Soul Coaching with Shiy & Char Coins

The definition of “selfish” is lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure. This word has been used in a negative tone so frequently that now people want to stray away from owning the value of being selfish. Being able to give ourselves the love that we are trying to give to others seems like a taboo. In many cases we are forced to choose between ourselves and the ones that we

love. Between ourselves and the people we are responsible for. Between our own happiness and the everyday needs that we are forced to deal with. Our everyday lives are filled with the needs and wants of others;

children, parents, jobs, etc. For a second think about the last time; the last time you bought something nice for yourself, sat down and read a book and actually finished it, the last time you got a compliment, received a gift just because or how about a simple hug or foot rub. What were these experiences like? How did they make you feel? Did you feel like you deserved it, or did you feel selfish? Hopefully these experiences were worth the recollection and brought you a bright smile. It is the intent that you felt as though you deserved such great and wonderful things, because you do! Even more so, feel selfish about that moment and every other moment of being selfish. Why? Simply because this is a time where you are focused solely on your own personal pleasures. Call these moments self care time. Self care is when you take a moment to evaluate your own needs and start the process of taking care of yourself. This can be in the form of meditation, quality time with yourself or friends, vacationing, creating a spa day or just simply enjoying yourself. Self care does not have to cost a lot of money and it does not have to take a lot of time. But we encourage you to remember that you deserve the love that you are willing to give others. Do you know why self care is important? Self care is important because it allows us the opportunity to rebalance ourselves. Self care gives us time to unwind from our daily struggles and refocus on ourselves. It is easy to spread ourselves thin by trying to go the extra mile for those that we love. Self care gives you a moment to go the extra mile for yourself. Being able to take care of your personal health, mindset and well being can go to the way side with so many worldly responsibilities. We check on others often but we are responsible for checking on ourselves.

For this month we are asking you to take a vow, a vow to us and yourself. Make a vow that you will commit at least 2 hours of the entire month to yourself. Two hours? Yes, just two hours. No matter if it is 10 minutes here, 45 minutes there, big praise to you if you can get a full hour at one time, no matter what, get those 2 hours in. Make note of what you did in those two hours of self care, how you felt after your self care sessions, things that you can do during your next session.

Notice that you are the center of attention, you are the only thing that matters during self care time. Be unapologetically selfish in your two hours. We’d love to see pictures or read letters of what your self care time looks like!