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B aby led weaning -

GOOD OR BAD?

Written by Caroline Meyer

July 2019 | mychild

Baby led weaning is not a new concept, but it has found its way into the mainstream conversation on feeding little ones a lot more over the past few years. In basic terms it means that you no longer feed your baby pureed food with a spoon when teaching them to start eating solids. Your baby eats the same foods that you do. What are the pros of baby led weaning? Babies are allowed to explore colours, textures, flavours and smells of a variety of foods. They develop eye-hand coordination getting the food to their mouths as well as playing with it. They improve dexterity, chewing skills and should hopefully be less picky eaters. They also learn to stop eating when they feel full, teaching self-regulation. They are not being force fed food. There are also benefits involved financially as you don’t have to buy little jars of food or fancy cereals. You can give baby the same food the rest of the family is eating for dinner, just in smaller portions.

What are the cons of baby led weaning? There is a risk of your baby not getting all the nutrition they need. You have to ensure you prepare healthy options and include all food groups, so baby gets all the vitamins and minerals their growing bodies need. You also must make sure that baby is eating enough. Regular checks are needed to make sure baby is thriving. There is a minor risk of choking with pieces of food that are too large. Never leave baby unattended while eating.

Tips for baby led weaning Tips for baby led weaning Don’t start too early. Your baby must be sitting properly in a highchair without being propped. They must be able to make chewing motions and be able to move food around in their mouths. They need to have good neck strength and be able to feed themselves. This could be any time between 6 and 9 months. Wait until your baby can chew well before starting the process. Don’t stop breastfeeding or giving formula. Your baby will still need this nutrition until they are 10 months to a year old. So, although you are giving them solids, you can’t actually wean until a later stage. Stay close. You can’t just put the food down in front of baby and walk away. You need to supervise and socialise with your child. It is even better if the whole family eats together. This also teaches baby about eating and eventually how to use utensils etc. 10 July 2019 | mychild

Start with the basics. Softer foods such as cooked pasta, steamed vegetables, ripe fruit, shredded meat, flaked fish and puffed cereals are good starter foods. They give a bit of a range in colour, texture, flavours and so forth. Make sure you choose healthy options with high nutritional value. Keep the food small enough. Foods should be large enough for baby to be able to pick it up, but small enough to prevent choking if they try to swallow the whole piece without chewing. Stay away from raisins, grapes, hot dogs, raw vegetables, sticky foods such as peanut butter and popcorn that can be a choking hazard. Avoid foods that need utensils while baby is little. You can introduce spoons and other cutlery later. Choose foods that are fine warm or cold. Don’t give baby food that is too hot. Stay away from spicy food or food that is salted while they are small. Know there will be mess. Babies will pick up the food, throw it around, squish it, smear it and probably drop most on the floor that doesn’t end up in his hair. Place a plastic cloth or bag under the highchair to catch most of it. If you don’t have large bibs, try a kid’s art smock to reduce mess on the baby. Be patient. Baby led weaning doesn’t work for all babies and some babies may change from day to day with their willingness to eat by themselves. Make sure you don’t start the new regime when baby is upset, or it has been a bad day all round. Don’t overload them. Start slowly and introduce foods at a reasonable pace, the same as you would with pureed foods normally. This will prevent baby being overwhelmed and allows you to figure out causes of allergic reactions much easier. Only introduce a new food every fourth or fifth day to make it easier to pinpoint problem foods. Gagging and choking are not the same thing. Gagging is quite common when babies first start to self-feed. It is a reflex to get rid of food that is a little hard to swallow. Don’t panic as this can cause a fear reaction in the baby as well. Only if there is actual choking and baby is unable to get the food out should you intervene quickly. Keep it relaxed. Don’t rush your baby. Let them try out the foods and eat as much as they want. This can lead to longer meals, but this is to be expected. Once baby is no longer putting food in their mouths and is instead flinging it all over the place, they have probably had enough. Keep calm and treat eating as a normal everyday happening. Don’t scold or praise, just let them get on with it. If baby led weaning is not working for you, go ahead and start with purees. Spoon feed your baby for a while and try allowing them to wean themselves again at a later stage. You can introduce finger foods at any time. You just need to ensure your baby is getting enough nutrition and is thriving and growing well. They will eventually start eating solids on their own, there is no rush to get there. When they are ready, you can introduce a spoon and allow them to try spoon their own foods. The main idea is to allow them to explore and learn about foods and eating until they become confident eaters.

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keeping baby

cool in hot weather

uring the warmer months it is important to monitor little ones, especially on the hotter days. They are more at risk for dehydration, heat stroke other heat related issues that what adults are. Babies under 6 months old should always be out of direct sunlight. They contain less melanin in their skin and can burn easily. Keep them shaded at all times. Sunscreen is not recommended for babies. Babies older than six months can use sunscreens of SPF 30 and higher, just make sure to test for skin reactions before rubbing it all over babyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s skin. Ensure the sunscreen is applied regularly especially if baby is going into water. A hat which protects their face, head and neck from the sun is a minimum. It is also preferable to keep their body, arms and legs protected from the sun as well. Babies cannot adjust their temperature the way adults do. They also sweat less while heating up more when they are active. This makes them more at risk for overheating and dehydration. July 2019 | mychild

Keeping baby hydrated It is important that you offer fluids often when the weather is warm. Breastfeed or bottle feed more often in hot weather. Babies over 6 months old can be given a little cool, boiled water in between feeds but younger babies should be offered breast milk or formula only. If breastfeeding, keep your own fluid content up so that you can hydrate yourself as well as your baby. Use a towel or sheet between you and baby if the heat makes skin to skin contact uncomfortable or try the lying down to feed method which doesn’t require as much contact. Your baby should still present at least 6 or more wet nappies in a day if they are getting enough fluid.

Keeping cool inside If your home is not airconditioned, you can close the curtains in the coolest room in the house and allow a small fan to circulate the air to keep the room cool for baby to sleep better. Don’t blow the air directly on to the baby. Keep the fan away from where baby can reach as well as ensuring plugs are unable to be tampered with. You can wipe baby down with a damp cloth, bath often in tepid water to cool them down. Use lukewarm water and not cold water. If you have air-conditioning, keep the temperature at between 24 to 26 degrees Celsius. Don’t make the room too cold.

Keeping cool outside Setup a paddling pool in a shaded area of the garden. Supervise at all times. Try and keep outdoor activities to before 11am or after 4pm in to avoid the worst of the heat. If you must go out, cover up and keep them shaded. Make sure to keep track of hydration. Never ever leave babies in a car. This is a rule for always, not only in hot months. Don’t cover babies with blankets or towels. Don’t restrict air movement over their prams or strollers. Keep sunshades up on the car while you are shopping. Try park in shaded areas so the car is cooler when you return. Longer journeys should be undertaken in cooler hours.

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Heat related illnesses and what to do Prickly heat: This is a rash which presents as small, red, raised spots that cause a tingling or prickling sensation. This is common in areas that stay moist such as the nappy area and under babyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s chin. Use castor oil or zinc-based creams to help with these types of rashes. Change nappies and clothes as often as needed and give extra lukewarm baths during the day. Dehydration: This can occur quickly if baby is not being hydrated enough. Makes sure you feed breastmilk or formula more often when it is warm to avoid dehydration. Babies can dry out in air-conditioning and may become sleepy and feed less when travelling in the car. Make sure they are woken and fed regularly. Heat Exhaustion: Symptoms can include clammy, pale skin, irritability, less urination or dark urine, excessive sleepiness, intense thirst or refusing to drink, dry mouth and skin, a receded fontanelle. Move baby to a cool area and remove all clothes except the nappy. Give extra milk unless they are not able to swallow or are unconscious. Wipe with a damp cloth or drape with a damp sheet. Contact your doctor for additional assistance. Heat stroke: Symptoms include dry, hot, red coloured skin, rapid breathing, confusion, vomiting, unconsciousness, unresponsiveness (coma). Call an emergency service immediately. Move baby to a cool area and remove clothing except nappy. If baby is able to drink, offer fluids. Sponge with tepid water or cover with cool, damp cloths. If baby is unconscious or unresponsive, cradle them with their head titled downward. For babies older than 12 months, lay them on their side in the standard recovery position, ensuring the airway is clear. If they are not breathing, perform CPR. Excessive heat can cause death. It is important to ensure your baby is hydrated and cool in the hot months and to get medical attention as quickly as possible should you suspect heat stroke, heat exhaustion or severe dehydration.

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tongue ties

Written by Caroline Meyer

July 2019 | mychild

A tongue tie (ankyloglossia) is not very common and is basically due to tissue on the underside of the baby’s tongue connecting it to the floor of the mouth restricting movement. This can cause a situation where baby cannot extend his tongue out of his mouth and may have difficulty swallowing, breastfeeding and making sounds. A tongue tie is easily corrected and not very serious if it is identified early.

Signs and symptoms of tongue tie • Difficulty with tongue movement • Cannot stick tongue out • Battles to latch or breastfeed • Upper lip curls inwards • Has lip blisters • Tongue is two-toned • Has dents in the tongue or tongue curls • The frenulum under the tongue is popped • Baby is chewing and not sucking on the breast or teat • Baby attempts to drink for extended periods of time • Baby is not thriving and gaining weight properly • Your baby seems hungry all the time • The tip of the tongue appears heart-shaped • There is often a clicking noise when baby is feeding

Reasons for tongue ties Before babies are born, the lingual frenulum (the thick tissue under the tongue) separates from the tongue before birth. This allows for tongue movement after birth. Sometimes this tissue does not detach and tongue movement remains restricted. There is a suspicion that this may be genetic, but the reasons are still unknown at this point. It is important that the condition is addressed early to avoid complications.

Possible complications if untreated • Speech problems: If untreated baby may be unable to make sounds such as “r”, “z”. “d”, “th”, “s” and sometimes even “l”. This can hamper speech development dramatically. • Bad oral hygiene: Cleaning lower gums can be difficult with the tongue in the way. This can lead to gum disease and tooth decay. It can also cause a gap in the two front teeth in the lower jaw. • Movement restriction: A tongue tie can result in the child not being able to eat properly, being unable to lick their own lips or a food item and even being unable to play wind instruments if they were inclined to.

Treatments for a tongue tie In many cases treatment may not be needed. If the baby is feeding fine, the situation is left to resolve itself over time. If feeding is affected, your doctor may recommend surgical interventions to resolve the tongue tie. There are two different procedures that may be used depending on the tongue tie itself. A Frenotomy is when the lingual frenulum is cut to allow the tongue to move properly. It is usually done with local anaesthesia or without any anaesthesia as it is generally painless and quick. 20 July 2019 | mychild

There are minimal nerve endings or blood vessels in the area, so there isnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t much bleeding either. If the frenulum is too thick or needs more that a small cut, a frenuloplasty is done under anaesthesia. There may be stiches involved and tongue exercises are usually recommended.

Risks of treatment The lower part of the mouth can get infected. There may be excessive bleeding. There may be damage to the salivary glands or the tongue. Explore all options and discuss fully with your doctor before your baby undergoes the procedures. Make sure you attend follow up consultations. Check if your baby will need to be under the care of an ENT after surgery. If you suspect your baby may have a tongue tie, have him examined by your doctor who can assess the type of treatment required. Fortunately, the risk of complication is slight in these procedures and baby goes on to be able to feed and speak normally afterwards.

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IS BABY CIRCUMCISION

unethical?

By: Caroline Meyer

22 July 2019 | mychild

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What is circumcision? This is a surgical procedure which is performed on boys and men. The foreskin covering the end of the penis is surgically removed. This is a double layer of skin and mucous membranes which is designed to protect the glans (head) of the penis from irritation and dryness. There are many arguments for and against circumcision.

Circumcision reasons Sometimes circumcision may be required due to injury or infection but usually this is a voluntary procedure. Parents may choose to circumcise their baby boy so that he looks like his father and other family members. Others base their decision around cultural or religious traditions and requirements. Many parents choose circumcision as it is believed to be healthier and more hygienic and may possibly reduce risk of illness and disease later in life. For other parents they believe the child should have the right to make the decision themselves later in life. While others believe that the risk of complications outweigh the benefits for their child. For all parents, this should be a considered choice as it is a lifetime decision for their son.

What do the experts say? The CDC (US Centre for Disease Control) says that parents should be given all the information required to make an informed choice. The recommendation is that the health benefits of circumcision outweigh the risks and that every parent should be able to make this choice for their child. Circumcision may reduce the risk of urinary tract infections, some STDs and even penile cancers. Circumcision can also reduce the risk of HIV infection by up to 60% when having sex with an infected female partner. There is no reduction in risk for male to male HIV transmission though. There is also no reduced risk of passing HIV on to a female partner if infected. There is a reduced risk of up to 45% of contracting genital herpes. The risk of infections such as bacterial vaginosis, HPV and trichomoniasis are lower in female partners of circumcised men. Most of these benefits can be attributed to the foreskin being at risk of tears during sex which allows for germs to enter the body easier. The foreskin also traps viruses and bacteria and allows them to flourish in a moist environment.

Risks of circumcision Swelling and minor bleeding are the most common issues experienced. Other issues include the foreskin that remains sticking to the glans while healing. This is easily remedied in most cases. There is also a risk of scar tissue around the penis causing problems with sexual function, urination and hygiene. This may require further surgery to correct. As with most surgery, there is risk of infection. This is usually treatable with antibiotics and is generally mild. Severe complications can include sepsis, bleeding that persists and requires stiches to stem, partial amputation of the penis or removal of too much skin which can affect function and appearance. The penis may also not heal properly leading to shortening of the penis or scarring which could cause the penis to be shaped oddly or cause discomfort when erect. Most complications however are minor and quite rare with only around 1 in 500 circumcisions resulting in complications of any kind. If too much skin is left behind, it can also result in a second circumcision needing to be done once baby is 6 months old and this would be done under general anaesthesia.

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It is up to you as a parent to balance up the benefits and risks and make an informed decision on behalf of your baby boy. Discuss the matter with your doctor and other relevant persons before deciding. Some countries are calling for a ban on the practise claiming it violates the rights of children but for the most part, medical organisations still leave the decision up to the parents of the child.

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JAUND

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Written by: Ca

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aroline Mayer

July 2019 | mychild

Newborn jaundice is quite common and presents as a yellowing of the babyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s skin and the whites of the eyes. Newborn jaundice occurs when the baby has a high level of bilirubin in their bloodstream which is produced when red blood cells break down, causing a yellowish pigment. Adults and older children process bilirubin through the liver and pass it out through the intestines. Newborn babies may not always have a mature enough liver to remove bilirubin from their systems. In most cases the jaundice fades after a few days as the liver starts to break it down. Once baby is feeding well, the jaundice is usually come within 3 weeks. Jaundice that persists for longer than this may be a sign that there is an underlying condition. Levels of bilirubin that remain high for extended periods put your baby at risk for cerebral palsy, deafness and certain types of brain damage. All newborn babies should be checked for jaundice before discharge from the hospital or within a day or two of birth. They should subsequently be checked at around 5 days old as well.

Risk factors Newborn jaundice is most often seen in babies that are born prematurely, usually before 37 weeks gestation. Babies who are having problems feeding or are not getting enough milk. Babies who have a blood type with is incompatible with their mother can also have a rise in bilirubin due to antibodies building up in their system and breaking down red blood cells. Internal bleeding and bruising can also be a factor for jaundice in newborns. Infections, liver problems, red blood cell abnormalities and enzyme deficiencies can all cause newborn jaundice. There is unfortunately no way to determine beforehand if your baby will have jaundice and no way to prevent it from happening.

Symptoms The most obvious symptom is the yellowing of the eyes and skin. It would usually start from 2 to 4 days after baby is born and is usually noticed on the face first before it spreads to the rest of the body. The jaundice normally reaches a peak at 3 to 7 days after baby was born. If you push down gently on the skin and the area appears yellow, your baby probably has jaundice.

When to be concerned Jaundice is common and considered normal in most babies with the condition. For a few however, there may be a medical condition causing the jaundice. Severe jaundice can lead to permanent brain damage so if you are at all concerned, contact your doctor. If the jaundice spreads or intensifies, the yellow colour deepens, baby runs a high fever, cries and feeds poorly or appears lethargic or listless, contact your medical practitioner immediately.

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What are the treatments for jaundice? In general, jaundice usually resolves on its own and no treatment is required. Phytotherapy is sometimes used in more severe cases. Baby is placed under a blue spectrum light while only wearing a diaper. His eyes will usually be covered by protective goggles. A fibre-optic blanket is sometimes placed under the baby. The light treatment helps the body break down the bilirubin so baby can pass it out of his system. In extreme cases, baby may need to receive a transfusion. This replaces the damaged red blood cells with healthy ones to improve the red cell count. Ensure that baby is getting enough nutrition and is being fed adequately. This will also help pass the bilirubin out faster. Newborn jaundice is not normally a cause for concern and should pass as long as baby is receiving adequate nutrition from breastmilk or formula in the first week or so after birth. If you have any concerns or the jaundice appears to be getting worse or has added symptoms, consult with your doctor or paediatrician to make sure there is no underlying cause of the jaundice in your baby.

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Is PT

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PREGNANCY

TSD

fter birth?

Caroline Mayer

July 2019 | mychild

What is PTSD? Post Traumatic Stress Disorder related to pregnancy or Postpartum PTSD is experienced by around 9% of women after childbirth. This can be related to both physical and psychological trauma. Some of the traumas can include an unplanned caesarean, prolapsed cord, baby being admitted to intensive care, forceps or vacuum extraction, difficult in communicating during birth, lack of support and reassurance during delivery, confusion and feelings of powerlessness during the birth. In women that have experience previous traumas such as sexual abuse and rape, the chance of Postpartum PTSD is a lot higher. Severe physical complications such as preeclampsia, cardiac problems, haemorrhage, perineal tears and an unplanned hysterectomy often suffer from PTSD after giving birth. PTSD can change your relationship with your baby and your partner if left untreated. You may be left feeling angry or disappointed. You may also experience flashbacks to the trauma. This may also put you off ever wanting to have another child.

What are possible symptoms of PTSD? • Nightmares and flashbacks • Reliving the traumatic event repeatedly in your head • Easily angered or upset • Extreme alertness • Problems sleeping • Feelings of hyperreality or unreality • Detachment from people and reality • Increased arousal that is persistent • Avoiding people or places that remind you of the trauma • Startling easily • Drug and alcohol abuse • No emotional response or inappropriate responses • Anxiety and panic attacks

Treatments for Postpartum PTSD Cognitive behavioural therapy, which is trauma focused, specifically designed to treat PTSD. EMDR which is a desensitisation and reprocessing treatment involving eye movement. A therapist guides you to make rhythmic eye movements while you are reliving the traumatic event in your head. This is meant to stimulate the way your brain processes information and stores it for recall. This is supposed to help you process the trauma faster so that you can adjust and recover. Medication may be offered if the PTSD includes depression and anxiety symptoms. You will not be able to breastfeed while on these medications but can express until you are able to cope and can stop the medication. You can learn to cope with PTSD yourself by finding ways to cope with intense emotions. These can include anger management techniques as well as techniques to manage anxiety. Meditation, yoga and breathing exercises can help you stay calm and avoid the triggers that bring out the PTSD. Try and be easy on yourself and don’t worry of it takes time to get over it. If you are struggling to cope, consult your doctor or specialist organisations that can help you with information and guidance. 32 July 2019 | mychild

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ALTERN

BIRTHING

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BIRTH ARTICLE

NATIVE

G OPTIONS

aroline Meyer July 2019 | mychild

In the past women were not always given any options when it came to labour and birth. The conventional methods, places and pain control techniques were the only ways offered to women when having a child. Anyone who tried to do things differently was considered strange or even dangerous. As time has gone by and a lit more research has become available, many women are now looking at alternative birthing options to make the experience more customized to their own idea of how it should be.

Alternative places to give birth The hospital is not the only location you can choose to give birth. We donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t mean the accidental birth places such as in a car or on an airplane. If you have a low risk pregnancy and are not having a breech baby or multiple births, you can choose to have your baby in other environments. Birth Centres are available in some areas. They offer all the benefits of home with extras such as birthing balls, birthing tubs and even aromatherapy. Birthing Centres aim for a relaxed, comfortable environment in which to give birth. You donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have to stay in bed and there are even large showers available if you want to use them. You are encouraged to move as much as you want and try out different positions so that you are as comfortable as possible during delivery. Looking for a birth centre that caters for your choices as not all of them are the same. Pain management would also need to be discussed as there are various options available in different birth centres. Some birth centres are staffed only by midwives / specialised nurses while some are part of hospitals and have doctors on call. These centres can usually offer a semi-bespoke option and over 80% of women are able to deliver at the centres in the way they wanted. Only around 4% change their minds before delivery and around 12% are transferred during labour. Birth centres offer a more natural option for childbirth but still under safe, controlled conditions. If you choose a birth centre, all your prenatal and postpartum check ups will be done there. They offer a more intimate and individual experience. Home birth is another option which is becoming more popular. Home birth is not recommended for women carrying multiple babies, have a high-risk pregnancy or have health problems such as high blood pressure or diabetes. If you are far from a hospital, you may also want to decide against home birth, in case something goes wrong. For a home birth, you will need a qualified midwife to attend the birth as well as having been privy to all your prenatal check-ups. While home births may not be as safe as a hospital birth, they are gaining traction as they offer a lot more choices, less stress and a more intimate experience. It is important that you have an OB/Gyn or experienced doctor available or easy and quick access to a hospital in case of an emergency if you choose a home birth. There is also risk to your baby with home birth. It is however, a more comfortable and relaxed experience for the mother in general.

Alternative ways to give birth Without discussing surgical interventions or complications resulting in caesarean section, we look at ways of having a vaginal birth in a more comfortable way with different types of pain management techniques. Acupressure and acupuncture have been around for centuries. It dates back to ancient China. It consists of stimulating specific spots on the body using needles or by pressing on them. This is said to balance the flow of energy in the body and promote pain relief and healing. 36 July 2019 | mychild

Alternative places to give birth Many people swear by the practise and it has long been used for healing, sleep disorders, digestion and pain control. Many women are now using these techniques during labour. The treatment would be done by someone experienced in acupressure and acupuncture. To date, studies have shown a reduction in the need for other pain control methods when acupuncture or acupressure are used during the birth. Water birth has been around for quite some time and many women are choosing a water birth (hydrotherapy) as a means of pain management and a more pleasant birthing experience. Women are immersed up to the waist in clean, warm water (just above body temperature). This helps relax the mother to be and reduces the pain sensation. The buoyancy of the water helps relieve a lot of the discomfort and helps for easier movement during labour. Using a birthing pool or tub during the first stage of labour can reduce the need for other pain management methods by quite a margin. Some women prefer to leave the tub once they have dilated to 10cm, while others prefer to complete the full delivery in the water. A doctor or midwife would be on hand to bring the baby to the surface of the water straight away. This is also said to be a gentler transition for the baby as well. Another method involves hypnosis. This can be self-hypnosis or assisted hypnosis. The methods used can include a form of meditation which can also combine audio and visual cues which stimulates relaxation and a reduction in pain. Women are taught how to use these methods from early in the pregnancy. They become conditioned to the hypnosis during the pregnancy so that they learn to relax and find a sense of calm from the meditation-like state achieved. While there is no evidence as to the efficacy of hypnosis in reducing the need for alternate pain control, many women swear by its benefits.

Having a doula with you A doula is a companion that can provide nonmedical support during the labour and delivery. This can be a relative, friend or trained companion. A doula would get to know you before delivery if they were not already part of your circle of friends and family. A doula would support you during labour both physically and emotionally. They assist with helping your get comfortable. They can help with massage of feet, back and legs. They can help you move around to get comfortable. Wiping your face with a cool cloth or feeding you chips of ice would also fall to a doula in this situation. Having a doula may help with pain management although it generally does not lower the risk of caesarean. People who have tried have a doula as a support during labour have indicated a much better experience overall. These are just a few of the alternatives that you can look at then deciding on your birth plan. Speak to your doctor as well as your partner and indicate what you would prefer during labour and delivery. Your doctor will be able to indicate if the options will be suitable for you based on risk factors and your general health. Look at all available options so that you can bring your little one into the world the way you prefer and in a safe, secure setting.

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BABY ARTICLES

Are Hiccups

normal in babies? WRITTEN BY: CAROLINE MEYER

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Hiccups are very common in little ones. It can be a regular occurrence when they are under 1 year old. Some babies even hiccup while they are still in the womb. Hiccups are generally nothing to be concerned about. They are not related to breathing. They are contractions caused by stimulation or irritation of the diaphragm muscles.

What causes hiccups? Most babies are not bothered by hiccups and they seldom cry or get upset by them. The noise we hear is caused by air pushing past closed vocal cords. Babies get hiccups more often than adults as they tend to gasp or gulp more often causing spasming of the diaphragm. Some possible causes include eating too fast, swallowing air while eating, drinking or crying and overfeeding. There is no actual scientific cause for hiccups though.

How can you stop hiccups? Some of the recommendations for adults include drinking upside down, getting a fright or eating a spoon of sugar. These are not remedies you can use for new-borns and babies. So, what can you do? Generally, if you wait a while the hiccups will usually stop on their own. You can offer a pacifier or burp baby if they seem a little niggly. You can also rock baby gently or walk up and down with them to relax them and hopefully stop the hiccups. Gripe water is not recommended for little ones under 6 months.

Are hiccups preventable? It might not be possible to prevent hiccups. If you find your baby gets hiccups in certain circumstances such as after crying for a while or after eating if they were very hungry, you can mediate some of these situations. Feed you baby when he is hungry. Reduce bouts of crying by attending to baby as soon as possible. Burp regularly while feeding. Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t overfeed your baby. Try and feed your baby when they are calm and relaxed. Screaming and crying or being overly hungry can often result in hiccups. Keep baby upright for 20 minutes or so after eating. After they have finished eating donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t bounce them or play energetically for at least a half hour.

Can hiccups be a sign of a health problem? People are often concerned that hiccups may be a symptom of a tongue tie or reflux. Reflux is quite common in babies and usually not a cause for concern if it only happens occasionally. Gastroesophageal Reflux Disease is a lot rarer and is a constant problem with stomach acids coming up the oesophagus continually. This can be quite painful for the baby. If you suspect this problem or other issues, you should take it up with your doctor to ensure there are no underlying problems. If hiccups are continual, there is any vomiting or your baby gets upset by them, you might want to talk to your doctor as well to rule out other problems. In general hiccups are harmless and nothing to worry about. By the time your baby is a year old, you will probably find that hiccups happen very seldom. Hiccups that are constant after this age may also be a result of another condition. If you are even unsure or have concerns, you should speak to your doctor. They can check for possible problems and set your mind at ease.

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tips Potty Training

WRITTEN BY: CAROLINE MEYER

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TODDLER 2-4 YEARS

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Potty training doesn’t have to be a time for headbutting with your child. This is a big step towards your little one being able to do things for themselves. They can gain confidence as they start the steps leading from being babies to being children with their own ideas and personalities. While every child is different, there are a few tried and tested ways to help make the experience easier for both parents and toddlers.

Stay focussed Potty training will be demanding of your time and attention. You will need to be quite observant to get an idea of when your child needs to go. You will need to limit your distractions and be ready to take them to the bathroom at any point. You can also try taking them with you and having them sit on the potty when you go. You may be lucky and establish a routine early on. Just know that the more you multi-task in the early stages of potty training, the longer it is going to take. When you notice or even think they may be ready to go, tell them you are taking them to the potty, and then do so. Don’t ask if they want to go as the answer will more than likely be “No”.

Offer a challenge You can race them to the bathroom. You can offer choices between the small potty or the toilet (big potty). If you are using the bathroom together, challenge them to do what they need to before you finish. Judge what works for you and your little one so they learn to hold it until they get to the potty and so that going to the bathroom does not become an unpleasant situation for everyone involved. You want to develop a good attitude about using the potty instead of it being a battle of wills.

Remove the anxiety Sitting on the potty can be stressful for a little one. The anxiety may also result in them being unable to release. Allow them to sing songs, blow bubbles or even just chat to you. This will often cause them to relax enough to allow the sphincters to release.

Don’t offer alternatives If you offer your toddler a diaper for pooping and use the potty for urination only, they will not learn to stop using diapers until they are quite a bit older. If they are able to know the feeling and ask for a diaper, they can use the potty instead. Offering alternatives will only make things more difficult and take a lot longer. Using a diaper for pooping is a bad habit that needs to be broken as soon as possible if you have already been doing this.

Rewards not bribes You should not be bribing your little ones to use the potty. You can however, offer rewards. Have a star or sticker chart and a clear jar containing a small reward such as a little toy or something they enjoy. Show them that they need to get a certain number of stickers to reach the reward level and give the reward only once the row of stars is filled up. Keep this to a reasonable number of stars per reward (around 5 to 10) so that they don’t become despondent. For some little ones, the sticker is a reward itself. Try and avoid using sweets and sugary treats as a reward as far as possible. 42 July 2019 | mychild

Teaching toilet paper You will have to assist with toilet paper use for quite some time until they learn to wipe well on their own. Measure the toilet paper use right from the start, even when you are doing the wiping so they can learn. Draw or mark the toilet paper at 4 or 5 blocks, show them how to tear it off and let them do it. This will help prevent a toilet blocked with paper or unspooled toilet paper all over the bathroom.

A stool for the big toilet If your little one is using the big toilet (with a toddler seat) instead of a potty, you will need to equip them with a stool. They will use the stool to help them get up on to the seat. If they need to poop, they can also use the stool to brace against. It also relieves some of the feeling of falling off and is more comfortable.

Teach good hygiene Teach your toddler about flushing and washing up afterwards. If they are using a potty, you need to empty it into the toilet. You can let your toddler flush afterwards. If they are using the big toilet, you can allow them to flush once they are done as well. Let them move the stool to the basin so they can wash up. Make it fun so they want to wash their hands after they go. Sing a song, use fun soaps or handwash and let them wash their hands themselves. If they cannot reach the water, get an extender or make your own. If it is fun and not uncomfortable, it is more likely they will wash their hands than if it becomes a chore.

Don’t rush it Potty training can take a week of constant monitoring and sometimes even longer for the habits to set in. Don’t get frustrated and don’t try and rush it. Just keep at it and it will eventually kick in. Once they get it, it all becomes worthwhile.

Make it more fun Using the toilet can be made more fun by allowing the toddler to sit backwards, facing the toilet seat and allowing them to draw and colour on the seat with washable markers. You can check the markers for wash-ability on the seat first. Sitting backwards actually reduces accidental sprays and makes doing their business more fun. Wash the seat after they are done so it is ready for next time. You can also provide a book to read while on the potty. This will also help keep them focussed on the task at hand instead of popping off the potty to do other things.

Out of the home While you are potty training, you may not be at home all the time. If the child goes to a caregiver for some time during the day, explain that you are potty training and allow them to continue where you left off. It is best to start on a weekend, so the child has at least 2 days of potty training before they go to someone else. You can take a travel seat with you for use at public toilets or friends’ homes or a portable potty with disposable bags to use in places where a toilet may not immediately be available. Try and keep the training unbroken over a period of 5 to 7 days to get the habits set in place. Don’t start too early. You toddler needs to be able to recognise the feeling of needing to use the bathroom and should be able to indicate to you in some way that they need to go. If you start too soon, this can lead to frustration and stress for both of you. Once the habits are in place, you can finally say goodbye to the diapers and your toddler can wear big girl or boy underwear instead.

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Welcome to the new â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;normalâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;

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of newborns

As many first-time mums embrace their new role, they often find themselves asking ‘is this normal?’. Whether it’s their newborn’s crying, the frequency of nappy changes, or number of feeds, new parents are often unsure how to assess and best support their baby. However, it appears that those doubts and uncertainties are not long lasting. A new survey by leading nappy brand, BabyLove, reveals that mums very quickly gain confidence and ability in their new role. ‘Mums with newborns are incredibly adaptable, moving from novice to proficient in a relatively short period of time,’ said BabyLove Nappies CEO, Bridget Spark. Within 4-8 weeks, newborn mums can shift from a place of doubt, worry and confusion, to having an innate ability and confidence to know what works best for their baby. This continues to grow as mothers move beyond 8 weeks. ‘Intuition plays such an important part in early parenting, with mums developing a deep connection with their baby and a realisation that they know what’s best for their baby,’ says Bridget Spark. The research is part of BabyLove’s ongoing commitment to supporting parents and their child’s journey, which includes developing Australian-first patented technology in nappy design. BabyLove’s CosiFit™ nappies feature CosiContour technology, a unique curve shape that contours a baby’s body, preventing leaks and minimising red marks. CosiFit™ Newborn and Infant sizes also have a wetness indicator to help parents manage nappy changes in the early stages. From changing nappies to listening to your gut instinct, the survey showed just how seamlessly mums settle into parenthood and the key stages they go through.

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Birth - 4 Weeks: Feeling overwhelmed Often idealistic at the outset, newborn mums report feeling overwhelmed in the first 4 weeks of childbirth. The reality can be quite daunting and very different to their expectations. The first 4 weeks is a period of adaptation, when mums adjust to their new role and learn to respond to their baby’s immediate needs. Fatigue, doubt and worry can impact how they feel, and their network of health and parenting experts are critical in providing advice and reassurance.

4 - 8 Weeks: Finding your feet The next 4 weeks is a time of transition and clarity, as newborn mums resurface and reconnect. It’s a time when mums have a clearer understanding of what ‘normal’ looks like and they realise that ‘normal’ is in fact different for every family. This is also a period when mums grow in confidence and their ability to know what’s best for their baby. ‘Participants in the BabyLove survey shared how during the first 4-8 weeks of parenting, mums learn to trust their intuition. These mums have found their feet, grown in experience and are now picking and choosing advice that works for them,’ said Bridget Spark.

8+ Weeks: You’ve got this! It’s been a busy 8 weeks, and now mum is feeling more capable and confident when it comes to raising her child. ‘Nobody knows my baby like I do’ is a common theme for mums at this stage of the parenting journey. When it comes to advice? Mum’s are now more likely to take (and share) advice from a network of other mums – such as an experienced mum, a circle of mums, or online influencers that they feel have credibility. ‘The mum network is extremely important, especially when it comes to first-time mums,’ says BabyLove’s Bridget Spark. ‘In an earlier research study we did – involving 1,000 experienced mothers of children aged from 1 month to 3 years – we found they shared enormous empathy, affinity and reassurance for other mums.’ The 2018 survey asked experienced mothers to ‘Think about everything they’d learnt as a parent, and to nominate their top tip for first-time mums’. More than 30 tips were gathered in the 2018 survey, with the most popular tip: ‘Listen to your instincts/No one knows your baby as well as you do’. 46 July 2019 | mychild

BabyLove shares their Top 3 Tips for first-time mums: 1. Listen to your instincts. This was voted at the top tip by mums, and we agree! Intuition is a valuable guide when navigating what’s normal and what’s not for your baby. Whilst new mums won’t have all the answers, their gut feeling will provide some powerful clues. Be confident and follow your instincts. 2. Enjoy your newborn. Early motherhood is an extraordinary experience, but it can also be overwhelming as new routines are established at home. Our advice is to make time to enjoy bonding with your baby. Savour moments every day, and you will have precious memories to cherish as you watch them quickly grow. 3. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Babies won’t always go along with our well organised plans so it’s important to ease expectations and learn to go with the flow. Adopting a more relaxed approach will help minimise stress – which will be a big plus for you and your adoring baby.

To obtain further information about BabyLove please visit www.babylovenappies. com.au or search @babylovenappies in Facebook and Instagram.

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Starting Your Baby O

EXCITING

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On Solids Should Be

AND FUN!

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It’s been a few months of getting to know your new little person and no doubt it’s been challenging. You should be in a routine now of nappies, nursing/bottles, sleeping and general play. Ok, you’re getting ready for it all to be shaken up again as you think about introducing solids to your baby. Are you ready?? Some parents wait until 6 months while others start with small steps from even 4 months. You know your baby better than anyone so go with your instincts. Does your baby seem hungry and milk doesn’t seem to be satisfying them? Is your baby waking more often in hunger or they’re really starting to grow so might need more to fill them up? Firstly, you can start to get your baby used to a cup with breastmilk, formula and water to shake things up a bit. Once they aren’t having as much breastmilk/formula be sure to offer water as you want to keep them hydrated. A great way to check this is to ensure they have a wet nappy regularly throughout the day.

When you’re ready to kickstart the food train, start with foods such as pureed pear or pumpkin (vegetables are always a top pick) and if you can make your own even better. You don’t need any fancy equipment – although a Thermomix or Food Processor can make life easier. I find steaming some fruit or vegetables and then making a puree even with a stick blender to be super effective and ensure it’s super smooth. I put any leftovers in ice cube trays and stored these in labelled ziplock bags in the freezer – so easy and you can do this in bulk too whenever you get a chance. I found doing individual fruits and vegetables the simplest option and then you can defrost a few as needed to try different combinations to see what your baby likes. If you don’t want to make your baby’s own food or feel too overwhelmed by the exercise, there are plenty of real food options. All the main supermarkets do an organic baby range and also stock many more varieties so you can mix it up a bit and make it fun and easy. Feeding a baby for the first time is MESSY and sooo much FUN! Make sure you take videos and pictures as you’ll want to remember their faces and these moments forever. This is the best way to live in the moment and enjoy it for you too as raising a baby can be stressful! It’s going to be messy so let them make a mess and let go of controlling the process. Try spoon feeding one food at a time to them and notice their reaction. You might even keep a journal of their reaction. Remember it can take up to 10 times for a food to be offered and eaten as your baby is getting used to the whole process. Food pouches can also be a great way of storing food in the fridge or on the go in your Fridge-to-go lunch bag so you’re always ready when hunger calls. My son loved avocado mixed with fruit such as apple or pear which seemed a bit odd, but worked for me. I found offering the more savoury vegetables first and sweeter fruits after ensured that my son ate more and didn’t just go for the sweet option. Every baby will be different and I loved watching as he learned to love food and really enjoyed trying to feed himself and ended up wearing most of it! Feeding time can also be a lengthy affair so don’t rush the experience and ensure you have lots of time especially when you first start introducing food. It’s so beautiful to watch your baby have a super healthy relationship with food. Be sure to offer lots of different options even if you don’t like them – to encourage a good variety and it will make life so much easier in the long run.

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As your child grows you can play with different finger food as well such as steamed vegetables, chunks of banana, avocado or ripe stone fruit. Be sure to pack these for the road as well, especially if you’d like 10 minutes of ‘parent coffee time’ at the café! My son would also play with an ice cube for a good 20 minutes in any high chair so try a few different tricks to get some time for yourself too! I found having my Fridge-to-go lunch bag in the pram full of finger food and puree was super easy and it didn’t matter if my son didn’t finish it all – they rarely do! I could keep leftovers cool until I got home and ended up with much less waste. My favourite teething trick was to cut up sticks of Chinese Daikon (radish) and let my son gnaw on these as they have a natural numbing effect on sore gums. I handed these out super cold from the bag in my mother’s group all the time! Once your child starts to get teeth they’ll be able to handle bigger chunks and denser food so start slowly and just go for it! It’s a delight to watch your baby find a food they love with a face full of pure joy. Plan ahead and always have meal and snacks options in the fridge ready to grab and make your life easier. Let your baby gain independence and learn to feed themselves and enjoy every moment. These moments fly by so stop and enjoy the process!

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KIDS 5-8 YEARS

are gummy vitamins

GOOD FOR MY CHILD?

Written by Caroline Meyer

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Gummy vitamins may seem like an ideal choice when it comes to supplements to improve health. They taste good and children actually like to eat them. They look like candy and you will probably not have to coerce your child to eat one. While this may seem great on the surface, the truth is, compared to a normal chewable children’s vitamin supplement, gummies fall short of the mark. In general gummies contain far fewer vitamins and minerals and often the quantity of vitamins is also lower than the chewable vitamins. Due to the way gummies get the vitamins in to your child’s body, the vitamins have to be limited. Most gummies also do not include iron, which is often a mineral that kids are lacking. Most gummies also contain sugar which is not something kids generally need more of. Look for brands with no sugar added if possible. Gummies also tend to stick to the teeth, so it is recommended that you get your kid to brush their teeth after eating gummies. With the gummies looking and tasting like candy, kids may also be tempted in to eating more than they should. Gummies have to be closely monitored and kept in child-safe bottles, away from little hands. Treat the gummies in the same way you would medication. Overdosing on vitamins is not good for a child and can cause problems like kidney stones. Check the vitamins in the gummy before purchase, as it may not even contain the vitamins you are targeting. The best way to get all the vitamins and minerals into a child’s body is to ensure a balanced, healthy diet. Offer foods from all food groups, especially vegetables. Variety is key as it will help your child find foods they love and enjoy while getting the nutrients they require. Most children don’t need vitamin supplements. It is only children that are very picky and won’t eat foods from certain groups that may be at risk of a deficiency of some kind. If a child does not eat foods from a specific food group for longer than 2 weeks, you may want to consult your doctor to check for a deficiency. If a supplement is not necessary, there is no need to give your child one, in any form. If you do decide to use a supplement due to a lack of specific vitamins and minerals in your child’s diet, read through the small print before purchase. Generally, chewable tablets trump gummies in many ways. You should also try and purchase vitamin supplements that do not contain added preservatives, artificial flavours and dyes. Values should not be higher than 100% of daily allowances. Don’t be fooled by fancy claims or interesting packaging. Do your research before buying vitamin supplements for your child. Reduce the need for supplements by having the whole family eat healthy, nutritious meals together. Dietary restrictions such as an intolerance for dairy or veganism may reduce the availability of some of the vitamins and minerals obtained from certain food groups. In cases such as these, you may want to supplement with a chewable or gummy vitamin for your child. It is up to you to screen the product adequately to ensure it contains the mineral or vitamin your child may be lacking and not have added extras that are harmful or of no benefit at all. Even for picky eaters, you can look at making smoothies, shakes, soups and other meals that can hide some of the foodstuffs they may not enjoy as much or find alternatives that offer the same nutritional value, that they may enjoy instead. There are so many options out there as well as many cookbooks on the internet today offering ways to prepare foods so that even picky eaters may want to give them a try.

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Is sharing

really an ap

By: Kylie

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DAD READ

the chores

phrodisiac?

e Kaden

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If you think skipping the dishes will make time for more action between the sheets, think again! Scrubbing at baked-on lasagne may seem like the ultimate romancekiller, but not pulling your weight around the house can lead to sacrificing more than you bargained for. We probably don’t need research to tell us that if you’re both working outside the home, doing your share on the domestic front will strengthen your relationship. But linking it to more sex? Most would agree that watching your partner pull the hair from the shower drain or scrub the highchair free of pumpkin mash isn’t exactly a turn on. A recent study into how chores shape the dynamics of marriage (Council of Contemporary Families, 2018) has found exactly that. Couples who share the housework enjoy a key benefit beyond a sparkling floor; more action in the boudoir.

THE LINK BETWEEN SEX AND CHORES * Part of the reason scouring those pots together improves your sex life might simply be putting you in close quarters, providing an opportunity to vent your day’s frustrations. Similarly, doing the shopping together gives you a chance to plan your week’s meals – considering each other’s needs and making decisions collaboratively, which are the building blocks to a solid relationship. * Mopping the floor is no aphrodisiac, but housework might be a proxy for a general willingness to invest time in shared interests, a symbol of commitment to the relationship - a deeper bond. And there’s definitely a certain romance in working on the same task - to build a life together. * It can be said that a clean, orderly home makes it easier to unwind, which can lead to more quality time together. But being pedantic about the state of the house can have the opposite effect –cutting off intimacy and reducing quality time.

HAVE OUR EXPECTATIONS CHANGED? The gender revolution has shaped the way we arrange our lives. In earlier decades, couples who shared the chores reported less satisfying sex lives. The culture at the time (think ‘Mad Men’, with wives serving dinner in full hair and makeup the moment their husband arrives home) was the norm, and it seems, deviation from this expectation wreaked havoc in the bedroom. By the nineties (which also saw a hike in men’s contribution to the housework), the reverse was true, with couples who shared the domestic chores equally reporting more satisfying relationships. By the naughties, the division of housework in contributing to the relationship quality had even more impact. t seems our attitudes on who does what, and how much, are highly influenced by what is ‘expected’ of our generation. These attitudes impact on our view of our partners and their attractiveness. Today (despite still doing less around the house on average than their wives) men contribute twice the amount of housework than their fathers did, and triple the amount of child care and enjoy better marriages because of it (Social Forces, 2012). In fact, Stephanie Coontz, author of “Marriage, a History,” states having a partner who does their share around the house has become a bigger factor in women’s marital satisfaction than a man’s wage, or shared religious beliefs. (So, is this research suggesting little girls, nowadays, should dream of a man who can do the night feed over a knight in shining armour?)

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WHAT IS EQUAL CONTRIBUTION TO YOU? But it’s not quite that simple. It seems that when it comes to the division of labour, it was each partner’s perspective of fairness that mattered, and translated to more sex. When each partner felt the distribution of tasks was fair, both reported better sex (Journal of Marriage and Family, 2016). For the record, sex frequency increased when men did 35-65% of the chores, but who’s counting? (We are, apparently!) Marriage, as with life, ebbs and flows through changes in circumstance that impact on our ability to contribute to the household chores. Exhaustion from caring for young children and elderly parents, busy times at work, and even illness impact on our ability to chip in. So, it may not be a case of equal division of labour, but a fair division. Discussing your expectations, particularly at time of change (new babies, new jobs) and how you hope to be supported is critical in ensuring neither party gets that ripped off feeling – which can’t be great foreplay for anyone.

NOT ALL HOUSEWORK IS CREATED EQUAL It seems that particular tasks have a bigger impact on the relationship quality, with dishes and shopping coming up trumps. A message to men: the sexiest thing you can do is get your hands busy in the sink. Parent’s note: Interestingly, it was also found that increased time parenting had the reverse impact on a couple’s intimate relationship – so it seems too much time with the kids can reduce your energy for romance. (So, if more love is your aim stick to the dishes?). Further tip: Research on this topic is unclear, however for some, sticking to traditional tasks led to greater sexual satisfaction. Therefore, blokes - mowing the lawn or changing the oil may just be what the doctor ordered to improve your love life. So, the jury is in - sharing is caring. As parents, you’re also modelling behaviours and teaching your kids what to expect, and what respectful relationships look and feel like.

IS PUTTING THE DESIRE BACK IN YOUR MARRIAGE THAT SIMPLE? Of course, there are no guarantees that merely taking on a few chores will instantly solve all love life dilemmas. Correlations in research don’t necessarily establish causation, and there will be marriages where no amount of sink scrubbing will make a woman find her husband more attractive - even if she does feel closer and happier with him. So, what could this link be based on? Other research suggests all this ‘friend zone’ egalitarian, respect business breeds benign indifference more than sexual heat. They argue that no one person can adequately fulfil the role of best friend, co-parent and passionate lover but some couples are happy to sacrifice heat in the bedroom for a solid marriage. So, while there are no promises pulling your weight in the laundry will make you irresistible between the sheets, it’s bound to make your marriage, and your wife, happier. And it certainly won’t hurt your chances. Happy wife, happy life? By Kylie Kaden (BSSc. Hons.) www.kyliekaden.com.au

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RELATIONSHIP

How self-care will make you a better parent

WHY WOMEN

lose interest in sex

BY: ANNIE WYLIE

Written by: Caroline Meyer

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Hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD) is the loss of sexual desire. This is one of the most common forms of sexual dysfunction in women aged 18 to 59. While it may differ quite dramatically from one woman to another, this sexual problem is often a combination of physical and mental factors. It is seldom as simple as swallowing some medication to get the motors revving again. While there are many anti-impotence medications available for me, the research into sexual dysfunction for women has been lacking. It is only over the past few years that there has been some effort put in to finding therapies that are effective in restoring a womanâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s libido.

What is HSDD? Low sexual desire is not linked to how often a woman has intercourse or achieves orgasm. There is no set behaviour to determine HSDD. Over time people do change in their sexual behaviours. If it works for both partners, there is nothing to worry about. Where the problem comes in is if a woman experiences a noticeable decrease in desire and it is causing problems in her relationship and in her life. If it becomes a problem for her and causes distress, this is noted as being HSDD. Low sexual desire is more than just a drop in sex drive or libido. It is also related to lower sexual interest and the body not responding to sexual cues it would have in the past. It is quite normal for the libido to decline as your age, but sexual desire is related to more than physical desire, it is also related to psychological and interpersonal factors. The actual willingness to be sexual may be affected. The intimacy of the relationship can also undergo strain. To find the reason for HSDD, all the factors need to be explored. Some of the most common causes of HSDD include issues within the relationship. This can include the birth of a child, becoming a caregiver for a family member or friend, a partner having problems with sexual performance, a decrease in emotional well-being within the relationship or being unable to find emotional satisfaction. Hormonal imbalances such as a reduced testosterone level. Medical problems both physical and mental such as depression, fibroids, thyroid disorders, endometriosis and factors affecting the reproductive organs. Medications such as hypertension medicine and anti-depressants as well as some contraceptives can affect libido. Age can also be a factor as androgens in the blood reduce as women age. Anxiety and stress, burn out, peer pressure and negative portrayal of sexuality by the media can also lead to a reduction in sexual desire.

Hope for HSDD sufferers While a lot more research needs to be done in this area, there are a few therapies available that can help women improve their sexual desire. Once issues such as medication, medical conditions and physical issues are addressed, some of the other factors can also be mediated. Counselling and sex therapy can help improve the relationship and, in that way, reduce some of the stresses and other issues that may be causing the lack of desire. Testosterone therapy is still in its infancy but may offer some hope to women with a low sexual desire. Vaginal oestrogens can help treat dryness in postmenopausal women which can help if their HSDD is caused from fear of pain during intercourse. Unfortunately, due to HSDD treatments still be relatively new and mostly untested at this point, there may not yet be a reliable way to treat low sexual desire in women. Clinical trials are being run on hormonal therapies, but it will take some time before these types of treatments become available. These treatments are not always suitable for every woman with HSDD either. Speak to your doctor about trying some of the tried and tested methods to treat your particular case. Should hormone therapy be indicated, hopefully you wonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have too long to wait for an answer! July 2019 | mychild

BLOGGER

Paving the way By Sheree Hoddinett

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Time. Where has it gone? The days turn into weeks and then months and before you know it, years have flown by. Especially with little kids. It all starts with breastfeeding, changing nappies, lack of sleep to start with and that was just the newborn days, which are long behind me! Now I’m dealing with school books, sight words, readers, uniforms and playground fun. And that’s just beginning of the school days, there are many, many years still ahead of me. I often think ahead to full time school life with both my girls in the classroom. It’s really not that far away. It’ll mean double the lunches, double the uniforms and double the “fun”, oh yay! Haha! It’s funny how there are days where you wish for time to speed up because you’re waiting for a special event or a visitor or something exciting or kids are driving you mental and you’re hanging out for their bedtime, woohoo!! But as they get older and lose some more of their baby looks or ways and you can’t help but wish for time to scale back just a teeny bit. I look at my girls and see how much they have grown and what they now accomplish and miss them as babies. I definitely don’t want to deal with all the other “fun” that comes with it of course. But they do grow up so quickly and you don’t realise until things don’t happen anymore, just how fast time does go. It feels a little bit more precious when you realise it and then the kids drive you crazy, yet again, and you think “yeah I’m good”, haha! I thought I wanted more kids. But I think now I’m very settled in dealing with the growing up stages and all the changes associated with that. Like crazy attitude for one. Why does a 5-year-old have so much sass, defiance and stubbornness??! Some might say she takes after her mother but I’m not taking the full blame on this one (stubbornness anyone??!!). But seriously, I thought I had years until I’d be copping some serious attitude. Boy (or should I say girl) was I wrong! I get the independence or wanting it anyway because she cracks it if something doesn’t work out for her. But the huffing and puffing, eye rolling, foot stomping, hands on hips and back chatting, they can be next level. Although the best revenge for me is putting a menacing look on my face and taking one step towards her because she drops to the ground so fast thinking she’s up for a smack, when I’m not going to do anything at all. Ahhhhh the joys of parenting, if only every situation resolved that easily. Well, it lasts for about 5 seconds and we’re back to where we started. Ever think “why do I bother?” They listen to me about maybe 70% of the time, which is not too bad. The other 30% I wonder what planet they’re on. Except if they hear something they want or that will benefit them and suddenly we’re best friends again. But I think that goes for kids of all ages, the percentages probably change significantly the older they get! Don’t worry I’m under no illusion that my kids aren’t going to give me grief as they get older, I’m prepared for the idea. Whether I’m prepared for what comes my way or gets thrown my way, remains to be seen, but that freight train is unstoppable! I know we can’t tar all kids with the same brush, but more often than not growing up tends to follow a certain pattern, just with varying degrees of uncertainty per child. But whatever they put me through (everything under the sun), I’m still glad they are mine and that they chose me to be their mum. Just don’t ask me to say that after a bad day/ night/month or year perhaps! I’ll take their random hugs and acts of kindness anytime because let’s face it, there is nothing better than their little arms wrapping you up and saying “I love you Mummy” or “I’m sorry” or better yet “It’s okay, I’m here Mummy”. Well played master manipulator…I mean kiddo, you get me every time! Join me on my “lovely” journey of parenting two cheeky monkeys via my own blog at www. shereehoddinett.com.au

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Q: After your devastating miscarriage, we are so happy for you and would love to congratulate you and the family on the birth of your son Elio! How has it been being a mum to a newborn again? A: Thank you. I didn’t think such joy was possible, nor did I anticipate the amount of urine I would get in my face. I’ve only ever operated tiny female genitals; this is a whole new world. But he’s obscenely cute, so all is forgiven. Q: Have your daughters taken on their big sister roles well? A: Oh God, yes. They’ve turned me into a creepy, well-intentioned stalker; every time I see one of them playing with him, bouncing him up and down or singing him a made-up song while he dribbles with delight, I stand silently and stare at them lovingly for as long as I can until they notice me. Q: Are you wanting anymore kids after Elio or is the shop shut so to speak? A: I have a 19-week old baby who sleeps only when he deems it appropriate. Now is not the time for me to answer that question! Q: What’s one thing you’ve forgotten is hard to do with an almost 5 mth old baby? A: Go to the toilet. Shower. Maintain an acceptable level of personal hygiene. Leave the house. Q: Even with a new baby in your life, you’ve decided to do a show. Can you please tell us about your show and what was your inspiration? A: It’s called ‘Rage and Rainbows’, which is a p erfect summation of my personality, really. The seed for this show started at the school pick-up. I was asking other mums how they were, and even though they’d say they were fine, I was sensing… something. So I’d ask again, and the truth would come out. They weren’t fine. And the other women in my life weren’t fine either. There’s an undercurrent of rage for a lot of women right now. An anger that we’re finally letting ourselves feel, sparked by all sorts of things - current events, violence against women, glass ceilings, gender pay gaps, and closer-to-home; unfair division of domestic chores and child care, ridiculous expectations, being told to ‘smile more’… And then I see women struggling to express their anger. We swallow it, spend it, eat it, drink it, bottle it up (until suddenly, there’s a stabbing at the PTA meeting…). This show is about letting that anger out. It’s an unleashing, understanding, and ultimately joyful unloading of the rage. It has all original songs that I wrote with our glorious Eurovision star Kate Miller-Heidke, and there will be 12 classically trained dancing vaginas. You heard me. Q: Most new mum’s find it hard to get out of their PJ’s with a newborn let alone plan and prepare for a national tour. How did you do it? I did it in my PJ’s. Please don’t think that I’m some holier-than-thou inspirational example. Half this tour was organised before I went on maternity leave, and the rest of it has been pulled together with baby vomit on my shoulder. There have been days where I have been too exhausted/emotional/sore/distracted to do anything, and days where I’ve been on a roll. There’s also a team of people who help put the tour together, so I can’t take all the credit. I’m the boss of them, and the baby is the boss of me. So everyone just does what they can. Trust me: nobody has their shit together. Don’t ever think other mums are achieving more than you are. July 2019 | mychild

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Q: We assume (which we know could make an ass out of us) that you have been rehearsing for a while. Can you tell us how long you took off after the arrival of Elio before you went back to work? A: I started putting this show together towards the end of last year, and most pieces of the puzzle were in place before the baby was due. I think there’s too much of a focus on when women go back to work after birth. To be honest, I was answering emails in the hospital, because that’s me. But I still have a few days every week of just spending time with my baby. There’s no right or wrong answer for going back to work, and my husband has never been asked the same question. Q: What are you most excited to share with the audience about your show? A: The dancing vaginas. They were very expensive. Never underestimate the cost of an expressposted vulva from New York. Q: Do you have any so called diva demands when on the road? What are they? A: I don’t call them diva demands, I call them Polite Requests Of The Venues That Have Hired Me To Perform And Specifically Asked If I Require Anything Backstage! But also: not really. I ask for a shot of scotch, and a bit of salami. What more could I possibly need?! Q: Will you be taking Elio on the road with you? A: Yes. But my Dad is in the band, and my Mum is coming on the road too, so it’s a family event. Q: We can’t imagine you have any spare time, however what’s your favourite thing to do when you get some time to yourself? A: Sleep. Q: Tell us some funny facts about yourself? A: I love candles. I collect owls. I don’t like following recipes. I have enough leopard print clothes to do an exclusive leopard print laundry load. I have three dogs. My favourite movie is Steel Magnolias. I legitimately think they should bring Alf back, and I think the Punky Brewster reboot is a terrible idea. I’m really good at centering picture frames without using a spirit level, and guessing what the time is without seeing a clock. Q: Do you have a celebrity crush? Who and why? A: I like The Rock. I think we’d be good buddies. Our connection would be instant and deep. Q: What would you change your name to? A: Beyonce Knowles. For obvious reasons. Q: What’s your biggest pet peeve? A: When my husband doesn’t clean the kitchen as he goes when he cooks.

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Traditional Nappies Economical; fast to wash and dry; versatile; surprisingly easy to use; and will earn you kudos from your mum and grandma – traditional cloth nappies are making a comeback and it’s now easier to use that origami square than ever before! With families focusing on saving money and the environment, cloth nappies are becoming a popular choice when considering what type of nappy to use. So why not consider a step back in time to the simplicity of traditional cloth nappies?

Help I’ve run out of money! You’ve bought that flash shiny pram, a sleep safe bassinet, an adorable wardrobe full of clothes, and a swag other things to welcome your baby into the world. You know the benefits of cloth nappies but there’s just no budget left in the kitty to shell out for a full time pack of modern cloth nappies. All is not lost though! For half or less than the cost to set up with modern cloth nappies, you can have a stash of traditional nappies that will last from birth to toilet training! Grandma was definitely onto something when it came to saving money with babies!

What is a traditional nappy? In a nutshell traditional nappies are either: flats - large squares of fabric around 60cm by 60cm; or prefolds - smaller squares divided into three panels. The central panel of prefolds have multiple layers of fabric for absorbency and range in size from newborn to toddler. Both are made from a range of materials including cotton, bamboo or hemp. Flats can be known by a few different names, referring to the finish of the fabric: July 2019 | mychild

Traditional nappies have a clear advantage compared to modern cloth nappies when it comes to washing and drying. As flats are only a single layer they don’t need to have multiple layers of thick absorbent fabric penetrated in wash cycles - easier to wash – easier to dry! In the cool, darker months of winter traditional nappies can line dry before the day is out and are also able to be blasted in a dryer no problem!

The ultimate eco heirloom

Terry towelling: think towels, but with shorter loops, so less bulky; Muslin: a thin and easy to dry fabric, just like what you swaddle baby in; Flannel: a brushed finish, imagine your snuggly winter PJs; and Birdseye: a thin but highly absorbent weave with a tiny diamond pattern.

But I need to wash these, right?! As your thoughts now drift to days gone by of soaking nappies in stinky, dangerous buckets of water – let me assure you this is far from how a modern mumma (and in these modern days daddies too!) wash and care for nappies. With advances in washing machines, detergents and laundry products, there is now an easy to follow scientific approach to washing nappies. Exchange those soaking buckets to open, breathable baskets and remarkably the stench of ‘the nappy bucket’ is gone! Remove any time consuming soaking and get your washing machine to do the hard yards with a quick rinse wash and then a long warm wash and your nappies will have grandma curious to know your washing magic!

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You thought you were just buying nappies? Think again! These simple squares of fabric are handier than snaps on a onesie! From caring for baby, to cleaning the house and car, this square of natural fibre will polish, shine, wipe, clean, absorb and do all the things! What more could you want from an eco-conscious product? Traditional nappies are great to use as burp cloths, makeshift blankets and towels and sun shades for baby. Useful to have when toilet training to quickly wipe up any little accidents! Wonderful to have as spare rags around the house and assist with cleaning windows and mirrors and the car enthusiast parents find they are amazing for using on the car too.

How about that origami? Budget friendly – tick! Washing seems simple enough – check! But how the heck do you get a square of fabric on a kicking, rolling baby?! Pull out your Cabbage Patch kid and practice… or maybe a wet cat might be more realistic! This is probably the most daunting aspect of flat nappies for most families. However armed with a fold or two you will be able to magically whip up a nappy in seconds. The internet is your best friend in this department – get searching and have a date night with your significant other, a nappy and a doll. You’ve got this and it’s easier than you think! Promise! And if you really are all thumbs, acquaint yourself with prefolds! There are a handful of folds you can do with them, or you can simply fold in thirds and shove inside a waterproof cover! Simple! And pins? They are out of the question! Snappies are where the modern parent’s put their spin on the traditional. These little rubber superheros ensure there are no pin pricks or stabs for anyone involved in nappy changing! Phew! If you really want to get the nostalgic vibes pumping, involve mum or grandma in shopping for and learning to fold your traditional nappies. It really is a magic tradition to hand down from generation to generation. It’s amazing what we can learn from those who have walked this parenting path before us. So now you know the names and types, you have your wash routine and favourite folds sorted, but what type of traditional nappy do you choose? At Bubblebubs we have a range of traditional options to suit all babies and situations. From the softest bamboo flats to snuggly bamboo prefolds and indestructible cotton prefolds – we have all your traditional nappy needs covered. We also have a wide range of gorgeous covers in adorable colours and prints. At Bubblebubs there is nothing we love more than educating and empowering families to make the best cloth nappy choice for your individual family. For more information check out our blog with articles, instructions and videos. https://www.bubblebubs.com.au/blog/

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TOY REVIEWS

BY: SHEREE HODDINETT

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TOY REVIEWS JELLYCAT MAGIC UNICORN DREAMS PUZZLE (35 PIECES)

$39.95

RRP

The Magic Unicorn Dreams Puzzle is a pastel parade of colour and magic! Beautifully boxed and lovingly printed, this jigsaw brings joy to any holiday. Place each puzzle piece just right to discover a pink-andwhite unicorn, dancing with bright balloons.

OUR VERDICT

5/5

Unicorns and puzzles and two very eager little girls, where could you go wrong really?! Both of my girls loved putting this puzzle together, finding only small difficulties placing some of the pieces in the correct spot. It was a little tricky for my youngest (at the age of 3) but definitely the perfect puzzle for my big girl who is 5. They both love unicorns and were eager to complete the puzzle as soon as possible. Excitement always ensues when something goes together nicely and we create the finished product (with a bit of mummy’s help of course!). Available from: August Lane, Lil Treasures

DINOWORLD – SET OF 3 DINOSAURS (ASSORTED)

$25.95 RRP

Moveable Dinosaurs in 2 assorted options: Brachiosaurus, Stegosaurus and Spinosaurus  or Pterodactyl, T-Rex, and Triceratops. OUR VERDICT

4/5

Even in a house with girls, not everything is girly and dinosaurs still get a look-in from time-to-time. Pretend and imaginative play are always great with little kids and my two are pretty creative with their games (insert dinosaur roar here!). Definitely a good one if your little one (doesn’t matter if they’re a boy or a girl) is dinosaur mad! The hardest thing is trying to remember and pronounce all the dinosaur names! Available from: thekidsstore.co.nz Available from: Independence Studios – www.isgift.com, Kidstuff,

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VTECH BUTTERFLY COUNTING FRIEND

$ 29.95 RRP

Enjoy a flutter of colour with the Butterfly Counting Friend plush learning toy. Five colourful number buttons play a variety of songs to teach colours and numbers and to experience different textures and sounds. A kaleidoscope of colour, butterfly’s light-up wing shows the colours of the rainbow. It also helps your baby fall asleep with soft, classical melodies and lullabies. Each element of this on-the-go toy features a dangling toy that rattles, squeaks, turns or crinkles to help develop fine motor skills. Learn at home or on the fly by using the included straps to secure the butterfly to a cot, high chair, infant carrier or stroller. OUR VERDICT

4/5

Available from: Available at Big W, good toy stores and online retailers. www.vtech.com.au

Why do kids instantly gravitate toward the colourful and noisy toys, even if they’re too big to play with them anymore?! “This is pretty mummy, I like this one” and “it’s a butterfly, can I keep it?” along with big smiles and wide eyes greet me as soon as this one comes out of the box! I guess it’s a good indication that it’s going to be a good toy, no matter how you look at it. Bright colours and musical tunes are great for babies as they grab their attention making them want to reach for the toy and it’s awesome for developing those fine motor skills, you really can’t go wrong. A bonus for this brilliant butterfly is that you can take it pretty much anywhere you go, so if your little one becomes attached (of course they will!) it can easily tag along and will secure to your pram, cot, in the car or keep it just for playing on the floor at home or out. VTECH SECRET SAFE $69.95 RRP DIARY SELFIE MUSIC Protect your thoughts and dreams with the Secret Safe Diary Selfie Music. Make a photo journal, write diary entries or record messages and keep them safe. Clever facial recognition software unlocks the journal only when it recognises your face, and you can add a number password for extra security. Featuring front and rear cameras, you can take selfies and pictures with your friends. Also includes games, photo and video filters, music and utilities that give you a variety of activities to play. Create new looks for yourself and your friends, care for a virtual pet, decorate photos and videos, play learning games and more. You’re the key to this OUR VERDICT diary! 5/5 Where was this when I was a little girl?! Technology certainly has come a long way in such a short space of time and I’m guessing no little girl just “writes” in an ordinary paper diary anymore! At least the secret idea is still in play and gives girls today somewhere to compose their thoughts albeit in a way that’s a little different to what I’m used to. Not only does it have a camera but you can play games and even look after a virtual pet, it’s certainly no boring diary here! And to gain access no old little key and padlock (not that it really could ever stop anyone back in the day – yep showing my age here!) is needed to both unlock and secure this gem, with your face the key to all your secrets! I almost want one for the young girl still hidden in me somewhere, haha! Available from: Big W, good toy stores and online retailers. www.vtech.com.au Available from: Independence Studios – www.isgift.com, Kidstuff, Embellish Gifts, Buy My Things July 2019 | mychild

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ow do you protect, nurture & nourish babyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s skin?

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How do you protect, nurture and nourish baby’s skin? The moment you hold your baby in your arms for the first time, you make the promise to yourself that you will do everything to nurture, love and protect them. A tiny soul that relies 100% on you. It is one of the most amazing experiences but also a scary one for first time mothers as you navigate through a new phase of your life. It is easy to be overwhelmed with information from friends, family, the internet, and books telling you what to do, what works, techniques, but the simple fact is each child is different and it simply isn’t a one-size-fits all approach. As a new mother, it is important to trust your instinct. Everyone will have a different style and that’s ok, it’s about finding your style and what works for you, your baby and your family. One thing remains the same for all newborns however, that their skin is incredibly sensitive and therefore you should select products suited to their delicate skin. From soothing rash creams, to a nightly massage oil to help your baby sleep, a daily body wash and shampoo – selecting the most gentle, safe and effective formulations that nourish newborn skin is essential, especially for babies with sensitive or easily irritated skin. With more research coming out on the effects of ingredients in skincare, more and more products on the market are removing harsh ingredients such as parabens, synthetic ingredients, SLS, petrochemicals and genetically modified ingredients, and infusing their products with natural oils and scents. Because, let’s face it, mother nature got it right! The Little Innoscents range of certified organic baby skincare products have been trusted by Australian mums for over 10 years. The range was created by a mother for mothers. Formulated with only natural ingredients and scented with beautiful essential oils, these products will soothe, nourish and hydrate your newborn’s skin. Essential items for baby’s daily skincare routine include a: Hair & Body Wash - Our Little Innoscents Spearmint & Sweet Orange Hair & Body Wash is a family favourite. This natural all-in-one low-sud cleansing gel, with Aloe Vera, Jojoba oil and the refreshing scent of Spearmint and Sweet Orange, will leave your little one’s skin feeling smooth and hydrated. Perfect for dry, itchy or sensitive skins, it’s gentle but effective and can be used for both hair and body and in both the shower and bath. Brilliant for babies, but great for the whole family. 78 July 2019 | mychild

Intensive Soothing Cream

Paw Paw Balm

An effective, natural nappy rash cream that is gentle and calming on an area that has a tendency to get red and irritated. The Little Innoscents Intensive Soothing Cream is excellent and also ideal for extra dry areas such as knees, hands and elbows. Featuring a calming blend of Aloe Vera, shea butter and Avocado oil, it is enriched with the healing benefits of Calendula and Rosewood oil, to help stimulate and regenerate damaged skin cells. Free from zinc and chemicals, it is a safe alternative for your little one.

A handy and well-loved essential is our Paw Paw Balm. It has a multitude of uses from soothing your own dry chapped lips and cracked, sore nipples to creating a healing barrier when used on cuts and bruises and can also be an effective moisture barrier cream on babies. Infused with Calendula, Vitamin E and Australian Paw Paw it soothes, nourishes and replenishes skin cells. This certified organic product is a mother’s best friend and nappy bag essential.

Nourishing Massage Oil A great introduction into your nightly routine, massage not only provides contact and connection, but a soothing way to ease your baby into a sleepy state. Massage is also something special a father can do with their child to increase their connection and one-onone time with their baby. Rub a small fifty-cent size amount of the Little Innoscents Nourishing Massage Oil into the palm of your hands and gently rub all over your baby’s body. Starting from the chest before working your way out to the legs and arms ensuring you massage the oil gently into all the folds of their skin to keep it well hydrated and nourished. It is also a great product to assist with Cradle Cap and provides a natural and effective way to soothe and reduce this very common condition. The Nourishing Massage Oil is also great for mothers to rub into stretch marks or on their stomachs during pregnancy. Rich in Sunflower and Jojoba oil, it features all the healing properties of Vitamins A, D and E which help to nourish and hydrate skin.

Natural Baby Wipes Given babies love to put everything in their mouth, it is best to use an all-natural baby wipe free of any artificial fragrances, colours, alcohols or parabens. With so many nappy changes it’s essential to choose an all-natural wipe and ideally one with Aloe Vera and Vitamin E, formulated to soothe, cleanse and enrich baby’s skin. Chemical free wipes are also handy and important for wiping and cleaning down sticky fingers, toys and other child sensitive surfaces (prams, high chairs, nappy change tables). Containing only the highest quality ingredients and Australian owned and made, mothers can be rest assured that Little Innoscents products are 100% safe to use on your family. Created to be versatile and cost effective, these toptier certified products will become part of your baby’s daily skincare routine. Try out the range with our Exclusive My Child readers offer of 25% off. Simply head to www. littleinnoscents.com.au and enter promo code: MYCHILD25 at the checkout. July 2019 | mychild 79

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BOOK REVIEWS

BOOK REVIEWS By: Amy Adeney

juLY 2019

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KINDNESS MAKES US STRONG By Sophie Beer From the wonderful Australian author/illustrator Sophie Beer comes this follow-up to last year’s beautiful book Love Makes A Family. Here we are reminded of all the simple ways to show kindness, from turn-taking and sharing to bear hugs and friendly hellos. Beer’s signature bright colour palette, simple text and important message, make this is a perfect book to share with children from birth onwards.

ALLERGIC ALPACA By Kiah Thomas & Connah Brecon

Alpaca lives happily at the start of the alphabet with her friends Antelope, Ape and the ants. The only problem is that she’s allergic to apples! But when an avalanche sends her plummeting through the alphabet all the way to W, Alpaca find an unexpected solution to help her live snifflefree forever. There is a wonderful sense of movement and energy in the illustrations that accompany this clever, quirky alphabet tale, which will be enjoyed by readers aged 3-7.

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THINK BIG! By Kes Gray & Nathan Reed Humpty Dumpty and all his fairy tale and nursery rhyme friends are contemplating their future careers. While Humpty is set on a future as a boiled egg, his friends urge him to set his sights higher, running him through the range of fabulous vocations he could consider. Alas, an unfortunate (but hilarious!) accident means that Humptyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s plans may end up scrambled. This is a fantastic story from the author of the best-selling Oi Frog! series, reminding young readers that they can achieve great things if they believe in themselves. The familiar characters and vibrant illustrations will appeal to readers aged 3-7.

GOODBYE HOUSE, HELLO HOUSE By Margaret Wild & Ann James From two masters of Australian childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s literature comes this beautiful book which brings to light the bittersweet endings and promising beginnings that come with moving to a new home. This is a heart-warming tale of embracing change, with a unique illustration style which allows readers aged 2 and up to be drawn into the story. It would make a wonderful springboard for discussion in any family about to embark on a new chapter in their lives.

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BRITTANY SINGLE BED

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NORDIC WHALE PLUSH TOY

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ANIMAL HEAD WALL NORDIC DECOR - SWAN

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NUMERO 74 - STARS GARLAND - PINK

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SANWOODEN PRINCESS BED CANOPY

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HAND CHUNKY KNIT BLANKET

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Omelette with Turmeric, Tomato,and Onions How to Make It Step 1 Whisk together eggs and salt.

Prep: 10 mins Cook: 10 mins Serves: 2 (half Omelette Each)

Step 2 Heat oil in a large cast-iron skillet over medium-high heat. Add mustard seeds and turmeric; cook 30 seconds or until seeds pop, stirring frequently. Add onions; cook 30 seconds or until soft, stirring frequently. Add tomato; cook 1 minute or until very soft, stirring frequently.

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Step 3 Pour egg mixture into pan; spread evenly. Cook until edges begin to set (about 2 minutes). Slide front edge of spatula between edge of omelet and pan. Gently lift edge of omelet, tilting pan to allow some uncooked egg mixture to come in contact with pan. Repeat procedure on the opposite edge. Continue cooking until center is just set (about 2 minutes). Loosen omelet with a spatula, and fold in half. Carefully slide omelet onto a platter. Cut omelet in half, and sprinkle with black pepper. 124 July 2019 | mychild

• 4 large eggs • 3/8 teaspoon kosher salt • 1 tablespoon olive oil • 1/4 teaspoon brown mustard seeds • 1/8 teaspoon turmeric • 2 green onions, finely chopped • 1/4 cup diced plum tomato • Dash of black pepper

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Potato Salad Carbonara

How to Make It Step 1 Preheat oven to 375Â°F. Coat 12 muffin cups with cooking spray. Step 2 To prepare filling, combine pecans and next 4 ingredients (through salt) in a small bowl; toss to combine. Add buttermilk and butter, stirring until smooth. Step 3 To prepare muffins, weigh or lightly spoon flour into dry measuring cups; level with a knife. Combine flour and next 4 ingredients (through baking soda) in a bowl; stir with a whisk. Place 3/4 cup buttermilk and next 4 ingredients (through eggs) in a large bowl; beat with a mixer at high speed for 2 minutes. Add flour mixture to buttermilk mixture; stir just until combined. Step 4 Place 1 tablespoon batter in each muffin cup. Top evenly with filling. Spoon remaining batter over filling. Bake at 375Â°F for 15 minutes or until a wooden pick inserted in center comes out clean. Cool in pans 10 minutes on a wire rack; remove from pans. Step 5 Combine yogurt, powdered sugar, and cream cheese, stirring well with a whisk. Drizzle over muffins.

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Prep: 15 mins Cook: 30 mins Serves: 12 Ingredients FILLING: Cooking spray 1/2 cup chopped pecans, toasted 1/3 cup packed brown sugar 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon 1 teaspoon vanilla extract 1/4 teaspoon kosher salt 3 tablespoons low-fat buttermilk 2 teaspoons butter, melted MUFFINS: 2 cups white whole-wheat flour 1 1/2 teaspoons baking powder 1 teaspoon cinnamon 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt 1/4 teaspoon baking soda 3/4 cup low-fat buttermilk 1/3 cup granulated sugar 2 teaspoons canola oil 1 teaspoon vanilla extract 2 large eggs GLAZE: 1/3 cup 2% reduced-fat Greek yogurt 1/3 cup powdered sugar 2 tablespoons 1/3-less-fat cream cheese

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Vegetarian Burrito Bowls How to Make It Step 1 Warm 1 Tbsp. oil in a saucepan over mediumhigh heat. Add rice and cook, stirring, until fragrant, 1 to 2 minutes. Add 1 1/2 cups water and 1/2 tsp. salt. Bring to a boil, cover, reduce heat to low and simmer until water is absorbed, about 15 minutes. Step 2 Warm remaining 1 Tbsp. oil in a skillet over medium heat. Add garlic and sauté until fragrant, about 30 seconds. Stir in 1/2 cup water, beans, chili powder and cumin. Bring to a simmer and cook until most of liquid has evaporated, 5 to 7 minutes, stirring once or twice. Season lightly with salt. Step 3 Combine avocados and lime juice in a medium bowl. Divide rice among 4 bowls. Top with bean mixture, corn, tomatoes and avocados. Serve with garnishes and chips on the side, if desired

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Prep: 15 mins Cook: 20 mins Serves: 4 Ingredients • 2 tablespoons olive oil • 1 cup basmati rice • Salt • 2 cloves garlic, minced • 2 cans black beans, drained, rinsed • 1 teaspoon chili powder • 1 teaspoon cumin • 1 avocado, pitted, peeled, diced • 2 tablespoons lime juice • 1 1/2 cups corn kernels, fresh or frozen, thawed if frozen • 1 1/2 cups cherry tomatoes, quartered • Sour cream, shredded Cheddar, cilantro leaves, sliced radishes, chopped pickled jalapeños, and tortilla chips, optional

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Potato Salad Carbonara Step 1 Place potatoes and 1 tablespoon of the salt in a 4-quart saucepan; cover with 6 cups of the water. Bring to a boil over mediumheat, stirring occassionally. Boil potatoes until just tender, about 5 minutes; drain. Cool 30 minutes. Spread potatoes on a parchament paper-lined rimmed baking sheet. Cover and chill until potatoes are cold, about 1 hour.  Step 2 Meanwhile, cook pancetta in a mediumsize nonstick skillet over medium until browned and crisp, about 8 minutes, stirring occasionally. Remove pancetta, and drain on paper towels.

Prep: 25 mins Cook: 2 hrs Serves: 6 Ingredients • 2 pounds Yukon Gold potatoes, cut in 1-inch cubes • 1 tablespoon, plus 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt, divided  • 6 cups, plus 2 teaspoons water, divided  • 4 ounces diced pancetta • 1 large pasteurized egg yolk • 1 small garlic clove, grated (about 1/4 teaspoon) • 1/2 cup olive oil • 1 teaspoon lemon juice • 1 1/2 ounce Parmigiano-Reggiano cheese, grated (about 1/3 cup) • 4 large hard-cooked eggs, chopped • Torn or thinly sliced fresh basil leaves (optional)

Step 3 Place egg yolk, garlic, and remaining 2 teaspoons water and 1/2 teaspoon salt in the bowl of a heavy-duty stand mixer fitted with a whisk attachment. Beat on mediumhigh speed until blended. Gradually add olive oil in a thin, steady stream, beating until aïoli is thickened and smooth, about 4 minutes. Scrape any oil down sides of bowl, and beat 1 minute. Beat in lemon juice until blended. Fold in cheese.  Step 4 Place potatoes in a medium bowl; gently fold in pancetta, aïoli, and hard-cooked eggs. Top with basil just before serving, if desired

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Creamy Chicken and Wild Rice Soup Prep: 5 mins Cook: 8 hrs Serves: 4 Ingredients 5 bacon slices, chopped 1 cup chopped onion 1 cup thinly sliced carrot 1/2 cup thinly sliced celery 1 tablespoon fresh thyme leaves 1 package 250 gms presliced mushrooms 4 garlic cloves, minced 4 cups unsalted chicken stock 1 cup water 4 cups lightly packed chopped curly kale 1 teaspoon kosher salt 1/2 teaspoon black pepper 1 1/2 shredded skinless, boneless rotisserie chicken breast 2 cup of wild rice cooked 1 cup half-and-half 1 1/3 cup all-purpose flour

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How to Make It Step 1 Heat a Dutch oven over medium-high. Add bacon to pan; cook 4 minutes or until crisp. Remove bacon from pan with a slotted spoon, reserving 1 tablespoon drippings. Add onion, carrot, and celery to drippings in pan; sautĂŠ 3 minutes. Add thyme, mushrooms, and garlic; sautĂŠ 5 minutes. Add stock and 1 cup water; bring to a boil. Reduce heat, and simmer 8 minutes or until vegetables are tender. Add kale, salt, and pepper; cook 3 minutes. Stir in chicken and rice. Step 2 Combine half-and-half and flour in bowl, stirring with a whisk. Stir into soup; cook 2 minutes or until thickened. Top with bacon.

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Slow-Cooker Macaroni and Beef How to Make It Step 1 Put onion in pot of slow cooker. Crumble ground beef on top and pour tomatoes over beef. Cover and cook for 4 hours on high or 8 hours on low. Break up any large pieces of beef with a wooden spoon. Season with salt. Remove half of sauce and reserve for another recipe; keep remaining sauce warm in slow cooker. (Makes about 2 1/2 quarts meat sauce.) Step 2 Bring a pot of salted water to a boil. Cook pasta according to package directions, stirring often, until al dente. Drain and transfer to four shallow bowls. Spoon meat sauce over each portion of pasta. Serve with Parmesan cheese, basil and freshly ground pepper.

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Prep: 5 mins Cook: 8 hrs Serves: 4 Ingredients 1 large onion, chopped 2 pounds extra-lean (90%-93%) ground beef 2 (28 oz.) cans crushed tomatoes 1 teaspoon kosher salt 8 ounces uncooked gemelli, cellentani or other corkscrew pasta 1/4 cup finely grated Parmesan cheese 2 tablespoons chopped fresh basil Freshly ground black pepper, to taste

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Strawberry Cake with Strawberry Buttercream Frosting How to Make It Step 1 Place cookies in the bowl of a food processor; pulse until coarse crumbs begin to form. (Do not over-process, you want a mix of large and small cookie pieces). Transfer cookie crumbs to a large bowl. Add fudge topping to bowl and stir until combined. Step 2 Line an 8-inch square baking pan with wax or parchment paper, allowing edges of the paper to extend over sides of pan. Firmly press 1/2 of the cookie mixture into an even layer in the bottom of the pan. Place another layer of wax or parchment paper over the cookie layer; press remaining 1/2 of the cookie mixture into an even layer over the paper on top of the first cookie layer. Place another layer of wax or parchment paper over second cookie layer to cover; press firmly to adhere. Freeze at least 3 hours. Step 3 Lift the sides of the second layer of wax paper to remove the top cookie layer from pan; set aside. Spread softened ice cream in an even layer over bottom cookie layer in pan using a rubber spatula. Peel away both layers of paper from top cookie layer and gently place on top of ice cream layer; press firmly. Freeze 4 hours or until ice cream is firm.

Prep: 5 mins Cook: 8 hrs Serves: 4 Ingredients • 1 package chocolate sandwich cookies (such as Oreos) • 2/3 cup prepared fudge topping • Mint-chocolate chip ice cream, softened

Step 4 Slice into 9 bars and serve immediately, returning any remaining sandwiches to freezer. Sandwiches,  kept individuallywrapped in plastic wrap, can be kept in the freezer for up to 10 days. Step 5 Tip: To create even layers, dampen fingers slightly with water to make the mixture easier to spread.

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Strawberry Cake with Strawberry Buttercream Frosting How to Make It Step 1 Prepare the Cake: Preheat oven to 350°F. Beat sugar and butter with a heavy-duty electric stand mixer on medium speed until light and fluffy, about 2 minutes. Add eggs, 1 at a time; beat on low speed just until incorporated after each addition. Stir in vanilla. Step 2 Whisk together flour, baking powder, and salt in a medium bowl. Add to sugar mixture alternately with half-and-half, beginning and ending with flour mixture; beat on low speed just until combined after each addition. Fold in strawberries and red food coloring. Prep: 5 mins Cook: 8 hrs Serves: 4 Ingredients • 2 cups granulated sugar • 1 cup (8 oz.) unsalted butter, softened, plus more for greasing pans • 4 large eggs • 1 tablespoon vanilla extract • 3 1/2 cups (about 14 7/8 oz.) all-purpose flour, plus more for dusting pans • 2 teaspoons baking powder • 1/2 teaspoon table salt • 3/4 cup half-and-half • 1 cup finely chopped fresh strawberries (about 7 oz.) • 1/2 teaspoon red liquid food coloring • 1 1/2 cups (12 oz.) unsalted butter, softened • 8 cups (about 2 lb.) powdered sugar • 1 cup finely chopped fresh strawberries (about 7 oz.) • 1 teaspoon fresh lemon juice (from 1 lemon) • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract • 1/2 teaspoon table salt

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Step 3 Divide batter evenly among 3 greased and floured 8-inch round cake pans. Bake in preheated oven until a wooden pick inserted in center of cakes comes out clean, about 20 minutes. Step 4 Cool cakes in pans on wire racks until cool enough to handle, about 20 minutes. Invert cakes onto wire racks to cool completely, about 1 hour. Step 5 Prepare the Strawberry Buttercream Frosting:  Beat butter with a heavy-duty electric stand mixer on medium speed until smooth, about 1 minute. Add powdered sugar, and beat until fluffy, about 5 minutes. Add strawberries, lemon juice, vanilla, and salt; beat just until smooth. Step 6 Assemble the Cake: Place 1 cake layer on a cake plate; spread with an even layer of Strawberry Buttercream Frosting. Repeat 2 times with 2 cake layers and frosting. Spread top and sides of cake with remaining frosting.

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