With this true story..you canalsoreadsome of theletteri received from this narcissist.
Iknowthatwiththisinformation Iwillbeabletohelp many people whoare searchingfor theirtrueloveonline. So that youdon't wastetimeand energy,and most importantlygetting your heartbroken.
That is exactlywhata narcissistdoes. They areskilledat manipulation.Manynarcissists don'tknowthattheyare themselves.
Theirown thoughts arefirst theselfintheir brains.What makesthemfeel good.It'slikea drug anda dopamine rush in theirbrains.
What others thinkdoesn't matter.Narcissists don'tthink aboutother people's feelings.Theyhavenoempathy.Itis theirego that rules, andiftheyare questioned.Theyoften become irritatedoraggressive. That's aviolation of theirego.Because everything revolves around howtheyfeel.
With this informationand knowledge. Ihaveexperienced this on adatingsite. Anditprobably doesn'treally matterwhich love site youchoose. ButI want to show youletter from this narcissist too.
It canbeverydifficult andvulnerabletounderstand. Narcissistsexpress themselves so differently.
Having said that, Ihopeyou might seesomepatterns to warn youabout.
Luckily,I didn’t have time to fall in truelovefor him.
In everycountry we have narcissists. Or by allmeans toxicpeople. Buthow do we know whotheyare?Or areweall narcissistsmore or less.The answer is yes, andwecan have narcissistsinthe family.Among friends,the boss at work,maybe theirpartner.
And online dating sites, thereare plenty.But who arethe so-called people?I personally think these should be called,self-absorbed egoists.
Butweare alldifferenteventhose let’s saypeople. And wheredowedrawthe line from what we ourselves think? Theman Igot in touchwithinthis dating site,workedasa entrepreneur andmodel. So of course Iwas flatteredwhenhewanted to starttalking to me.
And only me,right?Because howdoeshehavetime to talk to otherwomen,whenhewrote letter. About12lettera day. And whenhestarted write one on thenight too. Then Isaidyou must stop writing this much letter. This is nota healthybehavior.
And theletteratnight time,don’t youeversleep?I have thislikea newspaperevery morning. -But Ilove doing that he said.
Iknewhehad achild, so Ithought he wouldcalm down with allhis letter. And I’ve always been interestedinother people’s wayofthinking. So idecidedtogive hima chance.Hewas nice. He wasn’t aman whowas impulsive. So that suited me well. He justasked me about food,what iliked to eat..and how amodel should think aboutfood. He knew aboutthati wasn’t thick,and iliked healthy food.And therewas nothingspecial about it.
He wasveryinterestedinmykindofclothingi liked, what kind of perfumei liked andso on.Itwasn’ta “red flag” yet, ithough. Butwhenheasked about if i shaving. Oh.. Howi laughed! Ithought this manhas asense of humor.He’sgot to be kidding?
Anotherquestion igot were:
He wonderedifihad aterribleexperienceand what it was. Isaidofcause yes, my father is dead.Thenhe said when he showed awedding suit on acatwalk. Andpeoplethought that thebride washis wife in reality.
Ilaughed but he didn’t understand why.
Iget asmile on my face nowwheni think aboutit. But in reality it’sjustverytragic.
Onething I’ve learned in life,istobepatient in many differentwaysand take it easy.But ihavealsoread and have aexperience, about“relationships” in distance.It’simportant to seta limit when to meet. What category should he bein? It’s hard to understand. Andifyou sawall theletterhewrote.. OMG. what abible,it’simpossible to read allofit. Andhonesti haven’treadthemall.
This manhewrote in fantasies,and daydreamed about me.Hedreamedabout ourfuturetogether in detail.About ourmeeting it wassomuchfantasies.
This manhad alot of questionsabout me.Itwas justaway forhim to writeabout himself.
He didn’treally care what isaid. Iasked himone time -don’t youcareabout my feelings?
I’mtiredonall yoursletternow.
Let’smeet instead in real soon. So let’ssee how it feels.You’vegot thereason youwanttocomeasyou canget time off.Asi understandfromall your letter, youcan take time off easier than yousay.
Writingand havingvideoson adatingsite is onething. Buta real date is needed. You said it yourself,and i’mnot nagging.
Ihavealsoa lifeoutside of this site.But nowhewas annoyed. Stop nagging,i’vetoldyou when iknow.
Nowhewas angry. Calm down isaid.
Honestly idon’t thinkyou’regoing to come here. AndI’vealsooffered to meet in your city.But you arehappy to stay in this online world. No we’re going to meet he said.
-Ithavebeen acouplemonthsand youdon’t need to saya exactlydateorweek.Because this doesn’t work.Otherwise I’mleaving isaid. No,please, ibeg you,..don’t leave me he said.
Ialmost felt sorryfor him.Was itryingtohelphim unknowing? He hadbeenonthe dating site fora very long time.And talkedtoquite afew women. Becauseheneedsthisconfirmation. That he looks good,for himtofeel satisfied probably.
Becausehis self-confides arelow.
Many of thiskindofself-absorbedmen (orwomen ) don’tdaretotakethe plunge. They are“okay” and thinkitfeelssafe. They have people whofeedtheir ego. Andtheydon’t have to seethe person they’re talking to,iftheydon’t want to.
They always need affirmations.And theremoods that fluctuate, So when iasked what hislastname was. At first,heignoredmetoanswer.
Then he gotmad becausei asked.
Thesetypes of narcissists,self-tormentors don’t understand that they need to gethelp. These tragicpeoplecan be dangerous.
And awaste of time.
Ihopethisinformationcan helpsomeone,how a narcissistthinks. Run!
