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CONTENTS 10 COVER | IKE REIGHARD Balancing multiple hats as President and CEO of Must Ministries and Senior Pastor of Piedmont Church. 7 CEL Creating a beautiful outdoor living space.
14 GARY CHAPMAN The Five Love Languages. The key to enhancing love in all your relationships. 16 GOODlife TRAVEL Providence Canyon. Georgia’s “Little Grand Canyon“.
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Kristen Bland Damien Parodi Managing Editor Gabriel Bland Editor
Autumn Burr 8 LOCAL EVENTS Find Upcoming Events Near You.
17 GOODLIFE RECIPES Everything-but-the-kitchensink-Pasta Salad.
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12 FATHERHOOD Learning from the Father of Fatherhood.
18 CAN YOUR HEART BE TRUSTED? Is following your heart the true guide to happiness?
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Whether you’re entertaining or catching up on some R&R, an outdoor room can make it much more enjoyable. Of the 5,000 homeowners surveyed by HGTV and Casual Living magazine, a whopping 87 percent indicated that an outdoor living room was important or very important, and more than half stated they already had one. Clearly, more and more of us are looking right outside our windows for spots to both relax and entertain. Your outdoor room should ultimately feel like an extension of your home’s interior.
Go Big with an Outdoor Kitchen The kitchen is the heart of any home, so it should follow that an outdoor kitchen would be where the action is in any outdoor living space. Whether in a back yard in the suburbs or on a rooftop in the city, outdoor kitchens have grown in popularity because cooking al fresco feels more of a pleasure than a chore. You can do much more than grill outdoors by building your open-air kitchen around a refrigerator, a sink, food prep areas, or even a wood-fired pizza oven. Another key to any outdoor kitchen is seating, which can range from standard picnic tables to a full bar, complete with working beer taps.
Add Warmth with a Fireplace or Fire Pit Adding an element of fire can instantly transform an otherwise ordinary space into one that is inviting and warm. With a fireplace or fire pit, your outdoor living area can be enjoyed year round. In addition to being a great heating source, they also offer excellent entertainment opportunities for any gathering. You can use them to cook s’mores or kabobs, or just to kick back and enjoy a peaceful evening. Did you know they also add value to your home in the real estate market? Adding an outdoor fireplace is fairly easy, and it can be created to fit the unique style of your home.
Bring Serenity with a Water Feature Whereas fire brings warmth to outdoor spaces, water can provide a dimension of cool tranquility. Water features can take all different forms, from small store-bought fountains to exotic Koi ponds to cascading waterfalls. When adding a swimming pool, it’s important to consider the landscape as a frame. Pool design is best done by a landscape architect who understands site function and circulation so that the space is optimized to create the perfect private retreat, whether streamline modern or a rustic waterfall oasis. With the busy schedules of today’s families, out-of-town vacations can become more limited. Instead, vacate to your own back yard by building the outdoor space that’s just right for you.
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The President and CEO of MUST Ministries and Senior Pastor at Piedmont Church holds down two demanding jobs, yet in his typical self-deprecating style, Dr. Dwight “Ike” Reighard says, “I can only do one thing…. talk.” Through that gift of talking, he has become one of the most admired leaders and public speakers in the country. He is also an encourager, a motivator, an avid reader and an author. “It’s amazing how much you can get done if you don’t sleep,” he laughs. The self-acknowledged insomniac is known to read, email, text and twitter into the night, be at a 7 a.m. breakfast and speak after dinner. He’s always been in high gear and is squeezing every minute out of life.
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While running an $8.2 million non-profit to help those in poverty, his role involves leading a team of 60, working with a board, representing MUST at numerous events, speaking, long-range planning, fund raising and much more. At Piedmont Church, he also casts the vision, plus preaches twice a week, performs weddings and funerals, counsels and leads a busy team. Most people would find either of his jobs daunting, but he thrives on the excitement of networking the ministries and doing big things in his community. “As a pastor, I was a big fan of MUST Ministries before I ever talked to them about coming on board. MUST has a well-deserved strong reputation for serving 34,000 a year and doing so much
for those in poverty. Now Piedmont is even more involved in that aspect as our church is devoted to outreach. Both organizations are deeply committed to making an impact on the community by serving and helping others. It’s just a good fit for me in terms of working with two places that share the same selfless goals.” Setting selfless goals is something Dr. Reighard does well. At MUST, he has many dreams, but standing foremost is to give the homeless a welldesigned environment to call home while they go through the MUST program. “Our Elizabeth Inn Shelter has 78 beds, but – sadly – it isn’t enough. It breaks my heart that we have to turn people away daily. The need is so great.”
Spurred on by an enthusiastic team at MUST, his vision to build a new homeless shelter someday is one of the driving forces that keeps him pushing for excellence in serving others. “I’m particularly moved by children who are the casualties of poverty. We have to do more, be more, care more and love more.” He also hopes to expand the food program at MUST and is so pleased with the recent acquisition of 22 school food pantries in Marietta and Cobb schools, under a program called Save It Forward. At Piedmont, his vision is not only to design a place of safe haven for people to feel welcomed and cared for, but also to expand the church’s outreach. We host community events, get involved in
schools, support programs to help single moms, sponsor community events and serve with teams of volunteers all over our area. We want to be focused outwardly. Many people will never come to us, so we want to go to them. “Having a servant’s heart is at the core of Piedmont.” Before serving at Piedmont (since 2006) and MUST (since 2011), Ike was founding pastor of NorthStar Church in Kennesaw, Chief People Officer of HomeBanc Mortgage, Senior Pastor at New Hope Baptist Church in Fayetteville and Lead Pastor at the North Campus of First Baptist Atlanta. He is the author of four books – Treasures from the Dark, Discovering Your Northstar, Discovering Your Northstar Journal
and co-author with Zig Ziglar of Daily Insights. Ike is a Magna Cum Laude graduate of Mercer University (B.A. – Religion). He earned his Master of Divinity and Doctor of Ministry degrees from Luther Rice Seminary. Ike and his wife Robin have two daughters, Danielle and Abigail, and a granddaughter, Addison Ruth.
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Learning Fatherhood From the
Father of Fatherhood
Tony Reinke In Ephesians 3:14–15, Paul prays, “For this reason I bow my knees before the Father [patēr], from whom every family [patria] in heaven and on earth is named.” In the Greek it is easy to pick up on Paul’s patēr/ patria play on words. John Stott chose to translate this phrase as “the Father from whom all fatherhood is named.” The ESV translation footnote makes a similar point. God’s Fatherhood is the archetype of human fatherhood, a point made even more explicit in Hebrews 12:7–10. What that means for us fathers today is that we take our cues on fatherhood from the Father of Fatherhood, which is a great relief for any father today who was fathered by a sinful or absent father (which of course includes every one of us). But what’s the point of this? In his most recent book, Douglas Wilson focuses one entire chapter (chapter 14) to a verse-by-verse stroll through the Gospel of John, highlighting every reference made to the Father/ Son relationship. The book is worth its price for that chapter alone. At the end of his survey Wilson makes this summary observation: The most obvious feature of the Father of Jesus Christ is His generosity. He is generous with His glory (John 1:14), with His tasks (John 5:18), with His protection (John 10:28–32), with His home (John 14:1– 2), and with His joy (John 16:23–24). The Father gives (John 3:34–36). The Father gives His Son (John 3:16; 18:11); the Father gives His Spirit (John 14:16–17); the Father gives Himself (John 14:22–24). Learning this about the Father who is a Spirit, who is intangible, should stir us deeply. He is seeking worshipers who will worship Him in Spirit and in truth — in short, who will become like He is. And what is He like? He is generous with everything. Is there anything He has that he has held back? And what should we — tangible fathers — be like? The question is terribly hard to answer, but not because it is difficult to understand. (Father Hunger, 204–205) And that is a good challenge for me as a father because it makes me ask: from all the words that my children could use to describe me, would they choose generous? The answer spurs my attention to my Heavenly Father, the generous Father of all fatherhood. 12
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Love 5 Languages The
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Gary Chapman
What’s Your Love Language?
Here’s the key to enhancing love in all your relationships As anyone who has attended one of his marriage conferences knows, Dr. Gary Chapman’s expertise in marriage begins with the success and failures he and his wife Karolyn have experienced in their marriage for more than 50 years. He is just the man to turn to for help on improving or healing our most important relationships. His own life experiences, plus over 40 years of pastoring and marriage counseling, led him to publish his first book in the Love Language series, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts. Many of the millions of readers credit this continual New York Times bestseller with saving their marriages by showing them simple and practical ways to communicate love.
In Chapman’s own words: When someone says, “I feel like my spouse doesn’t love me,”—something I’ve heard countless times during my years as a marriage counselor—what are they really complaining about? After years of pondering this, I discovered that their answers fell into five categories that I now call the five love languages—five fundamental ways to express emotional love. Just as we grow up speaking a primary language like English, French, or Italian, we also grow up with a primary love language. In the world of communication, if I speak only French and you speak only English, we won’t understand each other. The same is true in giving and receiving love. One language I call “acts of service”—showing your love by doing something for the other person. Another is “quality time”—if you love someone, you will spend time with that person and have extended conversations. The answer to keeping emotional love alive is learning and really connecting with each other’s language. I am still in awe that something so basic and straightforward has helped millions of couples restore emotional warmth to their relationships. Later, I discovered that the same principle applies in all relationships. Learning love languages can enhance relationships with parents, siblings, and work associates, and in the world of dating. The good news is that all of these languages can be learned. Those who have never spoken a particular love language will find the learning curve to be steeper, but not impossible. For instance, if they did not grow up hearing “words of affirmation” it may take more time for them to feel comfortable speaking such words. What I suggest is taking small steps to get started and allow time to develop the ability to speak the other person’s love language. It may take some time to see results, but with a sincere effort being made, changes will begin to take place. I know, it happened in my own marriage, and I’ve heard from countless others around the world who have shared their stories with me.
Words of affirmation “You look nice in that outfit.” “I really appreciate what you did.” “One of the things I like about you is...” All of those phrases express affirmation. Words of affirmation may focus on the way a person looks, some action he or she has taken, or something about that individual’s personality or character. You are simply looking for ways to positively acknowledge him or her. The words may be spoken, written, or even sung. (Not to mention affirmations can also boost creativity!) If this is your primary love language, then nothing will make you feel more loved than sincere words of affirmation.
Acts of service In a partnership, this might look like a massage, cooking a scrumptious meal, washing dishes, vacuuming, or taking out the trash. In a friendship, this might be helping with a computer problem or offering a lift to the airport. If this is your primary love language, then the old saying “Actions speak louder than words” will be true. Words may seem shallow, but when someone helps you, your “love tank” fills.
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Receiving gifts There is no culture in which gift giving is not seen as an expression of love. The gift communicates, “He/she was thinking about me. Look what they gave me.” It implies thought, effort, and expense. Yet the gift need not be expensive. We’ve always said, “It’s the thought that counts.” But remember, it’s not the thought floating around in your head that counts (if it’s not expressed, you’re the only one aware of it) but, rather, the gift that came out of the thought. In this love language, getting a thoughtful present says that the giver genuinely loves and appreciates the recipient.
Quality time The person who equates love with time spent together will want to sit on the couch and have extended conversations and not feel rushed or be looking at a phone, but instead, right into the other person’s eyes. Quality time does not always involve conversation. It can be just taking a walk, planting a garden, or exercising together. The important thing is that the activity focuses on being with each other. What communicates love is the fact that you give the gift of time and your undivided attention.
Physical touch We have long known the emotional power of physical touch. That’s why we pick up babies and cuddle them. Long before the child knows the meaning of the word love, the baby feels loved by virtue of being touched. In a partnership, this is expressed in lovemaking, holding hands, embracing, kissing, or placing an arm around the shoulder of the one you love. In a friendship, this might be a high five, a pat on the back, a firm handshake, or a hand on a friend’s shoulder.
Find your own language Ask yourself three simple questions: 1. How do I most often express love and appreciation to others? Look at all the love languages. You can give and receive love in all five languages, but the one that resonates with you is your primary love language. It’s the way you say love—and wish to receive it. 2. What do I complain about most often? Your complaint helps reveal your love language. 3. What do I request most often? If you find yourself frequently asking, “Can you help me?” your language is likely “acts of service.” If “How do I look in this outfit?” is something you say a lot, then you are a “words of affirmation” speaker. To discover someone else’s love language, observe that person’s behavior and ask the same three questions. It’s as simple as that— but the knowledge is profound. To learn more, pick up a copy of the New York Times best selling book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. The book includes a simple profile that can help a person discover their primary love language, and see how the others rank in order. All are important, but one will matter most—and then you can begin to give and receive love in a truly meaningful way.
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Georgia’s “Little Grand Canyon” is a 1,109-acre state park located approximately 150 miles southwest of Atlanta, in Stewart County. It is a network of gorges including 16 canyons (some as deep as 150 feet), several chasms, plateaus, cliffs, and pinnacles—all of which together make up the site known as Providence Canyon. It is considered to be one of the Seven Natural Wonders of Georgia, identified by the Georgia Department of Natural Resources. From a trail along the rim, several overlooks offer views of the canyon walls, in which 43 different colors of sands have been identified. The canyon soil’s pink, orange, red, and purple hues make a beautiful natural painting at this quiet park. It is also home to the very rare plumleaf azalea. The plumleaf azalea grows only in southwestern Georgia and eastern Alabama. And it blooms during July and August, when most azaleas have lost their color. Providence Canyon boasts the largest known wild colony of this species. Providence Canyon actually is not a purely natural feature. The canyon consists of huge gullies sculpted of soil, not by the action of a river or stream, but by rainwater runoff from farm fields in the 19th century. Historical accounts indicate that the canyon began forming in the early part of the century as the result of poor soil-management practices. Native forest cover had been cleared so the land could be farmed, and farmers in the region at that time took no measures to avoid soil erosion. Small gullies formed and rapidly grew deeper and more extensive. By 1850, ditches three to five feet deep had been cut into the land, further concentrating runoff and increasing the rate of erosion. Although the formation of Providence Canyon might be seen as the result of a distinct lack of providence, its name apparently came from Providence Methodist Church, established around 1832. A church building and a schoolhouse originally stood on land that now lies between the main gorges of the canyon. In 1859, a new church building was erected across the road from the canyon; it still stands and is occasionally used for special services. Backpackers can stay overnight along the backcountry trail which highlights portions of the canyon and winds through mixed forest. Camping, cottages, and efficiency units are available nearby at Florence Marina State Park on 45,000-acre Lake Walter F. George. 16
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Everything-But-The-Kitchen-Sink-Pasta S alad
by Krista Messic
For me, cooking is a philosophy and an art rather than a discipline and recipes a mere suggestion rather than a hard fast rule. I seem to always add something here, exchange this for that just because, or forget an ingredient and have to improvise. It’s an adventure that results in one-of-a-kind wonderful (and sometimes not so wonderful) culinary experiences. As you can imagine, when you cook this way it is very difficult to share a recipe. Friends and family often don’t understand why you can’t provide them with exact measurements and why you hem-and-haw when trying to relay the technique you used to create the scrumptious dish in front of them. I have been accused of being secretive and unwilling to share my “secret”. This couldn’t be farther from the truth. I love to cook for my beloved family and friends. I adore sharing my love for cuisine with all who will, so imagine my excitement followed quickly by my dismay when I was asked to share my pasta salad recipe. I don’t have a recipe! This is truly a “whatever you have and whatever you like” type of dish. I make this pasta with what I happen to have in my pantry and fridge. I don’t use the same ingredients, EVER. I have a few things that I use every single time, but aside from that, it’s just what is available. After spending a week of angst, I realized this was my opportunity to help others free themselves from the constraints of the recipe and experience the joy of creating their own gastronomic masterpiece. Don’t worry, I am going to give you the exact measurements that I used to create the pasta salad pictured. I will also give you the details of how I prepare each ingredient to my taste. You will be able to exactly replicate the dish pictured. My hope is that you won’t. I hope you will adapt this recipe to your tastes, add the things that you have or that you enjoy, and make this salad your own. There is a couple of things you need to know: 1. I am all about making it easy. If there is a short cut, I take it. Feel free to take you own! 2. I don’t make this with raw veggies. I like my veggies steamed or sautéed. If you want to use raw, do so at your own risk. 3. I always use Paul Newman’s dressing. You can use whatever Italian dressing you like (or use olive oil and vinegar to taste), but I love Paul Newman’s. 4. My family likes sun-dried tomatoes in oil. I know that the fat police will be all over that, but too bad, we like what we like. If you want to reconstitute the dried tomatoes in the bag, more power to ya!
Ingredients: 1 rotisserie chicken (I used Lemon Pepper from Publix) 1/3 each medium Red, Yellow, and Orange Bell Pepper, julienned ½ medium red onion diced 16 oz. baby portabellas (Ok we like mushrooms) 2 cloves garlic, minced 5 oz. baby spinach, rough chopped 1 cup broccoli, steamed 1 jar of sun dried tomatoes in oil, drained, 8.5 oz. 1 can of large black olives, drained 1 bottle of Paul Newman’s Family Recipe Italian Dressing, 16 0z. 8 oz. Sargento 6-cheese Italian shredded cheese 12 oz. Tri-Color Rotini pasta, cooked according to directions and rinsed in cold water 1 Tbs. Italian Seasoning 1 tsp Black Pepper Olive Oil Shaved Parmigiano Reggiano Put pasta in a large mixing bowl Remove the skin from the chicken. Pull all the meat from the chicken and add to the mixing bowl Sauté the onion, bell peppers, and Italian seasonings in 1 tbs. of olive oil until onions are translucent and add to the pasta mixture Sauté the portabella mushrooms and the minced garlic in a tablespoon of olive oil and 2 tablespoons of liquid (you can use water, broth, or wine – dealer’s choice) Add to the mixing bowl. Sauté baby spinach in olive oil to just wilted, add to mixing bowl Steam the broccoli until bright green, immediately douse in ice water bath to stop the cooking process. Add to mixing bowl. Add jar of sun-dried tomatoes, olives, black pepper, cheese and dressing to mixing bowl Mix contents until evenly disbursed Cover with plastic wrap and refrigerate for up to 24 hours, stirring periodically. Mix thoroughly and sprinkle with Parmigiano Reggiano, serve. That’s it. Easy peasy! Note: In the past I have used the following left overs in my pasta salad and it has been amazing: Grilled asparagus, baby corn, green beans, roasted veggies, fingerling potatoes, zucchini, squash, grilled tomatoes, kidney beans, black beans…just use what you have and what you like!! june 2016
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Don’t Follow Your Heart Craig Jones Have you ever been in the moment of decision and someone gave you the advice to follow your heart? Maybe right now you are getting ready to make a major life change, like a career move, and you’ve been told to follow your passion. I believe that whatever you do in life, it must flow from your heart, and you should do it with passion. But I’ve also learned that you can’t always follow your heart, and your passions can be misguided. We’ve all known that girl who was dating the deadbeat guy who treated her terribly. We told her that he was a loser and she could do better, but she always responded with, “but I love him.” She had all the facts she needed to make the right decision, but her heart was not mature enough to walk away. Many times we make the same kind of destructive decisions because we follow our heart. “Follow your heart” has been taught by our culture as one of life’s great truths. We are encouraged by society to be courageous and allow our heart to guide us to true happiness. Many people use this line of reasoning to excuse decisions that are selfish and destructive. A husband will leave his family and wife of 25 years to be with his high school sweetheart he just reconnected with over Facebook. And if you were to ask him how he could do such a thing, his response would be that he was just following his heart. Our heart doesn’t tell us the truth -- it tells us what we want. In fact, the Bible tells us not to trust our heart, but instead that we should teach our hearts to trust in God. If we would focus more on living life to help others, our desires would change, and we would actually make better decisions. A hard-working dad may not love his job, but he loves his family enough to show up every day to provide for them. We would live happier, more fulfilled lives if we had this same courage not to follow our hearts. So don’t let your heart get the best of you -- live your life for something bigger, and in the process, experience something greater.
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Craig and Janna Jones are the senior pastors of Abiding Church located in Kennesaw, GA. www.abiding.church