Here Comes the Groom, Too

By Staci Dunn, The Cake Lady Custom Cakes

The British rock band, The Cure, said in their 1979 hit song that Big Boys Don’t Cry. Boy, were they wrong! Big boys do cry, especially on their wedding day. I have watched hundreds of TikToks and YouTube videos in preparation of this article and to watch these gentlemen be so moved, is heartwarming. This strong emotional outpouring of love and hope, shows no discrimination among men.

It is HIS day, too! We, as a society, tend to focus more on the bride with respect to weddings, but for some men it can be a very emotional moment. When the guests stand and turn to honor the bride as she makes her way down the aisle, he catches his breath and can be moved to tears by that special moment.

As a professional cake artist specializing in weddings, I attend many. I find myself taking advantage of the opportunity to watch the groom's expression of emotions as he sees his bride for the first time. As a #momofboys, I will continue to cherish those moments.

His life is also about to change. His heart is also full of love and expectations for a future spent with the person before him. His family and friends are also there to support and celebrate with him. His best man and groomsmen are by his side to show their love and kinship. Watching some of these videos has truly moved me. Seeing the support given to the groom at the altar, by the honored few who were carefully chosen to stand by his side, is a moment I don’t want to miss.

While celebrating this union, it is always important to take an opportunity to make the groom feel as special as the bride. One way I always recommend to do so is to offer a groom’s cake. While a wedding cake is usually a romantic centerpiece, a groom’s cake is typically representative of the groom’s interests. This can be a great opportunity to provide a special dessert at the rehearsal dinner and to honor the groom at the same time. Another alternative is to offer a more decadent dessert option in a theme that represents the groom, along side the wedding cake.

Let all that you do, be done in love (1 Corinthians 16:14). Regardless of the level of participation in the planning and decision making, the groom is obviously an essential character in this special day that can sometimes be unintentionally overshadowed. Let’s not forget to celebrate our grooms as well as our brides, and bring an extra hanky for him, because big boys do cry!

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