually found someone, I would gladly accept him without (too many) reservations. When you get to my age (the other side of 40 and going down hill faster than a speeding cheetah on the African plains) meeting a sweetheart is ridiculously hard, or so it seems. I don’t care whether he’s Mr Right, Mr Alright will do quite nicely, thank you. My biological clock stopped ticking a while ago, in a huff about being ignored for so long. My girlhood fantasy of getting married one day, however, remains intact. Being the lone, single female in the office, my smug-in-a-couple boss sent me off with instructions not to return until I had secured a date. I struck lucky the next evening while on assignment at the Muscat Festival. Queuing for tea, I got chatting to a fellow Brit who was performing at the festival. We swapped email addresses but as he lives abroad, a lasting romance seems doubtful. My search for love was interrupted by the need for a business trip to Doha. No matter. Sitting in the departure lounge at Muscat airport, I made eye contact with a young Arab guy and smiled. He carried my bag on the plane and secured the seat next to me. By the time we landed an hour and 20 minutes later, Majd and I had swapped a potted life history and telephone numbers. He lives in Salalah but tentative arrangements were made to meet again. My self-confidence was soaring. Nothing could stop me in my quest; I was flying high. I crash landed back down to earth. Shopping malls are the perfect hunting ground to meet the opposite sex, or so I had heard. I spent an evening wandering round Muscat City Centre. Not the slightest interest. Not even the merest hint of any male attention in my direction. My friend said that, in her experience, Marks & Spencer was a dead cert for being pounced on by ardent men. I hung around for ages, got bored, bought some new knickers and went home. Next was a coffee shop, which produced a similar dismal result. I sat in Costa Coffee at The Wave with a cappuccino and a fixed smile on my face, desperately trying to look approachable. The guy next to me was more interested in his newspaper, while a cute man on an adjacent table gave me a withering stare before turning back to his smartphone. Disaster. I was obviously as unpalatable as the cold coffee congealing in my cup. I was feeling more than a little sorry for myself when a friend suggested a trip to a bar in Shatti. But just as it seemed all was lost at sea, whom should I bump into but the Italian Navy, on shore leave for a few days. Hanging out with a group of friendly shipmates soon cheered me up. We parted in a flurry of ‘ciao bellas’ and a few email addresses written on a napkin from the single sailors among them. As their ship was sailing in a few days and with it, possibly my chances of love, our future contact may be by social media. I’m not sure that I’m going to end up a signora any day soon but I feel more sure that my amore is out there somewhere and I intend to find him, wherever he may be. 022
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Don’t like being single on February 14? Do something about it. We challenged two members of Team Y to get a Valentine’s date in a day. Kate Ginn and Matthew Herbst, both single, were tasked with seeking out true love, or something close to it, in Muscat. Here’s how they got on:
THE SINGLETON’S SURVIVAL GUIDE TO FEB 14 Just because you’re not in a relationship doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy the most romantic day of the year on your own. Here are a few suggestions for going solo: 1. GO SHOPPING. Indulge yourself with a box of artisan chocolates or an extravagant treat. Me-gifts are the best because no one knows what you like better than you. 2. WATCH A LOVE CYNICAL ROMANCE. Hollywood’s released some slush-free movies this Valentine’s Day. Our favourite? I Give It A Year. No explanation needed. 3. THROW AN ANTI-VALENTINE’S PARTY. It’s all commercial gush anyway. Far better to celebrate fun and friendship with a girls/boys’ night out. 4. SPEND TIME WITH FELLOW SINGLETONS: The Internet will be full of them.
Matthew Herbst A well-thumbed black book isn’t necessarily a bad thing. But there comes a time in every bloke’s life when he’d rather have a good meal over a takeaway, if you get my meaning (and if you don’t, let’s just say I’m not talking about food). As I approach the big 40, I’m thinking about settling down. Most of my friends are married with 2.4 children and I’m beginning to feel like the lone turkey in Noah’s Ark. Women smell it. My editor smelt it. And that’s why I’m doing this darn Valentine’s challenge. Now I’m not a bad catch. I’m creative, well travelled and have cheeky charm on my side, so naturally I took up the mantle. What I should have taken into consideration before saying ‘yes’ is the fact that I’m a South African with Arab heritage – and a British passport – in Muscat. Omani women aren’t going to be interested. And even if they were, I’d have to get past their mothers, fathers, brothers and several uncles first. Forget the traditional route, there’s just one place a single guy can go and that’s the bar. Now this is a mission that suits me. I’ve had success in these places before. The formula is simple – eye contact, smile, cheesy chat up line and the whiff of desperation – hers, not mine. And result. In Muscat it’s not so easy though. Women are either already attached or you have to contend with a wall of friends acting as guard dogs against unwanted advances. Social contact with the latter category is almost impossible – but not beyond all hope if you smoke. I’d spotted this stunning girl earlier in the evening. She had long dark hair and striking turquoise eyes (probably contact lenses). She was clearly out of my league and flanked by friends. But lady luck smiled at me and positioned her outside while I was having a cigarette. She was struggling to light up, so like a knight with a shining lighter, I approached. There was the usual chitchat about nationality (she was Turkish). We got on, so I handed her my business card before she disappeared into the darkness. The next day I received a call. I like her. I’d like to date her. But I have a demanding mistress and she’s called work. I have pages to design and Y Tabloid waits for no woman – no matter how beautiful she is.
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Is there anything better than breakfast in bed? If you’re not keen on crumb-strewn sheets and spilt coffee, then a Valentine’s Day brunch may be just what the love doctor ordered. Serve an egg with heart-shaped toast followed by fresh fruit and a pot of posh tea on a beautifully laid table. This one features vintage roses and finebone china from Sophie Allport’s ‘Butterfly’ collection (www.sophieallport.com).
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Bring an added dose of va-va-voom to Valentine’s Day with our selection of aphrodisiacs. By Penny Fray.
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hocolate and coffee may get you going in the morning. But did you know that they could really, you know, get you going? And those chilli flakes you love to scatter over everything? They’re spicing up a whole lot more than dinner. For centuries, men and women have been trying to boost their libido with absurd concoctions like cobra blood and Spanish fly. Ancient Egyptians even ate grape-soaked
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water lilies to amp up their passion, while the Chinese believed that rhino horn could provide a welcome boost. As Martha Hopkins, author of the Aphrodisiac Cookbook, explains: “Historically, foods that mimicked certain body parts were believed to aid those same body parts.” So rather than take outlandish and morally dubious lotions and potions, why not simply visit the supermarket? Not only is a healthy
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diet essential to stamina and health, it also contains specific vitamins and minerals that boost the production of feel-good chemicals. Take oysters, for example. Scientists recently discovered that Casanova’s favourite seafood are packed with rare amino acids that trigger increased levels of amorous hormones. Likewise, chocolate’s aphrodisiac qualities are ascribed to happy chemicals like tryptophan and phenylethamine.
Here are a few other ingredients reputed to work:
CHILLIES: Spice up your love life with a massive dose of capsaicin – a chemical that increases blood flow and heart rate to stimulate nerve endings.
CHERRIES: These delicious little gems are packed with antioxidants and potassium, stimulating energy, well-being and pheromone production.
ALMONDS: Not only are these nuts rich in energyboosting fatty acids, they also contain a scent, scientifically proven to arouse women.
WATERMELON: Both the rind and flesh of this low calorie fruit are packed with the amino acid citrulline, which creates a similar effect to Viagra.
dark chocolate 50g butter, diced 4 tbsp golden syrup 175g of butter shortbread ½ x 200g jar of crystallised stem ginger, 100g almonds roughly chopped 200g of glacé cherries 1 tsp cocoa powder
CHOC & CHERRY CAKE This no-bake cake, rich in fruit, nuts and orange-scented chocolate, is a real Valentine’s Day treat. Ingredients: Icing sugar, to dust 200g of good quality
Method ♥ Break the chocolate into a small pan, then add the butter and syrup. Heat very gently, stirring from time to time, until smooth and glossy. ♥ Place the shortbread in a large bowl and break into small pieces with your fingers. Stir in the ginger, hazelnuts and cherries, then pour in the chocolate mixture and stir until evenly coated. ♥ Tip the mixture into a 20cm loosebottomed cake tin, patting down carefully. Chill for at least two hours. ♥ Dust the surface with cocoa powder and icing sugar before slicing and serving. ♥ The cake can be cut into 20-30 small portions and served as petits fours or sweet canapés.
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COME PRIMA Wonderful cuisine and view makes Laura Shergold fall in love with Italian food
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ith Valentine’s Day fast approaching, my husband and I were looking for the perfect spot for a romantic meal for two. Our criteria were simple: an intimate setting for our candlelit dinner a deux, offering wonderful food and surroundings. We found it in Come Prima. An authentic Italian restaurant in the Crowne Plaza Hotel, it came highly recommended from converts to its charms. Add to that Italy’s reputation as a country of lovers, it couldn’t fail to hit the spot for our early Valentine’s dinner. Any doubts were dispelled the moment we walked in and saw the restaurant’s prime location overlooking Qurum Beach and the Gulf of Oman. Our window seat allowed us to take full advantage of the beautiful view. With a candle flickering on the table and the moon full in the sky, the mood was already set. Our waitress was attentive without being too intrusive, and welcomed us with a smile. We ordered our drinks first; I plumped for the ‘Scarlet’ mocktail (cranberry, pomegranate, strawberry, lime and passion fruit syrup), which was a beautiful blend of
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Laura with her husband Pete
berry brilliance. My husband opted for a glass of the house red, which went down a treat. While we enjoyed our drinks, we drank in the ambience and interior. It would have been easy to slip into cheesy Italian décor but that’s not Come Prima’s style. The ambience is minimalistic, light and airy, which adds a touch of class. By now, our taste buds were tingling with the array of food on offer. To start, I chose the tomato and mozzarella salad, with my other half opting for the Carpaccio de Manzo (thin slices of beef with mushroom and parmesan shavings). Both dishes were sublime in presentation and taste and left us eagerly awaiting our main courses. I had chosen the ‘Tagliata Tonno’, a tuna steak, with sides of sautéed fennel and spinach in garlic
butter. The tuna was one of the tenderest I have ever tasted. My husband Pete opted for lamb shank, the same dish that was served at our wedding reception. It was cooked to perfection with the lamb falling away at the bone with only the slightest encouragement. At this point, we had just the right amount of room left for desert. Our choices were made, with the ‘Torta di Ricotta’ (cheesecake with berries and Chantilly cream) and the Sicilian Cassata (sponge cake, moistened with liquor and layered with ice cream). Both dishes provided the perfect sweet ending to our meal, with the Cassata winning the day for its sheer decadence. Coffees rounded off our food heaven and gave us time to take in that gorgeous view again. Come Prima was a romantic revelation for us. Whilst the prices are quite high, this is reflected in the quality of food and the impeccable attention to detail of the dishes. As the old adage goes, you can’t put a price on love, and fall in love we did, with this Italian gem and its breathtaking food and setting.
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This necklace, from M&S, looks far more expensive than its RO18 price tag.
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Don’t reserve your Valentine jewels for evening. Make a statement by wearing them during the day too.
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Chic and cheap – we love this flower cluster ring from Accessorize. From RO4.
Forget about cutesy cards and wilting roses – when it comes to February 14, nothing says ‘love’ like jewels, says Penny Fray.
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ae West was right when she said that the gift of diamonds shines so much brighter than the ones you buy yourself. That’s why this Valentine’s Day it’s all about the bling. Cupid wasn’t so stupid when he decided to make love synonymous with precious gems. A relationship may end but you’ll still have the rock. And this season, the bigger it is, the better. Statement jewels were all over the 2013 catwalk. There were pearls as large as golf balls at Chanel, while Gucci opted for giant gems. But if the eccentric ‘aristo’ look isn’t your thing, go pretty with petite pearl pendants and silver studs – preferably encased in a little blue box with a white bow. Of course as February 14 approaches, heart-shaped offerings will be all over the high street. Try to give them a personal twist by engraving a special message on the back. Alternatively, spell out your sentiments by commissioning a piece of gold graffiti – or just pop into Tiffany & Co in Dubai for a ready-made one by Paloma Picasso. Personally, I prefer heirlooms. There’s something incredibly romantic about being given something with a backstory – the more dramatic the better. Failing that, religious beads or artifacts with some cultural significance will suffice. Start scouring souks, antique shops and eBay today to surprise your sweetie with a vintage Valentine knick-knack.
Looking for fine-quality cultured pearls? Look no further than Mikimoto from Khimji’s Watches. We '♥’!
A Little Gem
For the woman worth her weight in diamonds – there can only be this Chopard piece from Khimji’s. But if you have to ask the price, quite frankly, you can’t afford it.
This Be Mine Valentine’s pendant draws upon the connected hearts of two star-struck lovers. Set in 18k gold, and studded with round, brilliant cut diamonds, this elegant pendant will make any woman feel like a fairytale princess. Available from Damas from RO167.
Don’t say it with flowers. This gold-plated pendant from What’s About Town speaks volumes with its loving postscript. RO60
Every girl loves to receive a Tiffany & Co gift box – especially if it contains a graffiti message by Paloma Picasso. Prices start from RO1200.
Penny’s guide to enhancing your style with jewellery
1 You don’t have to wear the real deal to look expensive – costume jewellery can be just as dazzling. 2 Accentuate your arms with a wide cuff – but make it your sole statement maker. 3 If you’re wearing a statement ring, make sure your nails are manicured. 4 A brooch doesn’t have to lie just on your lapel. It can also be worn on a belt or at the back of a low-closing dress.
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BROKEN HEARTED? Penny Fray discovers how heartbreak affects your health
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he felt it break – her heart that is. My friend Lizzie, shortly after breaking up with her boyfriend of two years, woke up in the middle of the night thinking she was having a heart attack. In fact, her body was just reacting to the trauma of losing someone she loved. “It leaves you with a dull, heavy feeling in your chest that sometimes explodes into lacerating pain,” she reveals. “There are moments when you really feel like you’re dying. It’s awful.” We’ve all heard about heartbreak, even if we haven’t personally experienced it. But can the stress of losing a loved actually harm you? It may not be the most romantic of subjects in the run-up to Valentine’s Day, but heart specialists seem to think that an emotional shock like divorce, death or being dumped can seriously affect your health. Broken Heart syndrome, otherwise known as Takotsubo Cardiomyopathy, is now a recognised medical condition. The symptoms are similar to having a heart attack in that the sufferer experiences chest pains, shortness of breath and physical weakness. According to experts, a sudden adrenaline release can stun the bottom half of the heart’s pumping chamber, resulting in a kind of paralysis. But unlike blockage of the coronary artery, most sufferers survive. And the best cure is the tincture of time. Of course, most humans have been exposed to heartbreak.
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For centuries, love and loss have inspired great works of art and literature – but it’s only recently that coronary angiograms have revealed the large and unusual shaped heart that looks like a Japanese Fisherman’s pot called Takotsubo, hence the syndrome’s name. Nonetheless, it’s rare and more needs to be discovered about this unique condition. Current estimates suggest that about two per cent of heart attacks in Oman will in fact be Broken Heart syndrome. There’s also evidence to show that the risk of dying suddenly from a cardiac arrest is 16 times higher the day after losing a spouse. Apart from deadly emotional overload, various studies have shown a whole heap of other physical and mental problems including depression and digestive disruption. Yes, a stressed-out nervous system means that your stomach hurts and you have zero appetite – except maybe for that vat of ice cream. Also, the strain of rejection might agitate your body’s immune system, leading to sickness and even a cold sore – just what you need, alongside the spots that are caused by all that freeflowing cortisol. So, how do you get over being dumped and down?
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According to life coach Everton Brown, it is common for the heartbroken to think that no one else on earth could possibly fill the gap left by a lost partner. This is nonsense, of course, but grief skews your thinking. “I have lost count of the number of times that patients have said that they will never find anyone else again,” he says. “But saying that compounds the misery and sends very demoralising messages to the brain. “It’s hard but you need to stay positive, that’s why many of my clients have benefited from emotional freedom technique (EFT). EFT, otherwise known as tapping therapy, uses the same energy meridians as traditional acupuncture to treat physical and emotional pain, but without the invasiveness of needles. Instead, simply tapping the head, hand or chest while thinking about your problem and voicing positive affirmations work the emotional block from your bio-energy system.” Learning to accept and value your own kindness, beauty and talent is very healing, concludes Everton.
1. It’s not you, it’s me 2. Let’s be friends 3. You’re too nice for me 4. I need space 5. I’m not ready for a relationship
GUIDE TO GETTING OVER IT
Penny Fray: I’m a little embarrassed to say that I’ve never been exposed to heartbreak. This little ticker is made from Tethlon. Saying that, I have nursed friends through breakups with tea and toughness. There’s a point when the wallowing has to stop and the best things in life need to be embraced. Positivity is the key. Joe Gill: It’s a cliché but there is no greater healer than time.
Kate Ginn: Complete closure relies on ruthlessness. Get a bin bag and fill it with everything that he’s ever given you. Then throw it away and meet someone else. Matthew Yousef Herbst: Keep your mind occupied with exercise, work and going out. Plus – lose your phone’s sim card. That way, you’re never tempted to call them again.
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Escaping into the Wahiba Sands is a chance to experience the stunning beauty of Oman
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Wahiba Sands
If Valentine’s Day mania gets too much, there is no better antidote than to go deep into the red Desert Words and photos: Jerzy Wierzbicki
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small heaps of sand dotted with shrubs and trees. The dunes are so red – despite it being a close to perfect 26C – they look as if they have been burnt by the sun. Above them a deep blue sky dotted with white clouds help to create a magical atmosphere. I felt like I had won a lottery for which the prize was something unique and truly valuable. I felt there was no more beautiful place on the planet at that moment. The wide views over the Wahiba sands, with dunes shaped by the wind, are impressive even if you have seen them many times before. For photography, the sunset over the desert surface can be captured with the best impact by using a very long 500mm lens. A few minutes before sunset, I fixed the camera to the tripod and tried to capture the moving sands. The wind at this time of day grows perceptibly stronger and one can see the dunes shifting. I positioned myself between two not very big dunes to photograph the sun going down. It was a perfect spot. I found some twigs and branches and started a fire. I prepared some simple food over the flames in much the same way as I imagined desert dwellers had done since time immemorial.
Once the sun goes down, the temperature in the desert drops suddenly. To counteract the cold I made a cup of black tea on the fire and enjoyed the perfect silence. Above me I could see millions of stars as I sat in my small chair, warmed by the firelight. It was truly my best ever Valentine’s Day.
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t’s that time of year when the world gets the love bug and I reach for the sick bag. It’s as if love only comes round once a year, announced with cheesy advertising, rather than arriving when you least expect it. Shops, galleries, bars and other venues are suddenly full of tacky hearts and cheap red roses. People lose their faculties and seem to forget that it’s the same old syrup every year. How to survive it? For those who, like me, are romantics of the spirit, the desert is the place where you can really lose your heart in the dunes and open sky. My escape route takes me via Bidiyah to the southern part of the Wahiba Sands. Fortifying me for the adventure ahead, I had an excellent biryani in town. I left Bidiyah around midday and reach the sand dunes behind the town in the afternoon. It wasn’t too hot when I reached the desert. There were a few clouds in the sky. I reduced the pressure in the tyres of my car and switched on the 4x4. I followed the main track leading directly southwards for some 50-60 kilometres before reaching the zone where I felt safely beyond reach of the Valentine’s plague. Here the high dunes end and are replaced by
As I have mentioned many times before, the desert can be a dangerous environment. But a few rules can make trips there easy and pleasant. First of all you must use a reliable 4x4 and deflate the tyres so that crossing the dunes becomes much smoother and safer. Reduce the pressure in the tyres before you set off on the sands. Inform your family or friends exactly where you are going. Be sure that you have enough fuel, water and food. The main track on the Wahiba sands is: N22’18’32 E58’46’39 FEB 13 – FEB 19 / ISSUE 257
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Money can buy you love after all, finds Laura ShergolD Photos: Laura Shergold
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wise man once said the best way to remember Valentine’s Day is to forget it once - you’ll never be allowed to forget it again. With this in mind, my husband decided to play it safe and suggested a Valentine’s trip to Nizwa Souq, where we could enjoy a day out together and give me the opportunity to take part in my favourite pastime – trinket shopping. A very wise man, my husband. Nizwa is perfect for a short day trip out, as it’s only about 140km west of Muscat in the Al Dakhiliyah Governate. The drive there is straightforward too and made all the more memorable with the dramatic Al Hajar mountains to gaze at on your journey down. Nizwa Souk is busy every day of the week, but Friday is the main day when the cattle market comes to town and cows, sheep and goats among other livestock are on offer for purchase. I wasn’t in the market for sheep but if you are, this is apparently the place to snap up a bovine or ovine bargain. We were there for a different kind of purchase, a token of my husband’s affection. Being an old romantic at heart, I was spoilt for choice in the craft souq. With beautiful
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bracelets, tempting trunks and pretty pashminas, anyone who says money can’t buy you love has obviously never visited Nizwa Souq. While Pete stood by with his wallet at the ready, I had a wonderful time browsing the stalls
Fact Box Nizwa is the largest city in Al Dakhiliyah and was the capital of Oman proper before unification with Muscat Its population is estimated at around 70,000 Its one of the oldest cities in Oman and was once the centre for trade, religion, education and the arts Nizwa is the centre of date growing Its name is said to derive from the Arabic verb for being alone, while others says it was named after an old water spring In the early 1950s, the large round tower of the ancient fort was bombed by the British Royal Air Force, which had been called in to help quash an uprising
and had my eye on two necklaces, a gorgeous pair of earrings and a candleholder. Choosing your own Valentine’s gift is a difficult business and not to be rushed. Finally, I was ready to inform hubby of my chosen gift. Nizwa is renowned for its
silver jewellery, which is considered to be the best in the country, so it was no surprise that a silver bracelet set with mother of pearl stones had won my heart. But hang on, that wasn’t all, a cute heart-shaped key ring had caught my attention too! Two
Valentine presents? For little old me? I couldn’t possibly.. oh go on then. My lovely husband was happy to oblige. All shopped out at this point, we decided to take a trip round Nizwa Fort. The fort, built by Imam Sultan Bin Saif Al Y’aribi in the middle of the 17th century, is Oman’s most visited national monument and can be found just behind the market. We climbed to the top and enjoyed the spectacular view of the surrounding market, mosque and mountains. We rounded off our trip with a romantic picnic in nearby Daris, spreading our blanket out next to Falaj Daris, the largest falaj in Oman and also a World Heritage Site. I can think of worse places to eat my strawberries. Okay, by now I had been spoilt enough, my trip to Nizwa had come to an end. We made our way back home happy, full and my husband with a slightly lighter wallet. With my presents safely wrapped up to take home, I was so full of romantic spirit that I even let my husband listen to his choice of music in the car. Now who said romance is dead?
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MUTTRAH The Good, The Bad & The Ugly
For a relatively small space, Muttrah packs a lot in. Aside from the souk, which is essential viewing, there are endless things to do and see, keeping even the most demanding of visitors amused. Parking can be difficult at times and most spaces along the main road are metered – best to keep plenty of loose change handy. As for living here, the choice of accommodation is limited, save for a crop of old traditional houses.
Living There As we’ve already said, it’s not really the first choice for home hunters but those who do opt to live here will be spoilt for choice when it comes to entertainment. There’s sand, sea, shopping and park life on offer here. It might not have the sophistication of neighbouring Qurum but it does have a few aces up its sleeve – a famous Souk, Riyam Park and a gorgeous Corniche. Being so close to the sea is a big plus for anyone who loves water but during those summer months, the humidity can be testing to say the least. 042
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The LowDown Resting between the sea and a protective circle of hills, Muttrah has an almost magical feel about it, blending old and new Oman. Before the discovery of oil, Muttrah was the centre of commerce in Muscat. These days, it is still a commercial district with one of the largest seaports in the region but it’s far better known as a favourite tourist destination for visitors to Oman who are drawn to the romance of the ancient souk, marina and beautiful Corniche stretching around the bay. It’s also where the cruise ships dock on the Oman stop, adding a touch of exotic glamour. It might not be a highly sought after area to live but its vibrancy makes Muttrah a must-see destination for anyone residing in or visiting the country.
It may not be a top choice for residents but there is no place like it for a taste of old Muscat
Cars Why I went there: “It really gives you the feeling of happiness. You can see so many things that are so beautiful, and the smell is wonderful. Everything smells like Frankincense. I bought a pashmina and I keep it in its bag so it won’t lose its smell. Moni Lei, tourist from Costa Rica
Hang Outs There are lots of restaurants and little backstreet cafes to suit every taste and budget. On the list of every visitor’s itinerary should be the Marina Hotel’s penthouse restaurant, Al Bloom, which offers good food and even better views out across the sweep of the Corniche. Where better to take your loved one for a romantic candlelit dinner? Afterwards take a moonlit stroll under the stars with the sound of the sea in your ears. If something more physical is in mind, climb up to the ancient watchtower perched dramatically on a rocky outcrop. The steep 100-step climb is well worth it when you reach the top to see the panoramic vista across the whole of Muttrah. Back on lower ground, wander over to the dhow harbour to check out the age-old craftsmanship used to make these traditional vessels, before having Shisha in one of the seafront coffee shops. Those with a larger budget can treat their sweetheart to dinner at the Al Bustan Palace hotel where luxury comes as standard.
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Places of Interest Where to start? At Muttrah Souk of course. Al Dhalam Souq (Darkness in Arabic) is the local name for perhaps one of the oldest marketplaces in the Arab world, although it now has modern lighting. Also on the agenda should be Muttrah Fish & Vegetable Market. The old fish market, a traditional, smelly gem, has unfortunately been closed to make way for a new state-ofthe-art version currently under construction. In its place is a temporary fish market near Sultan Qaboos Port, where you can still witness the hustle and bustle of a working fish market. Get there early enough (6.30am onwards) and you can witness the fishing boats returning to shore with their catches ready to unload and sell. Choose your dinner, for the freshest fish around, take it to the market and watch as it is cleaned and gutted in front of you. If it’s not romantic enough, head to leafy Riyam Park, which recently played host to Muscat Fashion Week, and take a walk or climb up the stairs to the giant ornamental incense burner and take in the wonderful views of the harbour. Or stroll every inch of the 3km stretch of Muttrah Corniche, lined with pristine gardens, parks and waterfalls. Muttrah Fort, built by the Portuguese in the 1580s, dominates the eastern end of the harbour. It is generally closed to visitors but the flank can be scaled for a great view of the ocean.
Shopping For Valentine presents, engagement rings or love tokens, there is only one place to go. Yes, you guessed it, the souk again. One of Muscat’s most famous shopping experiences still brings in the crowds, desperate for their own little piece of Oman. It recently underwent a bit of a facelift to introduce modern amenities and make shopping a more comfortable experience for tourists. Some might say it has diminished its authenticity and charm but no matter what, it remains a must-see and must-do. The warren-like souk is still the main shopping area for many Omani families’ daily supplies. Wander down side streets with the smell of dried limes and cardamom hanging heavy in the air, where tiny shops sell anything and everything. Bargaining is compulsory. Rummage through shops piled to the ceiling with dusty old Omani silver where you could be lucky and stumble upon a real find. Discover the place with barrels of silver and beads and follow in the footsteps of Kate Moss. The supermodel visited the shop and photos of her trying on the wares take pride of place in the store. Rare Omani antiques, such as silver scrolls and khanjars (traditional daggers) are also on sale. Take time out with a stop at one of the juice bars before plunging back in for more shopping. Or sit back and watch the colourful souk life go on all around. FEB 13 – FEB 19 / ISSUE 257
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Unless you live under a rock, you’ll know that Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. The shops are full of heart-themed things and your pals are already boring you about over-priced restaurant options. If you have a special someone to buy a present for this year, here are some useful items, says Penny Fray. sweet sound You may not be a gold digger but you’ll dig these gold headphones from Nixon. RO55, Harvey Nichols
loud and clear If music be the food of love, play on with these super sleek speakers from Philippe Stark. RO600 www.zikmu.parrot.com
Got it covered With the amount of text flirting you do, your phone deserves to be heart clad. iPhone case by DVF at Harvey Nichols. RO18
love is... Get snappy happy with your sweetie the stylish way. Created by musician will.i.am, iam+ foto sosho turns your regular iPhone into a digital camera with photo filters, image editing, and instant social media upload. It’s a fast, creative and fun way to take and share pictures with those you love. RO180 www.i.am
EDITOR’S PICK What Valentine would be complete without a poem? This penguin book of love poetry can be downloaded on Kindle, taking you on an amazing journey of flirtation, passion, fury, betrayal and broken hearts. Bringing together the greatest love poetry from around the world and through the ages, ranging from W. H. Auden to William Shakespeare, John Donne to Emily Dickinson, Robert Browning to Roger McGough, this latest anthology will delight, comfort and inspire anyone who has ever tasted love – in any of its forms. Available from Amazon RO6
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Kiss and tell Those lips were made for more than kissing – talk to your loved one on this quirky designer phone from The Contemporary Home. RO20
Muscateers are going ga-ga for the Talking Friends apps, and the Android version of this Valentine’s spinoff has already topped 500,000 downloads. This app, available on both Android and iOS, features a mix of template cards and videos starring the feline character Angela. Send to loved ones for free and make them smile.
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Styled by Porsche Design and crafted in a sleek stainless steel with leather, this BlackBerry smartphone is in a league of its own. Browsing becomes a breeze with an enhanced 1.2 GHz processor and 8 GB of memory. Capture photos and video in superb quality with the 5MP digital camera with 4x digital zoom and HD video recording. This innovative model also includes features like BlackBerry Tag which allows you to swap photos, files and contacts with a simple tap of your smartphone and a Wikitude World Browser app which helps you find, identify, access, and forward relevant information instantly. Navigating your way around the Porsche Design P’9981 could not be easier with the full touch screen, and thanks to the wide QWERTY BlackBerry keyboard, typing e-mails or messaging friends is a faster and more streamlined process. JAN FEB 1613 –– 2219 / ISSUE 253 257
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Rolls Royce Phantom Series II Top Speed: 240km/hour 0-100km/h: 5.9 seconds Engine: 6.8L V-12 Horsepower: 453 Starting Price RO185,000
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Rolls-Royce Phantom Series II proves a big hit in the Sultanate
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8-speed automatic gearbox and rear differential adaptive air suspension with automatic four-corner levelling Reverse-opening rear doors 15-speaker 420-watt sound system with an updated satellite navigation system Optional rear climate controls Optional dual-monitor rear entertainment system Optional individual rear power bucket seats Centre console can be used to house drinks cabinet or cool box Optional full-length ‘starlight’ headliner, using hundreds of tiny fibre-optics to create illusion of a star-filled night sky Front, rear and top-view camera system, with cameras positioned in five locations Three new wheel options, including painted, part-polished and polished Redesigned seat trim, chrome controller and larger monitor screen.
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here is probably no greater symbol of opulence than the Rolls-Royce, and sales figures in the Sultanate for the ultraluxury vehicles suggest some folks are rolling in it like never before. The British-made, BMW-owned brand has enjoyed a renaissance in emerging markets and is a global success story amid the UK’s economic gloom. Since its launch in August, sales of the new Phantom II family – Saloon, open-top Drophead Coupe and Coupe – have given Rolls-Royce its best ever year in Oman, with 34 percent growth on 2011. The Phantom Series II was relaunched with some modifications to the classic Rolls-Royce aesthetic, and came with cutting-edge enhancements to the driving experience. It is powered by a 6.8L V-12 engine with 453 horsepower and torque of 531 pounds per foot. The Phantom’s air suspension smooths out the bumps in the road without creating the sensation of floating like many high-end sedans. The interior is a hymn to fine styling and old-world elegance with a hint of science fiction. Wooden mouldings now
accommodate a wider satnav screen, featuring 3D views, satellite images and landscape topography. The screen neatly revolves out of view when not in use. Outside, the Coupé and Drophead Coupé Phantom II feature a single-piece fitting on the grill, which is finished in aluminium or colour-coded, and runs up through the bonnet and windscreen frame. Where the original 2003 Phantom had spot lamps, these have been replaced with rectangular slithers of white light, which Rolls-Royce declared to be the first fully LED light installation on a production car. In recent weeks Rolls-Royce has been putting out teasers and the first glimpses of their 2014 Wraith. The ultra-luxury carmaker aims to deliver the first of the new models by the fourth quarter of this year. The company first used the Wraith nameplate back in 1938 but it is not holding back on the superlatives when it comes to its 21st century reincarnation. Rolls-Royce says the new Wraith “is a breathtaking car that will set a new benchmark in the ultra-luxury segment and will reaffirm the position of RollsRoyce at the absolute pinnacle of automotive luxury.”