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Beyond Mars and Venus Dr. John Gray Interviewed by Carmen Harra

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John Gray is the author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. USA Today listed his book as one of the top 10 most influential books of the last quarter-century.

In hardcover, it was the #1 best selling book of the 1990s. Dr. Grayâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s books are translated into approximately 45 languages in more than 100 countries and continues to be a bestseller. Dr. Gray has written over 20 books. His most recent book is Beyond Mars and Venus: new relationship skills for our complex modern world. His Mars/Venus book series has forever changed the way men and women view their relationships. He has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, as well as on The Dr. Oz Show, TODAY, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, and others. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today, and People. He was also the subject of a three-hour special hosted by Barbara Walters. John Gray lives in Northern California, where for 34 years he happily shared his life with his beautiful wife, Bonnie, until her passing in 2018. They have three grown daughters and four grandchildren. He is an avid follower of his own health and relationship advice. OMTimes Magazine | February 2021 Edition

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I'm honored to present our extraordinary interviewee Dr. John Gray. We are all familiar with his book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. In fact, it became the most wellknown and trusted relationship book of all time. The USA Today

Dr. Gray has a most recent book called Beyond Mars and Venus. His approach combines communication Techniques with healthy nutritional choices that create the brain and body chemistry for lasting health, happiness, and romance.

listed this book as one of the top 10 most influential books of the last quarter-century.

You may access his many books, blogs, and free online workshops at www.marsandvenus.com,

But Dr. John Gray did not stop there.

He has written over 20

books translated into 45 languages in more than 100 countries and continue to be best-sellers.

His Mars-Venus

book series has forever changed the way men and women view their relationships.

I admire Dr. Gray not only for his extensive work on relationships and his profound understanding of human nature. I admire him for his unique and unconditional love for his wife and soulmate, Bonnie, so I said to myself, without his permission, I decided to dedicate this interview to his beautiful wife, Bonnie Gray.

Dr. John Gray: I appreciate you dedicating this interview to my wife, Bonnie. Carmen, if you know, Bonnie passed two years ago of cancer. You honor me. You are a special person. I feel love and spiritual energy flowing through you. CARMEN HARRA: Dr. Gray, what inspired you to write your latest book, Beyond Mars and Venus? DR. JOHN GRAY: I will try to keep my answers as short as possible, which is challenging. So, why did I write this new book, Beyond Mars and Venus? It's like re-writing Men Are from Mars and Women Are from Venus 25 years later because Today, many women feel like they're from Mars, male energy.

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As spiritual beings, which happens the more spiritual we become in our lives, the more access we have to connect with our souls. The soul is both masculine and feminine. In this life, it chooses to be male or female, and sometimes if you've been a male for a long time, you say, now I'm going over to the female side. Still, your male side is more manageable, it's more comfortable, and vice versa for men. As a little boy, I must have had many lives as a female because I really understand women so well. As a little boy, I watched my dad shave, and I'd go, oh, my God, how will I ever do that. I don't know if I can do that, and then when I realized you had to work for money to have a life, I thought, how can I do that? I didn't yet have the training in how to be a man, but it takes practice, and if you don't have that, it makes it easier for men to go to their female energy. Actually, we know Today that women, when they're stressed, make more male hormones. They're not making the female hormones necessary for the body to come back into equilibrium and happiness. When men are angry or sad, or passive, irritable, grumpy, or lose their libido, their male hormone, Testosterone, is deficient. Their female hormone, Estrogen, is very high. Simply put, we are now a society that's pretty much-experiencing role reversal. Men have lower male energy; women have higher male energy. Men have more female energy, which means female energy is feeling dependent on others to be happy. If you think about women throughout history, they depend on a man to protect them and provide them to do the things in the home. Women don't rely on men and don't know what they can depend on men for. Often women say, "Getting married, why? It's like having another child. I've got two". And men become like a child. They become passive, and you have to take care of them. That's OK if you're cooking for your husband or cleaning up after him if you felt he was doing something difficult or dangerous so that you would have food on the table and safety. But when your husband is just watching video games, it's not that thrilling.

America is based upon the idea we want freedom and equality. So, the male part of us wants freedom, the female part of us wants intimacy, and women can smoothly go to their male side. It feels so good because they're free from the bounds of just being in the home and doing nurturing and intimate things like that. They have a balance. If I don't have to work for men, I can do more enjoyable jobs, then I go to my female side. There are so many things like drugs, I can depend on them. Dependency becomes an addiction, and for men, you have so much more addiction in men than women. Actually, women do have an addiction where they're addicted to their male side. You can't relax. You're on the go all the time. Must do, must do. That's a woman's brain Today. She tends to be addicted to feeling overwhelmed to doing, and that's her male energy. Men get addicted to their female energy sitting in front of a TV set, watching a game, and drinking a beer. Biologically, what's happening for men is their Estrogen levels are rising as they get older, and their Testosterone levels are going down.

It doesn't have to be that way. Nature is such that our Estrogen, as men, our female energy will increase as we get older, but it shouldn't have to mean that our male energy goes down. That's the thing. Like most men, I have a high Estrogen level, almost 70 years old, but my Testosterone is like a young 25-year-old. So, I have both those hormones, which are not common Today, but it was expected a long time ago. We have changed, and in the last 30 years, we've changed a lot.

A man's sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results. As women have become more independent, it's hard for them not to be overwhelmed and turn off the brain. It's hard for men to feel the kind of motivation and selflessness men used to feel when they'd go off to battle. CARMEN HARRA: All of these changes have a lot to do with how we express ourselves. Have a lot to do with the hormonal changes. It is challenging to balance everything in the brain with neurotransmitters and hormones. You put it in a way we can rethink what's happening to us in a way we never did before.

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DR. JOHN GRAY: These are new ways of thinking. You know why they do. It's because we're facing a new challenge that's never happened before on a large scale and this massive opportunity with every new challenge. Still, there's also an enormous risk if you don't adapt, and I'm trying to help people adapt to these changes, so they thrive. CARMEN HARRA: So they thrive, and how do you feel that this psychological and emotional evolution and hormonal transformation is actually going to affect love relationships with people? DR. JOHN GRAY: So now I speak a little biology. What happens in the body is that there's an imbalance going on. It has two primary causes, maybe three significant reasons. Let me talk about the first two. One is I feel that in the '60s, there was a spiritual revolution. I was a child of the '60s. I grew long hair, and I wanted to get high, learned to meditate, I'd demonstrate for peace, I didn't want to go to Vietnam. The women during the '60s were all out there going free sex, and let's change the world, let's run the companies, we're all going to become CEOs and break the glass ceiling, and they were thrilled. It was like we were roused. Women were inspired to become free, to be their masculine side, and men were so excited to be free, go on to their female side and enjoy life more. Love, peace, happiness, learn to meditate. That was the whole thing. So it's just my experience. One day I was meditating, and it wasn't like an internal talking to me, that happens all the time, but literally, a voice spoke out loud to me. It just seemed so loud and so unusual. It said, "Hi John." That was it.

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Whatever we're going to call that voice, if it was the perfect balance of powerful masculinity or something else. Something you could trust and depend on and just were inspired to be next to and so much feminine love and caring. It was so loving and beautiful. How both those things could co-exist, and then I realized, wow, as we become more spiritual, we become one with a masculine and feminine spirit.

So I feel an essential shift has happened. You know, often people in a kind of newage community, whatever, talk about ascension. I think we ascended then and ascended to a part of our brain that can self-reflect and embrace both our male and female sides. Think of a pendulum going from one direction to another. You've been way over on the female side. As you're moving to the male side, that Centerpoint is the magic place where we connect with our divine self, both masculine and feminine.

Another thing happened simultaneously: Monsanto came along and created these potent, powerful pesticides that are basically called Xenoestrogens. They come into your body, these pesticides in our food. They started in the '90s.

Still, we're happiest when we give if we have an open heart that says I have received so much that I want to give back. If you give to get, it doesn't make female hormones. CARMEN HARRA: Exactly. This changes the way we function, the way we think, and how we will evolve in the future. Is the question all of this is going to affect the evolution of relationships long term? DR. JOHN GRAY: Here's the evolution of relationships. I'll give you an example. Right now, I'm in a flow state. Talking to you, I went into an even higher state of flow state where the divine flowed through me because of your presence and our oneness. You're giving and receiving at the same time. It's a little bit like what parenting helps us learn to do: when you give to your children, you're giving it to yourself. You get that oneness with them. It goes to a higher flow state when you can give to others that are not your children and connect with them, and it's giving to yourself.

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So that's a fascinating metaphor for looking at it. On a spiritual level, we've ascended. We have permission, freedom within ourselves if we use that freedom. Not everybody uses that. You can swing from one side, and you can go to the other.

When these pesticides get into the food, they touch the body. Inside the body, we eat them and these pesticides, the body doesn't know what to do with them. They bind with estrogen receptor sites and message the brain that you have plenty of female hormones. So, for a woman, if she has plenty of female hormones, then she naturally goes to the male side to balance it. So just being exposed to pesticides causes women to become more masculine. It's also proven that pesticides lower Testosterone in males. It raises Testosterone in women because we're like complements to each other.

Most people don't have the skills to do that, so it's happening in this role reversal. So that's one explanation of why role reversal kills passion. We're no longer connected to that part of us that needs each other and is different from each other. It's the differences that create a connection. Our Similarities create connections. And our Differences create attraction, So there's a dance. Back to your question, what's the evolution of relationships? If people could experience growing in love and passion, they would realize that the only way to get to that place is through commitment and marriage. I'll share a quick little story. I travel and teach seminars, and I was becoming more and more famous then. I went away to Iowa, and someone invited me to give a seminar there. Evidently, it was at some wealthy woman's house, and I thought, well, that's fine. The conference was over, and I was going to bed and, wearing sexy lingerie, she came into my bedroom and wanted to have sex with me. Well, I'm in a monogamous relationship. This had never happened to me. I'm not like some rich, famous guy that women want to jump in bed with, but suddenly I'd become one. Anyway, I did not have sex with her, and I went home, and I told Bonnie. I said, "Bonnie, there was this woman, and she came into my room, and I was away, and you know how much I enjoy sex with you. I could actually have enjoyed sex with her, and it would just have been a joyful experience, and it doesn't mean I don't love you. Would you give me permission to do that?"

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She said, "John, I'm not in control of you, but I want you to know how it makes me feel, and whether these feelings are right or wrong, I don't know. All I know is that if I thought that when you travel to other places and a woman wanted to have sex with you, my heart would just close down. I would be so afraid of losing you to a younger, more beautiful woman, and I just don't feel like I could grow in loving you, and it's hard enough for me to trust because of my own issues. To grow in love, I need that from you." So I said, "OK, then you have it." I just needed a logical reason to do it, and clearly, that was her experience. Now, there's a truth to that. We know that many men can grow in power if they're successful, making them more attractive to women.

If they're young and beautiful, women can attract men, and women know as they get older they lose some of that power unless they know their real power, which we can get to, but most women don't know that. So, there's always a threat that I could lose him, but there's even something more that I discovered through monogamy. The second thing I learned by being monogamous with my wife is that I bonded with her more. The more you know somebody, the more deeply you can go into sex and enjoy that passion. What happens is many men go, oh, you give up your freedom, and I said no, you don't understand. When you learn how to have a good relationship, open-hearted sex, your intimate moments are open-hearted. What happens is that you bond so profoundly that to bond with somebody else would be eating junk food. For me, there was this realization that I didn't give up any freedom.

Part of that came from the recognition that the purpose of sex for a man is he thinks it's just sex and pleasure and so forth, but I learned early on that the purpose of sex for men is to feel the deep love in their hearts. Sex can open a man's heart up more than anything in most cases because sex by its nature is estrogen-producing. As long as you feel successful and know how to do it, your wife thinks you're successful as a husband. Your testosterone levels go to higher levels at that time than at any other time. So what happens is that by having a monogamous relationship, you can go to higher and higher levels of sexual fulfillment because the love increases. When you just meet somebody, whatever, there's a sense of newness that creates a passion, but that newness always goes away. In previous generations, people accepted that. They said that's the honeymoon period. It goes away.

OMTimes Magazine | February 2021 Edition People Today want to have that fantastic, intimate experience of masculinefeminine energies being activated together. We call that romance and passion. The men might call it out of your mind sex, OK, fantastic sex. If it's so incredible, why would I want to think about it with somebody else?

" I remember one of my single guys saying, "Once a week? You know, I'm having sex three times a day with my girlfriend." I said, "Yes, how many weeks is this relationship going to last? Show me 34 years of great sex." What I didn't know then is that I just said I'm going to follow my own intuition here and do what feels natural to me. I'm not going to force it.

So what happened is now the Japanese have done a study, and they've proven that when you have sex once a week, that means when you have sex with I wrote a book called Mars men, they ejaculate. After men have Venus in the Bedroom. I ejaculated in sex, their testosterone couldn't put this in the levels and male energy are cut in half. book because I didn't have This is measurable. That is kind of like the research. Still, Bonnie Saturday night sex, and then Sunday and I have practiced, morning we're going to sit at church, or generally speaking, we only we're going to watch the football game. had sex once a week. I didn't know why because there was pressure on me as a relationship expert. People always say, "How much sex do you have?" If I said "Once a week," they'd say, "Only once a week?"

He will double, and he becomes the man who can make passionate love to his wife. We now know that when a man's testosterone levels double, it dramatically increases a woman's estrogen levels so that she can open her heart. Isn't that amazing? Have that scientists showed that? CARMEN HARRA: It's just amazing. This is the most fantastic thing I've heard in a long time. I had no idea.

DR. JOHN GRAY: Now we have a scientific reason We're not going to do much. Men's for monogamy. Biology energy drops, and anybody who's is actually built for married has seen that. So the energy monogamy. Everybody level drops in a man afterward. What talks about how men's biologically happens his Testosterone biology is not made for went down 50% from where it was on monogamy. Actually, it Saturday evening. Now, if he doesn't is. People talk about ejaculate for six days, on the seventh that, but nobody day when he wakes up, his testosterone understands what I'm levels will be twice as high. about to explain.

When a man has sex with a woman who doesn't love him, his Testosterone will go down 50%, and he will crave to be in another sexual experience as quickly as possible. If sex produces so much dopamine, it's like taking a hit of cocaine or eating an Oreo Cookie. Try eating one. That's the nature of a high hit of dopamine. It goes up, and then it goes down, and you want it again and again and again. However, if a man makes love â&#x20AC;&#x201C; this has been tested by the Italians â&#x20AC;&#x201C; if a man has sex with a woman that he knows, that he's married to and loves him, that man's Testosterone goes down like other men. Still, another hormone gets produced, and that hormone is called prolactin. Prolactin inhibits his sexual desire for six days until his testosterone levels double. He's now super-attracted to his wife again.

We have a conditioned response, which you're very familiar with. Still, for everybody else, the conditioned response is called the Pavlovian response. To a great extent, everything is conditioned responses until, by the way, we're in a stress-free state. We have to change the behavior based on the response, and we grow new neural pathways in the brain. We have the ability as humans to recondition ourselves and be free of the conditioning of previous generations, but that takes awareness and work. CARMEN HARRA: I feel that this is different from individual to individual because people have different hormone levels. DR. JOHN GRAY: Now, here's the next thing when it comes to despair that I love talking about, and that is Freud explained this idea and, boy, did I experience it more profoundly when I lost Bonnie. He calls it a 'need integrate.' Are you familiar with that term? CARMEN HARRA: Yes.

So, it is built in to be monogamous, but only monogamous with a woman who loves you.

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If a man feels loved in sex, his body will make this hormone prolactin, and prolactin is generally only produced by women when they're breast-feeding. So, it's a female hormone, but when a man has sex with his wife, who loves him, he will produce prolactin. Prolactin has the effect of lowering your sexual desire for six days. So amazing. Then on the seventh day, it doubles, though if you have sex once a week in having sex that satisfies her, now that's another aspect of all of this.

DR. JOHN GRAY: Most people are not, so let me explain it to most people. A 'need integrate' means that we all have conscious awareness or an unconscious awareness that we need love. We need nurturing, we need someone to care, we need to feel understood, we need to feel appreciated, we need to feel trusted. These are all forms of love. We need that, we require that, and the more we're no longer in a realm of survival that needs becomes more vigorous, as I mentioned before. We simplify by saying our need for love. A 'need integrate' that Freud explained was that "I need love," and now Bonnie gives me love. I can depend on Bonnie to love me.

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The brain goes through a change. The brain is plastic. It reorganizes itself, and it shifts gears from I need love to I to need Bonnie, and if Bonnie dies, that monkey brain inside of me is bonded to her. You see, I don't need love. I need her. So, if she's gone, then I can't have what I need, and that's the pain that we go through until we reorganize the brain to experience that in the absence of Bonnie. No, it's a very, very big processâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;a massive operation. Men and women do it differently. That will be another book that I can write, because often everybody wanted to come and talk to me, whatever. I needed to be in my cave because I process my stress as a man, but I needed to know how to process that pain and most men are not adept at it. So, you'll see men, more than women, commit suicide after the death of a spouse or even after an emotional breakup. It can be so painful. Maybe for some, it's not as painful as they tend to solve the problem by getting in a relationship right away. The average is on a divorce â&#x20AC;&#x201C; I don't know what the standards are on death, but I know that a man will be married in three years on the average of divorce. A woman may never marry again, or it will be nine years before she's ready. Because women, the female side, it bonds more profoundly because bonding is a big estrogen thing. Therefore, one of the simple, practical tools for any of the guys listening. You have to realize something Bonnie told me for years, I finally got it because women have a greater need for reassurance.

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Now, men require reassurance that they don't realize. What we need is what often women might say 'stroke his ego,' but he's looking for reassurance that you see him as a successful male. Celebrate the depth of our love and continue finding that love. You know, I remember once watching a movie of a guy who'd been in jail for a murder rap, and finally, they found out he was innocent. After 32 years of being a hardened person in prison, he got out of jail, and some woman took compassion on him and had sex with him. They didn't end up falling in love, or whatever. She was just being kind, cutting his hair, and she realized what he'd been through, and they ended up having sex. This scene showed you could only see his heart.

It was like the emotional pain, tears, and agony, at the same time pleasure, came forth because he felt again. If you go way, way over to the male side where you're not having a sense of purpose, you can stop feeling anything. You just detach from feelings altogether. So, here he was feeling again, and feeling all the pain he had suppressed was coming up. This is often why when women have orgasms, they will cry, and guys go why you are crying. She says I'm crying tears of joy, but actually, it's letting go of those deep fears of being alone that can happen. CARMEN HARRA: I want to remind everyone; we have a free course that Dr. Gray is offering to the OMTimes Readers. It's called How to Get Everything You Want in Relationships for Women, Men, Couples, and Singles. To access the free course, go to www.marsvenus.com/welcome-start-here. So, this is the way you access this fantastic course

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Health & Wellness Innovative new approaches to Healing as well as holistic methods for dealing with health issues and personal growth

Why You Should Never Lose Hope In Dealing With Your Mental Health Issues By: Stan Popovich

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struggled with fear and anxiety

In time, I became better able to

for over 20 years, and there were

deal with my fears and anxieties.

times I felt like giving up.

Whenever I encountered a fearful and anxiety-related situation, I would

During these times, my anxieties

apply the techniques I learned from

and fears were so powerful that I had

the professionals and my research.

trouble getting through the week. It was very tough; however, I did not lose

Instead of looking at my struggles as

hope.

a problem, I looked at each situation

DISCOVERING EFFECTIVE TECHNIQUES IN OVERCOMING FEAR

as a learning experience. For example, I remembered when I first learned to ice skate. In the beginning, I fell down all the time,

To get through those difficult times,

but I kept getting back up even

the first thing I did was admit that I

though it was challenging. Over time,

had a problem. I then took steps to

I did not fall as much, and eventually,

find a mental health counselor who

I was able to skate without falling

could help me with my situation. I also

down.

made an effort to learn as much as I could in dealing with fear and anxiety by reading many books and doing a lot of personal research. I knew that the answers I was looking for were out there and all I had to do was make an effort to find them. Over time, I became deeply knowledgeable on dealing with fear and anxiety, which helped me in the long run.

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It was very tough and scary dealing

thoughts, which told me that I would

with my anxieties. However, I made an

not make it.

effort to determine which techniques worked for me. I would then write

I also realized that you can’t predict

down this information in a small

the future. A person maybe 99%

notebook.

correct in predicting the future, but all it takes is 1% to make a difference.

The next time I encountered a

You can’t expect or anticipate

similar situation, I was better able to

factors and circumstances that can

deal with my anxieties by reading

make the difference in your current

my notes. This prevented me from

situation.

repeating the same mistakes I made in the past.

IN SUMMARY

ASKING GOD FOR HELP

The key is not to give up and to seek help from professionals. You are

Praying and asking God for help was a

not alone when it comes to your

tremendous asset in getting through

mental health challenges. There

my challenges. I was able to manage

are many support groups in your

my anxieties and fears by using the

area where you can get assistance

Grace of God. Including God in my

and meet others who can relate to

life gave me the hope and the faith to

your circumstances. Your situation

continue on during my mental health

is not hopeless. By making the right

struggles. Never underestimate the

decisions, you will eventually be able

power of God when it comes to your

to get your life back on track.

mental health issues. Stan Popovich is the author of

HOW I GOT THROUGH EACH WEEK

the popular managing fear book, “A Layman’s Guide To Managing Fear.” For more information

Whenever I struggled with my fear

about Stan’s book and to get

and anxiety, I made it a habit to take

some free mental health advice,

things one day at a time. I made

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Simply Spiritual To perceive reality from a different perspective is to open oneself to the wonders and unlimited wealth of creation. Simply Spiritual offers the opportunity to visit new places, new methods, and different ways to perceive the vast human knowledge of our Universe.

The Purpose of Living By Dashan Goswami, M.S., P.E.

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he Purpose of life is what

While we mortals just try to live day-

you want to make out of

to-day, the eternal Purpose of Life

it. Each of us has a unique

still eludes us. All our considering,

purpose in life, and our

technology and sophistication yet

happiness, growth, and success

haven't solved the fundamental

lie in its realization. As humans,

riddle posed by two indelible human

this purpose is to understand our

existence facts—Life and Death. In

relationship to a broader reality

this article, I will attempt to share with

than our own — God-realization and

you my thoughts on the Purpose of

realization of one's True Nature as

living.

Pure Consciousness. We were all created to be happy and Have you ever asked yourself?

have purposeful lives. As human

• Who am I?

beings, we are blessed with a brain

• Why am I here?

and conscience; and so can decide

• What is my purpose in life?

what we want to make of our lives.

• Is life more than just a brief period

Often, a purpose is imposed on an individual by family, culture,

on earth?

government, or even individuals Such questions have baffled the

who seek to control others for their

greatest thinkers and philosophers

own satisfaction. We strive to learn

down through the ages. Living, in

the Purpose of our lives here on

itself, is not enough. Life, in itself, is

earth. We must remember that

not the goal.

true fulfillment is not found in our outward achievements but in what

Most of us are so busy and caught up in day-to-day existence that we do not have time to think about the Purpose of Living. It seems that our lives revolve around daily routines and worldly demands rather than striving for fulfillment. Religions preach about real Purpose, and philosophers have pondered the mystery for centuries.

we accomplish within ourselves.

WHY WOULD I WANT TO KNOW MY PURPOSE? What would you like to ask the Supreme Being if you could get a direct and immediate answer? A poll in USA Today reports that the

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#1 question people would like to ask

driven people experience more

God is "What's my purpose of Living?"

contentment and have more success

According to Swami Rama, "A human

and financial rewards than most

being is a citizen of two worlds. The

other people. By taking the time to

world within and the world without

understand your purpose in life, you'll

are two entirely separate realities.

have more satisfaction and more

The external world dissipates energy,

energy and focus on achieving that

but the internal world showers

purpose. Until you find your Purpose

blessings that fill the world's vacuum.

and begin fulfilling it, you will never

Conquering the inner world is more

be pleased.

difficult than succeeding in the kingdom of life in the external world."

WHERE DO I BEGIN TO FIND MY PURPOSE?

Knowing your true Purpose leads to real joy, satisfaction, and happiness

My incentive for knowing/finding my

as you strive to fulfill your dream life.

Purpose lies in my own future. My

Studies have shown that purpose-

most satisfaction would be to look

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back on my life and know that I gave

if I made enough money, I would be

my all unselfishly to make a difference

happy and fulfilled. But it didn't work

in the lives of those less fortunate.

out that way. The more I followed the

Nothing could be more important

path of material possessions, the less

than finding and fulfilling my life's

satisfied I became. Consequently, I

purpose from this point of view.

no longer believe that materialism is the way to true fulfillment. I have

But how and where can the Purpose

learned that God will give you what

for your life be discovered? Our

you want, making future steps more

jobs, daily responsibilities, or even

comfortable and more transparent

long-term goals are not the true

if you understand your Purpose and

Purpose, the real reason why we're

practice it in your daily living.

here on earth. I believe that our

Many people believe that you have to

most fundamental human desire

give up all your worldly possessions

is happiness. I also thought that

and devote all your time to helping

happiness could be achieved through

others, without regard for your own

material possessions. I presumed that

wants and needs. While such self-

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sacrifice may be admirable, the most important thing to understand is that

HOW TO FIND YOUR PURPOSE?

your Supreme Purpose cannot be found by searching outside yourself.

To discover real Purpose, one must

To find your Purpose, you need

first empty the mind of all the false

to search within yourself. Various

intentions acquired in daily living.

meditation methods can help you

We must understand that, while our

to "look within" and realize your real

present life and body will come to

purpose.

an end, whatever we do during our OM TIMES | February 2021

life influences our ultimate future.

Accepting death will help realize

According to Eastern teachings,

that life is temporary, a journey of

death is not the end of life. At

learning and growth that culminates

death, we acquire a new body based

in understanding that God, or the

on our previous activities (karma)

eternal Reality, is within you. Without

and desires, being reincarnated

this awareness, our Purpose remains

as any of the 8.4 million species

shrouded by body consciousness and

of life on any planet within the

ignorance, believing that life has no

universe. This cycle of birth, death,

ultimate goal or meaning. But, as soon

and transmigration continues

as we turn our attention back to God,

indefinitely. There is an exceptional

this illusion is removed, and we are

opportunity in this cycle for humans

free from fear. However, achieving this

because we are endowed with

level of enlightenment is an arduous

intelligence to inquire into the real

journey that must begin by examining

purpose of life. Unless this milestone

the inward self. Even Buddha spent

is reached, life is in vain.

years in solitude before realizing his Purpose, and Jesus went off into the

We are eternal living beings - we are not this body but an immortal spirit soul. While the body will die,

desert to discover the truth.

CONCLUSION

our real self, the spirit soul, will never succumb to death. The body

Finding the true purpose of life

is merely a temporary vessel. When

begins by understanding our real

it becomes old or useless, the soul

nature, transferring our earthly

takes on a new body, much like

desires to spiritual, and turning our

changing clothes. Some view the

attention back to God. When we re-

prospect of death and changing

establish contact with God, even

bodies as unnatural, unpleasant,

ordinary activities and relationships

and depressing. The notion fails to

we pursue take on new meaning

consider that the unpleasantness of

and significance, no longer being

birth, death, diseases, old age, and

temporary or illusionary. Ultimately,

other miseries of this world are due

it will enable us to go back to our

to forgetting our real spiritual nature

eternal home. There we can forever

and relationship with God.

engage in blissful loving service to OM TIMES | February 2021

the Supreme Lord without being

live by is important, critical even, to

subjected to the stringent laws of

personal satisfaction and happiness.

birth, death, old age, disease, and Creating a purposeful life begins with

suffering.

changing your attitude and thoughts. Being human is a precious gift.

Give thanks to God for what you have

Finding real Purpose makes life

and, most of all, enjoy it! When you

more enjoyable. More importantly,

live life with Purpose, giving to others

the mind and spirit are infused

without expecting anything in return,

with a mission and a direction. This

prosperity will result. It took me a while

Purpose attracts and causes more

to grasp this concept. But now, doing

opportunities for fulfillment and

things for others unselfishly gives me

enjoyment. Choosing a purpose to

pure joy and true inner happiness.

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Now let me tell you a secret of true

great spirits, and leave this world in

happiness. When you wake up each

peace. All of us have been blessed

day, recite a little prayer of gratitude

with precious gifts by God. What really

to the Lord for the immense pleasures

matters is what we do with these gifts

of life and the opportunity to be of

during our lifetime. Ask yourself a

unselfish service to others. By doing

simple question, what are you doing

so, your subconscious mind picks up

to help others? If you have found your

the positive feeling and energy, and

Purpose, you will discover the answer

you will realize the Purpose of your life.

(as I have) that the more you share

When you recognize your Purpose, you

your gifts unselfishly; God will shower

see things more positively. This insight

you with more skills in return.

releases tremendous amounts of positive vibrations that, in turn, attract more positive energy. It all starts when you focus on your life's real purpose, to liberate the soul and get redemption from the cycle of death and rebirth. Meditation is an extremely effective way of learning your real Purpose. Finally, life's purpose is to serve others, realize the truth (Self), and believe in Supreme Power. It is for these that this human life and this human birth have been received. Being human has given you a golden opportunity. Make the best use of it. When you are connected to your spiritual purpose, your life becomes more comfortable, satisfying, and rewarding. Be generous and give yourself away and serve humanity unselfishly. Live consciously and courageously, resonate with love and compassion to awaken others'

Darshan Goswami has more than 40 years of experience in the energy field. He worked as a Project Manager for Renewable Energy, Micro-grid, and Smart Grid projects at the United States Department of Energy (DOE) in Pittsburgh. Earlier, he was a Chief of Renewable Energy at the United States Department of Agriculture (USDA) in Washington, DC. Mr. Goswami is a registered professional electrical engineer with a passion and commitment to promote, develop, and deploy Renewable Energy and the Hydrogen Economy. In dedication to his life serving humanity and poor people, the author supports India Foundation for Children Education and Care, Inc. (www.ifcare.org).

OM TIMES | February 2021

Yoga Nidrathe Sleep Kriya

leep is a moment of

thoughts. Sleep resets our minds.

rejuvenation and the space of

The quality of sleep matters and is

timelessness to incubate our

directly proportional to the well-

minds. Yogic sleep empowers

being of our mind and body.

the mind to expand in Consciousness. For a Yogi, sleep is a sacred moment. Sleep quality affects the quality

The vaster Consciousness is expanded.

of our mindâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s abilities to perceive,

The deeper the rest, and lesser the

remember and produce optimal

time needed to sleep.

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Yogic deep sleep has no dreams. Time

came to see Ayya were served Ayya’s

condenses, requiring the shorter time

tea. He seldom spoke to anyone other

of needed rest. Upon awakening from

than his helpers. After two hours, the

a yogic sleep, it should feel a brand-

helpers would again close up the cave

new moment filled in optimism, mind

entrance so Ayya to enter back into his

supercharged, body healed, and each

solitude until the next day.

thought from clarity. I spent my time sitting outside the Turiya is the attainment of yoga.

cave through the night, wanting

Superconscious states of mind.

to absorb his meditative energies. Through the night, I heard Ayya

Yogis who master Consciousness can

speaking to the Divine. Sometimes he

condense sleep to the extent of going

would burst into ecstasy singing. He

beyond “sleep,” the state of turiya,

was in a vortex of powerful energies-

called the sleepless rest.

in states of perpetual overflowing joy. It was now easy to understand

My experience of the states of

how Ayya had transcended sleep- he

turiya was with my Guru Ayya, who

was in the realms of turiya, the super

meditated atop near the peak of

consciousness state of mind. It was

Arunachala mountain. He drank a

this sublime ecstasy experience that

glass of milk a day, never moved,

inspired me to create my music, Turiya

and he never slept. I would climb

Nada. To know the conditions of turiya

up the mountain to be near his

is to understand the three states of

cave enclosure through the night to

mind- sleep, dream, and awake- as an

meditate. At the beginning of my need

observer. Sleep and mastery of sleep is

to sit near Ayya was my curiosity. What

the vital element in the attainment of

made Ayya love his solitude and inner

states of turiya.

journey so much that it made him cut off entirely from the external world and

My quest to learn more about sleep

journey within? Once a day, early in the

made me eager to ask enlightened

morning, his devotees would remove

Masters. In my pilgrimages during my

thorn bushes that blocked Ayya’s cave

years, seeking my Light within through

entrance, and Ayya would start a fire

solitude was another of my Gurus,

to make herbal tea. All pilgrims who

Siddha Maha Siva Swamy. Maha Siva

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Swamy lived in a forest shrine of Nambi

me.â&#x20AC;? I did not tell him how that old

Hills, a tiger sanctuary all by himself.

tiger could have become a maneater.

I enjoyed every moment with him as

I felt safe with him knowing he

he was alright taking my questions,

must have the higher vibrations

and he would answer me. I remember

safeguarding him.

walking with him through the jungle to reach Nambi Hills. It felt eerie initially.

When we reached this sacred shrine

It felt unsafe as I knew this was a tiger

after a five-mile walk through the

sanctuary, and only a few would walk

forest, we bathed in the sacred jungle

into this forest. I asked him if he ever

stream and did our puja (worship)

felt afraid walking in this forest all by

in the evening. As night time came,

himself, mentioning how frightened

I told Maha Siva Swamy I needed to

he should be of the tigers. He smiled

learn how to sleep. I had watched

at me and said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Tigers walk away from

him enter into samadhi many times,

human sensing us. But some tigers

with ease. Any time he entered into

are too old. One old tiger would sit over

samadhi, the whole area around him

there and roar. Its roar was so weak,

would buzz in Light. I was sure that if

unlike others. But they never will harm

he could enter into samadhi with so

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much ease and meditate through days

I heard was his snoring. He was fast

and nights, he must have mastered the

asleep in another world. Soon I fell

art of sleep.

asleep too.

We lay side by side near the ancient

What I learned from these ultimate

Temple entrance on the ground with

moments with Guru Ayya and Guru

cloth underneath me. He did not need

Maha Siva Swamy the mind in its

anything underneath him. I asked him

journey. The mind in its states of being

what he was doing with his breath

awake, sleep, and realms beyond sleep

and how he was preparing his mind

are states of Consciousness. These

for sleep. He said, ” Go into the mantra

Yogis had mastered Consciousness

fires. Surrender your breath. Descend

itself by being able to enter the

into your heart. Fall asleep there.” I

sleepless sleep realms of Turiya. Ever

spent the next few minutes trying

since, I have delved deep to make

what he told me. A few minutes later,

sense of sleep to understand sleep as

I was ready to ask the following few

a tool of wellbeing, an instrument to

questions. I said, “Swamy, now that I

intense meditation, and a proponent to

am in my heart, now what?”… and all

enhance the mind’s clarity.

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PRACTICAL STEPS TO YOGIC

Water as energy cleanses away

SLEEP-YOGA NIDRA

unwanted thoughts.

Through the day, attain, maintain

Do gentle stretches or yin yoga before

and generate ease of mind. Do

bed if feeling unable to cope with

yoga, meditate & do pranayama or

stress or worries. The best yoga always

run, play basketball or walk. Doing

happens when our mind is low. Yoga

physical activities does tune the

helps us come back into our bodies.

mind into a long-lasting meditative

Meditate using mantra chants.

experience.

Even if for just 5 minutes. Make this moment a time of prayer. All the reality

Doing puja (worship of the Divine)

experiences; thoughts, anxieties, needs,

or prayers help to set the mind in a

wish, fear- and emotions; surrender

meditative state through the day.

into the mantra fires. Let go of realities

Prayers allow us to discard worries,

to the Divine Source God. No realities

anxieties & stress.

belonged to us before birth. Now in sleep, consider it the moment of death

Every breath enters our core of

when all of the realities are surrendered

harmony within retention- with

to Source God.

mindfulness & awareness. Being in a continuous meditative state

THE PROCESS:

throughout the day nourishes the mind that requires less time to

Select Consciousness expanding books.

revitalize. The meditative mind works

Set a habit to read before sleeping

for sleeping effectively.

every day. Reading conscious books imprints the mind with good thoughts.

Set a daily time to shut down our work and prepare for bed.

Lay down on the bed, turning over to

Scheduling and setting a daily time

the left side. Use pillows or elbows as

helps the mind subconsciously tune

props and start reading the book. Be

into the sleep ready mode.

aware of the right breath that gains predominance as we rest our body on

Just before getting to bed, shower,

the left. We are tapping into the moon

bathe, or wash our face & forehead.

energies of breath that activates sleep.

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Sleep will come soon, especially if the

– Upon waking up, the first thoughts

book is philosophical in nature. Chase

on arising out of sleep are reaching

sleep away by wanting to read more.

out to the mantra recitation and

Affirm for ourselves that the night is

connecting our mind to Source God.

young, and we have all night to read.

Our first thoughts, “Please, God

Sleep will come as a threatening lion

Source, give me the right thoughts.”

or a cute puppy wanting to be held.

Our first prayers- rub both the palms

Chase it away! Close eyes a minute

thinking of our Mother as our left

when sleepiness gets heavy. And start

palm and our Father as our right

reading again.

palm in gratefulness. Feel every cell in our body grateful to our Mother

– Now we are ready to sleep. Put away the book. Flip over to the right

& Father. Place it over our eyelids in Gratitude.

side. Start reciting a mantra that makes us feel connected to Source

Let gratefulness be our vibrancy gifted

God. Enter the heart like allowing

by the depth of our sleep. We are now

ourselves to float away into the

the vibrancies that align and manifest

womb of Light.

all that our heart intends.

– Step into timelessness of sleep like

Gratitude is given to our Beloved Sleep

meditation. The mind flows into

Goddess, whose gifts bring our mind

states of deep sleep where dream

the grandness of our Now.

occurrence is rare. With practice, in this womb state, we gradually

Interesting observations of yogic sleep:

activate more awareness of the

In the depth of sleep, there are no

mantra vibration of our unconscious

dreams. Sleep is like death.

mind connected to Source God. In this sleep, our mind is incubated like

Sleeping hours reduce.

a caterpillar turning to be a butterfly. We transform our humans into

Wake up feeling like we slept ‘hundred

Angelic. This yogic sleep reduces in

years.’

time due to its depth and intensity and ability to serve the mind and

Wake up with a mind that is crystal

body in rejuvenation.

clear. OM TIMES | February 2021

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Why Use Homeopathy to Treat Animals? By Ministry Earth

ver the past few decades,

more fans when it comes to animals'

homeopathy for animals

treatment. This is so, even amid

has become increasingly

different myths and the disbelief

used to cure diseases and

that exists on many pet owners.

common problems.

The Homeopathic protocol is the most natural way to relieve and cure

As in the human medication market,

symptoms in dogs and cats. It continues

homeopathy is gaining more and

to grow in popularity worldwide.

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The principles and laws that

possible relapses recurrences of

determine veterinary homeopathy

complications.

are the same laws as those applied to human homeopathy. They are the

One of the most significant advantages

same implementation in practice

of this type of medication is that

saved some specificities.

homeopathic products for animals produce very few or no side effects in

Homeopathic medication is

the vast majority of cases. Unlike most

prescribed to a sick animal

chemical medications, which can

considering their individual

trigger discomfort in pets and even

characteristics and symptoms.

worsen a disease situation before it begins to be eradicated.

With Homeopathy, we focus on improving health and preventing

Therefore, identifying the essential

disease more than merely treating it.

elements of the animal's "personality" within the same species or race is

Plants and minerals are the main

a question. The animal diagnostic

bases in homeopathic compositions,

elaborates on its defense reaction to a

including only natural substancesâ&#x20AC;Ż-

given disease.

and ingredients such as arnica, marigold, gold, silver, copper, and

The role of the owner of the animal is of

even snake venom (in some rare

vital importance to treating an animal

cases) can be found in the formulation

by homeopathy. It is necessary to have

of this type of medication.

good knowledge of the animal. The

HOW HOMEOPATHY FOR ANIMALS WORKS

understanding of the particularities comes from the information provided by the owner or by the animal caregivers.

With the main objective of preparing the body to face diseases and

These people are the real

complications, homeopathy for animals

intermediaries between the animal

acts on the body to balance it, making

and Homeopathic veterinarians.

it ready to fight various diseases and

Only The caretakers can describe the

help the pet strengthen itself, avoiding

animal, its usual and unusual attitudes,

OM TIMES | February 2021

reconstruct its history, and bring

and horses and ponies, birds (parrots,

essential information to the choice of

parakeets, and canaries, mainly), and

the proper homeopathic medicine.

aquarium fish.

CARING FOR DIVERSE ANIMAL SPECIES

The same occurs with animals that our contemporary society has raised to domestic animals' status, such as

All animals that receive help from

rodents (rabbits, guinea pigs, hamsters,

detailed observation by their owners

rats, and mice, for example) and

can be treated by homeopathy. In

reptiles (turtles and snakes, mainly).

veterinary medicine, domestic animals and farm animals are traditionally

FARM ANIMALS

distinguished. Farm animals (oxen, pigs, sheep,

DOMESTIC ANIMALS

goats, etc.) can also be treated by homeopathy. In the case of a disease

Homeopathic medicine is highly

that affects part or all of the herd,

effective in treating pets (dogs and cats)

it is possible to treat each animal

OM TIMES | February 2021

individually. Still, usually, the animals

and preventing diseases in domestic

are analyzed as if they formed a single

animals.

individual. The same homeopathic medicine was administered to all

It is an extraordinarily efficient and

animals in the group.

economic healing resource to be used positively in animals.

WILD ANIMALS

Its efficiency is mainly linked to We assume that the same treatments

food production (milk, meat, and

using Homeopathic prescriptions

eggs). Homeopathic treatments

may work for wildlife. But there are

treat the animal without having the

not enough scientific documentation

final product suffer from residual

or enough research materials to give

contamination.

us a fair picture of the Homeopathic This type of contamination is

efficiency.

common when caused by allopathic In this case, the prescription is

medicines such as antibiotics,

determined from the symptoms'

antifungals, tick medicine,

analysis more characteristic than

organophosphates, etc.

all the animals belonging to the family group or the herd. In addition

Homeopathy is a natural way of

to prescribing the medication, the

curing illnesses because it is non-

veterinarian must be concerned with

invasive, holistic, and energetically

the welfare of the animals.

correct.

You should focus on improving health

Nowadays, when public opinion

and preventing disease more than

demands a less aggressive medical

merely treating it.

attitude for men, it is expected that

BUT WHY USE HOMEOPATHY ON ANIMALS?

this is also applied to animals. We hope that it will also reach food free of toxic residues, besides animal husbandry methods that consider

Homeopathy is an excellent tool,

humanitarian aspects and non-

and it is the real exercise of curing

aggression to the environment.

OM TIMES | February 2021

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Relationships The interconnectiveness among all human beings and, consequently, the relationships among us are the focus of this section. The dynamics of the web of connections we make is one of the most prominent aspects of human existence: how we interlace with each otherâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s existence in a meaningful way.

10 Red Flags You Should Never Ignore in A New Relationship

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ou meet someone

your partner isn’t making you happy.

who’s simply charming,

Take divine signs seriously. It’s not

irresistible. You’re

an accident if you come across

excited about this

something that proves this person

person and begin dating, spending

isn’t who he says he is or is acting in

more and more time together.

bad faith. Remember: people lie, but

Everything is going great, except

your intuition doesn’t.

that your new partner slips into certain “bad habits” here and there. You reassure yourself that this is

2. It’s complicated f rom the beginning

normal. But is it? The perfect partner doesn’t exist Seemingly little tendencies can be

because we all carry a bit of

early indicators of more significant

baggage. That’s normal. What’s

issues that will rear their ugly heads

not normal is a person who hauls

in time. Honor your wellbeing by

entire loads from their past into

walking away from an unhealthy

your present life. Your partner may

relationship sooner rather than

have children from a previous

later if your partner gives off the

relationship, but his kids shouldn’t

following red flags:

be making your life miserable. Your partner may have trust issues from

1. Your intuition is nagging you

past experiences, but he shouldn’t force you to prove your every move. If a relationship starts off this

The first source that will reveal to

burdensome, it will only get worse

you something is wrong will be

in time. Release it from your life

your inner voice. Pay close attention

and find a love that’s simple and

to gut feelings that ask you to

straightforward.

analyze your partner’s intentions, words, and actions more closely. Refrain from making excuses for

3. He doesn’t want to compromise

this person just because you’ve developed feelings. Be honest with

The couple that can’t compromise

yourself and acknowledge when

can’t survive. A person’s (in)

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ability to compromise quickly becomes evident. At this point

4. He has mood swings

in the relationship, your partner

Steer clear of the person who veers

should be offering compromise

to moody extremes because this will

freely, and you should be taking

ruin your emotional stability. Your

turns accommodating each other.

partner shouldn’t leave you exhausted

The fact that he doesn’t means

by the end of the day! You become

the relationship will require much

what you’re around. If you’re exposed

sacrifice on your part.

to anger, bitterness, or resentment, OM TIMES | February 2021

you might find yourself mimicking

agree because people possess

these emotions. And riding this

the free will to break even their

emotional roller coaster that will take

most addictive patterns. But if

a mental and physical toll on you. If

you discover your new partner

your partner shifts from delighted to

being disloyal from this early on,

depressed in seconds, understand

spare yourself the heartbreak

that a psychological imbalance exists.

and move along. Chances are

And if he or she gets angry over

that he was prone to dishonesty

everything, know that this anger may

long before you and will continue

spill onto you one day, too.

to be unfaithful throughout the

5. He’s not generous

relationship with you. Often, we believe we can change people or mold their character or that

Generosity takes many forms, the

they will somehow be “different”

most obvious being monetary. But a

from us than they’ve been in past

person must also be charitable with

relationships. We experience deep

his time, affection, advice, and good

disappointment when we realize

intentions. Stinginess, greediness, and

that we can’t change anybody; he

egoism are serious red flags. While

must change himself.

you shouldn’t expect to receive the world on a silver platter, you should expect your partner to offer help

7. He treats others poorly

when you’re in genuine need. The person who wants to share his world

Be careful getting too attached

with you is preparing for a future with

to the person who talks down to

you. Generosity is a rare trait, so be

others, is rude without reason, or

grateful for the partner giving in all

has negative relationships with

senses of the word.

family members. People who have problems release them upon

6. He’s chronically unfaithful

others, and these problems can’t be resolved until they look within and eliminate the root cause. Your

Mom used to say that “once a cheater,

partner may treat you nicely initially,

always a cheater.” I don’t quite

but the same issues he has with

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other people in his life will creep into

job, belongings, health, finances, or

your own relationship down the line.

appearance. In that case, chances

8. He comes and goes

are he won’t be able to lend you the care you need and deserve. Look for someone who handles himself

It’s demoralizing when your partner

responsibly, lovingly, and gently so that

doesn’t check up on you regularly.

he can treat you in this same manner.

One of the most frequent complaints I hear from my clients is that

10. He can’t commit

their new partner doesn’t initiate conversation; they have to be the ones

Lasting relationships are the deeply

to send the first message, or there’s

fulfilling bonds we crave, but not

no telling when he’ll actually call. Even

all of us can commit. You should be

worse is when he shows a pattern of

with a partner who not only wants to

disappearing then reappearing as

fortify a relationship with you through

nothing happened. Beware of settling

time but who understands the hard

with a partner who’s emotionally

work needed to do so. Consider your

ignorant or distant. You will find

partner’s dating history: has he or

yourself telling this person the same

she been able to uphold at least

thing over and over again, and it’ll go

one serious relationship? It will be

in one ear and come out the other.

difficult for your partner to keep up

One of the most outstanding qualities

long-term love if he’s used to jumping

you can find in a partner is someone

from romance to romance. A partner

who’s emotionally in tune with you.

who both expresses the desire for commitment and reinforces words

9. He doesn’t take care of himself

with actions is a real treasure. Our impulses often betray our true

How someone treats (or mistreats)

nature. Reflect on these ten red

himself is reflective of the way,

flags before engaging in a new

he will treat you. If your partner

relationship, and put your own safety

is self-destructive, how can he

and tranquility first.

make you whole? Suppose he’s completely careless with his home,

Here to healthy relationships!

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From Cheesy Relationships to a Gourmet Banquet

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n the early 1900s, a European

Frederic, astonished, put aside his

man named Frederic had a

cheese and crackers and entered the

dream to travel to the United

lavish dining room he deserved all

States.

along. The second half of his voyage proved far more enjoyable than the

At that time, air travel had not been

first.

developed, so he booked passage on an ocean liner. Such a

Like Frederic, many of us settle for

trip required all of his savings, but it

meager rations in life while we are

was worth it.

entitled to enjoy a great banquet. One of the areas we tend to starve

Considering that he could not afford

ourselves in is relationships. Since

the luxury meals the ship offered,

February is Valentine’s month, let’s

Frederic brought with him a supply of

take a look at how we can trade

cheese and crackers. While the other

cheese-and-crackers relationships for

guests sat in the ornate dining room

a gourmet feast.

enjoying lavish multi-course meals, Frederic sat on a bench on the deck,

Most people believe they are missing

rationing out his simple meals for

something in a relationship. Either

the cruise duration.

they are single and wish they had a partner, or they are with someone

One day another passenger passed

and wish their relationship was

Frederic eating his Spartan meal.

better. It is a rare person who says,

“Why are you sitting out here eaten

“I am completely satisfied with my

cheese and crackers?” the fellow

relationship status.”

asked. There are two ways to improve “I can’t afford the dining room meals,”

your relationship status: One is to

Frederic answered.

find a relationship or trade your current relationship for a better

The passenger laughed. “Don’t you

one. If you are in a toxic, abusive, or

know that the meals are included in

dead relationship, there’s no sense

the price of the

trying to fix it. You will do better to

voyage?”

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take stock of what you have learned

criteria, and your new partner meets

and move on. Many people stay in

a different seven out of ten. So you

unhappy relationships too long and

have not really upgraded; you’ve just

wish they dared to leave years earlier.

rearranged the furniture.

The other way to get into the gourmet

The most significant mistake people

dining room is to do your inner work

in cheese-and-cracker relationships

to upgrade your current relationship.

make to think, “If I can just get my

It is tempting to think, “I’ll find

partner to change, I will be happy.” Yet

someone better.” In some cases,

changing another person’s behavior

you can, but in most cases, you end

for you to feel better is never a worthy

up trading one set of problems for

or practical goal. If you’ve tried to

another. Your current partner meets

change your partner, you know this

seven out of ten of your relationship

doesn’t work. You just set yourself

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up for frustration and the same

those blessings. They are your fastest

argument that keeps

ticket to the main dining room.

recycling in different forms. This would be a good month to take If, however, you are willing to do

stock of where you are settling for

your inner homework and make an

cheese and crackers, not just in your

effort to change your attitude about

intimate relationship but in all of

your relationship, you can make real

your relationships and all of your life.

progress. There are two elements to

Jesus said, “It is the Father’s good

this monumental move: First, move

pleasure to give you the kingdom.”

from deficit vision to appreciation

The purpose of your spiritual journey

vision. Quit complaining about

is to discover that you deserve

what your partner isn’t, and start

the great banquet and claim

celebrating what he or she is. When

it. No matter how cheesy your

you first met this person, there were

relationships or life have been,

lots of things you loved about him or

like Frederic, you can make the

her. But over time, you have drifted

remainder of your voyage a world-

from what’s right to what’s wrong. If

class experience.

you turn your rudder back to what’s right, you can enjoy so much more. The second element in the crucial shift is to give more of what you wish to receive. In any situation in which you perceive that something is missing, what is missing is what you are not giving. The illusion is that if your partner gave more, you would be happier. The truth is, if you gave more, you would be happier. More validation, more appreciation, more patience, more kindness, more communication, more support. When you invest those noble qualities in your relationship, you are the immediate recipient of

Alan Cohen is the author of many inspirational books, including the bestselling A Course in Miracles Made Easy, and his new illuminating guide, The Master Keys of Healing. Become a certified holistic life coach through Alan’s life-changing training program beginning in September. For information on this program and Alan’s books, videos, audios, online courses, retreats, and other inspirational events and materials, visit www.alancohen.com

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Metaphysics

How to Understand Family Karma? Humanity Healing

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arma, from the Sanskrit

what motivates us to take action, be

कर्म, literally means

it good or bad. As an intention, they

"action." It is used in

have consequences and are also

several philosophical and

responsible for our will, our life link,

spiritual currents, such as Buddhism, Hinduism, Jainism, and Spiritism.

and our desire to keep us alive.

Today we are going to understand

KARMA IN JAINISM

its essence and what the little-

In Jainism, the doctrine of Karma is

discussed concept of family karma

distinctive. Unlike the vision from

means.

the Hindus, which purely is the Law of nature, Jainism believes that

Karma is not fate. Nor is it a

deeds and thoughts attract Karma

punishment imposed on us by some

and that a person's actions from the

external agent. We create our own

past decide the quality of life he has

Karma. Karma is the result of the

now. Karma in Jainism is a physical

choices that we make every moment

matter present throughout the

of every day. Tulku Thondup

universe.

KARMA: PLURAL VIEWS

KARMA IN SPIRITUALISM

Realize that everything connects to

What goes around comes around.

everything else. Leonardo da Vinci

Willie Nelson

KARMA IN HINDUISM

Nowadays, one of the most

According to Hinduism, Karma is

accepted definitions of Karma is

the result of our actions during our

deriving from Spiritualism. Allan

previous earthly lives. When we die,

Kardec and his followers never used

it begins to develop within us, within

Karma; however, we correlate it

our soul. As time goes by, Karma, as

with the Law of "cause and effect,"

a pattern, begins to show itself and

much discussed by the Spiritualist

moves on to the next reincarnations.

doctrines.

KARMA IN BUDDHISM

When we reincarnate, we

In Buddhism, Karma's action is seen

automatically take the previous

above all as our intentions, that is,

set of Karma with us. These are

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the consequences and needs of

But how is this possible?

our actions related to an earlier life. Suppose we have had a life of many

Like gravity, Karma is so basic

problems and disagreements. In

we often do not even notice it.

that case, we tend to reincarnate

Sakyong Mipham

in a family with the same issues so that we can heal and, in the future,

Even if we are healthy spiritual beings,

achieve enlightenment in a complete

these evils can also contaminate us if

spiritual plane.

we have spiritually ill parents. Parents who have been abused, traumatized,

Karma is the universal Law of cause

and living in trouble, canâ&#x20AC;Ż- even

and effect. You reap what you sow.

unintentionallyâ&#x20AC;Ż- pass on these

You get what you earn. You are what

negatives to our future lives.

you eat. If you give love, you get

So, when we do not have a good

love. Revenge returns itself upon the

relationship with our parents, we are

avenger. Mary Browne

much more likely to inherit family karma. In this way, we may solve their

KARMA FAMILIAR: O QUE SERIA? FAMILY KARMA: WHAT WOULD IT BE?

energetic blockages and help them to reincarnate more and more in more propitious and harmonic environments.

Like gravity, Karma is so basic

It is the spiritual Law of Karma in action

we often don't even notice it.

here and the Law of Reciprocity and

Sakyong Mipham

the healing power of love.

One idea that is intrinsically linked to Karma is family karma. It has a

HOW DO I KNOW IF I HAVE FAMILY KARMA?

genetic characteristic as it passes from

I believe in Karma. If the good is sown,

generation to generation. Sometimes, a

the good is collected. When positive

set of Karmic patterns can follow entire

things are made, that returns well.

generations of the same hereditary

Yannick Noah

lineage. Often a specific Karmic pattern of ours is not from our past lives, but

Well, we all have at least some family

from our parents' lives.

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Karma is terrible. Often our family's

â&#x20AC;˘ You find yourself much more

Karma is so positive that our future

sensitive with your current family.

lives' actions cause us to evolve much

You can even feel patterns in your

faster as beings of light. Sometimes,

ancestors that go - and repeat

our ancestors already cleared our

themselves - in your present

Karmic lineage, that many things

parents, and even on yourself.

manifest like magic on our paths. â&#x20AC;˘ Strange discussions or events However, when you carry more massive

within the family may happen.

Karma from past families, some

They will involve you in most

symptoms are the most common.

cases because your family energy

Among them, we can highlight the

and your Karma are in constant

following.

energy dialogue. OM TIMES | February 2021

â&#x20AC;˘ You feel heavy and burden with

beings of kindness and love. However, we still do not get rid of

many responsibilities.

this family karma, which even seems This is an extremely normal situation

to recurrently trap us on the earth

since your subconscious needs to

plane.

evolve and consolidate your life's family karma. Whether to relive them

Traumas from past lives always pass

in later lives or to close the Karma

through the generations and reach

cycle to say goodbye to them in this

their current parents. In other words,

lifetime.

your relationship with them will never be totally perfect.

Sometimes you need to learn how to disconnect from your old family and

To get away from this family karma,

carry out your current mission and

it is necessary to reflect on the

fully realize your life purpose yourself.

reasons that originated it. It may be required to return to the past and

â&#x20AC;˘ High spiritual development. You

explain what happened.

have, even in your countenance, a spiritual aura that pleases

When you see yourself as self-reliant,

those who love you. Your mind is

you may realize that you should

more connected with the issues

not be taking care of your family's

of Spiritual life, and you are

unsolved problems. But yes, from

very connected with your own

your mind, while a sentient being,

soul. You feel more prepared to

you should always use compassion

discuss the various problems

and understanding as tools to undo

that go beyond human

karmic blockages. At least to do not

understanding.

create additional karmic layers to

FAMILY KARMA: HOW TO SAY GOODBYE

pre-existing Karma. There is no secret formula to

Our life is what our thoughts make it.

cleanse Family Karma. Still, rituals

Marcus Aurelius

of gratitude and forgiveness are very efficient in dissolving traumatic

However, we have often evolved as

energies.

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Astrology

Chinese New Year 2021 - The Year of the Ox When we think about the New Year, some images come to our minds, like a shower of fireworks, gifts, hugs, and, of course, the change of calendar. In the West, we use a calendar that considers that a year is completed as soon as the Earth takes a complete turn around the Sun. So, we only are considering the relationship between our planet and our star. But not all Calendars follow the movement of the Sun. Some of them are based on the Lunar calendar as well. In the Chinese calendar, the time can be measured from the Moon and the Sun in relation to the Earth. According to this point of view, the New Year does not happen simultaneously with the Western New Year.

What is in common between the celebration of the Western New Year and the Chinese New Year's celebration is the fireworks display. A striking element of this tradition is exchanging red envelopes with different amounts of money as a symbolic emergency reserve to face the year's challenges. In general, older people or couples give these envelopes to children or people who are single. An essential point about the Chinese New Year is that, in this case, each new cycle is represented by one of the 12 animals that took part in a meeting with Buddha: Rat, Ox, Tiger, Rabbit, Dragon, Snake, Horse, Goat, Monkey, Rooster, Dog and Pig. According to the birth year, the Chinese horoscope considers these 12 animals and that all people are governed by these zodiacal signs. This zodiacal system is quite different from those used to. OMTIMES.COM

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In 2021, the animal of the Chinese New Year is the Metal Ox, with Yin polarity. The Chinese believe that signs connect with the soul of human beings. The ruling animal can influence the spiritual experience from its characteristics. The combination of the element and its polarity can have important meanings for everyone's life.

The Year of the Ox The year 2021 will be ruled by the Ox and will start on February 3rd of that year. To understand what this means, we need to know more about the Ox and what it represents for the Chinese horoscope. The Ox can also be known as the Buffalo. The ox stimulates characteristics such as honesty, hard work, courage, and determination represented by white, green, and yellow colors. So, the ox sign people born in 1913, 1925, 1937, 1949, 1961, 1973, 1985, 1997, 2009, and 2021, will present these qualities.

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METAL OX IN OUR LIFE IN 2021 We already know that 2021 will not be easy, but it will be a year full of achievements. Besides being dedicated to achieving your goals, it is important to stay healthy emotionally to not get carried away by difficulties. Many elements and energies are hanging around pending still, awaiting their resolution. Ox is a symbol of labor. It inspires hard work, the Metal Ox is also conducive to family moments and programs at home. You will feel more like spending time with your family. Pay attention to the way you communicate so that you do not generate unnecessary conflicts. In 2021, you're likely to have friction with like-minded people. Maybe this will be a behavioral side effect of the constant social distancing. We may need to learn how to be social creatures again. So, have patience and common sense to not wear out of any of your relationships. Concerning the year that will start, the Ox regency can be analyzed from a more collective and less individual aspect. Overcoming, commitment, and dedication are the virtues that will be present with more force worldwide. Energies for 2021 The energies for 2021 will resume the importance of believing in recovery and transformation, getting your hands dirty, and changing everything that is not good for you or those who live around you. Even in the face of an uncertain future, the Ox vibrations will bring us strength and courage and resilience.

However, analyzing the year of the Ox still goes beyond understanding that this animal will rule this new cycle. Several other conclusions can be drawn from this information. 2021 brings the Ox influence associated with the Metal element and the Yin energy. The union of these three aspects tells us that the year will be filled with a constant search for order and consistency in our attitudes and environment. Signs with Yang energy and which are influenced by other elements, such as wood, may have a little more difficulty adapting to this. Another factor to be analyzed is what Metal refers to the lungs, and the search for clean air and a healthier lifestyle must be present in your decisions. Prioritize field trips to open spaces and pay attention to what you eat. Although creativity is less stimulated at this stage, do not be discouraged. Use this increase in your energy to gain stability to demonstrate ethics and commitment in your work, in all circumstances. A negative point of the Ox's influence is that it propagates the attachment to tradition and the refusal of new lifestyles.

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Expect Challenges The year 2021 will bring challenges that we cannot yet foresee but they can be overcome with courage, strength, and determination. So, if you feel discouraged and hopeless, take a deep breath, be with the people you love, and take advantage of the energies that come from the Ox's management energy to make a difference in your social circle! THE MAIN SYMBOLS AND MEANINGS OF THE OX Here are some features that can be highlighted in the year of the OX: • Loyalty; • Construction; • Justice • Frankness; • Intuition; • Patience. METAL SYMBOLS AND MEANINGS The following are some characteristics related to the Metal element: • Success; • Determination; • Ambition; • Stubbornness; • Self-sufficiency;

Importance of The Planets on Your Astral Map

By OMTimes

strology, like the ancients'

to study and compile observations

knowledge about the

accumulated over the ages. It was a

different personality

primordial attempt to identify and

characteristics of human

understand the depth of people's

beings and their relationship with the

character and inclinations when

solar system's planets, has endeavored

science was still in its infancy.

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Astrology strives to expose the stars'

the essence of the center of our being,

influence on human beings and the

the will.

events related to them, formulating laws through the frequency and

MOON - reflecting sunlight, the Moon

permanence of specific planetary

is continuously changing. It represents

configurations.

the unconscious side of personality, instincts, and desires. While the Sun

Putting the historical perspective

is a unit, the Moon is dual; it grows

in analyzing this knowledge, we

and decreases; it also symbolizes the

will summarize the planetary

double process of death and rebirth.

occurrences in the birth chart to

The Moon is also used to determine

express human beings' specific

the spectrum of our emotional states

personal characteristics.

of being.

In a birth chart, we find the planets

MERCURY - the "winged messenger

positioned in the sky according to a

of the gods," according to ancient

person's date and time of birth at this

mythologies, is a link between the Sun

time. In the skies, the planets travel,

and the Moon. It corresponds to the

particularly trajectories, measured in

vitality of a child who runs from side

arcs, divided into degrees, minutes,

to side, communicating and exploring

and seconds. Each region of the

everything around him. Mercury shows

sky has its own characteristics. It

how a person expresses his essence

is important to know precisely the

and how he classifies the effects that

time of a person's birth to accurately

influence his senses. Mercury also gives

position the planets in their

us the background of how our thought

astrological study.

process works.

The astrological "planets" are:

VENUS - expresses the desire for harmony, the sublimation of instinctual

SUN - represents vitality and ego. The

impulses in socially acceptable

Sun radiates light and strength, as

forms of relationship. The senses

the individual radiates his personality

are governed by Venus and enable

from his center or core. In the

us to live on Earth surrounded by

astrological chart, the Sun represents

harmonious beauty. Venus on the map

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shows us the way we behave in our

order, which determines behavior

relationships and how we love others.

and morals. Jupiter confers the gift of prophecy and optimistic faith. It

MARS - warrior and aggressor,

encourages us to look beyond the

represents impulsive passions and

names and forms of things. Jupiter

desires. While Venus expresses love,

well-positioned gives good fortune and

harmony, and spirit, Mars shows

the ability to have powerful friends.

matter limited by matter. A wellpositioned Mars on a map can give us

SATURN - also called Cronos, is the

strong will, resilience, and grit.

oldest god of the Greeks, the legislator. It represents the sense of perfect

JUPITER - king of the gods, represents

justice and the highest achievement;

the principle of growth and expansion

it solidifies and fixes energy, giving

on Earth. It also expresses the social

structure. However, Saturn can also

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be cold and constricting. It represents

patterns and structures and governs

material responsibility, limitations,

the intuitive perception that appears

and self-discipline. Some astrologers

in flashes.

consider Saturn the planet that carries and dispenses loads of Karma.

NEPTUNE - or Poseidon, the god of the sea. It flows in each individual

URANUS - is the planet that awakens

with the potential to tune into cosmic

humanity to a new era. Uranus orbit is

consciousness and transcendent reality.

the most eccentric of all the planets.

Neptune takes love to the level of

Its rotation movement is different

compassion and mysticism. Its upbeat

from all, as it rotates inclined around

vibe gives rise to music, poetry, and

its own orbit. Uranus is rebellious and

dance; its negative vibration causes

individualistic, portraying everything

individuals to escape reality through

unconventional. Uranus invalidates old

fantasy, drugs, and other illusions.

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PLUTO - the god of the underworld,

Located between Mars and Jupiter,

stays half the time above the

they provide additional information:

surface and the other half below it, thus perceiving the depths (or the

CERES - or Demeter, was the Greeks'

subconscious). Pluto takes earth

great Mother Earth, goddess of

beings through the processes of

grain and fertility. Its predominance

death, rebirth, and purification,

in an astrological chart points to

as well as through the changing

an individual's inclination towards

seasons. When its strength explodes,

healing, expansion, and creative

it is like an erupting volcano.

energies.

Besides these "planets," some

VESTA - or Hestia, the guardian

asteroids are also found, deepening

goddess of the sacred fire, the symbol

the understanding of individual

of protection. Indicates a person who

characteristics.

works hard and has a strong sense of OM TIMES | February 2021

devotion and mysticism. Vesta is also

CHIRON - also indicates someone's

a guardian goddess.

inclination towards healing. It is an important point on the map because

JUNO - or Hera, goddess of

it means self-sacrifices, rebirth, and

marriage, governs the female cycle

transcendence.

of reproduction. Juno sheds light on how connections and commitments

Ă&#x2030;RIS is the goddess of discord. The

work in someone's life: whether we

dwarf planet was called because its

maintain our individuality or whether

discovery launched conflict among

we get lost through the union.

astronomers over the definition of a planet and indirectly caused Pluto's

PALAS ATHENA - represents

status to fall from "planet" to "dwarf

independence, involvement in social

planet." In Greek mythology, it is

causes, and social justice, arts, and

famous for having indirectly caused

business.

the Trojan War. OM TIMES | February 2021

We grow as individuals as we face challenges and overcome lifeâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s obstacles. This section is dedicated to helping you chart your course

Personal Growth & Development

5 Ways to Better Express Your Point of View By Gail Serna

o negative thoughts or

you feel with those who upset you.

stories run through your

Expressing your feelings relieves

mind, and do you wonder

suffering.

how to achieve a calmer

mindset? Consider sharing your

Although expressing your true feelings

perspective and describing how

to another may be scary, there are ways

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to have this conversation be productive.

5. See a beautiful golden bubble from

It's important to note that every

heaven surrounding the two of you

exchange will take on its own essence

in a peaceful web of loving light.

or energy. First, ask yourself this: who are you not on good terms with, and

Once the conversation is over, and

how much do they mean to you? It may

the other person has understood

not be necessary to communicate how

your position. You have heard their

you feel. The constructive approach I

perspective. You can surrender any

have outlined below will make these

opposing thoughts or connections in

conversations easier for those that are

your mind and see love from heaven

important to you.

surrounding the situation. Remember to monitor your thoughts and do not

1. Create a script for yourself and write down your talking points.

allow the toxic emotions and stories to keep playing in your head. This should subside now.

2. Ask for help from your divine self and visualize the discussion running

Allow yourself the respect you deserve

smoothly.

and be proud that you asserted yourself in this way.

3. Imagine that the other person will accept the conversation you are

If you do not attain the result, you

about to have. Your relationship will

are seeking from the conversation.

grow healthier for having expressed

It's best to allow some time to pass

your stance.

and walk away from the situation, knowing you did your best to resolve

Remember, the goal is to make

the bitterness between you and

them recognize how you feel and

another.

give them the space to express any animosity they may have towards

Do not give up and use prayer as a

you.

bridge. We consider prayer telepathic communication between your

4. Ask your divine energy or Archangel

consciousness and the other person's

Michael to provide you the energetic

subconscious. Keep imagining the

protection to have the exchange.

situation reversing itself and that the

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two of you will see eye to eye in divine

had conversations with people

timing.

who do not agree with me or fully listen to my feelings. Although we

I have used this process to express

are still friends, we are not as close

myself to my own inner circle of loved

as we once were, and I accept that.

ones within my own life. It is powerful

I continue to pray and monitor my

and affirming to tell someone what

thoughts closely to change my

they did to upset you and to have

focus when a negative thought

them see your point of view. It is also

impedes my peaceful outlook. Our

crucial for your growth to be able to

ego is a necessary tool that our

then listen to another's point of view. I

creator gave us, but it should never

have personally gotten closer to three

overtake our minds. By participating

people by doing this.

in these powerful steps, your outlook on life will change, and you

There have been times when I have

will release any draining thoughts.

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This work will allow you to create

others and, by doing so, achieve the

respectful boundaries between

happiness you deserve in life.

yourself and the people in your life. While your relationships will be healthier than they ever have been, please keep in mind that you cannot have complete control over every difficult conversation outcome. You must allow the process to take shape. The best outcome may not always be as you had initially been hoped, and that is okay. With the steps mentioned in this blog, you will at least be able to express your point of view to

Gail Serna is an Intuitive Reader, a Psychic Medium, a Spiritual Counselor, a Reiki Practioner, and a channel for Divine energy. She also teaches clients to develop their own intuition. Gail's goal is to empower people to make sound decisions, gain clarity, peace of mind, and reach their highest potential. Connect with Gail www.soulscollective.com linktr.ee/gailserna

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