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I love being invited to stay with family or friends— someone else makes the plans and food, and there’s that wonderful vacation feel of escaping your own to-do list and mail pile. But then comes the worry about what gift to bring. And after dinner, when they say, “No, sit. I’ll deal with the dishes,” do they mean it? Or do they secretly want you to help? Or do they not want your help because what they do want is a moment in the kitchen away from the house full of people? If I’m the first one up—and I’m always the first one up—should I use the cofee grinder to make cofee? Or are they light sleepers, and that’s why they also have instant cofee in the cupboard? Suddenly that to-do list back home doesn’t seem so taxing by comparison. My husband, who is smoother in social situations, reminds me that I should use my experience as a journalist. In other words, ask questions and trust the answers unless there’s a solid reason not to. I’ve gotten much better at asking, to segue into the cofee conversation, “About what time do you folks get going in the morning?” I also look for ways to pitch in within my comfort zone. “Shall I wash the lettuce?” Always. “Hand me the torch; I can do the brûlée.” Never. I want to be helpful, but I know my limits. On page 122, you’ll find our guide to improving your game as a guest or host, featuring our wise Modern Manners columnist, Catherine Newman. At Real Simple, we value how spending time together in this intimate way is a chance to connect with loved ones or new friends. We want to help make it the best experience it can be. Happy Thanksgiving! ’ M A N AW K WA R D G U E S T.

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Your Best Holiday Table Make-Ahead Recipes 113, 126, 131, 140, 144, 150, 158 Classic Dishes with a Twist A Cozy Weekend Wardrobe Gift Ideas for Early Shoppers

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Styling tips for every hair texture

Our everything guide to holiday visits

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Find a thoughtful gift

Work out to cure what ails you

Whip up a flavorful garnish

Thoughts

Editor’s Note

Real Simple 24 /7

Your Words

The Short List

what we love This Year, It’s Personal Customize your holiday presents 29 New Uses for Old Things Repurpose a roll of shelf liner

the realist 3 Surprising Ways to Start Your Thanksgiving Meal Cooking School Must-have Thanksgiving tools

The Staple Spaghetti

Little Helpers Clever items that make every day better 40

Now What?!? Solutions for life’s mini disasters

Organize This Streamline your spice storage

Real Simplifier Set a polished table

Pretty Smart Beauty buys to save your sanity

Road Test The best foundations for every skin type 58

Holiday Stain SOS Quick fixes for stubborn messes

Food for Thought Readers share the most unusual dish on their holiday tables 54 Beauty Coach Master the art of dry shampoo

Stylewise A versatile holiday wardrobe that fits in a carry-on

Modern Manners Catherine Newman offers advice The Vets Will See You Now Pet problems, solved

balance The Exercise Fix Let movement be your medicine 91

relating How to Raise a Minimalist Strategies to help your kids look beyond stuff

5 Lessons You Can Learn from Fictional Families Take a page from your literary faves 86

Good Read Nicole Chung on finding common ground with her grandmother 81

Making It Work How do you stay productive when working from home?

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Holiday Flowers, Four Ways These arrangements only look hard 116 Be Our Guest! (Or Host) Hacks and recipes for a drama-free visit 122 Find the Best Style for Your Texture Five women get their dream haircuts 132

food 5 Easy Dinners

140

How to Invest for Good Save for the future and support a cause 103

Big Batch Butter-and-herb croutons

150

Ahhh Take a breather

Road Test Muffin and quick bread mixes

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Make It Yourself Creamy yogurt

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The Struggle Is Real

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features Tradition with a Twist New ideas for the turkey and trimmings 108

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How do you thank a host?

I send a handwritten thank-you note. And if they invited my dogs to attend, say, a backyard barbecue, I use a thank-you note with my dogs’ photo on it and sign the dogs’ names. M A RY A N N H I G G S, H AY WA R D, CALIFORNIA

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I love bringing a container of frozen cookie dough as a gift. It’s so easy to pop homemade cookies into the oven one (or six) at a time, and I’ve found that it’s a classic treat everyone can get behind. K ATE FARMER, WASHINGTON, D.C.

Thank them by cleaning up after yourself or helping in general with the event, obeying the rules of their home, and being kind, attentive, and respectful to their children and pets (as well as to the other guests). ERIN ELLIS, ROUND RO CK , TE XAS

I usually bring something for them to have for breakfast the following morning: muffins, coffee cake, or granola and a pound of my favorite coffee. I know myself— after entertaining for an evening, I likely do not have anything on hand for an easy breakfast the next day. ELIZ ABE TH CARROLL SUTLIFF, L AKE WO OD, OHIO

I give a magazine subscription. Many say the printed word is dead, but I disagree and still enjoy the monthly arrival of several magazines to my home. Depending on the host, I’ve gifted children’s, special interest, or general interest magazines. I’ve been told they are a regular reminder of our friendship and memories. RACHEL WATKINS, ELKTON, MARYL AND

Definitely pay for at least one meal out at a place of their choosing while there. @BLEUMO ON

I send a bouquet of flowers before the event or visit. That way I get to enjoy it too! MARY M. PE TERSEN, L AS VEGAS

Arrive on time—no excuses. Help if it’s appropriate. Don’t stay too late. JA N E T W I L S O N E D WA R D S, LYO N S, C O LO R A D O

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Yo u r W o r d s

How do you thank a host?

With a proper, old-fashioned handwritten thank-you note, of course! SHARON RAP OSA , ST. PE TERSBURG, FLORIDA

I find that many of my friends do not make prints of the photos they take, so I take photos during an event they host. I choose one depicting a memorable moment, have it made into a print, and send it framed or unframed. JUDI MOHR, CRYSTAL , MINNESOTA

Many of my friends are single women. My way of saying thank you for a weekend visit is offering to help with a project around the house that may require an extra pair of hands—maybe moving the fridge so they can clean behind it or taking drapes down for cleaning. These tasks can be done the day before leaving. TAMMY BEVINS, FARGO, NORTH DAKOTA

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I call and let them know what a good time I had. I like to mention how good the food was or tell them I noticed something in particular. I know a lot of work goes into preparing an event, so I try to give confirmation that the hard work was noticed. OLIVIA DALES SIO, PARKESBURG, PENNSYLVANIA

Guests at our Maine lake house last summer sent a wireless speaker so we could listen to music outside. Much better than blaring the TV sound bar and opening all the windows! @KGSMITH0 4105

Invite them to be your guest at some time within the next year, if not sooner. ELLEN TIDD, TUC SON, ARIZONA

If you have spent the night or a weekend in someone’s home, clean the bathroom before you leave. JUDY THORPE, PL AINSBORO, NE W JERSEY

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Cut out a circle of liner and place it in a succulent planter to stop soil loss (but still allow drainage).

S U R FA C E S AV E R

Open the maraschinos with ease by laying some liner over the stubborn lid for extra grip.

EARRING T R A N S P O RT

Post earrings on a square of liner to keep them organized and cushioned in the luggage for your Thanksgiving trip. PROP ST YLING BY ASTRID CHASTK A

Glue a bit of liner to the bottom of a lamp, furniture leg, or tchotchke to prevent slippage and scratching.

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Approximately the size of a credit card, this slim book holds 100 sheets; each one is permeated with bronzer, matte pink blush, or rose highlighter. Keep it in your bag for touch-ups: Tear off a sheet and rub it on your cheeks (or collarbone or legs). Now you can glow on the go without stressing about your compact crumbling. TO BUY: $22; ulta.com.

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Sensitive to retinol? This day serum offers a natural alternative called bakuchiol, which reduces lines, spots, and the look of pores. TO BUY: $58; olehenriksen.com. FIRST HONEY ADHESIVE B A N DA G E S

Infused with medicalgrade manuka honey, these mess-free bandages encourage fast healing of cuts and burns. They worked wonders on our new-shoe blisters. TO BUY: $8 for 12; firsthoney.com. ORIBE POWER D RO P S C O L O R P R E S E RVAT I O N BO OSTER

Buy time between dye jobs with this serum. Antioxidants and amino acids shield hair from UV rays and improve color retention. Apply three drops to damp hair before styling. TO BUY: $58; oribe.com. G H D P L AT I N U M + ST YLER

It’s a splurge, but if you straighten often, this iron is the cream of the crop. The heat level self-adjusts so plates remain at an ideal 365 degrees Fahrenheit, resulting in fewer passes and less damage. TO BUY: $249; ghdhair.com/us.

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After applying your serum, hold the stone sideways, then massage your face using upward and outward motions—it feels amazingly relaxing. For extra depuffing, store in fridge. TO BUY: $58; us.kora organics.com. NARS CLIMAX MASCAR A

Mascara often comes with a trade-off: major volume at the cost of clumping and smudging. This magic wand contains ribbed bristles that deliver whipped pigments for instant lift without flakes. TO BUY: $24; narscosmetics.com. O UA I S C A L P & B O DY S C RU B

In the shower, section wet hair, then massage this citrus-scented, foaming scrub into your scalp (and body). Sugar crystals remove buildup while coconut oil leaves skin buttery soft. TO BUY: $38; theouai.com. Catch Beauty Director Heather Muir Maffei’s video demo of these beauty buys at realsimple.com/ prettysmart.

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Quick Ideas 1 S PA G H E T T I S A L A D W I T H AVO C A D O A N D B A S I L

Blend cup each plain wholemilk Greek yogurt, water, and fresh basil with cup apple cider vinegar, tsp. kosher salt, tsp. black pepper, and 2 ripe avocados in a blender until smooth; toss with 5 cups cold cooked spaghetti (from 8 oz. uncooked). Toss with 1 cup halved cherry tomatoes, cup chopped toasted almonds, and more basil. 2 S PA G H E T T I S C R A M B L E WITH HAM AND CHEESE

Cook 6 oz. chopped ham in 2 Tbsp. olive oil in a large skillet over high until browned. Add 2 cups chopped cooked spaghetti (from 4 oz. uncooked) and cook for 1 minute. Add 3 beaten eggs, 1 cup shredded Cheddar, and 3 sliced scallions; cook, stirring gently to scramble. Season with salt and pepper. 3 S PA G H E T T I FUNNEL CAKES

No pantry should be without a box of spaghetti. But if your cupboard runneth over, try one of these ideas. Toss leftover strands with a tangy avocado dressing for an inspired lunch. Or scramble chopped noodles with ham, cheese, and scallions for a hearty breakfast (add chopped peppers and call it a â&#x20AC;&#x153;spaghetti westernâ&#x20AC;?). Be sure to set aside a few cooked tangles to make crispy ricotta funnel cakes for dessert. You may never need meatballs again.

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The Staple

Whisk cup ricotta, cup flour, 2 Tbsp. powdered sugar, tsp. kosher salt, and 2 large eggs. Add 3 cups chopped cooked spaghetti (from 5 oz. uncooked); toss to coat. Heat 2 Tbsp. oil in a nonstick skillet over medium-high. Add cupfuls of mixture to skillet; flatten slightly. Cook until golden, 2 to 3 minutes per side; transfer to paper towels and dust with powdered sugar.

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M U LT I U S E P I L L O W

This organic U-shaped pillow can be used for nursing, as a pillow for side sleepers, or as a lap cushion while you’re reading or knitting. The removable cover (in 11 colors) is stain resistant and washable. TO BUY: Nook’s Organic Niche Nursing Pillow, $100; nooksleep.com. VO I C E A C T I VAT E D B I N

Tag canning jars, leftovers, or covered dishes with these stickers. They dissolve under running water or in the dishwasher and leave no sticky residue. TO BUY: Mabel’s Labels Wash Aways, $9 for 24; mabelslabels.com.

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SPIR ALIZER SET C O M PA C T M I X E R

This powerful appliance comes with beaters, dough hooks, and a wire whisk, all of which fit into a snap-on storage case. Other colors available. TO BUY: Black + Decker Helix Performance Premium Hand Mixer, $30; amazon.com.

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Turn fresh veggies into ribbons without the bulky (and pricey) hardware. The set includes two cones with julienne and straight peeler attachments. TO BUY: Click N’ Curl Spiralizer Set, $18; kuhnrikonshop.com.

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Keep your counter and rolling pin clean with this silicone rolling bag. Place dough inside, zip the bag closed, and use a rolling pin to flatten to your desired diameter. Dishwasher safe. TO BUY: OXO Good Grips Silicone Dough Rolling Bag, $15; oxo.com.

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We go around and ask people to share either their irrational fear or their celebrity crush. It’s such a silly question, everyone has an answer, and it immediately breaks the ice. Plus, it’s hilarious to hear your grandmother admit she thinks Daniel Craig is “rather handsome.” JOANNA GODDARD, FOUNDER OF THE LIFEST YLE SITE CUP OFJO.COM

Everyone gets a paper place mat with their name on it before dinner. We pass the place mats around, and each person writes what they love about the person whose place mat they have. I still have my grandmother’s last note to me from my 2001 place mat. It is so precious, like hearing her voice. HEIDI ST. JOHN, FOUNDER OF THEBUSYMOM.COM

“Tell me something good.” This is a simple prompt my mother gave her six kids at the dinner table. It helped everyone focus on gratitude without really knowing it. You share something interesting, funny, or absurd—anything remotely positive—and the group’s momentum builds from there. JOHN JACOB S, C0FOUNDER OF LIFE IS GO OD, AN APPAREL AND ACCES SORIES COMPANY

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Cooking School T H E R I G H T T O O L S W I L L M A K E T H I S T H A N K S G I V I N G T H E B E S T O N E Y E T. U S E O U R H A N D Y G U I D E T O F I G U R E O U T E X A C T LY W H A T Y O U N E E D . By Ananda Eidelstein

I N S TA N T- R E A D THERMOMETER

FAT S E PA R AT O R

P O TAT O R I C E R

BULB BASTER

Because the spout is attached to the bottom instead of the top, a fat separator lets you pour out just the flavorful pan drippings. The fat gets left behind, so there’s no need to skim.

Press cooked potatoes through the tiny holes of a ricer for ultrasmooth mashies. Traditional mashers can easily overwork potatoes into a gummy mess, but a ricer keeps them light and fluffy.

A long baster (unlike a spoon) gives you maximum reach into the corners of your roasting pan. Suck up pan juices, then drizzle them over the bird for golden skin and moist, tender meat. Baste every 30 minutes or so for the best results.

MANDOLINE SLICER

ELECTRIC KNIFE

ROA S T I N G PA N

A staff favorite, this tool creates perfectly even pieces of just about anything. Use it to slice apples for pie, potatoes for a gratin, or raw vegetables for salad. Adjust the thickness with the twist of a screw. The best part? No chopping means prep time is cut in half.

A buzzing, serrated knife might seem old-fashioned, but most kitchen knives have seen sharper days. An electric one helps you cut through crispy skin without tearing and make uniform slices throughout, no knife skills required.

High sides hold your bird, veggies, and drippings safely. Most pans come with a V-rack so the turkey roasts evenly, top to bottom. Measure your oven before you buy; look for a pan that allows for at least two inches of clearance on all sides.

Taking your turkey’s temp is the only foolproof way to know it’s cooked. Swap that clunky dial thermometer for an easy-to-read digital model. Insert it in the thickest part of the thigh (avoid the bone) and wait for 165 degrees Fahrenheit. Not there? Keep roasting.

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Illustrations by Adam Cruft

A little bread. A little cheese. A lot of Wow.

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Now What?!? S M A RT F I X E S F O R L I F E ’ S L I T T L E D I S A ST E R S By Nora Hor vath

I waited too long to defrost the turkey! You may have an urge to put the bird in hot water, but it’s crucial to keep it cold— 40 degrees Fahrenheit or below—until cooking to eliminate the risk of bacteria growth, says Sue Smith, RD, an expert with the Butterball Turkey Talk-Line. Instead, defrost the turkey in a cold-water bath, which will take about 30 minutes per pound (so for a 20-pound turkey, you’ll need about 10 hours). Fill your sink with cold water and submerge the turkey, breast side down, leaving the original wrapper on. Change the water every 30 minutes to make sure it stays cold. If need be, Smith says it’s safe to cook the turkey from frozen, but this will add several hours to the cooking time. Use an oven-safe meat thermometer to measure doneness (165 degrees Fahrenheit).

THE FIX:

I feel a tension headache coming on. Treat it within an hour of feeling symptoms, says Adelene Jann, MD, clinical assistant professor in the Department of Neurology at NYU Langone Health in New York City. Headaches are individualized and could stem from a change in diet or added stress. If you didn’t have your morning coffee, drinking a cup could relieve tension. Placing an ice pack on your head or giving yourself a light massage where you feel tension may also help. If you have painful throbbing, are nauseated, or find it impossible to operate normally throughout the day, see a doctor to rule out another headache condition, like migraines.

THE FIX:

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THE FIX: Apply 91 percent isopropyl alcohol to a cloth and rub the wall until the marks fade, says Tom McNulty, author of Clean Like a Man. Note that, depending on the type of paint, this technique might strip away some of the shine; McNulty found that while the alcohol removed nearly all signs of marker, his semigloss enamel paint looked a bit duller. No rubbing alcohol? Hairspray can also do the trick. Just spray it directly onto the stain and wipe with a cloth. Whichever solution you try, first test on a small, inconspicuous area to see if there are any reactions with the paint.

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1 GR AB AND GO

Display kitchen staples, like olive oil and black pepper, on a trivet or tray near the stove and add any other spices you use every day. 2 D EC A N T A N D L A B E L

Eliminate the visual clutter of brand logos and variously sized jars by transferring spices into transparent, uniform containers. Affix a label to the front or lid of each jar to quickly identify the contents. TO BUY: 3 oz. Glass Spice Bottles, from $1.50, and Round EZ Labels, $4 for 100; containerstore.com.

3 S TO R E W I T H I N R E A C H

Organize This

Stash your spices near the stove so theyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re on hand as you cook. If youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re low on cabinet space, consider using a drawer instead. A tiered drawer organizer prevents your jars from rolling around. TO BUY: InterDesign Linus In-Drawer Spice Rack, $12; containerstore.com. 4 FIND THE RIGHT ORDER

Make it easy to locate the flavor you need by arranging spices alphabetically. Alternatively, think about how and what you like to cook and group spices accordingly (for example, have one row of pasta spices, one row of baking spices, and so on). 5 TA K E S TO C K

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Write the expiration date on the bottom of each jar when you decant your spices. Twice a year, check the dates and replace as needed.

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Real Simplifier

Besides catching crumbs, the bread plate functions as a place for discards (like turkey bones).

How to Set a Table

Set a water glass and a wineglass (if you’re serving wine) above the knife.

PULL OFF A P OLISHED PL ACE S E T T I N G W I T H A R E F R E S H E R F RO M E T I Q U E T T E A N D E V E N T P RO S. By Maggie Puniewska

MIND THE GAPS D O A P R A C T I C E RU N

Set the table a day or two before so you have time to clean or polish. Include platters to see if you need a side table to fit everything, says Daniel Post Senning, great-great-grandson of Emily Post and coauthor of the 19th edition of Emily Post’s Etiquette.

Space out each element by about an inch. That’s roughly the width of an adult’s thumb or a child’s first three fingers. Leave ample space between settings to keep neighbors from knocking elbows.

S K I P D E S S E RT WA R E

MASTER PL ACEMENT BASICS

Since most sweet stuff comes out after dinner, wait until the table has been cleared before setting out fresh plates, says Stephanie Selaiden, director of events at Mattie’s at Green Pastures in Austin, Texas.

To remember—or teach kids—the order of flatware, follow the FORKS acronym used by Emily Post. Starting from the left: F for fork, O for the shape of the plate, K for knife, and S for spoon (skip the R). Trying to recall where the bread plate and drinks go? Stand behind the chair and make the “OK” symbol with both hands. Your left hand will form a b, for bread, and your right hand will form a d, for drinks.

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Opt for a cloth napkin at special occasions. Lay it on the salad or entrée plate, underneath the fork, or to the left of the fork.

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P R O P S T Y L I N G B Y A U D R E Y D AV I S

Only put out what you’ll use. Not having a salad? Nix the extra fork. Same goes for the spoon if soup isn’t on the menu.

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Holiday Stain SOS THE TURKE Y IS IN THE OVEN, THE GUESTS ARE AT T H E D O O R , A N D — O H N O ! — T H E R E ’ S A C R A N B E R RY- S A U C E S P I L L O N Y O U R W H I T E TA B L E C L O T H . K E E P T H E S E Q U I C K F I X E S A N D P O STPA R T Y F O R M U L A S H A N D Y T O B R I N G C L O T H I N G , U P H O L S T E RY, A N D L I N E N S B A C K T O L I F E . B y Ta m a r a K r a u s

T H E S TA I N

Dairy This protein-based stain may start to smell as it dries, so tackle it immediately. If the item is machine washable, first absorb residue with a cloth, apply a dab of dishwashing liquid, and ﬂush with warm water. Repeat as needed until you can toss the item into the wash for a more thorough clean. For upholstery and household fabrics, blot up as much milk or yogurt as possible until you can address the stain further. NOW:

For upholstery, sprinkle baking soda or cornstarch onto the area and let it sit for 15 minutes. Vacuum up the powder and apply a dry-cleaning solvent (like Puracy Natural Stain Remover, $11; amazon .com). Let it sit overnight, then apply water, scrub with a toothbrush, and blot with a clean cloth until the stain disappears. For clothing, rinse in warm water to dilute the stain, apply a pretreater, and let it sit for 20 minutes. Use a soft-bristled toothbrush to work the formula into the garment’s fibers before washing in warm water. L ATER:

For a spill on a cushion, mix one teaspoon of white vinegar with a quarter cup of rubbing alcohol and sponge onto the stain. The alcohol helps break down the stain, and the vinegar makes it easier to remove. Let the solution sit for 15 minutes, then blot dry with a clean cloth. If the cranberry is on machine-washable fabric, apply a mixture of one teaspoon dish soap and one tablespoon rubbing alcohol. Let it sit for 10 minutes, then wash on the coldest setting. Make sure the stain is gone before throwing the item into the dryer, since heat will set the stain for good. L ATER:

T H E S TA I N

Cranberry Sauce The first rule with sticky spots is to avoid spreading the stain around, so scoop up pieces of cranberry with a spoon. Use a pretreater pen or try this simple solution: Dab the area gently with a cloth dipped in club soda; the bubbles will help break the bond between the surface and the stain. Alternatively, use cool water and dish soap. Note: If the material is dry-clean-only, step away from the pretreater pen and send the item straight to the cleaner, as the pen could leave a permanent mark. NOW:

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T H E S TA I N

Turkey Grease, Lipstick, or Gravy Oil-based stains require immediate attention, so quickly dab the area with a paper towel to remove as much of the substance as possible. Sprinkle the spot with cornstarch or baby powder and let it sit for about 10 minutes to absorb the grease. Then dust of the powder over a sink or trash can. Another option: Cover the area with castile soap and work it into the stain with clean fingers. Let it sit until you can complete the cleaning process. NOW:

L ATER: If the stain is small, draw over the area with chalk to absorb the grease, pretreat with a dab of liquid detergent, and launder as usual. For carpet, spray with Spot Shot Instant Carpet Stain Remover ($6 for 21 oz.; homedepot.com); test on a hidden area first. Let it sit for 5 to 10 minutes and blot clean with paper towels.

T H E S TA I N

Candle Wax Do nothing. Let the wax dry and it will be easier to remove later. NOW:

T H E S TA I N

Chocolate Scrape of what you can without spreading the debris and dab the stain with a cloth dipped in club soda. If you can slip away to the bathroom, remove the garment, place a clean cloth on either side of the fabric, and blot from the inside. This will help force the stain toward the front, where it originally made contact with the fabric. NOW:

Pretreat with dish soap or laundry detergent, soak for 10 minutes, and launder in cool water. If the stain persists, apply a solution of two parts hydrogen peroxide and one part dish soap; let it sit for about an hour. Soak the garment in oxygen bleach for up to six hours, then wash again. If the stain is ground into upholstery, add a drop of dish soap to a damp towel. Gently rub in the direction of the fabric’s grain to work away the discoloration, then blot dry. L ATER:

If it fits, place the item in the freezer for a few hours. The wax should pop right of once it’s frozen solid. If the wax has melted into the fabric’s fibers, use a spot remover (try Gonzo Natural Magic Stain Remover, $7; amazon.com) and launder as usual. To tackle wax on an area rug or tablecloth, place the item between two paper towels. Heat an iron on low and glide it over the top; the wax will melt and transfer to the paper towel. Be careful not to leave the iron in one spot for too long, as it could burn the fibers. For carpet, set a plastic bag filled with ice on top of the wax until it hardens. Use a butter knife to scrape it up. Remove any residue with Spot Shot Instant Carpet Stain Remover. L ATER:

T H E S TA I N

Mulled Wine or Red Wine Blot to absorb what you can before you have access to a washer. NOW:

Rinse with cool water from the back of the stain to remove as much discoloration as possible. Pretreat with liquid detergent, and add one to two scoops of oxygen whitener (like Molly’s Suds Oxygen Whitener, $10; bedbathandbeyond .com) to the washing machine. If the stain seems particularly set in, wet it and rub the oxygen whitener directly onto the spot before laundering. L ATER:

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What’s the most unusual dish on your holiday table? PICKLED WAT E R M E LO N R I N D

The secret is cinnamon sugar. Over time, these rolls became part of the savory spread on every holiday table. The kids get involved and are excited about spending time together as a family in the kitchen. JENNY GILL , HUDSON, NE W HAMP SHIRE

GREEN NEVER MIND ( A . K . A . WAT E RGAT E SAL AD)

It’s a mixture of pistachio pudding, crushed pineapple, mini marshmallows, pecans, and Cool Whip. My motherin-law, Lucille, started making it in the 1960s for those who didn’t like the Waldorf salad we served. When asked what it was, she’d say, “Well, it’s green...oh, never mind!” DENA STONE, HAWKINSVILLE, GEORGIA

S U S H I RO L L S

My grandma taught us how to make sushi rolls. She would roast the nori on her gas stove. We’d grab sushi rice from a pot, put the rice on the nori that had been placed on a sushi mat, and then add whatever we wanted—fried egg, cucumber, carrots, daikon. They came out ugly but delicious! Now we buy the futomaki because it’s easier. SASHA TAKE TA , WAIPAHU, HAWAI I

M Y AU N T’ S C H I N E S E STICKY RICE

It has glutinous rice, pork, shiitake mushrooms, dried shrimp, fried shallots, soy sauce, and five-spice powder. It’s served in addition to the cornbread stuffing we usually have. I guess we like carbs.

My English grandmother loved it, and the tradition just stuck. My mom would buy Old South pickles by mail order (pre-internet days!). BRO OKE M C D ONALD, NE W YORK CIT Y

TO N G U E TA C O S

I make a red and green salsa with chopped cilantro, limes, and onion and put it next to the slow cooker filled with meat. When it’s time to eat, everyone can make their own tacos. I also make the traditional turkey and ham dinner, but this is something different on the side for those who don’t like turkey. YURI LUNA , GRANDVIE W, MIS SOURI

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Americans, chances are your family is swimming in stuf: toys, clothes, trophies, electronics, cheap plastic figurines. To aford this abundance is a privilege, of course, but when it comes to our kids, we’re a nation of overconsumers. The U.S. is home to just 3.1 percent of the world’s children but consumes 40 percent of the world’s toys. Researchers in Los Angeles went into 32 homes to catalog the overconsumption epidemic: In one child’s room alone, they counted 165 Beanie Babies, 36 figurines, 22 Barbie dolls, three porcelain dolls, 20 other dolls, one troll, and a miniature castle. (“Where was everything else hiding?” you might ask.) Much of this stuf is around for an ostensibly sweet reason: We buy lots of toys, clothes, and other items for children to make them happy. Unfortunately, this can backfire. All the clutter can actually overwhelm children and add to stress, says Kim John Payne, a family counselor and the author of Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids. What’s best for kids, says Payne, might be teaching them to have only what they need and to keep those few belongings organized. It’s not just about being neat: “Keeping a room or house orderly can make your life feel more orderly,” he says. In other words, calm and focused surroundings can help your child stay calm and focused too. The perks of minimalism could even reach into your child’s future. “The practical benefits of owning less are more money, more time, more calm, more freedom,” says blogger Joshua Becker, a father of two and the author of The Minimalist Home (out next month). I F YO U ’ R E L I K E M A N Y

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Plus, learning to consume less is a way to practice discipline, a skill that makes it a lot easier to become a responsible adult. “Kids who don’t learn to exist within boundaries may become adults who don’t set them,” says Becker. But in a culture of consumerism, how do you raise a minimalist? How do you teach children, who are bombarded with messages from media and peers that they need the latest toy or pair of sneakers, to be content with fewer things? Some ideas ahead.

Why Do Kids Want So Much? Attachment to toys, blankets, and other objects is a natural stage of child development. Between 6 and 12 months, babies often form emotional attachments to what psychologists call “transitional objects”—items that help comfort them as they transition from being emotionally dependent on parents and caregivers to having a bit more independence. Kids develop a sense of ownership by age 2 (the “mine!” stage), and by age 6 they learn to place special value on the things they own. While attachment to one or two special toys is a healthy part of being a kid, the message that it’s best to have a lot of possessions is learned. “Kids often learn about ‘stuf’ from us,” says Jessica Mayo, PhD, assistant professor of clinical child psychology at the Child Study Center at the Yale School of Medicine. “If one of the main ways we show our kids that we love them, or that we think they are good or special, is to buy them things, kids will certainly be paying attention to how often they get something new.”

Don’t worry: It’s not just you—it’s also the media. “No child is born wanting an Xbox or Barbie,” says Tim Kasser, PhD, a psychology professor at Knox College in Galeburg, Illinois, and the author of The High Price of Materialism. “What happens is that via exposure to other kids and the media, they come to believe that certain products will make them happier or more popular or help them fit in. That’s what ads are designed to do— create desire for certain products.” Of course, most of us watched TV growing up too, with plenty of ads for the latest baby doll running during Saturday morning cartoons. But kids today spend an unprecedented amount of time interacting with media. A recent study from Common Sense Media found that the average tween spends six hours per day looking at a screen.

Laying the Foundation The best way to have children adopt a lifestyle is to live that way yourself. “Promoting a lifestyle of minimalism is no diferent from passing along any value to our children,” says Becker. “We want them to be hardworking, selﬂess, caring, justice-minded individuals. Promoting these values always occurs the same way: We model it, we teach it, we correct when necessary, and we reward positive behavior.” The ideal window: before age 6. During those early years, kids are like sponges, soaking up skills and habits by imitating what they see others do, says Payne. But even if your child is older, it’s important to lead by example. The first step is to declutter your own

malist lifestyle, we told him he could keep whatever toys he wanted as long as they fit against one wall,” says Becker. But also? Don’t forget that it’s your right and responsibility as a parent to push back sometimes. “I have never feared saying no to my kids. It’s healthy for them for me to say, ‘No, you can’t have that. We don’t have space for that,’ ” says Becker.

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spaces. Start with the easiest and most lived-in rooms so you’ll quickly see results and feel motivated, says Becker. Are you and yours struggling to part with things? Try the self-analysis recommended by organizing expert June Saruwatari, author of Behind the Clutter: Truth. Love. Meaning. Purpose. (Hint: The system is the subtitle of her book.) Start with the truth; the truth of the space—a closet, for instance—is that it can only hold so much. Then determine if you really love the item (or ask family members to). Finally, decide what the item means and figure out what purpose it serves.

“Things are symbols. They represent dreams and goals, like ‘I’m holding on to these pants because I want to lose weight,’ ” says Saruwatari. “If you get to the root cause of just one thing you’ve been holding on to, you’ll often figure out the reason you’re holding on to all of it. It’ll release the emotional dam, the blockages associated with stuf.” If your children feel you’re unfairly making them ditch everything they love, give them total dominion over a clearly defined space: say, a closet or container where they can keep anything they want—as long as it all fits within that physical boundary. Everything else goes. “When my son was 5 and we first began pursuing a mini-

The experts agree that one of the most important ways to help kids have a healthier relationship with stuf is to limit screen time: Limited exposure to media means limited exposure to advertising. It’s a negotiation all parents of screen-loving kids have to manage themselves, but the American Academy of Pediatrics says that screen time should be avoided for children younger than 18 months and limited for older children. “Research shows that, on average, children younger than 12 do not understand persuasive intent,” says Kasser. “They don’t understand that the person in the ad is being paid to sell things.” When they were 2, Kasser started explaining to his children that the people in ads were just acting, and that the products they were selling would not make them any happier. Restricting media has worked for Lizzi Sofge and her husband, Alan, of New York City. They have always regulated screen time for their children, Amber, 18, Camila, 10, and Lucas, 6, and they limit TV to weekends and movie nights. “They don’t see a lot of commercials—they don’t want what they don’t know exists,” says Lizzi. While it might be tough to reduce screen time for kids who are already

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accustomed to a certain number of hours per day, experts say it’s like anything else with parenting: Sometimes you just have to set a limit and stick with it. Find other activities—board games, crafts, reading—to engage in as a family: Your kids might roll their eyes at first, but you’ll eventually find something you all have fun doing together. Lizzi Sofge grew up in the Dominican Republic, where as a child she entertained herself by playing outdoors. She wanted her children to have a similar childhood, to value experiences more than toys, so the family spends money on going to the theater, for example, rather than things. There’s also a practical reason for their minimalism: “We live in a twobedroom apartment and need to be very conscious of what comes in,” says Sofge. “It has to be something they really want and really need.” The kids know to respect their parents’ limits.

The Gift Conundrum To avoid getting a deluge of toys, clothes, and other stuf for holidays or birthdays, experts say to ask relatives and family friends for experiences

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instead of things. The key is to be specific. Cassandra Larson, a mother of three in Fort Atkinson, Wisconsin, states exactly what her children would like to do: “Gifts are not necessary, but if you would like to give one, [child] would be so happy if you gave money toward [such-and-such experience].” Sofge has asked family and friends not to give her children gifts, period. They get three gifts each from Santa at Christmas, as well as cash to donate to someone in need. Sofge says that the first year the family did this, her children weren’t quite on board, and the youngest wanted to know why he couldn’t spend the money on toys for himself. Last year, they felt great about giving the money to an immigrant in need who works near their school.

Is It Ever Too Late? Truth time: If children haven’t been raised from the get-go to be minimalists, it can be difficult to teach them to adopt that lifestyle as tweens and teens. Lisa George of Cobb County, Georgia, said her 16-year-old son, Dez, was the first grandchild in her family and was showered with toys and

clothes. He learned to associate things with love and often didn’t value the toys and clothes he had, she says. Around the time Dez was 8, George realized the amount of stuf was getting out of hand and it was time to make a change. She started by going through Dev’s closet with him and discussing whether he truly needed each item, explaining that things he rarely used could go to people who needed them. “If you have 20 pairs of shoes and are only wearing five, you could be helping 15 other people,” she told him. Interestingly, Kasser’s research reveals that people who care about image and popularity are more likely to be materialistic, while those who focus more on personal growth and community don’t worry as much about having things. Helping your child focus on those positive values can also help her deal with jealousy she might feel when kids show up at school with the latest cool gadget: “Encourage her to feel gratitude for what your family already has and learn you don’t have to be like everyone else,” he says. George encouraged Dez to get an after-school job last year to earn spending money. He says that it’s helped him consider whether he really wants something before purchasing it, and that he cares for the items he buys because he understands that hours of work made it possible for him to have them. The journey to minimalism has been a gradual one, but the family has started spending money on hobbies and trips rather than stuf. The result: happier parents and a happier kid.

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My mother-in-law keeps replacing the things I buy for our baby (her first grandchild) with expensive items: organic diapers and formula, sensitive-skin wipes, pricey soaps, you name it. She is so kind and generous with her time and resources, but I find this so pushy, and it feels like she’s saying what I’ve picked out isn’t good enough. I know she’s trying to be helpful, but I’m afraid I’m going to lose my patience. Can I address this, or should I just try to move on?

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At a recent gathering, the guest of honor was Hispanic. Not trying to be impudent but rather trying to put the guest more at ease, I asked him some questions in Spanish. My husband considered it quite rude and inappropriate of me to ask questions others could not understand. What do you think?

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If you are Hispanic or if Spanish is your own first language and this was a conversation of kinship and solidarity, it was worth a few moments of confusion for the other guests. But if that’s not the case, I’m more concerned about the guest of honor than the English speakers, who can survive a rare moment of being out of the loop. In assuming he would rather speak to you in Spanish than English, you may have unintentionally made him feel stereotyped, marginalized, or awkward. Go ahead and ask if he’d prefer to speak in Spanish or English. And if it’s more about you than him, say as much: “I studied Spanish in college, and I’m always looking for a chance to practice.”

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Welcome to motherhood! And to two of this column’s perennial themes: passive aggressive in-laws and the perceived judgment of new parents. These are thorny issues, even when mothers-in-law are being generous. You’ll need to get used to a certain amount of mama-bear gatekeeping, since you’ll be deciding what’s best for your child for many years to come. Explain that you have found a diaper routine that works and aren’t looking to change it, then redirect her by ofering a hook for those spending impulses, like a new stroller or a college fund. You can also try nipping this dynamic in the bud: “I know you love the baby so much, and you’re being generous, but I’m sensitive right now, and your gifts make me feel like you disapprove of our choices.” Then invite her to recall her own early motherhood with you.

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When I host dinner parties, I spend a lot of effort planning the menu and preparing the dishes in advance. Invariably, some guests will show up with additional food items without asking permission beforehand. I resent this, as I feel obligated to serve their dishes along with mine; I have to serve their store-bought cake with my homemade blackberry cobbler. I always serve plenty of food, so that is not the problem. How do I, without stepping on too many toes, stop this practice? This is a positive problem: You’re a great cook! You have generous friends! But if you don’t want to plop that tub of macaroni salad on the table with your homemade pasta, try clarifying your invitation: “We’ll have plenty of food, so please don’t bring anything.” If you suspect that won’t work, channel your guests’ impulses: “But if you’ve got a bottle of white wine burning a hole in your fridge, that would be welcome!” Anyone who asks directly can get an assignment: “Would you be willing to pick up some vanilla ice cream?” Beyond that, be grateful for big-hearted gestures. Put out the supermarket cake and focus on enjoying everyone’s company.

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I have a good friend who has struggled with infertility. She and her husband are trying to adopt, but the process is long and emotional. Several of our mutual friends are now expecting. I know it’s been hard for her to hear the news of other pregnancies. Now I am expecting too, and I don’t know how to tell her without adding to her sadness. What can I do to balance not hurting my friend with enjoying my pregnancy and excitement about starting a family? Congratulations! And thank you for tempering your joy with compassion for your friend. I think that expansiveness should always come from the happier person. So do tell your friend your news, since she’ll be sad and humiliated if you don’t, but acknowledge her mixed feelings: “I knew you’d be happy for us, but I can only imagine how heartbroken you feel not to have your baby on the way yet.” Invite her to talk to you, if she likes, about the adoption process, her grief, or the ways you can support her. You might even consider emailing your news—that way she can burst into tears or do whatever she needs to do before congratulating you. If she says, “I’m happy for you, but please understand if I don’t join all the celebrations,” you will understand, because that’s life: happy and sad, both at the same time.

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I’m planning to get an African gray parrot. I’ve heard they’re usually pretty chatty. Do I need to train my bird to talk, or will talking come naturally?

My dog gets nervous when a lot of people are around. How can I keep him calm during holiday gatherings at home?

My cat eats her food too quickly and gets sick. How can I teach her to slow down?

African gray parrots naturally mimic animal sounds in the wild and are known for picking up humanlike sounds as well. With a little encouragement from you, your parrot may talk even more, says animal trainer Barbara Heidenreich. Talk to him daily, and play music you enjoy as soon as you bring him home. If you really want to get him talking, play recordings of other African gray parrots once a day for about 45 minutes to encourage him to replicate similar sounds (search for “Einstein the Talking Texan Parrot” on YouTube). While there’s no guarantee that a parrot will copy these sounds, positive reinforcement—treats, head scratches, and toys—should increase the likelihood.

You can probably tell when your dog is stressed, but if you’re not sure, look for cues such as lip licking, drooling, and excessive panting, says animal trainer Melissa Munoz. Set up a sanctuary space, like a bedroom with a closed door, a crate, or a spot behind a baby gate. Starting a few weeks before your party, give him a kibble-stuffed toy (such as the Kong Classic Dog Toy, $7; jet.com) once a day in this space. Let him hang out there for 10 minutes, offer him praise and food-based rewards, and play music or a movie in the background to see if it soothes his nerves. After a few days, increase his time in the space to up to an hour. The day of your party, bring your dog to his comfort zone 15 minutes before guests arrive and make partygoers aware that your dog’s area is off-limits. Let him out once the guests have gone.

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Some cats’ drive for food makes it nearly impossible to train them to eat more slowly, so the key is to reduce the amount that’s available at any given time, says Ann Hohenhaus, DVM. Cat-specific slowfeed bowls (like the Northmate Catch Interactive Cat Feeder, $35; chewy.com) challenge cats’ inner hunters by requiring them to drag food out with their paw. You can also feed your cat smaller portions multiple times a day with an automatic feeder (like the Aspen Pet Lebistro Portion Control Programmable Pet Feeder, $48; amazon.com). Or place small amounts of wet and dry food in each cup of a muffin tin; moving between cups will force her to slow down. If she’s still vomiting after a week on a new feeding routine, consult your vet.

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A Change of Heart W H E N H E R A D O P T I V E G R A N D M A U S E D A R AC I A L S LU R , N I C O L E C H U N G WA S C RU S H E D. B U T OV E R T I M E , T H E W O M E N W O U L D F I N D C O M M O N G RO U N D.

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I WA S 1 2 , M AY B E 1 3 , W H E N I S H OW E D my grandmother how to use her first computer, opening a window so she could type a letter to a friend back in Ohio. “It’s easier than using your electric typewriter,” I said. I watched as she typed the first few sentences, pointing out the backspace key when she made a mistake. “The kids thought it was time I got with the times so they bought me this computer,” she wrote. “I’ll give it a try. My granddaughter is helping me. She is Grandma’s girl. I can do no wrong.” As her only local grandchild, I was the one Grandma knew best, the one she spoiled most. She took me shopping

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I wondered whether any of my relatives would feel embarrassed using that word in my presence if they actually saw me as Asian. I wanted them to see that truth. and cooked my favorite foods, just like any grandmother, but she also taught me how to roller-skate, plant a garden, can peaches and green beans, ride a bicycle, bait a hook, belt out showtunes with gusto. She loved adventure and encouraged me to run free in her neighborhood at the base of the mountains, in the woods we both loved, over sand dunes on the Oregon coast. Strange things always seemed to happen when I was with her—like the time I got lost at the marina and the coast guard found me, or the time the tide stole our boat away while we hunted for clams on a sandy bank and we were stranded until some friendly fishermen brought it back to us. One evening, when we saw two teenage boys fishing crabs right out of the crashing high-tide surf, she grabbed my hand and hauled me into the waves up to my waist, then up to my chest, and soon we had our own sack filled with Dungeness crabs she had plucked out of the ocean. “I knew it would work,” Grandma told me as we walked up the beach. “You have to know about the phases of the moon, you see? The tides were on our side tonight.” If I didn’t adore her so much, if we hadn’t been so close, maybe I wouldn’t have ﬂinched that one evening, after showing her how to use her computer, when I heard her say the word “Jap.” “You shouldn’t say that,” I said immediately, without thinking. Silence fell at the dinner table. I’d interrupted one of Grandma’s stories about her life during World War II. She often broke down during these accounts, especially when she talked about the years my grandfather had spent fighting far from home. She had spent the war years with her

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aunt and uncle in Seattle, working during the day, dancing at the USO at night, trying not to think about the possible Japanese threat to the West Coast. “They were the enemy, Nicole,” Grandma said. “It was war,” my father added. My mother pointed out that I wasn’t Japanese. “You know, Japanese and Korean people don’t even like each other.” Had anyone in my adoptive family ever used an Asian slur in my presence? I couldn’t be sure. As a preteen, I was newly aware of some of the ways my perspective difered from that of my adoptive white relatives. We rarely discussed race. With their distant Eastern European and Scandinavian and more recent blue-collar Ohio roots, my parents and grandparents gave me a proximity to whiteness we all took for granted: Though I was born to Korean parents, I had been with my adoptive family since I was 2½ months old, and I believe they often thought of me as white—just like them. But at school, my diferences couldn’t be overlooked. My grade-school classmates called me names, adopted fake Asian accents, pretended they couldn’t understand me. “Speak English!” they’d shout. That word my grandmother had used reminded me of so many other words I’d heard at school, on the playground, at the bus stop, thrown my way by white kids I had known for years. I knew Grandma didn’t associate those terms with me. I didn’t want to associate them with her. But I didn’t yet have the ability to speak eloquently about how they were used to dehumanize people, justify cruelty and violence. I could have tried to argue with my parents—but my beloved grandmother? My idol? I had no framework, no foundation for talking back to her. I wondered whether any of my relatives would feel embarrassed using that word in my presence if they actually saw me as Asian. Suddenly I wanted them to see that truth, to understand and acknowledge that we did not experience the world in the same way. Still, sitting at my grandmother’s high-polished table, the steak and potatoes she’d cooked for me heaped on my plate, I understood that this was my family—the only family I’d ever known. I owed them everything. And I knew that any of them would have lain down on railroad tracks for me. Eventually someone changed the subject. I was left to eat and ponder my own failure. Not only had I not convinced anyone by speaking up, I suspected I had upset them with the reminder that we were not, in the end, the same. when my grandmother was newly widowed, another widow around her age moved into her neighborhood. At 73, her hair dyed the reddish blond it had been in her youth, Grandma was still vivacious and A F E W Y E A R S L AT E R ,

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adventurous, traveling whenever she could, happiest when her social calendar was full. Tiny Sadie, with her cropped salt-and-pepper hair, was eminently practical, was a bit of a homebody, and had to raise her quiet yet firm voice for my increasingly hard-of-hearing grandmother. They seemed unlikely friends at first. But with their husbands gone, they found in each other a source of commiseration and support. Hardly a day passed without Grandma walking her two tiny dogs to Sadieâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s house, or Sadie bringing her even smaller dog to Grandmaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s. Sadieâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s eyesight was failing and she could no longer drive, so Grandmaâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;who still motored all over town in her enormous red Cadillacâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;would pick up her friend to run to the store or medical appointments, to visit mutual friends and play cards. Together they rode senior-center-chartered buses to Reno, where Sadie nearly always won money and Grandma always lost. They had a standing biweekly manicure appointment and spent many â&#x20AC;&#x153;girlsâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; weekendsâ&#x20AC;? at the beach, walking their dogs together on a bluf overlooking the bay. Sadie was second-generation Japanese American and

had grown up in Hawaii before marrying and moving to the mainland. Sadie and I bonded almost immediately, and while neither of us ever said so, Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m sure one reason was that we were both Asian American women in an overwhelmingly white town. As Sadieâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s own family lived far away, she joined ours for every birthday and holiday celebration. When I turned 16, she gave me a tiny whitegold ring, dainty and set with a diamond chip, that her own mother had made. Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d lost my grandfather, but in her I gained a second grandmother. It wasnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t until Grandma was in her late 80sâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;newly diagnosed with dementia, though she still had many good daysâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;that I heard her say, â&#x20AC;&#x153;You know, I never thought my best friend in the world would be Japanese.â&#x20AC;? We still didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t talk much about race, the two of us, but I figured by now we could probably laugh about it. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Bet you didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t think your granddaughter would be Korean either,â&#x20AC;? I said. â&#x20AC;&#x153;No, I didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t!â&#x20AC;? She patted my hand, her eyes crinkled with the laughter Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d hoped to draw out of her, and the two of us finished our lunch.

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adopted me in the early 1980s, no one in either of their families questioned their choice— Grandma least of all. She knew how badly they wanted to be parents. They informed her I was Korean, and all she said was, “Oh, that doesn’t matter!” I know, just from seeing the two of us together in old photos, that those weren’t idle words; she loved me from the beginning. I can’t remember a time in my childhood when we weren’t close confidants, when she wasn’t the relative I most wanted to be like. As I grew older, I began speaking up, attempting to change my relatives’ minds—or at least offer a different viewpoint—when they made comments about immigrants or people they perceived to be unlike them. By college, I was much quicker to point out that I too was a child of immigrants, that we would not be a family at all if my birth parents hadn’t come here from Korea. I rarely had the heart to argue with my grandmother, especially as she got older and her memories grew more muddled. But even without my advocacy of other viewpoints, she could still surprise me. W H E N M Y PA R E N T S

On one of my visits home, in another conversation about the war, a relative tried to argue that the internment of Japanese Americans was understandable in wartime. This time I didn’t hesitate to raise my voice in disagreement—and to my surprise, my grandmother joined me. “I remember when all the Japanese people went to camps,” she said. “At the time, you know, we didn’t question it. But it wasn’t right, what happened to them.” She and I had never talked about the word she’d casually dropped at that family dinner years before. But afterward, and after Sadie entered our lives and became part of our family, I never heard her use it again.

is now quite advanced. Her world is smaller than it once was, her experiences a jumble of past and present tense. She’ll wake up one day feeling certain she’s needed at her aunt’s old farmhouse in Jamestown, New York; the next day, she might think she’s cooking dinner for a crowd in my grandparents’ first house in Cleveland or burying her beloved sister in Northern California. She’s unable to hold on to many memories these days, even long-cherished ones. But she still clings to her memories of me—and all the adventures we had together— with the fierce, unapologetic stubbornness she is known for. They’re among the last memories she can easily call to mind, without any confusion or hesitation. “Remember that day we caught all those big crabs in the ocean, Nicole?” she’ll say when I see her. “Remember the time the boat got stuck in the kelp and we had to hack our way out?” I always tell her, “Yes, I remember, Grandma.” She encourages me to write it all down: “When are you going to write a book about us?” Grandma still remembers Dream job popped up online Sadie as well. Her best friend Pulled an all-nighter updating résumé passed away a year ago, at the age of 92. “My sister Mary died Went in for assistant too young,” Grandma says, Came out a boss “but I’m happy to have had Sadie as my sister too.”

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People tend to focus on the romantic relationships in Jane Austen novels, but the nonromantic ones move the stories forward just as much. In both Pride and Prejudice and Sense and Sensibility, the shaping forces of the main characters’ lives are their close relationships with their sisters. It’s an idea that came from Austen’s own life: One of her greatest loves was her sister, Cassandra. I love that Austen frequently wrote about platonic female friendships, which inﬂuence women’s lives and destinies so much. And about siblings; after all, your siblings were there before you even met your partner. It’s easy to say that romantic love trumps all and lose sight of these relationships, but it’s so important to keep nurturing them as adults. KATE HAMILL IS AN ACTRES S AND A PL AYWRIGHT WHO SPECIALIZES IN ADAPTING CL AS SIC NOVEL S FOR THE STAGE, INCLUDING PRIDE AND PREJUDICE AND SENSE AND SENSIBILITY. SHE LIVES IN NEW YORK CIT Y.

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Even role models make mistakes. Atticus Finch, from Harper Lee’s To Kill a Mockingbird, is held up as an example of a wonderful father and person—so much so that people are naming kids after him! He teaches his children the important lesson of seeing the good in everyone, but I would argue that he can take it too far, even sometimes exposing his kids to danger. My students, who are in their teens, often have contentious relationships with their parents and other adults. When we read this book, I ask them to evaluate Atticus as a parent, considering how he is wonderful and how he misses the boat. It gives them a chance to poke holes in the myth of parental perfection and see adults in a new light. ANDREW SIMMONS IS AN ENGLISH TE ACHER IN OAKL AND, CALIFORNIA , WHO IS WRITING A BO OK ON HOW RE ADING CAN IMPROVE TEENS’ SO CIAL LIVES.

For the Weasley family in the Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling, teasing is a love language: The parents and seven siblings aren’t constantly saying “I love you,” but they express love by showing up and by joking around. Sometimes they go too far, like when they tease Ginny about having a crush on Harry right in front of him. But they mostly get it right. They demonstrate that teasing reveals intimacy, saying, “I know your weakness, and I know how much to push on it without hurting you.” VANES SA ZOLTAN IS A RESE ARCH AS SISTANT AT THE HARVARD DIVINIT Y SCHO OL AND COHOST OF THE P OD CAST HARRY P OT TER AND THE S ACRED TE XT. SHE LIVES IN CAMBRID GE, MAS SACHUSE T TS.

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Every relative has something to teach you. In Rita Williams-Garcia’s One Crazy Summer, which is set in the 1960s, three sisters from Brooklyn, New York, go to live with their estranged mother, Cecile, in California, where she is involved with the Black Panther Party. The girls don’t want to go at first. They are close to their father, who raised them. But Cecile teaches them to be more confident and to create a sisterhood, and she learns that there is potential inside each child that can be unlocked with love and support. This book teaches us that understanding is about seeing things from someone else’s perspective, but also about opening up your own mind.

There’s a reason the March sisters from Louisa May Alcott’s Little Women are so iconic: They turn to one another and their own imaginations for entertainment. They put on plays together, write their own newspaper, form their own club, and help people in their community. (In my retelling, they create a funny, 1990s-style self-published zine.) It makes for a lively, satisfying family life and strengthens the bonds they enjoy as sisters and friends. The March sisters were makers before being a maker was cool. Readers have loved them for so long because they fight like actual siblings, but there’s so much joy in what they do. L AURA SCHAEFER IS THE AUTHOR OF L I T TLER WOMEN: A MODERN RETELL ING. SHE LIVES IN ORL AND O, FLORIDA .

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If you moved your body today, you delivered a powerful dose of pain-relieving, sleep-inducing, blood-sugar-regulating natural drugs to your muscles, heart, and brain. Of course, there’s no substitute for pharmacology in some situations, but exercise can be a miracle cure. Here’s to breaking a sweat—and reaping the benefits. EXERCISE IS MEDICINE.

Sleep Better One reason to get of the couch today: a better snooze tonight. “Physical activity improves your ability to regulate your mood and lowers anxiety levels, which can cause insomnia,” says Michael T. Smith Jr., PhD, a sleep expert at Johns Hopkins Medicine in Baltimore. “Some studies of brain activity show that exercise may create a physiological need for deeper sleep.” In short, you wake up refreshed— not groggy. Exercise can also make a diference during the day, helping you hit your to-do list instead of wanting to nap at your desk. Research reveals that people who meet physicalactivity guidelines (150 minutes a week of moderate-intensity exercise) are 35 percent less likely to feel sleepy during the day. B E S T E X E RC I S E F O R S L E E P : HIGH-INTENSIT Y CARDIO

Get out of breath—think rowing or vigorous biking. If evening exercise works for you, embrace it. It will spike your core body temperature, and the subsequent cooldown can promote deeper sleep, says Smith. Aim to finish exercising two hours before bed.

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Manage Cholesterol The thinking used to be that you should lower your total cholesterol, but doctors now look at the two types, HDL and LDL, in diferent ways. When it comes to HDL, the higher the better; for LDL, the lower the better, explains Suzanne Steinbaum, DO, director of women’s cardiovascular prevention, health, and wellness at Mount Sinai Heart in New York City. As you age, your estrogen levels decline, and so does your HDL cholesterol, leaving your heart vulnerable to damage. To get your numbers in check, start moving. “Research shows that the most potent thing you can do is exercise, because it improves the function of HDL. We don’t have a drug that does that and helps provide better outcomes for heart disease and stroke,” says Steinbaum. “Exercise is better than medication.” And it pays of: For every 1 percent your HDL increases by, your heart disease risk decreases by 3 percent, notes Steinbaum.

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A regimen involving both cardio and strength training is ideal for increasing HDL and reducing LDL in people who are healthy or have high cholesterol, according to a review in the journal Sports Medicine. Try to get a minimum of 30 minutes of moderate exercise five days a week; at least two of those sessions should include strength training.

Alleviate PMS Cramps, moodiness, and exhaustion: The last thing you want to do is hit the gym, thanks. But dress in comfy clothes and go—you’ll feel better. “It’s a well-known phenomenon that exercise releases feel-good chemicals in the brain called endorphins,” says

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Alyssa Dweck, MD, a gynecologist and assistant clinical professor of ob-gyn at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York City. Endorphins are responsible for the famous “runner’s high,” and they’re a source of natural pain relievers that target cramps. Another perk: Physical activity may lessen your ﬂow. To prevent and treat discomfort, Dweck recommends exercising regularly and ramping it up a couple of days before you expect your period to arrive. Use a period-tracking app and set an alert to ping you to make a date with the gym. This will feel easier each month. B E S T E X E RC I S E F O R P M S : C A R D I O O R YO G A

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Cardio workouts are very efective at ﬂooding the body with endorphins, though many other kinds of exercise also release them, says Dweck. If you want gentler movement, roll out your yoga mat. Fifteen studies concluded that yoga may help reduce PMS, according to a review in the Journal of Alternative and Complementary Medicine. The mind-body practice can calm your nervous system’s stress response— that’s helpful, since stress is known to worsen cramps. Yoga may also improve pain tolerance and leave you with a greater sense of wellbeing, something you could use right now.

Relieve Back Pain You can’t figure out what happened (are you sleeping funny? Is it all that sitting or standing at work?), but your back is sore and stif, and it’s not getting better. All you want to do is lie down and ﬂip on Netﬂix. Up to 80 percent of adults will experience lower-back pain at some point in their lives, and it’s one of the most common reasons people head to the doctor and stay home from work. However, while only a qualified health care practitioner can tell you the best course of action for treating your pain, “sometimes the solution is not to rest,” says Nick Licameli, a physical therapist at Professional Physical Therapy in Nutley, New Jersey. Pain medications, like opioids, aren’t necessarily the solution either. “Our bodies are made to move. Physical activity helps lubricate the disks in the spine and improves nerve, muscle, and joint functions that play a role in back health,” says Licameli. In many cases, you can’t couch-potato your way out of pain—doing so may prolong it. B E S T E X E RC I S E F O R B A C K PA I N : CARDIO + STRENGTH + FLEXIBILIT Y

To ease the aches, you need an all-around routine. A U.K. research review analyzing the best type of exercise to treat back pain concluded that a three-pronged approach gets patients feeling better fastest. Cardio boosts healing blood ﬂow to the soft tissues in the back and releases endorphins. Strength work that challenges the core builds muscles

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that support the spine, relieving discomfort by as much as 77 percent. Flexibility training focusing on the spine and hamstrings improves range of motion to temper pain by up to 58 percent. To perfect the routine, see a physical therapist, who can guide you toward the exercises you need.

Lift Depression If you are experiencing depression but hesitant to go on medication (or if sussing out the right meds is a tough process), consider a natural moodlifting power duo: therapy and exercise. A plethora of studies have examined the role exercise can play in treatment. Some have shown mixed results. However, a large, well-respected analysis looking at 39 studies, which was published in 2013 in the Cochrane Database of Systematic Reviews, found that while activity alone isn’t better than antidepressants, for some people it’s as efective as psychotherapy, and it’s certainly better than no therapy, says John Sharp, MD, a psychiatrist at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center in Boston and the author of The Insight Cure. Exercise boosts endorphins, relieves stress, and improves mental health in ways we still don’t understand, he says. Another bright spot: Research shows that regular physical activity also helps prevent depression. The overall takeaway is positive. “I advise that everyone trying to recover from depression attend therapy and exercise,” says Sharp. And that’s all many people will need. Of course, if you sufer from severe depression or have

a strong family history of it, then adding an antidepressant may create the mood-lifting trifecta you need. Depression is a serious illness. If you have symptoms—fatigue, feelings of hopelessness or worthlessness, loss of pleasure in activities—ask your doctor for a referral to a mental health professional. B E S T E X E RC I S E F O R D E P R E S S I O N : W H AT E V E R YO U C A N M A N A G E

One of the hallmark symptoms of depression is a lack of enjoyment in activities, so it can be tough to get up and get going. But one study compared the efects of doing either light, moderate, or vigorous activity for about an hour three times a week, and results showed that even light exercise (walking, stretching) improved mental health. “You don’t need to kill it in the gym to get the benefit of exercise in treating and preventing depression,” says Sharp. Exercising every other day is a good goal. Don’t wait until you feel ready and energized. You may have to push yourself to start, but you’ll be making a big step toward recovery.

Prevent Diabetes Ninety percent of the 84 million adults in the U.S. with prediabetes (a condition in which blood sugar levels are elevated) don’t know they have it. Left untreated, prediabetes can develop into full-blown type 2. If you’ve got prediabetes risk factors—you have a family history of type 2 diabetes, you’re 45 or older, you’re overweight, you’re sedentary— starting an exercise program can bring you back from the brink of a type 2 diagnosis. During exercise, muscles soak up glucose for energy, which lowers blood sugar. “Highquality research from the Diabetes Prevention Program shows that, in general, exercise helps prevent the disease—especially for those who are overweight and lose even a modest amount,” says Matthew J. O’Brien, MD, assistant professor of medicine and preventive medicine at the Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University. B E S T E X E RC I S E F O R P R E D I A B E T E S : P O W E R WA L K I N G

You don’t have to join a gym to reduce your diabetes risk. A study in the journal Diabetologia found that people who did the equivalent of 11½ miles of brisk walking weekly (less than two miles a day) improved their glucose tolerance by 7 percent. That result is better than the one experienced by people who did an equal amount of vigorous activity (think jogging) and almost as good as the one experienced by people who lost weight through diet and exercise. One final note: “Staying consistent is the most important part,” says O’Brien. Exercise afects glucose control quickly—any efort you put in today matters. Just stick with it.

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I build in a lot of structure for myself, which includes personal time to do things like exercise. When I started working from home and didn’t have to commute for an hour, I would just sit down and get to work an hour earlier. Then I began going to Jazzercise classes with my mom, and there were 90-yearold women in better shape than I was. I made a promise to myself to exercise more regularly. When I work out in the morning, there’s a feeling of accomplishment that tees up my day nicely.

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I’m an emergency room doctor and also a writer, so having a start trigger is key. Otherwise it’s too easy to say, “Let me tidy up the playroom or throw in a load of laundry,” rather than focus on my work. The trigger that helps me make the most of the three or four days I write at home is my kids’ school start time. When they leave for school at 7:30 a.m., I know to grab my cup of coffee, go into my office, and begin to work. I often schedule meetings at that time of day to maintain the rigor. Fifty-cent earplugs are also essential!

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I’ve come to embrace a nontraditional schedule. When you’re self-employed, every minute counts. I was a schoolteacher for 25 years. Then, four years ago, my wife and I decided to go into business together. We are a mobile screening business—we do window screens and porch screens at the customer’s home. She takes care of the ordering and clientele while I do the labor. During the day, our truck is our mobile office as we go from house to house. But at night, after dinner, we dedicate two to three hours to the business, paperwork, and ordering.

I turned my motherin-law suite into an office with a separate entrance. When I started working from home seven years ago, I would work anywhere around the house, which made it difficult to separate work from home life. Now that I have a dedicated space, I find I work better. I also have a ritual I do each night that makes me more productive the next day. I write down three tasks that will bring in money, grow my business, and ensure a client stays with us. If I’m having trouble getting started, I look to those three things.

I have worked at home for 20 years, and I’ve found that embracing technology has made it easier to connect with my team. I use Slack, a communications tool that enables me to have instantaneous conversations that I can keep out of my email. I also recommend videoconferencing, which allows you to have face-to-face time with colleagues. The key is to minimize your own image on the screen, because it’s completely distracting to see your face!

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called impact investing (consider it an offshoot of the more widely known socially responsible investing), makes it easier to support causes you believe in—and get a return on your hard-earned dollars. In the early days of socially responsible investing, people would pull out big categories of stocks they found objectionable— Big Tobacco, for instance—and not be too concerned about whether the remaining companies were working toward positive change, says Jake Raden, co-lead of the impact team at the investing platform Swell. But for many people, this is no longer enough. They want to proactively put money behind causes they care about—say, invest only in clean-energy companies or firms that pay employees well. Now it’s possible to do just that in a matter of minutes (no fancy investing insights required), thanks to online platforms that ofer diversified portfolios and transparent info about fees and performance. And when it comes to performance, don’t worry you’ll have to sacrifice your returns, says Dave Nugent, head of investments at the online platform Wealthsimple. “What we’ve seen from our client base is that people who believe in more than just investing for returns end up having better outcomes,” he says. “That’s probably because they’re less likely to pull out money when the market dips, since they’re investing for more than just returns.” Read on for ways to invest no matter your goal.

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If You Have a Particular Passion… “If you want to align your investments with your values, one of the first questions to ask is ‘What are those values?’ ” says Priya Parrish, chief investment officer at Impact Engine in Chicago. If one issue jumps to the top of your list, there’s nothing wrong with picking a portfolio curated around that cause. The online investment platforms Newday, Motif, and Swell ofer portfolios themed by issue. Swell, for example, lets you choose groups of stocks focused on green tech, clean water, zero waste, renewable energy, healthy living, and disease eradication. Is gender equality important to you? Ellevest focuses on companies with women in leadership roles and on women-owned businesses that provide community services. Newday looks at a company’s gender pay parity, parental leave policies, and female leadership stats before giving it a place in the portfolio.

You can still go the online platform route and get personal attention. Wealthsimple ofers free phone consultations with financial planners, who will discuss money goals and strategize how to get expense ratios down (portfolios are balanced automatically). Ellevest’s pros field unlimited texts, phone calls, and emails—or you can pony up for the premium level and have a certified financial planner map out money moves. Betterment connects users to its team of financial advisers through its mobile app and by phone. Rather not invest online? Visit the First Affirmative Financial Network (firstaffirmative.com) to find a private adviser in your area who specializes in impact investing.

If You Want a Custom Mix… You don’t want to pick one theme but don’t want to pick them all either. Now what? Try the automated online platform OpenInvest. Whatever unique blend of causes you care about, you can tailor an investment portfolio to match. The platform asks about your values, age, and investing goals, assesses your risk tolerance, and then creates a balanced custom portfolio of stocks and bonds across multiple industries. You could, for example, invest in companies with the highest score on the Human Rights Campaign’s Corporate Equality Index (which rates workplaces on treatment of LGBTQ employees) while also steering clear of any companies that earn more than 5 percent of their profits from tobacco.

If You Loathe Risk… Check out Calvert Impact Capital (calvertimpactcapital.org). Since 1995, the nonprofit investment firm in Bethesda, Maryland, has raised more than $2 billion through a global portfolio of social projects, ranging from microfinance for women entrepreneurs to urban land conservation. You can invest as little as $20. Commit to a five-year term and you’ll get a 3 percent interest rate—a 15-year term snags you 4 percent. “That ofers a modest return with exceedingly high social impact,” says Timothy Smith, director of environmental, social, and governance shareholder engagement at Walden Asset Management in Boston. “When the market was down, it was the best investment anybody had.”

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If You Want to Help a Bunch of Causes at Once… Online investment companies Wealthsimple, Betterment, Swell, and Aspiration all have socially responsible investing products that aid various issues. The sites make it easy to compare fees and past performance and to see how the companies build their portfolios—combinations of assets like stocks, bonds, mutual funds, and Exchange Traded Funds (ETFs). Wealthsimple and Betterment, for instance, prioritize ETFs, a basket of stocks or bonds. Swell’s new Impact 400, a customizable stock portfolio, comprises publicly traded companies that address at least one of the United Nations’ 17 Sustainable Development Goals. Aspiration actively manages its funds—meaning humans, not algorithms, tweak the mix. It also lets customers set their own fees and then donates 10 percent of the fee to charity.

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T RA D I T I O N WITH A T WIST Give the people what they want—turkey and all their favorite Thanksgiving trimmings, of course—but not quite like Grandma made.

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3 large carrots, quartered lengthwise 3 large yellow onions 3 lemons 1 tsp. kosher salt, divided tsp. freshly ground black pepper, divided 6 oz. pepperoni, sliced (about 1 cup) 1 Tbsp. fresh rosemary leaves, chopped, plus sprigs for cavity 12 Tbsp. (1 sticks) unsalted butter, softened, divided

detach skin. Use a rubber spatula to get into harder-to-reach places, if necessary. Repeat with thighs and legs. GENTLY rub pepperoni butter evenly under skin of breast, thighs, and legs, using rubber spatula to get into harder-to-reach places. Pat and smooth down top of skin to help distribute butter underneath. Rub remaining 2 tablespoons butter all over outside of turkey and season all over (including cavity) with remaining teaspoon salt and teaspoon pepper. Cut remaining onion and lemon in half and stuff inside cavity with rosemary sprigs.

turkey, breast side up, on top of vegetables in roasting pan. Tuck wing tips underneath body and, if desired, tie legs together using kitchen twine for a neater bird.

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G R AV Y cup dry white wine 4 Tbsp. (

stick) unsalted butter

cup all-purpose flour 4 cups chicken or turkey stock tsp. kosher salt tsp. freshly ground black pepper the turkey: Pat turkey dry with paper towels. Let stand at room temperature for at least 30 minutes and up to 1 hour. Preheat oven to 475°F.

MAKE

turkey neck and carrots in a large roasting pan. Cut 2 onions and 2 lemons into quarters and add to pan. Season with teaspoon salt and teaspoon pepper.

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pepperoni and chopped rosemary in a food processor and pulse until finely chopped. Add 10 tablespoons butter and process until smooth. PL ACE

turkey breast facing up and starting from the neck end, slide fingers under skin to loosen and lift until you reach the end of the breast, being careful not to tear or totally

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until skin is golden brown, about 40 minutes. Reduce oven temperature to 350°F. Pour 2 cups water into roasting pan and continue to roast until a thermometer inserted in thickest portion of thigh registers 165°F and juices run clear when cut between leg and thigh, about 1 hour and 30 minutes for a 12-pound turkey. Transfer turkey to a cutting board. Let rest for at least 30 minutes before carving. ROAST

the gravy: While turkey rests, pour pan juices into a fat separator or through a wire-mesh strainer set over a bowl; discard solids. Let juices stand for 10 minutes. Skim fat from surface and discard. Set aside juices (you should have about 1 cups). MAKE

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1 lb. fresh or frozen cranberries 1 1-in. strip orange peel 1 cinnamon stick tsp. kosher salt 1 12- to 13.4-oz. jar lingonberry or red currant preserves (about 1 cups) STIR cranberries, orange peel, cinnamon, salt, and cup water in a medium saucepan over medium. Bring to a simmer and cook, stirring often and occasionally pressing down on cranberries with the back of a wooden spoon, until cranberries burst, about 10 minutes.

from heat and stir in preserves until well combined. Transfer to a bowl. Serve at room temperature. Sauce may be stored in a covered container in the refrigerator for up to 2 weeks. REMOVE

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TURKEY 1 12- to 14-lb. turkey (thawed if frozen), giblets removed and discarded, neck reserved

empty roasting pan over 2 burners on stovetop over mediumhigh. Add wine and cook, stirring and scraping up browned bits from bottom, for about 3 minutes. Add butter and whisk until melted. Gradually whisk in flour and cook, whisking all around pan, until golden, about 3 minutes. Slowly whisk in stock, then whisk in strained juices. Bring to a simmer and cook, whisking occasionally, until thickened, 8 to 10 minutes. Remove from heat and whisk in salt and pepper. Serve with turkey. PL ACE

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1 cup hazelnuts cup white balsamic or white wine vinegar 2 Tbsp. honey 1

tsp. kosher salt 1 tsp. Dijon mustard tsp. freshly ground black pepper cup olive oil 1 large bunch red kale, ribs removed, leaves torn into bite-size pieces (about 10 cups) 1 lb. Brussels sprouts, trimmed and shredded in a food processor (about 6 cups) 1 cup pomegranate seeds 2 cups Butter-and-Herb Croutons (page 150)

oven to 350°F. Roast hazelnuts in a single layer on a rimmed baking sheet until golden brown and fragrant, 8 to 12 minutes. Let cool. Rub hazelnuts between your fingers to loosen skins; discard skins (some will stick—that’s OK). Transfer hazelnuts to a cutting board and roughly chop; set aside. PREHEAT

vinegar, honey, salt, mustard, and pepper in a medium bowl. Slowly whisk in oil. WHISK

kale and Brussels sprouts with cup dressing in a large bowl. Using your hands, massage dressing into kale mixture until leaves are slightly softened and shiny, about 2 minutes. Let stand for 10 minutes. Add pomegranate seeds and remaining dressing and toss to combine. Serve immediately or refrigerate overnight. TOS S

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before serving, add croutons and hazelnuts and toss to combine. JUST

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MAPLE-BUT TER SWIRL cup pure maple syrup 4 Tbsp. ( melted

stick) unsalted butter,

2 Tbsp. dark brown sugar tsp. kosher salt

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cups all-purpose flour

cups stone-ground cornmeal (not coarse) 1 Tbsp. baking powder

4 cups half-and-half

1 Tbsp. granulated sugar

5 tsp. kosher salt, divided

1 tsp. kosher salt

cup (1 stick) unsalted butter, melted

potatoes, half-and-half, and 2 teaspoons salt in a large saucepan. Bring to a boil over medium-high. Reduce heat to low, partially cover, and cook, stirring often, until potatoes are tender when pierced with a fork, 20 to 22 minutes. Remove from heat and transfer mixture to a large heatproof bowl.

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WORKING in batches and using a slotted spoon, transfer potatoes to a potato ricer and rice over the saucepan. Reserve cooking liquid in bowl (you should have about 1 to 2 cups). Stir butter and remaining 3 teaspoons salt into mashed potatoes. Fold in sour cream and enough cooking liquid to reach desired consistency. Reserve any leftover cooking liquid for reheating.

Reheat mashed potatoes in a saucepan over medium, stirring often, adding about cup cooking liquid to thin if needed.

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Nonstick cooking spray, for pie plate

cup all-purpose flour

4 lb. Yukon Gold potatoes, peeled and cut into 1-in. pieces

cup sour cream

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tsp. baking soda 3 large eggs 1

cups buttermilk 2 Tbsp. unsalted butter, melted, plus more for dish

8 oz. graham crackers (15 sheets) tsp. kosher salt, divided 10 Tbsp. (1 sticks) unsalted butter, melted 10 oz. white chocolate chips (1 cups) 1 15-oz. can pumpkin puree 8 oz. cream cheese, at room temperature 1 tsp. pure vanilla extract 1 tsp. ground cinnamon tsp. ground ginger tsp. ground cloves

1 Tbsp. pure maple syrup PREHEAT

oven to 400Â°F.

the Maple-Butter Swirl: Whisk syrup, butter, sugar, and salt in a medium bowl until combined. Gradually whisk in flour until incorporated.

MAKE

MAKE the cornbread: Lightly coat an 8-inch square baking dish with butter. Whisk flour, cornmeal, baking powder, sugar, salt, and baking soda in a large bowl. Whisk eggs, buttermilk, butter, and syrup in a separate large bowl until evenly combined. Gradually whisk wet mixture into dry mixture until evenly incorporated.

batter to prepared baking dish and smooth the top. Dollop Maple-Butter Swirl all over top of batter and, using the tip of a knife (donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t go too deep), swirl to create a marbled effect. Bake until golden brown and a toothpick inserted in center comes out clean, 35 to 40 minutes. Let cool for at least 10 minutes before serving.

TRANSFER

Whipped cream, for serving a 9-inch pie plate with cooking spray. COAT

PUL SE crackers and teaspoon salt in a food processor until finely ground (you should have 2 cups). Add butter and pulse to combine (mixture should hold together when squeezed in your palm). Using a flat-bottomed glass or measuring cup, press crumbs firmly into bottom and up sides of pie plate. Freeze until set, about 15 minutes.

melt chocolate chips in a medium microwave-safe bowl, stirring every 30 seconds, until smooth. Let cool. Whisk in pumpkin puree.

MEANWHILE,

cream cheese with a stand mixer fitted with a paddle attachment on medium-high until creamy. Add vanilla, cinnamon, ginger, cloves, and remaining teaspoon salt, scraping down sides and bottom of bowl as needed; beat to combine. Stop mixer, add pumpkin mixture, and beat to combine. BEAT

filling into pie plate and smooth the top. Refrigerate until set, at least 4 hours and up to overnight. Serve topped with whipped cream.

POUR

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MAIN INGREDIENTS: We used winter bell hellebores, polly alocasia leaves, and umbrella ferns. Alternatives include anthurium or hosta leaves. HOW-TO: Forage from the backyard or prune a few leaves from your indoor plants to collect greenery of all shapes and shades. Prepare your vase with a loose sphere of floral netting. Squeeze the netting through the neck of the vase, and then reach in and expand the sphere a bit so it stays put. Start by arranging a few elements around the opening of the vessel and build up in orbits to make the result feel organic. PRO TIP: If youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re planning to set this arrangement in the center of your dining table, keep the profile low so guests can see one another over the top.

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MAIN INGREDIENTS: We used cafĂŠ au lait dahlias, ranunculus, and astilbe. Alternatives include alstroemeria, freesia, and hydrangea. HOW-TO: Pick your main color and purchase blooms both lighter and darker in the same color family. Prepare a low bowl with a flower frog and netting, and then build your arrangement in an arc, clustering the darkest shades on one end and the lightest on the other. As you shift between shades, sprinkle in a few stems of the adjoining color to create a gradual transition. Make the color sections rich and interesting by including focus flowers (like dahlias), leafy stems (like ninebark), and drapey elements (like andromeda shrubs) within each. Keep the shape symmetrical by incorporating similarly sized elements in mirroring sections (for example, scabiosa on the right and lisianthus on the left). PRO TIP: Check out your arrangement from all angles. If one side seems lacking, add in a few extra blooms to make it more full.

NEUTR AL ELEGANCE MAIN INGREDIENTS: We used pampas grass, carnations, and lisianthus. Alternatives include fountain grass, dried poppy pods, and wheat. HOW-TO: This option requires the least prep work, as the cylindrical vessel holds the stems in place without extra support. A tall arrangement like this will likely sit on a sideboard or buffet, so focus on how it looks head-on. Start with your tallest statement fronds in the back (like the tan pampas grass seen here), and then add blooms in a neutral peachy tone. Fill in with airier elements, like autumnal eucalyptus and conical astilbe. PRO TIP: Incorporate feathers for unexpected texture. Since these donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t need to reach the water, they can be tucked in among the other stems as your last step.

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This helpful handbook can guide you toward in-season flowers within your chosen color scheme. TO BUY: Flower Color Guide by Darroch and Michael Putnam, $35; phaidon.com.

A reusable floral frog has dozens of pinpoints to secure stems in place. Attach it to your vase with floral adhesive. TO BUY: 3in Round Floral Pin Frog, $18; jamaligarden.com.

To turn a low bowl or widemouthed vase into a functional container for flowers, attach a floral frog to the base of the bowl, cover it with a dome of floral netting, and secure that with floral tape. For clear vessels, skip the netting and create a grid of clear floral tape across the opening to keep your framework hidden.

THE BASICS No matter what the arrangement style, your stems require a bit of TLC before you start assembling.

These shears help cut everything from delicate stems to woody branches and can even trim wire. Keep them separate from your everyday scissors to maintain their sharpness. TO BUY: Garden MultiSnip with Sheath, $19; fiskars.com.

Wire netting and floral tape provide additional stem stability for your arrangement. TO BUY: Wire Floral Netting & Floral Tape Set, $24; thefloralsociety.com.

PICK YOUR BLOOMS. Generally, including seven elements makes an arrangement feel varied and elegant. No need to replicate our choices exactly—explore what’s available at your local flower market or grocery store to find what pairs well with your decor. ADD IN WATER AND FLOWER FOOD. After you’ve built your base, fill the vessel three-quarters full with water and pour in flower food (like the little packet that comes with prearranged bouquets). It will be harder to fill the container once the blooms have been placed. SNIP AND STRIP THE STEMS. In general, soft stems should be cut at an angle, while woodier stems, like those on hydrangea or ninebark, should be cut across, then given a snip up the center to help them absorb more liquid. Remove any leaves that might touch water. Otherwise they can decay faster than the flowers and give your entire arrangement a shorter life span.

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BE OUR GUEST! (OR HOST) Whether you’re packing your overnight bag or prepping the guest bedroom, try our ideas for making this year’s holiday visits memorable in a good way. BY C AT H E R I N E N E W M A N I L LU ST R AT I O N S BY B A B E T H L A FO N

Birdy, that I was writing about being a guest and being a host, she said, because she is reading Homer’s Odyssey for school, “Oh, you mean, like, xenia?” And unbeknownst to me, and despite my lack of ﬂuency in the principles of ancient Greek society, I did mean, like, xenia. Because xenia turns out to capture the exact kind of reciprocal hospitality I was thinking about: The host must take generous and gracious care of the guest; the guest must be courteous and not burdensome; everyone remembers that everyone else might be a god in disguise. Also, as Birdy put it, “If you’re bad at it, you get killed by Zeus.” W H E N I T O L D M Y DAU G H T E R ,

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We have ourselves experienced many guests and many hosts, and though we’ve never seen anyone struck down by a lightning bolt for leaving a wet towel wadded up on the floor, we’ve had our favorites and unfavorites over the years. In general: The best hosts are relaxed, flexible, and gracious. The vibe is “We’re so glad you’re here!” They help us minimize our imposition on them while spoiling us with little indulgences. They’ve gone to trouble without making us feel like they’ve gone to any trouble. They do not make us go to the neighborhood block party. The best guests are also relaxed, flexible, and gracious—and they’re enthusiastic. The vibe is “We’re so happy to be here!” They notice our eforts and are gung ho about whatever plans we make. They are happy for us to go to some trouble but don’t need to be tended to every second. They ofer to treat us to a meal. We do not have bedbugs when they leave. Whether you’re visiting loved ones this season or they’re en route to you, these suggestions can help ensure happy repeat visits (though not too soon, of course).

Planning the Visit Communicate clearly about your plans: “Is the end of January good for you guys? Will you have some time of, or should we plan to entertain ourselves?” And unless you’ve been explicitly encouraged to stay for a long time, don’t! Aim low and, if nobody begs you to stay longer, stick with it. (Specifics vary, but you might consider limiting your stay to two nights unless you’re GUE ST S:

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visiting your nearest and dearest, and in that case to no more than four or five nights.) Share your estimated arrival time and plan to ferry yourself from the airport or train station unless someone ofers to pick you up. HOST S: Ideally, your guests will communicate if they have special diet, allergy, or mobility needs. But it’s nice to ask, possibly in an email: “Tell me what you guys are eating and not eating these days! And what else would be helpful for us to know?” Check in, too, about pet phobias or allergies.

Encourage guests to help themselves. Make it obvious how to brew cofee or tea (don’t hide the coffee beans in one cabinet, the grinder in another, and the filters in a third). Leave a jar of granola and a stack of bowls on the counter. Say, “Help yourselves to anything!” and mean it, so your guests can happily rummage around if they feel like scrambling some eggs. HOST S:

Kids The refrain to repeat to your kids is “When in Rome…” In other words, guests do more or less what hosts do. Expect the best of times (they drink soda!) and the worst of times (no screens, no candy, kids do the dishes). The ideal guests—young and grown—say please and thank you, clean up after themselves, and are excited to try new things. HOST S: With your own children, the name of the game is graciousness, GUE ST S:

Mornings Be independent. Plan to satisfy your own cafeine addiction. If you know your hosts don’t drink cofee, travel with an AeroPress and ground beans in a ziplock bag. Or wander into town and pick up cofee and pastries for everyone. Morning is the hardest time for hosts—they’re half asleep or getting their kids of to school or camp—so the more you can do for yourself, the better. GUE ST S:

BONUS POINTS FOR GUESTS Be helpful, but not obsessively or insistently so. on the side for the meat eaters. Does that sound like it will work for everyone in your family?” Then you can tweak the plans if you need to.

Activities Be up for anything, but also be excitedly opinionated (“Both of those sound great, but we’d probably pick swimming!”) rather than wishywashy. If it’s a long visit, do some research and have ideas of your own: “Would you guys be game for a day trip to the Norman Rockwell Museum?” Come prepared for unstructured time so your host isn’t always “on duty”: Pack your crochet supplies or a book. HOST S: Consider gentle guidance (“We thought we’d take the sailboat out today”) so guests aren’t stuck making decisions about a place they don’t know. That said, if a plan doesn’t sit well (e.g., the kids get seasick), good hosts are flexible. They leave time for hanging out and relaxing. GUE ST S:

which you’ll want to model and teach. Visiting children get to pick first (what TV show, what snack, where to sit at the table) and use or play with anything they like—which might mean host kids stash away special items before the guests arrive. Smart hosts put out activities (paper and pens, picture books) for shy young visitors to entertain themselves with.

Nighttime Read the room. If the adults are slumped over with glazed expressions and the babies are weeping on the carpet, realize it’s time to take yourself of to bed—and do so. (If children get successfully put to bed, it can be fun to meet up later for another game of Boggle and a nightcap.) HOST S: Leave out plenty of extra bedding and show guests how to open and close the windows or adjust the thermostat. Being a too-cold (or toohot) guest is tied for terribleness only with hosting a person who has slept poorly and needs to tell you all about it over oatmeal like you’re in a surrealist remake of The Princess and the Pea. GUE ST S:

Food Be excited and appreciative. Your tepid indiference (“I don’t care— beer or wine is fine”) will not spare anybody any trouble, but your grateful enthusiasm will delight. Our favorite guest was famous for saying, “Ooh! Both! Can I have both? Beer and then wine? They both look so good.” After dinner, good guests say, “That was delicious. Thank you so much.” HOST S: You don’t need to oppress your guests with options—one of the luxuries of being a guest is not having to decide every single thing—but it can be nice to check in: “I was thinking of making a big dinner salad with steak GUE ST S:

It’s nice to ask, “What can I do to help?” But it’s also nice to take your glass of chardonnay into the living room when your host says, “Honestly, nothing right now. Go relax!”

Bring a small tote bag to corral your stuff in the living space. Especially if multiple guests are visiting, your hosts will appreciate it if your phone, book, reading glasses, and wallet aren’t strewn confusingly around the house with everyone else’s.

BONUS POINTS FOR HOSTS Sleep in your own guest bed. Look out for a lumpy mattress; unmitigated heat; and streetlamps shining through the curtains or lights blazing from electronics, like routers and cable boxes (consider darker shades, a square of electrical tape, or a clean eye mask). Listen for household sounds (such as noise from the dishwasher) that you may want to keep from creating at night.

Avoid bathroom awkwardness. Put out an odor-mitigation device, even if it’s just a book of matches. And, ugh, leave a plunger out so nobody has to suffer the shame of asking for one.

Foster independence. Provide a spare set of keys for guests to use while they’re with you. If you live somewhere with public transportation, offer a loaded transit pass so visitors don’t have to buy their own.

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ACT I V E T I M E 1 5 M I N U T E S TOTA L T I M E 1 H O U R , 5 M I N U T E S S E R V E S 6 TO 8

1 28-oz. can whole peeled tomatoes, crushed with your hands 1 cup Castelvetrano olives, pitted and torn 1 small yellow onion, sliced cup red wine cup olive oil 3 Tbsp. capers tsp. crushed red pepper 1

tsp. kosher salt, divided Freshly ground black pepper 6 6-oz. cod fillets Chopped fresh flat-leaf parsley, for serving

oven to 425°F. Combine tomatoes, olives, onion, wine, oil, capers, crushed red pepper, 1 teaspoon salt, and several grinds of black pepper in a 3-quart baking dish; stir to combine. Roast until tomatoes have softened and mixture has thickened slightly, 35 to 40 minutes. Recipe can be made up to this point 1 day ahead. PREHEAT

ready to serve, heat oven to 425°F. Season fish with remaining teaspoon salt and several grinds of black pepper. Nestle fish in tomato mixture and place in oven. Roast until fish is just cooked through, 10 to 15 minutes. Top with parsley.

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T H E N E X T- L E V E L CASSEROLE Prep these dishes when things are quiet, and then pull them out of the oven just as the doorbell rings. You’ll dazzle your guests—and have time to talk to them. BY D AW N P E R RY

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ACT I V E T I M E 3 0 M I N U T E S TOTA L T I M E 2 H O U R S S E R V E S 6 TO 8

2 lb. trimmed beef chuck, cut into 1-in. pieces 2 Tbsp. all-purpose flour, plus more for work surface tsp. freshly ground black pepper 2

tsp. kosher salt, divided 2 Tbsp. olive oil

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1 cup quinoa 1 head cauliflower, cut into florets 5 Tbsp. olive oil, divided 1

tsp. kosher salt, divided Freshly ground black pepper 4 Tbsp. ( stick) unsalted butter 1 yellow onion, finely chopped 4 Tbsp. all-purpose flour 4 cups whole milk 4 oz. sharp white Cheddar cheese, grated (1 cup), divided 4 oz. fontina cheese, grated (1 cup), divided 2 oz. Parmesan cheese, finely grated (1 cup), divided 2 cups panko 1 Tbsp. fresh thyme leaves

oven to 425째F. Cook quinoa according to package directions.

2 Tbsp. unsalted butter

cauliflower with 3 tablespoons oil, 1 teaspoon salt, and several grinds of pepper on a rimmed baking sheet. Roast until golden and tender, 20 to 25 minutes.

1 yellow onion, chopped

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melt butter in a large skillet over medium. Add onion and remaining teaspoon salt and cook, stirring often, until softened, about 4 minutes. Add flour and cook, stirring, until mixture starts to turn golden, about 2 minutes. Gradually whisk in milk, stirring after each addition, until thickened. Bring to a simmer and cook, stirring often, until slightly thickened, about 5 minutes. Remove from heat and add half the Cheddar, half the fontina, and half the Parmesan, stirring until melted. Transfer sauce to a 3-quart baking dish and fold in quinoa and cauliflower. Recipe can be made up to this point 1 day ahead. MEANWHILE,

ready to serve, heat oven to 425째F. Toss panko with thyme, remaining cheese, and remaining 2 tablespoons oil in a medium bowl; scatter over quinoa mixture. WHEN

2 stalks celery, chopped 2 carrots, chopped 2 cloves garlic, chopped 1 tsp. ground cinnamon 1 tsp. ground ginger 1 tsp. turmeric 2 Tbsp. honey 4 cups beef broth 12 oz. pitted prunes (about 2 cups) 1 sheet puff pastry, thawed 1 large egg, beaten 1 Tbsp. sesame seeds

oven to 300째F. Toss beef with flour, pepper, and 1 teaspoons salt in a large bowl. Heat oil and butter in a large, heavy-bottomed pot or Dutch oven until butter melts. Working in 2 batches, add beef and cook, turning occasionally, until browned all over, about 4 minutes. Transfer to a plate using a slotted spoon. PREHEAT

ADD celery, carrots, onion, and teaspoon salt to pot and cook, stirring often, until vegetables are softened, about 5 minutes. Add garlic, cinnamon, ginger, and turmeric and cook until fragrant and sticky, about 1 minute. Stir in honey and cook for 30 seconds. Add broth, beef and any accumulated juices, prunes, and remaining teaspoon salt and bring to a simmer. Cover pot and transfer to oven. Bake until beef is very tender, 75 to 90 minutes. Let cool. Stew can be made up to 3 days ahead.

ready to serve, heat oven to 425째F. Transfer stew to a 3-quart baking dish. Unfold puff pastry and, on a lightly floured surface, roll to slightly larger than the baking dish. Place pastry over top of stew. Cut a few vents in the top, brush with egg, and sprinkle with sesame seeds. Bake until pastry is golden brown, 20 to 25 minutes. Let cool for 10 minutes before serving. WHEN

BAKE until edges are bubbling and top is golden brown, 15 to 18 minutes. Let cool for 5 minutes before serving.

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A HOSTING INTERVENTION Can you learn to be a better entertainer? One less-than-stellar host enrolls in a five-star hotel’s rigorous training program to find out. BY SYLVIE BIGAR

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this to a guest,” said Executive Chef Matthew Zubrod. Things weren’t of to a good start. Last December, after another train-wreck holiday week during which I forgot to serve the roasted cauliﬂower I’d stored in the microwave, left beds unmade, and absentmindedly threw out the fresh bouquet of ﬂowers my boyfriend had bought me, it became clear I needed a hosting intervention. Truth was, I had left my parents’ home years ago, but even though I loved to entertain and cowrote star chef Daniel Boulud’s cookbook, I never really learned the basics: Cook breakfast, make a bed, be a good hostess. I remembered that a friend worked at the Little Nell, a five-star hotel in Aspen, Colorado, renowned for its stellar service. She had moaned about the exhausting training but later mentioned that this kind of program could be beneficial to anyone running a household. “I WOULDN’T SERVE

“What if I could sit in on their staf training course?” I thought. A few months later, there I was, in the Little Nell’s kitchen wearing chef whites. I had just gone through an omelet-making session with breakfast cook Fredy Manzano. I was feeling pretty secure: The only thing my French mother had taught me to cook was, in fact, a runny omelet. My masterpiece, stufed with roasted vegetables and pride, strutted on the plate. But as soon as Zubrod walked in, he grimaced. Next to mine, Manzano’s specimen was a bright yellow, solid quasi calzone of egg perfection, while my baby oozed some and harbored brown spots. “The secret of a French omelet is clarified butter and no spots,” whispered Manzano, trying to make me feel better. It didn’t work. days at the Little Nell, I shadowed the heads of housekeeping, food and beverage, and guest services, joining the incoming staf as they sailed through rigorous hospitality training sessions ofered by Forbes Travel Guide, the organization that bestows star ratings on hotels, restaurants, and spas around the world. Stars are based on up to 900 standards; many of the standards are related to service but can also include things like the quality and style of linens. “Congratulations! You made it!” announced Megan Torrance, the executive trainer, as she welcomed us. I shrunk in my chair, feeling like an impostor. This first session began with a discussion of how staf members can connect with guests on a deep level. The key, I learned that morning, is to be genuinely interested in the person’s response, whether you’re hosting a celebrity, as the Little Nell often does, or your exmother-in-law. Instead of the generic “How was your day, Mr. Smith?,” be specific and personal: “Did you have fun skiing with your son today, Mr. Smith?” Stepping into the rooms, I felt surrounded by a brume of serenity, a far cry from my own bedroom, where books and papers lie on my dresser for weeks, awaiting an elusive lift to the office one ﬂight up. I was determined to learn to create this intangible feeling. My bed-making session started bright and early the next day with Lindsay Ball, the hotel’s housekeeping and health-center manager. Two young staf members prepared to demonstrate. “Go,” blurted Ball, her eye on her watch. It was like watching a silent film on fast-forward. Pulling the sheets of and sliding all four pillows out OVER THE NEXT THREE

of their cases, they stripped the bed in about three seconds. They bounced on it, pulling out microfiber rags and stretching up to wipe the top of the bed frame. Back on their feet, new pillowcases barely unfolded, bam! Their arms chopped down onto the length of the pillows for added fluf and flair before one hand pinched the top corners while the other opened the case, using gravity to shake the pillow inside. The four pillows flew onto an armchair, and the bottom sheet was already unfolded, then pulled, tucked, and smoothed until it was like a second skin. Then the second sheet was pulled crisply to the top of the bed. A few more seconds and the down duvet glided into its own case, four hands dancing an elaborate move during which the duvet and the case became one. Then the women placed it on the bed, folded top sheet and duvet together twice, and flattened the whole thing. In just a few minutes, the bed was ready for a photo shoot, but just watching the process had exhausted me. I could have used a nap right there. I scribbled furiously in my notebook, trying to remember all the steps. “This afternoon,” Ball said in an ominous tone, “we will see what you learned.”

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Needless to say, my own bed-making practice did not go very well. I forgot to pinch the corners of the pillow before attempting to slide it into the case and got both arms stuck. I fudged my way through tucking the sheet under the mattress and almost fell into the immense duvet cover. But at least I had a road map. in a guest room—this one purposefully rearranged by Torrance for practicing an evening turndown session. What a mess she had left! There were wrinkled clothes on a chair, rolled-up receipts on the bed, and the contents of a toiletry bag left strewn, tops of, on the vanity. Yes, the room had to be cleaned, but I was after the details, the tiny fixes that prevent stress. How many times had I searched for a hair dryer before finding it tucked away in a drawer, its cord LATER , WE MET AGAIN

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completely knotted? How about placing it in the open, ready for use by the nearest outlet? “Everything has to be straight and organized,” said Torrance, noting that this wasn’t done just for looks but also for convenience. Symmetry, I learned, creates a sense of coziness. Books on both nightstands were aligned neatly, close to the lamps, and a watch was lined straight against a small pad of paper. “Make sure the pillows smile,” said Maureen Wall, the housekeeping and health-center director. “Had I missed that step?” I thought. She meant for someone to pull on both top corners at the same time. The pillows straightened up and certainly seemed happier. We organized toiletries from big to small, labels facing forward. Cords were neatly coiled. “Hamburger or hot dog?” Wall asked all of a sudden, handing me a towel. I am a total carnivore but had never been ofered a burger in a bathroom. “Uh, I’ll take a hot dog,” I said, figuring it would be less messy than a burger. Laughing, Ball patiently showed how to fold a towel. Starting with the long side (hamburger-style), I folded the towel in half, then in half again, before rolling it. Starting with the short side (hot-dog-style), I folded and rolled. Either way, I was starving by the end. I peeked into the walk-in where the chefs kept the pickled produce and semiprepared items. I admired how the duck breast was aged in its own fat, so I asked to taste the dish. The meat was delicious, but I was more fascinated by the assemblage. The next day, I met with Andrew Hawkins, the general manager of the hotel’s restaurant, Element 47. BACK IN THE KITCHEN,

“There are a few rules to follow when plating such a dish,” he said. “First, odd numbers of items on a plate look better.” We plated five asparagus. Surprisingly, the odd number was more visually appealing. “You need a high and tight,” he suddenly said to me. I knew my curls needed reining in, but I wasn’t ready for that drastic a step. “On the plate,” clarified Hawkins. “Height is more pleasing to the eye than width.”

S Y M M E T RY, I L E A R N E D , C R E A T E S A SENSE OF COZINESS. BO OKS ON BOTH N I G H T S T A N D S W E R E A L I G N E D N E A T L Y.

We started with the sauce at the bottom, then assembled the five pieces of asparagus over it, finally adding meat sliced to show of the colors created by the sear. Hawkins made use of the white space in an artistic way, plating the dish toward the side of the plate rather than in the middle. I worried the food was getting cold. “In most cases, cook your protein last,” he said. “Except on Thanksgiving!” Watching the interactions between the guests and staf at dinner, I wondered what makes a great guest. When I had a chance to ask the hotel’s general manager, Jonathan Fillman, he said it’s the guest who is open with staf. “A great guest is someone who lets us in,” he said. “Someone who tells us what he or she is going through so we can be there for them.” He told me about a woman who happened to mention she was afraid of heights. So Fillman took her rock climbing on his day of. She has become a regular, and the two are still friends. the professionals at the Little Nell, it was clear I would never have made the cut. A lifetime of practice—making beds, plating dishes, helping guests feel cared for—awaited me. But back home a few days later, I saw my surroundings in a completely diferent way. I noticed my pillows were ridiculously flat and ordered flufy ones. I ran around my bed, pulling on the sheets so hard that one corner kept popping of the mattress—but in the end, the bed finally looked “made.” At a dinner for friends, I sprinkled a few edible flowers on the salad. Suddenly, creating a lovely atmosphere within my home was a choice, not a chore. And that made all the diference. AFTER SPENDING TIME WITH

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GIFTS & GO ODY BAGS Your good attitude is the most important thing to pack. But it’s also nice to bring (or leave with) a little something special. BY D AW N P E R RY

ACT I V E T I M E 5 M I N U T E S TOTA L T I M E 2 0 M I N U T E S M A K E S A B O U T 5 D OZ E N

cups all-purpose flour cup (1 stick) unsalted butter, cut into -in. pieces cup packed light brown sugar cup chopped pecans

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1 sheet puff pastry, thawed All-purpose flour, for work surface 2 tsp. caraway seed 2 tsp. cumin seed 2 tsp. celery seed 1

tsp. flaky sea salt 1 large egg, lightly beaten

oven to 425°F. Line 2 baking sheets with parchment paper. Roll puff pastry to a 10-by-18-inch rectangle on a lightly floured surface. Mix caraway seed, cumin seed, celery seed, and salt in a small bowl. Brush pastry with beaten egg and sprinkle with seed mixture.

PREHEAT

USING a pizza cutter, cut pastry crosswise into -inchthick strips. Starting from the center, twist each strip a few times to create a long, twisted stick. Place twists 1 inch apart on prepared baking sheets. Freeze until firm, about 15 minutes.

twists, rotating sheets from back to front and top to bottom, until golden brown, 7 to 10 minutes. Let cool completely before serving or packaging.

BAKE

1 tsp. vanilla extract tsp. kosher salt oven to 350°F. Line a baking sheet with parchment paper. Combine flour, butter, sugar, pecans, vanilla, and salt in a medium bowl. Using your hands, work butter into dry ingredients until crumbly. Continue to work dough until it comes together when squeezed in your palm. PREHEAT

off bite-size pieces of dough (they will look imperfect) and place on prepared baking sheet. Bake until golden and dry, 15 to 18 minutes. Let cool completely before serving or packaging. BREAK

ACT I V E T I M E 10 M I N U T E S TOTA L T I M E 10 M I N U T E S MAKES 9

12 oz. gin 12 oz. Campari 12 oz. sweet vermouth 12 1-in. strips orange peel COMBINE gin, Campari, and vermouth in a large pitcher. Divide mixture among 9 4-ounce glass bottles. Place a strip of orange peel in each and seal.

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YO U R TEXTURE N o m o re b a d h a i r d a y s ! H a i r w i za rd s N e e ko A b r i o l , a r t i s t i c d i re c to r o f S a l o n S e s s i o n s i n Pa s a d e n a , C a l i fo r n i a , a n d D o m i n i c k S e r n a , Ro g a i n e’s h a i r s t y l i s t and a stylist at Chris McMillan Salon in B e ve r l y H i l l s , h e l p e d f i ve g o rg e o u s wo m e n s t re a m l i n e t h e i r s t y l i n g ro u t i n e s a n d fa l l i n l ove w i t h t h e i r l o o k s . BY HE ATHER MUIR MAFFEI PHOTOGRAPHS BY TAWNI BANNISTER

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ANNET TE, 36 childbirth i n s t r u c to r a n d doula “Ever since I had my second child, my hair has been almost kinky in some areas and flatter in others, and the underside is breakage-prone,” said Annette. “I love my long curls and want to enjoy them.” Neeko snipped four inches off the length to add spring, used a straight razor to remove heaviness, and created faceframing layers. “The key with curls is to remove bulk so they can channel through each other and move,” he says. He applied DevaCurl FrizzFree Volumizing Foam Lightweight Body Booster ($26; devacurl .com) section by section for definition and shine, finishing with a diffuser (she can also air-dry).

Ann Taylor Mystical Garden Tie Neck blouse, $90; anntaylor.com.

re a l e s t a t e l u xu r y m a r ke t i n g d i re c to r “While I have a good amount of hair, it is fine and tends to fluctuate between limp and frizzy,” said Lauren. “I am very time-pressed in the morning and looking for something that doesn’t require a ton of styling time—less than 10 minutes.” After trimming four inches off her length, Dominick cut out some of the weight but kept her shape blunt (avoiding layers) to transform her hair from wispy to wow. He blew it dry using a round brush, then went in with texturizing shears to soften the perimeter. To create loose waves, Dominick wrapped 1 -inch pieces of hair around the barrel of a curling wand away from Lauren’s face—something she can do (with a little practice) at home.

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C H R I S T Y, 2 1 student and fa s h i o n b l o g g e r “I don’t feel confident styling my hair natural or wearing it down, so I typically pull it back,” shared Christy. Neeko says the secret to maximizing curls is to take a dual approach: Find the right styling technique and product. After a moisturizing shampoo and conditioner, he enhanced the shape of Christy’s hair by using a method called point cutting to remove some weight and then individualizing each curl by applying Bumble and Bumble Hairdresser’s Invisible Oil ($40; sephora.com) section by section. Finally, he layered KeraCare Foam Wrap-Set Lotion ($16; keracare.com) on top—a combo Christy can do post-washing once a week. “She has the freedom to air-dry or use a blow-dryer and her hands to stretch her curls.”

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Tibi Pleated Sleeveless dress, $695; tibi.com. Gorjana Perry studs, $40; gorjana.com.

“ I n e ve r t h o u g h t I c o u l d we a r my h a i r l i ke t h i s — I F E E L S O F R E E a n d c a n’ t wa i t to p l a y w i t h d i f fe re n t s t y l e s .”

NINON, 44 re a l e s t a t e a g e n t and writer “I’ve had long hair for most of my life. Though it’s healthy, it’s often frizzy, wavy on the ends, and flat on top like a grown-out perm unless I spend a decent amount of time styling it, which I rarely do,” said Ninon. “My hair is almost always in a bun or pony—I’d love to freshen things up.” For the most drastic change of the day, Dominick chopped off eight inches, giving her a long bob that is slightly shorter in the back, which opened up her face. He dried and flatironed it with a bend instead of a curl. Time-saving hack: Go over just the top layer of hair with the iron for smoothness in a snap.

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“It’s devastating to be young with thin hair,” said Nina, who experienced hair loss postpregnancy. Dominick took five inches off her length, then gave her long layers to create shape and movement. “The trick to making hair look fuller is cutting the layers and ends more blunt,” he says. “I didn’t remove any weight to make it look as full as possible.” After blowing her hair straight, Dominick wrapped pieces around a curling iron and teased the crown, then misted Rita Hazan Root Concealer Touch Up Spray in Dark Brown/Black ($25; ritahazan.com) on her scalp to give the illusion of more hair. For women whose hair loss is related to genetics or aging, Dominick suggests using Women’s Rogaine 5% Minoxidil Foam ($48 for a 4-month supply; rogaine.com).

ON NINON: Zara Print blouse with bow, $50; zara .com. Gorjana G-Ring earrings, $60; gorjana.com. ON NINA : Gap Crochet Lace-Trim Mockneck blouse, $70; gap.com. Maison Miru Equilibrium hoops, $79; maisonmiru.com.

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N OV E M B E R Turkey? Check. Pie? Double check. But what about the other 29 days of the month? Start by toasting a big batch of crunchy homemade croutons (page 150). Use them on a salad or in the stuffing. Make creamy yogurt (page 158) for overnight guests, or bake one of our favorite muffins and quick breads (page 155): They’re perfect for the Thanksgiving table or the morning after. When you’ve had your fill of comfort food, crispy tofu (page 142) and spicy shrimp with spinach (page 148) are November counterbalances you’ll be grateful for.

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HEAT oil in a large, heavybottomed pot or Dutch oven over medium-high. Add onion, carrots, and celery and cook, stirring often, until softened, about 5 minutes. Add garlic and cook, stirring constantly, until fragrant, about 1 minute.

mushrooms, teaspoon salt, and teaspoon pepper; cook, stirring often, until vegetables are tender and browned, 7 to 8 minutes.

2 Tbsp. olive oil 1 yellow onion, chopped 3 carrots, sliced

Easy Dinner 1

3 stalks celery, sliced 2 cloves garlic, chopped

Mushroom and farro soup ACTIVE TIME 20 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 30 MINUTES SERVES 4

Quick Cooking Freezable Make Ahead One Pot Vegetarian Family Friendly

1 lb. mixed mushrooms (such as oyster, shiitake, and cremini), sliced tsp. kosher salt, divided tsp. freshly ground black pepper, divided cup pearled farro 1 tsp. chopped fresh rosemary, plus leaves for serving cup dry white wine 5 cups low-sodium vegetable broth

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in farro and chopped rosemary; cook, stirring constantly, until mixture is toasted and fragrant, about 2 minutes. Stir in wine and cook, stirring constantly, until wine has almost evaporated, 1 to 2 minutes. Stir in broth and remaining teaspoon each salt and pepper. STIR

to a boil, reduce heat to low, and simmer, stirring occasionally, until farro is tender, 14 to 16 minutes. Serve topped with rosemary leaves. BRING

P E R S E RV I N G : 304 CALORIES, 9G FAT (1G SAT.), 0MG CHOL., 7G FIBER, 10G PRO., 44G CARB., 1,123MG SOD., 7G SUGAR

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Easy Dinner 2

Crispy tofu with cabbage and carrots ACTIVE TIME 25 MINUTES

TOTAL TIME 45 MINUTES

Vegetarian Gluten-Free

1 14-oz. pkg. firm tofu 3 Tbsp. rice vinegar 1

Tbsp. tamari 1 Tbsp. light brown sugar 1 Tbsp. toasted sesame oil 1 tsp. sriracha 5 Tbsp. olive oil, divided tsp. kosher salt, divided small head red cabbage, shredded (about 6 cups) 2 cups matchstick carrots (from a 10-oz. pkg.) cup cornstarch tsp. baking soda 1 cup cilantro leaves and tender stems

tofu lengthwise, then slice crosswise into 8 slices. Gently press tofu between paper towels to absorb liquid. HALVE

whisk vinegar, tamari, sugar, sesame oil, sriracha, 2 tablespoons olive oil, and teaspoon salt in a large bowl. Add cabbage and carrots and toss to coat.

MEANWHILE,

STIR cornstarch, baking soda, and remaining teaspoon salt in a shallow dish. Dredge tofu in cornstarch mixture, turning to coat and shaking off excess. Heat remaining 3 tablespoons olive oil in a nonstick skillet over medium-high. Working in 2 batches, cook tofu until golden brown, about 4 minutes per side. Transfer to a rack set over a baking sheet. Top cabbage and carrot salad with tofu and cilantro. P E R S E RV I N G : 367 CALORIES, 26G FAT (2G SAT.), 0MG CHOL., 3G FIBER, 11G PRO., 24G CARB., 876MG SOD., 9G SUGAR

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chicken with cinnamon, 1 teaspoon salt, and teaspoon each pepper and coriander. SEASON

oil in a large skillet over medium-high. Working in 2 batches, cook chicken until golden and just cooked through, 4 to 5 minutes per side. Transfer to a plate (do not wipe skillet).

HEAT

sweet potatoes and shallots to skillet; cook, stirring often, until vegetables soften, about 5 minutes. Add broth and bring to a boil, scraping any browned bits from bottom of skillet. Reduce heat and simmer, stirring occasionally, until potatoes are tender, 12 to 15 minutes. Stir in prunes, lemon juice, and honey; simmer, stirring occasionally, until sauce thickens, 2 to 3 minutes. Stir in remaining teaspoon each salt, pepper, and coriander. Nestle chicken in skillet, cover, and cook until warmed through, about 2 minutes. ADD

8 boneless, skinless chicken thighs tsp. ground cinnamon 1

tsp. freshly ground black pepper, divided

Easy Dinner 3

Chicken thighs with sweet potatoes and prunes ACTIVE TIME 40 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 40 MINUTES SERVES 4

Make Ahead Family Friendly

tsp. kosher salt, divided

tsp. ground coriander, divided 2 Tbsp. olive oil 1 lb. sweet potatoes, peeled and cut into 1-in. pieces 2 shallots, quartered 2

cups low-sodium chicken broth 1 cup pitted prunes 2 Tbsp. fresh lemon juice (from 1 lemon) 1 Tbsp. honey

couscous according to package directions. Serve chicken, sweet potatoes, and prunes over couscous, topped with parsley.

COOK

1 cup couscous Chopped fresh flat-leaf parsley, for serving

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FOOD

Easy Dinner 4

Sheet pan pork with fennel and apples ACTIVE TIME 15 MINUTES

TOTAL TIME 40 MINUTES

SERVES 4

One Pot Gluten-Free Family Friendly

1 1 1

-lb. pork tenderloin

Tbsp. olive oil, divided 1 tsp. kosher salt, divided tsp. freshly ground black pepper, divided 2 bulbs fennel, sliced in. thick, fronds reserved 2 sweet-tart apples (such as Honeycrisp), sliced in. thick 3 Tbsp. whole-grain mustard 1 Tbsp. honey 1 tsp. orange zest plus 1 Tbsp. fresh juice (from 1 orange) 1 tsp. chopped fresh thyme

oven to 450Â°F with rack in upper third. Rub pork with tablespoon oil, teaspoon salt, and teaspoon pepper on a rimmed baking sheet.

PREHEAT

fennel and apples with remaining 1 tablespoon oil, teaspoon salt, and teaspoon pepper. Arrange around pork. TOS S

mustard, honey, orange zest and juice, and thyme in a small bowl. Brush evenly over pork, fennel, and apples. Roast for 15 minutes. WHISK

oven temperature to broil. Broil until pork is browned on top and a thermometer inserted in thickest portion registers 145Â°F, about 5 minutes. Let rest for 10 minutes. Slice and top with fennel fronds. INCREASE

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Easy Dinner 5

Shrimp pil pil with spinach ACTIVE TIME 20 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 20 MINUTES SERVES 4

5 Tbsp. olive oil, divided 5 cloves garlic, thinly sliced, divided 1

tsp. crushed red pepper, divided 1 lb. fresh spinach

Quick Cooking One Pot Gluten-Free

tsp. kosher salt, divided 1

lb. peeled, tail-on large raw shrimp 2 Tbsp. unsalted butter 1 tsp. smoked paprika Toasted bread, for serving (optional)

1 tablespoon oil in a large skillet over medium-high. Add half of the garlic and teaspoon crushed red pepper. Cook, stirring constantly, for 30 seconds. Add spinach and cook, tossing, until wilted, about 2 minutes. Season with teaspoon salt and transfer to a bowl; cover to keep warm. Wipe skillet clean. HEAT

shrimp dry and season with remaining teaspoon salt. Add butter and remaining 4 tablespoons oil to skillet; heat over medium-high until butter is melted. Add paprika, remaining garlic, and remaining 1 teaspoon crushed red pepper. Cook, stirring constantly, until mixture is fragrant and garlic softens, about 1 minute. Add shrimp and cook until opaque and just cooked through, about 2 minutes per side, turning halfway through. Serve shrimp with warm spinach and bread, if using. PAT

P E R S E RV I N G : 356 CALORIES, 25G FAT (6G SAT.), 230MG CHOL., 3G FIBER, 27G PRO., 8G CARB., 704MG SOD., 1G SUGAR

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Butter-and-herb croutons ACTIVE TIME 10 MINUTES

TOTAL TIME 40 MINUTES

MAKES 6 CUPS

cup (1 butter

sticks) unsalted

2 cloves garlic, smashed 1 sprig rosemary or thyme 1 22-oz. loaf white sandwich bread, cut into -in. pieces tsp. kosher salt oven to 350Â°F with racks in upper and lower thirds. Combine butter, garlic, and rosemary in a small saucepan over medium. Cook, stirring occasionally, until butter melts and garlic turns golden brown, about 3 minutes. Remove from heat and discard garlic and rosemary. PREHEAT

bread in a large bowl. Gradually pour melted butter over bread, tossing to coat. Season with salt and toss to combine. Divide bread between 2 rimmed baking sheets and arrange in a single layer. Bake until golden brown, 20 to 22 minutes, rotating sheets and stirring halfway through. Let cool completely on baking sheets. Store in an airtight container for up to 2 weeks. R e c i p e b y D a w n Pe r r y Photograph by Greg DuPree

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Pizza and parties go hand-in-hand, so your guests are guaranteed to go crazy over these addicting pizza crackers. Place Crunchmaster Multi-Seed Roasted Garlic crackers on a foil-lined baking sheet and top with tomato sauce, shredded mozzarella, and small pieces of fresh basil. Broil until the cheese melts (about 3 minutes) and enjoy.

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ACTIVE TIME 20 MINUTES TOTAL TIME 7 HOURS MAKES 4 CUPS

4 cups whole milk cup whole-milk yogurt a medium, heavybottomed pot with a candy or deep-fry thermometer. Add milk to pot and place over medium heat. Cook until thermometer reads 180°F, about 10 minutes. Remove from heat and let milk cool to 115°F, about 25 minutes.

FIT

yogurt in a small bowl. Add cup cooled milk and whisk until smooth. Add yogurt mixture to pot and whisk to combine. Cover pot with a lid and place in an unheated oven with light on until thickened, at least 6 hours and up to overnight. yogurt to resealable jars; refrigerate, covered, for up to 1 week. TRANSFER

Line a fine-mesh strainer with a double layer of cheesecloth and set over a large bowl. Pour yogurt into strainer and refrigerate until desired thickness is reached, at least 3 hours and up to overnight. Discard any liquid in bowl. Transfer strained yogurt to resealable jars; refrigerate, covered, for up to 1 week. FOR THICKER YOGURT:

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Publication Title: REAL SIMPLE Publication Number: 19143 Filing Date: October 1, 2018 Issue Frequency: Published Monthly Number of Issues Published Annually: 12 Annual Subscription Price: $28.95 Complete Mailing Address of Known Office of Publication: 225 Liberty St., New York, NY 10281-1008 8. Complete Mailing Address of Headquarters or General Business Office of Publisher: 225 Liberty St., New York, NY 10281-1008 9. Full Names and Complete Mailing Addresses of Publisher, Editor in Chief, and Executive Managing Editor: PUBLISHER: Daren Mazzucca, 225 Liberty St., New York, NY 10281-1008 EDITOR IN CHIEF: Leslie Yazel, 225 Liberty St., New York, NY 10281-1008 EXECUTIVE MANAGING EDITOR: Lavinel Savu, 225 Liberty St., New York, NY 10281-1008 10. The owner is Time Inc. Lifestyle Group, 4100 Old Montgomery Hwy., Homewood, AL 35209, which is a direct, wholly owned subsidiary of Southern Progress Corporation, 4100 Old Montgomery Hwy., Homewood, AL 35209, an indirect, wholly owned subsidiary of Time Inc., a wholly owned subsidiary of Meredith Corporation, 1716 Locust St., Des Moines, IA 50309. 11. Known Bondholders, Mortgages, and Other Security Holders Owning or Holding 1 Percent or More of Total Amount of Bonds, Mortgages, or Securities: To the best knowledge of Meredith Corporation the names and addresses of stockholders beneficially owning 1 percent or more of the common stock of Meredith Corporation as of March 31, 2018 (according to 13F filings with the U.S. Securities and Exchange Commission), are as follows: â&#x20AC;˘ State Street Global Advisors (SSGA), Attn: Cyrus Taraporevala, 1 Lincoln St., Boston, MA 02111 â&#x20AC;˘ Blackrock Fund Advisors, Attn: Larry Fink, 400 Howard St., San Francisco, CA 94105 â&#x20AC;˘ The Vanguard Group Inc., Attn: Binbin Guo, 100 Vanguard Blvd., Malvern, PA 19355 â&#x20AC;˘ Barrow, Hanley, Mewhinney & Strauss LLC, Attn: James Barrow, 2200 Ross Ave., Dallas, TX 75201 â&#x20AC;˘ Ceredex Value Advisors LLC, Attn: George Aylward, 301 E. Pine St., Orlando, FL 32801 â&#x20AC;˘ Royce & Associates LP, Attn: Charlie Royce, 745 Fifth Ave., New York, NY 10151 â&#x20AC;˘ Macquarie Investment Management Business Trust, Attn: Christopher Beck, 1 Commerce Sq., Philadelphia, PA 19103 â&#x20AC;˘ Northern Trust Investments Inc., Attn: Frederick Waddell, 50 South Lasalle St., Chicago, IL 60603 â&#x20AC;˘ Deprince, Race & Zollo Inc., Attn: John Race, 250 Park Ave. South, Winter Park, FL 32789 â&#x20AC;˘ PPM America Inc., Attn: James Young, 225 West Wacker Dr., Chicago, IL 60606 â&#x20AC;˘ Morgan Stanley & Co. LLC, Attn: Brian Healy, 1585 Broadway, New York, NY 10036 â&#x20AC;˘ Dimensional Fund Advisors LP, Attn: Dave Butler, 6300 Bee Caves Rd., Austin, TX 78746 â&#x20AC;˘ Aberdeen Asset Management Inc., Attn: Andrew Smith, 1735 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19103 â&#x20AC;˘ Fisher Asset Management LLC, Attn: Damian Ornani, 13100 Skyline Blvd., Woodside, CA 94062 â&#x20AC;˘ BNY Mellon Asset Management America Corp., Attn: Gabriella Parcella, 50 Fremont St. San Francisco, CA 94105 â&#x20AC;˘ River Road Asset Management LLC, Attn: Richard Beck, 462 South Fourth St., Louisville, KY 40202 â&#x20AC;˘ HG Vora Capital Management LLC, Attn: Parag Vora, 330 Madison Ave., New York, NY 10017 â&#x20AC;˘ Silvercrest Asset Management Group LLC, Attn: Richard Hough, 1330 Avenue of the Americas, New York, NY 10019 â&#x20AC;˘ Ariel Investments LLC, Attn: John Rogers, 200 E. Randolph St., Chicago, IL 60601

â&#x20AC;˘ Channing Capital Management LLC, Attn: Timothy Kroll, 10 South LaSalle St., Chicago, IL 60603 â&#x20AC;˘ Fairpointe Capital LLC, Attn: Thyra Zerhusen, 1 North Franklin St., Chicago, IL 60606 â&#x20AC;˘ Allianz Global Investors U.S. LLC, Attn: Andrew Eu, 1633 Broadway, New York, NY 10019 12. Not Applicable 13. Publication Title: REAL SIMPLE 14. Issue Date for Circulation Data Below: September 1, 2018 15. Extent and Nature of Circulation: Average Number of Copies of Each Issue During Preceding 12 Months: a. Total Number of Copies: 2,359,731 b. Paid Circulation: 1. Mailed Outside-County Paid Subscriptions Stated on PS Form 3541: 1,619,946 2. Mailed In-County Paid Subscriptions Stated on PS Form 3541: 0 3. Paid Distribution Outside the Mails Including Sales Through Dealers and Carriers, Street Vendors, Counter Sales, and Other Paid Distribution Outside USPS: 147,376.1 4. Paid Distribution by Other Classes of Mail Through the USPS: 0 c. Total Paid Distribution: 1,767,322 d. Free or Nominal Rate Distribution: 1. Free or Nominal Rate Outside-County Copies Included on PS Form 3541: 277,633 2. Free or Nominal Rate In-County Copies Included on PS Form 3541: 0 3. Free or Nominal Rate Copies Mailed at Other Classes Through the USPS: 0 4. Free or Nominal Rate Distribution Outside the Mail: 5,953 e. Total Free or Nominal Rate Distribution: 283,586 f. Total Distribution: 2,050,908 g. Copies Not Distributed: 302,071 h. Total: 2,352,979 i. Percent Paid 86.17% Number of Copies of Single Issue Published Nearest to Filing Date a. Total Number of Copies: 2,280,699 b. Paid Circulation: 1. Mailed Outside-County Paid Subscriptions Stated on PS Form 3541: 1,759,918 2. Mailed In-County Paid Subscriptions Stated on PS Form 3541: 0 3. Paid Distribution Outside the Mails Including Sales Through Dealers and Carriers, Street Vendors, Counter Sales, and Other Paid Distribution Outside USPS: 128,006 4. Paid Distribution by Other Classes of Mail Through the USPS: 0 c. Total Paid Distribution: 1,887,924 d. Free or Nominal Rate Distribution: 1. Free or Nominal Rate Outside-County Copies Included on PS Form 3541: 79,699 2. Free or Nominal Rate In-County Copies Included on PS Form 3541: 0 3. Free or Nominal Rate Copies Mailed at Other Classes Through the USPS: 0 4. Free or Nominal Rate Distribution Outside the Mail: 7,543 e. Total Free or Nominal Rate Distribution: 87,242 f. Total Distribution: 1,975,166 g. Copies Not Distributed: 178,744 h. Total: 2,153,910 i. Percent Paid: 95.6% 16. Publication of Statement of Ownership will be printed in the November 2018 issue of this publication. 17. Signature and date: Chris Susil, VP/Planning & Analysis, 9/11/2018 I certify that all information furnished on this form is true and complete. I understand that anyone who furnishes false or misleading information on this form or who omits material or information requested on the form may be subject to criminal sanctions (including fines and imprisonment) and/or civil sanctions (including civil penalties).

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